Rabbi Minkowicz Weekly Torah Lesson Parsha VAYEITZEI 5778

[Applause] it's time for rabbi mankiewicz weekly Torah lesson a place where life's most difficult questions are answered here with his spiritual perspective and insight rabbi megawatts welcome to this week's Torah lesson this week's Torah portion is partially I'd say the question of the week is what are healthy boundaries so in this week's Torah portion we learn about the famous story with Yaakov and his uncle Laban who he worked for and Laban tricked in many many times till finally he couldn't handle it and he decided he was leaving he leaves her his wife who his wives and his children they go away Laban comes running after them a whole long story which you could read in depth in the Torah portion what's interesting is they finally meet up and they have conversation and then they realize they're gonna split ways and they make a pact and they build a wall between Yaakov and leave them but what's interesting is when you build the wall you can build a wall like you build a wall today whether it's wood or cement and it's a wall it's a real wall here they didn't make a wall out of straight up wall they use bricks and you're able to actually like see through see through the wall so the question is asked if they wanted a wall want to make a real one and if they didn't want to make well why they should have not made a wall along what's this half a wall with the bricks and you can see through you can pass things through and someone was over it so Rashi says that the wall they made and they said that we're not gonna pass over and the tourist uses an interesting word literal for evil for something bad and Rashi explains we cannot pass over to do anything bad however we can pass over we can we couldn't do things for business business means that's can be profitable for you profitable for me in other words the toilet describes very clearly the pact that was made wasn't a pact where we're not going to anything with each other it's an uncle you can't just cut ties with an uncle but the other hand you can't be involved which are unhealthy so the pack they made was they were gonna interact with each other as long as there's no evil and no negativity and obviously there's a there's a there's a prophet and there's a benefit of the interaction so the answer the question what are healthy boundaries healthy boundaries are we don't run away from reality we engage in reality but we engage only in good things and not god forbid in negativity this week's Torah lesson is a memory of bora pandari lab and ben Yosef may their souls be elevated for the Torah that we're studying in their memory thanks so much for joining us for our weekly Torah lesson for more information on Habad please see our website you [Music]