Why Mussar? First Of All Be A Human Being (13 Minutes)

m is more direct when you learn M it's more direct application to your actual life and everywhere whether it's business uh like we learned about last week or it's or it's um really anything it's uh like my father used to always tell us first of all be a human being then you can do whatever you want be rich be poor be this be that what first of all be a human being and in essence that's one of the things that we're forgetting in Torah Nation it's not just the secular world that has problems really you know behaving like human beings sometimes it's the religious people and uh I got a um a text from one of my other students who's uh very funny but uh he he texts me he says uh you're a prophet and I said what did I do he says I went to the mikve this morning and exactly what you said happens happens some was doing push-ups naked in in the mikve and this is what we talked about last week you have to understand that to go do a mitvah of going to the mik but then walk around immodestly walk around naked thinking oh I'm just among guys like you're in a football locker room you're making a much bigger sin a much bigger sin by doing that walking around naked not covering yourself thinking that it's okay cuz just among guys then the mitvah that you're making by going to the mik and as a matter of fact my who's amazing says he hasn't gone to a certain mik for five years already because of how people behave there and he lives in y it's not like he lives in a uh you know full of Arabs or something he lives in y unfortunately it say sometimes even the religious World forgets how to behave and the reason for that is because just like the ram says people like to delve into the Torah into things that are mentally stimulating into the into the M into different things of different parts of the but very few actually have the guts to look into mus and I say guts because in order to learn M you actually have to have guts why because M requires you to change okay so listen today you didn't know this Al now you know it fine okay so next year you'll have a better atog next year you'll keep one more in Shabbat next year you're going to do something better onot great what do you think hasm is clapping for you what is he clapping for he's clapping for when you stop being angry not because you're listening to some self-help book that's telling you contain all this anger inside and build cancer that's not that's not that's not a working on your med that just means that you just kept your anger and you're expressing it to the world not being angry angry means that you finally realize that there's no reason in the world to ever be angry to such an extent that the gar actually says anyone that's angry and let's say he takes this uh remote control or anything he throws it it's 100% just like he worshiped an idol that throwing of this remote or a pen or any expression of that anger is 100% idol worship so for the gar which is from hasem it's not for me Fromm Mount Si we got or also so for hasem to tell us here you throwing a remote because you got mad cuz your team lost you got mad cuz your stock went down you got mad because I don't know something happened and you threw something across the room you acted like an animal for about 3 seconds hoping it's only 3 seconds not the whole day Hashem says it's idol worship how could this be okay hashm listen I understand we got to do mitvah we got to look a certain way we got to act a certain way we got to be nice but come on no I got once in a while I can't get angry once in a while I can't say give the guy the uh the bird cuz he cut me off why I can't get angry no it's 100% idol worship that extent why because he says if you're angry that means that you think that everything is supposed to go your way and the reason why you're angry is because it didn't go your way you thought that the stock was supposed to go up when you bought it and it didn't you thought that the employee was supposed to be on time and he didn't come on time you thought that your wife is supposed to talk to you a certain way and she didn't you thought that the baby is not supposed to fall at one and a half years old and he did you thought you shouldn't get a flat tire and you did life happened life happened Hashem runs the world with without you and you got mad about it which means that you think that you're a minem because if you think that the world is supposed to run in accordance to your tune you're in essence saying that you're a minem and you've made yourself into an idol therefore if you actually put this into perspective and actually this is hard work this is not like you listen to the sh and tomorrow you're never going to be angry again this is you have to listen to the Shure and many many other like it for seven years straight and then you're not going to have anger Sal the one that started the musar movement said that it's much more difficult to for him to repair fix one midan then it is for him to finish the entire sh and finishing the entire sh takes seven years if you do du so I finish my point so the key here is that when you realize that there's never a real reason to be angry you won't listen to these self-help books that telling you this and just contain it don't express it to the world get over it meditate and one of these other crazy things that they tell you to do all they're telling you to do is just keep it inside don't tell people you're angry smile kill them with a smile no hasm is telling you no no you don't actually have a reason to be angry my son ever because once you realize I'm the one running the world you know that everything that happens I did it what are you mad at me for running my world what you to tell me what to do you mad at me for giving you a flat tire you mad at me for making your kid fall maybe I made your kid fall because you deserve the but I didn't really want to give you what you really deserve which meant something much much worse I said okay let him suffer a little bit over 3 years instead of Shalom the kid breaking in the leg he got a little scratch six times over three years it's much better than the kid breaking his leg you got a flat tire why cuz I saved you cuz there's an accident that I had to make down the road and I want to save your life so I made you have a flat tire and I saved your life so you can tell me how to run the world so when you get mad your in essence getting mad at theem and you're trying to tell them how to run the world in essence you made yourself into an idol so this is the reason why once we realize that we're never going to get mad well what's the question we ask questions yeah I believe in states that Hashem does get angry gets angry and it says in the he gets angry how long does he get angry a few other places it's like the second different in a second I gu an actual um yeah go ahead time you say that's how long gets angry what I learned now it also says that Hashem gets angry every day I believe right every day it also we are also supposed to emulate the mid of has right right palm of Hearts okay so what's the question so the question is are we allowed to get angry once every day no no why not all of the midot that there are according to the r and according to the um and all the that you have the r explains it in that all of the midot have extremes everything has an extreme every desire has an extreme is Extreme you know desire for money someone that loves money and someone that hates money neither one of them healthy so what's healthy Middle Ground is someone that loves women and someone that hates women neither one I'm healthy Middle Ground everything is good with middle ground except one Mida what's the Mida anger anger you have to be to the extreme of never being angry which is very difficult nonetheless I'm not telling you guys to become tomorrow but you have to know where to get to you have to know where to aim to why is anger something you have to be extreme from because nothing good could come out of it so what does it mean when thear says in a couple of different places that bam the way he knew the way he knew how to give his prophecy to give his curses and so on is because he knew the moment that hasem was angry which you could also figure out by looking at the rooster the rooster's uh uh I don't know what this part is called on top of our head it has a strip of white at a certain moment during a day it's called in in English in Hebrew Rea is not really a second because second second is actually a factor of time whereas AA is 11 15 uh 15,000th of a second nonetheless point is is that the um says that hasem uses this Rea uses this moment to get angry but it doesn't actually mean that Hashem gets angry but what it actually mean what kazal explains this because it can't be that hhm gets angry why because if hasm gets angry that means that hasm has emotions if Hashem has emotions that means that the emotions are stronger than him that means that the emotions are God so hm doesn't have emotions just like he doesn't have a strong hand you know it says hasem took us out of Egypt with a strong hand he doesn't have a strong hand just like he said to mosu you could see uh my back but you can't see my face because anyone that sees my face dies he doesn't have a face he doesn't have a back one of the you know 13 principles of faith is that AEM has no image and no likeness of an image so what does it mean when he says Hashem gets angry for a second or for it means that hasem uses and utilizes that moment to deliver all of the punishments on whoever deserves punishment for that day that's the time he uses to deliver all the punishments because obviously there has to be a moment during a day that hasem punishes us if it was throughout the entire day we wouldn't survive if he used the entire day to punish us for every single thing that we did we wouldn't survive a minute this is actually the reason why until this day am is is suffering from the golden calf we're still suffering today 3,300 years later about the golden calf that happened 3,000 years ago people you don't even know didn't has forgive us he gave us the the principles if he gave us by not destroying us he forgave us he said okay I'll forgive you m pleaded yes you know don't destroy us don't destroy okay fine I'll forgive you this is the way how how you know if if that's going to happen the next time that's when hasem taught us that correct me if I'm wrong yeah it's wrong so the the the correction is is that yes he did forgive us by not destroying us because mosu told him listen if you're going to destroy them hasem told them I'm going to start a new nation with you and M says I don't want you to start a new nation with me as a matter of fact wipe me out first eras me from your book first uh and hasem so Hashem obviously said okay so I I forgive them but it doesn't necessarily mean that he forgave them as far as forever what he forgave is by by Distributing the punishment over the length of this uh of this world's existence instead of delivering it in one moment or even one year because if he delivered the punishment in a shorter period of time it would be too much for us to absorb we would all die soem has not forgiven us has only has only said okay he's distributed he's distributed the punishment over a long period of time we're still suffer according to the we're still suffering for the golden calf until this uh until today uh until the mhia comes every single suffering that am is has including the fires that are happening in Israel including the Holocaust including the pilgrims including everything part of it not the only reason but part of of the reason of why it's happening is a for the golden CF you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com