Tanya By Rabbi Yitzchok Minkowicz Sec4 Chap 25 “A easy way to live a Angry free life”

come to tonight's Tonya class we are in Tonya the gerotor kodesh the last section of Tonya and we are holding chapter 25 parrot cafe it's a very very important chapter a very exciting chapter and a very revolutionary chapter because the author of it is going to teach us in a chapter a very very important practical tip how to live a angry free life you know means not have any anger in your life you got it hello no anger no angry so in other words and it's an easy way an easy way to live a angry free life that is the essence of this chapter and that's pretty heavy and the author attaches view from a really really deep capitalistic perspective so if someone tell someone don't be angry I got angry but Dabra shows you from a capitalist expect the source of the anger the source and he shows you how to overcome it guess what you can live a life free of any anger now that doesn't mean that doesn't mean that you're gonna live in a in a shell and man have to do with anybody else and then that's the wrong way right that's not the way the way is to be involved in the world then deal with people to build people and situations and whatever you're dealing with in life but nevertheless have the ability and having the power not to get angry so don't you think this chapter is like really really great to teach you how to not be angry I feel better already absolutely yeah there's no trick be nothing angry if you don't do it anybody so the goal is to learn how to live an angry free life so the algebra starts off the chapter and he brings from the balsams oh well since we know was the founder of mysticism and the Baal Shem Tov had different teachings that his students put into writing and one of the teachings out the bow Shantha put-down was that a person here's an example let's see for example he is trying to pray now we all know when you're trying to pray you'd want to focus you want to focus so you praying you want to focus and you want to meditate once you in the middle of praying meditating and requires quiet and being like in a certain movie and somebody comes along and starts to stir me you don't say an Andrew Collins doesn't serve everyone it's not serving you so the arts of the baal shem tov says the mother says don't be upset don't be upset why because the baal shem tov says that who is giving this person the power to speak and disturb you god exactly God so God is giving the person the power to speak then like hello it's coming from God what you need to do is concentrate more and don't pay attention work on yourself don't worry about that kind of disturbing you work on yourself and the Monsanto explains why because in that person that is talking that's disturbing you he has or he or she has within them a part of God which is giving them life force so that was the motion was teaching so right away there was a big uproar what is the utmost not the same I mean this is revolutionary stuff you're saying is that when someone is disturbing me I'm trying to pray I'm trying to focus and someone's disturbing me God is like giving energy for that I said god only knows the good stuff why would God gives someone energy why would go to God someone give some support to disturb me when I'm trying to pray to him so the altar of it is going to address this issue from a very very powerful kept listed perspective and a beautiful teaching into the whole process of life and life force and the way energy flows from God down to every single thing in this world in other verses like this he starts over an introduction based on a quote the famous quote a very strong quote from the Zohar which we knows Ebola and from my mom Rambam and the ramen rights and solar rights whoever gets angry is as if they are worshipping idols there are idolaters if you're getting angry guess what you just like Gandhi worshipping idols same exact thing again not for me to make this up it's rhizoma and from the Rambla now the question is what's the reason somebody is praying someone's disturbing me or someone whatever someone's gonna be upset when I get angry why is that like that worshiping idols and the altar says because if you had faith that everything happens is from gods you wouldn't get angry you're trying to pray you trying to focus someone was disturbing you okay that God wanted to happen if you believe God wants them away you're the upset now if you don't believe God wanted it to happen so you're saying is there's life force that exists that's not godly where's faith so obviously if you have faith you'll never get angry verse Evangelion if you're getting angry that's a question you're actually possibly us serving idols you're an adulterer whoa that alone can scare you right you know something I the scourge but mental it's mentally to educate you and to have an eye opener of really what's going on you mean to say it's very simple if you believe in God life is great someone disturbs you so I'm bothers you okay it's all from a show and we're going to learn how to deal with it doctor will give you tips that wheels it but the point is the reason why you are getting upset is because you're getting angry is possibly a down treating you and you have to work on your faith what faith are here down river explains as follows whatever starts or by sailing this what do we just say ifs always disturbing you and someone's bothering you you need to work on your faith so right away the question always is but the guys it's thoroughly the person is disturbing me what do you have to work on my issues and the album's like this there's no question about it that someone that hurts somebody and someone disturbs somebody and so on that bothers someone and someone destroy someone's stuff they're responsible before they did wrong no question s we're not getting them off the hook this to pick to the issues here mr. eight person a and person B person a is disturbing person B bothering him hurting him destroying maybe Sun whatever it whatever any way that he's affect even negatively person a is accountable what do you want to do that for that's not even a question we're not taking person ain't taking enough to hook he stole a ski or she is still responsible what they did the issue over here is you personally you have to ask yourself why is this happening to me and the answer is one answer you know what's happening I want to stop him and the altar of brings a famous story from King David King David King David what happened was he had to someone called shimmy was an officer and shimmy Kirstin cursed King David's Kirsten so everyone's gonna ready beat up and kill the shitty guy King David our King what are you cursing King King David King name is a stop I have no issue with it said why because he said it's big give me a radical statement because God told him to curse me and everyone said when did God tell him to curse him we didn't hear that there was no prophet that came and told him and King David said very simple because if God did not give show me the power to curse and the ability to speak what he cursed me impossible not only that King David said as he's cursing me that's divine energy coming through him now the reality is when God wants someone to be cursed or to be hurt they're gonna be hurt and therefore if something happens to you you have to accept it oh my gosh what's God trying to tell me now if God calls you so to speak and says bother that guy hurt that person you should for sure say God thank you so much please find another message for that holy for the good deals call me to motivate someone to inspire so on hello it's okay to tell it to God God I'm ready to do anything you want but do me very give me a different task be upon positives ask right give me a more rewarding task and more inspire more loving task so that's for the person that's doing it so sure you response me you can say what do you want God did this no true God but you can tell good I don't want to dispensable I want that one do I like em it's our kindness so you can pick you can pick so that's the King David sense now so now the question really is what the King David is establishing is that anytime something happens to me God is telling a person to do it and therefore I accept it I accept the good I took the red and have no complaints again about that person that person has to deal with his own issues it's for him to deal with it not for me to deal with the other person's issues especially when he's bothering me I need to say thank you so much for giving me the message I guess God wants to tell me something sometimes it's black and white sometimes it's in a code I got to figure out what the messages but one thing I know is thank you for the message now why is that and this is where the big opposition was the author explains as follows here's the alphas can explain to us cabbalistic Lee why this is so so the author explains based on a verse in Psalms it says like this law Elam hashem Dvorkin exhibition that the words of god that you use lolli lamar 7 the words deboard the words of our son that you use to create the heaven and the earth is not just you created it and boom it's gone those words that said that this the heaven should exist and the light should exist and the earth should exist those words are constantly repeating itself non-stop over and over again why because if God forbid God stopped automatically you know automatically Pete's name couldn't relate to autumn a graffiti and all these computers can put things in an amount of repeat but if God for a second stop saying heavens earth light darkness you know what happened it wouldn't be it wouldn't be so in other words another words like this so everything that exists exists from God constantly giving it life force the optimist says one second there are philosophers that say no kind of crazy thing is that God created and done walked away he walked away he created and they say for example so I made this table right told me to put together this table they're still standing here making the table they made it and done but the answer that was very very simple the person never made this table they put it together who created the would have fam who created the medal the pulse who the original the fabric is custom created someone put it together this now this is a major difference between yes me yes and yes me I am if something's created something from something then you're right you can walk away you put together a table you can walk away you put together a chair you walk away but when you create something from nothing you have to constantly feed it so therefore Hashem's words are constantly existing from the highest level heaven light darkness earth water underneath your eyes shams words are constantly reverberating over and over again on BR you should mind our every it's constantly and God would stop for a second it would not be now the author brings down from the close I'll say leave it on translate yo read a thing those that know pain what is pain mean pain is an abbreviation of kaufman is startled the hidden teachings referring to lower Kabbalah etc he said it's known to the yo a pain that what we say what was the first thing Loyola must have had him create the world with the virus on the verses the virus and the deeper the speech of God that's what created and keeps on creating everything now so he brings from the from the Kabbalah and from the zone from different Kabbalistic insights that the the concept the word the virus Shem has multiple definitions in the words of Kabbalah one for example translate what'swhat's Varsha I mean practically so they called Trina the way God is treatment we gon rest in this world another term they use is that that virus and is called Emoto it's a Kabbalistic term for a lower level of of vino and then there's another term called Mathura Nisa which is again referring to God the way he gets involved in the world with his entourage and so on and so forth but then he brings the last the last explanation of devotion the word Hashem the way the Kabbalah explain it as Mao hunt so we say when wouldn't the Taurus VAR m we know in this sphere oat starting from Kesler or Hawk depending on where you start counting from they go through all the intellectual emotional sterols and the last fear is mouth worked so mouth Lord as we say you know in publically Oh Friday night mouth close is pet it's like the mouth devar hashem so the sphere of mullahs is relates to like the adviser sham or is the adulterer quotes from the from from the book of qohelet from king king solomon where it says devar the word Mela of the king that Schulten rules the whole world that means hashem rules the world how does he rule the world with mouth closed so those just keep people track what we're doing here is so the original verse said are you Amish and of our core the deeper of our element is in the heaven which means Hashem is constantly creating a recreating hell with witch power with the power of deeper with the power of speech now he brought down again from and he explained why there has to be because he since it's something from nothing that son has to be created and he brought down from the Cabal in that a definition of Irish and what does it mean practically in the words of Kabbalah it's referring to the idea of mouth was so mouth was is the component in the zeros which is related to the virus Shem which is constantly creating and recreating the cut whole world now the reality is like this we all know that this how many worlds are there this point at salute which is closest to God briea creation you'd see where is already formation and the world of us see of this physical world and every love every world we're not gonna go into all the world's right now but the concept is every world is does not seal this closer to God means God is more revealed and there's less of a concealment Bree already God is more concealed the more concealed it is it's here morva concealed in different lesson from relation and then ASEA is obviously the greatest concealment and therefore the least amount revelation now in each one of these worlds there's all the she wrote but what gives life force to everything that goes on in that world from a practical level like the virus M which is malas so for example the author explains in the first world the world of absolute what gives life force to everything in the world about solute molecules so therefore therefore all the Nationals all the souls because we know the souls when they come down from heaven to earth they go through a journey through all the four worlds at cielo Bria it's zero and ASEA they go through all the four words pending on where they spend time this is a very very important idea pending where the soul spends time in the journey that's gonna define but the natural instinct of the soul is getting more godly and spiritual or more course now that doesn't mean that that's your destiny you can always change it you can transform yourself you can work on yourself you were kind of small spiritually calorically that's already on a vote that we have once we're in this world but when but the who we are so just because spiritual DNA has to do with so for example give you an extreme case let's say you spent nine months in oxy looked and the last name a jet through breed Co Co you're gonna come down on this world it's gonna be all God and godly you're gonna be in a different world right or on the other hand if you wet you weren't jet through to us seeing you spent nine months in the sea and come on this world everything's gonna be materialism and physical things and me me me and so on and so forth and again obviously there's multiple millions and billions of variations but generally speaking generally speaking all the humble souls that are naturally humble they come from where from a saloon where did they get the life force from Malthus of Acts he looked so for example who do we know that's a soul of Malthus of absolute so the example dr. Perkins is most available moisture Urbania was a very very refined soul he was very very humble and like for example when he want the food he said like who needs food like don't know why you need food because he's a spiritual person and he was humble and people said the Moshe is so great a month great Oh God he was acquired the canoe is a soul of a solute so you see that word that the mouth closed in the world of absolute gives life force to all the souls of a tube and everything else that goes on in the world of a solute go down to the next world the world of a Bria so what is the final piece that gives life force to everything in the world of Umbria and the souls that come that are primarily the word from the world of a Bria so those kinds comes again from malkos Umbria gives everything in that world the same thing also with Malcolm you'd see ro that it's malkinson it's here gives life force to everything in that world and then the last world which is a seer has Marcos and that gives life force to everything in the physical domain so everything in the physical world comes from a thesaurus ER and even for example the water underneath the earth everything comes from office de Mesilla so you see the way the bottom and this divine show that's going through the malthus and every level is not just past tense when God created the world it's constantly happening over and over and over again now so far we went through the trends this happy stuff this is a heavy chapter have you chapter a lot of stuff and every section we can spend hours on it but the goal is to to recover it okay I thank you thank you but the goal is to copy the chapter a meaningful way okay so that's you could take a deep breath let's keep on going okay and I don't don't let go it's my fault don't let go hold on hang on hang on take a deep breath but hang on okay now so so far we covered folds but we also have we all know that we have the gardening world what's the gobbling we're in this world physical world what's the godly part of this world Eretz Israel the Land of Israel why is the land of Israel called the land of Israel because it's called area 2 straw because Eretz a land Israel Jewish people that's technically but Aaron's constant word of rough sign the will so the the land that wants to do the will of a shall and God says notorious when we see the will of Sam the land will hold you and if you don't do the work so that the land will split you're out because it's a land that will keep you and you feel good and you live a safe and secure life as long as you want to do the will or she'll the minute you stop doing the wall of sham the land will split you're acting on all different issues and so on and so forth but generally speaking generally speaking the Land of Israel is a place that's when people go they're inspired they want to study and only she votes and all these people that weren't returned to Jews you can go to Israel and they have right why because in Israel is a place where it's naturally inclined in the natural inclination is to do the will of a Shemin you have to work really hard at Israel not do the will of a shell I mean yeah that's like really going against the grain but the natural instinct of Israel's do the will of a Shem everything outside of Israel is called land which is outside of Israel's it's not the land wants to the wash em it's all the lands of idolatry and the etc etcetera etcetera so anything outside the Land of Israel is not from that high level so the question is the fact is is the light that's in the Land of Israel the same energy that's in the whole world no absolutely not so the light in the Land of Israel for example where does it get us through a life force we're hold we just finished off it gets it from malice of Asiya but where do all the nations in the world there's 70 nations where they get the life force so the author of explains like this that there's something which is called 70 impure crowns impure crowns this pure means we recognize God impure already means that we don't recognize God's the ego is pretty heavy there's 70 impure crowns so from molecules of ASEA it doesn't look directly to the - to the to the nations of the world it first goes to 70 impure crowns and then from those 70 impure crowns it goes into 70 officers so to speak that are in charge of the 70 nations 70 impure malthus hacia 70 impure crowns 70 officers they're in charge of nations to the 70 nations now and from there it from that from the southern nation goes into the impure animals the non-kosher animals [Music] etc now there are we know kosher animals and they are that receive from from we call it CLE but Logan there's a Charlotte people at the Mayo empirically both like we said before the info rounds and that is Cle back over its neutral zone so although the pure animals and the kosher animals they get their energy from clear-cut ANOVA when we slaughter them and when we make a blessing on them anything that's neutral we actually elevate it and that's our goal likes to try to elevate everything now think about it like this so the bottom line is God is everywhere obviously different levels of relational concealment obviously in the world would see those he's revealed briea and co-ceo but still in a good zone but here God goes along and gives energy to where to the 10 to the 70 impure ground it's going into the 70 nations that's going into everything else that's impure into this world so one second let's talk simple English which is God here is God in here or not absolutely yet so in other words is God reveal the concealed and feel so what is concealed mean God is an exile God is an exile now obviously we all know that both things come to an end when God willing or the Messiah comes after the world becomes you know everyone agree everyone recognizes a God in the world then that will stop but it will be revealed Gavi real but until then until the Messiah comes God's concealed and we actually called that Gallucci know where the subpoenas are nose because why because the the Shekinah is in exiled into the lowest possible places as far as it could be now it's interesting as we all know we all know that when originally the first part Morial sin was with the a todas when the eighth from the tree of knowledge he shouldn't have eaten now then already God so to speak up he went into concealment and the first synagogue went to hiding but the difference is that when God then went into hiding he went to hiding and he still gave energy to the world but the energy that he they gave into the world came from a low and external place in the word in the words of Kabbalah it's called Orion cry means low and external it wasn't gone himself you know God is servicing the world he's feeding the world energy but he's not really involved into intimate way however when the Jewish people went into exile all over the world but we became God's nation we have a relationship with God but God's children and we went into exile all over the world guess what is God with us or not for sure he's with us so God's with us which part of God is with us the external part of God the low part of God no the internal part of God the previous of God is with us and exile as it says in the Talmud gollu the ending Trina in mind when the Jewish people went into exile guess what God is with us God's with us so in other words in other words just to keep our train of thought correct so God is everywhere similar breeds here are SIA and all the nations all the impure stuff even as we're in Gullah scars with us mandalas gods everywhere and that's called Gaulish you know God's everywhere now the Alturas pauses here in a second one second the he wants to make a disclaimer because you might think it sounds like it sounds like there's that since there's so many levels of God and he is more revealed unless you feel the more concealed then here is an exile etc there might be like sounds like God is like there's different of different parts to God souther makes them first of all this one one thing all this different concealment in Revelation is only for us only for the world here is more here he's less for God there's no concealment God is in the highest levels and lowest levels the same thing God is everywhere we unfortunately don't see because maybe because we're in a physical world and we sinned so we tank our ability to see but if we were pure and we weren't living in a world that had a concealment we've built to see it so God is not concealed to make it clear God is not concealed we I'm 14 don't see certain thing regards not concealed that's point and when the author says point over $2 now he's God not concealed is in a component of God a ray of a Shem that exists the same power from the highest world to Louis worlds so there is from God's perspective there is no difference from God's perspective and also even from God's per sentence a part of him that's revealed from the highest to the lowest plane places now in this world that's just a side note which is important in this world that we are we're living in so God gave us and made us in a way that took his tense fear God used to create the world he gave us ten sphere as well and every one of our souls is made up of tennis field now even though it's all from a sham but this levels again levels for us the way things are broken down because we couldn't handle an infinite revelation has Penske artwork the Opera explains like this this is very powerful very interesting and very very important first of all we have something which is called in this Bureau we have the first level is the first read this we wrote which is called combina das which is the intellectual component of student now so we every one of us have three godly Sphero kebab Hawk mabini das now our sphere that we have lures the way the Sphero are in heaven which is called nearest that called Chabad it's called on the ain father and mother because father I want to give birth to the emotions so our intellect is mirrors the intellect above then we also have emotions right what our emotions generally speaking you know that J oldest road but they're called Alva and Europe everything that we do comes from one or two places the Balsamo explains us everything we do either comes from love or from fear fear not afraid but fear of a sermon all of a sudden everything we do comes from an emotion of love for you knows we're loving we're gonna embrace we're gonna grow we're gonna do and we're gonna freeze everything we do comes from those emotions those emotions of our Aviara mirror which emotions the emotions in heaven of zaire anthony which is a small face the six me note then we all have speech our speech mirrors God speech as we said before what a speech called mal court in heaven deeper in Heaven's called mal hood and Shekinah and may God it rests in this world and the way God rules the world so what happens like this and this is this is like so amazing a revelation so what happens like this when we use our speech it's mirroring which speech and heaven God speech so we for example sit down like we're doing now and we're learning words of Torah we're reciting words that would be we're not thinking just looking and thinking were discussing it with which we're talking Torah you know what we're doing we're Awakening in heaven God speech which translates into the screen are coming down to this world which translates into malas God selling now positive energy so every time you sit down a study tour remember to make sure to say in the words as the author it says over here that's why the rule the halacha is that when you're saying sh mom or if you say the grace after meals or if you're studying Torah say the words why because when you say the words and you're saying it be your awakening the deeper in heaven which is connected which is the screen of FM and mountains of a Shem that will come down and give you all the blessings that you have so you got to say the words that's why it's very very important studying with a partner particularly learning discuss it you drawing down very heavy energy very powerful energy now that is what we have 10 spirits intellect merge above emotions and the deep work Center God made this world everything is either just like we have 10 she wrote an idolatry what says tells field even playing field because it's not going to be fear now where do they get their their energy from they get it from 10 impure crowns like it's explained in in the in the zone now the the tensley wrote of an eye doctor so the opera quotes from again from from King Solomon from qohelet where it says like this after Charlotte Ogden boredom la Rama so in other words the nations of the world they all sometimes filled and they rule over us through all throughout history they've been ruling over us it through different kinds of different things so why why throughout history are they been ruling over us we have what while they might want get that rule over us to the artisanal around lolly for bad for them why very very simple that reminds of this when and idolatrous ruling over you it's coming from God but the purpose is so that you should resist responding engaging in negative stuff and I'm the country still focusing on God and when you don't engage with the I quit deal with the negative forces that are trying to rule over you trying to stop you but see from studying Torah and doing mitzvahs and prayers we all know throughout history they've always tried to destroy us what I mean destroy us not physically they wanted us to stop learning to over and doing MIT's vote obviously point L permit it was all it was all obviously product the God's divine plan so that we should say no we're not we're still going to study we're still gonna pray even though it's hard even almost as cold and as we then you know what happens if brings a powerful energy within us I don't feel energy within us and y'all drummer says now you know think for a second whoa so they have the same energy to eat you had another it makes it very very clear they have energy that God gives them like you give an enemy you just throw them a bone they have it in spiritual terms it's called they have an energy coming from a quraían not not an internal energy not great energy that weak energy external low energy we get it like it says in the Torah Yara Hashem part of a loofah actually in this week next week's Torah portion God will shine his face on to you we get directly face-to-face from God but the point is we can we get this energy what's the purpose of the energy so that we have obstacles we're able to overcome them and we overcome them then we're fulfilling our purpose of Exile is to overcome all the negative energies they're confronting not some challenging those from falling off guard with our high spiritual ores after this huge introduction right usual seduction which in short what's the Alpha was saying and short right that God creates created the world and constantly creating it and the energy is going down from one level to the next all through all the worlds and even internet nations in the world right I'm giving this real quick and even after all levels and even to the people that disturbing us even though they're getting from an unholy place but still in their intellect in their emotions every part in their speech every part of them they're getting energy from God so the optimist says to think for a second when the person is talking and the person was disturbing you and the person is maybe saying mean things to you and insulting things to you who's talking is it even a question my now is talking that night our turn no who's talking God is talking God is talking maybe through the adult the the God is talking God's talking now if God's talking previously if she would have said that I would have gotten angry but now I'm not angry oh that's working Marcos Ernie so therefore for now we see why in someone's disturbing you someone says something is bothering you oh she's gonna you know thank you God thank you right there's no reason to get angry because if you did you would be saying it God doesn't give everyone their life force which is not true now can overcome the negative energy that God was giving us it's not yeah the goal is to overcome it exactly it's the goal is to overcome it yeah that you should not be bothered by it and when you're not bothered by it then you become stronger and you draw that greater positive energy now but the author makes one thing clear this that we say that someone's bothering you and someone hurts you and so on etc that only applies to physical material and worldly matters all those things life is great life is great you know chill because guess what it's all good it's all good there's nothing that makes a difference how can saw her you think think about how relaxed you can be I think the blood pressure the streamers went down or any right or anyone's listening to this in class what's what's they're worried it's all from God hey God thank you it's way back way back right God thank you you become stronger you become stronger the optimist is one second that's all-in with physical things but what happens when it comes to spiritual things what happens when it comes to spiritual things then for example fearing God it's not you if you're lacking and fearing God if you see someone that's close to you that's that's basically not not necessarily following by the way they should be then it is okay to be angry so you can be angry or something oh my gosh why didn't I prompt proper meditation three players don't think as God didn't know that's not me you don't blame it on God because everything is up to God besides besides fearing God that's up to you so if you don't have the proper intention through prayer or you for example your mr. Toad's Torah study or you miss may be doing the mitzvot then should we have said it yourself oh my gosh what I do that because we're dealing with God fearing that that's right of your responsibility or for example if somebody is sitting against God someone doesn't sin you got to say something to them what do you mean God doesn't allow you to do this then you should be upset because we want to create a world that is god-fearing now but they also don't jump don't jump don't jump what does that mean what does that mean this that we say that you could be upset is only only when the person that's just that's not paying attention to what God wants is someone that's gonna listen to you but if the person's back and listen to you there's no reason and saying anything there's no reason to say something but if you can say something and the person will this needs to say but you're not gonna the person is not gonna listen to you why does I'm doing just reach one reason one reason only so that you should be able to focus more on your prayers now the author says to reach this level obviously takes a lot of strength right whoa that's heavy so that was very very simple it gives you a simple meditation simple meditation and how it could work he says very simple meditate on the fact that God went in to go in exile think about I think people are from God's perspective God went into exile so that he should be able to give the world what it needs so if God wanted to exile God is here just for me I need me so grateful thankful what am I getting upset about God when all the way the levels down given into gold so that I can transform myself and not be affected so in other words when you meditate on the fact that God literally went down so low to give you the ability to transform yourself that's huge that's huge please come down to - lowest obnoxious places when they rebelled against him places that people say God is God but I'm also God dealing with people that are so arrogant they think they're God - but why did God do that so that he did that for one reason one reason only come to the Sun he definitely a what welcome welcome he did have one reason one reason only so that we should overpower herself we should work on herself and transform ourselves that when someone's bothering us we should say you know what life is good life is great thank you God for trying to distract me but I'm gonna stay focused in the great strongest way so I think this is a real great trap that hopefully this will help each and every one in our anger Matt not only know I'm not using the word anger management because anger man's me of angry you're managing it here we're saying getting rid of all anger we should not have any anger whatsoever there's no reason to be upset of me thank you really thank you thank you