Think Before You Do

[Music] think before you do don't act so quickly on things because that's what the wants us to do he wants us to act quickly because theoretically everything should be good on the surface of things everything looks good relationships look good sins look good everything looks good you have to think about things if a person thinks about things he'll see that most of the decisions that he would make ordinarily he wouldn't make anytime somebody asked you to make an agreement for any type of financial commitment automatically okay I'll get back to you when I'll try to do it by tomorrow no no but I need a decision now you may need a decision now I'm going to give back to you tomorrow why I want to sleep on it you don't really need to sleep on it you actually know what you want but sleep on it anyway why cuz maybe if you wait long enough some thought that you don't have now you'll have tomorrow but the salesman is going to try to get you to do what what the tries to get you to do commit right now trust me I know it was a Salesman for over 20 years the best salesman in the world is the one that can make you make a decision right now now not tomorrow not next week next next year closing closing there's determin in sales always be closing meaning I got to get you to buy now tomorrow God only knows you're already going to think about it and maybe say no I can't get you to think I need you to commit but that's what the wants you to do he wants you to commit to the sin he wants you to commit to now so what you have to do is get yourself used to I'll get back to you tomorrow even if you don't feel like you need to get back to them tomorrow unless it's a Mitzvah if it's Mitzvah you know for sure it's a mitvah it's a different story but for things of this world mundane things I'll get back to you tomorrow I'll get back to you next week no we need an answer today you may need an answer today I can't give you an answer today suddenly you'll see that they could deal with tomorrow also oh no no I need the money tomorrow okay so I'll talk to you tomorrow no no but if you talk to me tomorrow the money's not going to get till the next day okay so won't get said it to you then no no no no no just go back to tomorrow it's fine it's fine it's fine it's fine all of a sudden it's fine all of a sudden it's fine this is very important because many times we make bad decisions because we make them too quickly there was a guy that in the old days it was okay to leave your wife for an extended period of time today it's not so okay today if you go to the store for 5 minutes too long are you coming home or you leaving no no I'm I'm on the way way just on the highway just on the highway you've been gone for so long I just left 10 minutes ago okay yeah yeah I'll be home I'll miss you too RAB I can't come to the shield why not my wife my wife what do you mean your wife she it's 10:00 at night she's not sleeping yes she's sleeping but she wants me to be home why so you can watch her sleep I don't know Rabbi but she says she needs me to be home when she's sleeping I said tough life thank God for YouTube sometimes the wife is tough sometimes the husband's tough you have to use your imagination you have to use your imagination of how to deal with them but you also have to use your intellect too why your imagination may solve your problem today but not tomorrow your intellect is what's going to help you tomorrow there was one time a guy that grew up his father had a successful business and as his father got older he said listen son I don't know how long I have in this world but I tell you one thing never make a decision right away anytime especially if you're angry don't make a decision right away wait until the next day said okay shortly later the the father passed away and the kid took over the business as could over business he found a woman to marry him and he ran the business made a few bad deals cuz he was still young and lost all of his money he said listen I got to go travel a little bit try to make some money make some money and I'll come back whenever we have money you know from time to time I'll send you money stay loyal to me she said okay in those days it was okay so he went on a journey and every so often he would send money without really knowing what's going on 20 years passed 20 years passed he acquired wealth again and he decided to come back home came back home came back to town and he came back to the house and he saw his wife although 20 years older still good-look and looks happy but then suddenly some guy walks up to her and gives her a big hug and she starts kissing him and hugging and kissing chill like oh who's this guy that's takes out his sword he's like I'm going to kill both of them she didn't stay loyal to me but then he thought after he took out the sword my father only taught me one thing when you're angry don't make a decision wait till tomorrow so he decided not to go there not to kill both of them he went to a motel and he took a rest for the night the next day he decided to go to to go ask around about his wife says you know such and such woman he goes yeah you know anything about her go oh she's a big tadik big tadik she helps the community yeah well she's married well yeah the poor woman her husband left her 20 years ago wait so she she remarried no Shalom she stays loyal to him she's great she's that she even has a son she go son she went with some other guy no who are you you saying bad things about this woman no no I'm just wonder ing no she's a bigad what a husband didn't know when he left is she was pregnant she didn't even know she was pregnant and a few months after he was already gone she had a baby it's his baby and now the kid's nice beautiful kid 20 years old go who's this kid show me they start showing Mar that's him who's that the same beautiful kid that was hugging the woman the day before his son he says look at that if I didn't listen to my father from over 20 years ago when he told me son don't make decisions right away wait a day if I had just ignored this one piece of advice Not only would it have been a mistake that would have ended my marriage it would have ended the life of my wife and my son and that's why thear says anytime somebody's angry for sure you're not making the right decision for sure it's a mistake now why is a mistake because the has in control of it why because the anger is the highlight of imagination highlight of imagination the highest point of imagination when you're angry what are you thinking about it's all about me they're doing it to discredit me they're doing it to embarrass me they're doing it to bring me shame they're trying to destroy me they're trying to this me me me me me everybody's against me I'm alone no one loves me everyone hates me it's me against the world and that's it oh she's disrespecting me he's disrespecting me dude he's just going on a trash he didn't see you he's not disrespecting anything he doesn't even know you exist he didn't see you he didn't see you he just crossed cuz he didn't see you no no he's disrespecting me cuz I'm this no no he doesn't know who you are he doesn't know you exist in the world he's just some guy that lives in the same state as you for the last month he doesn't know that you're there cuz he just he's in a hurry cuz his wife is pregnant and he's got his own problems and you just happen to be in the way but no when you're angry you start having all of these delusions that come from your imagination that Fu your anger and the more you express it the more Angry you become the second you punch something you hit something you start cursing you start yelling it doesn't make your anger go down it's fuel to the fire people think yeah listen if you're an angry person get a punching bag that's the worst possible thing you can do if you get yourself used to being physical every time you're angry guess what eventually it's not going to be a punching bag it's going to be a person if every time you're angry you want to hit up a bag guess what one day it's not going to be a bag it's going to be a person maybe your wife your kid your boss your customer somebody but that's what secular knowledge will tell you why cuz they want you to think look look there are professional people that hit the bag also they do for exercise so you should too you should too that's not Judaism anger is one of the ways that makes your imagination go crazy the way to come everything down is simply to become a lot more patient even if that means you have to force yourself to become patient and to allow yourself to think before you act never be sporadic never be spontaneous never do things that way because the minute you start doing that you become simply a slave of the Satan and you start thinking based on your imagination your whole life becomes based on your imagination you start thinking you're either over rightous or over Wicked either you're too bad to do chuva or you're too good that you don't need Chua anymore you're too good that no one's good enough to marry you or that you're too bad that no one wants to marry you you're a victim or you're uh you know you're too strong all everything becomes an extreme that's what the k says we have to think use our mind and only utilize the imagination if the intellect is still in control but [Music]