Women's Modesty--HaShem Says It's a Big Deal

[Music] and the answer is already there people are certain that they're going to be okay but even bam the wicked Is Telling You O who's even going to be surv who's even going to survive this end of times at the same time bam gives a deathly advice to balak says since my strategy of cursing am did not work let me give you something else page a it says that bam they describe this entire event and the dialogue between bam and balak and Bam gives the deathly advice that nearly destroyed our nation by saying to be to balak you don't need me to curse them if you want to destroy them you don't even need weapons what do you need immodesty why because the god of these people hates immodesty El chapter 25 verse 1 Israel s settled in the shim and the people began to commit harlotry with the daughters of Moab the nation of balak both his nation of moav and his neighboring Nation midan send their girls with many skirts and tank tops to the camp of Israel you think I'm joking B is three letters in the Hebrew alphabet bet L stands for girls go with shorts bam bet l me stands for girls go with mini mini skirts you think it's a coincidence did they know what about those Min skirts back when what do you think harlotry and prostitution was created now they didn't have many skirts everyone was moded even the not here specifically he's telling you the znot znot specifically means immodesty specifically means promiscuity they're going chasing men why to get them to sin so the men thinking oh wow they're so nice maybe they want peace maybe the Goot want peace the N is one piece they get them all hot and says in the same they get them all hot and then they tell them listen if you want me they pull out an idol and they say bow to this bow to this Idol and they bowed and they bowed and they bowed Hashem said to Moses take all the leaders of the people and hang them before Hashem against the son a gives instructions to go hang people kazal says that on one and one of the Pim says that when he says take all the leaders of the people meaning arrange Witnesses arrange the leaders of am is to witness these people sinning and hang them on the spot because you need Witnesses you can't just say listen this guy sin three weeks ago but where technically the way it's written it actually doesn't say that it's one sentence it actually says [Music] and actually says take all the leaders of the people and hang them hang the leaders this is the third time in four weeks hasem is telling us to kill the leaders or he kills them himself why we have a serious Mitzvah we refuse to follow just like you're not allowed to eat pigs it's mitvah you have to lah if to believe in Gody you must rebuke your people leaders are seeing sinning and saying nothing correct politically correct we don't want to hurt their feelings her mini skirt's very nice maybe she's going to change maybe she's going to become more modest over time maybe she's going to convert the Mahar from PR from pag wrote in his book from just so you know it's a famous story some people believe it's a myth but the people of that town have a museum based on the story M from Prague created a golm created a being from nothing from from uh clay the cabalistic stuff yeah he used cabala used his knowledge in order to protect the Jews because the go kept coming in and um uh kidnapping women kidnapping women King kidnapping the Jewish women so the M created a Golem which from there I think the story of Frankenstein comes um to protect and then as soon as there was no more reason for it he told him to stop operating but anyway whether the story is true or it's a myth is irrelevant the point being is that they don't tell stories about you or me that we created Golems he was a holy holy person in his book chapter 60 says the main thing for which a woman is praised and the highest Madre that she can reach the highest level that she can reach is based on a modesty a woman without modesty cannot pass a test wrote a letter to his mother says my beloved mother I know that you don't need my M meaning all the teaching I could teach you you don't need it why for I know that you are modest meaning that all the teaching you can teach a woman she go to for 25 years and do and then she reads the whole 80 times a day and she reads this one and that one and she has Gul and candles and all these great things she's not modest she can't pass a test can't pass a test they call her Wicked that's page two says each person each man gets a wife based on his actions Rashi explains a sadik gets a modest woman and a wicked man gets a gets an EOD woman why isn't it a sadik meaning a righteous person gets a righteous woman and a wicked person Wicked man gets a Wicked Woman why is a sadik connected to a modest woman and a rash a wicked person connected to an immodest woman why what's the connection Rashi explains there is if a woman is modest she's already has an opportunity and has an ability to be righteous but if a woman is not modest it's impossible for her to be right she could do all the in the world she could give like Bill Gates so have but as far as being considered s impossible impossible page the whole is based on the laws of really it's based on the laws of schom it's based on honesty and a lot of different things that you learn but all of that comes from the T in there's a section that they call and it's a is a wayward woman meaning a woman that's suspected of cheating on a husband if a husband suspected that his wife cheated on him in those days he didn't have to hire a private investigator if he saw her acting in a uh if toire cheaters in a uh way that she's not allowed she was saw her clothes herself in a room with someone she's not allowed to be with with another man that's not him they would warn her if she still didn't follow then he would and she would do it again he'd bring Witnesses and they would see it and then if she's in a closed room he could suspect that she cheated on him and he would take her to the the most holy man of the entire nation in the BET mikdash and the would go through this process of trying to convince her to admit that she cheated on a husband if she cheated why because if she denies it then he then she'll have to drink The Bitter Water the bitter water has the water that was used to wash and purify the hands and feet of the kohanim and also theim would write the real name of hasem the as sadik said and it would actually put the uh it would be on a uh scroll and it would put this inside the water so the ink would actually be erased the the name of hasem will be erased and the ink will be mixed up with the water and this is actually showing us that you know obviously it's a sin to erase hashem's name butm made this Mitzvah how could it be hasem says for schite to make peace in a home to prove that the wife didn't cheat you're even allowed to erase my name so schom is very important to hasem and anyone that wants to learn more about this mitvah should watch this year we did about this year and last year but anyway if she drinks the water and she lied this whole time she really did cheat on her husband and she's lying she doesn't want to admit it and she drinks this water she dies instantly her stomach blows up it's a very very disturbing death and there's even a story in a the two twins women that were twins actually tried fooling Hashem what they did one of them actually did cheat but she said to the test you go the sister that didn't cheat didn't do anything you go and they'll think it's me and that way at least I'm not going to die but if I tell him that I did cheat then my husband's going to kill me anyway if I don't tell him and I drink this water I'm going to die so either way I lose so why don't you go for me should have thought better before she cheated she sends her sister the sister drinks the water sees nothing happening she comes home she sees that her sister blew up it's not the water that kills the Checker here too it's sin that kills it's God that kills the same story has a similar story in I believe it's Balon there's one time a snake in town and everybody was scared of the snake it was killing people left and right very vicious snake killing people they tell the rabbi what should we do about the snake the rabbi gets up looks for the snake finds the snake takes his foot and smashes the snake the snake is biting him in the leg as he's smashing him and the rabbi doesn't feel anything he's just smashing his head until he kills him but the snake during this time has bitten the rabbi several times but the rabbi walks around nothing happened people ask what snake bits you how are you not dead say oh the snake doesn't kill sin kills meaning if Hashem is happy with you nothing think can touch you if Hashem is unhappy with you everything touches you whether it's a snake or it's a fly or it's just a cookie everything touches you so now the K would try to convince this woman to admit he knows it's a hard thing to admit she tries to tie out speak to her intimidate her Intimidator but then the last step is to embarrass her how to embarrass her by pulling off the scarf from her hair there's no wi wigs there's no wigs in the bet mikdash no wigs there's no uh you know organization that said no no wigs are good we're even selling them we're having a uh a fair twice a year where you could sell the wigs in theet there was no such thing inash no $5,000 wigs no five $500,000 wig there's nothing there no wigs why is hat or scarf and a would take this woman that's being suspected of being a Zona being a harlot being promiscuous sleeping with someone that's not our husband and he would embarrass her and take off her and if she still didn't admit she would drink the water and some couldn't admit and would die but why am I telling you this story I've told this story many many times about what happens to do they still kill them if they admit no if they admit they just divorc the husband they're not allowed to be with the husband anymore they're also not allowed to be with the person that they cheated on the husband with meaning they have to lose in both ways but either way they live the husband is not allowed to kill them but I've told this story many times it's in it's in no here what's the K and maybe that I heard this from ragen or maybe that I read it somewhere I don't remember the source but it wasn't original but I thought to myself this This Woman This Wayward woman the whole world is looking at her as until proven innocent she's guilty and the ultimate culmination of this act of putting herself in a situation it's not that she's just an innocent victim and they're picking on her she put herself in that situation she did things that were wrong anyway maybe she didn't sleep with the guy but she definitely things did things that were wrong by embarrassing a husband by being with another man in a closed room several times she deserves what she's getting even the embarrassment maybe she doesn't deserve death because she didn't sleep with the guy but even if she did what she did she still deserves the embarrassment but nonetheless the Torah has a specific name for her the has a specific tractate for her there's an enormous amount of teachings about it's mentioned in several she's not viewed in a positive light let's say that and the culmination of this negative event is taking off her to embarrass her so think about this instead of looking likeu instead of looking like Hannah instead of looking like Ruth instead of looking like B what do women today want to do they want to look like the S either because they don't want to cover their hair or they want to wear wig so it doesn't look like they're covering their hair that's how far we are from Hashem and when you think about that if it doesn't bother your heart a little bit you should question your Judaism you guys ever heard the story of suika yeah with the pins and she pinned herself you heard every story I can't give you any when I ask these questions it's not for you no in Morocco it's a true story in Morocco there were times that there was a lot of anti-Semitism and they would want us to marry them and the Moroccans were very very strong with religion very strong close to Hashem and sacrificed their life for hasem and there was a woman named sua that they Prince wanted to marry her and says I can't I cannot marry you I'm Jewish and you're not under no condition will I let you marry me after several requests she refused the prince got embarrassed or the king got embarrassed it says okay we're either going to force her start to marry me by torture or we're going to make sure that she's the only one that's embarrassed I'm going to take her by the hair and tie her hair to the tail of the horse and drag her across the town until she says stop I want to marry him or she dies and the whole city sees that no one goes against the kingdom and that's what they did and before they told the horse to keep going to go said do you have any last requests and she says yes I would like to get needles PS pins we asking pins yes I'd like to get pins so they give her a bunch of pins laughing at this woman I mean usually people ask as a last request the last for a steak they'll ask for Mercy they'll ask for another chance they'll ask for all types of things but pins this was the first andik takes the pins and takes her dress and she she puts the pins through the dress and through her skin to make sure that it doesn't ever show her immodesty she speak doesn't show any part of her body while she's being dragged by a horse people are seeing this crazy woman according to them crazy according to us one of the biggest sadikot that ever lived blood everywhere all she cares about is that no one sees her knees she wants to make sure that the dress is covering every part of her body and definitely her knees regardless of the fact that she really is an she doesn't have to do that but the modesty it's already part of her why because modesty for a woman is the key to connection with hasem key modesty in prayer and so they do it and they go and they drag suula and after a few moments she screams stop so everyone thinks oh okay she came back to her senses she doesn't want to be continued dragging in blood everywhere so they stopped the horse they said okay you ready to marry the uh King says no absolutely not Shalom so why' you say stop I had to fix the pins and put them even deeper and they dragged her until she died the rashash rashash r Shalom Shi the yemenite king wanted to marry his daughter but he respected the rashash rashash said absolutely not you can never marry my daughter we're from two different nations it can never be say but I'm the king I can do whatever I want he says yes but it can never be but I'm the king but I can do whatever I want he says yes but the Creator will never let it happen and the King says let me show you and they forc this poor daughter of lash to get dressed and get ready to marry the Gentile King and as soon as she walked into the Hall the first step into the Hall she fell down and died true story wasn't her fault though no and Ras comes to the king and he says I told you God will never let it happen when you talk about modesty in this generation people think that as long as you wear a skirt and you cover your elbows you're considered modest well there's a letter from the Umi that I read it's publicly available for anyone that wants it and him alongside all of the not one or two but the Giants of the generation write a very very terrifying letter that does not leave doubts for what modesty is you know a lot of women come to me and they say yeah but uh you know each person at his level every person at his level you know there's levels of modesty that's complete hoggwash it's complete nonsense there's no such thing as levels it's either you're modest or you're not modest yes once you're modest there levels of modesty but there's no such thing as you know some a short skirt that's modest there is modest or not modest and then you can become even more modest than the standard modest but nonetheless for anyone who doubts what modesty is M Feinstein wrote it says the subject of for women is from meaning it's a Biblical mitvah it's from hem directly lately the urge forit for immodesty has found its way even into the homes of the even into the religious people's homes luring them into wearing short garments he says Hashem help us people are wearing short skirts where the skirt is not covering the knee or it's barely covering the knee or as soon as they sit down it's no longer covering the knee and this is what he continues in his letter I have come to publicly Proclaim that this is one of the most serious a in the T he's not not calling it he's calling it a there a difference a is not intentional sh accidental he's calling this a a means it's intentional sin everyone knows whether you're Jew or Gentile everyone knows what's modest and what's not modest no one can go to sh and say no no I didn't know what modesty is I thought that if I wear my tank top that I got from Polo and my shorts that I got from Donna Karin I thought that would be modest no woman that shows her skin thinks she's modest she could be the the stupidest woman on earth she still knows what modesty is that's why RAB MOS is saying it's a it's an intentional sin why because you know you know what's modesty is when you're choosing not to be modest he continues those who transgress it meaning that become are immodest will be severely punished while those who do not give into the urge will be richly rewarded both in this world and the next it is an obligation of the B is to wear kosher clothes which do not allow even the most most minimal part of her need to show as I've said this in lectures many many times this is not my rules this is Al he's saying not even to show a small part of your knee not even the shape of your knee is allowed to show even after you sit down whether at the time of walking or when she sits down so you see I'm not making this up he's this is in his letter even this is the part that was a this is what he writes even if she wears thick hosery it is still forbidden because it is an immense prit to show the shape of the knee even when no flesh can be seen all the more so when sheer hoser is worn through which the flesh can be seen and the covering is there for reckoned as non-existent meaning that even those religious women in Brooklyn who call themselves religious but they wear the short skirt but they feel that it's okay because they're wearing the thick stockings black stockings yeah see that according to Rabbi Moshe Feinstein which everyone accepts him asazi safic everyone knows who who he is this is one says is not allowed complete PR he calls it it is the duty of each and every man to supervise the members of his family regarding the AL against wearing short garments they will then fulfill the verse meaning may your uh home be holy and will be worthy of having upright and blessed children who engage in the study of Torah and the Fulfillment of mitv we turn to the heads of the educational institutions for girls and request of them to be strong in this difficult struggle and not to allow pupils to wear short garments in the Merit of may we soon Merit the Redemption and the this is the biggest sages of Our Generation all sign this the saying dresses and skirts must be at least 4 in which is 10 cm below the lowest point of the kneecap to guarantee that the knees will be covered at all times sometimes even more is required according to aoan one of the rest of this was signed by him signed by Shalom wasner and obviously folk in his book and of M Feinstein all the agreed at what modesty is so how could there be that some rabbis out there are not saying anything about this they see women coming to sh with their immodesty with their Min skirts like they're going to a club you know yum kipur the people that come to theet once a year they don't come to beet ready to pray they come to beet ready to show off show off the new watch show off the plastic surgery show off the money show off why doesn't anybody say anything because we're all more scared of people than we are of AEM in the book was a very scary story this book right behind sorry it's a very very scary but true story was one time a few Merchants traveling from uh City to city and on their way home they passed by a um the woods and all of a sudden from the woods the screaming and they go through the woods and they see a house and they hear a screaming of two women an older woman and a little kid coming out of this house by the way this story may give you nightmares so if you're scared this is the part you might want to put mute it's true story so the merchants go and look into the house and they see something unnatural they see a older woman who apparently is the mother next to her young little girl prob 6 7 8 years old and the mom and they're both next to a bathtub but the bathtub has boiling hot water where you see the bubbles and the smoke coming out of it and the mom digs her hand into the water and takes out clothes burning her hands making blood come out of her hands that's how hot it is and takes out the clothes and puts it on the daughter burning the daughter's skin and both of them are screaming at the same time and she continues doing this over and over again there like a NeverEnding supply of clothes in this bathtub and she keeps doing it and the people got so damaged by it mentally they ran away they went to their RAV they ran away back to their City which was close by and they went to the which was a big meal a real meal not like today's people call themselves MIM and R says what you just left her there let's go get it let's go go save this kid they go there's no house there's no kid there's no Mom there's nothing it's gone matter of hours later talk on there's nothing there's no sign that ever existed there's no more than one person there's a handful of people that saw this so the rabbi made a special prayer asking for hasem for an answer went to sleep and he got the answer in his uh in a dream and one of the sages that came to his dream says yes those Merchant received the scoot to see what happens in sh as a punishment to a mother who does not dress her daughter modestly this is what she has to do in G not my stories book published very very famous book wrot it so now we know what modesty is we know what we need to do [Music] [Applause] [Music]