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Shalom and welcome to practical spirituality here at Bas Hashem bass hashem's an a I don't know what to call it other than experience because like just like nakot a state of mind well basem is a state of mind as well and you could kind of call it um uh uh what's the name of the schulen Lakewood where I just spoke moris it's like Morel East or um or another way it could be called shiners um but what the the thing is that that people are getting is that we don't need extra rules we're not looking for more rules and so when you have a place where everyone's accepted everyone can be you come as you are and and there's no rules so all of a sudden what shows up is torem and and and and all kinds of good things come now again I'm not going to suggest this necessarily for young teenagers um because apparently putting young teenagers in a vice grip for several years um rather than leaving them up to their own devices is probably a good thing I don't know I mean I raised my teenagers very free and they've all come out amazing but you do have to hold your breath for a few years cuz just like what's going to happen with this kid but uh thank God they're all coming out great I think the rule like this if you're lousy you need a strong structure for your kids but if you're great you if you're doing great your wife's doing great you have Shilling biased you're serving hem and it's a home of of H of sh so then you can let your kids run a little more wild because you know they get they're getting they're getting the right uh the right examples in the home so they don't need as much structure but if if your home isn't really uh thriving spiritually so then maybe the structure is probably a good thing for the kids for a while and hopefully they can th you got the parenting in there good job sure we get a little parenting in anyway um it turns out that that the only structure that a person needs the only structure I guess that a Jew needs is Hal that's the only structure we need all other imposed structure all other conventional addition is is unwelcome and it's not that it's unwelcome because you see that there's Community after community and sh after sh and Yeshiva after Yeshiva that have all kinds of introduce structures that might even be just men huging they might even just be the customs of it but they're like serious structures and when you introduce those it causes The Souls of at least the kids growing up and maybe even many of the adults teenagers it caused their souls to ice over because Hashem gave us a very very specific spe ific uh formula a very specific uh prescription a good example of this is I I landed in a plane I'm sure as many you have you land in the plane and several um very people stand up while the plane's still going about 500 miles per hour you ever seen that like they just stand up and plane landed we're here let's get up and they get up and the plan just and the storis are like sit down and and they're they're not sitting down and so I once had a sitting next to me say um and aoy means a gentile you know Jew Jews are very ethnocentric you know we uh you know we make up 0.00000000 one% of the world population yet we've completely distinguished Jews and Gentiles because there's only two types in the world you're either Jewish or you're a gentile you and the funniest thing is that's such a joke that we that we are like you know we're like if it if it was like a giant stack of salt and there was one piece of pepper in there you know and we're like yeah this is salt and pepper you know and whereas anyone else would say like no that's a 10 foot high pile of salt with one little grain of pepper inside it but the funny thing is the Gentiles know there's Jews and Gentiles the Gentiles know it and not only they know it but they also know that they have to decide whether they love us or hate us which is also strange but but you can refer to October 8th for that you know October 8th was like you know the the the the permission slip was granted on October 7th but October 8th was when the Gentiles found out they really do hate us you know even though they don't have any idea who we are but you know they hate us without knowing who we are anyway so back to um to rules so this Gentile this says to me uh you know I've noticed sometimes these planes land and there's always this Orthodox Jew like stands up while the planes speeding down the highway so I said to them listen in Judaism we have a lot of rules we're not accepting anymore no more rules you know we we we've got enough rules we're not we're not looking for more rules and and I I'll say something that's crazy that you guys this may be this may be a little uh to Liberal so I apologize for any of you who are who are too conservative or more conservative what I'm about to say it might be a little on the liberal side but once you know there's a God and you know the Torah is divine once you know that so then you look at the Torah and the Torah tells you 365 things not to do which which when extrapolated it comes out to about 30,000 laws because in the rambam we if you count all the laws of the Torah it comes out to 45,000 laws so because there's much fewer positive Commandments than negative Commandments even sure of course so there's a lot more what you shouldn't do than what you should do and therefore there's of the 45,000 about 30,000 are what you shouldn't do and 15,000 are are how to do what you should do and and some of you guys might think you might think like wow you know very restrictive 365 negative Commandments with 30,000 laws how to keep them sounds very restrictive like wow I don't know if I like those restrictions you guys like restrictions most people think restrictions are like unamerican or something you know Libertarians don't like a lot of restriction but the truth is you love restriction you love restriction in fact you pray for restriction every day you pray for it every day you give thanks to God for the um for the uh you know because you know we pray that the parts of our body that are supposed to flow are flow in the parts of our bodies that restrict our restricting we love restriction you know if you didn't have restriction you guys would all be wearing diapers he restrictions good and I imagine nobody's any of you guys what's your favorite pedal in the car the gas or the brakes which one you probably think it's the gas no it's the brakes it's break what enables me when I'm mountain biking down the mountains of Jerusalem to go the speed I go what enables that what gives me the goahead my breakes understand if you see me going you're like wow you know shooting down the trail no I'm I'm just like love my braks I love them in fact I'm on my third set of brakes on my my latest bike I got it my bike's only two years old never had have gone through three sets of brakes I didn't wear out the brakes I just the first ones I realized I can't go quite as fast as I could go and someone suggested that I get this other break called the Saints Shimano Saints so I got the Saints I had had Saints in the past but Saints are a bit on and off and someone told me that get the haze they stop like a saint but they got much better modulation so you can feather it and scrub speed in ways that you can't do with the Saints and so I got the haze and uh and now I'm writing on these Haze they're called dominions dominions and boy do I have dominion when I'm on that bike now and I and you understand but it's the breakes what makes a marriage great is shm the breaks that's what makes a marriage great it's the breakes and make it great I'm sure you know you guys probably don't go to movies because they're on your phone but but what made movies great was people would shut their phones off and people don't talk you know which would be really disturbing and the breaks of what makes synagogue you know sh prayer possible is the breakes you know is everyone should be quiet when it's quiet time and and to be able to let off The Brak for the times it's time to shout out something with all your heart like shamay is but think about it even when we say shamay is we put the brakes on our eyes because if I because if I want to if I want to say that God is one well I don't want to see two if I'm talking about Oneness I don't want to see multiplicity and so I go for a double covering because you could just close your eyes but everyone close your eyes a sec if you close your eyes you'll see there's a lot of light take your right hand and press in and you see a lot of dark unless of course you've recently taken a psychedelic which means they're seeing all kinds of colored patterns and stuff but the uh anyway but the point is is that we put the brakes on when we say Shan right on our eyes and we actually have break levers these are our break clevers the Titus you know are The Brak levers these are the break levers and we say it every day that you know that what are these things for is that is that we're just kind of you know our eyes the eyes sees the heart wants and you're like you you just you got these breaks right next to you and they you know they're just there to remind you to to slow down and then sometimes they're telling you to stop and and so you got to stop and so there's 40 there's 30,000 Thou shalt not but here's you ready for my liberal deal I didn't get to the liberal part you ready for the liberal part and by the way you you may Sam crazy and please say I'm crazy I you're all being so quiet you can always speak Ellie knows like my classes just say whatever you want so the um what is the Duke what is the inference what do you throw your thumb for when you hear don't do these 365 things what's the dick do everything else thank you very much thank you ell everything else literally everything that's allowed it it's means go do everything else well what would happen to you let's let's play it out here a little bit what would happen to you if you just if you really took this seriously I know you guys probably I mean I like the word pop everyone say pop pop pop po I like the word pop instead of raising hands instead of saying raise your hands if okay give a pop if you never thought of it this way po it's very interesting let's play it out a little bit let's let's see what it means exactly to um to that it means go do everything else it's pretty interesting well oh let's start the first thing came to my mind was a cold plunge cold plunge cold plunge yeah like an ice bath oh cold plunge right yeah cold plunge uh is it mutter to do a cold plunge is it permitted yeah sure Oh and before we go there I just want to talk about the brakes are called user and the gas is called mutter okay the brakes is called user and the gas called mutter and let me explain the breaks us means tied up like m means to release that which is bound the tied up so something that's tied up now we can talk kabala for a second everything that's tied up everything in the Torah that's forbidden meaning those 30,000 laws that if you do them you get tied up not that we're going to tie you up but you just get tied up you can tell a person who's tied up I mean I don't know how spiritually sensitive you are but you can tell when someone's you know they they you could tell that they just finished eating a you know shark Taco you know or something they people actually eat shark I'm funny thing is I'm allergic to shark uh before I knew about kosher and all that I I we we'd be surfing in Mexico and youd order a fish taco but you know these Mexicans they don't have any Scruples so they don't care this fish that fish shark so anyway we finished our fish tacos a little while later I'm I'm like about to die and I found out that I'm allergic to shark cuz we went back to the stand and the guy's like we said what kind of fish is that talking oh this is shark and I'm like shark man but I thought it was kind of a good thing because I'm kind of hoping sharks are allergic to me as a surfer you know like like hopefully they go the other way you know we have a mutual understanding here and I don't eat shark and they don't eat me yeah okay but what I wanted to share is that the word the all the Forbidden things in the Torah which are called user means they're bound down all the things that are called mutter are released well what are they released for they are released for us to raise them up you see we're all deep sea divers guys we're deep sea divers we're here to mine coal we're here to go deep into the ocean and pull out the pull pull out the the oil you know like the oil rigs out in the ocean or the natural gas or the or the coal from the Earth We're God put us here to to raise it up everything that's user is got a a little part of the dark side in it let me explain that really quick so you got light right like even the light bulbs here are perfect got light and if you filter out that light you can have an image right you filter out light get an image I don't think I can do that here we're not going to get a shadow here but um be on this chair so um if you you see a shadow of my hand on there can see it don't matter but the point is is that when you filter out light you get an image so all the images in this world everything filtered out that makes an image in this world like for example this cup and water I have a cup I got water in it filtered light but when you filter to much what happens when light gets overly filtered what becomes what if we put a green filter on this on these lights up top the whole room would turn green no what if we went with dark green forest green what if we went with like a deep blue how what would you notice it's getting darker and darker and after a while we put black you can't see anything and so for the only way God could create this world was through the emanating of light called the Orin s that Oran s then gets filtered and filtered and filtered and filtered and filtered until you get wood until you get wool animal and the the thing is though that it keeps getting darker and darker and darker and darker and darker and darker there's a there's a cut off line where it goes from wood to meaning which is called kipus noga means uh it means uh let's just call it a available for raising and then it hits a line it hits a cut off point where now it's really just dark and the Torah lifts that stuff there's certain things that are on that list including shark but there are things that are just simply forbidden you can't get near them why because they're so filtered out so the question would be maybe you want to ask why didn't God just end at the cut ofl why did he let the darkness keep penetrating into a fully dark location why does he allow the black filter answer you guys all know the answer why would God allow it free will yeah for choice because if he didn't and everything was mutter so then youd really wouldn't have choice you have to have a dark side and not only that not only you have to have a dark side to choose you have to to have a dark side inside of you to make that choice meaning you got to have something drawing you towards the dark side and you want to you want to get to know that side of you pretty well you know and you guys all know it I'm preaching to the choir here everyone in here knows you got a dark side that's what makes you good what makes you good is your dark side imagine a person walking down the street doesn't know he has a dark side is that a good person I personally wouldn't trust that person very much you know why because if you don't know you have a dark side so you have no muscle you have no muscles to withstand it you understand you you have to spent years of your life practicing how to withstand the pull towards Darkness to build the muscles this is why Jordan Peterson says that anyone who believes that they could never be a Nazi guard is the most likely person that would be a Nazi guard if he got pushed that direction you know if he got in that spot that's pry yeah it's very yeah right exactly exactly and he would consider you good but he would consider you good and he would consider the person who believes they could never be a Nazi guard naive you know why no you're good because you've been playing with your dark side for since you're you were probably to taught about the Yar when you were five and you've been learning how to how to interact so now if you got push you'd take a bullet first again his quote was anyone who believes they couldn't be a Nazi guard is the most likely to be that they could be if they really got pushed when I say push I mean think of what push means meaning they'll wipe out their kids you're not going to be a Nazi guard so sayab about your kids and they're holding the gun in their hand it's not a theoretical so so the um and you know Judaism says if someone says shoot uh someone says press this button and destroy this whole city or we shoot you yeah you take the bullet is that right no no the no what was I thinking what was the thing sorry you shoot them or we shoot you no either I'll shoot you or I'll shoot the whole city then you then you they they have to shoot the whole city right in that case which is crazy so anyway but let's let's get back to business is uh I want to say the opposite let's say the positive side anyone who believes they could be a Nazi guard would never be one anyone who believes they could be would never be one you know why because they know they've got that side to them and so now they get to start building the muscles and building the muscles and building the muscles to be good so that when they finally got pushed that direction he's ready you know you understand and now he's ready to fight the fight which is everyone here who was raised believing that they have some kind of on heart now let's play it out you ready we're going to play it out and then we'll probably call it a day I don't know how much longer we figure out how to put our life together over let's play out doing everything so we're going to start with an ice bath anyone here ever jumped into uh frozen water that's like a Jacuzzi compared to an ice b b shto mikah I've heard is on that level has anyone ever checked the actual temperature of it I wonder what it actually is anyway but ice baths are gen they're generally on 40 down to into the 30s um Fahrenheit not below Z Celsius and when you get in it's you have to shut your brain off completely because what happens is your body let's say you're going down the steps your body starts going back up so you're like and you you literally start going back up and I've coached many people into ice baths and one of the first things I say to them is you're going to need to breathe the whole time meaning as you go in you're going to breathe the other thing is you must keep your feet forward meaning Forward Motion keep your feet going forward and and if you think it's cold it's not ice baths aren't cold they're hot because when that level of coldness touches your skin it burns it burns you ever touch ice cubes is that cold or hot is it feel cold or is it burning your hands start burning from the discomfort but you get in and and the way I Learned was I was coached by my son of Ry because he's an ice bath guy and what happened was he asked me he asked me uh where does it hurt I said it's hurting on the back of my calves he says to me are you the back of your calves I said no but they're killing me he says okay where else does it hurt I says on my shoulders my shoulders killing me on my shoulders okay are you your shoulders said no I'm not my shoulders where else where is it hurting you now I'm like my forearms my forearms killing me on forearms he's like are you your forearms I where else my feet my feet are you your feet anyway he's like you realize you've been in here for like a minute and a half you just kept going and next I know I just went ah you mean this just my body ever since then I can get into ice baths but I want to take you guys somewhere very deep right now for a second if you do the things that are mutter if that's the DI that things that are mutter you go do you're going to be literally ramming your body into wall after wall after wall and it hurts and you'll have to ask yourself is that me or is that my body is that me or is that my ego because I know probably four fifths of you four fifths of you 80% the reason you're not active ated more in your life is because of possible rejection you know you might get rejected and but bumping into that and then being stuck with a horrible rejection which nobody wants to deal with and you just all it makes you do is think alcohol basically you just want a Band-Aid as quickly as possible when you get rejected when you're feeling your ego you know hurt and I myself come in here the first day was you I'm a little nervous I don't I don't I feel like I have a lot to give but but at the same time um what I don't have to go into why why where I feel nervous in your eyes in how I come off in your eyes but there's a there's something there and the if you don't bump into it let's put it like this if you do bump into it you're going to have to ask yourself where does it hurt who is that who is that and what you realize is it's nobody because you're not that you're not that there was a 33 years ago dancing ask yourself that question that I don't know that's an interesting du you said said if you're doing if you if you do anything that's not user if you just say if if it's in front of me I'm going to do do I'm going to go do it you're going to start bumping into stuff you're going to be hitting the ice bath I was just using the ice bath as a mush for physical thing but you understand you you don't even know where it'll take you I mean you have no idea where you're going to go with this say be a Yes Man exactly go in the ice be a yes what it's what we're ultimately saying is being a Yes Man and when you live in the yesman world you have miracles happen miracles happen all the time I just yesterday I was mountain biking in uh the foothills of uh Jerusalem you know when you're on the flat lands coming from let's say benguan area and then all of a sudden it does start going up so right where it starts going up is an amazing mountain bike park called Park Canada so I'm riding with my 14-year-old son and we're just like we're just flying down this Trail it's a serpentine like unbelievable Trail and and I've been following him which is such Nas my boys are all trained in like hardcore downhill mountain biking so anyway but now we're cruising along and I passed this guy on the side of the there's a mountain biker and older guy and I said to him uh I just as we're flying by I just said everything okay and all he said was uh I'm hooking up my flash lights because it was getting dark now I had timed this ride that it was going to get just too dark for my son and I and just then we would reach the peak where the sunset lighting up the clouds Sun had already set 20 30 minutes ago but the sunset had lit up all the clouds and I was going to use that as our lighting equipment because the last trail which is this amazing downhill Trail very technical is requires light but there was no more light except I know that this Trail faces the sunset over ashad and that that was going to be our lighting so I'm right along right line and I'm always checking now I'm in front checking my son's behind me once in a while a little 14y old guy and uh finally I just realized he's not there so I look back and he's gone and we need every second we've got we were going to get to the car pitch black we need every second we got we don't have lights and my son's not there I ride back a couple hundred yards he's like I blew out my back Tower and I'm like d we are I can't even describe to you guys how far we are from our car at this point and we're in Pitch Black on a trail with no way out but that trail and that trail is long and to get to our car is like miles of with no lights so anyway we're fixing his tire we're using our phones for flashlights and and it's not going so well and I finally get to a point where I have a needle nose pliers but I got to a point where something was wrong and I needed another needle no pliers but guess what happened after 20 minutes of fighting with this tire comes along Mr flashlight man yeah it's because it's not only am I yes man I live in a yes world and and yes man my new friend his name is mar Morad I forget something salski dski from mova anyway this guy this guy wound up taking his headlamp putting it on my son well helped us fix the tire had another need no plier so we could get it done he went in front with his handlebar light my son on his helmet and I was right in the middle between them and we had the most amazing ride the rest of night with this giant orange Moonrise and and this guy got us he literally escorted us all the way back to our car in the Sor you become a man you become a man how many women are married to women today I didn't mean it like that meaning how many men are married to girly men when you go up against the world when you when you when if it's mutter you just go right into it when you go right in like that when you go into it when you bang into it it toughens you up my my kids when they were when they were little as soon as they could walk I would put them on a bike soon as they could get on the bike I could get them Offroad what does it mean to put him Offroad I cover his body and padding like literally like he's like he looks like a giant cotton ball but I no I'd order on Amazon pads for a little kid and cover them padding full face helmet full finger gloves I don't want to kill a kid and I take him out and sometimes you know sometimes he would more than more sometimes he you know the front tire washes out and now you just see this kid just rolling down the trail like a snowball you know like like it's like a yard sale like gloves here and helmet there and it's like I collect him at the bottom of the mountain he just like I collect him at the bottom I put him up on a rock and he's just like you was crying crying I want Mommy and he's crying and anyway it takes like 15 minutes to get him back to Baseline and get him all back in all his equipment and then I point to the top of the hill said do it again he looks at me like what like I'll carry the bike because he can't carry it up the top I climb back up and do it again he no and then I say to him listen if you want to ride with me you're not going to leave this mountain a loser you're not going to lose to this it's you against the mountain and if you don't go back up there you're just not coming next time and that's like a fate worse than death Tat's going mountain bike without you not to mention when you have two older brothers who are right there with all their equipment you know and they're like and so he makes his way up to the top I give him a couple pointers what not to do so he doesn't do it again but but but my my daughter's inlaw laws thank me after they marry my sons for having made them into men because you know in the world you're not called a man until you're married you know he's called a boy and then he gets married and now he's called a man but how many of those yeah but R you're making it sound a lot easier than like just fall saying like yeah just you know what do you mean I mean just you know just go go ahead and get out there Tony Robin banging as many things as you can I mean like sitting here knock you know come on man give us something a little more practical saying well I'm kind I don't know your life what's your's talk you sound like you're talking to a group of you know high functioning multi-billionaires over been trying to learn a couple M I'm saying you know what I'm doing is and you know I don't do I I do hot tubs so the reason I'm doing it is because I know deep down that everyone including you what's your first name including you Moshe that every one of us has breaks on where we should be pressing the gas and that's why I'm saying and so everyone's this is a big MAV Yin meaning this is a big whoever is in this room whoever's listening to this online this is for all of us to to think about where is it that I've got my brakes on and and to hit the gas so that I can [Music] become who I need to be and and it takes courage and courage is like a tough attribute you know but but I the only way we're ever going to become who we're meant to be is by banging into it and look at what happened with Adam and Hava Adam was a Adam Adam and Eve Adam was a girl first he's getting dominated by by Lil throws Lil out now he's getting dominated by he's a little girl his wife calls the shots you hey Adam try some of this you know all right you know he's got no backbone and notice what her curse is notice what his curse is his curse is well get the hell out there to the coats of a d dark go out into the thorns and syles and get all cut up trying to trying to deal with the bitterness of Life CU it's bitter man cold pools are bitter shot of Whiskey's bitter I start my kids very young on on hard alcohol yeah drink that bitter stuff and and make a face as if it tastes good bang your shot glass down and say smooth there's nothing smooth about that I mean if you paid for a good bottle it's smoother but it's nothing smooth you don't see women doing that women are shooting shots of burning hot liquid what's your message to put yourself through pain in order to bring out the best of yourself it's God's message to Adam is that go out there and sweat go out and sweat and you want to know what happens if you go out there and sweat you know what your wife does she desires you that's her curse she'll desire you she'll have Painful childbirth why is she having painful child because she desires you now she's pregnant now she's going to have the painful birth and he'll rule over you not you ruling over him women don't want to call those shots they don't want to call any shots when you take your wife out to dinner and she's sitting in the passenger seat and you're like okay where do you want to go you know she's like I want to go back in the house are you taking me out or am I taking you out don't ask me where I want to go surprise me why do you think women love surprise you can surprise them with anything just random stuff they're such suckers for it because they don't want to be in control and what is the word surprise surprise is something you didn't know was going to happen which means it's out of control and if and a married man can use the element of surprise every single day every single day I do it every single day every single day and I can just be in the kitchen with my wife and just say what she needs right now is some surprise how do I know because I see on her face she's tired now any other man would say she's tired she probably needs to sleep maybe I should take over a sink no a woman when a woman looks tired it's not because she's tired it's because she's been made to be in control she's been made to be in charge nothing exhaust exhausts a woman like that she could do 20 things and be filled with energy but only in the man that she's trusted to be that man and to and so that she doesn't have to even carry her own weight and so the the what we're discussing here is really bous we're talking about otar Rishon hitting the world like bam and then she respects him and then he rules over her in a good way I mean not a bad way that she's just like surrendered but a woman who's surrendered is there nothing more beautiful there nothing more radiant there nothing more holy there's nothing more more attractive to a man than a surrendered woman but the same thing goes in our professional lives and the same thing goes in in every aspect that we're tested in in our lives so when the Torah says don't do those things we're talking about you know the Torah says not to do 365 things which breaks down to 30,000 the de is go do everything else go bang into it go do everything else and get get bruised and bumped and cut up in the process and and what happens is you start to see where the actual Edge is well if I know where the edge is I can be courageous because you know what's going on guys what's going on is that we have edges we created first of all we have edges our scared mommy created because she didn't stop mothering us otherwise known as smothering us so we have edges they created we have edges remember we spoke at the very beginning of this year is about how Society adds rules beyond the Torah that frees over the soul of man those are edges that are not real edges those are edges that are just there to I don't know somehow keep us in line I don't know what those edges are which is why Bas Hashem so amazing because this place says we'll just let the Torah handle what's forbidden if the Torah doesn't forbid it go ahead and enjoy but the the point is is that we have imp osed edges we think about it just take a moment to think about this and then I'm going to hit the road but think about this you have your own self-imposed limits where you just don't go outside that realm or you'll get burned right a way of a mush for thinking about that is if you guys have ever gotten in a really hot Mikvah for example the one right behind you okay and they've they've this is the first year ever they've turned it down to one uh 110 degrees cuz it's always been 113 and just this summer they kept catching people trying to put cold water in it so they finally brought it down to like 11 110 and which is lame for those of us who are here 30 years like what happened to our mikah but when you go in on the 113 so you get in the mikah and what happens is cu your body your outside of your body is much cooler and it creates a thin layer of cooler water that you can survive in and all it takes is just poking your finger out and it's like like your finger Burns because you want to like you want to get out so slowly as if like somehow keep that membrane of cooler water around you so you can get out and we're all with that we're all living our lives like that because we all have these edges where we just don't go now think about it this is what I want to say is if you have that edge which you know deep down and this is tough to think about but deep down you know it's not real that's why it's called in in they call it the glass ceiling glass ceiling meaning I keep banging my head on it but if I could see right through that another guy in my same field is killing it while I've got myself totally held back so we know deep down that's not the edge we know that's not the edge but because we've made it The Edge and here's the part that's hard to conceptualize but please try is that the boogeyman's on the other side the boogeyman's on the other side and I've got a lot of Courage for the stuff I know but I ain't got a lot of Courage for the Boogeyman and so what happens is you don't get to exercise courage if I go to Europe and I'm doing some riding in France in the Alps I'm not going to bring my bike I'm going to rent a bike I don't know the bike yet how fast am I going to go the boogeyman's you know how fast am I going to go until I get to know the brakes on that bike so I know what my chance of stopping are how fast could I go when you got the boogeyman there it's very hard to be courageous I mean guys give a pop he the pops where are my pops pop give a pop if it's pretty hard to be courageous around around your scary stuff it's hard but think about it what if what if you push through it and you saw it was a mirage and really the edge is way over there tell me when you're now moving around those same areas that were once you know this was the edge but now you like realize the edge is here as you now move around how do you move around courageously when you get to the real Edge that's where courage happens when a shim said don't do those things he's saying do the do the other ones though do the other ones and what'll happen if you do the other ones is you're going to have to deal with yourself you're going to be scared as hell you're going to have to bang into stuff you're going to get bumps you're going to get bruised but you're going to eventually get courageous you're going to get courageous and then you can show up to a and take your body and everything you put it through in this process and I'm using it proverbially body meaning we're talking about your whole structure of developing courage but what you'll do when you turn Mavis stream is you're going to take your whole body like a cloth like it's just draped and you'll just take it and you go like this to just take it I used every last drop I left nose Rock unturned I tried everything tasted each thing and the last thing I'll say is just the scary scariest thing is that every one of us knows that every time we've ever pushed the limits God recreated the world around that new place in my company the possible you which is now in five cities and there's 70 people working there and there's you know there's a lot going on with the possi you every single thing I've ever done to and every one of them I was scared scared of but every time I pushed it through and did it what did God do he recreated the world around that you know what that made me think well I'm not pushing hard enough because think about do we know the limit what is the limit of how far you can go and by the way you might some of you might have say well what if it fails what if it's just an absolute what if you push the limit in some field some business some anything and then it fails you want to know something amazing you'll see where you get to later in life like a year later two years later five years later you'll see the actual success of this whole new thing is built out of the crumbs out of the shards of that failure is literally made of the shards of that failure and you keep seeing that over and over again over and over so what is the limit then to how far you can push if God keeps recreating the world around that which you pushed I'm sure some of you guys are single a couple single guys here so I'm sure your thought like how am I going to support a wife and then all of us who are married who are in here same well we might have that thought but we'll have a thought like how are we going to support what if we have like 10 more kids how are we going to support that or how am we going to make weddings and yet every man in this room there's a br too every man in this room's going to be going to be the host of his child's wedding can say Amen multiple times and every single time you'll be asking yourself how am I going to pull this off and yet there you'll be like pouring shots at the in the Mis pouring shots in the Mis like Mish magnanimous you know like just like giving it out man and you're like like at least for a moment until you deal with the bill but like you'll you'll see that God will recreate the world around whatever it is you do and therefore when you see the negative Commandments stay away but if something is not part of that if something's part of the world of mutar and I'm not going in the cabulla of like raising stuff but just there for your development there for you to to bump into enough things so that you can develop yourself all the way and live your life with courage that's what it's there foress [Applause]