Why Your Rebuke Does Not Work?

[Music] Believe It or Not rebuke rebuke many times many times it doesn't work you rebuke somebody it doesn't work work why because you're rebuking with ego you're not rebuking him because you want to help him you're rebuking him because you know that you have the right answer and he doesn't he is ignorant of the Torah he never heard in his life that is considered an idol worshipper so you want to tear him up look it says in the chapter 30 number 16 I even remember it even though you just yesterday yeah look that's why he says you're an idol guess what it's not going to work you know why it's not going to work his is repulsed by your even though you're right he's repulsed by you why you're not trying to help him you're trying to prove him wrong that's ego many times people will start doing chuva because they want to be better but then they'll torture their household they'll torture their wives and husbands and kids and neighbors and everybody else by tell them what they hear in a Sho and then they come back to me say listen I try doing what you say in a shoe but it doesn't work wait you tried doing everything I said in the Shure only for everybody else not for yourself in the I didn't just say Shabbat is a violation I also said ego is a violation I also said a lot of other mid character traits flaws are violation so all you were worried about is telling everybody else meaning you wanted to fix everyone else except you guess what it's not going to work why because you are doing it out of ego not out of care for other people you know if you you know I'll give you a little small small uh indication small indication you could check yourself you don't have to tell me if you want to help people do cha or you you're already doing it okay you're already doing it you're rebuking people you see somebody that's driving on Shabbat you tell them something you see somebody that's walking around you tell them something you you you're trying to help you you're trying to fulfill that Mitzvah but you see it's not working now maybe it's not working because perhaps Hashem wants you to do it in a different way or hem wants you to try even harder and so on and so forth but it could also be because it's coming from ego how do you know if it's coming from ego or not I mean obviously you should know if you have an ego or not but let's say you like to lie to yourself and deny that you have an ego so how do you know if you actually care about these people or you're doing it simply to prove them wrong and prove yourself right to look better how do you know if you know somebody is living a life that's against theem and you rebuke them you tell them the truth you tell them the da da da and they listen they don't listen whatever the case is now usually after the first chance doesn't usually work right away now if you simply continue to do it just by talking but you don't pray about them you don't pray to Hashem you don't cry to Hashem you don't beg Hashem for Mercy to open up their heart no you don't pray for them you don't do nothing you just they're going to do chva my way guess what that's ego you're not trying to help them you're just trying to look good and it's not going to work I mean a broken clock is right twice today it may work here and there but on a on a larger scale it's not going to work why because it's not coming from the right place if you really want to help get used to crying for them now it's hard to get from zero to crying for why most of them you don't even know so what do you do just start praying for them period What Not Crying just pray for them pray forem to have do things to help do care about people care about people doing CH the more you care about them the more likely it is that you're going to get to a point where you actually cry to Hashem for them but if you've never cried for it's very very likely that your rebuke is not going to work if you're trying to make your brother your sister your cousin your mother or whoever do chuva and you saw them violate chabbat even after you told them what you told them and you didn't pass out just check yourself how come it doesn't bother you no no it bothers me I told them they don't want to listen yeah okay it's not just about I told them they don't want to listen how come you don't cry how come you don't like beg AEM to give them another a little bit more time and not kill them how come how come you don't because in essence again it could be that it's not coming from the right place I mean it could be very well that it's coming from my place you just don't know how to do it but the point being is we have to make it a daily task to pray to Hashem for everyone else not ourself all day we pray for ourselves hasm give me givee givee give me give me give me give me give me it's if if that could be the only uh the only word in our vocabulary would be perfectly happy just give me give me give me give me I enough what to give me I enough what to give me no not not not at all I'm not say not at all you could keep saying give me but say also hasem please have strengthen wake them up use me as a vessel use me as a tool so at least I have a purpose in the world to get people to do chuva or even if you don't want to use me at least get them to do chuva so they could do your will so they could get to get to heaven and so on pray for pray for them pray for them to do CH if once you start praying for them guess what eventually you start caring about them and not just because they're your sister or your brother or your cousin even if they're complete strangers you start caring about them and you'll see something miraculous happen your rebuke starts working your starts working what you're trying to do starts getting results but not just one time results the guy say no no I'm going to keep Shabbat he keeps two three four five Shabbat then he stops permanent results Real Results but that's because it comes from a place of care and that takes that takes you have to 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