TIKKUN HaBRIT (Jewish Fight Against Pornography Addiction)

you know when you have a dream  and you see a pretty woman you've had that and you never actually see an  ugly woman in dreams it's always a pretty woman   and by the way it's always  the same woman for all of us   all of us have a dream of the same exact woman  now she looks different than the woman his   dreams and his dreams and everybody else's  dreams but it's always the same character   and she's more dangerous than a satan himself   to such an extent that you're not even allowed  to say her name who is she this is tom's wife you're not even allowed to say her  name why are you gonna call her good luck so every time someone wastes seed they're  literally creating themselves as the   worst type of gay and home there is one  of these types of genomes that doesn't   end ever people don't believe  in eternal punishment they think too much uh where does it say the torah is eternal  punishment where does it say as we all know we got oral and torah page 17 wrongdoers of israel who sin with their  body sounds familiar right and wrongdoers of the   gentiles who sin with their body also sounds  familiar go down to genome and are punished   there for 12 months this first 12 months is the  trial after 12 months their body is consumed and   their soul is burned and the wind scatters them  under the souls of the feet of the righteous   and you shall tread down the wicked and they shall  be as ashes under the souls of the righteous but   as for the meenim and for the informers and  for the scoffers who rejected the torah and   denied the resurrection of the dead and those who  abandoned the ways of the community and who sinned   and made the masses sin these will go  down to genome and be punished there   for all generations as it says and they  shall go forth and look upon the carcasses   of the men that have rebelled against  me meaning genome will be consumed by   they will not be consumed meaning gay nom  eventually will be end will end when the moshiach   comes eventually there's no more gay no except  their part of the gay no that continues forever any forever who has gotten to the point  where he doesn't waste seat anymore   not only doesn't weigh seat on purpose i'm talking  that's of course i'm talking about he got to a   point where he doesn't waste seat at night meaning  even accidental that's a real tzaddik that's where   yosef at sandy got his name somebody like that if  he comes over your house you can tell everybody   that's the person you should ask for him  from a blessing why because that's a person   that overcame what the rambam says is the most  difficult obstacle in human nature to overcome   once you become addicted to wasting seed it's  almost impossible to overcome but what the rambam   is trying to teach us is that if you fail pick up  try again again and again and again and again and   again until it's finished when it comes to seed  this is both a physical and a spiritual disease   but human nature is something that you could  overcome once you admit that you're wrong   if you don't admit that you're wrong then  we've already failed before we started so when it says that wasting seed is the biggest  it's not as in essence saying it's bigger than   or it's bigger than you know lending  another jew money and charging him interest   it's necessary it's it's part of the same  group that if you violate it it's as if you   violated the entire torah so these are  sins you simply have to do everything   possible to avoid especially avoid them on purpose  so many just to say it clearly so you wake up it's   better you die than make these sins according to  it halacha but wasting seed and in general images   is one of those sins where even if you  know it's wrong it's very hard to do the   rambam as i told you says this is the hardest  thing to overcome now there's a few things   that a person needs to know about wasting  seed first and foremost it's hated by hashem 16b says that each time a seed leaves the body  of the man there's a malach that goes to hashem   and asks hashem what should i do with this  this name is laila this malach takes the   seed to hashemite to the kisaka wood and he  talks about all of the potential of this seed   this seed could be the biggest rabbi in  the world this seed could be the moshiach   this seed could be a mezakerabi this seed can be  salaimenu this seed could be this seed this seed   this seed has a lot of potential what should i  do with this one but that's assuming the seed is   supposed to go is going in the right place when  a person misuses his seed immediately it's known   in shamayim that this seed is going to get killed  this seat is being destroyed and the rambam says   anytime a man wastes seed it's 100 percent murder  elaborates and says that any time that a person   weighs seed it's as if he brought the flood  why the flood why not something else because   already knew things that we only discovered in  recent generations the flood what did the flood   do the flood destroyed the entire world the flood  destroyed millions or billions of people when a   man weighs seed he's also destroying hundreds  of millions of souls that had the potential   of being the biggest rabbi in the  world the biggest satika in the world   he is destroying hundreds of millions  of them so they come out already already know without the microscopes and the  telescopes and the microphones and the ipods and   the iphones and the scientists that pretend like  they know what they're talking about but i already   know hashem says you weigh seed you're bringing  the flood flood killed millions you're killing   millions in shaman that's the deen they gave the  person oh yeah this person yeah yeah this steve   yeah steve just murdered 300 million people  today wake up steve that was only nine in   the morning by the time it was five o'clock  steve already uh steve is bored again so he   decides to kill another 300 million and the  reality is a person could live his whole life   as a murderer and not even know it because you  never saw because he doesn't realize that the   essence of a person is his seed meaning the seed  is even more significant than the blood itself   some people like to make excuses they say things  like no this is crazy every guy is addicted to it   nowhere in any halachic book in the history  of islam did anyone ever say it's permitted   to waste seed nowhere no one ever said it's  allowed in fact they said it's the worst sin   in the entire torah the exact opposite  even before am israel received the torah   even before amisa was even born it was not  allowed the entire generation of noah got killed   because they wasted seat neither one of them were  jewish neither one of them had a torah like we do   still hashem killed them on the spot because  they wasted seed meaning that this is not only   that it's forbidden from for jews it's forbidden  for nanjus it's specifically considered disgusting page 10a says 60 times the size of earth  whatever that is time it by 60 that's good   there's two gun nethers there's one here physical  and there's one spiritual above and beyond that   one is sixties times the size of earth genome  is sixty times the size of ghanaian but some   say no no it's not 60 times the size of canadian  there's no size to gino why it continues to grow now anyone with a little bit of seche asks  themselves why is gun why is gangnam continuing   to grow there's not enough no there's more  entrance every week every week more people   join genoa and not as many join gannading why  because apparently they haven't done teshuva says something very interesting when there's an  increased amount of women that are immodest and   as the torah describes them as women which stretch  necks and winking eyes you know the kind of women   that want to get attention it says a person like  that that stretch neck and winking eyes women that   like attention people that do something she wants  to make sure you know that she's the one laughing   she talks loud enough for the neighbors to hear  this is an act of immodesty mcmahon says that   when there's an increased number of women that  are described as walking with stretch necks   and winking eyes the use of bitter waters of  the sota should have been increased as well that   imalaski eventually leads to people cheating on  each other the woman who causes men to sin because   she decided to put a picture on the internet  because she saw a movie star do it she wants   to feel like she's in hollywood she's hoping that  hollywood catches her image on facebook and maybe   they called it wait we saw your picture you're  hired you're hired because we saw your picture   called like that so we're hired we're gonna  put you on blockbuster movie 50 million dollars   because you puckered your lips every woman she  takes pictures put on the internet she wants to   make sure everybody knows she can pucker our lips  she looks cute she puts the most immodest outfit   on the world everything a woman doesn't realize  what kind of damage he's bringing herself by   doing such a thing women don't understand how sick  the mind of men is they honestly don't understand   they don't understand how sick men are unless we  have torah women don't see it that way why because   they think we think like them i've said this a  thousand times and still people are surprised   as a woman who causes men to sin because of our  modesty mother's behavior imata's dress laugh   picture anything will not be released from  genome until all that she created meaning   all the demons that she created from his wasting  seed are destroyed from the world they talk to   you about how they're going to put you in genome  if you don't do chewbacca if we're wasting seed   and they're going to start with the hole that  you wasted and then they're going to rip it apart   until 50 million pieces and make sure that you  remember this was not what you were supposed to do and then the woman that liked to expose herself  because she wanted to make sure that everybody   knows she's around they're going to hang  her by a sex organs on the wall as display   like my clients used to hang animals  these are the types of things that sadiki   wrote i'm going to give you some other things  how to fix this problem who writes a lot of   things that are a tragedy to even read some of  the things that he writes about what happens   to people who don't do judah what the number one  cause of death is people that we see people that   weigh seed create demons that look like dogs and  pigs and these dogs and pigs come to hurt them it's forbidden to sleep alone in the  house whoever sleeps alone in the house   will be seized by levi who's elite the wife  of the satan himself that's responsible   helping every man make the crime of wasting seed  even when he doesn't want a person away seed even   if he's born with a fortune of good mazat all  will be turned until he becomes poor and loses   on all the things that he does to the extent that  even the place he lives will start rejecting him   even the land itself becomes disgusted from him  and all the sins that he made that have vomits him how to fix all of this first and foremost  the person needs to watch his eyes   this is a given this is something we all know  about we're going to go into details in a moment   but he has to watch his eyes to the  extent that he's not even allowed to   see animals doing what they do he also  has to watch his mouth if you curse you   will waste seed but if you want to do serious  chuva this is a must don't speak to the woman   says who is this woman his own wife don't speak  to us too much meaning speak just enough to do   what you need to do to maintain the relationship  to pay attention to her but don't become our   second girlfriend talk when it's necessary talk  when it has a meaning needless to say don't talk   to strangers if it's a strange woman unless  she's your manager your customer your boss   you have absolutely no reason to talk to her a guy  shouldn't even be get to a point of even touching   women or their clothing all of these men that are  in the clothing business if it's women's clothing   they should probably find a different profession  further don't waste your time being sad sadness   leads to wasting seed sadness leads to promiscuity  sadness leads to a lot of problems all of these   things that make people sad get over it you don't  you're letting the sarah park in your house and   yet he's not looking for you to make small sins  he's looking for you to start with small sins and   then he takes over the entire account listening  to unholy music unholy things any type of secular   music non-kosher music non-torah music is going to  lead a person to wasting seed people that like to   listen to rap full of curses people like to listen  to hip-hop full of curses people like to listen to   these types of songs that talk about arrogance  money promiscuity all types of garbage it's not   just bad for your time it's bad for you in a  shama it's bad for you you listen to it you're   going to think it you're going to think it you're  going to do it that's why the rambam posse he says   are worse than avila thinking about  alvirah is even worse than the avila itself   also when you go to sleep make sure you don't have  clothing or shoes around your bed also spider webs   above the bed but also another ham says that also  leads to slow bite problems even if you don't have   arachnophobia doesn't make a difference you have  spider webs clean it also people that don't wash   their hands in the morning they don't do nothing  let them die they're not careful when native   they should know that when you go to sleep  it's 1 60th of death and when you wake up in   the morning there's a special malach that's still  on there that malach is the daughter of the satan   you're not even allowed to touch your ears you're  not allowed to touch your nose you're not allowed   to touch your genitals you're not allowed to touch  your mouth says it's better off you cut off his   hand than him touching himself any part of his  body before he washes his hand with antibiotic   dying next is sleeping too much sleeping too much  leads to wasting seed especially sleeping deep   also it's treating mitsvot lightly  he says if you start treating meat   lightly you're going to waste seed  why because your mind is not clean   and at night it's not going to be strong enough  that when the satan's wife shows up you're not   going to be able to beat him or anybody that  disrespects the sages you start saying nah rashi   i don't think i don't think rashi was right on  this one rambam nah i'm not really sure you treat   the sages lightly no good or somebody likes  to play with his hair you ever see these guys   play with their hair you know they put the gel in  their hair and they do their hair 500 times a day   in case hollywood shows up no good it's going to  lead to wasting seed you're too comfortable with   your body but worse than anything else everything  i read to you until now there's one thing that's   worse than everything gaba someone that's arrogant  a person that's arrogant is guaranteed to weigh   seed not only accidental but also on purpose  because the root of wasting seed is gaba such   an extent that rabbi me breslav says the people  that are gothanim the people that are arrogant   end up wasting seed if they don't have that under  control they're going to become very promiscuous   if they don't have that under control they're  going to become homosexuals too once a person   does not control his arrogance and starts thinking  that everything belongs to them their body belongs   to them somebody else's body belongs to them and  doesn't control himself has excuses for everything   she has excuses for everything eventually their  natural state is not going to be so natural first witness is dr anthony levatino dr  levitino is a board-certified obstetrician   gynecologist over the course of his career  dr levitino has practiced obstetrics and   gynecology in both private and university settings  including as an associate professor of ob gyn   at the albany medical college and dr  levitino we'll begin with you welcome   thank you chairman and members of the committee  second trimester d e abortions performed between   roughly 14 and 24 weeks of gestation your patient  today is 17 years old she's 22 weeks pregnant   her baby is the length of your hand plus a couple  of inches and she's been feeling her baby kicked   for the last several weeks but she's asleep on an  operating room table you walk into that operating   room scrubbed and gowned and after removing  laminaria you introduce a suction catheter   into the uterus this is a 14 french suction  catheter if she were 12 weeks pregnant or less   basically the width of your hand or smaller  you could basically do the entire procedure   with this but babies this big don't fit through  catheters this size after suctioning the amniotic   fluid out from around the baby you introduce an  instrument called the sofa clamp it's about 13   inches long it's made of stainless steel the  business end of this clamp is about two and   a half inches long and a half inch wide there are  rows of sharp teeth this is a grasping instrument   when it gets a hold of something it does not let  go a dna procedure is a blind abortion so picture   yourself introducing this and grabbing anything  you can blindly and pull and i do mean hard and   out pops a leg about that big which you put down  on the table next to you reach in again pull again   pull out an arm about the same length which you  put down on the table next to you and use this   instrument again and again to tear out the  spine the intestines the heart and lungs it didn't have a heartbeat it didn't have a  face it didn't have feelings it was a clump   of cells and tissue i can also promise you that  had i been forced to see this pregnancy through   i would have done what women have done for all  the decades people like you have been trying to   stop abortions i would have gone to any length  medically overseen or not to end my pregnancy   now we are living in such depravity that there  are people like the people that oppose this bill   that are willing to say i know it's a human  being i know it has a heartbeat i know there   is life there and i know it is innocent and  i'm willing to kill it you know earlier on i   described stacking up body parts on the side  of the table when you're doing an abortion   you need to keep inventory you have to make sure  you get two arms and two legs and all the pieces   after all the parts were accounted for the poc lab  technician would dump everything out into a glass   baking dish that sat on top of an x-ray light box  and she would reassemble the parts of the baby i'm   talking about first trimester abortion yes there  are parts yes they must be reassembled the baby   is fully formed every internal organ is formed  by 12 weeks gestation so yes there are parts   even earlier than 12 weeks over 1200 abortions  first and second trimester up to 24 weeks and all   the rest of it and being very dedicated to it for  the first time in my life i really looked at that   pile of body parts on the side of the table and  i didn't see her wonderful right to choose and   i didn't see all the money i just made all  i could see was somebody's son or daughter the epididymis a tightly coiled six meter  long tube which can hold over a billion sperm sperm are really quite unique because they're  almost like free living cells they almost have   a life of their own they have put one aim which  is to deliver a genetic payload from the male   to the female through a really quite  complex series of environments both   in the male and the female reproductive tract you've got hundreds of millions of cells that are  swimming wildly about you've got a lot of death   you've got a lot of obstacles to overcome  sperm pounds are considered low if the   count is generally less than 20 million sperm per  milliliter of ejaculate some experts consider less   than 15 million per milliliter as being the lower  limit of normal well they never ask for directions   which is part of the problem the concentration of  sperm in the sample is 87 million the average man   will have 60 to 80 million sperms how much sperm  per milliliter a man makes in a man that has a   two milliliter ejaculate which is about a half  a teaspoon that's sort of in that normal range   how million millions per ejaculate he makes and  a normal number should be somewhere around 20   million or higher i've also seen men that come in  and have 200 million sperm per milliliter we have   sunk to a new low in our society taking the life  of an innocent human being that is your own flesh   and blood and your own dna it's not normal and  it is time for us to rectify what we have done lust is a sexual desire that dishonors its  object and disregards god the lusted after woman   or man in your head or on the screen or on the  street is dishonored not treated as a sacred   precious eternal person in the image of god and  it had nothing to do with religious shame i didn't   really grow up religious i simply realized at  that time i couldn't even not do it for a day   to allow my injuries to heal over 10 hours a  day i tried to quit dozens of times hundreds   of times i realized that i essentially  conditioned my brain to prefer pixels over   you know people and partners very few people  realize just how addictive pornography really is   pornography is as addictive as crack cocaine one  exposure to a 13 year old boy at just the right   time and he will grab that and it will become very  much a part of him and will be there for the rest   of his life it functions very much like drugs  you take a little bit and it goes a long ways   but you're bored with that and you take a little  more and you need more and you need more and you   need more like i didn't ever think that you know  watching porn and you know doing drugs is gonna   have me one day talking to you but i'm here it's  me terry crews again the subject is dirty little   secret for years years years my dirty little  secret was that i was addicted to pornography   so that you begin with soft core  pornography that's playboy penthouse playboy   was my gateway into full-on pornography addiction  my dad had a playboy left out at age five and it's   affected almost every choice i made for the rest  of my life from age five to now having to kick the   habit and it just presents itself in the open  like it's okay and i stand up and say you know   it's not okay people are brainwashed by people  are addicted to it it is a modern day cigarette   some people drown themselves in drugs and i  drown myself in my addiction which was what sex   i try to stay off of pornography man  that's one of my biggest arch nemesis   is pornography why because it just weakens me it  just yeah how so you know my fantasies and stuff   they're not mine anymore then what happens with an  addiction to pornography is you go from there to   a little fire trail a little barrier where  you've seen everything that a man and woman   can do together now what because see one of the  characteristics of of pornography is that you bore   with it this stage becomes boring very quickly  you know somebody created them better than my   imagination can and so they live in these you know  on the internet in these boxes and it's like not   having to be engaged with my actual feelings  or anything so then when i am engaging with   somebody that i care about or something it just  doesn't calculate for me emotionally as well uh   but it does it's definitely made it tougher for me  over the years i think it should be shut down man   i think it's harming a lot of men man i really  really do but it also impacted my relationships   people who spend too much time uh watching  pornography they have trouble performing uh   with regular sex it was something that you know my  wife was literally like i don't know you anymore   i'm out of here i mean it just takes out the  intimacy there's definitely a danger in like   immediate access to pornography today it's the  most immediate access because you get it on your   phone oh you can get it yeah you pull up your  laptop open it up type in some words it's so   easy this has never been the case before it's it's  unlike any other time period in human history when   you have instant access to things you can abuse  it then you move on to another one and you're   walking down this path what happens when you get  to the point that you've seen it all this morning   more hollywood heavyweights are being accused of  sexual harassment there are new developments in   the scandal involving movie mogul harvey weinstein  new allegations though against kevin spacey louis   c.k james toback jeffrey tambor director brett  ratner actor james franco actor dustin hoffman   you recently revealed you were sexually assaulted  by a director well why did you reveal it there is   a bit of a witch hunt happening it's across every  industry yeah focus seems to be on hollywood   yes but it's across every industry even like  that freaky weird pedophile that be going on like   you hear about it but it's it's dark and demonic  energy that this industry was built on and people   manipulate young women they manipulate  kids and at the end of the day it's   all for the dollar and all to feed their ego so  i've seen where you're like that's just not right and they go to the perversions the biggest  political scandal britain has ever faced   it involves a secret network of the  highest office holders in the land   cabinet ministers judges diplomats  even one of the country's top spies   these men are accused of some of the most  sadistic child sexual abuse imaginable   on hundreds of victims i wish i'd move this whole  thing over because the the final stage of this is death you're essentially deep personalizing the  person in front of you and imagining porn in your   head to actually maintain arousal i realized  at that point it was out of control for the   record you are guilty of killing many women and  girls yes yes that's true ted how did it happen   my experience with i'd say pornography generally  but with pornography that deals on a violent   level with sexuality once you become addicted  to it and i look at this as a kind of addiction   i would keep looking for more potent more explicit  more graphic signs of material like an addiction   you keep craving something which is harder  harder something which which gives you a greater   sense of excitement it changes the way you think  about people people become objects people become   body parts they become things to be used  rather than people to be loved it's a   process that doesn't happen overnight when you  de-personalize another person and view them as   just an object an object for pleasure instead  of a living breathing human being it seems to   make it easier to do things you shouldn't do  i just view things as objects people animals   trees cars there's all the same to me i just  feel everything's pretty much is this earth's   a waste of time really well then let me ask  you john does it make it easier to kill someone   because you you vision everything you look  at everything other than your family is just   one and the same basically an object right does  that make it easier i would have to say it would   until you reach the point where the pornography  only goes so far you reach that jumping off point   where you begin to wonder if maybe actually doing  it will give you that which is beyond just reading   about it or looking at it you're essentially  depersonalizing the person in front of you   i desensitized myself to it i had these obsessive  desires and thoughts wanting to control them and   all the pornography that i had been buying renting  swapping i'd gotten my hands on some bondage and   discipline pornography i had eventually started  using some of this bondage and discipline because   of the excitement that was very arousing and  heightening to me we are your sons and we are   your husbands we grew up in regular families and  pornography can reach out and snatch a kid out of   any house today that snatched me out of my home  20 30 years ago and as diligent as my parents   were there is no protection i was saving body  parts such as skulls and skeletons no one had   a clue as to what was happening there was no clue  it was my secret nobody knew and that allowed it   to grow you start out with tame stuff and little  by little you go up to more and more extreme acts   it was something that had taken time to build up  it didn't just happen it took time to build that   up i had been fantasizing about killing i believe  it would have been maybe as short as another month   or two and i would have actually killed him if  i was not arrested death i'm no social scientist   and i haven't done a survey but i've lived in  prison for a long time now i've met a lot of men   who were motivated to commit violence just  like me and without exception every one of them   was deeply involved in pornography without  question without exception deeply influenced   and consumed by an addiction to pornography  there's no question about it the fbi's owned study   on serial homicide shows that the most common  interest among serial killers is pornography for several months now i spent a lot of time  in the deep web after coming home from school   i would sit at my computer and surf the net into  late in the night i know a lot of people who were   using deep web most of them were just curious or  find it exciting because there is much stuff which   is banned apart from that deep web was always a  good topic of conversation at break time today   deep web has become a trend but for me i think it  is something else deep web fascinates me there i'm   free there nobody knows who i am i notice that  slowly but surely an addiction is developing   most people call it an addiction but for me it's  a brand new passion a deep-rooted passion that   awakes new cravings in me every day i get  to know a new side of me i chat with many   different people and exchange information i  watch a lot of videos but i like what i see   but at this point i should admit that i  am a teenager with a small sadistic vein   i get bored very quickly and because of that  i am always on the lookout for such material   and so i dive deeper and deeper into the deep  web i saw things that far exceeded my imagination   but after a while even this stuff  became boring and uninteresting to me one day when looking for the next violent  material i stumbled on a chat it was a chat   room for murderers and pedophiles i read  a few comments and grinned a little i was   bored so i decided to go with it i logged in and  off i went i spent so much time in the deep web   i saw myself as kind of professional and went  about it all so confidently it started to   become second nature i made fun of the people  in this chat room i claimed that i was a hack   and now i had their data and was  gonna send it to the local police   it was a lot of fun other users started sending  me death threats but i just couldn't stop i just   wrote one stupid comment after the other sooner  or later i received a message from the site admin   he wrote if i was aware of what i'm doing  and if i knew the consequences i was equipped   with the latest firewall i was not afraid  of him i laughed out loud and celebrated suddenly my screen went blank i thought  what's going on suddenly pictures of dead   people came every second the images alternated  faster and faster i tried all the possible key   combinations to stop it but it was no use  slowly strange feeling came over me i was   about to get up and pulled the plug from  my computer then i saw it i was petrified   my eyes could not believe what they just saw i  was rigid with fear the terrible slide had stopped   and only saw a picture a picture of me i  had forgotten to turn off my webcam again   someone must have hacked my computer and took  photos of me i stared at this image for several   minutes and i didn't know what to do suddenly the  image disappeared i was in the chat room again   i was briefly relieved but then came the next mega  shocker it hit me right in the face my picture   was visible for every user to see it rained  death threats and hate comments they wrote   everything about what they would do to me and  my family but that was not the worst of it   under my picture was my real full  name and my exact current full address so first of all pornography is something that is addictive   they call it the new drug  pornography is no less addictive than the hardest drugs in the world when the  rambam wrote in the biggest addiction a human   being can have is the waste seed is immorality  he was saying it as this is divine information   what happens with pornography is that it  triggers a protein called delta phosphate delta fuzz b is one of the things that a person  in essence gets pleasure from but it's also one of   the things that is connects to addiction welcome  to your brain on porn here are the basics porn   overstimulated your brain and your brain changed  you see being hooked on porn is due to the same   brain changes that occur with all addictions  these brain changes are behind your cravings   these brain changes keep you coming back to porn  even if you want to quit the internet pawn is   what we call a super stimulus what that means is  that it's way beyond what we've ever encountered   a heavy porn user would view more hot babes or  hot guys or a hot whatever in one session than   our ancestors would need in several lifetimes so  this can be considered another super stimulus our   brains have evolved to handle heavy porn use like  this and unlike junk food you can never get full   here's another reason internet porn  is so stimulating and so addictive   it takes advantage of an old program  located in your primitive brain   the subconscious program is what got  you started down the path of using porn   internet porn is really far more stimulating than  just images it's really due to the endless novelty   and the ability to click from one image to another  another reason internet porn is so stimulating is   that it can escalate rather quickly to more kinky  or more shocking material number two addictive   personality is not a prerequisite for getting  hooked on internet porn now the standard model is   that you have to have a predisposition you have to  be genetically inclined to get addicted well this   is definitely true but what we found out is that  many of the guys who were showing up on the site   had never had any other addiction they were just  regular guys who started watching and got hooked   and what's interesting is once they got off a porn  session they returned to their quote normal selves   so now what happens is a kid doesn't know right  or left 12 13 14 years old gets a phone goes on   a computer has free access goes on the internet  starts looking at pornography things he's never   even imagined his worst dreams drug addiction sex  addiction money addiction all types of addictions   in excellence this particular protein  is confused thinking now after he saw   that him seeing this immodesty this led to a good  feeling and now connects the brain to think that   every time he sees this filth it's going to  lead to good scientists confirmed that it's   an addiction no less than drugs it all starts with  yourself allah says person it's promiscuous with   himself eventually promiscuous with the opposite  sex the risk is with the opposite sex eventually   same sex it's not enough he wants taboo by  himself not enough watching a certain type   of fill so he watches some other filth eventually  he wants to fulfill that film it all starts with   where your eyes go you don't start controlling  yourself of your what you're looking at eventually   gonna become the next pedophile people are  addicted to pornography this is what happens is the only thing that can help people stop page  29 it says the following the thoughts of sin   are worse than the sin itself once you get the  junk into your mind it's already worse than the   sin itself why is this the thought of the sin  worse than a sin this doesn't make any sense   when the sin is in your mind when it comes from  pornography that sin is literally in your mind   at all times you can think filth all the time  and the mind has no limitations like the body   that's how sick the sick mind is the thoughts of  sin are worse than a sin you start thinking that   everything is supposed to be that way they  start training their mind to unrealistic   circumstances and makes themselves addicted  they in essence become much more vulnerable   to do it again once you've watched pornography  once or twice that's it you're much more   vulnerable to press play again you're much more  vulnerable to be promiscuous you're much more   vulnerable to do bad things to you it became the  new normal says after you make the same sin twice   yet tells you it's allowed it's easier to repeat  the sin when the sin is a thought even if he's   trying to stop two or three four days he sees  some billboard back to it again as if nothing   happened as if he didn't watch very difficult to  do chewbacca that's why the tsar khanos says to do   for wasting seed you have to do yourself hashem  says if you really want to chew up right you have   to do it yourself there's a stronger addiction  to this the natural intimacy when a person is   addicted to wasting seed pleasuring themselves  in whatever form or another this leads a person   to become more addicted to this than even  natural intimacy everything that the scientists   recently discovered from different neurological  experiments psychological experiments and so on   already is written in but simply said the  thoughts of sin are worse than us in itself   this is why you have to protect your eyes  no matter whether you're male or female   this also leads to the next point this is  why it's in every woman's best interest to   never ever wear a wig never wear a wig no matter  what your husband says because by wearing a wig   forget about the other argument that  we've mentioned already for four years   about immodesty and about the abu dhabi and it's  coming from india put that aside for a second   every smart woman will never ever wear a wig  and the reason why the second you put on a wig   you're giving your husband full permission to  look at every woman why they look just like you they look just like you oh i didn't know she's married that's why the  the people that fight for wigs the most are guys   the shame biggest sashima in the world woman  having a wig gives you permission to look at women   it's not enough to be modest with a mitzvah i  need to be superstar i need to look like the green   i need to be beautiful in the streets  not just beautiful for my husband more the guy wants more the woman wants more she wants  to be more she wants to not only be beautiful   for her husband she wants to be beautiful for  people in the public so she wants to wear a wig   hashem says be beautiful for your husband  but she's not happy with that she wants to be   beautiful also if other people do so she wants  to wear wig the guy says i want our beautiful   all the time and i want to also be able to look  anywhere i want it's not enough for me the biggest   advocates for wigs are guys not women women will  happily do chew up for this most of the time   it's easier but that's the problem when you're  addicted to filth it only leads to wrong decisions someone who's a programmer should be very  careful to protect themselves from dogs   and anything dangerous from weapons because he  already has a cut to go he created himself so   many demons that are going upstairs to hashem  telling them look at this sinner this rasham   that's killing your nation every day it's  killing 300 million of them every day when someone puts themselves in danger that's  usually when they go to hashem and hashem you want to protect your wife protect  your breed when a person heaven forbid   experiences natural remission meaning it  went out without necessarily him doing it   it stems from kripa of lilies that name should  be erased i told you who that is already each one of these is about 30 of them just  giving you the top picks there's 80 pages nightmares anyone ever have nightmares   now you know the source nightmare  is usually controlled by demons demons are created by that they become oblique  many of them many many of them liquidate two   torah five for all your single guys looking for  zero sometimes because of the sin of probably   a person could actually lose his destined  wife is hiv when he was brought to this world   right before his nest went into the little  baby hashem already decided who is going to be   you waste enough seed you lower  your spiritual standings enough   your zebuga is going to go to an  appropriate person which is not you chuva is always open you bring yourself  back up that's the point of doing the shoe   hashem knows don't worry he created the heaven  and the earth i'll take care of that too   by fixing this sin a person  will find his destined wife   and on top of that she will not be rebellious  against him like two eight torah 87   why is she why is he mentioning she  would not be rebellious against him   because like i told you sometimes a person wakes  up and his wife is mad at him and he hasn't done   anything yet he just woke up why is he mad at  him because our neshama knows that he wasted seed she can't see but unesco  knows says wasting seed causes havoc in the spiritual worlds what does that mean   who's destroying the world  and killed 150 million people   that's wasting seed you don't see the damage  here right away but in a spiritual world you're destroying civilizations when you arrive without chuva you'll see and a person  that did it without doing chuva   would know that the place he arrived to  is the gnome that he created for himself it's no surprise spoke up and said all those who  waste seed are punishable by death said it is as if he sheds blood it's murder  abbasi says as if he worships strange deities says whoever ways seeds  equates himself to an animal   just like an animal does not care what it  does so to this person randomly commits to sin   just like an animal is set aside to be slaughtered  and does not receive life in the future world   so to this person stands to die and does  not live in the future world midashid page 41 major flaw of the generation of  the flood as we said they wasted seed one that weighs seed is old age jumps on them meaning  that they age much faster   his strength leaves him and his eyes  go weak you start losing your vision   at a very young age bad breath pours out of his  mouth regardless of how many times he brushes his   teeth he always has bad breath and his teeth  fall out this is very common in today's world   his hair and eyebrows fall out and hair  of his legs and armpits become thick   or become weak a lot of cavities all  of a sudden when you're 18 you were a   bull by the time you're 25 you have worse  teeth than your grandfather what happened you just took a shower went outside for a half  hour because of a little sweat you sweat like   you know you smell like you've worked  a full day in a uh in a toxic plant many additional health problems occur 240 rambam one that weighs seed heaven forbid his  children will die young or end up as evil people it also causes poverty 151 your wife hears this and finds out  that her husband wasted seed for a second   she'd probably torture him to death touch  her mother's children playing with fire unfortunately most of us don't have really  acha mine we're scared of men more than we're   scared of hashem that's watching every single  thing that we do adulthood for a girl it's 12   and for a boy it's 13 bar mitzvah until that time  any sin they make is their parents meaning that   if the eight-year-old played with a video  game on shabbat the sin goes to the father if the 11 year old girl ate comets  on pesach it goes to the parents   there's only one sin that goes to their account  to the child's account to the boy's account   under the age of any age whether he's 2 years old  if it's possible or he's 11 or he's 12 or he's 9   wasting seed wasting seed stays on  his account doesn't go to his parents   person under the age of mitzvot is  not held accountable for his sins   except this one as we know each of the limbs each of them meets what we have 613 meters  waters for each one of our body parts wasting   seed defiles all of them if someone is praying a  lot he wants yeshua from hashem wants salvation i need a wife i need  something i need to stay alive his prayers are not accepted waste seed prayer has  gone to deaf ears you can pray until from here to   tomorrow won't make a difference meaning you can  pray it's just that your prayer is not answered   so why are you going to get what you want if every  day you're killing 300 million of his children each time a person does this sin he  causes the creation of a numberless   amount of clippers to take the image of  pigs and dogs so the demons the person   creates apparently look like pigs and dogs  someone who dies without doing chew off of   ghana plate they get again gnome of boiling  waste i think you're scared enough hopefully   each time someone has something bad happen to  him they always blame god why am i punishing   you you just killed 300 of my boys this morning  another 300 million of them this afternoon and   you're planning to kill another 300 million later  tonight and you're asking me why you don't have   any money as we all know the panasonic comes from  the children each child comes with a panasonic mohammed to talk about this issue and whether  a man is allowed to even touch   that area of his body you say no not loud page 13 13b says it's better off that  his stomach will blow up and he died rather than him remove the spike from that area  that's hurting him that's how careful they were   saying page 13 says it's better that one would tell  everyone that all of his kids are and get a lifetime worth of shame then  touch his private part and waste seed   so it's better that he gets that shame  his whole life than waste seed one time wants to scare us a little bit more it says that each time a drop of seed is  wasted there's a bad angel that takes the   one drop not the whole thing just one  of the drops and uses it as a hostage to give the tuma more power against you we make many many decisions  some of those decisions are good   some of those decisions are stupid   but at some point aka who says time's up son  come back to abba what happens the moment you die   in some of the primary sources that discusses what  happens in the grave chapter 23 he gives us some   insights he says that the beatings of the grave  which is what happens to a person after they die   and they're buried in the ground immediately after  everybody leaves and the all the neighboring souls   are doing their yelling and screaming  and so on immediately four angels come and they lower the ground of  that grave and they deepen it and make it like a hollow  to the height of the person   then after they deepen it they stand them up they  stand her up then these angels that don't have any   aspect of mercy they have yes and no then each of  these angels mentioned holds an end of the body   you get this corner of that corner that  corner that's how the angels hold the body   he's alive now the soul's back in there and they  start shaking him just like you shake a bed sheet   and they start beating him with sticks of fire   to remove the clipper that  separates him from a kadosh it's like a spiritual garment very  thin spiritual garment that we all have   and that person cannot go to the  bedding of shaman until that garment   is broken and that garment is similar to a shell  and these angels shake them and hit them until   it's broken the thicker it is the more difficult  it is and until that comes off we're not finished   and this is why it's called kibuta  kevel the beatings of the grave if   i'm scaring you that's a good sign  that means your soul is still alive says the following one angel hits him  another angel counts how many hits because there's a judgment in heaven of  how many hits he's allowed to hit him   the third angel shoots out fire from his  own body like a furnace and the fourth   angel brings the bitter and sour grasses from  the mountains in case he stole from his friend   or from other people you have in stolen property  with your teeth and then another angel shows up   and brings the neshama of his parents his  mother and his father and at that moment   these malachim give him the person that died  the permission to hit his father and mother   because they're the reason he's there why didn't  you instruct your children to study torah and   fulfill meet smoke they are partners to the crime   and if he feels embarrassed no i don't  want to hate my email but i love them then they hit him instead in front of his  parents and make his parents suffer watching   their son or daughter get hit before the hits  begin the person is in shock and the angels say   to him get up your time has arrived and then  they open up his eyes and he sees the truth   and the first thing that he sees is the malacha  mavic himself and he holds a knife in his hand   and at the tip of the knife there  is a drop of bile hanging from it   the moment that a person sees this he gets so  scared that he opens his mouth and the drop   falls into their mouth and from that they die from  that they become smelly and disgusting from that   the person's face becomes discolored and at that  moment they actually see a kadosh ball who himself   in the book ya rash in the second  rush he says if people only knew   what punishment exists in genome they'd  literally start crying hysterically   begging to simply just not take them there  don't even take me to genetic just don't take   me to genome i'll do everything i'll keep  me exposed i'll keep tawa i'll become baba   i'll start teaching i'll start giving everything  i have all the money everything just don't take me   to genoa if they only understood what it means  and then it says by the way the buddha kevin   it's even worse than gay no i don't know what  that means all i know is that's really bad   why is it so much worse he says the gay  mom is limited because he gets judged   for the vast majority of his sins from the  age of 20. with the exception of wasting seed   so the sins that a person made before the age  of 20 have lesser of a judgment it's not that   there's no judgment it's lesser of a judgment with  the exception of wasting seed but then i'll be   says the judgment that's in the  grave the beating of the grave   everyone has to go through even a miscarriage everyone has to go through this man endures a lot of suffering in this  world but he also suffers after his death   the moment that a person passes from this  world it's not enough that he's frightened   by the malacha the angel of death did you  enthrone your owner every morning and evening   meaning did you realize that qadhafi who is  watching you at all time whoever does chuva instead of being bean they bring them directly to  gan eden but if he dies without shiva they bring   him to genome instead the last verse of the book  of isaiah what the prophet isaiah saw that not   only did isaiah see genome but he knows exactly  what happens there chapter 66 verse 24 says   they will go out and see the corpses of the men  who rebelled against hashem for their decay will   not cease and their fire will not be extinguished  and they will lie in disgrace before all mankind page 33 b and also talks about how this is  the source of how for wicked people that do   not do triva there is an eternal genome that  exists what did isaiah actually see himself   and this is the narration isaiah went into  genome saw it and he went into the second   house one of the chambers in there and he saw two  people hanging by their tongues and isaiah said   to hashem oh revealer of secrets revealed to me  the seeker behind this meaning why these people   being punished like this they're  being hung by their tongues   he said to them these people they slandered  other people and that's their judgment so then   isaiah goes to the third house meaning another  chamber and he saw men being hung by their penises   and isaiah says to hashem our revealer of  secrets revealed to me the secret behind this   why are these people having this specific  judgment so hashem says to him these people   leave their wives alone and fornicate  with other women so this is their judgment so isaiah goes to the fourth house and he saw  women being hung by their chest by their breasts   so isaiah says to hashem o  revealer of secrets revealed to me   the secret behind this why are these  people getting this specific punishment   says to him these women reveal their hair  on their heads and they tear their clothings   meaning they wear immodest clothes and then  they sit in marketplaces nursing their children   so that they can get people's attention  and sin with them and this is what their   judgment is woman walks around modestly  she wants attention fourth house apparently   isaiah goes into the fifth house and he  saw a house full of smoke of all sorts   of noblemen and treasurers were inside there  with paul the wicked sitting on top of them   guarding the entrance to genome and para saying to  all of these people why didn't you learn from me   when i was in egypt allah still sits there and  guards the entrance to genome primary thing that   a person has to have is and that's why the mara  says only created the world for you to fear him   if the whole world was scared of akadosponghu  the world would simply be ganed if just amiss will arrive immediately but the point is  that's how valuable your mind is learn   some of these things over and over and over  again on a regular basis once a month once   every couple of weeks once a week if necessary  and if you have a really big yitz out once a day   until you're scared enough from hashem that  you're not going to make any voluntary sins   you're going to make sins regardless but at least  it's not going to be on purpose it's not going to   be on purpose you make unintentional sins because  you don't know or you didn't realize or it's an   accident but at least let it not be on on purpose  don't leave your house immodest don't waste seed   on purpose because you're watching stuff don't do  that why because that's on purpose but don't do   any purposeful sins don't go to mcdonald's or some  non-kosher restaurant because you're really hungry   find a kosher place or don't eat at all don't  do any purposeful sins and after a while this   is going to help you fall in love with a kadosh  but it's something that you need to learn enough   until you understand your role in this world that  you are here to serve he's not here to serve you time to stop how do we stop why stop  aside from being scared to death   how do you do triva for something  like this so a few things   first and foremost juva is you have to stop  immediately you cannot continue the sin   one more time he should love charity he should  love being rebuked stop doing this do chuva love   doing kindness helping people get closer to  hashem is the ultimate kindness get people to   come to the shoe get people to watch a shield help  people that are helpless bring guests to his house   when he prays when she prays pray with full  covenant don't be a robot when you pray   try to understand what you're saying and sing  with meaning as often as you possibly can   they're different fasts think about what you did  that's relevant to this sin   if adam alicia would have said i'm sorry  to hashem he would have stayed in gan eden   forever the magnitude of saying i'm sorry  retaliate work on humility again allah used   to say if you want to be somebody realize  that you're a nobody next never embarrass   anyone including yourself feed poor people any  opportunity you have to feed poor people take it   don't be wasteful with food because being  wasteful with food is symbolic of wasting seed   also make sure to eat the remains of the motif  sometimes you have like a little two three four   five pieces of motif on shabbat eat it if you have  full kavanaugh during bircato zone it's a major   tikkun fabrice there's nothing more important than  bulkamazon it's more important than schmeichel no   speaking in shul you're speaking sure you're going  to end up wasting seed at some point why because   you're being careless about the mitzvoth of the  sages as well as with allah when it comes to   break it up why because it will help you  think about it what does each word mean   there's also a special prayer that many see duleem  have that talks about all the seed that a person   wasted helped me fix it and so on and so forth go  to the mikveh if you're fortunate enough to have   a kosher mikveh then you can go if you don't then  don't go because it'll actually make you make sins   read shalak to shine as often as you can why  once you read it you're never going to want to   even look at your bleat if you're single says you  can only clean yourself with some type of sponge   thick sponge you're not allowed to  touch your member with your own hand   crying is fantastic anyone that cries over his  sins it's very good being a sandak in abright   mila going up to the torah as an aliyah once a  month gives taka every single day to your ability also lighting many candles for shabbat  aside from the two that you light   light other ones giving kavod to  people that learn torah you give kavod praying alone you're not going to disturb   other people cry hysterically when  you're praying fantastic tikkun also   some people say learn 18 mishnayot per  day learning zong does not require you   to understand what it actually says but it still  has to shine it even if you just read the words   go to sleep with your titti dog even though you're  not obligated that's the point be the first person   in becknesit toil to do meets vote to the point  of sweating do kiru as much as possible this is   the ultimate tikkun for wasting seed in the past  and obviously if you ever do in the future why you   get other people to do cuba you're fixing your  prior sins become zealots to the fullest extent   so your sins are forgiven to the fullest extent  telling people telling people genome is real it's   not a joke it's not a fairy tale no share of the  world to come doesn't mean emptiness it literally   means eternal punishment you're not allowed to  steal be modest learn tallah before you go to   sleep stop lying stop saying start your night by  sleeping on the left side then switch to the right   don't remain single get married be a macpheed on  fourth meals about anyone that has sudden as many but also we learn here that it  has to do with tikkun habrit   do every mitzvah with happiness to the fullest  extent don't give people evil eye don't look   at other people's money don't look at other  people's wife don't look at other people's   husband don't look at other people's kids  don't be an evil eye don't be an ayna   leads to a lot of the sins including if you  have a good eye it fixes your brit learn   tana de velialo and after you finish learning  tana de veglio every day a little bit every day   say Eilyahu HaNavi 72 times when you say amen don't  be one of these people that says half of amen   in shamayim every time you see men men men this  is called orphaned amen in shaman those are amen's   will go against you so unless you're going to  say amen don't say nothing say amen will full kavana, helps with tikkun habrit where you're alone but you're only thinking about  hashem don't think about all the things you want   from hashem and admir nothing else but in any time  you have isuemia you have any type of suffering   accept it with love say thank you hashem  i know it's good for me give people cuffs   give people the benefit of the doubt don't  assume the worst on people if you should   melt the limey throat you have to give cuffs  work on your bitchon test yourself become   an expert in one mitzvah mr nephews is the  ultimate fixture of pgam habrit and think about it says that if you want to fix your brit whatever you were learning yesterday double it   see something that is a person that weighs seed  simply cannot learn torah like a normal person   wasting seed damages your brain both spiritually  and physically the people that have an impossible   time to learn torah are always always without  an exception always wasting seed people that   have a hard time doing teshuva always because  they're wasting seed if a person is not willing   to stop wasting seed his teshuva is impossible he's  creating so much to tumah so much impurity so many   demons that are influencing him to do bad it's  impossible for him to do enough good to fix it   but anyone that makes excuses for wasting seed  meaning they're just not going to stop or they're   making excuses to continue they're virtually  a lost cause this person that's wasting seed   won't understand two words if we really  did teshuva we could become the biggest   nation in the world not just by kedusha but also  by number if we really didn't destroy ourselves   we would be bigger than china so when a person  wastes seed he's having the exact opposite effect   on humanity on the world than what he's supposed  to smoke says was supposed to increase six-fold   you're destroying it by wasting seed if you want  to do chew up for this it's very possible all   you really really need is desire same thing  for a woman if she really wants to do teshuva   she doesn't have to care about the neighbor  doesn't care about the her mom her sister or this   her past her future all she cares about is hashem  i'm going to be modded for his people i'm going to   be honest with myself a person that understands  that they live in this world only due to hashem   will find that all of their excuses are a waste of  time whoever walks in such a path whoever has such   a mind that constantly is thinking about bringing  good to the world bringing good to qualify   the rambam writes if he does it all of his days he  will be serving god constantly even in the midst   of his business dealings even during physical  intimacy for his intent in all matters is fulfill   his needs so that his body behold to serve god  the rambam says a person that wants to get to a   level higher than the malach higher than an angel  all he has to do is think about god at all times   during business but also the physical aspect if  a person is constantly thinking about what's the   point of what am i doing i'm doing business so i  can make money so i give the card so i can feed my   family so i can do mitzvoth okay you're thinking  about hashem i'm being intimate with my wife so i   can bring children to the world why because i want  to bring more tzaddikim to the world there's enough reshaim if you're thinking what's the point  of doing everything you're doing   you could literally become higher than a malach, hight than an angel   this is the type of thought process that  a person is supposed to get to eventually people today simply don't understand what  kind of damage they're causing themselves   both in their marriage and their  relationships and in their service of Hashem that's why our chachamim had to bring us countless  sources from the torah   from different places that the average  person perhaps didn't even look at   to show us the damage that we're causing  because sometimes we simply don't acknowledge it the mesechet gehennom in is perhaps one  of the scariest places in a torah   and in it it talks about the  things that go on in gehenom whose enormous mikubal tells  us almost 450 years ago and someone who falls into it does not  come back up there's no recovery from it 16b and 17 assets certain types of people  get punished and there's no recovery from it 150 side in that place there are certain types of  sinners one type of sinner someone that is   like a missionary causes other people to  sin causes other people to leave hashem   and you think that's oh okay i  can understand why he's there   but then tells us something surprising  he says someone that wastes seed   on purpose he knows that it's not allowed but  he still does it he goes to the same place as   the missionary he goes to a place  there's no recovery from shemishmov when our sages told us that there  is a small member in your body and a person that starves it a person that  starves this member in his body is always   going to be sachin yet a person that  feeds it will always be starving   they weren't just saying something figuratively  they were simply talking about immense sexuality   if a person is constantly going to feed his  desires he's going to destroy his life he's   always going to want more it's never going  to be enough never but if he controls himself   only to be with his wife after mikvah no other  times will see leave his body on purpose   that person will not only be happy  with the heaven that he's going to have   but he'll also be happy and satiated with  his own pleasure in this world of rabbotai beezrat Hashem we listen to our sages because  they toiled and toiled and toiled   day and night for decades to connect our  kadosh bahu in the highest possible level  B we need to do ourselves the  service of listening to them BeErat Hashem each and every one of us  will have the that we need   to overcome all desires overcome all obstacles  and become servants of hashem like we can be because as i said there's a small member in  your life it's small it shouldn't take over   your whole life if you satiate it you're always  gonna want more you're never gonna have enough   you're never gonna have control   if you starve it and only feed it when it's  permissible according to the torah you're   always going to be happy you're always going to  be saturated including this world and the next this thing is a major major problem  i literally had to go to rehab for it   i lit a normal life except for this one small  but very potent very destructive segment of   it that i kept very secret very close to  myself didn't let anybody know about it   if i couldn't keep them there with me whole i at  least i felt that i could keep their skeletons i don't have an on and off switch i'm just after  that drug the most evil men in america it is   up to the individual like myself to to keep on  knocking on whatever door they want to get into i just view things as objects people animals if  i wanted to kill somebody i'd take this book and   beat you to death with it and i wouldn't feel a  thing it'd be just like walking to the drugstore it becomes more powerful