Can prayer transform you into a completely different being?

Shalom and welcome to ask rabbi yom tov here in the holy city of jerusalem where we deal with all our questions and i'm not saying i got the answers but maybe you have the merit to pull the answer out of me somehow which seems to often happen so we're gonna start with Leora today with a question they are you want to unmute yourself and you can ask that please rabbi thank you so much your classes are always amazing and i really appreciate it and this is amazing software for that i just have a question so I heard that it's supposed to like change you I'm like bring you closer touch them like I don't understand like the beginning of min huh I could be different by the end of it like how can you use to feel it to really change ourselves okay so I don't want to I don't they're good so I'm just gonna repeat the question in case anyone heard it didn't hear us how can - fela prayer change its if it's supposed to change us how does it change us or how can we make it change us so I'm gonna answer that in two ways one way is that that first of all let's ask the question about the question who says it's supposed to change us you know and that's number one you know who says who says prayer is supposed to change us maybe maybe prayer is supposed to maybe prayer is built so that we can draw Hashem divine of foale jhin's - every mineral plant vegetable gentile Jew who shares our neshama and then all the angelic forms above us in all the parallel worlds that that were to draw divine you know God's divine chef on his flow into creation maybe that's what to feel us about that's what I was taught the so that's devil's at that believe it or not that was playing devil's advocate is that it's not designed to change us it's designed to to to do Kabbalistic stuff but what about changing us in our priorities you know like when's the last time you cried about you know the the the sprout of david estimate of it of the or the ethene you know that acaba shofar god i look later at a no like that you really cared that much about that like we're you asking this question from the aura what city are you in firmly yes you're in LA like praying for redemption you know it's like you know i put your money where your mouth is lady so so that's the other thing I was gonna say is that if you want it to change you so so start just realize that it's it's a station it's a daily three times a day station identification of where we're supposed to be at understand we're supposed to be this is supposed to be these are the top priorities here if they made the shamone astray yeah which is you know especially the the thirteen requests because there's three prayers before you know mugging a vote miss I am a theme and Pecola Kadosh those are the three then you have three afterwards which are our Thanksgiving or it's a Thanksgiving and then seem Shalom so that's already six there's 19 altogether so in my is so 19 minus six is thirteen there's 13 major requests so how much are you living those things like yeah that's nice you want to pray for them but what are you doing about them you get that so so like that retain the hell kindling mayhem when you say give art portion in them meaning that so Deacon when we do all that's a deacon I didn't you have a Sadiq you have it Sadiq you connect to Leo you know that's that's you want your helic with them well you better find your tonic yeah and and make sure you're connecting and so each one of those prayers is I didn't mean to give you so much Muslim I mean who you'll take mas so I'm inviting people have their cameras on because it makes it a lot easier for me to teach so anyway the so the so that much it can change meaning it can get our we can get our acts together and start putting our money where our mouth is you know did I call nefesh beneficia and ask them if I can make a li ah not now but maybe in a couple years but maybe I should do the paperwork now that would be a step or do I even have a plan from when I'm moving to Israel I tell the people the Hassid him in ball park I tell him you can't you got to stop saying to Kaabah show you fer got a stop saying that that that God should bring back the exiles when you're doing when you're doing the opposite you're actually investing more and more in in Brooklyn then lifting yourselves up and out so I you know and I tell them and tell them why don't you make a plans to make alia in five years and you can reassess in five years for another five years but no plan no plans every exit and don't say the prayer if you're not gonna do something about it yeah by the way I don't really mean that people should pray the prayer say the prayer even though they do nothing about it so that much can change us there's another thing that can change you and that is ecstatic prayer ecstatic prayer which good luck finding that you know like wait meaning where you're gonna do that with a group of people but if you can find a alternative ecstatic prayer group that's gonna go full-on like heavy duty you know like breathe breath work and and you screaming out the prayers and like and like really getting into it like that I'm what that can do is check and change you it can break you into break you through to a mystical experience and mist there's probably nothing that changes us more than a mystical experience you have to be grounded afterwards obviously and you want to be grounded before because otherwise you can meet you know ungrounded but but yeah but you can have prayer is certainly set up for mystical experiences and I am part of an ecstatic / I do not get together with him except on Shabbos and yom tov which is you know my bad but i don't want to drive over there and i don't like going to that side of town it's on the other side of the tracks people in the float don't like crossing the tracks much and i lived by the show Canuck load and and we're happy over there in our little village but Shabbos everything's a village so I don't mind going across the tracks and then I go to this ecstatic prayer group and in that ecstatic prayer group i I I would say many of us had a mystical experience each week each week we get there certainly onions of where we really go for it but we're doing make primal scream with special breathing because you can't do primal scream without special breathing so we're doing like a primal scream special breathing prayer and it's at the top of our lungs and just to get to bar whole takes into hour and a half and after a while you start departing from this world and when you get outside the world you you really that changes you fundamentally it's like that view of the Earth from the spaceship when they first went to the moon change the whole planet everyone suddenly saw saw that kind of wow wow like this thing this thing's really small and and and it's important and it's delicate and it's it's fragile and I'm part of it and I can make it and I need to make a difference and and so those are all part of mystical experiences there's also a sense of interconnectivity like all the separateness you normally experience in a mystical experience you don't experience separateness you gotta be pretty careful who you have your mystical experiences with because that could be should should be experiencing some separateness with that person so you know you gotta be a little careful with mystical experiences but you become I mean you're one with everything you become one with reality in a mystical experience and so and so that's that's a big one oh yeah saris oh Yokohama wants to connect via zoom fabulous you know what I'll put it in the comments here can someone do ladies or any of you have the code available can someone give me the code for the zoom the login number yeah mm-hmm I'll put it in for anyone on Facebook would like to come on Zoom oh she's got it right there it's better you read it to me because I'm staring at my facebook screen here I see eight five eight five seven keep going eight four three eight five one four nine eight so it makes it easier I'll read it again once eight five seven eight four three eight five one four nine now sending it and yeah so yeah please join Anjou zoom and if you join and zoom please put your phone on I got three out of my seven participants so you've now four out of my we lost Devorah but four out of my seven participants have their phones on which is very kind very kind to Rabbi Yom Tov I really appreciate that okay next question Devore you got a question anyone on Facebook feel free to send a question I'll see it on messages right in front of me questions glass stands and you and also the three of you don't have your camera on you can still put your mic on and ask a question and people are used to me answering because I'm used to like I just you just [ __ ] put me in front of people and I'll just go but I sorry sorry rabbi so I was watching your lecture yesterday and I don't know how old it was booze on the tenth sphere is the way you describe it with like ice cream and stuff in front of your class so the only part of the sphere is that I don't see in that one is how you take you don't talk about the top one you go in clock mabini I can describe right yesterday we went a all the way on the top one on ket to the top one so maybe I maybe not to bring it up too much well you are you wondering why I don't bring it up more well it's not it's not necessarily a good thing to do if you're not oh no I can't you it's fine to speak about Catera but Kenton caches find this big right that's not something you're supposed to refrain from speaking about there's other things you should be refraining from the reason the reason I don't speak much about it I'll maybe I'll answer that because someone asked another question the mean time so the reason I don't speak much about kisser is because it's a it's not active guess there's a non active attribute and so and so it is it is the it's the overall desire of God for the creation like to create the creation but it's not it's not a active like s it is flow you know it's just flowing it's light shooting into reality Guevara is limiting that light you know so there's like those are very active and and our lives are very involved in that action so so we can align ourselves with those sphero's and we're created in the image of them when it says we're God Chris and the image of God and so and so I usually discuss the more active ones because those we can do something about but the truth is really but catch her catch her and we can do a lot about you know catch up we can do quite a bit about and by the way you can always pin my picture if you want on the side there's a pin in that way if someone's asking question you don't need to see them larger than life but some some people enjoy that I just had a full skill Michael across the screen about that big so okay so I had another question how do we deal with difficult people and especially those who are lying you know people have lying issues so so that's an amazing question dealing with that difficult people people who lie so in the in general when we deal with difficult people we often take it personally that's a good thing to do meaning meaning um why has God put this person my life like what why am i attracting difficult people into my life that's the question we want to ask so so you don't want to see it as random that difficult people have been entering your life for people that difficult people are in your life you want to you you you'd be shocked to discover that that difficult people when you're clean vibrationally difficult people just go the other way now I'm not gonna have the audacity to call myself clean vibrationally but however much I'm clean vibrationally I can tell you I've gotten to the point where difficult people just stay away from me and I've slowly but surely yeah I've slowly but surely gotten to the point where where people who are what's called hooked on help meaning they're just there to like suck your blood and I call them hooked on help they have an internet a belief of lost they usually didn't have a very good relationship with their fathers and the fathers are like compasses they get you out of the forest and and someone who didn't have a very good relationship with their compass meeting with their father so they feel quite lost in life and they and so they wind up be more specific Brian about that question I'm not sure what you mean by that I mean maybe you mean the nefesh a Bahama Stone so as someone has I'm busy reading other people's question in the middle my answer I'm sorry I have to learn how to do that I'd never done asked rabbi own son before so so when it happens is our is that people who feel lost like that they wind they wind up being they wind up being kind of permanent permanently needing to get help but they can never get the help because then they wouldn't be luck then meaning meaning they know themselves as lost they need guidance but they can't ever accept the guidance cleanly wouldn't be lost anymore and then they'd have that identity crisis I know that sounds crazy but there are if you're a rabbi you meet people and I have a term for them they're called hooked on help and you can never really help such a person what you can do and what's amazing breakthrough for that but you got to be very gentle is is to expect you know pointed out that they're hooked on helping they're just it's like bowls Isaac they're like wow I had no idea because we're not telling it not normal people these are usually pretty put together people they're just hooked on help so so the so that's amazing for them and they can really break through a lot by by being called out on their Bing hope done help now so if they're in your life if they're in your life that means that you're draw you drew them into your life nobody comes into your life that's not drawn in know if they're your family member immediate family member then and you didn't necessarily draw them into your life but they are definitely they're definitely there for you but you'll notice they'll start bothering other people they'll bother your other siblings like let's say it's one of your siblings or it's your parents they'll just find someone else to bother and and in regarding lying people lying people it's probably inappropriate to have any tolerance of that lying is lines really one of the worst sins of all of life [Music] it's it is a is a it is the destabilizing force of all reality and and what happens is certain people get get hooked up online and when that happens they are so now they weren't going to be in a very very destructive mode even if they're even if they're like getting away with it more or less things are going to be going south with that person and therefore it's inappropriate to be to be tolerant of that or even play along with that at any time and the opposite you don't want to call them out on that and and be the one who who has zero tolerance for that until they can get their acts together and that's that's a kindness that it's what's called a certain kindness like punching a drug addict in the face it's that kind of kindness it's called its violent islands yeah it's called it's called Gavroche of a facet meaning you're doing a kindness but through cavora and going along with their lies would be called facet Shiva so that's that's going along with it and where's thing along yeah you're playing along and enabling and that's that with once it's lying it's 0 times you can play along with a lot of crazy stuff with people but not not lying lying's where you draw the line okay we got a couple other questions on the chat here how to do that was some captain that one mm you're allowed to do primal prayer using an intoxicant that's okay to not do with an entire scene no I'm saying you're allowed to do it with an intoxicant you had written in your question to not do it with an intoxicant but you're you're allowed to the the in our group my ecstatic per group we do use an intoxicant we use caffeine that's a heavy if you use caffeine ceremonially so all the energy of that jungle kind of ceremony kicks in if you use it that way it only doesn't caffeine only doesn't work ceremonially if you use it as a beverage or a wake up call you know like an alarm clock to get you up if you're using it as a fog lifter which is how i use it every morning I use I drink coffee just in the morning I don't wake up well nor do any Glaser's wake up well and you know you know when I was first when I was first about true I had my first Shabbos with my my relatives and who are observant in Queens and I was really nervous they accept me and consider me like on board with Judaism and everything and and and now I asked them before I went to bed it was very important to me I said what times prayers in the morning and they said they're an 8:30 you know I said okay so so I need like a 7:30 wake up to make sure you know I'm on board and I come up and running like every other observant Jew would be you know and I was coming from a you know of Asia I would flown in from Jerusalem Asia tour which is everything runs on time and anyway so what happened I wake up in the morning Shabbos morning and I look at the alarm clock and it says I look at the digital clock it says 9 a.m. and it was like it was like a horror movie it was like violins playing screeching sounds and I was like no and I and I don't even know how to get to their shul where they'd play Chaka eat and I didn't know where to go and I ran down to the kitchen and I say to him mrs. Glaser they're my cousins I said you did Glaser in a panic I'm like where are they where are they just tell me how to get there and I'll go and she says they're all asleep we're Glaser's and then I looked at her and I went you to your also you also have this issue so anyway my brothers and I if nothing wakes us nothing wakes us and you know it's a bit of a miracle because I'm running my seminars now for you know a lot of the people who participated in my zoom seminars are in are in you know the West Western Hemisphere you know they're in New York or wherever and they're they now everyone's gone back to work so I can't run at normal hours so guess what I'm I'm waking up every day this week 4:30 in the morning and I'm on the zoom seminar from 5:00 to 7:00 oh my gosh I today's the third day I have become so disoriented that I spent most of my day in a total spin like a spiral of like out of my out of my brain I know was today and so I've been going to sleep at 10 p.m. right when we finished this session okay back to back to so we owe so we use so caffeine ceremonially is what I do is right when we're about three-quarters the way into things at around the song of the sea which we're doing full blast and we do every line together so so when we get there so I and other men go into the coffee tea room and we just I'll take that coffee out and I'm just like one scoop two scoops three scoops or scoops five scoops seriously but what five times this strength coffee unusual sugar no sugar one scoop to scoop I gotta cut it you know then I started stirring it it's like a paste hmm anyway then I get a syringe just kidding then I then I get a got that mosquito I'm getting good in this this studio has a mosquito issue the second I see when I took my pants into my socks so excuse me this skeeters know like they love my blood I don't know what type of blood I have this sceetos love my blood hey if I'm in a room with 30 people like camping out or something made a tent they're gonna find me and everyone else is gonna be so happy in there and and this one of the things though I loved about us meaning they'll leave bite some other people so this is one of the nice things about about having children is when you add more people your wife goes after them instead sometimes so so that was you know I've eight kids so it's like it's it spreads her wrath across everybody so it's a lot it's a lot easier since all those kids were born for Hashem [Music] I'm just messing around in who knows my wife knows that she's just like a bowl full of honey I'm just fooling around I was really talking about mosquitoes and that it is nice to not be alone in a room with a mosquito now although it doesn't seem to matter with my wife like if if I'm in there they're all going for me just watching your faces while I was telling that story it was me it was all worth it sometimes I do that it's a it's a trait from my mother's side of the family their Berman's and they will just lead you on for for like as long as you're willing to take the ride they will just keep going and it's it's quite funny but maybe a little not nice okay I just want to fix the view here no we're fine okay hey you'll see how you doing welcome to ask the rabbi hope you have a question you'll see you have a question the fish let me listen then I'll maybe okay I got other questions here um here we go um what comes first what comes first love from others or love yourself first in order to be able to love others oh what a sweet question so so well we learn from the Taira it says very specifically which one's first cuz it says that half to the ref akimoto what does that mean love your neighbor as yourself well what's first you if if you don't love yourself how you're gonna love your neighbor meaning meaning only in as much as you love yourself can you love your neighbor now I'll share with you a Torah that I've shared a million times but I'll share it again I think you'll appreciate it is that um and maybe this is one of those ones you just can't hear enough of is that when you are when you don't love yourself so everyone you meet is competition okay everyone you meet scum petition everyone your wits competition cuz think about it you are automatically on a scale with everyone you meet you no one's thinner ones fatter ones the prettier ones left and ones more handsome one's smarter ones Dumber ones wiser ones simpler ones more put together once more you know disheveled like like there's there's tons of you know ones rich here ones poor or like you know there's there is detailed or detail that you don't know about when you meet somebody and there's many people you do know about it and you know you're you're falling short on several categories so you get that everybody there's there's lots of categories of comparison and so and so when you don't love yourself you're automatically relegated to that comparison if you don't love yourself so then you're stuck with with categories of that you fall into and you can be hold yourself in esteem in some category maybe you're particularly smart or particularly in good shape or you're particularly good at driving or particularly good at accounting I don't know what you're good at but you meaning you can you can have an account you can have a category that you excel in and maybe have some self esteem in that a category but when you meet someone fresh like they could be like twice as good as you have that category so like what good was it that you're even good at that category and you and as as handsome or pretty as you are you might meet someone who just puts you in the back pocket you know so so it's like you know as good shaper and there's someone in better shape who you might run into and so even in your categories that you hold yourself in a steam with good luck loving anybody because you're going to be in some once you're in comparisons you're not in love that is not called love when you're in comparison mode Claire so that basically all I was doing just now is setting up the problem and here's the solution the solution is that that you must love yourself that's well that's the beginning of the solution the others gonna be obviously how to love yourself you must love yourself and when you love yourself to begin with meaning when you simply love yourself so then yeah the studios in Jerusalem ed right near my house thank God oh we got the guitar should I play something for y'all yeah Oh Facebook doesn't even see the guitar there's a it's a beautiful guitar right here that my tailor is so maybe I'll play a little song thing guys anyway you guys are like my little playdate today you know not that I was bored I mean I've got like you know you can imagine what's going on in my house right now there's never boredom boredom is not one of the options in the Glazer house my neighbors like they they you know I have neighbors I have neighbors who are like hardcore did Fox you know what good [ __ ] her yes I some of my neighbors like hardcore lit Fox and they're very liking everything's like businesslike and kind of cold and collected and like you're not studying enough rabbi you know about me so or whatever you know or my kids are yeah you know it feels judgmental who knows maybe there's no judgment but you know from my interactions with him I think there is a little judgment and anyway one of their sons whenever he gets drunk he comes one of the sons of the biggest rabbi who's I think up the heaviest judgment for us when he's when he's had a little too much to drink he comes running in my house and sits next to me and starts screaming that I'm the life of the neighborhood and that everyone else is like dead compared to our health compared to our house but he says it's so loud to make sure that his father can hear from his window where he's having his Shabbos dinner and my kids are like oh and his daughters are like out on their balcony kind of looking at my daughters because our daughters are all friends and they're all looking at you here we go again you know this guy is making his big statement about where life is and that in the neighborhood but but I tell you the truth and I mean I am jealous of his study his study acumen you know a ski Olsen is and his resolve you know I'm Way too ADHD for any kind of lifestyle like that but that's not gonna be here yeah we did so I did pay my dues though you know I did study three you know what's called sudarium a day morning afternoon and night I did that for eight eight years straight probably because I married this holy lady who made sure that took place so I don't know if left to my own devices I would have done that although when it was clear that I was gonna be a rabbi so then it might make more sense but not a ton of sense during the study of to be a rabbi my brain actually the lining of my brain swelled when that when it really got intense and I wound up hospitalized and the rabbi the rabbi overseeing the group rabbi Yitzhak Burke was called me in the hospital and he said he said that he said tour is not supposed to kill you and and I was like I'm like what do you want for me you know I'm so out of my league to be studying you know I'm for these kind of exams and and he said he said if you get sick one more time you're out of the group I mean you actually studied so hard they you my brain swelled swell oh my god I can I can I can imagine that I can see that because it really matter like oh my god anyway that's anyway both Hashem I um I was after that it was like I was extra careful with my health and I mean it was it was crazy I was my family didn't see me my family during those exams my family didn't see me for a year didn't see me for a year meaning you know I'd come home make kiddush wash eat huh mode see my wife would serve me all the courses at once so I could eat them all in like 20 minutes and then I would go back up to the Beit Midrash over my house and study for the rest of the Shabbos she would see me again for lunch if that same way.not third meal third meal I would eat in the study hall and then she next time she'd see me a Sunday morning and it was going on like that all week long all year long you know I was like a stranger it - that's what it took for me none of the other none of my colleagues had to do that I had to do that because I was just you know when you're and when you skip school from 11 to went from 11 years old to 23 if you skip school you know and you find yourself suddenly studying full-time you know you just don't have the skill sets you know the in Yiddish it's called zits flush which means sit flesh which is what we're all sitting on right now but nitish it's called zit splice and and you know I just don't have that naturally but I did three eight years of study studying on that level I still study obviously brush him today we're studying in the DA feeling mimasaka Shabbos about snakes that are particularly attracted to women yeah oh my god I know that Jeff yeah that's that's that's that particular page of Talmud is one of the ones that definitely attest white girls don't study tell me now what apply okay Michael please I wasn't gonna say any details so listen the where we get I was answering a question oh love love yeah so if you love yourself so then you there's no comparison to others you're just like oh now how do I love myself and then you'll understand how you love others so how you love yourself is that you're created in the image of God okay you're created the image of God and that means a couple things what does that mean once you're in the image of God was that mean so one is you're wanted because how'd you get here you know it's you're wanting to is is you're you're you're here for a reason three is meaning God doesn't do things random so you're here for a reason three is that you're capable whatever reason you're here he's giving you the brains to do a good job with that like I but my brains are set up from what I do big time and they're perfectly set up and I don't know a lot of people whose brains work like mine my brain was specifically given a the same genius you have for whatever you're here for God put in me for whatever I'm here for so that means you're brilliant and you're also your your whole face and body are all created things there's nothing random so you're beautiful just the way you are and and that makes you automatically beautiful being created in the image of God um it also means that you're important like you matter because if you didn't matter you doing being here so you matter and I mean you really make a difference by just by the very factor here makes a difference and and it also also you're capable because have you a dirty trick to put you down here with a purpose and no capability to fulfill it so you're capable as well and anyway the list goes on you know it's like you're just amazing you know you're basically awesome and and see the sad thing is most people start the Torah with the flood meaning meaning meaning and the Torah says that people are just basically evil you know and speak bad off you know their their thoughts are just evil all day long like that's how most people see themselves I start the tour with Genesis where it says we're created in the image of God like that's where you we're meant to start at Genesis not at the flood but you know most of you probably start with the flood in the way you look at yourself where man had already men had already kind of crossed a too many lines in his crookedness that God had to destroy the place by flood and so you can't see yourself like that that's not appropriate it's not truth it's not in this so you know if you brush your teeth if you brush your teeth before you go to bed that's because it's true and it'll keep your teeth together you know you'll have teeth so it's also true that you're amazing so just like you brush your teeth you see yourself as you're amazing it's the same thing everything you do that's based in truth you know yeah you you live that way in how you see yourself now once I realized that I'm amazing because I have been given this soul in the image of God well guess what everyone else was given same thing no duh yeah so like everyone I meet I'm I'm all cinnamon so are you yeah and so is everybody I meet and that's why the the kabbalists say that in the line where it says love your neighbor as yourself you know what the last two words are I have to Loretta como ha you know the last two words are I need passion anni Hashem you know what that means well God often stamps certain lines in the tour with I am God meaning do this I am God so Rashi explains I am God who will repay you for this meaning whatever you do on this stuff I will I am God who will pay you it's his stamp hey Alicia I'm waiting for your questions bro so so whenever it says I am God it's his stamp saying I'm your guy I am God who will reward you for this but in this particular case some of the Kabbalists share that it says love your neighbor as yourself ai ai meaning you I am God meaning you have a soul straight from God and once you have that there's no more comparisons there's no categories where someone's grave meaning well there's categories but they don't matter because the the focus is on the essence and the essence is the soul okay everything else is clothes so that way yeah and that was the first one no I got another one regarding people from Devorah how do you let go of people I'm having a hard time hearing you the volume a little bit low I'm not sure if it's my knee or you I think it's you Leora you hear me fine yeah I'm fine so I don't know why Alicia's something's up there maybe check your volume on your screen check it out yeah they were actually I am a department but I just I was just wondering something out from your last dance room and previously you were talking about tonight so love someone that's wise or someone that big so wedding comes to the negative stuff you see there see their innocence cuz they've obviously been through hell and anyone who's acting that way obviously is acting that way because things were not so good good for them so and and so that's as far as seeing their innocence um I guess if someone asks a question how do I connect involving I did a whole thing at the beginning of this you're gonna have to watch the beginning of the video after Shmuel and nice - nice to see you online watch the beginning of diming we did the beginning of the class so and I didn't exactly answer your question but I don't want to do a whole other thing I'm diving right now Devorah the first is to see their innocence meaning that these people are obviously hurting anyone acting out is hurting okay so and the reason they're hurting is God knows you know like leave that to their therapist why they're hurting but you can all you have to do is think about who their parents were and you can figure it out pretty quickly why they're hurting unless they went through some other radical trauma but but hurt people hurt people and people who are acting out are always coming from a painful place so that's number one is see their innocence and number two is to once you see their innocence is to is to love them from a soul level you know you can love them from a soul level so even though they're lying with their body meaning their mouth their mind their their souls not lying and you can love them there and I love everyone there and the soul level I meet all kinds of creepy people and I I just love them and you know it's really interesting to love creepy people you know you would think a loving creepy people would attract more into your life and they run they run from me you know meaning they evelle they get very quickly that I'm Teflon for them they're gonna have to find someone else to bother so but but I still love them and it takes them a back of it because some of them are like built to be abrasive like that's their whole motives and and I'm not gonna go there with them I'm gonna actually treat them softly and they'll have to deal with that so you just love them from a soul place now of course I understand the bar that could be exhausting if their family members you know the but at least they're not gonna bother you once you get your own once you get yourself cleaned I mean when you're clean vibrationally they won't bother you anymore don't bother everyone else but it's a lot easier to love someone who's not bothering you anymore okay um Alicia shed you got your volume worked out well I'm not gonna deal with your technical okay great I mean basically if there's actually something as nature and things happen in like a natural way addition intervenes or if every single thing is really totally I've said the right thing everything right so yeah you want me to handle that so there's there's there's an argument but in the Ashkenazic world it's not in the sephardic worlds in the Oscar well thus far to take the hasidic as usual take the hasidic line and and there is a bit even in the sephardic world of this much locus but it's mostly an argument in the Ashkenazic world about whether the world is God's will or it's actually literally of God himself meaning can God be separate from this world so shame I don't I might you with me right now but the the the Bala Tanya speaks about this in detail I think in the fourth chapter of right at the beat there's a break is a break in one of the chapters of char you couid've a moon and the second book of time in the tanya and you have that with you by any chance Alesha No so the second book of the ton is called char you for the Munna the gate of of unity and it's all about God really being one including in this world like there's nothing separate and that's the hasidic taken Habad specific tanya is how bad safer so most far dima hold this way as well that this world is really just a cosmic this really this whole world is just a vibrant vibrational illusion I did say it's a it's it's being synthesized ultimately vibrationally from this creator and and so and so this is there is only God and that by the way is why we cover eyes when we sit amongst when you're saying the truth that God is all there is you don't want to see anything else I just want to see what there is and what there is is God so that's all I want to look at right now which is nothing and you'll notice by the way I've only close your eyes a second just close your eyes regular without your head so you'll still see light but now take your hand and cover it tightly and you'll see that it's really oneness and release you'll see it's really oneness now that you're releasing now you see detail and you're looking at the screen or whatever whatever you're in your room yourself but now who says all of that seni different than the oneness you were looking at before because if that oneness word - if that oneness were to emit light if it were to emit light and then filter that light such that there could be an image on the other side because isn't that what all images are made of is you know if you see your shadow on the ground you're filtering light from the Sun so so according to the Kaaba list traditions the all there is is God that's all there is and everything is just everything is just God in jelly jello for him you know it's it's coagulated it's just God in gel gel a gelatinous God and and whereas there's another group of Ashkenazim called called you know it's more the yeshiva Charlotte weenie and Litvak crowd and they they have trouble with that and the reason they have trouble with that is because is their concern is that you would ascribe divinity to physical things because if everything's gone so so maybe this way this mouse maybe this is God you know I wouldn't bow down to this the kabbalists would come back to them and say hey what do you mean like the first commandment is that there's God and that's all there is and the second commandment is letting you know that in case you would think that everything's gone and meaning you should think everything's got in but in case you would fall into bowing down to a mouse you have a commandment not to otherwise what do you need the second commandment for what's the point of having a second coming why have the commandment of not to do idolatry if there wasn't a possibility that everything's filled with with hello coos of God and accout godliness and that it Kenneth that you could ascribe godliness to any one thing so therefore you need a commandment for that I understand that's why we have that commandment whereas according to the the rationalists the you know the mid-fuck community the it would be you know you it would be you know wouldn't be that big a commandment really because of course it's not God and God's some thing out there not in here got something out there and yeah you're not supposed to things in here okay thank you you know why would I do that anyway where is in the Hasidic side they're concerned or the Sephardic or acidic side they're concerned that you might wind up bowing down to something once you realize everything's made of that divinity now you can imagine I've spent plenty of time with people since the divinity and things and and give them way more honor than we would expect would be appropriate to for example the directions north south east west you know like like and I mean Alicia wins last time you offer give an offering to the north a little prayer to the north yeah it's like nah not gonna be doing that yeah but believe me you know when it cut when you get into the Kabbalistic stuff you're doing a lot with the north and the south who can give me a direct example of something super Kabbalistic expalined osius that we do with the north south east west okay you face these but that's more that's not because of east that's because of that you know if you were west of the temple you'd be facing west sorry if you were easy to the tempie beii felony facing west very good Lilla yes Lulla worth we're shaking that blue love in all the directions and and work that's saying that's serious stuff there like that's that's that's a hot the same stuff Kabbalistic lee that the those people giving their little offering to the winds of the west or whatever they do i don't know what they do you know it but you know we don't offer nothing to that to it because we don't give an offering to the creator of the west you know and west but west has its energy man you bet kabul is gonna be talking about that you know so so the anyway i'm starting to get into more topics here but but the main thing for us is is that is that we're we're big boys and girls we can handle the world being and the world being an expression of divinity without bowing down to our pencil or any or the ocean or the Sun or the stars of the moon we're not we're just not gonna be doing that you know what I learned recently is something interesting is is that kiddush levana when we sanctify the moon like from tonight you're allowed to sanctify the woman and so kiddush lavona the reason we say Elena Lycia because why do you say Elena after Kadosh LaVon it's not shock hurry that's not men kind of like why do you say Elena Lucia bad after and the answer is is cuz Eileen Alysha bath has a certain function for chakra but if you look at the content of it it's all about crushing idolatry now a bunch of Jews just gave a major blessing together for the moon now what does that look like it looks like we're praying to the moon and now we're dancing around you know singing the songs about the luminaries and you know it's like that needs a lay no afterwards to make it real clear like we're making a statement now after we do that prayer that we are denouncing idolatry car Asya car racin yeah it should be cut off completely Corey's car ACO Carson that that idolatry should be cut off out of the earth off the earth and that's part of Elena know the second paragraph some more about that we mentioned there before Vatican choir music hey Mustapha vimla heavily recruit miss pauline lo que él lo yoshiya we do say mention idolaters there but the second paragraphs literally to wipe out idolatry and you'll notice look at that second you see the second paragraph okay yeah listeners were listen these words guys all came Nick a veil aha and now we will put all our hope to you as shaming okay note near admit not to see quickly bTW fearless in in in you could mere translated a splendor and I'm not gonna give a whole Kabbalistic reason wise to ferret is there but it's pretty cool bTW Faris Isaiah in the splendour of your strength now Xavier Gulu Gulu li min Haaretz to remove idolaters from their from the earth very highly lean and all their Ida idols you because you carry soon may they be surely cut off a double language of curries you come you cross decoration their mouths loose or what what's the next words you carry soon after the word what's the word after you the talking Euler the mouth shot guide is amazing the tacking to fix the takane like a rectify mr. cane olam to rectify the world now what's the world the world's the hiddenness of God because the word of Allah means world it also means forever it also means hidden so we're fixing the hidden the hidden world meaning we're fixing because what is it to do idolatry its to think that this world's the end when in fact this world's just the hiddenness of God's light God's filtering out light so that there can be a world and and when you've when so were were so we say the tacking I love my own shadow that we are fixing the world the mahute with God's kingship and then as a random name of God Shin da lead you had the one from the doorpost you know on the mezuzah Shin dollar dude you know why there's that name there because that will name shin and Dolan and hood is the word that it's enough share that and then die that it's enough so what are what are people generally giving idolatry to and they're giving idolatry to their excesses meaning excessive behavior wanting to do whatever the hell they want to do and then think they can just offer something for their excess meaning it's never enough enough is not enough there was a Joe Jackson song in 1970s and enough it's not enough it's not enough it's not enough it's not enough it's not enough so enough is never enough for that for four people but no but I was I was so indulgent that I'm feeling terrible so I'm gonna offer a little something to the god of food or a God of sexuality or God of this or out of that and you know like so so no actually you have limitation and you're supposed to use it and honor it and that's your guide for something powerful to happen with that limitation and and you have that that limitation is important and so we're fixing the word world the mouthwash acai within the in the kingship of of he that said it's enough meaning meaning you put limit and by the way you know what that name does that name is them filters the filters made of shock I the name shock I don't think about it God's sending light that's shame jávea you'd cave up cadets just total like and and that's just that's gonna take out over everything you know that's gonna just make it impossible for world to exist so sha Chi filters that light and I said with a cuff instead of a dollar I said have I yeah you can call it javea you flip around the words flip around the letters sorry it isn't --have of good and hey javea oh you flip the letters around yeah and we call it shame of iya yeah you're allowed you're allowed by the way this Rosh Hodesh was you know every every month oh wait I gotta check the time and we know what time we are just on minutes I have to oh three oh I'm having so much fun I forgot yeah I'm picking my wife up from the gym everybody you know I can't really do another question now cuz I want to honor my wife with that I listen this and everybody you can always email the questions to ask a travel tote that come please 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