Tanya By Rabbi Yitzchok Minkowicz Sec4 Chap 22 “Hashem Loves Us & Everything In Our Life is Great”

all right so welcome to tonight's tiny class everyone relax it's Tanya it's time to really really enjoy after I'm sure a hard week it's time just to connect into the mode of Tanya okay so just we are studying Tanya as you all know the Bible of mysticism we're holding in the fourth section of time you called big Erika kodesh holy letters of the authority and every single chapter everything a letter is has its own message because it's the Bible of mysticism and it's usually complete obviously there's certain areas are explained more in one area or another but each one has its own theme so time we're studying Parrikar Bayes chapter 22 which happens to be a very very important chapter in Tonia it happens to be a strong chapter and with a very very powerful message and we're gonna give it a very very positive spin because it starts off on the on the rough side but the rough is only to find the gem in the chapter so the Opera with this this see I try to find the theme in this week in each chapter so the theme in this chapter is the idea that our son loves us how He loves us and because ocean loves us everything in our life is great that is the theme of chapter 20 to take it in soak it in feel it Hashem loves us right you get that if someone loves us if you love cuddle cradled by God something loves us and therefore everything I like is great yes guess what class is over right if you got that and you got it in right we're done but now we're gonna get into it and that is really the theme of tonight's chapter even though when you start reading the key sir that's not wasn't that snot that I was saying but you'll soon see that is exactly what the author was saying is that someone loves us and everything in our lives is great so the Opera starts a chapter he says like this a person goes looks at his life and takes their assessment of his life and we know that we're living in a physical world and God is infinite we're finite so we don't have everything it's impossible per everything because we're finite so we'll never everything so there's things we have and the things we don't have and I know levels of our life physical spiritual mental emotional psychological financial any year of our life family friends community life is full of ups and downs that is definition of life like the heart like the heart goes like this you're in trouble the heart is up and down so life is has its ups and has its downs what happens when you on the upside of life life is great life is great you're flying high as you say in English you're flying my life is great and that's when life is wonderful what happens on the down part of life things aren't going the way you wanted to go he's thought that you go you would like it to go you were told it's gonna go etc etc it's on a down side of life now that doesn't mean everything in your life is a disaster how people talk like that but generally speaking is a certain area and maybe a bunch of areas in your life usually even it rains it pours right so when things are not going well so what happens like this you look around you go oh my gosh disaster again either total disaster partial disaster but things aren't working out the way you want won't want to work out so what do people do so the opéra says there is a certain thread amongst people that they run to rabbis and say rabbi straighten up my life anyone can relate and people want to rabbis all over the world whether in America we live in America or in Israel or anywhere in the world and you see round one straighten out my life help me my life is a disaster or this part of my life is a disaster so the optimist says why are you running to a rambling what do you think the rabbi's going to do for you and the altar is coming up from an emotional perspective from a truly academic perspective and a historical protect perspective possibly you want to call modern English a scientific perspective that go back through history of Judaism we know who are the greatest rabbis that lived the greatest rabbis that lived the world wants people in Mishnah and Talmud they're cold and Hebrew and know you and am i Ryan the tournament of Miriam the leaders the ones that wrote the Mishnah and Talmud the least rolling down on paper obviously everything comes everything else been divinely inspired but these are the rabbi's they wrote down the Mishnah and Talmud etcetera people and then go to them because they had physical issues material issues mental issues emotional relational psychological issues financial struggles hiddenville to them for that they went to them because they were studying Torah they were studying Mishnah they were selling Talmud they were studying may become Kabbalah whatever they were studying at that time they didn't understand it they were looking for a deeper understanding and they went to ask them to help them that's why I went to them for so they went to ask them to help them study and understand but you think nobody ever went to them to ask them for material things for material struggles like why are you bothering the rabbis she's pretty strong on this for this alone you can go throughout by saying I goofed Alvarez doing he something I can't go to him right but then he says however however again since he's coming to you from a factual perspective he says the truth is we do find that people did go to humans for help who are they go - they went to the province and he brings down a famous story with Kings soul that went to the prophet Samuel about the some horses that got lost and the winter prophet the helper to the Prophet told him where they were and so on and so forth so you find the people weren't the prophets javis fine I get that maybe rabbis know but in and property in London but so why you going to the rabbis there's no prophets today now actually it's interesting that there's a commentary on the time because it's a very very famous chapter and Tonja because here's the Alpha is laying out you know dealing with an important issue people have issues all they'll only go to rabbis and one of the commentaries say that here you see or Macedon would say that what the author was really saying was yeah you shouldn't go to our boys you should go to prophets and the reason people go and went and still move to ravage because they believe their boys are prophets okay so he like it's a Jewish people they believe they're brown boys are prophets is that going to help us unravel your ID if you're going to sort of rabid cuz he's a rabbi you're right stoked in my Torah study but we believe that certain rabbis read these were prophets and that's why they went they went to them now interesting an assignment I'd only get into it right now I want to really focus more about this chapter on a site you know they say that later on and the lady is after we actually you know I wouldn't say God forbid we need that but he actually said it's still okay to go through the rabbi's for for direction for help and so on and so forth but that's again another whole discussion we're not gonna have that discussion right now we're talking about this chapter so it's not a discussion with you shouldn't go you shouldn't go we'll leave that for another time but again if you believe your rabbis a prophet then you can still go to him it's not even a shoe okay I'm sorry what even if nothing because he's not knowledge is much more than I in a sense you want to argue at the altar of you on camera - okay it's okay so okay we don't talk about that in public we don't talk about that in public okay okay again this topic about whether you should go shouldn't go why people still go it's a heavy discussion we can have it another time but let's stay focused in this chapter but you do see down river shedding he's creating up a strong statement at least in this chapter okay now the fact is people still do go people still go there set the record say people still go corral watch for their action now again it could be for one or two reasons either because the altar made these changes mind later on which we have to the point in which we have to research that whether good that is correct when I do it right now or second week they believe this rabbis a prophet all right so we at least for right now you can settle this Israel no but on this vein on this vein of this and then again it's a heavy topic without as people go houses let's try to understand why are you going and obviously the point you'll see the outcome actually takes it up my my opinion to a positive spin it's that because God's videos want to help you and that because I believe people should find help because he wants to really empower you to to really do your own work and actually grow grow from the challenge that you're having so the out purposes like this why do people why do people go running to profits or rabbis they believe in profits around but why do people go running for help so the algorithm something that's a very powerful line he says that what happens like this when a person is in pain and going through a struggle whatever the pain is a struggle is physical Terry oh the pain so what happens is we for a moment focus on what on the paint you focus on the pain and what happens when you focus on the pain and it's pain it's real pain no one says count against real thing and it's yep pain you should have a person shouldn't be in pain but what happens is the optimist says usually interesting terminology that we become blind was it neither combined we become obsessed I'm focused on the pain and because we become obsessed and focus on the pain the only thing we want to is get rid of the pain and when you only want to get rid of the thing you'll do anything to get rid of the pain so some people unfortunately turn to alcohol and drugs and other addictions and some people look to rabbis to take care of the pain again coming from the perspective that why you see reaching out for help that we're saying is because you're focusing on the pain and it becomes a self-love and the only thing you want to do is get rid of the pain now that doesn't mean you shouldn't get rid of the pain and doesn't mean sure when she's lookin playing God for it now be saying you should look the pain but we're dealing with why do you run to a rabbi or for any other thing to assume you're playing coz you're just focusing on soothing the pain now if you're able to take a deep breath and it's not easy grant you it's not easy you're in pain you're struggling well and it could be something very very small it could be something big but to every person pain is relevant to the person people can handle more people have a handle less but they all have you able to take a moment within the pain hold tight and take a deep breath and have a paradigm shift that within the pain while you're in pain you could focus on the pain how it hurts and guess what you're gonna do strange crazy things and people have done very very crazy things which we're not gonna get into how far people have gone just focusing on the pain what are you gonna stop and say hold on a second who runs the world within the pain to do it who runs the world who runs the world Hashem exactly now now we're sitting in a tiny class objective where everyone had a nice dinner we're calm relaxed we met I think we all know a showman's the world now it doesn't change the fact who does really run the world sure so now we're sitting here calm relaxed focused you know some of the world in the moment of pain who runs the world then you feel like it you can feel like but who still runs the world then exactly so even in the pain nothing changed you have pain right now but we didn't get rid of God to operate to run the world we don't have a new God running the world our sin still runs the world so in the moment of pain and it's not easy because you're in pain right now you stopping and saying who runs the world and the answers are showing the world how certain one's the world my son runs the world the some created that also runs the world so the pain that I'm having right now the struggle I'm having right now is God involves an uninvolved gods and oh yeah God's involved so why are you doing this to me well lesson you're jumping without any dents yet I wanted to walk the further just ask the question you want to take this slowly this is a deep this is not a simple thing you're in pain you were able to okay let me just double check who's created the world God who runs the world God so I believe you stole created it runs it yes so with our seven doing this thing right now yeah yeah we'll get in somewhere in the pain if those is a conversation that could happen to have something real quick sometimes when your pain you don't get a lot a lot of time to decide we said oh my gosh and runs the world okay and now comes the big question all right I said what now why let's remember that why is not a good question we we say the profits King David says Lamar which means why your argument the nations of the world ask Lama why we don't ask why why the slippery slope dangers crushed never ask why never ask why and it's a major difference don't ask why the question you have to ask is what big difference Austria arm shikaka life fortunate as the nation should cover they say what is God doing see the big difference why he has a tinge and feminized a heavy tinge of blame and now you get into like a war with thoughts like why are you doing this like it's almost like saying god you're doing something wrong you're you're accusing him and then you're in effect with God it's not the question is why questions God what is this all about I honestly isn't certainly wonder what's all about now if you're asking what you're coming from an objective place you really want to know what God is doing why is you ready many of your mind that God is doing a bad thing and that there's a judgement how you gonna learn anything when you ask why it's hard to learn you ready you ready made the judgment it's a bad thing why are you doing this to me yeah this is another take on why do bad things happen to good people correct yes but that you don't ask the question why the question is what God what are you doing see how you see how much more welcoming the question is and how it's not closed off why is a closed off question what is like oh god what are you doing here yeah I really want to know I want to know I wonder what guns I want to know what God is doing now once you answer the question of what car is doing is so now we can say by the way you know that new prophets we spoke about prophets before and in Proverbs King Solomon says as follows if you can look it up if you want chapter 3 verse 12 he says as follows ready for this say to people asa sure Yogesh an EOP are the people that God loves your views the people that God loves here abuse so in other words in other words when you're going through pain suffering challenges any questions god what are you doing it like a sincere friendly question if you're gonna be calm cool and collected in that situation you say that what are you doing I do know that you do say the prophets the people you love you rebuke you know you give them a little needle so I guess you love me so you must be you must be doing something to me now what happened is like this once you take that perspective that a shepherd really loves you and therefore Christian loves you he's doing whatever he's whatever you're experiencing right now now are you gonna go run to some prophet to stop this no I want to know I'll shut what's funny buddy what do you want so the album takes this meditation a step further now if you think about this if a um really loves you and if some peers about you and instrument your father that loves you and seven gives us he just doesn't give us so we can survive he gives us because he really cares about us definitely uses an example he says like this hash of runs the world he runs the world it wouldn't operate without sham running it now we all know the Jewish people are his chosen people or not just the Torah right after marathon of God chose us Adam tilaka scream agree call there's many many different verses God chose us now God has to run the world and he has people that he loves in the world things that you have to run do you sit they would love and run it or you put it on automatic pilot that it runs and the brakes you call the mechanic a go fix that pipe right but something that's your own child and your only son are you involved in every step of the way with love yes so in other words if we believe that Hashem loves us and that's the truth and if some cares about us and he's involved in every step of our life the good the bad and the ugly and the pain and the suffering it's all coming from us and so therefore when when we're experiencing what we're experiencing what do we need to do say God thank you in other words if God buys you a present we have a bunch of ladies want your nice I don't know Gucci Versace cheese from my affair for a gumbo some kind of nice bag look at all the smiles right you guys are look at this oh my gosh alright any boy ten bags I recall her you wanted every size and today look at this right the guys okay I covet a car I don't what you guys like all right you guys be happy but what happens if God all of a sudden gives you like a constructive criticism speech you guys can't handle it one second if it's coming to the same guy that loves you and it's your perspective god really want to want you have the same attitude so whose flaws that God's are ours if we really believe God loves us just like he takes care of all our needs our basic needs all our luxuries and he wants to make sure we're happy sometimes you have to tell us hey don't go over there cuz you're gonna hurt yourself do we want to hear don't go there no no we want to hear go there but sometimes guys like don't go there not good for you so if we look at God that God is like this mean God guess what he doesn't like us but if we really believe that God loves us and he really does love us and he cares about us so whatever he's doing say God thank you so much the same smile he got from those fancy bags we got to get the same smile from hey don't do that or that's inappropriate why cause it's all coming from the same God it's focused on the fact that it's coming from the same God that loves you then there really should not be any difference and there really is no difference now if when God does something you don't like you go run to somebody and tell them hey look what God did to me you going to the round but hey you're regarded to me hello is that appropriate so what's the Alpha you say so why are you running because you're focusing on the fact that he told you know the fact that you're experiencing pain right now you forgot the focus on who it's coming from in other words if you're focusing on the pain you're gonna go wrong to somebody hey go talk to God look what he's doing to me and that would be a pride perspective but if you're focusing that it's coming from God whatever is kind of Maya is great god forbid you have a child that dies you go blind you some horrible cancer how about you say those things are great do you have all three of those things where do we get to choose so here's a story okay you're bringing up a very very good question very good question obviously this is something which you know it's to make clear this is something this like these ideas are true ideas now but what happens with these ideas and if Detroit is it's not changing the fact this is something you cannot lecture somebody and especially when they're going through the struggle this is something a person has to work on themselves and takes a lot of work this wasn't written in one day this is not studied in one day there's something you've got to study and you got to discuss and you gotta bring on it and you have to you know it has to become part of you then it's it gives you the tools you need that when you go through a struggle you're going to even make it through life but god forbid I make a disclaimer you should go ahead and give this lecture to somebody's going through a struggle right now someone's going through stories if you'll be struggling for god loves you it's all good no don't do that because they're not ready to hear it it has to be something which which the person is ready and able to accept and is able to hear so there's something Goffman you don't share to anyone else and even yourself obviously it's a process it takes a while to become strong with it it's like for example it's you want to go swim the national marathon that's it you're gonna go start running here right now people died doing it too early you got to be trained for it so this is part of the training to train yourself to realize how God loves us and once you develop that loving relationship with God and you realize that God really loves you then doctor when you do with a struggle and sometimes a big struggle hopefully you can have you can handle it like pro no guarantee you know for the biggest people of film and as many many stories and people of your believes believe believe and then when they went through their personal struggle oh my gosh they couldn't make couldn't handle it so this is we're talking about very high level couple of very high level mysticism that deals with real issues and doesn't mean for one class like this boom you're giving your your your transformed person this is stuff that it requires work but I will tell you that if you do the work you'll be able to handle life's challenges and life struggles that's much much easier and again how long does it take how much time it all depends on the person depends on your soul pence I don't you pray haven't you connect to God but it's something which I can guarantee if you work on it you study and you go through a chain you you know you study this you know study some other sources that deal with this type of stuff over time you develop a healthy perspective with goddess but God wants out of life and you have real tools how to deal with life but so that's in general I mean and that's why you don't blanket answer for these type of things every situation sniffing and only one can answer is a personal at their own struggle you know as no one can answer for someone else's struggle because that's their struggle and I'm fortunate some people you know have struggles and they never saw just being able to get out of it that's why it's best to prepare yourself so when struggles to hit you they'll have the strength and the ability to overcome them with God's help so again this is not you're not becoming a black belt and the other but life struggles from one class right here but it's definitely a start in the right direction and again there's many many other resources but it's good stuff this is really really good stuff really really good stuff okay so now and again remember this is everyone is that everyone is on their own journey but these are tools that will work over time and every person is different snobbery goes now a step further okay so we got so basically we're perspective is perspective is this infinite God's loves me and loves me so much and just like he gives me all my great things that I see is great all the things that I perceive as challenging it's also great coming from this great God that loves me now once I have that perspective then life is great it's always good because God loves me so everything's great so the optimist says but let's let's be practical Ike you said I'm going through a challenge right now how do I look in a positive way to the challenge employment and everyone thinking you're online just different challenging going through like what's the positive message them to me it's a challenge to me it's painful to me to struggle what am I supposed to get to it so the optimist is like this I'll give you an analogy you buy yourself a nice car when your spouse behind you nice car nice expensive car and you driving down the road and all of a sudden there's a red light that starts blinking dollar is about 30 that's not give us analogy I'm giving you an algae to explain his point he doesn't talk about a red light blinking in the crime scene that cars in those days okay I have horse and buggies maybe this right okay so light starts blinking you go oh my gosh my spouse's want me it's expensive car what's this crazy flashing light so you put a piece of tape when you cover over it alright and you keep on driving and guess what light went away voila my he's my the spouse is amazing brought me a car no blinking lights normal flashing lights you know what happened someone who the car totally breaks down now you bring it to the mechanic goes oh my gosh you blew your whole engine what do you mean how come no one warned me pulls off the tape hello it was a fun oh she's crazy flat let lights flashing on me now what would be the first having flash you to stop into the gas station a couple of bucks he would have fixed it yuck that went on but by ignoring the flashing lights you've ruined your whole engine instead of trucking cost to $300 the fixes cost me thousands of dollars a fix whose fault is it the answer is very simply you had flashing lights you hadn't worn again do with it the optimist says very very simple when you start having challenges and struggles again I'm not saying you should say just anyone else there's something for yourself remember don't save us anywhere else because it would be rude and inappropriate but to yourself in the anxiety challenge a doctor that was giving you tools toolbox for life say to yourself there's probably some things I need to fix an oil change a spiritual oil change I might need to change my tires maybe I don't know there's something wrong let me go sit down with them a car mechanic a spiritual mechanic say you know what I'm getting this message from God I need a tune-up maybe I need to study some what Torah they need to pray maybe I need to get more charity maybe need to do two moments though do we have to have more love for other people I don't know help me this obviously something God is telling me there's something in your you need to fix some things so guess what happens so you go in and maybe this way you go to your rabbi right not to solve your life push a button but say hey let's do some soul-searching what Erie's your IQ can come better at and if you look at it that way so what happens in your head when you're having you're experiencing pain and suffering you can again the last thing you want to focus on the pain because that was sucked into getting in a chapter if you focus just on the pain you're gonna run around doing crazy things go back to the drawing board okay God runs the world God loves me hmm he's telling me these lights you only send these lines cuz he loves me he wants me to address the issue while it's small before it becomes big yeah he wants me to address the issue was small before it becomes big and therefore when the light goes on what am I saying Thank You Hashem for creating these warning lights they don't have to have a total nervous breakdown simple example people go through they get stressed about certain things right so what's the normal thing take a break take a small vacation and take a day off right well it's not I'm not taking a vacation right I'm not taking a break and you just keep on going what's gonna happen we all know yeah you got a nervous breakdown you get burnt out with so on and so forth but when you see you start you know you see things are like you know overboil stop God made us that way so God made us physically that way he made us that way spiritually as well and that's the way God sent us messages now that makes sense so the Opera takes the step for a man do you like it makes sense like I mean you may make sense to you that's great it works for you this is not something you can impose upon in anybody but if anyone took some soldiers and they realize you know this make sense agreed now what happens when you take this approach let's look at it the big picture so what happens like this he goes through some pain and suffering all right so first of all the perspective is you stay strong God loves the world God clear the world God loves me everything from God is good the good stuff I know is good this stuff is good let me think now I have to be creative what is good over here ah you know what's good over here very very simple God sending a message and I say thank you God for sending me the messages for all these great things thank you so guess what see you got the message you address the issue and boom you fix it and life is good now you're gonna say well it's no problems obviously look the lady said well there are shoes listen I need you go to the mechanic all the sudden it's this one and they tell you said that's also wrong so fix it all up and guess what you have a nice new car running again or a renewed car the optimist says and he takes a step further so right now God was sending you on messages what kind of messages now I'll show you the most comfortable messages right but when you take in the pawns in a positive aim all of a sudden God doesn't have to say anymore these like painful messages but God still wants have a relationship with you he's still gonna send you messages he doesn't send you any negative messages because you've got it so he's gonna start sending you good things war ferragamo bags and word I don't know you guys like in Gucci bags and cars and chocolates ice cream whatever whatever you guys want God will sentence you all in a revealing why why because that's all you need it's great stuff now as you can tell this this is the first half of the chapter with the author who puts in we'll take a break go for it right yeah Cup A's in a garret the kodesh we spoke about the first half of Tonya when the Altima teaches us how to deal with struggles to realize that she loves us and everything in our life is great so with this powerful inspiration how to work and self refinement to realize that everything comes from ashram is great the good and the challenges is also great because Sharon is sending us a message and when we accept that and God's just sent us great things so always be in a great place so once we're in the in the mode of self refinement Albert continues on he's like this he speaks about the importance of prayer which is divine promise were having tonight to junior high class also about failure so we have talked too much about it but the point that he brings that was chapter my prayer is like this then what happens like this pray our doctoral says extremely powerful why is that because prayer has the power of forgiveness forgiveness that allows anything you did wrong to go away that allows you to forgive other people and when your nose when you're holding on to grudges when you're upset you're like it's attachments you can't really sort however when you pray is ask God to forgive you and you forgive yourself and you forgive other people guess what you're really really a free person you're really really a free person and the other those are dianna deep Kabbalistic level he explained his followers the way it works is we have different operating systems we have our emotions we have our intellect and then we have totally off the charts what does that be so let's see someone does something wrong to you what's your intellectual response you did something wrong hey that's wrong you're gonna pay up I'm gonna get you back but someone it's all worth now intellect intellect says that so let's say you did something wrong against God guess what you did something wrong you're gonna pay a price for it when we pray what do we say to God God forgive me what does that mean forgive you you did something wrong when we forgive you and the author explains that basically what does idea forgiveness means we're not going to do this intellectually we're not going to make a calculation we're just gonna say God let's just let it go and God lets it go now when God lets things go we learn to let things go also and the more you let go of things in life the happier you are and with and we'll talk about tonight more at length enjoy but besides more about forgiveness in the JLI but here the upper goes on it takes this step further that if you really want self refinement in a real way so before we spoke about our own struggles now that much brings it up a notch you want to have real happiness you want to have zero pain you want to have only enjoyment and happiness and the author is to love everybody to love everybody yes because when a person decides to love everybody and love and Tails eight you love everybody you're accepting of everybody and anybody which means you're non-judgmental you're non-judgmental think of it what kind of weight it takes off of you all those do you think judgmental is hurting the other person I have good news for you bad news she was hurting you you know all these judgments let go of all the judgments against everyone that one's not over because there's a heavy chapter of spiritual self refinement now now only you should not be judgmental and love everybody but guess what be humbled of spirit in front of them don't walk around with your chin up now I'm better than them and the country cheer them you're walking in the presence of godly people so an amateur looks at it why should I be their doormat know when you walk around your humble in front of it it makes you a lot you makes you lighter and there's no greater life than living a life being light calm and no judgments and everyone's great what do you get them all these baggage about people in your head than in your art let it all go now how does that come about how can you really be non-judgmental love everybody and be humble the spirit and the offer actually makes it very easy for you very very easy this is very simple the source why someone's judgmental and arrogant and gossips is because there's a certain belief which is a false belief that we believe on me you're you and therefore I'm better than you and you did this wrong the source is because this me and you and what is better and one it's worse than someone and so forth but if you believe and this is the truth that we're all one you ever see one finger say to the other finger I'm better than you hello its fingers you might say about somebody else but they don't say it about yourself you don't look in the mirror and say this half of the face is better than the other half of the face hello it's one face it's one you were being so if you believe not only believe but you felt that we're all one where's the judgment the source of the judgment and the source of the arrogance and the source of all the negative behaviors is me you you me once it's all wanders but there's there's no judgment separation separation there's no judgments once world one life is great life is great because what happens god something you don't believe you one you know what happens people stop gossiping and the author brings here we won't what brings here the famous line from the Talmud that when we all know that God gave us 613 commandments 248 positive 360 our negatives now all at one level over all the commandments are equal on the other level we do know there's different levels and Commandments the biggest proof is certain ones a transgression punishment is death and certain ones lashes and certainly there's different levels but we know there are three that are like from the hop from the highest in other words like for example we know let's see for example an unconscious Shabbat so she might get from szura Shabbat unless he saw them that become sick you're a desperate are you supposed to desecrate the Shabbat to heal the person so certain Commandments don't apply in certain cases however they are three Commandments which is forbidden relationships killing somebody idolatry in those three cases you have to be willing to give your life not to transgress those three now it says the Talmud that when a person gossips guess what it's worse than all three put together think about that think about that next time you gossip I'm doing idolatry killing - written relation all in one one in one gossip session and that's pretty intense so therefore why would you want to do that besides the fact you're separating yourself and other people but you're transgressing from the worst sins by not getting along so in other words gossiping verbal gossiping is is a disaster a spiritual disaster what it does to you spiritually Wow Arthur's gossiping related to forbidden relationship this helmet says it's worse than all three what it is it has a connection because basically gossiping you you really you're you're crossing the road between one of the other you're not respecting every person and they're in their space I mean it's connected to all three connect all three now and here dr. burr goes into takes us all I'll hold a whole nother whole novel what does that mean like this and it's actually the biggest gift he gives he takes it up enough to gives you the biggest gift this is like this so what are we saying you shouldn't talk negatively about anybody else so what happens so fine I'm not gonna talk negative anybody I guess well Oh read my mind not mine mine is hopefully clean but read someone's mind or but people in their mind they have all these negative thoughts about other people and even of themselves as well by the adat gossip doesn't only find other people if you say bad things about yourself it's also gossip and slander you people do that negative self-talk it's crazy as it sounds so the others now only shouldn't you speak it but you shouldn't even think it why and the hit doctor explains cabbalistic leave that God gave us three garments thought speech and action action is external from us it's just an action you can do things that you don't even care about you just do it speech already is more you people don't usually say things they don't really think and believe in I mean some people do many people read off teleprompters they read out you know hired speeches they don't know what it says there but generally speaking when someone talks and you're talking passionately you need something however what is the deep the closest to you so the other seven your thinking negative thoughts when you're thinking gossip you know what it's doing to your mind you're literally creating a virus a bad one within your mind and that's who you are in your thought process so therefore not only shouldn't you talk negatively of someone else you think negative that somebody else but then the output flips it around and says like this and this is very powerful so we're dealing with walked damage control don't talk bad don't think bad I'll just stop why do damage control do you want to have a clear mind do you want a clear heart you want to clear healthy what's the buzz words today organic raw vegan right or whatever right natural you want to have something healthy holistic holistic there you go right all the you a holistic mind guess what feed it healthy fuel what's healthy fuel for the mind the thoughts of thoughts in other words in your mind and in your thought the only thing that should be sitting there in the loading dock because your mind is working 24/7 because it's been sitting there 24/7 is positive beautiful thoughts don't allow the negative thoughts to enter your spiritual domain in every eye you know there's a term we use you know there's different rent districts right you have things that you do think these thought is the highest rent district that we have why don't you put negative thoughts in your highest rent district that will corrupt not only your thought but your speech in your action and your mood and everything about you and stress and so on and so forth so the algebra says to be careful to make sure that your thoughts not only are not negative so you're not corrupting your bad stuff no be proactive you should think exclusively only positive thoughts find the positive spin find the positive spin it's an art but once you make a soul commitment you know what happens you know what happens first so you do it but more importantly you live a great life and I'll tell you the interesting name a barn provenance so I prepared these classes I mean I really get into it so what what is that what's the end this is the last part of the chapter what's up I'm saying make sure that your mind is exclusively filled positive thoughts so someone this morning sends me a clip of a project son was doing and he had a negative comment about it a negative comment so I'm reading it I'm saying okay do I want this negative count my brain No so in the past I would just delete it and move on but that that's not always happens the author says no no you want positive comments in your brain so I said okay let me find something positive about this project and it was not easy by the way right it was not an easy thing because it was just it was just like a crazy thing but it wasn't bad it wasn't bad or evil it just wasn't there's nothing positive about it and literally the guys comment about it was not positive so I'm thinking okay I have a positive product comment and I sent them back a voice note I said oh my gosh that's the most amazing thing I've seen and I gave it a positive spin you know what I never heard back from the guy he's praying embarrassed that's okay the point I'm trying to bring out is what I did was not only didn't I push it out of my mind because because I pushed it out crying but I would had the residue from a negative message I didn't clean it up I didn't send him to the wall or to the washing machine what I did was actually I mean you I actually spins it around and I turns it into a clean project now whether it's gonna work at sunnygurl that's not mine it's not my issue but the point is if it loads into my space we only have positive projects here now if it's negative guess what it's because I see the negative and I need to train myself I only see positive so the author of finished off the chapter teaching you that the most important thing we have is what our thought thanks not only don't think negative that's a given but think positive anything that happens find something positive and when you find things positive guess what you will only have positive things in life and the after we finished off the chapter in such a beautiful way but now you see the depth of it Hashem should bless everybody with the blessing of peace because when you're positive and you get along with everybody and you get along with God guess what think that's the greatest piece this chapter shows you beside the spank that's from loves no some is great it's really about peace because we get along with God everything we've got is great we're not in two pieces now because now we know it's all it's all it's all it's all wholesome it's all it's all good it's all great life is great any interaction with anybody is all great and if God forbid we see or we hear something negative guess what get to work and spin it to a positive spin and then we'll have only great and beautiful blessings in our life because our life is gonna be full of peace pull a positive positivity and full of happiness Thank You rabbi yes okay this chapter