Tanya By Rabbi Yitzchok Minkowicz Sec 3 Chap. 11 “The Beauty of mixed emotions”

welcome to tonight's Tonya class we are studying Tonya the third section Agera Tsukuba we're holding period olive the eleventh chapter and again to chuva so as we all know every chapter in tanya is beautiful everyone is foundation of mysticism everyone is very very rich tonight chap that would see a very very beautiful chapter in the sense the outdoor speaks about if you want to call conceptually the idea of the beauty of mixed emotions because normally speaking how many emotions we have at one time one intellect even things like this and then minute late anything like that etc you can think two sides of one idea to the right to the left exciter when it comes to emotions either at this moment you're happy or you said here the author is going to teach us very powerfully and beautifully how you can have both emotions you can have a one hand remorse sadness healthy in a healthy way and you can have joy in happiness so the optimist begins with an introduction because in the last chapter in chapter 10 if you remember we learned that the author explained is follows that we know there's something which is called chuhwa Tata the low level of Trueba you return to God a lower level of to return to God and then some it's called truly love the high level of returning to God what is the highest level where a person can return to God touch of hey return to God what is that when does that take place that takes place during prayer when a person prays and parades with his whole heart and his whole soul that is the highest level of chuhwa called true burello when you become literally what one with God truly lon now in order to have true villa were you ready wow you love God and you want with him with tremendous closeness you have to have true villa talk first which is where you're remorseful you're broken you're humbled etc now the after we discussed last week but what are we saying you have to have true potato and then true roll Abu you all know before you pray you have to be in a state of simcha you have to be a state of joy so what we're saying is you first have true at a talk you mean should be humbled you should be remorseful a SATA state business then you should flip over to the state of joy and then go pray within from the state of joy so the autumn so how does one go from being remorseful and being humble to the state of joy it's opposite emotions you can't just flick a switch from one emotion to other it takes a while to taper down one emotion and bring any other emotion so the last week the algebra said that's correct and therefore when should you practice true at a talk when should you practice being remorseful and working on yourself that you should went it and cut those midnight and when you get up in the morning bingo you're happy let's go pray and life is wonderful now the optimum said what happens we can get overtaken cut so at least you should do once a week Thursday night so in other words came out from last week's chapter chapter 10 that's clear that to have both emotions is very very hard to have one next to the other because it's a hard transformation you need a gap so you do one at night one in the morning or Thursday night in the morning but there has to be a gap comes along the author in this chair this week's chapter per chapter chapter 11 and he says guess what it's possible to have both emotions at the same time what are the both emotions to be humbled humbled which is basically goes into the category of true very long and to be happy Wow big spin around from last week's chapter so the Alturas explains based on what the source says and which is already we studied in chapter 34 in time yeah what does it say in chapter 30 from time what does it was the outer quote from the Zohar he quotes like this that I'll say it in the language of the sower Kentville to Coulibaly blow up a super dog on one hand on one side of your heart you have joy and poppy on the other side you can have tears that means since we have a heart and a heart has two sides the right in the left to one side of the heart is happy and one side of the said heart is has tears of sad remorseful humble etc in other words in chapter 34 what did the author what was he talking about he was talking to life of who would life of a bane any now we all know the life of the Bane needed the bein the seyton action thornton speech no his garments all good he has stirrings it's hard in his mind but in the thought speech and action he never sinned so therefore there's a clear distinction in a baneling the life of the baton is a very clear distinction what's the clear distinction this is my godly soul it's all about God right so wonderful and that's my animal soul and if the animal soul just want a sin it's only in the world of animal doesn't contaminate the godly soul so we need the optimises guess it could be it could be you can have a one hand you can be happy and the other hand from the animal so you can be sad you're not fulfilling your what you're supposed to so here the outdoor assess but guess what here we're dealing in a garret Ruvo we're dealing with someone that's did something wrong what's sugar bat you did something wrong you were trying to repent so if he did something wrong you're trying to repent we're dealing with someone that's struggling so he doesn't have a clear distinction between his godly songs animal soul because his godly soul unfortunately helped out the animal soul a little bit so the godly soul even though it's godly but it's a little like well how you think neither took a little bit it's a little dirty right you like that huh it's a little tainted a little bit that's we cleaned up that's but in the washing machine it's spiritual washing machine I'm gonna put it in the house washing machine in the spiritual washing machine x1 think you like that ok so another so here you're dealing with somebody right so how you expect him to have both but the outer says guess what he can have both packing handles and it's beauty part - Tanya right here with the outer explain something so beautifully and he says like this let's talk it let's talk about the two emotions what are the two emotions let's look at the first one the first emotion is oh my gosh I sent you guys the truth I sinned I did this wrong I'm remorseful I'm sad I'm not so happy about myself heavy feelings heavy feelings heavy you only physically spiritually heavy feelings that's on one hand that's called true at the time on the other hand I'm thrilled guess what I have a God God loves me we're gonna go down pray we're gonna talk to him I'll tell whenever I want he's you know life is wonderful Wow is that the same person talking it sounds like to different people right what are the operators say guess what you can have both but how especially after last week the doctor said walk we're gonna do it the night before here we're saying we can do it at the same time how you doing at the same time how do you jump from one emotion to the other that's pretty heavy it's hard to go ahead and switch from one to the other like imagine for example you're driving 100 miles per hour and you want to switch from one lane to the next with in a split second you did have a serious accident you got to do it gradually when you switch from one intense remorseful emotion to one happy one in a split second that's dangerous territory you've been like almost electrocute your brain your heart right but nevertheless the outdoors guess I'm going to show you how you can do it Wow you ready for this this is before prosaic yes and you don't need it I guarantee if you do this right you won't need it we're not gonna announce who takes what here we have we have the real deal the real deal we have right here okay so how can you go and make that switch and it also says this is like literally a revolutionary idea and it's beautiful the author who says very simple remember the second step is to be happy but what's the first step because you want to you need a transition from the first to the second so what's in here up in the morning right should win at all oh my gosh right I did this in like the dancing it wasn't nice to this person and I you mr. Mitzvah I watched up this negative precept and you're being servicing it mostly you're taking a certain it's not a pretty picture now you got to switch over to what I'm happy you like this girl whoa how do you make the switch here's the opposite here's that here's the key this is a magic magic key the magic button to push after you remorseful after you remorseful what do you say to yourself oh my gosh what do you say yourself very simple what I mean you did something terrible you need free Whitney if you're not feeling great after you remorseful if you remorse Oh seriously okay you ready for this the second after you so remorseful and you're down and you're humbled etc you right away say as follows I have faith and trust in a son then he forgives me I have faith in Schindler I have faith in trust in a sermon that he forgives me now today I do something wrong yes they do a lot of things wrong sometimes am i remorseful do I feel bad yes but guess what god I'm sorry and the minute you say God I'm sorry you know God says that somebody says delete it's gone now when God pushes delete is it gone it's gone so what what do you know what are you now remorseful about it's gone now if God got rid of your sins because you said I'm sorry Lachlan oh god please forgive me what happens now oh yeah yeah you can be happy right you got it in other words the minute you are remorseful what you did you ready God wipes it away simcha we're happy right this is key so what the author was saying this is important because this is literally the toggle switch that allows you to go at a hundred miles per hour serious remorse you gotta playing games when you're remorseful and you feel bad you feel bad you might even be sitting there with tears in your eyes but the second you're done and you're going at 100 miles per hour and this remorseful Lane you can't see yourself going into the happy Lane but you say guess what God forgive me and he does you transfer over immediately to 100-mile pound the happy lane isn't that the biggest gift God can give us Wow the biggest gift God can give us is that he forgives us now what is what is the faith and trust that we have why should God forgive us you're saying I have faith in the trust God's gonna forgive me why should I forgive you because since we believe with complete faith and trust you ready for this that God is a loving kind compassionate caring and forgiving God so there's even a question whether he's gonna forgive us if you think God is the opposite of all the things I said which I don't wanna say the opposite terms that's so positive if you didn't think anything the paws but negative stuff right any negative what I mentioned so was God forgiving you know such a right the people is God forbid the opposite of being kind and loving and caring and very grateful and grateful and a gracious etc he wouldn't forgive but since we believe and that's the truth that God is loving caring and he really cares about you and he's really really understands you and he's really there for you so the minute you turn around you said God my gosh I patched up you know God says no problem boom yeah we'll switch over right now what is the proof that we really believe this because when we pray every single day and we pray how many times a day three times a day the full the full prayer services the shock harassment command if we do blessings and we do with the evening before we go to sleep smile but three prayer services now in the prayer services there's something which is called the 18 blessings shamone aspiration which actually we when the constant says that over chakra something because of five times they were saying these prayers five times they was saying the prayers what does it say in the prayer we turn into God we say in the prayer and the prayer we're asking God what are we saying God's Loch lonen please forgive us we're saying slack Lana please forgive us write these forgive us now when you're saying slack London please forgive us do you believe God's gonna forgive you or not yes why because what we say before God is loving caring compassion and understanding and forgiving so if he's all that and say god I am so sorry please forgive me do you believe he's forgiving you yes what's the proof that you believe he's forgiving you because after you say God forgive me what do you say anybody for this borrow ha ha I'm not gonna say God's name now because you know how to say that you don't see doing the blotting Baraka Tosha I'll say phonetically that God forgives us whoa you just made a blessing do you know for example if you want to eat something so you need to make a blessing first famous joke kid wanted to eat something the mother want to give it to him so you made the blessing some mother had to give it down right no no decide you think it's a joke it's all the except blessing you have to give it to them people walk because you can't make a blessing in vain you don't want to make a blessing in vain because if you make it not only nothing you're in doubt whether you made it lets me run down you're not sure if you made a blessing you gotta make the boss saying no no if you're in that why you know how to make a blessing in doubt if you're in doubt you made it why the rule is it's a fake brachot look something broccoli kale if you're not sure if you made a blessing you don't make any bossing why for two reasons one is because a blessing is winter only made or an island if we don't say but the second reason which shelter we gives over here is that since you you know how to make a blessing in vain so if if you're not sure how can you make a blessing in vain maybe you made it already so now you're saying God forgive me okay could God now obviously if I say to you God please forgive me God can either forgive you enough to give you it's a choice but we're assuming oh gods figuring us 100% what's the biggest proof grant making a blessing that God forgave me how could I make a blessing God forgave me if maybe he's not gonna forgive you and the answer is what cuz God for surely forgives you so therefore we say after we do our remorse and our low level of true huh is it a question to ask where the ground is going to forgive us now and what's the biggest proof the biggest proof is because when we say God forgive us insurance ray we make lots of negara forgive us not only that not only that what's interesting is and this is interesting so we say God forgive us so think about this you're signing us for nursery this is very powerful it's it's we standing infront asking what do we say God please forgive us we assumed Australian yes and the truth is God forgives us you sincerely ask are you forgives you so now think about this the second day after you say to God forgive me and God forgives you how many sins do you have 0 right 0 0 that means we are ready to ought to be redeemed God's ready to take us out of Exile there's no more sense and matter of fact what blessing do we say after slok Llano we say God is strong God to redeem us because we believe that we we've sinned we said I'm sorry God forgives us and that's what we're ready to be needed we're ready - we're ready to be redeemed now so therefore sons were ready to be redeemed that means that we believe God forgave us not only that not only that we know that the rule is like this if somebody did harm to you harm to you do you have to forgive him yes 100% the Talmud brings an example let's say god forbid somebody went ahead and cut someone's hand off now why we using that example that means it's off you say something that nice soand you could say I'm sorry it's feelings/emotions it's more non tangible but if someone physically hurts somebody cuts their hand off and the person says oh my gosh I am so sorry should you forgive them or not absolutely you have to we have to not only that you have to but the Talmud says that if you don't forgive him it calls you like a name unanswered someone that's like mean and cruel wears this I for an eye that's something else that's payment that's payment we're not talking about payment now we're talking about forgiveness there's to note hey don't don't have an eye for an idea on the table here no fighting no fighting here all right no but welcome back and basically stay focused stay focused one second hello good there you go the point is the point is the point is that you want to do you want to forgive you're supposed to forgive even if someone caused you harm you have to give a gift not only that let's say somebody went ahead and let's where mister aid well missus a whatever you want to call it did something wrong to mr. B now mister a customer Street says please forgive me so you're really supposed to forgive mr. a what does if you don't forgive me mr. wants forgiveness so he comes back to you a second time say you know I'm not ready to forgive you which is still wrong you come back a third time no I'm not ready to give you after you have to go anyway you have to go you don't have to go anymore why because the person has to forgive you as long as you ask free time you're done another week it's a gift to forgive somebody else and you have an opportunity three times to for that gift after that you're done not only that now yeah it's a very very powerful story very powerful story the altro brings down here in tanya we're together let's just say focus it's all subject to connection how it's important to forgive and God forgives just like we supposed to forgive all right this is stay keep it in line so the story is like this King Saul went ahead and killed killed the given him many Devonian so afterwards King David who was known for a man of peace he was the king and he was a man of peace he tried to make peace so he comes to the give on him and he says I want you to forget so for killing the people I mean killing people he killed people so the governor said no what killed no not forgiving and with all the anger and the revenge and they hate then the animosity no now could you understand why they didn't want to forgive sure their people were killed now Oh what is the torah' say should you forgive a not forgive towards us forgive so you have to be submissive the Torah says forgive you forgive whether you agree disagree you feel you should forgive you don't fit no one's asking you not the toy doesn't count your feelings Torah has a bigger picture of life more than we can see and toward us forgive and they refuse to forgive you know what King David did King David said guess what you're not forgiving you could not be part of the Jewish community and he refused to let the given and be part of the Jewish community so what do you see from here clearly how important that is for us to forgive and possibly to even someone hurts you physically and you see if in the case of people were killed you have to forgive someone ask you forgiveness say okay accept it if you don't not a good thing total calls you an answer now if we're supposed to forgive is God better than us to show so therefore if someone comes to God and says God gosh I did this terrible thing right please forgive me it's God gonna forgive us for sure for sure God's gonna forget any does forgive us so since God for sure we'll forgive him just forgive us therefore guess what we need to also but therefore when a person goes head and is remorseful and he does true a Tatar and he's oh my gosh god it's terrible God says it forgive you guess what a second lady you're dancing why because he had all this whole heavy heart all these things that are weighing on you and you say oh my gosh God thank you he forgave me and ain't no pray withdrawing um at some Club it feels great when the thing is off your back now what's interesting is that as gems forgiveness is so much more greater than our forgiveness why think about this we're human beings we're humans we're not angels so let's say somebody does something wrong to you once they come back to you oh my gosh please forgive me sure I forgive you right first time is easy they do something again and you do the same thing again and they come back to you okay I forgive you you ready you ready like yeah yeah you know they come back the third time they do something terrible to you maybe even the same thing but with a little more extra stuff and you please forgive me and go I forgave you twice it's hopefully it's the last time right it starting to get a ready edging here other words they come back again the fourth time they hear you now ready like we're already getting borderline rank but there's like there's a fence going up at some point the wall goes up again it's so wrong it's so wrong but we're human it's not justifiable even if someone does something to you ten times 50 times 100 times a thousand whatever the time is they come back and say please forgive me your responses should I forgive you we said forgive you forgive you means no punishment for sure not that's not called forgiving forgiving means I forgive you I forgive you now to bear that's why you're here to learn how to do it if you know values that didn't then you know say you say I'm not angry with you fine but we're talking about the point would be the point of the example is there's one class one class here one class one class okay the point the point of the point is that we humans it's after the first time it's not the same thing not that it shouldn't be it should be the same thing now God is he a human he's infinite so if you come back to him one to ten a hundred a thousand a hundred thousand millions and God forgives you this the millionth times like the first time same thing millionth the first and ten million for the same thing I think if you small sin big sin any same right small big why tall whatever it is a few many God's forgiving right okay so totally forgives us totally forgives us totally forgives us not only that what happens is is a process actually every single day we pray we said really five times what we said it's for answering five times day why because we say it three times I'm here from the closer shot three times and we're personally in the prayer service and every single time we go to God we asking for forgiveness and doctor gives us so and every single day we more let's pray slaw flow no it's fine for the small something miss this minutes we miss that miss excetera once in your retinas Yom Kippur think about it you can Kippur we pray God please forgive us and God wipes everything out everything what happens next year we have a new bag of sins oh my gosh he wipes it out nexium Kippur you think you have no more sins don't worry it's funny more sincere right but guess what God forgives us every single time God forgives us why cuz just like Anna temple how did it work in the temple they brought sacrifices interesting they brought sacrifices every single day many but every single day there was an opening sacrifice it's called Tom Mitchell chakra the steady sacrifice in the morning and Tom Mitchell me anybody I'm just study one for the evening and the way down and says that the morning sacrifice atoned for all the sins that people did at night and the evening sacrifice atone for the sins people did during the day so twice a way twice a day they washed out the blackboard I mean you think forgiving God is yeah right so every time we come to them we pray today God wipes it out now this is the questions asked we know what's brought down and says if someone says after I'm gonna sin and I repent guess what they don't want any parent so here it sounds like you've sinned you repented I think you're sitting again why God's gonna forgive you so that means long you're sinning literally while you're sitting oh my gosh what am I doing this for and God will forgive me that's a problem and they'll make it hard for you to repent so you can always still pushing a repent here the point is that we're not talking not doing it while you're sinning mates and while you sing you made a mistake but then later on you come in to God in the answer you and obviously God forgives you now so therefore what do we see from here clearly that God forgives us the caught God forgives us guess what we're remorseful we get up in the morning we do true at the top right we remorseful you feel bad and we took what all the sins I mean we've been crying my gosh and I said this I did this I thought that God forgive me God forgives me well hey life is good let's go dance let's be happy let's go pray correct okay so now the question is if that's the case so what happens after God forgives you where sins they're gone they're gone but now the question is what we know is another verse that says the Hatta see my sins neg they are in front of me Hamid always what does that mean what is always my thoughts means my sins negative in front of me right now I'm sorry physically but spiritually they're standing right there when always there's always there well we just said you pray to God three times a day or in time someone once the morning once a night and God forgives you that means right after God forgives you with your sins they're gone what are we saying here the things are in front of you do you remember if God forgive you forget you what are you remembering them huh so what does that mean the outer explain is very fascinating negative means actually doesn't mean right in front of you it means it should be like in in in the distant but not too far not too close either what does that mean like this 100% God forgives you but you should always in back of your mind or in front of you - um spot remember the fact that you send why why because when a person remembers that he sinned you know what happens that keeps you on tab to be on the country 100% happy why because the person was happy with the event that happens now what happens often you're going through a tough time tough time physically financially spurge it whatever hammer emotionally you're going to a tough time a loss whatever maybe so if you don't if you don't remember the fact that you sinned you know me upset when I going through this tough time but if you know this and I did sin God forgive me but guess what I shouldn't be so upset these things happen to me why cuz I did sin like you know don't be so arrogant don't be so horny what you should have everything smooth sailing you never did a sin in your life the point is that by remembering your sins the Hitoshi negative 7 keeps you in check no but you know it don't you oh no you didn't say that that's not what it says it keeps you in check and keeps you happy with whatever happens to you because even if you're going through a tough time real it's all for the good why is it all for the good because we know that persons people have challenges why to purify some of the sins summer since then you've been purified so if you're going through a challenge you had a law say God thank you for that loss why because I needed that to wash off some sins and the lessons for you exactly and this the album says is actually you wanted a remedy before a remedy a remedy never to be able to never to be able to get angry or to hold any grudges why think about it why do you get angry why some get angry or hold grudges because you feel like my life is perfect no one should mess with it right but if you know that you sinned we're human and yet true God forgives us but remember we have two different member that we did sin at one point so if someone does something to you you're gonna be angry that person what that person has to do is it I'm for new sinned and God is sending your wake-up call or he's cleaning up certain things he asked to the point is God wants you to be happy always so sometimes you're happy when life is great and sometimes you're happy when God is throwing you a like a wake-up call you're happy because you know that God is sending it to you for a reason to remind you hey we got to clean certain things up and the after we finished up for a very very powerful statement for the Talmud and Talmud says like this very very perilous this is literally a life changer Thomas only guess that I'll quote and then love in the enum of him shortened Capasso many machine I assume the armor miss bacon is true so the after it brings three different levels we're basically a person as doesn't get intimidated or affected from other people but the highest love what's the highest level the highest levels even when you're going through challenges and even when you're going through pain and suffering you're under percent happy why because you know that this is everything that's happening it's coming from a sham everything is coming from a sham and not only that but the suffering and the pain you're going through is what to bring you atonement as the operative finishes off this chapter beautifully he says and he quotes that from the Talmud that says whoever is Mon vier el nido he served and I'll translate my viren like cops are what does that mean whoever basically at a moment what's on the media I mean this when you get you know God for if you get you do have an inkling or you have an in a tinge to get angry to get upset and you you don't get upset and you don't get angry and you don't get vengeful and you don't get hateful spider on the contrary you're tapping and you're kind and you're nice look like God is they wipe away all your sins oh you sons they wipe away all these things are wiped away so as you can tell this chapter of tanya is a beautiful chapter because it teaches you several several powerful things pulling them what we learn from this chapter is that it's possible to go switch from some deep introspective emotions to happy emotions with the key knowing that God forgives you so once you do the internal juvett at all what you're going through your destroy all your sins that you've done you accept the fact that God forgives you God does really forgive you guess what they can experience true joy the second powerful thing we learned this but in chapter tongue is the way God forgives and if is the way we should forgive and how it's important to forgive because when you forgive first of you acting the way God wants you to act and more important you'll be a forgiving person and you'll have a peaceful life you're not holding on to anything which is extremely extremely important and I think the another major thing what the author was teaching us is also not to be arrogant to think god forbid that you deserve everything to be great to a you see it but to realize that God runs the world and everything is good and sometimes when you see things which are struggle just know it's to there to help you clean certain things up and you can make remain happy in the struggles and within the pain and within the suffering then you'll have the greatest joy and dr. Murray finishes off that if you basically work on controlling yourself and behaving the way you're supposed to just like God is loving and kind and compassionate and caring specifically when you're going to challenges guess what they might be the only sentence who would want that all the sins wiped away in a real way so let's hope and pray we take this chapter of Tanya to heart well old Mara to live greater and happier lives