You're Responsible for Effort NOT Outcome

[Music] it's similar what you're saying it's uh even for for us let's say what about okay if a woman's pregnant are you wasting seed right no so here's the thing you're responsible you're responsible for effort not outcome in life in general Hashem does not punish you for effort he punishes he punishes you for lack of of effort the outcome is only in his hands just like we were talking about in the beginning of the sh we can't do anything really everything is one of the you know these remembrances the 10th remembrance or the ninth remembrance that you have to repeat every day after sh or at any point during the day is that hasem in essence is responsible for everything responsible for your and so on which necess a reminder that not only is he responsible for your P he's responsible for everything because you as a human being can't do anything you want to believe you can do something but in reality you can't you can you know depend on hasem you want to move your hand Hashem has to allow you to move your hand you want to see Hashem has to allow your eyes to see you want to think Hashem has to allow your brain to function and so on Hashem is everything so in essence we are responsible for is for effort for trying for exerting effort but as far as outcome what actually happens as a result of that effort that is something that only hasem can decide you can work not 9 to5 but 24 hours a day and still be poor there's many many people that work very very hard much harder than all of us put together and they're still broke and there's some people that barely work and are multi-millionaires multi-millionaires why has decided he's going to be a millionaire and he's going to be broke the outcome is not because you're a hard worker don't think you became rich because you're a hard worker don't think you became successful because you're smart don't think your wife is beautiful because you're so wonderful asem decided this and Hashem decided that in essence getting to the bottom line of your question Hashem is responsible for the outcome we are responsible for the effort you are obligated as a man to try to fulfill the Mitzvah of of bringing children to the world a woman is not obligated but obviously it's a nice partnership so now you're responsible to try whether you're going to have children or not it's not up to you but you have to try and you're not allowed to not try until you at least fulfill the Mitzvah which means you had at least one boy and one girl this is the reason why there's no to take birth control pills just because you want to have fun you're only allowed to take birth control pills if there's some medical issue if you just get gave birth you have to get rabinal approval to do it not just you feel like having fun oh no we're still too young or we want to go on vacation this year and I want to look good in my bikini there's NOA so you have to fulfill the mitvah because in essence you're G you have to do it so now if two people fill that Mitzvah they try to bring children to the world they do their share there's no kid it's not their problem it's aem's problem either side is not going to be a kid somebody's 60 years old 70 years old they can't physically they can't bring a kid to the world she already went through that time she already passed that time his seed doesn't something can't happen physically cannot happen not your problem you're responsible for effort outcome that's his business if someone understands this everything in their Life Changes same thing obviously goes for someone that's pregnant obviously if a woman's pregnant she can't get pregnant twice she's already pregnant same thing again it's not your problem number one the reason why made it enjoyable is because if it wasn't enjoyable no one would have kids one person in the neighborhood would have a kid everybody see what the headache the kid is bringing no one else would have a kid so hasem made it enjoyable if he wanted you to just be like animals he wouldn't make it enjoyable and then no one would have any kids in the world would be destroyed so you made it enjoyable which means you're supposed to enjoy it but there's a kosher way to enjoy intimacy you don't have to be align you can enjoy intimacy but there there's a koser way to do it so hasem gave us certain amount of privileges certain amount of time to spend with our wives certain amount of time not to spend with our wives certain amount of times to be together certain amount of times not to be together certain amount of time that you can be pregnant certain amount of time you can't be pregnant the point is that as long as you are within those boundaries your life will be wonderful your intimate life your you know spiritual life material life everything will be wonderful as soon as you start going out of that Circle and start creating your own Circle that's when problems begin yeah but is that only under the context in which you engage in traditional sexual encounter with SE is spilled within the woman yes well as long as long as you are doing you know you're performing Intimacy in a kosher way so that means that the seen has to go in the place it's supposed to go you know otherwise it's considered spilling seed it's considered wasting seed if if it's going anywhere else in the body or anywhere else that it's considered spilling seed we learned this from Eran Eran which were the two children of yudah Judah they both had the same wife and both of them were killed by hasem even though this was before mat this was even before the Torah and the reason why is because they both found tamama to be ultra beautiful she's one of the most beautiful women that ever never existed and it said listen if she gets pregnant it'll ruin her beauty so they ejaculated but just not inside somewhere else hasm said oh okay you don't want to bring kids to the world fine I don't need you either so he killed both of them this is also one of the major strongholds of where we where we learn that wasting seed is also a sin for it's not the the same level of sin as Jews but it is definitely something that Hashem frowns upon and and Views as something this disgusting so in essence as far as seed you're supposed to try supposed to the seed is supposed to go in the vagina there's no other place that a woman can get pregnant and as long as it's there you're fine whether there's a baby or not is not your business whether you become rich or not not your business whether you are going to become a or not not your business you are just supposed to try as long as you try they can't complain about you you go up to shim say listen they're not going to say listen why weren't youu what do you mean you made me I can't be oh you know what you're right you you have to be that's what they would ask him rebi what are you trying to be your whole life what's your what's your what are you trying to be I'm just trying to be what about no no I'm just trying to be Z just zusa not even Justa why Z he goes because when I go up to sh they're not goingon to ask me why weren't you mosu why weren't you they made me Z I'm gonna be I'm gonna be the best possible zusa I can be so you have to try to be the best version of you not someone else but that also means you can't waste time you can't just spend your time with Pim Pim means like just like mental stimulation for absolutely no reason whatsoever it's like a you know a um there's a word for it in English I keep forgetting uh huh entertainment no no it's not for entertainment yeah I guess it's entertaining but it's not that it's something else for whatever you got the message go ahead you got a question [Music]