Rabbi Yitzchak Breitowitz: Lets bring the Redemption Now on 9th of Av

[Music] okay hi everybody and again although it is still possible that tisha buff will be canceled as a fast day this year we really literally hope and pray for the Binion based on mikdash and the golem even this late dates but the probabilities are such that we probably will be fasting Saturday night and Sunday but Basra Hashem it should be the last time that Tish above will be day of fasting and a day of suffering in a day of sorrow it's been almost two thousand years the Second Temple was destroyed in the year 70 and we are still grieving we are still mourning and we turn to our College Park and we ask at Messiah how long is it going to be let me just remind you of the very important statement of the Gemara it's a statement that all of you know and that is that the first base of mikdash was destroyed because of the cardinal sins of avodah Zarah gilja reyes sexual immorality should be forced on him murder we talked about that last week and that galoot only lasted 70 years 70 years later a second temple was built and many Jews did return to our richest realm most of the Jews did not but that was their choice they could have returns they decided not to so for the worst of eras of the Torah the gun look was only 70 years now the second base of Mick - the Jews were largely huh luckily observant there were sectarian movements etc but the by and large people were keeping mitzvahs they were even learning Torah so why was the second temple destroyed so the Gemara numa says because of the sin atheneum because of the hatred polarization dissension that existed among Jews and the Gemara comments bo-ra come and see for a vote Azara gilja Rajesh we host um in 70 years and that's it fortunately no we are still in Dulles to this very day now the Gemara said that 1500 years ago add on another 1500 years and that shows you how devastating cynical enemies and obviously therefore if this is the time of year where we concentrate on trying to rebuild the base HaMikdash then one of the most important things we can do is to try to bridge the gap that exists between Jews I talk about this a lot and I feel like Mark Twain sometimes everybody talks about the weather and nobody ever does anything about it and in truth on a national scale we as small individuals can't really change the world or change Israel or change the Jewish people but we could try to change and improve in our own individual lives how we connect to people and care about people and if enough of us do that then there is indeed a critical mass yes yes yes so that's a very important question what is it not screening irrational hatred I believe that every person in the world will condemn irrational hatred if I hate somebody and I and somebody asks me why do you hate them I'm not gonna say no reason I just take them I'm always gonna have a reason right am i against hating people for no reason of course but I have reasons now if course I'll call something cynically gnam apparently that means if you think you have reasons they're no good and here is the critical point that we have to remember and again this comes up again and again in every part of the Torah it comes up in one form or another and that is obviously we can debate and even very vigorously in the realm of ideas there are ma cloak Simon halakha there are MUC locus amoenus kapha those are legitimate we're not supposed to suppress a view that we feel is MS that we feel brings people to God whether it's the issue of how do you view the State of Israel what is the role of the army these are the Achieva students secular education these are issues that can be debated - and there are multiple sides to this but that is not the same as demonizing people that is not the same as looking them as a mullick somebody could be wrong and somebody can even be foolish and they're not necessarily a P course them they're not heretics they're not apostates they're not a mullick moreover it's very very important to understand that even in ideas that you reject and maybe rightfully so there are often kernels of truth that can be extracted and that can create the basis for a common ground so people might say something that's totally against what I believe but there will usually be something there that I could take and the truth of the matter is the way we create relationships is by acknowledging the truth or a truth within the other person's position that makes them much more open I remember I once had the anything I may have told you the story before so forgive me if I'm repeating myself as I get older you know all of us that go through this process I was once a last-minute substitutes for a debate with Alan Dershowitz about something Nathan Lewin yeah the famous Alan Dershowitz I mean I knew Alan directors from the time I was a law student and actually my very first day in law school back in 1976 long time ago so I had to keep on and it was like your orientation student orientation so Alan Dershowitz who was not religious at that time although he came from a religious family when over to me and he said you know I see that you're an Orthodox Jewish student says I used to be that he said and I'm connected to that world too and he said if there's anything I could ever help you with I'd be happy to help you with if you have any Jewish religious problems so he was actually very very nice person but he didn't remember me this was then 25 years later so Nathan Lewin who is a from Washington attorney a very very well-known constitutional attorney was supposed to debate Dershowitz about menorah yoga Lewin was the attorney for Chabad in all these cases Manoa some public places and Jesuits argued the First Amendment freedom of separation of church and state you can't have it and Lewin was the one who defended all of that etc so they were supposed to debate it would have been a good debate they're both very very good debaters Nathan Lowen didn't show up whenever he couldn't show up last minute he had to cancel so I was drafted I happen to have been at the events I was drafted as a last-minute substitute now jurors didn't know who I was although I myself was a professor of law but much much lower lower class so Jesuits was so offended really that here he was going to debate with a world-famous constitutional attorney and instead he has to talk to you know yesterday with some schnook that he's never heard of he didn't remember our encounter weeks later and he was he was like very offended you know like then and I started off with telling that story of how he helped me 25 years before and all of a sudden like you know his arm fish all of a sudden he started relaxing smiling you know whatever and it turned out to be a very very nice discussion because what I did again I'm not giving myself credit for what I did was kind of instead of debating by saying you're totally wrong I kind of acknowledge the good that he's done for me and the good that he's done as an advocate for Israel various other other things as well and you know he felt acknowledged he felt appreciated he felt validated and that made him more receptive to even address you know whatever arguments I brought up now that is Schlemmer MELAS you showed that I again I've said hundreds I probably hundred times Shalom I'm Alex Eskom I'm upon him upon him water reflects the face that you show it so to a human heart reflects that what you show it I show a person respect they will respect me I show a person denigration they will disrespect me that is why in Eretz Israel the polarization is unending because we're locked into a vicious cycle whether it's in the politics liberal conservative or whether it's religious secular whether it's the mclogan within religious because each side looks at the others as having no redeemable value in anything that they say so I look at someone else and I say you mean nothing you have nothing there is not a single valid idea that you offer well how are they going to view me they're going to view me the same way if on the other hand we are markup s and it connotes of M s that can be even in critiques above whatever our position is that opens the prisoner ok did you want to say anything you want to say something yeah yeah yeah so I would say this you know that's it that's it that is a very good question governor Miller says into hilum mm L accession to him that those who hate you god I hate but the ballot Anya writes and they say it's a difficult idea to to actualize that there is a hatred of the evil that people may represent but at the same time you also acknowledge the essential godliness of their soul and therefore even when you hate there can actually exist a love and a compassion if people are misguided and the like now if you want to test that with extreme cases you know do you hate Hitler you know I understand that they're going to be cases that are so so so extreme that it might be difficult to come up with with that ethic and again let me point out that love does not mean turn the other cheek and that's another another point other words I can love a person and say they have to die nevertheless for for whatever it is in other words how you relate to enemies that try to destroy you is really a separate question it's not the same idea of Christian love of of total forgiveness but nevertheless on some level you love the divine potential within a human being that could have been good and if it was not good that is a great tragedy that is why go to Mayer's infamous remark famous infamous remark where she said we can forgive the arrows for killing our children again I disassociate myself from that but then the second remark we cannot forgive them for making us kill their children that second part not the first part let's say but the second part has a certain resonance because yes we will kill we will kill the people that try to kill us we will do that and that's proper and that's legitimate and that's a mitzvah but that doesn't mean we're happy that we're doing it and that's the difference in a a Jew and maybe the other side of this and that is there is no joy in what you have to do even when you have to do it so even when it's a cause that you hate and even when it's behavior that you hate and even when it's behavior that you have to destroy there is still a sense of love for the essence of the person that could have been good because it's an essence of God that the soul of a human being of every human being is in essence as an essence of God so this is what the Nazi mmm is about that we just I know when I say we I don't mean anyone here individually but the Jewish people in so many segments we just failed to realize that the whole world is really against us in many many ways you know it's reminiscent of the New Yorker cartoon where you have a patient in a psychiatrist office and he's on a couch and the psychiatrist says I have good news for you you're not paranoid everybody does hate you the Jewish people are kind of in the same boat you know we're not we're not paranoid really the truth of the matter is either everybody hates us through everybody's on the verge of hating us if at any particular point their interests diverge from our from our interests so we have a whole world that's against us the the proverbial 70 wolves and we are the Sheep among 70 wells so at least we need to stick together you know we need to be together you know we have a small country a beautiful country British ambra a small country a small population throughout the world population that there are large numbers that would be very happy to destroy and decimate so at a minimum you know we need to we need to be together this is the idea of sanath Tina Mendes as you pointed out obviously everybody has reasons otherwise they wouldn't hate but the reasons apparently are called clean up even if you have reasons and let me point out to that Sinatra nom can exist in multiple forms it could be hot it could be cold now is the hot so nuts in arm throwing rocks denigrating blocking traffic here but there's a cold Senate genome which is indifference not caring you're not part of my clique you're not part of my group therefore you don't really count now that's not active hostility so to speak but in my heart you know when I just don't care fact you'll a wise L wrote very famously yeah yeah yeah so again I go back to the the somewhat complicated idea of the ballot Anya that there is simultaneously hate and love at the same time I think I've mentioned previously a meditation firmer of moshe cordovero was one of the great great mokuba l'm where he says when you're confronted with difficult people evil people even you try to turn back the clock mentally to some point in time when they must have been ok maybe that means when there were six month old baby the TEC baby an adorable baby and then you ask yourself what happened to take that beautiful child and make him into such a bad person and then reverse cordovero says instead of hatred what you feel is sorrow sorrow sorrow that a human being could take the beautiful potential of life and turn it into something ugly and now again I want to point out that this is not what's called bleeding-heart liberal ISM I mean and I mean I told me I know I guess I say we will kill the terrorists we will you know imprison or punish the murderers nobody is talking about letting things slide that's not the point but on a deeper emotional level it's not hate that is the operative concept here it's taking care of the problem that you need to take care of and then understand that human beings get broken and we have to figure out in our lives it is a form a these a form of sickness now that's a tricky it's a tricky paradigm because on one end we believe in free will in other words we don't chalk everything oh he must have been sick right the mass murderer must have been sick there is free well involved and for that free well a person is morally accountable by God and punishable by human institutions as well but at the same time side by side with free well there is a concept of sickness area because I'll actually say this legend nobody commits the sin unless a spirit of insanity has seized them now that doesn't mean I can claim I'm a shota therefore I'm putter from the punishment but there is a point at which something got destroyed something got bent something got twisted and that leads a person into very very devastating paths so it's a tricky thing rough cook writes very beautifully of cook of course was the great paradigm in his own life of iowa's Israel of all sorts even people that were very very different than his cava and by the way his love was on both sides never of cooked people always talked about his love for the secular Jew the irreligious Jew the hostile Jew but drove cook had tremendous love for the let's say more religious Jews who condemned him and insulted him and will move as a him and he still said he was grateful to them because they kept him in line he acknowledged says I'm grateful for the criticism because since I am going into uncharted waters I need someone to pull me back from the precipice so if Cook was a lover alive I saw both sides of the equation we have cook rights and I don't I can't do the exact words it's a quite a beautiful quote he says it is the way of a wise person to generate light and not to attack darkness to validate and to build up that which is good and not to spend a lot of time in hating meaning to say hatred is natural in many cases and it may even be just a fight but in many ways it's inherently a destructive type of emotion it keeps us in an angry modality it fills our mind with desires for revenge so in a sense it's not a positive emotion for spiritual growth even when it is directed against targets who perhaps might might deserve it so one concentrates so to speak on loving that which is good and that which is Noble instead of hating even that which is bad you kind of don't get so involvement well once again they're broken they got broken inside I mean I I saw YouTube video of the Rebbe there's a lot of stuff with Obama trivia and YouTube in fact that you know I have seen much more of the Rebbe now than then I I saw when he was alive and there was a guy I mean everybody it's amazing I mean there the woman who won the Miss Israel beauty contest he says you know I you know I'm a beauty contestant he managed to say something nice to her there too so this guy shows up and this guy says he wants to give the Rebbe a pamphlet about Jews for Jesus about why Jesus exists I converted to Christianity you know 25 years ago and I wanted to give the Rebbe but I'm a Jew I'm a proud Jew and I wanted to give the Rebbe my writings on the subject every says he was very nice nobody says you know when a man is sick the greatest sicknesses he doesn't realize that he's sick he thinks he's well the man says umm well I'm perfectly happy says that's a sign of the greatest creative sickness and my prayer for you is that you come back to your people and come back to your toach and back to your God so he gives the Rebbe the book and the Rebbe says he has a lot of people watching the Rebbe says I'm taking this book from you so that will give you one less chance to give the book to somebody else he takes the puck then there's the guy walks by see the very structure yeah but but that's what the representative every search of the person you know you're very very sick and I hope that God will give you a refresher Leymah he says you know so it's a tricky thing I mean we do hate the evil but at the same time when we're consumed with it it's ultimately destructive emotion this is the idea of the of the sonata of the sonata ginam you know to give you I may be a more moderate example many many years ago I was giving a share in Columbia Maryland and there was a totally not really just group of people and a woman went over to me after the shear and she began she asked me a question and she began the question by saying I'm not as religious as you but I don't even remember what the question was but she preface that I'm not as religious as you so I said to her how do you know you're not as religious as I am maybe you're more religious than I maybe I know more about Shabbos and noir but no maybe I know more about kosher but maybe you honor your parents better than I do maybe you're a more generous person maybe you're a kinder person that's also in the Torah right so even to divide the world into religious and non-religious in many ways is an artificial division because the Torah has many many mitzvahs and none of us are keeping all of them so I keep some and somebody else may do other things I think that's one of about selling points everybody likes that when they want them how people make their kitchen culture they say you're already 85% kosher you know look the bananas kosher the apples kosher I go through your kitchen you know you're already there what's the big deal of another fifteen percent you know you're gonna be you're gonna be fine you already so the concept is people are doing all sorts of mitzvahs you know they're generous they they give stucco they care about people that counts too and then with such an artificial definition that we define being a religious Jew as specific thing Shabbos kosher filling even though a person might be very lacks in honesty in business Lashon Hara and all those other things he's still from on the other end if he doesn't keep Shabbos by definition he's not from right well I don't know you know I mean made just a matter of semantics maybe but why is the guy who keeps Shabbos and his dishonest and business considered a religious Jew when the person who's honest in business and doesn't keep service is called a non religious Jew I think the only accurate definition is this person keeps some of the Torah that person keeps some of it's are neither of them are religious or both of them are religious and on some on some level right so this is kind of what's in a Surinamese kind of look at the other person and understands that there is goodness in them you know a few years ago when they had a massive demonstration again when the the Shiva student being drafted into the Army together I'm not going to address the merits of that that people can argue and differ and no it is it is a very serious issue but when the government was first proposed to draft the issue were students in the army so there was a massive demonstration downtown near the bus station with it was half a million people 600,000 people really really big demonstration and they were very proud of the fact that it was non-violence you know I mean that's great but on the other hand you know there's that is in other words it seems to be so logical that the reviling that it becomes a big cover that was a nonviolent etc and they did what they did for a few hours and whatever they people made their points but I thought to myself maybe I'm being cynical and maybe I'm being unfair that what would have happened of at the end of a four hour rally against the government's mandatory draft let's assume it would have ended with a prayer for the high olam that are in the army that they should be safe and that the day to performing a function a vital function for the Jewish people meaning yeah we take the position let's say the people there took the position that we need full-time Torah learning we can't compromise let's assume that's your position but at the same time you acknowledge what the Army is doing and if a half a million people would have had that combination what would have happened I don't know but I suspect mushiya would have come right then and there because essentially what we're doing is you're standing up for the primacy of Torah but you're also recognizing the value of what the other the so-called other group is doing they shouldn't be called the other anyway and that would have been such a wonderful thing because then the concept would have been we're on the same team Claudius realm needs all of these difference aspects we need ILM and we need policemen and we need garbageman and we need people who are learning Torah and Amish girl needs all of them and without all of them there's something that's missing as opposed to simply saying you know we count and you don't we know whichever side is looking at it that way so that would have been go because that would have been with that with that massive numbers that would have been the idea of bringing people together creating that office and that again I don't want to give muster because I I certainly have much much to improve on myself so I I'm not standing on a podium in any possible way I'm just reflecting out loud as we approached each above that building these bridges is so so so important as I say like Mark Twain everyone talks about it we don't necessarily do what it is that we we can do even in the religious world you know I read them and that's helium II I mean it's almost as if there are two different religions I mean here you're talking about two populations that are shomer Shabbos that are shown we're conscious that learned Torah that are Orthodox Jews and they relate to each other by enlarge as if you know two different nations two different religions how can that be when of our enlistment scene was an iftar a great great Gaga in the religious Zionist world there was not even a sign up in in many of the her ad neighbors there was not a sign up what was it was not the loss was not even acknowledged it was not even mentioned because what he's not one of us or wherever the US you know okay I don't I don't want to get I don't want to be guilty wasn't her myself but but this is part of the aspect of Sinatra none that exists it's not just hot Sinatra now when its coldness its indifference its cliquish this it's the idea that there's an us and there's of them and us is good and then it's not good and whoever however you draw the line you know there's an us and them and that's very that's a very very destructive idea so this is one thing to think about now there is a Tommy Jewish army very important to me you show me the Talmud you show me says that every generation in which the base Armitage is not rebuilt is as guilty as the generation in which the base are mikdash was destroyed because if we would not continue to be guilty of the same of errors that cause the Corbin there would be a base of McNish now think about this you saw me this Jewish ami is actually giving us a very big city I would not have understood this naturally I would have understood that the generation of the korban were guilty of awful sins soshim took away the base of Mukesh we're not guilty of awful sins we just don't have the specials of us to get to make Dutchbat right that's what I would have done we don't have to be guilty of what caused the Corvin we just are not righteous enough to get it back the time of you shun me is negating that interpretation tell me you Xiaomi is actually saying you don't need special merits to get the base of make this better you don't have to be a supersonic all you need is not to be guilty of the sins that precipitated the Hermon now based on that idea therefore the Corbin basa mikdash is not seen as a past event it's not that it was destroyed and our problem is it's not yet built rather it is being destroyed every single day if because I'll say the whole urban based on mikdash is because of synastry no that doesn't mean the sinister enum of 1900 years ago it means it's destroyed on Monday because of the synonym of Monday it remains destroyed on Tuesday because of the synonym of Tuesday it remains destroyed on Wednesday because of the synonym of Wednesday it is as if you're walking by the Hara pious and you have a burning based on mikdash in front of your eyes every single day and even a person with a heart of stone if you saw the base on mikdash burning it would affect us in one way or the other we wouldn't take it casually and the US Army is looking at the Corbin as a continuous process so let me share with you an observation of ruff salivate very beautiful observation he points out that we have two paradigms of mourning in in in in our grief one is private mourning and one is what you might call public mourning private morning is when a special um someone loses a relative loses a parent loses a spouse loses a child right there's a laws of available in those laws of our valus the trajectory and the direction is always going from the stricter to the more lenient Shiva is the strictest level of events you don't leave your house at cetera then slow shame you leave after 30 days for most losses that's the end for parents it goes on for a year but the year is much more lenient than she lotion meaning the direction of private availeth is to go min akka more elico strict restrictive to progressively more lenient when it comes to the period of time during the year when we focus on mourning the Corbin based on mikdash it goes in an opposite direction you start off with the three weeks so first of all if you're safar D there's there's no such things in three weeks I mean you know you have the fast of 17th of timeless and really nothing happens until the week of tisha buff but let's say Ashkenazim man I'll be Ashkenazi centric here so the three weeks we already start we don't make weddings we don't listen to music okay then you get Rosh Chodesh of and then that rascal - I've already we don't do laundry we don't bathe we don't eat meat or drink wine and then you have the week of Tish above this year there is no week of statistics profit is going to be observed the first day of the week but the week but the week of the show is actually stricter than even the nine that's why even started who don't really start the nine days start the restrictions of not washing on the Shuar of tisha buff and then you have tisha buff so it's a reversal of the pattern when it comes to private morning it starts off hard and gets easy and when it comes to public morning it starts off easy and it gets hard what is the logic of the switch in the trajectories so our selves a chick said it is because the psychological and spiritual functioning of mourning is reversed in the two instances when it comes to private mourning a person is naturally very devastated a person loses a close relative depending on how close they are that devastates their life they feel they cannot go on so our valus is a ritual that provides enough of a healing that eventually you will be able to rejoin society so during Shiva you don't even go out people come to you people feed you people bring you foods you're just taking care of as if you were a baby you're not yet ready to rejoin Society she lotion you take your first tentative steps in the outside world eventually Matla like putting your toe in the cold water and then your foot and then your leg and then you finally you know make the leap into the cold water eventually you're able to regain your connection to the world that doesn't mean you forget your grief a person that cared about someone will carry that grief around all the time but what happens is you can compartmentalize it a little bit it's in your mind but it's not taking over everything you can still laugh you can still you know joke you can work and there'll be times in which they'll be grief there'll be sadness but this was such times bracha the old saying in English exactly what cuz I'll say time heals wounds that's exactly and I shall put into the Bria the idea that the passage of time gives us the ability to function so the topless of private availeth is to take you out of your devastating grief so you can now rejoin society in fact because I'll say Hashem looks askance at people that are so consumed with their grief that they can't go back to normal life Hashem says are you more compassionate than I you have to go back you have to live you have to make a life for yourself you can't give in to despair that's private mourning now public mourning for the base of McNish we have exactly the opposite problem how many of us are so devastated over the horrible that we can't get out of bed in the morning how many of us submit a new excuse not to go to minyan right how many of us are so overcome with grief that we can't concentrate we can't focus we break out into uncontrollable sobbing how evolve our alibi for most of us is exactly the opposite we don't even know what it is that we're supposed to be mourning anyway so the purpose of salivate success of mourning over the kerbin Beit HaMikdash is not to get out of the grief that is all-consuming but to get into a gradual modality we're through externalities you perhaps internalize what it is we don't have so as a result we're moving the opposite we're not here to get you out of your grief the whole logic system is to get you into your grief so perhaps by external behavior I can truly mourn but mourning over the base I make is a very very difficult process you know the generation that experienced the court but they experienced the devastation they knew what they lost that's why the Gemara says in Butler Basra that the generation of the korban said we can no longer eat meat at all how can we eat meat if there are no carbon O's how can we drink wine if there's no wine libation said we're not gonna eat meat we're not cannot just during the round guys we're not gonna eat meat we're not gonna have wine at all so the calm him sad or wait a second if you take that logic then you can't have bread either because bread was brought as meal offerings can live without bread their initial responses okay we live without bread we'll we'll eat fruit ah but fruit was brought as beak or him to the base of Macduff you're gonna stop eating fruit so they said you know okay we live on water and then something water ah there was the one there was the water libation of circus so they realized that at some point there's a column said you got to go on with your life but that was then we are like a blind person how do you communicate color to a person who was born blind how do you communicate music to a person who was born deaf we have no idea so somebody asked us for SMS somebody said to distress MS what do I do if I can't mourn I can't cry over the base of McNish so this less Emma said cry over your soul that is incapable of crying over the Corbyn Basin McNish how much we're missing how much we don't understand there's a famous story it goes back to the six-day war I'm sure you've heard the story that when we regained yerushalayim the old city and the Huayra byuk right the famous residental mutsig or how by eights be a danger that our americas in our hands so the first religious boys were there the history Shiva boys were there with Rafi who the cook of Garen know they came there and the boys were crying and moved that we have the remnant of Hashem that's the remnant it's not of the base of makers per se but the remnant of the wall of the Hara bias the one place where the Shekinah did not leave and they were crying and crying and sobbing and praying and there was a seal Oni soldier a soldier was totally not religious and he was crying as well and his comrade said to him what are you crying about yeah they're crying because they believe in God they believe in Torah and then they believe this is a reunification with the divine presence what are you crying about he said I'm crying because I don't know what they're crying about and that's something that I'm missing I'm crying because I don't know but in truth that's not just a problem of the seal any soldier that's our condition that's exactly our condition what is it that we're mourning you know they tell a joke it's a joke but like like many jokes there's a certain ring of truth to it then a fellow a religious Jew a fellow was retiring after many years in business and he was planning a trip to Florida he'd been looking forward to it for a long time the day before the trip Messiah came so he was really quite upset he said you know listen I believe in mercy f2 and I believe in the base of mcvish and I hope but you know he kept us waiting you know 2,000 years and he has to show up the day before my vacation another two weeks would have been would have been so bad and you know from a superficial level okay I mean I hate to even say this it doesn't have a point you know but the truth is that just shows we don't understand we just don't know and I don't understand we don't understand what it is to be separated from our Kurdish bar we don't know we don't know what it's like to be connected and therefore we don't realize the pain that the neshamah has from that separation and the pain that I college Barker has from that separation the good morning Bronco says that God got himself cries he says boy he loved share a glass enough alas to the father that has exiled his children for oil a boy named jihad gloomy al Chicano VM and alas to the children that have been separated from their father they even say but they refresh its address that the reason why this month is the month of of right the month of the korban is off now of course these names have Babylonian origin actually war itself says it but at least in Hebrew of course of his father so in a way it's a bit of a strange name for the month of Korah and the month of estrangement the month of all of these tragedies that we should call this the month of ABBA the month of father but the there is that that's how we have to understand how shams feeling towards us Hashem did what it has to be done because we needed this process for whatever reason but Hashem is grieving over us as a father grieves over his children that this is the month of of and therefore we have to remember even in the Corbyn the tremendous love that a sham hands so in in many many ways the story of the sea lonely soldier is our story which again reinforces my earlier point that it's not an us that type of situation the other end of them are the same people we're all in the same type of type of situation and like so this is something to think about retention let me share with you yet another another thoughts about this which is maybe moving in a different direction the Gemara Nidoran has a comment on it says in this aayah which is this is the hospital we're actually going to read teach above morning the hmong have Tygra and it says oma of d'harans why has the lands been destroyed and the answer is I love ROM as Taurasi because they have abandoned my Torah the gemara charm explains this was actually a dialogue that the prophets had with God when the prophets perceived the destruction of you shall I a marriage Israel the deaths of so many Jews they didn't understand oh my love daughter it's why did this happen and God answered because they forsake my toe right now the Gemara explains that can't just mean they forsake my Torah then the VM would have known that so it's Masha they didn't know something that God had to tell them so the gamora's answer was they kept the Torah but they didn't recite blessings over the Torah and that was something that the new VM wouldn't necessarily notice and therefore the Gemara makes the remarkable statement that the Corbin base hamikdash was because they didn't recite blessings over the Torah now that is problematical on many many accounts first of all according to most opinions the obligation to recite burkas a Torah is only a rabbinic obligation it's not a tour obligation even like the ROM bond that's the Torah obligation all right so it's a mitzvah so say it's not one of the major of a rose moreover why didn't the navvy him I mean because I'll say that this is talk about the first place it's not the second base I make this because the second base makers didn't have prophets at the time of the Corbin so then the vm are wondering why was the first temple destroyed we know why the first temple was destroyed i voters ARA gilja raya sri hosts on him and then a vm certainly knew that because that's what they talk about all the time so why is such I'm bringing in they didn't say blessings over the Torah I've wrote a Sarah gala rice vehicle stomach so Evelio lop Yan says one of the great bodily mother says a remarkable explanation the honey man the new VM knew exactly why there was a horbet base of Mukesh I wrote is ara gilja Reyes speaker stomach they knew that and they were not asking the question what sins caused the Corbin base on Nick - that was push it to them that was obvious to them but they were asking what you might call a medic question a question above the question and that is given the facts that the Jewish people were learning Torah how is it you took ten that the Torah that they learned didn't change them in a better way I mean it's like saying let's say somebody's learning in Eva so they have a good morning Seder from 9:00 to 1:00 then they have a two-hour break until until the afternoon learning so the two hours to go to town they rob a bank rape of a poor woman and murder a few people and then they come back in time for milk and they're learning his fight there is something wrong with that picture shouldn't TOA make a difference shouldn't TOA elevate you shouldn't tell her bring you closer to God shouldn't Torah inspire you not to do the worst of a mess so when they're asking how my love the heart says rebellion they are not asking what were the sins that caused the Corbin but they were asking a deeper question how could they have become capable of doing those things if they were learning Torah so what's the answer of not making blessings so here he points out the following if you remember the beginning of the book of Melaka mala which is describing double hemella at the end of his life and Devyn MLF is seized with shivering he's cold and he cannot be warmed with no matter how many blankets I'm not going to discuss the solution that's problematic I just want to discuss the phenomenon of David being cold so the Gemara says why was David MLF not warmed by garments because because I'll say anyone who treats garments with disrespect is not going to get benefit from them and when he was pursuing shah who was pursuing him at one point double cut off a piece of Scholz garments and apparently garments have relatives like cousins or brothers or whatever it is and the garments take revenge so to speak you treat a garment with disrespect a garment will not give you benefit right so you don't throw around clothing or whatever whatever it is so what do you see from here you see from here that there's kind of a spiritual idea that even a physical entity will not give you benefit if you don't treat it with the proper carve out and respect there is a concept it may sound almost a big pantheistic although it's not that you know you show a respect but that's a partial a partial basis for a tower environmental ethic there's a certain respect we we show the earth actually the the American Indians the Native Americans which are I mean they're kind of of their voters are the way they do it but but they they they often say speak of the environment in that way the certain respect now we don't believe the earth is God in any way we don't believe that but even the inanimate you treat with a certain cover so if that's true for the inanimate that's certainly true for the Torah the Torah will not protect you will not elevate you unless you cherish it unless you respect it unless you love it if you treat it like a burden if you treat it as something you just gotta go through then even if you're keeping it it's not gonna change you so when the Gemara says the quaint again so current regalia what was the question the prophets were asking they weren't asking what were the sins that caused the Corbin that was a voter's or a ghillie rifle stomach but they were asking why didn't the taller they learn make them better people answer they did not cherish that Torah as seen by the fact that they didn't say the blessing over the Torah thanking him for the Torah and the same way therefore if your move as a etapa guardian you treat clothing with disrespect it does not give you benefit if you treat the Torah with that disrespect it will not give you benefit and as a result you can learn from 9:00 to 1:00 and rape pillage and murder from 1:00 to 3:00 and come back for your afternoon Shearer now this is a bit of a frightening thought because it's really telling us an important lesson that's in order for the mitzvahs that we do to elevate us to purify us to bring us to a higher mode raiga we have to cherish and appreciate those we can't just go through the motions we can't just basically say like some people say oh the Torah our 613 problems but I just got to get around so I can do what's really important in my life we have to have passion deshmukh commitments fire pleasure love and then the tour is appreciated so to speak and like the garment that will give you warmth when you treat it with respect and even affection the Torah will take you where you need to go now here is the interesting rep so I've talked about two things I talked about synopsis enum which is two by a chain and I talked about not making the blessings that with the Torah and both of these are areas which we can rectify what's interesting is paradoxically in some ways they run in opposite directions which is why it's a complicated navigation because when we talk about senator phenom the antidotes is tolerance understanding not pushing things on people on the other end for libera battery Bastilla the Tekin is passion enthusiasm commitment now in some ways these might run at cross-purposes because normally the more excited and passionate I am about Torah and mitzvot the less subway notes I can have for someone that's not following it and the other way around if I'm patient and tolerant I'm okay you're okay maybe that's because I'm not passionate enough I don't care enough right this is the common accusation against Americans of which I used to be one of them still works though citizen you know sometimes we say in this Raley's why can't you be like Americans you know we're kind and nice and you know we don't fight why are you always fighting we don't fight well the answer might be no you don't fight because you care less about about everything likes you care less so you know fact in other words is it we have more of us rather as if that we just care less that so the problem is to overcome sin Athena we almost have to be less passionate to overcome overcome a territory that we're going to be more passionate right it's very hard to be both ways it's very right to be passionate about Torah and mitzvot and at the same time well people are what people are but I think there is a way to break the deadlock break the contradiction and that's to understand include in your passion of us Israel which is also a mitzvah in the Torah Thea half-dollar a Africa Martha yeah be passionate about Shabbos and Kairos and filling and Torah learning but incorporate in your passion and in your home race and in your going beyond the letter of the law which you will do in Paris and and in everything else let's have a Mehadrin minima hydrant in average Israel and that way it becomes part of your passion right they say with her crimes elevated the creator of crime brisker was very very may kill in become average meaning if somebody had a cold he would be Mahalo showers he basically said if there was any small possibility that something could develop into a serious medical condition he was maga Murray Mako and people questioned and people said you know your maker and Shabbos he says I'm not making Shabbos I much Mir in Pecos nefesh not being Michael I'm being mas Mir in Pecos nefesh so the same thing the same thing here it's not that I'm being make another remember if I'm not protesting and if I deal with people that are a kilo de or whatever it is and I deal with them with kindness I'm not being make out in Aloha I'm being mocked mer in the Mitzvah of I've asked Israel that's a mitzvah to be much more into Commerce are not only in Bernardo mama come there are homeless in Bernardo Mahavira which unfortunately we are sometimes very very make up make a limp all right so these are some things to think about as I say our prayer an arts feel it should be that if we're not social to the vineyard I make - now that they should be the last that teach above no hazael say mashiac is born on tissue above I think I mentioned it and the morale rights that this does not mean mushiya will physically be born on Tisha buff but this means the bringing of redemption into the world which is the birth of Messiah comes from the tears and the grieving that we have for the Binion base image so because recession may arts fellows may our Cavanaugh's may our resolutions bring gold into the world 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