Ways We Can Prevent Ourselves From Wasting Seed

[Music] so some of the suggestions I can give people as far as some things that I've mentioned people privately but not in the to to overcome this if a person has especially guys has a desire to do it says say first that doesn't work go open a book start learning Tor that doesn't work start thinking about this or the about G that talks about what's going to happen to you once you die sometimes even all those three things don't work so you could add some other things I'm going to mention to you now one thing is that when a person gets hot the first thing you need to do is get yourself cold go run into the shower cold shower no hot at all cold shower sometimes this is going to be just enough to cool you off and you're going to get back to normal so cold shower it is if that doesn't work then take your fingers and pinch yourself in a sensitive place in your body the back of your thigh the back of your arm don't cause yourself damage and bleeding it's not necessary just enough pain to stop and get yourself to think about something else now aside from that you have to also reward yourself for overcoming this not by buying yourself a new car every day but rather by writing a journal every day that you overcome it one day passes the next morning when you wake up after you do your prayers and everything else think about how good you feel that you overcame Another Day write down that good feeling in a journal one sentence five sentences whatever you need to describe yourself and describe that feeling why do you do this because you're going to need this book when the next time the yet comes back and you're already going for 60 days for 90 days for six months for a year and a half yet is not on vacation just because you're on vacation he's going to wait for you sometimes 20 years but if you're writing this journal for a long time he's going to come back say hold on a second you know what you make a lot of sense but let me see hold on a second hold on I like what you're saying hold on a second it sounds good one second wait but this makes more sense you make sense but your cents are really pennies this is dollars this is millions why I remember how I felt on day number 18 day number 19 day number 61 day number 187 look I wrote it I wrote how I feel after all these times it's I want that feeling because I know how I feel after I listen to you all of this opposite it's not worth it it's simply not worth it so you take yourself you write yourself a little Journal that's another way that you can overcome this remind yourself constantly of everything we learned in is I have a whole playlist on our YouTube channel on the website there's actually a tab that sadik actually made for us called wasting seed why all of the shim about wasting seed are over there you should be watching those shim on a monthly basis man female child adult Rabbi tal everybody should be watching this sh has nothing to do with me it's just easier to watch the sh that's going to give you 150 to 300 sources that go look at each individual Source yourself and look for that one line that's going to give watch these some of them are long some of them are short but you should be watching the sh on a regular basis to constantly remind yourself it's not worth it it's not enough to do it one time or two times or five times it's not enough you did it while you were single and now you stop when you were uh married by the way everybody that thinks that this sin goes away once you get married is wrong in fact I have more people that are addicted to it that I'm trying to help that are married than the ones that are single marriage doesn't solve this problem like some people think oh no no just get married as soon as possible I'll solve the problem it's not true it doesn't solve the problem number one you still have to deal with the fact that she's n for half the month what are you going to do I have many guys grown men tell me listen I do everything good but when she's N I can't take it that's the test you what do you mean you do everything good it's like saying I eat as long as I'm in the house but as soon as I go outside I don't need caselle what do you mean but that's the test that's the test when you're out there when it's when it's tough that's the test so you have to have you have to be scared to death you have to remind yourself of this stuff marriage is not going to fix that problem what's going to fix that problem is being afraid to lose everything your relationship with hem your marriage your kids your kids are going to what's going to happen to them what they're going to be why because this is what you're doing to yourself you can't blame God for this you have a kid that's coming out Bal is missing something it's not aem's fault it's not's fault so you have to understand these things that are hard to hear are the only thing that's going to protect us it's the only thing if you're not scared of your breit you're not going to treat it with respect you're going to look at it whenever you want which brings me to the next point that I've actually it's helped many many people far beyond what you would think as I advised you to do what R said and what he did in his life he wasad was called a kados because he never looked at his own B not didn't touch it only he never looked at it why not look at it if you look at it you become comfortable with it so what do you do as far as to uh clean yourself you don't need to touch yourself to clean yourself first and foremost use a spot sponge that's not exactly expensive Endeavor you go to the dollar store you get one for a dollar if you need we'll start a fundraiser for you to get the dollar okay get a sponge that's number one number two you don't need to actually touch the corona when you clean yourself so reality is most people say no it's for hygenic reasons you know yeah okay buddy I'm a guy also you don't need to there not a problem same thing with women don't get comfortable with yourself don't get comfortable with yourself there's no reason to get comfortable you have to do your business clean whatever you need to clean of course their body is completely the opposite of ours but don't get comfortable with yourself also make sure your kids are not comfortable with themselves I have little kids little kids that have uh don't realize it's bad their parents let them do whatever they want and they have an addiction already before they're 12 then people ask why is there so many so much tragedy in the world there's so much tragedy because we're killing already without knowing you want to be holy you have to do things like this that are difficult and no one is ever going to give you credit for it except AEM why because no one knows you're doing it if you're looking for mitv that everyone sees that's not going to make you sadik that's not going to make you righteous in fact it may be the opposite sometimes to be a real sadik to be kados to be a holy person requires you to do things that you're not going to get any credit from anyone except theem the things that you do in closed rooms the things you do in the bathroom this is extremely important for to know unfortunately we're left with only me to tell you you know but listen there was a thousand people saying the same thing and you wouldn't need to hear this and I'll give you a shield that scares you in a different way but uh if that's what we have in this generation that's what we have that we have a merit to do something but reality is it should be a thousand rabbis screaming and crying their hearts out telling am to stop destroying themselves all these divorces all of the heresy all the atheism all of the conversions of different religions all of this Zionism communist mentality all of it starts with this we destroy our own bed we're destroying our own Nation that's exactly what we thought we left behind in Egypt in last week's Paras we thought we left Egypt because Egypt was a symbolic of wasting seed G all of the sex crimes the reality is we're just as bad today as we were back then but today we have information we have a solution you simply have to watch yourself there are different websites and apps that going to help guys watch their eyes if you you know yourself that as soon as you look at something as soon as you look at somebody you're going to have all types of thoughts they're going to even lead you to a dream or something like that go on to websites like guard your eyes and some other similar websites we're going to get a list of them that we're going to publish soon one of the sadim from Canada is putting a list together for us to to publicize for people so you have different resources of how to watch your eyes the reality is some of these tools are useful for some people they're not useful for others because you can't have this software on some uh computers because you need it for work or otherwise the reality is is that you have to do everything you can to protect yourself but at the end of it all if you're not afraid to death nothing will help you I have one guy that we helped and and now I think he's going maybe two years already with it but he used to tell me listen I went to I went to K I learned all day I learned this I did everything possible I didn't even have a phone he said the phone that I had is the phone from the years of anti anti his phone number yeah had him all the phone had but so what happened he says but once a month I would go to my I don't know my mom's house or some relative's house to visit and they had a computer there or a phone there or something and I couldn't wait to go visit this relative that I couldn't stand just to go use their computers like do what I wanted meaning that all of these tools the software and the phone all that stuff it's all good but if you don't have if you're not scared to death to destroy your relationship with hem to destroy your to destroy your at some point you're gonna fail you have to be scared how by going over this information over and over and over again and realizing that hasem gave you the ability to enjoy life physically emotionally spiritually and so on but there's permissible ways and there's forbidden ways once you understand the consequence of every action you start realizing it's simply not worth it so this hopefully will give you some more ideas of what to do when the arrives uh there's many other ideas that I remember having on this or anyone that needs even more ideas of how to stop it or what to do more than happy to help if you're a very serious person uh but again remember the key is if you're not if you don't have nothing can help you nothing can help you even hasem himself is limited and he can't help you why if you're not afraid of him he can't help you [Music]