Why Should Every Wife Send Her Husband to Learn Torah? (13 Minutes)

[Music] so the wife needs to understand that every single time that she learn that her husband learns T she gets a bigger more than him this is why when Raba shalom when he met his wife he was meaning he knew nothing how much is nothing nothing most people say I don't know nothing but they still know how to pray they don't know nothing but if you ask them uh what do you say at the end of a blessing he say I'm in so you know something nothing nothing what's nothing says didn't know Al bit but his wife Rael before she married him she saw him working for her father Kal Kalb was one was very righteous and one of the three one of the three richest people of all to such an extent that all three of them financed am so one day she sees this AKA guy working in uh for our father cleaning horses that's what what he did cleaned horses and she saw how he treats the horses such a nice guy then there's a famous story where it says someone worked for and at the end of his uh term was was a few years he wanted to collect his money and says I don't have I don't have he goes oh you have maybe you can give me some uh fruit maybe you should give me some carpets maybe you should give me this he kept giving him excuses of why he doesn't have it he said okay no problem and he left later on we find out that all of the excuses that he had were legitimate and ended up paying him but nonetheless we find out that the employee was RAB AKA Raba showing that RAB AKA despite knowing no Torah whatsoever he had good midot he had good character traits so um ra which was a ick it and almost 20 years younger than him 20 years younger than him she says listen I'll marry you just go to learn Torah because you have already something that's very hard to get you already have good midot usually good mid you only get with t if you already have good mid before Tor oh wow what I'm going to have once you have some Tor in you yeah but I'm 40 and I don't know how to read and I don't know how to write and I have a kid from a divorced marriage and a this and a that I have all these problems I don't have any money I'm poor I'm broke you go to learn toah yes okay go learn to they got married got really upset he says you can get do you can get the greatest you you're the daughter of someone that's righteous you're the daughter of someone that's rich you're the daughter of someone that's famous what are you going with my employee that's cleaning horses it's illiterate that's divorced that's 20 years older than you why say he has good midot says I don't agree with you I'm going to disown you disown she made a decision she was a strong woman this own know this own I'm going with him and she endured a huge test because as soon as they got married told him AKA now it's your time to fulfill the deal go learn tah so he goes to the kindergarten because you know Al he can't go he doesn't go to Yesa they're not going to accept him goes to kindergarten kindergarten Al learning but in the beginning they thought he was the teacher hi Rabbi I Rabbi then they see him sitting with them he's sitting with them they start making fun of him hey sabba sabba old man you know grandfather used to call him he got so upset he left goes I'm not going back I'm not going back it's not for me embarrassment they're making fun of me all the little kids they're four five six seven years old making fun of me so okay fine do me a favor take our donkey we have a little donkey balm donkey it's has a deformity this donkey has a hole on its back has a hole in its back says do me a favor take this donkey to the market before you take him to the market put some mud some um sand or whatever some ground into it and uh put some seeds in the hole there's a hole like a little cup imagine there's the back of the of the of the donkey there's a hole just put some mud in there put some seeds and water it maybe a flow is going to come out of it and go in the market maybe somebody give you money for this special donkey that has a plant on its back what is he going to do me skin what is he going to do that's what he does he puts the plant after a few days she says no how's the donkey goes donkey's good she goes are they still is anybody making fun of you anything goes well you know at the first day everyone looked at me like look at this donkey where this guy watering the donkey and they came to see everybody came to see what kind of donkey has a plant on him this where'd you get this home deep where'd you get this from which aisle I want to get a donkey with a plant on it beginning everybody was very excited second day a little less third day no one cares she was exactly exactly first day they going to make fun of you in the kindergarten second day okay a little less people calling you sabba third day you're one of the classmates go back to school he says he's right went back to school learned stayed there and went away he didn't come home every day like us every day we go we do what we got to do we come home dinner kids play this that no he went 12 years straight 12 years straight today you go 12 minutes without calling or texting your wife it's why don't you call where you with another girl you with somebody you cheating on me where you going did you fly away what's happened 12 minutes 12 years he went after 12 years he comes back and he over hears this rash neighbor talking to his wife trying to seduce her trying to get us like Hey listen what are you with this guy for he left you maybe he died maybe he's with another girl maybe he's this maybe he's that come with me I got money I got this I got that look what you look how you're living you're living in a barn a horse barn your next door neighbor is a horse your closest friend is a cow what what are you have what do you have with this guy you haven't even seen him in 12 years who knows she says if he knew what I really wanted he would go for another years AKA loved his wife and valued his wife so much it's hard for us to understand this he loved us so much that he he didn't even go and say hi hi honey I'm here I'm home let me hang out for a couple days and I'll go back for another 12 years no he turned around went back for another 12 years 24 years later he comes back with 24,000 students Rael knows this has something to do with Raba Rael knows it has to do something with doesn't know he's the rabbi she knows it's a big Rabbi coming to town with 24,000 students I mean this is something where the least of the students can revive the Dead the least one little baby could ride the dead Rabbi of them is coming with the students has to make he's coming with his Yeshiva maybe he's one of the students who knows I'm going little does she know he's the rabbi now her she had she had to sell her hair she used to be a very beautiful woman she sold her hair so she get money to eat so imagine this woman looks disheveled she's young she's not so young anymore she's already in her 40s now she's not like when she married him she was 18 years old buba now she's 40 something years old already no hair no this poor M she tries to go through the crowd and see who's the rabbi heyy relax lady relaxa says no let her in your Torah and my Torah it's all hers everything is hers why only reason I'm here is because of her only reason I'm here is because of her anyone that understands this story even if you heard the story a thousand times you should hear it again why because we still fail to understand the significance of the story the significance of the story and why they succeeded for him to be of all the generations to such an extent thatu said why you give me T and give it to him give it to R he saw the future he says you can have somebody like this and the word you give me the Tor give it to him give it to R doesn't know how to read doesn't know how to write doesn't know nothing give it to him why he's going to be Riva why did ra get to marry such a guy what why each one knew their role he knew his role she knew her role and that's it and that's the thing if a if a woman understands if a woman understands that it's for her interest it's for her benefit to send and go through the hardship of not being with a husband as often as she would like but instead sending him to go learn Tor sending him to the send to go learn sending him to go learn she understands that's the that's ideal Everything Changes [Music] [Applause] [Music] do a [Music]