Torah Basics Explained: Rules for Prayer (26 Minutes)

[Music] e [Music] the next thing is to understand that to be part of a community to be part of a congregation is critical when it comes to prayer because unfortunately most of us can't have 100% cavana when we pray can't have 100% cavana when we pray sometimes we pray we have cavana we feel close to Hashem we feel like we're on fire but a good fire like it's amazing I love Hashem I'm connected to him I I remember what I learned I want to learn more I understand what I'm saying in the prayer I want to say it again you're so deep into the prayer instead of being six minutes it's half hour by the way 6 minutes is not recommended it should be a little longer you're not in the race imagine you're have a pres you have a meeting with the King you're going to hurry him up hey no K tell me what you want no come on King tell me what you want now you're going to take your time your highness thank you for doing this thank you for doing that thank you for meeting me what do you think of the weather your highness what do you think of this you talk to them about everything you have an opportunity to meet with the King of Kings you're going to hurry it up for 6 minutes no King I'm busy go go so first and foremost we have to understand that by oursel is not always 100% and kazal tells us that when our is not very good it hits a roadblock in sham I'm sure you all heard this why do we pray with aan because hasem has Mercy on us and he knows what his creation is she says at least if you pray with aan I'm going to take the best piece of each one and make it into one prayer what is it like the Run laa said this is like I'm sorry this is said what is this like this is like comparing giving somebody an old ugly coin as payment or giving him a bunch of coins that are okay with one ugly coin in it if you have the one ugly coin that's like almost broken going tell you do me a favor give me something else give me a different bill you know you give like you know sometimes you want to pay somebody and you give them like the crumpled half RI $20 you guys like give me like a regular $20 please tape this one do something you give me this homeless $20 give me a regular $20 right but if you gave the guy a wad of a thousand bucks and there's a few homeless ones inside that are ripped there are crumbled that are this you think he's going to say give me different ones no why cuz it's in there it's part of the whole it's part of the package it's fine that's our that's our if it's just you by yourself and your prayer is homeless sh going to say give me something else do me a favor give me something else I don't want this part of a isos not you have at least 10 koser people in there then my friend if there's a couple of ones that are not so good it's okay we'll let it pass there's enough good here I'll take the best piece of each one what's your question I read in the book that if you waste seed you have like a .1% chance of your prayer getting answered okay you don't was seed even if you PR by yourself you will still get answer only if you're in a minan by yourself by yourself if you it's very very hard to get your prayers answered if you don't have kavana if you don't have kavana you have a very very serious problem so likes so I try to bring some now it says something very very interesting first thing is just in general sometimes you hear people sneeze sneeze in the uh you know if you're spartic you believe in everything that's mystical you ashkanazi 50% so people think sometimes oh he did this maybe it's a bad sign maybe it's a bad everybody looks for signs even though hasem said to don't look for signs we look for signs on everything so somebody sneezes and be it what do you think it is it's good or bad if he sneezes in the Bess bad s what do you think it's good he said it's we're not gambling here she's looking for the right answer and he did a nice thing he sneezed in the middle of Prayer amid you're meeting with the King of Kings King of Kings now what's the biggest nightmare I tell you guys a uh a fact what is the biggest nightmare that presidents have and Kings have when they're about to meet another king sneeze to sneeze in the middle of the meeting why cuz when you sneeze you show that you have lack of control of your body what's a president supposed to do show that he control the entire country entire world I'm gibo but you sneeze your whole body is you can't control it you look like a little you know like you have some type of disease everybody's like uh you know maybe he's got a call May he's this like I don't really want do I have to shake your hand how about this give the guy a palm how this guy in a he never shakes anybody's hand he's like you know he's one of those people so he gives gives the P the the pound I said don't give anything just say hi and that's it you don't have to it's actually weirder that you're giving people that are 60y old a pound either shake the hand or just say no or something yeah yeah strange people strange people so it's a bad thing you know president doesn't want to sneeze if uh Putin is going to meet Trump and Trump sneezes it's not going to be very comfortable they're going to cut that out of the video you prepare before him he'll take something that's going to make him not sneeze ifem wants him to sneeze he'll sneeze the same huh but the says actually something very surprising he used to die from Sing back can it says that's why we say la by the way says the reason why we say la to health is because in the old days the times of yov ainu before hasem made people get old before Yu they didn't get old everybody looked the same they reached 25 years old that's it they wouldn't age anymore you're 150 years old you look 25 so how they die eventually one day time was over but they didn't get sick so what they do one day they would sneeze die on spot so everybody would say oh you know guy sneezed it's going to die so from that point on anytime somebody sneeze say so you live that's where it came from but actually the page 24 says one who sneezes from his nose during his prayer it is a good omen for him it's good Lama it's good just like they give him satisfaction below meaning in this world so do they give him satisfaction in heaven meaning just like they're en sneezing is actually a form of enjoyment it's a form of enjoyment you're cleaning out your nostrils you're relieving some tension it's very uncomfortable to have to be like one of those for like 20 minutes you're like you want to sneeze but you can't it's the most uncomfortable thing in the world I can tell you as a public speaker is the worst like you you look a little bit like something's wrong with you you just want to sneeze just want to sneeze no so says if hasem lets you sneeze it's okay he's giving you pleasure you know that spice that makes you want to sneeze can you smell it before you pray they smell usually you smell it you have always SM okay no it's not it's not for the sneezing person not for the sneezing purposes they give it to you maybe it satis satiate your hunger or things like that but they say that just like they let you enjoy from they give you enjoyment while your prayer they're also accepting your prayer that's a good sign but what's the M here we have a problem in our generation we have people he says if you sneeze sneezing is something that happens naturally meaning you're not intentionally sneezing it happens in today's lack of M world when we don't teach M when we are scared to mention even the words you have people that go to beet and what do they do they blow their nose for 20 minutes in the middle of first of all it's extremely distracting I'm trying to pray to the King of Kings I'm trying to like help me people have diseases people are getting divorces people that are sick people that are this people are that get this guy blowing his nose like he's a a fountain 20 minutes he's blowing his nose how much do you have in there so first of all it's very distracting second of all it's complete disrespect not only the but you're going into his house at the place where everybody's praying you go inside the BET mikdash right next to the K the is about to pray if he thinks the wrong thing thinks the wrong thing he dies and the whole nation gets punished he taks the wrong thing and you with your with your nose everybody's trying to pray Hashem help us there's kings that are going against us the entire world just voted that Israel is an illegal country we're on a verge of war in any given day when a verge of prgrams on any given day all Jews are so comfortable in America in Europe and Israel everywhere we're so comfortable we also comfortable 70 years ago we're also comfortable 250 years ago we're also comfortable 500 years ago we're also very comfortable 2,000 years ago very comfortable until hasem made it uncomfortable I'm trying to get hem to give mercy and you're blowing your nose go to the bathroom you selfish person go to the bathroom I don't want to hear your snotty nose aside from it being disgusting and lack of respect for the Kil it's lack of respect for now because we're so politically correct and we're so scared of like you know offending someone Shalom he's ever going to do chuva and actually stop being a rash and interfering everybody's a uh prayer we don't do anything so what happens there's actually a few people I know in B there's one specific one one specific one he always somehow I don't know every time he sits right next to me like three rows up and every time right before the oh man it's like there is like a a fountain connected to his head that comes out of his nose five minutes straight he's blowing his nose I can't take it I have to leave the besset I don't stand go somewhere else go to the bathroom why do you have to blow your nose inside the Bessa and always at the same time that's how you Cas I've there something wrong with you I mean maybe you should go see a doctor that much every day you have to blow your nose that much five minutes straight thousand people in the Kila this guy sit next to me I get these so first and foremost a message to all of you nose blowers go to the bathroom just like you wouldn't blow your nose in front of the CEO of the company that you work for just like you wouldn't blow your nose in front of a king of a country just like you wouldn't blow your nose in front of a shid if you try to impress a woman or you're trying to impress a man hey how are you my name is De Hold On Second second shake your hand who wants to touch you go wash your hands wash your face fix yourself stop blowing your nose and it go outside finish come back not saying you have but don't make me feel like you do it five minutes of blowing your nose enough it's disgusting it's disturbing that's the second thing we learned from this not so bad watch the video we're going to make a clip out of this one we call the a uh 911 to all the nose blowers send it to T it okay so now in the same it talks about how to pray any time mentions means means the core of foundation of we have to do three times a day as a man at least once a day for women women since they're not bound to doing the mitv that are bound to time they can choose whichever one they want it's recommended to uh to do the in of for women but it's not mandatory you could do you could do you could do but you have to do it according to you must do one per day and as far as you should do the entire is once per day but if you don't have time you you know you have kids and so on you just have to at least say just the first verse but you have to do at least once a day as a woman if you could do more who want to want more meetings with hem but now it says here one who allows his voice to be heard while reciting his prayer he is one of those that has little faith so wait a minute I'm praying out loud trying to get into it screaming a screaming a he says I have no what do you mean I'm excited I'm breast live I'm celebrating Happy Happy no first of all we have to understand he talking about about talking about said the rabbis did not teach this except in the case of one who's able to concentrate while praying quietly such a person may not pray out loud but if one is unable to concentrate while praying quietly mut he's allowed to pray out loud however these words are stated only in the case of one who prays alone but in the case of one who prays with a congregation with a K even if he can't concentrate when praying quietly he may not pray out loud since he will come thereby to confuse the congregation explanation now according toal When you pray you're actually supposed to say the words out loud supposed to say them out loud but out loud so you can hear it not so the entire Community hears it you can hear yourself if you're about cha you're just starting out it's a little takes a little time to get used to it but in general you have to pray out loud enough for you to hear it but just you here in the it says if you're praying and you can't concentrate can't concentrate you're by yourself you're not with a K and you just you're thinking about the game you're thinking about your job you're thinking about your boss you're thinking about your girlfriend you're thinking about all these then you have to get into it one of the ways to get into it is to actually say the words louder concentrate loud you know by saying the words out loud so it ends up you use multiple senses first and foremost you your speech and you're also using your ears to hear yourself so now you're using more more senses you can actually connected to prayer even more that's why also studying when you study T you should study out loud helps your memory because you're using multiple senses when bu the wife of one of the people once said came in the studying Tor but he's reading to himself she kicked this chair says don't you know that you can't study T without saying it out loud you're not going to remember anything just wasting your time to grinding water was very zealous so anyway says if you can't get concentration pray out loud get into it it as loud as you need to completely focus and I can tell you from personal experience the best prayers I've ever had have been by myself when I when I do it out loud but thear says something very very critical at the end he says this only pertains if you're praying alone if you're praying alone you can pray out loud but if you're praying with a you're praying with a with a congregation under no condition can you pray out loud it doesn't matter if you can't concentrate it's better that you don't pray at all then disturb the entire with your out loud prayer you know somebody wants to be like extra sadik you know you always have one of these people in the he's ex sadik so he makes all these strange moves sometimes he's extra loud sometimes he's like this and he's like moving and he think he's like on Tren you think he's high on something and he makes all these faces and he's like like is something wrong with him or he's just connected to Hashem you don't need all that you don't need all that pantomim pray like a noral human being don't be so distracting to everyone else Hashem knows that you mean it even when you don't make these strain sounds Hashem knows that you mean it even when you don't move and hit everybody next to you he knows you mean it he knows it's okay but most importantly is teaching you stop being selfish if you're part of a congregation like he says then you have to care about the congregation not just care about you you have to act as if all of our prayers are important not just yours where I have to do it extra loud because I can't have kavana if I don't do it loud yeah but then you're going to ruin 30 other people's prayer if you do it loud because they can't concentrate about their prayer if they're listening to you so stop being selfish just like the no nose uh blowers before Oh I have to clear up come on for I have sinus infection okay sinus infection outside finish with the sign this infection come back inside which also by the way you're not allowed to go to beet if you're sick like a lot of people get Cs and they think they're doing a MIT by going it's not aah it's it's actually a sin you're going to get other people sick stay home not it's it's not it's it's 100% you're not allowed to jeopardize other people's lives for your mitvah there's Noah can't make aah by doing like I had this guy was I saw him one time and uh you know he hey how are you how you doing everything great great great he's sees my uh baby daughter wants to hug her wants to kiss her two minutes later I see the guy is like sneezing everywhere oh yeah yeah I just had pneumonia you just held my kid you you had pneumonia what you think you're doing me a favor by holding her right now get sick people have no consideration for the congregation they have no consideration for the world around them why cuz they don't listen to says don't separate yourself from the congregation not just physically mentally you have to constantly think about everyone around you you're either going to be a k or the keeper is not going to help you the beard is not going to help you your actions will if you act like a sadik then you can be Kem you're going to care about your surroundings you're going to be Kem but if you're one of those fakers that wears the hat and the beard and everything else but you go to casinos on the weekend it's better off you don't do anything so to separate ourselves from the community already this is just the first small part of this mishna already we see how many different parts of our Lives it already has to do do with [Music]