Why You Working So Hard? - Bitachon B’HaShem (16)

[Music] that you're coming to after a fast day uh for some people fasts are very difficult uh for others a little less difficult I don't think any any body enjoys them but nonetheless they're never easy um we are starting a new week we're here in uh Florida in continuing our series about couple of new stories a couple of new uh where uh so much to learn about that um if we simply applied each week's Shi to that week life turns into G really bit it's just a uh I know that myself I uh get a lot of tests but the shim helped me help me a lot because there's no uh there's no downtime for the he doesn't take vacation isn't he's uh he's busy full-time working so question is are you going to let him beat you this week you're let him uh you're gonna give him a fight give him a fight for his money so the Bet Shalom gives us m a handholding uh narration of how gave us clear instructions in the Tor of how to acquire to such an extent that a person simply could live as if he's on a cloud as if he's on cloud nine Above the Rest of creation why because if you all noticed every one of us knows a few people and every one of us when we think of those people we can immediately think of a moment they broke where uh they got out of their character they got stressed out they uh got emotional got an anxiety attack lost their cool didn't really uh know how to handle something started crying in public all types of things all of us know types of people like this every one of us and the trth this is that most people are like this most people have so much anxiety in their day-to-day life it's literally a miracle they survive the day there's so much pressure that they put on their own heart physically physical pleasure pressure on their heart it's a miracle the heart survives because of all the anxiety we give ourselves but all of it is because of our our lack of our lack of confidence in knowing what he's doing when he's giving us the test that he's giving us now the sh is going to be also for David Ben also my dear Mother Doris Bora and my ran leedes and all of and most importantly the of if we could literally just pray to to somehow miraculously just insert into heart I'm telling you you wouldn't even ask for G you wouldn't ask for ganed why you live ganeden a person that has is in ganed doesn't matter what goes on the world yeah he has problems like everybody else kids get sick one kid falls the other one hits them the other one is crying for no reason the wife is not happy the husband's not happy the boss is not happy somebody gets fired somebody gets hired the competition steals your business the competition eats your business the competition buys your business how many problems people have and that's just the day today first five minutes you just woke up you even know you didn't even turn on CNBC yet you didn't even turn on the TV yet this is just you woke up all this just happened then you find out you get a phone call some long lost cousin you haven't heard from in 6 months just died from the just died from the disease how many of us get these phone calls how many of us hear these bad news or you wake up you turn on the computer first post post on some uh media all the people that died in the last 24 hours oh we're having Shiva for this one Shiva for this one sh the the community bulletin boards are m a depression pill every day somebody dies from some unknown reason it's not like oh you know he lived 98 years only 22 years short ofu he had such a wonderful filling life no what we are sorry to tell you such and such died while sleeping for no reason he was 27 what how who I just talked to him last week I all this happens and this is just the morning you go on any of these Community uh uh mailing lists it's m a uh guarantee to get depressed guarantee why every other day somebody is that you know or don't know or you want to know which means that all of us whether we like it or not are getting such a magnitude of tests every day a magnitude of slaps in the face from what we call life that if you do not have be knowing what he's doing when he's managing and running this world you could simply lose your mind it's just you see this one that one this one by the time you got to work at 9:00 in the morning already is this five problems you never knew existed what did I do I just went to sleep maybe I shouldn't go to sleep so maybe stuff wouldn't happen maybe that's why didn't want to go to sleep the problem is that uh he had more problems than that even without sleeping what a what a he was so it's not just something that's advisable that's a recommendation of the Tor that yeah you know Al one day you get to it you should work on it hopefully when you have time you know in between your other studying in between your other things no be is simply if you have it you'll have a good life you don't have it you're going to be miserable as miserable can be this is you know how everybody always says you know uh don't worry be happy or or or don't worry uh you know all types of State statements that people say you know that this is how you're going to be happy in reality this is how you're going to be happy you'll be happy don't have there's no chance in the world for you to be happy why you're constantly going to be stressed out about life and there's no way that you're going to say well you know make pretend like you don't have problems everybody has problems doesn't matter how much money in your account doesn't matter how much money doesn't exist in your account doesn't matter if you're married or you're single if you're black or you're white or you're Asian or you live in India or you live in America or you live in Israel or you live in uh Z babwe or you live in Mars even the guy in Mars over there that no one even knows exist even he has problems everybody has problems that's life which means that if you have and you understand that he custom made those problems just for you and no one else the problems that you have are custom made for you he wants you to have those problems it's not that those problems escaped him Shalom he didn't know oh got let me fix that problem for you oh you have the problem I didn't know I I was busy with yon let me fix your problem let me fix your problem let me fix well I was busy with yob okay okay you're busy I got you now Noom knows about the problem because he's the one that made it custom made for you for me custom made for us which means if he gave you a problem he knows that you could overcome it he knows knows you already possess the solution and that's why our tell us that creates the Cure before the ailment before there's even a sickness before anyone even knows this sickness exists a already invents the Cure the problem does not lie on AEM the problem is with us as usual where we simply have a hard time believing that has the best interest for us that he knows what he's doing that he's watching everything either because we think too much of ourself and our ego is bigger than this world or because we forget that he even runs the world so meticulously so precisely or simply we're so occupied with what's going on in our life and dealing with all of the problems and the tests and the mid terms and the deadlines and the bills and the yelling and the screaming and complaining that we're so busy with all the the the bullet shot at us we forget that there's even AEM yeah somebody asked you do you believe in God sure yeah a reflex reflex yeah of course of course all of a sudden before that you weren't even sure if why you busy and that's actually what happened to when who came to save them they told them we're busy we're busy come back later what do you mean but I came to save you I came to say I didn't come here to hang out see how you're doing maybe you guys are considering a vacation spot I'm in a tourist business maybe I'll sell you guys a few tours no what come there for he came there to help them to save them they're saying they're busy sometimes we're too busy for our own good and the bet is trying to clearly instruct us that acquiring is not a suggestion it's not a recommendation it's not even good advice it's simply you deciding are you going to work on acquiring it in order to be happy or are you just simply going to decide right now right here that you want to be miserable for the rest of your life it's not I'm going to acquire it because it's good and no no no what do you do you want to be happy or miserable which one pick one same price say if you acquire you'll eventually acquire happiness in this world which will get you happiness in the next one if you don't if you just take it as simply a suggestion as good advice is something that only sadim and you know the really really righteous can get to but it's not for me I'm not at that level you start putting all types of false false things on it as if you're not in a level to acquire all that is is the has convinced you just be happy that you're not even more miserable be happy you're not even more miserable you're miserable right now that's enough if you mess mess with me I'll make you more miserable why because without it's impossible to be happy so the first told us at the beginning of this at the beginning of this series we're at number 16 right now that first and foremost every time we are afraid of something happening it's because we do not have confidence in knowing what he's doing and as a result has to give us a personal lesson saying to us why are you worried about anything other than me any worry that you have other than worry about hem is a problem in fact anything that you allow to rule over you to rule over you other than Hashem whether it be money or it be uh concerns anxiety of any kind or it be uh Z concerns or money concerns or health concerns or a job concern anything that you make ad Adon is like a lord over you but really it's a boss over you it has a of has the dust of abar which means that anytime we have a concern a worry of any kind about anything not connected to says I have to give you a personal lesson what's that personal lesson I'm actually going to make the thing you're concerned about happen why mid mid measure for measure this is a very scary lesson it was just to start off the series just to start off the series you're concerned about hasm is going to punish you with it why to show you you're not supposed to be concerned about anything other than me you're connected to me anything that's happening to you you know it's for me also which means there's no reason for you to complain just figure out a way of how to connect to me even deeper so your life improves but nonetheless don't ever think that your life is ever going to be a picnic where there's no problems and there's no concerns and there's no issues stuff breaks people fail people do all types of things that you never expected them to do which means that anxiety in itself anxiety in itself is a poison from the the himself is using anxiety in order to distance us from if a person works on themselves to acquire acquire confidence in hasem little by little that anxiety will simply dissipate and he'll start living gedan even in this world if he doesn't if he continues being worried about every little thing except Hashem then he's already giving punishing himself he's just calling it life now the better Contin now and he says will help you do and succeed in many which will end up in having that your prayers themselves will become much more effective when a person knows that a is running the world and he knows that no matter what's happening in your life it's AEM setting it up for you custom made personally cooked for you then your test in life whatever difficulty you have it's never even for a moment going to bring you to a thought of a what's a thought of a a thought of a k unfortunately is very common what it is is somebody they have difficulties in life unrelated to religion unrelated simply difficulties they're sick or somebody's sick or they don't have money or they're alone or they got divorced or there's an endless names of problems that can L you the the the problems will not end and the world will end and the problems wouldn't end somebody has a problem and they say you know what ever since I became religious I have problems in my life that's the thought of a you think that because you became religious that's what's causing the problem why you think that if you were less religious less connected to hem your life will be better that's a thought of a why because you're thinking that connecting to a is hurting you instead of helping you and that disconnecting from hasem could Shalom be beneficial to you you're thinking that you even have this such an option where your life would be better if you were disconnected from Hashem now this is not an uncommon thought even the best of us have failed momentarily for such a thing if you look at T DAV he put together the T but he's not the only author of T there are several authors ofu has some in there I think there 10 of them that mosu wrote wrote there a few people that have wrote t one of the T says M and Dav repeated what Assaf was saying because he felt the same momentarily what does the T sayab says for a moment for a moment I started becoming jealous of the for a moment I started becoming jealous of all the people that are Heretics because I see it doesn't seem like they have any problems the guy money problems don't exist he's driving a Ferrari on Shabbat zuk problems every week There's a new one food he has enough food to to start a factory everybody has problems everybody's suffering from famine but this guy is overweight seemed like his life was Grand says for a moment it almost got me to say you know maybe just maybe it's preferable to be in his way but then had mercy on me gave me the thought wait a minute what's going to happen to him in the end in the end after okay right now he's driving a nice car he has a few horses in biblical language he has money he has women he has all the cavod respect honor and me I'm trying to keep everything that the rabis tell me I do I learn I this I that I have problems from here till uh the end of the world so it looks like he has a better opt he has a better deal better set of cards but then gave me the says and gave me the thought wait a minute what's going to happen in the end after the show is over maybe next week maybe next month maybe next year maybe in 10 years from now eventually Hashem closes the store on everybody eventually all of us are going to die this is not wishing Shalom bad on anybody it's just the reality of Life everyone at some point leaves this worlda says what happens then and that gave me says that gave me pleasure why because I know that in my way that whose way I have eternity of good whereas he if he doesn't do CH it's impossible for him to see any good in the next world and the next World Is Not Just 70 80 years but it's Eternal it's an eternal life so having doubts having a certain amount of saf is what we call it is natural TR for everyone the key ingredient that a person needs not just should have but needs to acquire in their life and as soon as possible just like you're breathing right now because you need that you need you need that oxygen you need to do whatever you can to acquire as soon as possible nowon is not something you could just buy in a store with a certain amount of money and all of a sudden you have it in your pocket this is something you have to learn you have to think about you have to meditate over you have to test yourself you have to work on it day and night day and night until you start seeing the blood is moving something's going on the heart's pumping why no guarantee miserable life because it's impossible for you to run through life and handle all of the problems that happen in life by yourself without understanding not not only he's watching not only he's recording but he's the one that's manufacturing these problems custom made for you why because he wants you to overcome these problems and having confidence inem in is the only way that you can have an understanding of this and remain calm while the ship is moving and everyone else is throwing up I don't know if any of of you have ever been in a ship that's that's rocking one time I was it wasn't fun it wasn't fun why not only you want to vomit now you want to jump in the water already how that's how bad it is it's the worst thing in the world thank God it was just a ferry ride short ride but I don't know some people stuck in the ocean you see like the ships rocking like that I think it's better jump in the ocean with to deal with all of that but be life is just like that so the BET says that in order order for you not to be a in order for you not to get to a point where you say you know what ever since I became religious bad things have happened ever since I fulfilled the mitvah of and I brought a kid to the world bad things have happened ever since I get married like says it's not good for a person to be by himself bad things have happened ever since I started learning T at night I'm late to work bad things have happened and and start blaming the Torah for the problems when you have you realize that the problems would be there with or without your life but now the Torah gives you an instruction set of how to manage yourself your behavior your your your your mindset and your actions through the Torah so the BET says when one practices besides for a accomplishing the he will be saved from sins from he will not flatter Wicked people like people do where they uh flatter their employers says not a nice joke or says bad things about other people so he says that sometimes you have one of these bosses that uh they're not such a nice person all they're good for is writing checks other than that they're disposable why they're like saying bad things about people they like making fun of everybody all the competition is garbage even though the competition sometimes is better everybody else is no good the guy that left the company he's this he's that the people that are trying to go work up the ladder he demeans them I remember this guy I worked for I can't even say his name he's such a rash it's like Beetle Juice you say his name may appear created this guy M rash rash this uh guy he enjoyed mamash enjoyed abusing people and he would had a position of power that he was able to I remember one time working in his office and this is an early part of my career in the investment business we came into the office and uh one of the guys messed up on something he didn't close a deal he told him you stand up for the rest of the day now rest of the day if you have a half hour left it's not the end of the world cuz you're on the phone anyway as soon as if you're a Salesman you have to stand up if you're a Salesman you have to stand up why emotion creates emotion if you're sitting down all day you're not going to be so enthus you're going to be like one of these monotone boring salesmen that no one wants to buy with unless it's a because I don't know you're selling Q-tips if you're selling something that's that's worth something you want to convince people you have to you know you have to be emotional you have to be passionate sent me for training for 16 years I know about this so anyway you're standing up anyway as soon as somebody picks up the phone you're trying to make a sale you stand up anyway so if it's a half hour left of the day it's not a big deal if it's an hour left of the day it's not a big deal if it's two hours left of the day it's not a big deal problem was it was 8:00 in the morning that means that the guy had to stand for straight 12 hours I couldn't take it it's disgusting to me got into an argument with the guy eventually I left after I left it's as if he went to war against everybody else cuz no one no one else ever like went against him after I left the guys one day told me listen you don't understand what happened after you left what CU I don't know a few guys came in a few guys left but with the people that were left he tortured them for months said what did he do to them he said one guy messed up he made him wear a diaper a male diaper a male adult diaper another guy messed up he made him take out all the files and put him back in 50 times all types of vicious horrible horrible things M destroying the mentality of people and unfortunately there are many people like that in all walks of life especially in the money business many times people talk about these uh success stories whether it's a uh Jeff Bezos from Amazon or uh the guy from Apple that died Steve Jobs what most people don't know is the horror stories that are also told about those people of how they when people leave the meetings with Jeff Bezos it's there it's a famous thing it's a famous thing that this guy that's worth a 100 billion dollar but if you go to a meeting with them there's a n out of 10 chance you're leaving crying n out of 10 CH you're leaving crying somebody had had an interview that was in the company for many many years says every single board meeting somebody left crying had to be somebody was crying a few people crying something why he came into the meeting somebody had to cry he's insulting he's abusing he's this he's that on TV they look happy they laugh on TV it's just for movies in reality it's not like that same thing with Steve Jobs same thing with many people on Wall Street unfortunately it was no different on Wall Street they had fun torturing young kids torturing young PE young people not just necessarily young in age but young in the business you're new in the business your first one two years you're a rookie they have fun with you I remember one of the companies I worked for in the beginning they sent a couple of kids to Wall Street to go go buy something that doesn't exist called Optics it doesn't exist an optic is the move the stock makes when it goes up a penny or two that's what an optic is it's not doesn't actually it's not a a physical tangible thing but they told him listen go to Wall Street go to New York Stock Exchange knock on knock on ad door tell him I'm here to buy uptick this is like a whole long torturous vicious game that's been going on for 100 years and they sent these kids there and these kids got so mad that they kicked them out said there's nothing like this exist get out of here they got so mad they wanted to like you know uh Break Stuff kids got themselves in trouble people like to torture people say such things are not allowed they're forbidden but you know what the truth is the BET says the boss he's not the only rash here the boss is not the only rash here the the boss he's rash no questions asked but he's not the only one you know who's also rash you know who's also going to get punished all those people that support him and laugh at his jokes oh yeah that was a good one boss even though you know that if he did it to you you'd probably quit even though if you know if he did it to you you probably cry all day all night even though you know if he did it to you you don't know how you would handle it you may end up in jail but because it's to somebody else you like to you like to laugh at somebody else's you like to laugh at somebody else's why because if you laugh with the boss at least they're not laughing at you so the BET says flattering Wicked people makes you Wicked a person that has bet is never going to do that why cuz he knows that the boss is not the reason why you get a check Hashem is Hashem is the reason why you get a check even though the boss is the one that signs it if he doesn't sign the check Hashem will sign the check how that's his business flatterers are one of four groups that are not permitted to greet the people that laugh at the joke of the evil people support evil people like to make fun of other people says these are one of the four people that doesn't even want to look at them even after they leave this world they will never be able to see AEM that's how disgusted he is with people that make fun of other people he doesn't like bullies It also says says that anyone who speaks insincere insincere flattery brings aem's anger into the world as it says in seph those who flatter will cause anger sometimes you want to give somebody a compliment but in reality everybody hates them including yourself but you want to give him a compliment because maybe he's going to give you a raise maybe he's going to close a deal with you maybe this maybe that like a lot of people like to compliment all types of politicians cuz they think that if they complement the politician that's going to make the Jewish World better what do you think this politician whether it be Trump or any of his friends they're the ones running the world or who's running the world who's running the world who's running the world you think Trump's running the world we complimenting him because what his nice ego shrunk what what happened I'm not saying I'm not saying go against but what are you complimenting exactly a lot of these flatterers are setting themselves up for failure why says you're what you're giving a compliment because you think he's going to bring peace you think he's the one that's going to save Med is you think they or the the the the IMF the fed the FBI the CIA all of these American uh you know uh companies under the government they're the ones that going to protect is the Jews not AEM that brings hem to anger why it's you're giving the power of God to man in addition aside from making a angry the BET says the prayers of such a person are not heard as it says they will not call out or be heard when I punished them the reason for this is because he sinned with his mouth there therefore the prayers from his mouth are not acceptable this is the reason why thear of a cow cannot be used on as the says page 26 it reminds AEM of the golden calf and what was used for sin can't be used for prayer the BET gives us a lesson of a lifetime all of the animals thear says all them animals that have horns you could use as kosher animals you could use the horn make it a chal you can use a horn make it a chal except the cow why cow is perfectly it's not only is it abundant not only is it cheap but it's actually very common that most of the farmers that have cows they remove the horns automatically so the cows don't hurt each other don't hurt the owner and so on they remove it right away when they're still little looks horrible by the way I saw a video of it one time but the cow seemed fine after two seconds they go it's still before the horn comes out they remove it and then they burn the area which sounds horrendous for us but the cow went playing two seconds later why it doesn't hurt each other same thing with the sheep and all and so on and so forth but the cow you eat you eat a lot of cow more than any other animal we eat cows you figure we can have an endless amount of chaar every street has its own chaar you can make streets out of it says no no no you cannot use the Horn of the cow for CH why the cow was used one time 3,300 years ago for a sin of the golden calf so every time you be blowing the chaar of the cow in order to bring is to do chuv in reality you're reminding hasem of the sin of the golden calf hm said I don't want the cow's horn to be used for the to teach us what to teach us if we use our mouth to say if we use our mouth to say if we use our mouth to say to make fun of other people flatter Wicked people lie cheat guess what you go pray hasem says oh his prayer yeah put him in a separate room what's what's that room is that hem oh that's the room that uh I'm not listening not listening until he does chuva I'm not listening you put him in a room eventually maybe once he does chuva I'll take all the prayers answer them all at once but until he or she does chuva you put him in that room I'm not listening as if I'm not listening why he used his mouth for bad things how could I listen to the same mouth that made so many sins against me and answer that prayer in addition any person who flatters the wicked is cursed even by baby in their mother's womb as it says in the Proverbs 24:24 one who says to the rash that he's a sadik Nations will curse him people are angry at him the word leim which literally translates to people also means babies before birth all of these precious little n these perfect n before they came to the to the world they could see from one end of the world to the other end of the world while the Mal is teaching them as the says is a Mal teaching the baby the entire tah from beginning to the end while they're in there for nine months that baby can see from one end of the world to the other end of the world when Ami SL crossed the Sea of reeds after hasem split the ocean to 12 everyone pointed this is my God and I shall honor him it says the M says something amazing it says that the the uh the babies also wanted wanted to do it the babies people were pregnant the babies also wanted to do it so what did hasem do he made the stomachs translucent transparent he actually made the stomach so the babies you have SE B little babies inside the stomach pointing pointing at the heavens this is my God and I shall honor him so the BET says even those babies that are K they're cursing somebody that flatters people calls them righteous when really they're Wicked now what's the big deal of a baby thear says that one time there was a debate whose prayer is more significant whose Torah is more significant and the opinion is the Torah learned by babies little kids that's the Torah that's the reason why lets the world survive Tor so one of the most reputable holy people that ever lived he's in every page in thear says wait a minute what about you and I we learn T we fulfill what about our Tor the answer is says yes our Tor is good but it's not like the babies it's not like the little kids that learn Tor in six seven eight 9 years old 10 years old it's not like them why a prayer that comes a word of Kus that comes a word of Torah that comes from a mouth that sinned is nothing like a word of K and that comes out of a mouth that never sinned that baby that 6 seven 89 10 11 year old that never ever said a bad thing never sin he's still before 13 years old so the sins don't count with the exception of which at that age is not common that kid never sinned in his life that kid never s in his life so anything he says is as pure as pure can be his much bigger than us even though we're and and so on and so forth for that hasem lets the world continue and when you have such a holy mouth also cursing a person saying oh you're complimenting the wicked and that same mouth that Hashem lets the world run by is one that's cursing you you can see such what's the anger really and the prophet Isaiah in chapter 5 verse 20 and 24 says woe to those who say that that which is evil is good and says Whoever has this sin for sure has to go to G therefore as straw is consumed by a tongue of fire and find straw by Flame their Roots will be weakened like rot and their blossoms will go up like dust so RAR says whoever flatters the wicked people will eventually fall into their hands and any nation that has in it flatterers is despised as an unclean woman as it says in the Book of Job a Congregation of flatterers is despised despised by who despised by hasem and lastly theab page 33 says that whoever profanes his mouth causes Gom to be deepened on his behalf and rabman the son of RAB says that even if one hears curses and insults and so on and his silent meaning he doesn't protest he doesn't tell the guy listen you shouldn't say that listen it's not nice what you're doing and so on and so forth doesn't say anything he says he is punished for that sin himself and where does he get the source from Proverbs 22:14 one who angers Hashem will fall there so we see that confidence in hem is not just something that is a something that's going to help you out of trouble when you have uh different stressful situations but literally things that happen on a day-to-day basis of who to befriend who to listen to who not to listen to the question is why don't we have why don't we naturally have and we have a couple of answers now as we spoke last week in Tuesday explained that fear of are connected if you have fear of that's because you understand what you you're dealing with and if you understand what you're dealing with you understand that he's the king of kings naturally you're going to be scared of him but sometimes you're going to have certain people and I've had this experience where I had somebody come to my shoe for a year straight nothing changed came as a Golem left as a Golem nothing changed now as you guys have seen after a few shim that you hear my shim are not always necessarily easy to listen to sometimes sometimes they're a little scary sometimes they're a little bit of a rebuke sometimes I don't say any jokes sometimes I'm not so funny you're supposed to laugh at that part sometimes you're supposed to get the point but some people don't now if you don't get it after one Shield that's fine two Shield that's fine five Shield that's okay it's a little strange but if you're coming to my shim for a year straight two years straight nothing's changes something wrong and I found a k this weekend on Shabbat Shabbat Kes from where the B now my dear friends from kabad love the T because that's their Mak that's their Foundation of kabad and says something very interesting in chapter 42 he talks about and he says next is the exertion of the soul that the service shall not be burdensome to exert it to the extent of thought to delve into it to reflect upon the greatness of a for a long and uninterrupted period the measure of which is not the same for every soul he says that there's a similar to other whether it be breast live or other that you're supposed to take a a moment think about hem they call they call it just having a focus meditation whatever you want to call doesn't really make a difference point is he says take a moment think about hasem but think about his greatness think about how all the things that he creates for what there is the naturally refined Soul which immediately as it considers the greatness of God attains the fear and dread of God as it is written in the section one that when a man reflects that the great of about the great king the Supreme King of Kings the Holy One blessed is he with whose Glory the whole world is full that he is standing over him and is watching his actions he will immediately will be overcome by fear this is but the T is repeating the if you take the time to think about is watching you right now he's watching you pay attention he's watching you not paying attention he's watching you thinking in your mind right now you know what I really rather go to this this and this right now instead of a or he's thinking instead of this you're thinking of something else is watching listening and recording everything that's going on in your mind that thought if you really think about it's scary why because it's not just here it's after you leave it's before you came it's tomorrow it's when you're in the bathroom when you're out of the bathroom when you're alone at night and so on and so forth if a if a person thinks that a kadh is there not a messenger hasem himself is there right next to you watching and recording everything that you're doing and one day he's going to show it to you on Judgment Day that thought is scary so the B says a Soul that's refined thinks about this immediately becomes scared to death now not everybody's like this sometimes you tell this to people it goes one ear out the other I've said this in 100 some people they listen to all 100 they're still the same Golem as they started on sh number one nothing changed still don't not afraid of God still stealing still cheating still yelling still doing everything wrong that they did before they started listening but most people that listen to those sh changed even after one or two most people but there are once in a while tough Souls why why so the T gave us the K what's the K there is a soul that is of lowly nature and origin coming from the lower gradations of the T of AIA which cannot discover godliness by contemplation except with difficulty and for forcefulness meaning there's a certain type of Soul doesn't get the point no matter how many times you tell them no matter how many times you tell her to put clothes on she still doesn't like to put clothes on she looks at the closet everything could be modest but she only picks the one thing that's not modest he knows he's allowed to go to 18 different places he picks the one place he's not allowed to go to you gave him five Rabbi recommendations he picks the one that's a k five kosher ones he doesn't want the five kosher ones he picks the one guy that is a is a heretic it has to some people like this why there are certain Souls that are of lower origin that without difficulty and forcefulness they cannot discover godliness why because of the sins of the youth why because of the sins of wasting seed when a person Wast seed when a person in his youth obviously what's the common denominator among all youths they're single and if they're single they still have a drive a physical drive and when they can't fulfill it with a spouse they decide to fulfill it themsel and the Bal from kabad says that this this specific sin causes so much damage that it makes it extremely difficult for a person to acquire the most important character trait for a human being to have which is fear of hasem the damage from wasting seed damages the physically and spiritually and without chuv that person cannot acquire without hasem putting him on a special run what kind of run o it's not it's not it's not a shield let's put it that way it's not a shield to it's a sh in life so we see that sometimes our own actions lead to our own pain now the interesting thing is that you can say that sometimes even people that were much higher level had lack of anybody here ever read the the talks about Mana anybody here is awake Mana bread you guys know the bread that came from from Heaven read it you with me I'm the only one I I learned this already so it's for you okay so the Mana the Mana was a food for from Heaven literally that decided to give to for 40 years food Came From Heaven based on your righteousness that's where the food landed if you were righteous it landed right at your doorstep if you Wicked you'd had to it was over the hill you had to go walk for it which was embarrassing because everybody would know oh you're rash why you don't have Mana do you I don't see any man on your doorstep I don't see any newspapers on your door I see newspaper on your doorstep but not man on your doorstep maybe if you remove the newspaper you'll have Mana instead stop reading all the garbage of the newspapers and uh read some Tora maybe you'll have some Mana instead so it's embarrassing too but what's so special about this Mana aside from the fact that physically speaking am didn't have to go to the bathroom for years no one had to go to the bathroom why every time you eat you and I eat we eat part of the food turns into blood the rest that doesn't turn into blood guess what leave your body that's waste now the Mana was pure Holiness to such an extent that the entire Mana turned into blood no one had to go to the bom for 40 years you didn't have you don't have to find any toilets anywhere in the desert there's no toilets why there's no need 40 years had brand new clothes on but they only had they never had a second replacement 40 years gave them that one s what they wore remained brand new they didn't have to go shopping they didn't have to go to Macy's see all the imod women there they didn't have to go to the mall didn't have to go anywhere why their clothes were renewed every day renewed says that in t 40 years you didn't have to replace what's is is the is the gowns or dresses but for men not just for women now 40 years we didn't have to go to the bathroom 40 years we have to change our clothes now this Mana you would think well if I eat the same thing for 40 years maybe I get bored but the beauty of this Mana it says that this Mana in SE Numbers chapter 11 verse number seven the Mana was like coriander seed and its color was like the color of the bolak the people would stroll and gather it and grind it in the mill pound it in into in a mortar and cook it in a pot and make it into cakes and The Taste was like the taste of dut kneaded with oil when the dud descended upon the camp at night the Mana would descend upon it so on one hand the sages say that this Mana tasted like anything you want you thought about ice cream it tastes like ice cream you thought about steak it tasted like steak you thought about ice cream with steak on top of it that's what it tasted whatever you thought in your mind you don't have to say it you have to write a letter to hm dear hasem tomorrow please uh send M mana and a taste of eggs with cheese and a little bit of turkey bacon kosher from from the rabbi over here no there's no order what you thought is what it tasted like live meaning first bite you thought about ice cream it tastes like ice cream second bite you want steak it tastes like steak third bite you want some eggs it tastes like eggs fourth bite you want eggs and cheese too tastes like whatever you wanted that's how it tasted like so then there's a question if it tasted like whatever you want naturally what why does the PUK say that they gathered it they grinded it they cooked it they fried it for what why you grinding it while you cooking if it already taste like anything you want what do you want it taste like chicken cutlets think chicken cutlets snitel from ra Leana taste delicious not so much delicious what do you want you you want chicken cage I have chicken cage you want buas like we have over here you talk about it from Mount saai it tastes like buas whatever you wanted that's what it tastes so what are you cooking what are you frying for what who can give me an answer Noy they're not but it tastes like anything you want tastes better than what made it tell me why why would they feel better put an effort so wait so if I told you okay I can give you a million dollars for doing nothing I give you a million dollars for working really hard you rather go work hard so why are you different than them no different okay next it's a good question it's a good answer but we have to test ourselves no somebody else an answer I know somebody in the back has like a secret answer I think you guys learned cabalo in the back over there no who has an answer huh physical physical pleasure physical pleasure you like cooking no what they like cooking well they different than you no in the back in the back forget how to cook they don't want to forget how to cook why do I need to not a cooking for the if the food is cooking for me e m so instead of cooking every day cook once a month they say it Cooks every day behind you yes you deserve a million dollars for that answer I'll give you payments my dear friend just gave us an answer from the Z the zad says something extraordinary you gave us an answer worth a million dollars says is they had a gift from a they got a gift from shm said I'm going to give you food whatever you like you want candy it taste like candy you want Bas taste like Bas you want candy with Bas in it no problem whatever you want you have but it says that the the who's the the is the part of the people that did not have did not have so they just simply didn't believe didn't believe that it could taste like anything no come on it's going to taste like ice cream also no it tastes like ice cream I have to put some ice in it new Kam's gonna taste like schnitzel n come on for anything to tastes like schnitzel it requires oil new Kam's gonna taste like barbecue without putting it on the fire on the grill how is it going to taste like barbecue they rationalized A's blessing and they cooked it and they fried it and they did this and they did that andad says these people were fools why were they fools they took their blessing that a gave them and they ruined it they ruined it because after all of their toil after all of their cooking after all of their effort what did they end up getting they got something that was less than the original they got cakes which was the least level of taste and deliciousness of the man there's of deliciousness this level of greatness of this man the highest level was how it came if you believe that a could do anything if you believe that could do anything you can think about anything that's what the man tasted like the texture The Taste the whatever you wanted that's what it would be but if you didn't believe and you cooked and you fried and you did this you ruined the blessings so what do you get yes it's still a food from Heaven yes it's still delicious but it's the least level it's like a cake you buy from the gas station after you're really hungry after a fast that's what it is it's still good it's a banana flavor but it's not man from Heaven it's not the same you ruin the blessing because of your lack of so what is this like this is like the fools that we see around us that work too much thinking that AOS who needs their help that who needs their help people forget that yes you're supposed to have is effort yes but the only reason why you have to have is effort is because of the curse of of from the sweat of your brow you'll bring bread you'll have bread meaning that you'll have to sweat for your bread meaning that to work hard manual labor is a curse it's not a blessing it's not a blessing to go work 18 hours a day on Wall Street or in some bank or in UPS or wherever it's not a blessing it's a curse yeah but Rabbi I need to make a living so who says you need to work 18 hours so how do we know how much isot is too much isot how do I know how much effort is too much effort there's a line what's that line the norm normal amount of effort normal job is 9 to5 that's Norm eight hours that's as much as you're supposed to allow the curse to in to infiltrate into your life a minute more a minute more is now you are becoming a on curses instead of becoming because becoming more stringent on blessings you're becoming more stringent on curses bringing more curses on yourself yeah but what about if I need more money and the 9 to5 is not enough who says that the money has to come from your job somebody came to the my store is not making enough money now if you saw the store this pictures next to to his store it's like a m a little hole in the wall but he knew how to make enough to survive he didn't live a lavished life he didn't even allow his his wife thean to put Tils on the floor why it has to stay dust has to stay sand why says if you put towels on the floor maybe you're not going to want guests to come to the house because they're going to ruin your floor so just leave it as dust leave it as it is but said somebody came to him one time asking him I have a store it's not enough it's not bringing enough P to my family so I'm thinking of opening a second store so starts laughing says no no really seriously I need more money it's serious it's because no no I was laughing because you reminded me of a story from my childhood he was why what happened in your childhood because when I was a kid we had this sh this this drunk in a neighborhood that Not only was a drunk but he was the type of drunk that like to give people advice you know some people are drunk they're quiet they're in the corner but some people they're drunk but they like to talk to everybody you know they want to hug you they want to kiss you they want to you know they want those types of people it was one of those people in our neighborhood he's not only drunk but he likes to give people advice with his drunkenness and every time his advice was funnier than the next so one time there's a guy that was uh selling uh wine for a barrel so he goes up to the wine guy he says you're not doing good the guy poor guy is all day waiting for somebody to buy wine for him he knows he's not doing great but he's making a living whatever he can cuz no the drunk guy tells him no he don't know how to do business CU okay why don't I know how to do business he says you're not selling enough I think you should add another fet to it another thing out of it that way you can have double the prophets so the guy tells him the guy selling the wine goes listen I may no I may not be a genius or a entrepreneur or anything or some uh uh finance major but I know that uh it doesn't matter how many holes I have in the barrel it's still the same Source it doesn't matter how many holes it's still going to be the same amount of profit because it's the same source so the drunk guy says no no no you don't know what you're talking about Let Me Explain again you have one hole now in the barrel on the right if you make one on the left double the prophet see I just I should get a half I should get that half he goes no no you don't they go back and forth back and forth and little little is watching he's laughing this crazy this he's trying to explain this guy business the other guy's trying to get him out of the place he's bothering him and the guy's convinced this is business advice at the end the drunk says them see that's what you're poor that's why you pour you know what you're doing and he leaves so the says to the guy that came to him he says you remind me of that story you think that a is going to give you more money if you open a second store the reality is the source is still the same no matter what you do you open one store two stores five stores or 10 stores Thea was already written in sh Thea was already written says already decides how much how much money you going to make on The Source stays the same no matter how many storefronts you have so what makes you think it's going to change so of course everybody is gon to say wait a minute what about effort what about is everybody likes to do is remember that is is part of the curse it's not part of the blessing your is has to be up to the extent of Norm not above the norm don't be stringent on yourself in regards to the curse be stringent on yourself as far as the blessing make sure you spend time and effort on the blessing part if I told you why don't you become more stringent on only eat he said no that's too much okay why don't you be a more stringent on uh on make sure that you don't even hand a baby to your wife when she's n oh no that's too much okay why don't you be more stringent on you li and you're learning make sure that when you learn you're not talking two hours straight learning without talking no that's too much okay so all the Kusa all the good things you don't want to be stringent on but the curse you want to be stringing on this is like am that even though they just heard a speak at Mount saai many of them not have the required amount of that when push came to shave when the man came they simply could could not accept the blessing for what it is they had to ruin it they had to interfere with it so even when a wanted to give them a blessing even when wanted to give them good they were so used to being a part of everything doing is in everything working hard on everything toiling on everything trying with everything having their hand in everything that when Hashem simply gave them a hand out they couldn't accept it they couldn't accept it if you're going to continue laughing making a joke you could leave that wasn't a joke so the is that when wants to give you a blessing wants to give you a blessing you can accept it or you could reject it but if you have it's easy to accept why you had confidence that is blessing you the whole time even though when it didn't look that way even when it didn't look like a blessing you knew it was a blessing but if you don't have you don't have confidence in hem both the blessing and the curse look the same to you you can't tell the difference you can't tell the difference why because even if he gives you a blessing he gives you a woman you're looking for a woman for 10 years you're alone you're already in your 30s you're already in your 40s you're looking for a z every woman you may you meet that has three heads has four arms has a personality from everything she finally you meet finally you meet she nice she already has before even getting married she so she so she's already covering before marriage that's not but she decided to be like the rambam the rambam says already it's six years old cover your hair six years old single not married single cover your hair at 6 years old but we don't go by that say no only if you're married but she wants to be like yanites you meet a is like this after all the that you that you met for the last 10 years all you met is all the you met them finally you meet blessing you think um no no something's wrong something's wrong no no no something's wrong why she she's too nice she's too nice what do you mean she's too nice n she's too nice she's too nice something's wrong maybe she's a serial killer no she not a serial killer I know already for five years what serial killer walking what do you want from her no no she's too nice to she I don't know something's wrong here uh you sure she's Jewish what Jewish she goes all the way to the seat of David what Jewish already I have David sign an autograph for her what do you want oh I don't know you sure maybe you know what she's a blond maybe I want a brunette she's a brunette maybe I want a blonde you know she's she's too tall no she's too short no she's too what gave you a blessing a blessing and you don't even know how to accept it why you have no you have to be involved so what happens with those guys one of two things one they stay single 40 45 50 at 50 55 they end up marrying the cleaning lady why she's already divorced three times and she she needs somebody to to to to take care of her so she marries you she cleaned your house 25 times she figured instead of you uh keep giving me I us because you don't have any money I'll just marry you he ends up marrying a cleaning lady or better yet he says you know what the system doesn't work for me I'm going to go my old way what's the old way he's going to go back to the clubs go look for is in the clubs go go look for is in a nightclub in bar now before the shoe I told you guys a you guys that were here early that till this day I still have the same phone that I've had already for five six years but it's not because the phone is that great that it actually survived five six years they break like once once a year twice a year sometimes but I like the model it's small and uh I keep buying it but also because it's cheap but they don't make it anymore so what I do I buy a refurbished model sometimes secondhand but that's a phone so instead of me going to Apple or some company and spend $1,000 on a brand new phone I buy a used one or a refurbished one that's technically used broken and then they fixed it and they rehashed it and they sell as as as a uh as another product I buy for $100 but that's a phone you see with a phone you can make that exception you can go you break it you go you buy used one for $100 no problem but with a wife or a husband you can't do that if you're going to go and look for your spouse in a club in a bar in the streets out of after a whistle at a baseball game if you picked her up random guess what you're buying a used product why because if she answered your call if he answered your call they probably answered 25 before you they had 25 owners before you the problem is is that sometimes a person doesn't understand a blessing when it's staring him in the face wants to give you a no one ever used no one ever touched no one ever even looked why she preserved herself but you have no no I have to find her myself I have to find her myself where are you going to find her oh in a baseball game okay if you found her 25 other guys found her also there's 162 games in a year if you insist on finding your spouse the so-called secular old-fashioned way you should know you're ruining the blessing the traditional way of is is to find your spouse in a Kosher Way in a way that doesn't it's not random it's set up it's structured it's blessed and it's not one of those things that's immodest but sometimes when a person has too much confidence in their own efforts where they want to get involved too much they ruin the blessing that gives them now I'll finish with a story and then you guys can ask any questions you want but many of the stories of the Holocaust that I try to tell you that I hear from my r or reading books are usually not known to many for whatever reason or another it seems like am is only likes to have a Memorial Day for the Holocaust in in theory very few actually read about it now some of thead that died through the Holocaust whether it's shalom or many of the other sadik that we've spoken about in the past they actually they actually give a fantastic testimony of not only what happened there but also what's written in the Torah about the of a Jew he lived to the Holocaust and wrote a couple of a uh wrote a five volume book about Alik decisions he pined in the concentration camps now my told me some of these that he judged on I'm telling you it's like having a in horrible horrendous stories of what people would do and went through and how they got tortured I give you a small example one guy comes to the says the Nazis said that anybody that goes to uh goes to the uh shul because they lived in like it wasn't a uh Barracks it was like a mini City but still surrounded by the Nazis any Jew that goes to the synagogue will get punished some died some were mutilated he says well I had to go to the synagogue and once the Nazis found out they came to the house and they crushed my testicles front of the family in front of the kids they says the fact of the pain and the agony and all that stuff that's fine I'm just worried about one thing I'm a he says I'm a am I still allowed to do because it says the cannot be a BAL cannot have a deformity cannot have a deformity but all right I'm already suffering I'm already not going to have any more kids I'm already in Hell already but can I still at least be allowed to do legitimately wrote a whole that he's allowed who can have the the the mind the clear mindset and focus to write 50 100 different sources to prove that this is allowed to go against all the I mean things like that when you you're surrounded by G all types of things that were vicious and you see amazing things one of the things that he writes about is that they asked him another question they said the Nazi says that we're not allowed to go to synagogue can we be absolved from this Mitzvah because they said that anybody that goes they're going to kill Himi writes he says even though we have three things in the Torah three things that Tor says die but don't sin if somebody tells you to go worship an idol die but don't sin somebody tells you go kill somebody die but don't sin your blood is not better than theirs somebody tells you to go make a Sex crime die but don't sin this three main things but the Torah also says that this is during normal times when it's one-on-one one puts the gun to the head and says drive on Shabbat I kill you you're allowed to drive but somebody tells you go to a church or I kill you you're not allowed you have to die but that's when it's one-on-one if it's in front of people or it's it's the it's it's time where there's a de on the world and it's their Des they're destroying Jews everywhere they're killing people everywhere he says even on a you have to die for on AAG what's AAG the ram says if there's AAG to tie your right foot and then your left foot and the g say if you tie your right foot and then your left foot first I'm going to kill you go with the left foot first you have to go with the right foot anyway even though your life on the line why because so says says even though going to is not it's not a Biblical mitvah because it's you have to go and sacrifice your life just to go to synagogue and he writes who are the ones that made the biggest sacrifices to go to sh who are the ones that made the biggest sacrifices to go to sh you and I would answer logically all theim all the religious they all this maybe they were religious before they're religious now right he gives a of he says the ones that will literally put their lives literally on the line fighting to go to sh were the ones that used to be K the the secular they literally died just to go to sh he says this doesn't make any sense you didn't go to sh before the Holocaust you were married to go you married to go why you going to shol here nonetheless why you putting your life on he says this proves us this proves to us that every Jew no matter where he was has a nit has a spark in him of kadus that at the moment of truth he could implement it he could push it he could actually shine not everybody but some of them that allowed that spark to shine shine at that moment of truth and that's why anyone that wants to say that all six million died on Kem no one argues it's not because of just the tragedy of six million Jews dying but literally that you could learn on them where you know that every single one of them that was in the concentration camps that saw the horrors especially after you see it in your own eyes of what they went through you learn about it you read about it no one is going to stay rash after seeing that but that's not the same as other events that have happened whether it be Pittsburgh or other massacres that have happened that were momentary not uh you know uh an extended period of time but you see that at the moment of truth that the Jews there were did CH and were literally willing to die just to go toet this book is M unbelievable it's five volumes I'm learning it with my r a little bit it's something that's uh I mean first of all I'm thinking how do you even write this stuff and you're in the Holocaust yourself it's not like he's writing after the fact oh he's in it also with them how do you have Yeshua how do you have Focus to write all these sources this bullets everywhere there's people dying every day this is now the Holocaust is one of the most recent tragedies that have happened to is but much of the lessons unfortunately people forget about one story that I heard from today will put things in perspective there the Mel desinger he was fromit Alexander and he wrote several books most famous was a book named now theel he unfortunately got burned and killed by the evil Nazis in 1943 in the gas Chambers but one of his tells a story of the last moments cuz he was there and he said says when they were on a train going to trinka the miniature Gom on Earth everyone knew you go there you arrive you die it's not your vacation spot but one of his says I don't know when we're going to get there whether it's 2 minutes or two hours or two days but while we're here give me a look at the that lived in that generation today you have to beg people to come to back then they're on the way to dying say give me give me something so the says to him off top of his said he says give me a commentary on a in chapter 92 verse number three very famous well-known that we read in prayer where the says to relate your kindness in the morning and your faith in the night so the admo says what does it mean this P to say that is saying I relate your kindness in the morning is good but then he says that AEM a hasem relates his amuna his faith in us at night it should say we have Amai in him in the morning we publicize it we learn about it we do whatever we need to do and then also at night we have inem but it doesn't say that it says that we have amuna in him in the morning we get all of the kindness of Hashem we publicize about all the kindness that gives us in the morning in the day and at night at night has in us what does this mean you can say what I've said in previous that yes goes to theama who doesn't want to come to your body because it's already in a better place and it says hm I don't want to go back but hem forces that to come back but the admo says no no no this is not the same why here it's talking about nights meaning this is plural many nights an extended period of time says that he has faith in you during these many nights says the on the way to the guest Chambers and theid that survived it told the story the one that heard it survived it miraculously survived it and told the story he says every single good that you have he custom mates for you every good that you have your wife your husband your kids your money your food your diet your eyes your vision your hearing your everything you have that's any good who customizes for you you remember him you remember him for all the good things you remember gave me all the good I have this month I was able to pay rent my if my kids are overweight already there's so much food in the house everybody thank you you have to be a donkey not to remember for all the good but then it says says but he has faith in you at night what does it mean he has faith in you at night one day night will arrive Darkness will arrive the darkness of a test a difficult one one you never thought you had to experience in your life one you never thought even your enemy should experience in your life that test that's going to be longer than you thought is even imaginable a test that you never thought you should endure anyone should endure or it even exists also customized that test for you because he has that you will overcome that night you will overcome those nights and you'll come back to thank him for his kindness this is being told to on the way to the gas Chambers if that's not bet what is you see it's easy to have when times are good the reason why we learn B is because most times are not good most times are difficult if you acquire B early on and you learn the Tor and you apply it in your life on a day-to-day basis like the BET says like all of our say like commands us that you arrive at the Tora in the morning and at night then that that faith in that confidence that knows what he's doing not only in the easy things but also in the difficulties the difficulties that you don't want to endure that you never asked for that you never want even when you got it when you have you'll actually pass the test with flying colors you'll live a life of gun even though some parts of it to the others from the outside looks like G it looks terrible wow look he's going through a rough time oh what happened to him oh what happened to him everybody's talking what happened to him what happened to him but the the person has is walking around smiling hey how are you how are you every was like something's wrong with him maybe he lost it maybe he lost it that's why he's smiling he just after all the test that Hashem gave him he officially lost his mind that's why he's smiling no he has she has she's smiling because she has if you acquire you live ganed you living a life of ganed why because despite the problems you'll know that the problems come from the same place of the solution provides both and they're both custom made for you but if you think that life is supposed to be some walk in the park without problems without difficulties without any complications then you're simply setting yourself up for failure and what ends up happening with such people is that when those problems happen they're going to want to fix things on their own so even when a sends them the blessing sends them the solution they're not going to accept it on their own they're not going to accept it by they're going to want to customize it he feels alone he's going to send him a zuk finally after 20 years no no no she's too nice she feels alone she finally send a zuk after 20 years no no I don't know maybe uh he thinks you know maybe he's too arrogant what you haven't spoken to him yet yeah but I looked at his face from the picture oh you could tell he's arrogant from the picture that's you could tell already you could tell all you even can't tell that he's arrogant from the picture but you can sometimes gives us blessings if we don't have that he knows what he's doing we won't know how to accept him we won't know how to accept the blessings and for sure whenever the nights the dark times whenever they come and they do come at everybody's life we're not going to know how to deal with them because we've tried to manage everything on our own and alone instead of dealing with every single day when it was easy when it wasn't easy anybody have any questions yes what's the best advice people that the best advice is stop it that's the best advice but people are not going to listen to that best advice because it's too simple really the only way to acquire is to Simply fulfill the the is known for studying starting even though is already mentioned in thear he started a formal type of and all of the of today whether it's or a ghoulish and so on all of them start with b what was his main principle what was the main thing that the Bal shov already as a teenager 13 14 years old taught other kids he was a teacher's assistant at 12 years old what do he teach other kids he says you have an obligation of what's glue yourself to that's your obligation how do you glue yourself to ish how do you glue yourself to the fire is fire how do you how do you uh how do you glue yourself the fire he says first and foremost learn his T day and night as often as you can whenever you can learn this T every single day you don't learn this T the rest of what I say doesn't apply to you why is not possible for somebody it doesn't learn about hm in order to glued to hm first you have to recognize where who and what he is the only way you can recognize is by reading his instructions meaning that learning T is not a suggestion it's an obligation of a connection to Hashem there is no connection to hem without learning TOA it's impossible anyone that tells you connect to hm without learning tah is lying to you it's impossible why hasem said it Hashem said you want to connect to me you have to glue yourself to me how learning my Torah but then there's another the is to glue yourself to glue yourself to people that have learned this Torah much more than you have for many years and know what they're doing and have and have why because if you're G to try to do everything on your own eventually you're going to make a mistake who you going to go to hasm is not going to answer you you're not a prophet you have to connect meaning that once you connect to a on a daily basis you're already going to know that at some point you're going to start seeing how hasem played a role in all different people's lives in different ways this looked dark and then it became light this looked dark and then it became light everybody's story started dark and then it was light then it was dark again then it was light and you see how Hashem played a different role in different people's lives whether it's thead whether it's the uh from thear or from the Tor or from the uh throughout all of our uh Exile the last couple thousand years and so on and so forth you learn the stories of how was glued to these throughout ages and how through Darkness was still there and you start learning how to apply these things to your life so when something similar happens in your life you already know that even though it's not exactly the same story it is the same exact asem the story may not be the same because it's customized to you but the Hashem is the same doesn't change so you learn how to apply all of these different stories all of these different lessons to your life why because you're constantly learning about this you're constantly learning about abob MAV and so on and so forth all the way through the stories of theik all the way through today even the the sikim that lived now or lived in the previous generation you learn from these people and about these people and you start understanding that okay they all have a common element they all try to do whatever Hashem wants them to do so what does want to do so you start fulfilling the mitvah that way also so you start not only going and learning from these people but also emulating them trying to do what they're doing in your own level and little by little you start feeling removed from your past why because now your past was not connected to Hashem your present is connected to hem and as time passes and as you learn more and as you connect to more and more tadim and as you learn more from these sikim you get closer and closer to because it's not just kiss my hand no mean people teaching you to not just somebody just comes and uh you know gets some stock from a bunch of people collects $100,000 and leaves no somebody that's teaching you Tora someone is doing good things and so on point being is you connected you learn from the you learn from all these people you fulfill what they you do what they do that way you get closer to when you get closer to you're going to know how to appreciate the blessings and the curses because they're both both blessings in the end you're going to see the blessings that you have and you're going to start recognizing them for what they are many people Don't Count Their Blessings many people don't even realize they have blessings in their life I remember when I first started out I was going through a very very hard time and my RAV did something that I found extremely annoying but he was right he said wow you have so much I said what so much I just lost $2 million this morning what so much he goes you know somebody was willing to pay a lot more than $2 million for one eye he has one eye he wants another eye he wants another eye he has one eye he wants another eye and uh he's willing to pay a lot more than $2 million you have $4 million minimum why he's want if he's will to pay more than $2 million that means that the ey is worth at least two2 million you have two you have $4 million it was very annoying to me at the time cuz I was going through a fire and it's painful and I'm not thinking about the blessing that way I'm thinking about money physicality but in reality it's true we don't realize how much people are willing to pay for the stuff we take for granted your eyes your your ears your your ability to hear your ability to speak your ability to think your ability to walk your ability to eat your ability to function the fact that you're young healthy and so on and so forth people take that for granted they think no no I was born that way like you created yourself so people forget to count their blessings count the things they have which is a definite pattern which will eventually make you ungrateful for a lot of other blessings that will give you you'll have $500 in your pocket but you'll be upset that he has a thousand or that you don't have a thousand so you have to first and foremost by gluing yourself to you start learning about how to appreciate everything not just the things that are obvious like you won the lotto therefore you should be grateful no no you already we have the lot without a ticket you're alive many people died you know that there's almost 19 million people that go to sleep and don't wake up every day I'm sorry every year 19 million people 19 million people die every year Rabbi Google told me 19 million people that's a lot of people they about hundreds of thousands of people every single day they go to sleep they don't wake up you went to sleep you woke up tomorrow you're going to go wake up Bas now if you told those people listen how much money you have in the bank 500,000 5,000 5 million 5 billion all types of people die everybody dies billionaires Millionaires and poor people everybody dies at some point you ask any one of those people how much money you have in the bank give me all that and take it on margin double it borrow the money double the money I'll give you one more day to live yes or no everybody says yes for one more day then you have for free then you have for free meaning if Steve Jobs had $10 billion when he died then he died he had nothing he had negative balance in sh because he was an atheist but if you told them I'll give you one more day to live for $20 billion meaning not only your current money but your future earnings I'll give it to you why one more day that me that your life is worth at least $20 billion the point being we don't appreciate life we don't appreciate what we have when you glue yourself to first and foremost you learn how to start saying thank you for all of the gifts you already have you start looking for stuff that you have and say wow I forgot to say thank you for this I forgot to say thank you for this thank you for this thank you for this all of a sudden you feel rich that's why I always recommend as a side note every single time you have something good in your life happen you miraculously arrive to an appointment on time you were supposed to be late there was traffic there was a flat tire there was this there was that but you arrive on time somehow miraculously you have my time or miraculously you find the money that you didn't have or miraculously you meet somebody you needed to meet something Miracle happens take a little notebook write it down in one two sentences short call it the book of Miracles write your own personal Miracles something happens write it next time happens the next day some write it a week later write it two weeks later write it guess what eventually you're going to start seeing two three four five six pages of this stuff okay so you wrote what's the big deal one day the yet is going to arrive hey I'm here to depress you I'm here to dep with depression Department I'm here with the depression Department you just lost all your money your girlfriend left you your boyfriend left you the dog died the bus fired you all the bad things in the world are happening to you guess what at that moment when depression Department arrived you open the little book of Miracles and you count your blessings look what happened here look what happened here look what happened you start reliving all those Miracles all of a sudden depression Department goes on strike hey we don't go in place like this no no we won't go why you guys are too happy you thinking about miracles it's good if you don't have a good memory it's good to have that if you have a good memory it's also good to have it good to have a book like this why you remind yourself of all the things all the things that you live through and were blessed to have so that's number one when you glue yourself to you start learning how to Simply say thank you for the things that you take for granted second thing is is that when you glue yourself to you also start learning how to handle the the spears of fire that comes from Heaven as a tun as a test different problems different troubles is testing you for different reasons and when you have in you're going to know how to deal with that if you don't have with inem you're not glued to hem You're simply going to be like one of those helpless victims just sits there and waits for the fire to stop stop guess what it's not stopping it's not stopping until you get up and do something about it it's not going to depression is not going to stop by itself whether the it's a financial depression or an emotional depression or a psychological dep any type of depress it doesn't stop by itself loneliness does not stop by itself you don't just wake up one day like oh I feel happy no you don't wake up that way you don't wake up that way loneliness is not something that solves itself it also doesn't require another person either it requires a change of chup CH little screw in your head to understand what you're doing in this world the point is is that if you Glu to a you're going to know that these Spears of fire these difficult things whether it be Financial or it be emotional or be whatever it is it's coming from Hashem and if I am to glue myself to Hashem I'm going to learn how to deal with these if you don't glue yourself to hasem you're not going to know how to do it and when it happens you're easily going to do what unfortunately many people do which is instead of finding the solution through the Torah and through you're going to actually use it against AEM you're going to use it as a way to disconnect from hm because that's exactly what the Satan wants he wants you to disconnect from hasem that's the point of all of his efforts is to disconnect you and distance you away from hasem he supposed to be the pressure he's the weights when you lift weights the Satan is the weights now with him everything is heavy it's hard but without him there's no point without the waight there's no point there's no point to life there's no pressure you're not going to know if you're lifting you're not lifting it's it's like air so you need the but you also need a t by itself is fire you can't beat them you can beat them and that's the point that's that's the the whole purpose of in general is to give you the tools not when you think you need them but when you need them but you need to get them when you don't think you need them you need to acquire them now every day you learn to every day this is the only way everybody else is just selling you a uh bag of tricks everything else that people are telling you that oh yeah but if you remain uh psychologically positive then good things will happen yeah theoretically it it it should work that way and if you smile for 20 minutes straight by and look at yourself in the mirror theoretically it should improve your mood yes for an hour psychologically does if you look at yourself in a mirror smile and you st smile for 20 minutes look at yourself in a mirror while smiling 20 minutes it'll improve your mood if you're really really angry and you look yourself in a mirror smiling you're forcing yourself to smile it'll improve your mood but for an hour two that's it it's not going to change your life if you're upset thear says look at the face of a baby look at why babies are cute and made them really really cute you're really upset you look at a baby all of a sudden you're not really that upset anymore you're look him for longer you're not upset at all you look him for longer you're happy but again these are temporary solutions it's a Band-Aid on a heart a you understand it's not it's not something that is going to be a long lasting solution a longlasting solution is and that's what the B and all of the from the ofu all the way to today that's their main message people different people deliver the message in different ways that's the point of M that's the point of that's the point of everything that from the is to get glued to that's the point but there is a way there is a pattern and there are certain things that are required to be glued to hasem without being scared of him is not possible to be glued to hasem without having in him is not possible to be glued to hem only purely out of of is not possible possible to be glued to hem and only when there's good things not possible there are certain things there certain screws that are needed in order to build this Foundation One screw is missing the whole ship falls down and that's why we need to constantly concentrate on the foundational parts that uh we don't have so it's a simple answer is what I told you in the beginning two words but no one's going to listen to that one maybe they'll listen to the longer answer maybe they'll listen to the longer answer next question anybody okay we have our next year on uh Tuesday in aventur in Sunny a in Avent Torah uh and then Wednesday we're back over here doing our questions and answers series thank you again for learning with me amen amen e e e [Music] I [Music] n [Music] [Applause] [Music] he yeah [Music]