The Surprising ROOT OF ALL SIN

[Music] special sh tonight for for M Ben will have also to Lana um toad Lana Doris B David Bena dor Mercedes Elisha SAR David Ben Ruth shaon bka David Ben Esther today I um was uh working on a article uh we're going to try if you pray for me maybe your merits will help me um we're going to start uh writing a uh weekly bi-weekly was up hopefully weekly articles uh different different uh short insights from the Tora mostly General sometimes in regards to the par most of the time we're going to try to just use different parts of the Tor go over different parts of the Torah both uh FR and I as well as always we're always going to try to have at least one or two guest rabbis that we know that um join us and write different articles each one is mostly Hebrew with the exception of mine we're also going to have uh ran Sarah's wife she's also writing one and also right one um but uh each one will go through different perspectives of of of what they got that week what they think we need Ain uh and I was working on an article today because when for me speaking is a lot easier than writing gave me uh Hashem gave me The Gift of Gab I like I enjoy writing uh and I've written quite a bit in my life especially in the business World they used to write long extended papers and Analysis and stories and so on and I wrote a few articles in the Torah world but each one for me is like uh giving 20 lectures because because writing is very different than uh speaking you don't uh write the way you speak you have to uh make sure that the uh each word flows and it's comprehensible and the more you read the more you realize how most books are never read not because the content is not interesting but because it takes a really long time to get to the point you know the if you see most books today that are written in reality the whole story could be told in two pages most books in reality most of the points and doesn't matter what kind of book it is most of the main points of the book two three four 10 pages Max so what's the other 400 Pages 400 pages to justify a $25 St price but the real and what we try to Aspire to be will make sure to write each and every single word carefully to make sure that you get something out of every page out of every uh sentence and so on and so forth so there's a lot more work going into it especially if you value your own time then that means you're going to Value other people's time so with that being said I uh wrote about started writing about and uh this has to do with our sh we're going to talk a little bit about TSH preparation for TSH um try to figure out what is it that we need to do is it uh a big deal is it not a big deal is it just we fast for a day do a diet and that's it we're finished or is it uh something more Shalom used to say that uh every t y he would feel like he's going to a nursing home when he goes toet he felt like he was going to a nursing home why there's a bunch of people in slippers asking when's the food when's the food when's the food and that's unfortunately in many places that's Y in many places a bunch of people in slippers asking about when's the fast over when's the fast over in the book of Isaiah Chapter 58 is complaints says look we just fasted we fasted no how come our prayers are not being answered we fasted 17 of T we fast no how come you're not answering our prayers AEM so the prophet of the prophet Isaiah comes by the word of hasem and he says to them this is a fast you think hasem cares if you eat and you don't eat instead of fasting and getting closer spiritually to hem what do you do you fast and spend the entire day saying so you go to be instead of talking to hem what you talking about you talking about this guy see this guy didn't come he's late he's late to a prayer yeah the guy never cares yeah he's not really he's like uh he's like a half with payers oh him no no he's a divorced no him you see what kind of business he has he's probably is business he's working he can't take off today he's got a business he got a house he's got a building everybody's talking about everybody else it becomes instead of of this is 3,000 years ago nothing's changed nothing changed same thing now I remember when I lived in New York there was a besset that I would go to and every year was the same thing especially you know when I was secular and I knew nothing about nothing I was one of the people but it was always amazed me that the people would come once twice a year to beess just like me but they make it ex a big deal at least I tried to hide I knew I was supposed to go more often then they make such a big deal all sikim all sikim but when they want to make sure everybody knows that sadik why so they drive their uh brand new car and they park it right in front of the Sho and they come out with a club outfit and they talk and they're outside the whole time so why'd you come to sh if you're outside the whole time but when you don't know what you're doing you don't know you're doing it wrong so nothing's changed from the time of prophet Isaiah until today we go to sh we sit on the floor pretend like we care about bet mikdash but in reality all we care about is for the clock to be over so we could eat now Hashem told us to fast several times during the year because these are special opportune times for us to connect to him these are special opportune times for us to reconsider where we stand in reality we're supposed to do it every day in reality if you read and understand the words that you pray every day whether it's whichever one if you actually understand what you say every single one of the prayers should be the best M you've ever heard if you understand and you actually think about what's being said you should be able to do chuva every time you pray why don't we do chuva every time we pray because we're busy we're busy doing other things galinski Shalom used to use a from that says the there a that says they are with the carriages they are with the horses but we are in the name of asem in essence what's the is supposed to mean that they use all the go they have to use all the carriages and horses to win Wars we win in the name of hem galinski said people to get to where they want to be they use carriages they use horses us we just use the name of Hashem as soon as hhm's name is mentioned our mind goes somewhere else say okay we're already thinking about the work we have to go to and the office we have to go to in the meeting we have to go to immediately you say the name of hm is we're thinking about something else we have to go somewhere else how come you you're in why you think about you think about nothing's changed so if you look at is is anyone that's lucky enough to talk to hem every day praise every day and knows that there's an in our T in this is a Biblical that hasem commanded Us in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 4 verse 5 and six and it continues where he says that you have to say you have to say no less than twice a day once in the morning once at night and really you should say it before you go to sleep also the reason why you say it in the morning and at night is at specific times there specific times during a day you're supposed to say it in the morning and there's a specific times at night after Sundown you have to say it but the reason why you have to say it before you go to sleep is also because is actually a verse in the Tor so it's good to go to sleep with a verse of Tor right before you go to sleep supposed to be the last thing you say it helps destroy all of the demons that come from our sins and so on and so forth we had a sh about this some time ago but also means something else is a way that hasem tells us I want you to call out to me I want you to scream out to me figuratively speaking here Israel hasem Our God Hashem is one here every single Jew that says this is recognizing the B that he is our God his God meaning that Jews particular God he's recognizing his Mal his kinghood he's recognizing the king as the king and he's recognizing that he's the only one and there is no other no other king from aod whether it be Yos or or it' be Buddha or it be Muhammad and no other type of King like his boss or his wife or his or the husband or the competition or so on and so forth God is the only God even his money or any hobby that he has could be a false god this is why when yobu saw his son YF after 22 years for the first time the Torah says that ysf hugged yov and started crying but yov didn't hug YF why he didn't hug y t says he didn't hug YF because he was so passionate about how much he loved YF he was so excited to see YF for the first time in 22 years when he actually thought he was dead that when he saw him he was overwhelmed with passion overwhelmed with love overwhelmed with excitement and then he realized before he hugged them no no one in the world deserves that much of my heart and he said at that moment my heart only belongs to God no one in the world not even my son the deserves that much of my love no one but God what about our money how much time we spend talking about our money thinking about our money planning our money how many people have planned their retirement almost every American has some type of retirement plan some have $500 million in their retirement plan some have $5 in their retirement plan with a dream either way everyone plans for their retirement I remember young kids coming to my office in the old days 18 19 years old and it would ask me sometimes oh is there a retirement plan look you're 18 you're not going to retire for maybe 40 50 years what do you care about retirement right now who says you're going to make it to this retirement everybody worries about retirement they work so they could stop working so just stop working now go to the street stop working with the rest of the bombs you want to stop working everybody wants to plan for retirement everybody has a retirement plan because one day everybody expects to be retired so they could do nothing their dream is to work really hard so they could do nothing what a dream that is imagine you work your whole life really hard overtime seven days nine days a week you work over time you work you work not 20 you invented a new way to make more time in a day now you work 48 hours a day not 24 hours why so one day you don't have to work just stop working now then if you don't want to work so bad but people plan for their retirement they want to retire they want to do nothing so they go on vacation permanently till they run out of money and they going have to go back to work but everybody plans for their retirement people are so worried anytime they lose money like oh I lost my retirement how much did you lose I lost $3,000 I'm like you're going to retire in $3,000 that's one one month more one month rent what $3,000 what are you going to what are you going to do with $3,000 you're going to have to work for if that's all your retirement I had a friend who uh her retirement was uh these two medallions taxi medallions in New York City Yellow Cabs in the early 1930s there was a uh the the city of New York made the taxi and limousine commission and said in order for you to operate a taxi and pick up people off the street you have to have something called a medallion and this Medallion there was going to be a was going to be controlled as far as the supply and how much the city was going to release and every year they would release just a few more but supply and demand says that if you have a limited quantity is going to be higher demand if it's a good product in this particular case the population of New York continued to increase which meant that the value of these medallions continued to increase where in the 1980s for example 1980 The Medallion was worth somewhere around $50,000 $50,000 if you wanted to operate a yellow cab and anyone that wants to go eat it's fine uh if you wanted to operate a yellow taxi you had to buy a medallion or you had to lease it you have to rent it from somebody in the beginning people just got their own but then the value increased rapidly all the way to the point that by the year 2013 one Medallion was over a million dollars one Medallion was over a million dollars I remember my father God bless him he says one of the biggest regrets that he had was that when we first moved to America in 1990 he was able to buy a medallion for a couple of $100,000 and he never did he had the money at the time and he never did so by 2013 when it went to a million dollars he was like eating his heart out good news ABA it's back to 200,000 why what happened what happened to everybody's retirement plan what happened to everybody's retirement five years it went to nothing what happened everybody that everybody and their mother bought a medallion over the last 10 years even though it was 300,000 400,000 it could continue going higher why did it continue going higher because everybody said listen there's only 13,000 of them so we could buy this Medallion then we could lease it out to somebody somebody's going to pay me $1,000 a week my mortgage is only $2,000 a month I make $2,000 a month profit or even more it became a big money maker so everybody including my friend that are two of them this was their retirement how could it go wrong it's retirement no well they forgot that God runs the world so in 2013 it reached a little over a million dollars but at that moment there was a tiny little company called Uber that said we're going to go into the market and we're going to go in a different we're going to be more expensive and uh we're not going to pick you up off the street you have to call us you have to use an app and it sounds kind of annoying to use it and so on and so forth and no one really paid attention to them well recent report came out Uber is officially bigger than the Yellow Taxi caps to such an extent ENT that there are entire streets in New York full of yellow taxi cabs parked and no one's ever going to drive them why because all the guys they used to drive the Yellow Taxi and Lease these medallions are not leasing them anymore why they just using their own car to pick up people and that way that Medallion that was worth over a million dollars dropped 80% in the last couple of years 80% and it'll probably go to zero it'll probably go to zero there probably there's no value to it done ever again there's no value for it there's no point first of all the old taxes are disgusting I'm telling you from experience M must disgusting disgusting filthy disgusting I used to befriend you're in a cab a lot of times in New York you befriend these people I know how much money they make how they do I actually considered uh buying one myself at some point and uh and I always asking how come who smells goes out we never leave the taxi so what does mean never leave the taxi they do their stuff in the tax most disgusting to use it as a bathroom it's disgusting so first of all it's disgusting if I didn't say it enough it's disgusting now after that the fact that you get over the fact that it's disgusting it's so disgusting uh after that doesn't make any sense doesn't make sense to use it why because you have to fight for it in the street it's freezing you don't know what's happening you have to stand there like a in the corner no no come and finally you think the guy comes and the guy you tell the guy okay I want to go down the oh no no no go only to the airport and the guy doesn't want to pick you up and he leaves or better yet the guy comes right next to you and then he says he's off duty off duty so he's you just waited an hour and a half freezing in New York weather and the guy is so it doesn't make any sense whereas with the Uber you just press the app he comes he tells you when he's downstairs he come downstairs you're finished finished perfect check refuse so listen if he's in New York he's most likely a criminal but that what can do it's a risk you have to take when you take a cab joking point is um the value of everyone's retirement that was in that business went down 80% in a business that everyone was absolutely certain that was their retirement how many of us have planned for retirement how many of us thought that retirement looks Rosy because I just got a raise because I just invented something because I just sold a house because I just got married because of this and because of that and then all of a sudden Hashem shows us that he's the one running the show and our retirement plans get foiled and go into the garbage with all of our dreams and hopes and we go back to work all you know you know with with a long face like a horse why because we realized we're not going to retire we're never going to graduate to actually become these people that do nothing which by the way from experience because I used to deal with a lot of rich people that retired as soon as they retire they usually die seriously the people that are wealthy that made their money actually working not just being retired uh most of them die shortly after they retire and that's because they're not used to not doing nothing working actually kept them alive retirement is not healthy for you that's why in the Torah life there's no such thing as Retirement even on your deathbed if you're able to read you have to obligated to obligated to it's not it's not like you should oh it's nice you're sadik no no you're obligated to on your death bed you know you're going to die in 20 minutes can you read yeah learn to why a person was created to work not to retire but let's get back to the point at hand most of us have or will try to retire to plan for retirement question I have how many of us that plan to retire in this world how many of us plan for what happens after retirement after this world how many of us put something aside fora we planned so much oh no no retirement I'm I live here but in retirement I'm going to live there okay good you have the house over there fine yeah but now I have the bank here but when I retire my bank is going over there okay so the bank's over there and the house is over there and the car this car I have the car here but the real car is in my garage in the house over there with the bank over there okay the car in the house in the bank over there fine you made all these plans of retirement what about how many of us actually started planning fora because can happen before retirement my cousin Isa arrived at 23 years old he never got to retire how many of us planned for it when we learn we're supposed to learn with that type of kavana that this learning is for that retirement plan that retirement plan Ina our prayer is trying to wake us up to realize this is what you're supposed to be doing planning for retirement in now first and foremost we have to scream to hasm because we have a lot of problems no one leaves this world without a lot of problems no one leaves this world without a lot of suffering if you're expecting a life without any suffering it's the wrong life come back next stop everyone has suffering there's no such thing as a life without suffering it's called Death no no one leaves this world without everybody has suffering some people Financial some people relationships some people this some people that everybody has suffering no one leaves this world without suffering I'm sorry for all the Young Folks killing your hopes and dreams trust me when I tell you you will suffer in your life make good use of it at least at Le I'm telling you I'm telling you the truth why because at least now that you know you're going to suffer make good use of it don't say oh not going to you suffer you live you're going to suffer at least made good use of it okay what can I learn from this suffering session one student I teach him for three years not this one that one questions night day this that personal family the mother father problems of the family all types of questions all types of hours 2 o'clock in the morning 12:00 in the afternoon whatever no question unanswered every question I answered three years everything possible I did he decided he didn't like the last answer after three years the last answer after three years he doesn't like so what he's going to do he's going to spread about me tell people don't come to you why I didn't like his last answer yeah what about the other 3,000 answers for three years no no no we don't take we don't think about stuff like that only it's what have you done for me lately that's the mentality of this generation what have you done for me lately so when we scream to in reality we are accepting hasem as the king of all Kings we're accepting Hashem as our King that could bring us not only the national salvation for our nation our brothers our sisters our parents our children but also bring us all own personal individual salvation for all of the problems that we have why he's the one that gave it to us you ask where does my problem come from Hashem where did the Holocaust come from hem where do the come from hem good and bad comes from hem so now we're saying is we're in essence recognizing that he is the source of all good he's the source of all what we think is bad and so on and so forth we are starting our day by recognizing the king we are starting our day by saying AEM you are in control I am here today to work for you good so far so good that means if we're going to start our day already we should start on the right foot and not lie to Hashem right it's not good you're asking him to help you and then you're lying in his face right it's not good oh can can you give me the answer for what is this this and this oh yeah sure sure and then after you use that use the answer to go talk against him it's not nice right it's not a nice thing to do right right so much more than some guy that thinks he's a rabbi yeah is AEM right so now imagine imagine everything go you are the only one that can solve my problem I have a lot of problems like this problems problem s you could fix it so you're not going to lie to him right who's going to lie to him raise your hand no one's going to lie okay so now I have a question after we say we say that's what you say the verse goes verse four chapter 6 verse four in Deuteronomy then five the next verse continues this what we're reading it's continuous what it say and you love AEM your God same one you just said same one not different one same one say to him and you love this God love him that's why we you talking about you hate this God is he going to answer your prayers and you lie to this guy he's going to answer your prayers you're not going to answer your prayers so you say why you going to answer my prayers hm because I love you what's my proof that I love you I love hem with all my heart and all my soul and all of my resources that's what we say every day no less than two times a day now let me ask you a question between you and me which one of us actually means it you just said in the morning you woke up in the morning give you you said a help me that's you said so many words why because I love you with all my heart with all of my soul and all my money now how many of us really love hem with all of our heart even when what he said is against our own opinion when he says that we have to be modest but we don't really feel like it because the neighbor is going to make fun of us because we have a hat on and she's wearing a wig to the floor so she G to make fun of us because we have a hat because we look likeu and she looks like kak's wife she's gonna make fun of usem said to wear hat said to wear didn't wear wig didn't wear wig so how many of us actually love hem so much that it even doesn't matter what we think or what the neighbor thinks how many of us how many of us actually care more about AEM in our heart than the neighbor all of our heart let's say half a heart half a heart is sometimes half a heart is when we're sick when we're sick we love hem a lot when you're not sick our whole heart the whole of our heart that's what we say we start the day how many of us love him with all of our heart when we know that in reality we have a non- kosher business we're not allowed to operate it so we have to close it how many of us know that it's an opportune time to say because it's so spicy and so delicious to say this but it's against theem it's against theem hasm doesn't like I'll tell you in a moment how much he doesn't like l how many of us it's hard right now all of a sudden the love is questionable okay so let's go into step two step two said with all of our souls what's all of our souls how many of us really dedicate our entire life to do his will like his like he wants meaning what how do we know what Hashem wants does he talk to any of us he send you any text messages Jacob he sent you a text message today he sent you to me he didn't send anybody else get text message other than Jacob nobody else get a text only Jacob only only Jacob is lucky enough to get text message the rest of us didn't get text message why because he gave us a different instruction set why it's called Torah so how many of us dedicate how many of us dedicate our souls meaning our entire life morning Day and Night Living based off of this instruction set living off of this love letter from hem called the tah how many of us be it not sometimes three times a week when there's a sh the whole day every day all the time of course you're allowed to work you're all lowed to eat you're allow to go to the bathroom all the things you need to do you have to do but meaning to do all those things no one's telling you're not allowed to do them what we're saying is how many of us are doing them with the instructions of the Tora as the manual what's we're using that as the manual of how to do them to work I'm only going to work based on this instruction set can't work on Shabbat can only work kosher business you know so on and so forth in regards to mody rules so on and so forth in regards to and so on all the things a lot to work a lot to eat but you only lot to eat kosher food even if it's a business meeting how many of us are living our life with this instruction set our whole life now we're getting a little difficult that's easy one third one we love hem so much we love him with all of our money how many of us made Torah our number one investment in our portfolio how many people in the world have made Torah their number one investment Financial investment not theoretical investment not time investment money cash how many of it make toah their number one resource their number one asset how most people their number one asset is their house retirement current house future house some people have more money in their parking lot than they have in their Bank honestly if you ever want to know why people go bankrupt you just look at their parking lots people spend three four five $6,000 a month just on leasing cars it's unbelievable the level of stupidity in this generation in financial matters is Mas hitting new highs people can barely pay their mortgage but they have $4,000 in the parking lot I see it all the time every Shabbat we walk around a little bit with the kids walk around we see you know the houses everybody has the same house it's all like little Legos everybody has the same house but some of the houses you have four brand new cars and you know just from knowledge you know this one is $1,000 a month this one's 1500 this one's 700 you see people they have3 $4,000 a month in cars like even if you have the money why are you wasting so much money on a car and four of it it's unbelievable to me people they they Mas they barely have money to eat they're living Mas like if they don't get paid on time like they're stressed out but they're going to spend $700 a month on a on on a Lincoln or something or an infinity or whatever one of these stupid cars just get a regular car why do you have to spend so much money in a car and four of them nonetheless three of them why can't you borrow each other's car what do you have to have four no no it's my car it go it's not your car anyway it goes back to the lot you're leasing it it's not your car anyway people don't know how to share we get mad at the little kids no share share you don't know how to share yourself why you getting mad at the four-year-old you don't know how to share yourself when was the last time you shared your car no it's my car oh okay so when you learn how to share your car as an adult the four-year-old is going to learn how to share his biger we don't know how to share as adults so now we have a problem why we said we love hem that's why he's going to answer our prayers everybody always likes to talk about how much we love hem love hem love hem okay let's see you're starting a day with love okay let's see which one do you love which way you love him with all of your heart which means that you're going to follow everything he says regardless of whether you like it or not regardless of whether your neighbor likes it or lot regardless of whether you fit in or not already we have a problem Houston we have a problem okay second Soul your whole T your whole life is tor your whole life meeing morning middle day the whole day is T you still we have two problems okay what about your money we're not even going to ask that Houston we crashed so I'm not saying I'm doing it I'm not saying anyone here is doing it I'm just saying the next time we cry to Hashem instead of crying to Hashem like H just say let's just do a little reflection where can I get better not saying to tomorrow we're all going to wake up and say oh tomorrow I'm doing all of it oh it's going to take time pick one pick one okay you know what this one today I'm going to do good this one the the heart today I'm going to be all hasem today today I'm going to be all hasem I'm G talk about hem think about hm I don't care what she says I don't care what he says whatever hasem says I'm going to do tomorrow the other two the money and the soul and stuff we we'll get to that but pick one pick one pick one tomorrow if it's the money it's the money if it's the heart it's the heart pick something why so at least it's not a complete lie because at the end of it all you're asking for hem for help you're asking for hem to give you Miracle you could arrive home from work and a lot of people don't make it home from work so here we see that our prayers if you actually delve into them give us a loud of now after there's a in the Yesa world the Torah world it's called benim meaning that Thea the they'll take a three- week break take a three week break you've been studying all year morning afternoon night non stop you need a break no one says you need a break from T you just need a break from that particular schedule and a lot of people use this time to go away see nature relax hang out with the family and so on now it's known that everyone that's really cares about Tora takes some books with them but you can't C carry all your books not Everyone likes to carry all their books so usually you carry you know one one you're going to learn maybe uh few a few interesting things you have but the one thing that is very easy to forget is M it's very easy to forget the M book it's always heavy the musar book it's always heavy so Hashem is doing us a favor every year at this time we start and is an entire seph the book of Deuteronomy the whole thing is M the whole book of is all from the number one Rabbi of all time every single verse is M every single verse is rebuke as said whenu went to he said AEM why you so mad at them okay said they wored up an idol but no come on they're just people they kids they're like two little kids they don't know what they're doing right left they were playing with the Statue next thing they worshiped it they didn't really know they were playing with it they didn't really know it's they didn't know hem they didn't mean it the kids no hem you're Infinity uh age they just what 20 years old 30 years old they don't know anything Hashem they don't know Hashem says okay okay go go down to them then he goes down M who comes from Mount Si he says to is you made a really big sin look what you did you despicable people despicable people that are not smart what do you mean just said to Hashem you didn't do a big deal the kids kid no what happened to that because to him I said it to you I have to tell you the truth you have to do chuva I had to convince him if I told him the truth if I told him what I really thought then what do you think he's going to kill you but really in reality we made a big sin from here our sages teach us that when you go to hasem you pray for your students you pray for your people you pray for your parents you pray for your kids and so on and so forth you pray in their favor even if they're not necessarily the biggest sikim in the world you pray for them'll but that does not mean that you make pretend like they're really and tell no no you're sadik what sadik the GU Shabbat no the guy is sadik he donated money yeah to the Red Cross so he could fund Christianity what what donated no he's got a big heart yeah big heart thinking about girls all day what big heart what a big heart was it teddy bear you cannot lie to people just because you want to make them feel good now the problem is that many of the leaders today are making the same mistake we've been making for the last 2,000 years and they think that just because you tell people the truth that's going to make them question themselves it's not good way so thear teaches us who did this who didn't do it in batra says that what was the significance of job M of job job the ramban in the commentary the beginning of job says that anyone that reads the Book of Job if he's normal has to do Chua why you see the amount of suffering that he went through just during the first two pages of the book not the whole book just the first two pages the amount of suffering that job went through anyone that's normal has to do chuva just to know that it's even a remote possibility that it could happen to you that alone should scare you worse than the G The Book of Job is so scary and so much full of M of what could happen to a person in this world forget G just in this world that it's part of the small amount of Torah we're allowed to learn during TSH during tshav there are certain restrictions you're not allowed to eat you're not allowed to drink you're not allowed to bathe you're not allowed to be with intimate with your wife with your husband a few things you're not allowed to do but one of the things you're also not allowed to do aside also you're not have to rub oils creams on yourself that's the fifth thing but one of the other things you're not allowed to do is you're not allowed to be happy not allowed to be happy why because is the time when both mikdash were destroyed both of them first one and second one all of the major disasters in the history of happened on not just the mikdash not just the first one not just the second one if you look at all of the major disasters that ever happened to in history it happened on this day if it's theim the spies that said about the land the spies that said about hem they came back and they made the entire nation cry Hashem says you cried for no reason today I will give you a reason to cry for eternity forever in this world on this day for real reason that was officially when was created during the and for that the generation was punished that not a single one of them with the exception of Yeshua B and not a single one of them will have the Merit to enter is all of them will die in a desert why they cried for no reason was also when were historically horrible days horrible times during the pgrs and inquisitions the Spanish Inquisition the pgrs the crystal n during the Nazi Germany times all of the different things that happened throughout our history the horrible things the horrible events happen on shab so anyone that delves and thinks about those things easily could not be happy easily he could be sad but there is something that can create a lot of happiness in a person even if all the sadness in the world surrounds him and that is learning Tor soem says you're not allowed to learn T because learning T will give you the ultimate happiness you're not allowed to learn you're not allowed to learn seph you're not allowed to learn a lot of the Torah what are you allowed to learn you have to learn things that are reant to the destruction of mdash all all the things that happened during the destruction different the end of has a few stories of what happened to theik how they they killed R peeled off his skin all types of horrible things that you're allowed to study the book of the Prophet Jeremiah wrote what happened at the destruction of bet mikdash anyone that reads it in a language they understand and not just makes the sounds immediately becomes very very sad a lot of people make the sounds a lot of people know how to make sounds okay anybody know what means means how did it get to this that's what it means I thought my whole life I thought a was a name I was yeah Prophet AA Propet means how did they get to this o that's what it means but we don't know we just make sounds you have to read these things in a language you understand doesn't make a difference what everyone else is doing makes a difference what you're doing you learn it you learn it in language you understand and if you learn what happened during the destruction of bet mikdash and you see that before the BET mikdash was destroyed what level of starvation we got to to such an extent that the mothers had to eat their own children this is not the first or second time this happened in history this happened many times throughout our history this is the punishment that hasem promised us if we disobey him will happen in and twice in the no less is to say that hem will punish us to that extent that we'll get to such level of starvation the mothers will eat their children and this happened multiple times throughout history first bet mikdash second bet mikdash and even during Nazi Germany this is the part of the this is part of Nazi Germany and the Holocaust that people don't like to talk about I brought it in a a year or two ago showed people proof that this actually is what happened the point being abai you learn these things it's very easy to get said now one of the things you're a able to learn on is the Book of Job why because the Book of Job anyone that actually understands the words understands what happened to job immediately becomes sad why because he knows it's possible that it could happen to him he knows it's possible that it could happen to her why it happened to a human being it happened in this world it's all things we can understand the guy wakes up in the morning a multi-billionaire 10 kids by the afternoon all 10 kids died that happened to people in this world by the afternoon all of his money is gone that happened to people in this world by the afternoon he became sick that happened to people this world today you go to the hospital healthy with a cold you come back sick with some disease because they use the wrong needle to kids Young from South America Jewish guys in the 1980s went to hospital because they had hemophilia not a deadly disease but not something comfortable either the hospital said they had a cure they were going to be part of a study they went to the doctors they went to the hospital and mistakenly one of the nurses that was doing a different study injected these two boys with a needle that had AIDS in it both guys got AIDS young Jewish kids had a little problem but not deadly now it became deadly but it's different disease you wake up in the morning with a cold you now have Aids in the afternoon one of the kids realized we're going to die I'm going to meet my maker soon I'm GNA do chuva his brother didn't decide the same thing he said I'm going to live life to the fullest he wanted to go party he wanted to enjoy life this is recorded in a sh maybe 20 years ago by RAB they showed on showed up on a Sho testified one of them testified the one that went partying partied partied parted then died from AIDS the one that did chuva did real chuva continue going to the doctor one day he goes to the doctor and they ask him okay no what's the trick what trick what's the what you do what' you do with the blood what you do come on let's do a blood check again because did a blood check not nurse everything no no no no what' you do nothing what what did I do what are you talking about they said are you serious I said I'm serious what serious you don't have AIDS the incurable disease disappeared until this day 30 years later it's an incurable disease yes there's ways that you can live for 20 years like Magic Johnson and other people like him that have a zillion dollars but the average person dies or at least lives a very very miserable short life it doesn't disappear unless you're a Jew that does Chua so job woke up healthy in the afternoon he's sick but sick to such an extent that the worms are leaving his body not coming in he became like rotten meat abscesses all over his body I felt like I was dying with two or three at a time he had it all over his body the asked what was that significance of job what was something special about Job says job was a sadik why he tried to relieve all of am is from their responsibility all of mankind from their responsibility to their maker to their creator what he said to you created the cow and you created a donkey one has hopes that are split one has hopes that are not split meaning you decided why this one has hopes that split and this one has no there's no actual real scientific reason of why or that makes sense of why one would have and one would not have bless you there's no real reason like this doesn't make sense okay why can't we just eat a donkey looks delicious no don't tell me doesn't look delicious why the cow looks delicious the Arabs love it that's why they sell to the Jews get cows but anyway they sell that's what they do they sell the donkey meat the Jews in Israel that are not really so they sell it to them as if it's a c the point is job comes to hasem and he tells them meaning you run nature you decided here makes sense here it doesn't make sense meaning it's your rules you created the yet you created the E the evil person you created the good person you create K also you created a good person you created an evil person meaning some guys were just born with an inclination to be they have a good nature they're born or came into this worldless they're humble already automatically they're humble they're good nature they're giving they're good nature people you created these and some people not exactly sikim some people like to play with fire some people are pyromaniac some people like to kill animals for no reason some people a little crazy son you created them too hem you created them you created good you created bad so Shem who can beat you meaning what job was trying to say Hashem you created all these things anyway so for any of us to be able to do chuv we have to go against your creation because you created them bad because you create him with hoves you create him with an evil inclination you create him with this job was trying to get everybody to be everybody doesn't know and that's why his friends came to him thear says and rebuked him he says oh job you're making a mistake what's the mistake you're making you're making a mistake that yes even though some people have an inclination to do something bad hasem also gave them at least just as much power to do something good even though he has an inclination to see blood he doesn't have to use it to murder people he could become a surgeon he could become a butcher does not to become murderer even though you have an inclination to look at certain things that's fine don't look at that look at something that's kosher he gave you evil inclination he gave you a good inclination that was the mistake that job made and unfortunately that mistake is being made today job did Chu that's why there's a book in the Tora written about him he Didu I'm sorry have questioned you and he did complete CH became KES and has a book called The Book of Job written about him what about the people of today what about the people for the last couple of thousand years since Job not so much so thebat gives us some things that we need to chew on because people have heard the BET mikdash was destroyed for a few reasons the first one was was destroyed because of no one knows the third you're looking at me some I'm seeing you want to complete it idol worship spilling blood is sex crimes now most people think that these are only three sins the entire nation millions and millions of people only made three sins everything else that were perfect that's the mistake the three sins are not only three sins they're three General topics there three descriptions for the main category but it's not all of the subcategories because every time in the 12 times that it's mentioned in the Torah that idolatry that I'm sorry thatat is a death penalty right next to it in those all 12 times you will see that idolatry is also death penalty is death penalty and death penalty from here the sages teach us that hasem considers desecrating Shabbat the same thing as idolatry and K teaches us Shabbat that the reason why the BET mikdash was destroyed was because of Shabbat so then they ask wait a minute where does the G come from where does the uh uh spilling Blood come from how are they all connected and isn't it true that saw so many miracles in a bet mikdash that it would be crazy for them to worship an idol like you're seeing Fire come from Heaven every few minutes but the fire is not like a fire like you're Imagining the fire the describe the fire was the shape of a lion the shape of a giant lion is coming from shamash and you're going to go worship an idol does that make any sense if you remember I told the answers this question how could is worship an idol didn't know didn't they all know is all nonsense the says of course they knew it was nonsense but they also knew that as soon as they were class ified as Idol worshippers no one would even try to get to get them to do chuva people would just give up on them and if they gave up on them and they consider ah this guy's an idol worshipper then they could go do whatever they really wanted to do which was sex crimes then they could walk around imist then they could walk around and go to the prostitutes that's what they really wanted to do they want that was the real reason of why the idolatry started but here thear tells us how this map started we'll go from the end to the beginning page 128 and 119b says says yush was not destroyed only because I'm sorry y was destroyed only because people of emit of Truth had disappeared from it so continues and tries to delve into this sugya what do you mean men of truth there's no men of truth there's no men of Truth and one of the commentaries at the end in the beginning of uh of says no difficulty here what do they mean by no man of Truth one of the meanings is that the Prophet Jeremiah tells people hey going to the streets going to the market go find me a man of Truth meaning that even in their own world we got to such a low level such a low level of Kusa that even in the secular world in a secular World there was no men of Truth meaning you go into the market go find an honest businessman go find one person that's going to take the retainer from you and actually do the job go find one doctor that's going to actually diagnose you for your real problem and not just going to give you a bunch of pills just to try to kill you maybe go find one person that's honest forget of course T they're not keeping that's a given he's saying even in their own world not succeeding they're saying no no we don't need Tor we're going to be good without Tor we're fine we're fine we don't need Tor I can figure it out on my own I'm a good person I'm a good person I'm everybody today I'm a good person everybody says I'm a good person nobody says I'm a Nazi everybody even the Nazi says I'm a good person hey I'm a good person I'm a good heart I have a big heart okay but then you see the guy's cheating in his business you see the guy's overcharging people you see the guy stealing from his customers see the guy stealing from the government people are liars Prophet Jeremiah says before mikdash that's exactly what it was people were Liars in even their own world they didn't even meet their own definition of good the prophet says this the says says oh this this was the last straw when AEM saw that they're not complying with toah that was already bad enough but when he saw what happened as a result of it they weren't even able to fulfill even the seven noahide laws they weren't even able to fill just human beings they weren't even able to be decent human beings without tahm says there's no way for them there's no way for the world to continue teaches a different another subcategory from the three things another subcategory yes like says says the world only continues to exist only in the Merit of the breath that comes out of the mouth of school children when they learn to Papa and said to says to him wait a minute what about you and me a big what about each one is able to revive the dead what about us school kids little five six seven eight year old little Joshua right now learning Tor the whole world exists because of him why he's eight years old is why AB says something scary says breath that contains a taint of sin cannot be compared to breath that does not contain a taint of sin meaning even though we made some sins we make some sins our Torah automatically is not the same level as the eight-year-old learning kma the little eight-year-old learned kma is more significant than the t why he has made sins so significant is the Tor of the little kids that says were not allowed to divert the school kids from their Torah studies even if it was for the sake of building the BET mikdash meaning if they told us all news breaking news breaking news we have to go build the Masia is here is here is canell everything is cancelled okay fine the kid's learning when he finishes school after he finishes school then we'll go B help you with this better mdash of yours yeah no no Masia is here no no no my kid is's finished at school at 3:00 it's only 12 it's only 12 he's learning when he finishes school I go pick him up 3:00 I come build your mdash that's how significant little kids learning to that's how significant it is now rauna says was was destroyed Mish only because little kids were in the street instead of the classroom why was bet mikdash destroyed why was Jam destroyed because the parents instead of sending them to go learn Torah they sent them to Camp to go play with water they sent him to go play baseball they play they sent him to go play football like the green that's why bet mikdash was destroyed all these camps with rabbis there that go camping with them together if they teach him Tor but if the whole Camp is based on them climbing mountains and going on on slides we have a problem why because the T of the little baby the little seven 8 9 10 11 year old that is the only reason why the world is still here now there are other reasons says y was destroyed only because they demean Torah Scholars as it is written at the end of the book of Chronicles Chronicles 2 36: 16 it recounts the last years of the monarchy of Israel and in destructions at the hand of the Babylonians Babylon is today Iraq and the verse says and Hashem the god of the father of their fathers sent to them Messengers early and repeatedly because he had compassion for his people and on his dwelling but they mocked The Messengers so rud says this was the last straw hasem sent Messengers he sent them K rabbis go do chva why did he send them he said he didn't want to destroy them hm loves them there's his kids it's his house he doesn't want to kill them he didn't create us to kill us there's much more creative ways to destroy us if you want to Simply destroy us he says I love you you're my kids I love you you say every day right I know you don't really mean it but you say it though I love you yeah I love you all the things I love you so I don't want to destroy you but there's rules oh you don't know the rules oh okay fine I'll send you Messengers he sent the prophets he sent the kir of rabis but they mocked The Messengers of God despised his words and scuffed At His prophets until the wrath of God Rose upon again against his people until there was no remedy this was the final s of the people because once Hashem saw that they're mocking the people that are there to help him he realized that there's no hope for them to do chuva and once a person a sinner is shown that he's doing he's making an error and a person comes to him to help him to do chuva if that person if that sinner has fallen to such a level of sin that he actually starts mocking the person that's trying to save him there's no longer any hope for him his wound has become too severe to be healed says the ma we learn this here that once is starts going against K Hashem says there's no hope why the only way you're going to do Chua yes but what about uh the regular Rabbi what about about the local Rabbi what about the nice Rabbi says I love you what about him continue we continue the son of shim it says the whole lineage of how it got to ra who got it originally from rabish Shimon baraba in the name of was only destroyed because they did not rebuke one another it says in the um Lamentations the book of a first chapter verse 6 its leaders were like hearts that found no pasture so learned from this that Hashem is using an analogy to define the rabbis of the generation the rabbis of the generation were like these hearts that walk in a herd with the head of one behind the tail of another so did the Israelites of that generation bury their faces in the ground to avoid seeing avoid seeing the wrongdoing around them and therefore they did not have to admonish each other in so many words the leaders of the generation were up each other's butt is what he's literally saying here and hiding their heads in the sand why oh he drove to Sho I didn't see him I didn't see him drive to Sho I didn't see him no no you remember he drove it's his car right I didn't see it I didn't see it he's cheating on his wife no how do you know it's you're not to say he's cheating on his wife no no but I saw him they came to my came to my house with his girlfriend no maybe it's his daughter no she's 20 years older than him no no don't say everyone is just removing thems no don't say it don't say it why no no why you saying but I'm is why you saying is one time I said you know 9 statistically PW research came out said that over 90% of American Jews 90% if you have if you have six million Jews in America 5.4 million drive on Shabbat now that's bad enough right the other part of this research says but 94% 94% of American Jews think it's okay to do business on Shabbat meaning that 40% of the ones that keep Shabbat kind of work on Shabbat meaning even the even the 10% that actually keep Shabbat they're not so good either now I said this one time in a sh oh one guy called himself he tell I I made these people why you saying so we're going to hide from it this is what happened at the time of the mdash we hit from the truth to such an extent no no don't say don't say this liberal mentality is not new this liberal mentality was even around at the time of the BET mikdash says here in y was destroyed only when the small and the great were considered equal meaning everyone gets a participation award yeah but he's the winner he's the smartest guy in class he won the competition no no no it's not nice if he gets the award and no one else get they're all going to feel bad yeah but they sure they lost it's fine maybe they'll fight harder next time to get a good grade no everyone gets an a yeah but they they didn't answer any question one the guy didn't even come no but we we we if we give him an F he's going to be feel bad about himself it could traumatize him shalom shalom traumatized yeah but he's going to be he's going to be literate at 25 years old if you keep going this way no he participated what do you mean the zoo participated also the fly came participate going give him a diploma also that's what's happening that no wrote in the Tor nothing new Under the Sun seven times seven times he wrote it he was joking no nothing new Under the Sun liberalism was alive and well the time of the mikdash if that was not enough was destroyed only because they had no shame for each other what does it mean they had no shame that even when a person would go against and and hurt another person they would literally do it in their face now why is this so bad why is it so bad not to have busha why is it so bad not to have Bush because the vast majority of us don't make certain sins we want to make a certain sin all of us want to make all of us have evil inside us we have all of us have that's a reality reality I'm included here I'm also human believe it or not so don't matter what everybody else say I'm human so anyway all of us have evil in us all of us want to do evil things why don't we do them it's not really because we're scared of God T bottom line it's not really because we're scared of God yes there are certain things we're scared of God we're scared of g no we're scared of losing money we're scared of getting sick we're scared of a lot of things but there are certain sins sometimes we don't really care What God Says certain things but we still don't do them why because we're scared of the neighbor we're scared of the community we're scared of the somebody that's going to think something the guy has a lot of money he wants to start a new business and he says somebody tells listen this is great business what it's a uh nightclub it's a nightclub now the guy that's religious he's going to think twice why it's like yeah if I open this nightclub they're going to kick my kids out of Yeshiva they're going to kick me out of the community why they say what kind of what kind of Jew are you you have a nightclub for the go for the this for all the sins there the prostitution immodesty all that stuff that's what you have so it's not that he's not opening the nightclub or the strip club or the bar all the god gu neish all that stuff because he actually cares about Hashem no it has nothing to do with Hashem it's because he's scared of the neighbor he's scared of the Yeshiva he's scared of this one he's scared of that one that's why Israel by the way there's certain communities that if they see that you have a smartphone they kick your kids out of school Adit there's certain communities that so like so I think it's a little overboard in my opinion that if they see that the parent has a smart phone they kick the kid out of the kindergarten they don't let him in they don't accept him because the parent has a smartphone why because if he has a smartphone it must mean he's looking at pornography and in some places some people are a little bit if they see another guy they don't know him they don't know the guy this is actually already happened I know a few stories that happened they see a guy carrying a smartphone they take the smartphone out of his hand They smash it on the floor and they start yelling at himash what are you doing rash now now here's the problem here's the problem a lot of people say this rule in the name of rki R kaneski never wrote anything whether he said said it though he didn't say it is a different story I don't know I wasn't there but until somebody writes something it's as if it never existed we don't learn Al from heay That's not how we learn Al we learn Al from what's in books if it's in a book it's as long as it's not in a book it's your opinion that you set his name on it but the reality is what is it worse someone having a smartphone in their hand that maybe he's making a sin maybe not or you taking his Goods that's not yours against his will which is gazel and then destroying it which one is worse of course it's destroying it why because you're Assuming he's making a sin maybe he's not you're Assuming he's making a sin but maybe he's not and even if he is making a sin he's making a sin alone he's not involving you he's not involving anybody else whereas you taking his goods and destroying them in public and then embarrassing him in public you just lost why number one you just embarrassed another Jew in public number two you stole you cannot enter until you return the money number three so people sometimes they forget what the Torah says and they let their emotions get the best of them and they lose their mind they lose their mind now here's the thing sometimes a person is going to have a really good reason to have a smartphone why he's doing kiru with it it's first job or whatever it is sometimes he doesn't have a real good reason for it either way you have no right to take the law into your hands but the bottom line is that there are a lot of things that we do because we want to do them there's a lot of things that we don't do even though we want to do them because they don't want us to do it so a says over here was destroyed when there was no distinguishing why no one ever stopped doing something because somebody else is not going to like it that even that last measure of protection that you have fine you don't have uh you don't have embarrassment in front of hem which is already bad enough now you don't even have embarrassment in front of each other so there's no protection whatsoever meaning all hell is going to break loose the same generation here the same generation as Noah same generation as Sodom and gorah no difference why no today's generation unfortunately is not different at all people have no bu they do their business in the middle of the street whether their business is to relieve themselves or their business is to uh make kids in the middle of the street they're proud of it they make movies about it they write stories about it they tell people about it this is the world we live in there's no bu meaning that mashia has to come very soon now if that wasn't enough says says was destroyed why because they neglected to recite themma in the morning and the evening what we started the is was not recited anymore why that important it's important but it's not important enough for hem to destroy the to destroy the world on the bet mikash so what's the real reason the real reason is because why they didn't recite the the the Prophet Jeremiah says wo to those that rise early in the morning and pursue old wine that linger late into the night to Wine inflames them says the real reason of why they did not sayma is because they went out partying at night so they didn't say sh night because they had a couple of drinks they were too busy having a couple of drinks at kpace they want to have a couple of drinks party want instead of go to to go they wanted to go and have a couple of drinks okay what's the problem you miss one what's the bigger problem you're going to wake up late tomorrow you're gonna wake up at noon so that means you let you miss and once it becomes a habit you forget that you're even connected to God everyone goes off the D Yim was destroyed only because they desecrated Shabbat now what does the one have to do with the other as I said before Shabbat is the equivalent of the Covenant that is between us and Hashem that without it there's no purpose to the world thear says in another place that when a person keeps Shabbat he's acting as a witness as a witness for that he is testifying that Hashem created the world in six days and rested on the seventh even though he wasn't there he's testifying I believe and that means that when someone violates Shabbat he's testifying the opposite he's saying no no you didn't create the world in fact he's running in the middle of the street say no hasm I don't believe you created the world I don't believe and this the says that when a Jew violates Shabbat he's considered 100% like an idol worshipper he's considered 100% like someone that worships Buddha or somebody that worships JC Penney or somebody that worships money or somebody that worships a rabbi or a wall or a motorcycle or any of those things everything but AEM yeah but it's just he just drove on Shabbat he didn't do all those other things he didn't worship the rabi he didn't do all those things he just D on shab what's the big deal the big deal is the fact that if you believe in the blessing that you say then you'll understand why shabbat means so much when you say when you say anything blessing starts the same way blessed you hasem the king of the world now Shalom used to say the stupidest thing in the world for a person to do is to make AEM King over everyone else except himself bless you Hashem king of the world except me what would happen because if everyone did it if everyone says no no hasm is the king of the world except me except me I I do my own thing if everyone said is the king of the world except me except me except me you'll be King of Nothing King of Nothing So when you say king of the world king of the world that means that he's your king if he's your king that means you have to comply with what he says not what you think so by violating Shabbat you're going against his Rule now he actually says there's 39 different restrictions on Shabbat but there's one specific one that's literally written in the T there only one that's written in the Torah and that is don't light fire everything else we understand from the Torah from the building of the bet mikdash but there's really one specific thing that's written in the book of Exodus that hasem says don't do on Shabbat and what is that don't light fire and that's why the same says the son of RA said in the name of RA fires are not common except in a place where there is Shabbat desecration anytime you will see a fire you also see one connects to the other why this is measure for measure this is measure for measure and that's why bet was destroyed to the point of Extinction burned to the ground to ashes why because there was Shabbat once there's Shabbat there's once there's there's nothing there's simply nothing now here we see that desecrating Shabbat is a much bigger deal than what we thought to such an extent that Hashem destroyed the world or at least the spiritual aspect of This World by destroying his own home his own house here but we see that it wasn't just one sin like we thought most of our life oh yeah they just because they made some sex crimes or because they worshiped an idol or because they uh no no there's a lot more to it why you see how each one of these big topics has subcategories and there's many many more that it goes into but you get the point now if that wasn't enough we're going to go into slightly more detail thean says there are three things that a person could lose this world and the next World for which happened to be all three sins that destroyed the beta mikdash someone that worships an idol loses this world why your whole world your whole life you're praying to the wrong God imagine imagine Shalom a person literally prays every day Buddha help me Buddha help me Buddha help me Buddha help me and Buddha is not saying anything why is a statue that you just bought from China to $15 oh Jesus help me Jesus help me Jesus help me Jesus help me and Jesus help me I'm in gay why am I help you help me I'm in gay take me out of here you're praying to Jesus the whole time the guy's in get home why is he going to help you the whole your whole life you spent praying to this guy imagine imagine what a miserable life you go up to Shay and say no what happened to you how come you worship it I no I worship Jesus he goes yeah you're right there see see all the boiling feces over there that's this department no how come you never asked any questions imagine your whole life you're in this world 70 80 90 100 years you're praying to the wrong God so the so the sa said you lost this world and you lost the next World also if you spill blood spilling blood has multiple meanings one of them obviously being murder anyone that murders is never going to be able to forget it even if the murder was accidental even you see a lot of the soldiers God bless them that they protect the country whether it be the us or Israel or so on anywhere that Jews live soldiers unfortunately after they leave battle they have something called post-traumatic stress disorder a lot of them have this traumatizing life traumatizing experience that destroys their life why they killed somebody or they saw their friend being killed and in reality these people suffer for the rest of their life and it's not enough they suffer that they see death their own former bosses the government don't even give him any benefits don't even give them any real Financial Security there's many of them that are homeless homeless homeless M's homeless in the streets homeless people that actually protected you know the people that live in this country they're actually homeless in the streets terrorists terrorists they give them they put them at least in jail and they give them uh they give them a place to eat they give their families uh welfare they give their families uh benefit plans and and money and so on but the people that actually protected the country they leave him in the street go die it's the craziest level of stupidity in the world it's no different in Israel the terrorists their families get money from the government every month but a Jewish soldier that leaves the Army nothing gets nothing zero many of them go broke go crazy go such of an upside down world but from here we learn that when a person sees when a normal human being that was created in the image of God meaning he's able to decipher right and wrong sees blood in his hands of another human being his State of Mind is forever traumatized I remember my mom used to tell us a story about my grandfather I a Shalom Sab Gabriel sa gri was a sadik he was living in Tripoli and he was his family were giborim the heroes of the town when the the Arabs would kidnap the Jewish girls the Jews were afraid to go into the Arab Camp because they would kill them the Arabs would kill them so sa my grandfather him and his brothers will go into the Arab Camp dressed like Arabs became friendly with them and take the girls out and save them now also when the war broke broke out and there was bombs everywhere and there were dead people everywhere one of the worst things in the world is what's the after effect why it's not just that people die you have to bury the bodies and sometimes the body is in a few places sometimes the arm is over here the head is over here the finger over here what do you think everybody dies like they go to sleep this is what happens so my grandfa Shalom would go and take the bodies and bury them give the Jew the respect to get a burial a righteous burial and he would bury him at night you bury him so he would tell my my mom and her sisters and brothers these stories on Shabbat you would tell him how you would bury these people and he would tell him listen you know I all the people that I ever buried I see their faces in my hands because blood was everywhere and apparently part of the this is some Supernatural stuff I don't understand I'm just telling you what I heard he says I would see their faces for the rest of my life I look at my hands I see their faces on my hands all of these people all these that I buried I see their faces on my hands sh just saying the story I get scared so my mom asked them ABA aren't you scared aren't you scared seeing all these ghosts he used to tell them they saw ghosts and in the in the in in in the cemetery was at night go all types of uh things that are Beyond this world and she says ABA aren't you scared he says BCI my daughter only be scared of living people not the ones that are dead because the living ones are the ones that could hurt you such is the wisdom of the previous generation us we're scared of the ghosts we're scared of the things that we can't see we can't touch we can't anything but we forget that the biggest enemy could be sitting right next to us could be the guy that's giving us a paycheck could be the guy that's getting a paycheck so we see that when a person sees another person's blood obviously it makes an impact on them a person could literally lose if they're not right in their mind if they don't have enough tah they could literally lose this world and the next and the next one is G someone that makes a sex crime whether it's incest which is the obvious that everyone knows about or it's even something as simple as wasting seed a lot of people think that wasting seed is a victimless crime in reality they don't realize that the biggest victim the biggest victim is not only the person that's wasting seed but also his potential wife many marriages are destroyed because of wasting seed and no one knows why people get divorces suddenly I don't love you anymore why don't you love me what happened how come you love me for 10 years how come you love me for 20 years why don't you love me now no the love was dying for a long time why because he has a new girlfriend who's the new girlfriend himself once a person gets to such an extent of addiction of wasting seed he starts to lose respect and love for his spouse and he starts feeling like he doesn't need her because the feeling that he gets or he thinks he gets he gets in two minutes without what he thinks is a headache and a this and I don't have to deal with it and so on and so forth and he literally systematically destroys his marriage with his own hands so wasting seed is not just a sh you give to 15-year-old kids so they don't go to Gom forever yes of course you're supposed to teach the 15-year-old kid so they don't go to G home forever because this is one of the three sins that says if a person does this in he goes to Gom and he doesn't leave mashia comes saves everyone else except him so wasting seed is a big deal of course we're supposed to teach it to all the young guys teenagers in their 20s in their 30s but it doesn't end there it doesn't end there the does not call it the biggest sin in the entire tah for nothing if it was only because it's a problem when you're not married then it would it would be a sin but not the biggest sin in the Torah it's called the biggest sin in the Tor because the addiction can last an entire lifetime even if you're married with 10 kids doesn't make a difference if you don't understand the significance of the sin both on this world and the next you will be addicted to it and you will destroy yourself in every way shape or form once a person Wast seed and becomes addicted to it his Tora becomes non-existent he has no interest in learning T even a tah that he learns he doesn't understand he's bored of it constantly he goes to sleep constantly while learning he has no energy for it he has no energy for Kusa he becomes an atheist he becomes arrogant all of the worst midot in the world become glued to his even if he's married and that's why a lot of the couples that come to me for advice for different things part of the things that I try to find out in a nice way is where the husband stands in regards to this addiction 99 of 99% of the time the husband has an addiction to wasting seed and that is part of the big reason of why a lot of marriages have problems unfortunately in the religious world some of the so-called religious husbands forgot to learn this Al and they get to such a level of addiction of watching pornography and and doing all of those things that they feel there's really no need to be intimate with their wives anymore why because they feel like if they're intimate with their wife they're gonna have a kid and they don't want to have another kid kids a headache more money all this nonsense that people put in their head of why they don't want to have a kid no I don't want to pay for another kid I don't want a headache of another kid I don't want this of another kid so they decide I don't want to have another kid but I still need to uh fulfill my physical desires so what does the guy do he makes the bathroom his new girlfriend and that's what happens so many of these wives many of these wives actually contact me and I'm sure other rabbis and they say my husband does not want to be with me so first I try to find out if he has a girlfriend because it's it's one or the other does he have a girlfriend does he have a boyfriend it's something today you have to ask boyfriend or girlfriend you have to ask sometimes it is Believe It or Not most of the time there no boyfriend there no girlfriend most of the time it's the bathroom most of the time it's because he's addicted to pornography and he's so addicted to it to get him back into the bedroom with his wife is you need how much many a lot of and that's why sometimes he wants his wife to do unusual things things that are against the Torah and all types of things why this is all lack of Education lack of Ed it's not that we're evil people it's not that they're bad people they're all wonderful people they're all the children of hem problem is they the teachers skipped this chapter so many people don't know it's a problem until it's really a problem and that's why says this this wasting seed this sex crime is something that could cause a person to lose this world and the next so now we see that all three of these sins are sins that could literally destroy our lives here and the next world but there's a wants to add what's the is worse than all three combined saying is worse than why how do we how could such a thing be first example is the fact that we see that these three major sins were the reasons why we did the first bet mikdash was destroyed 70 years later after the destruction Hashem built the second bet mikdash the second bet mikdash was destroyed because of baseless hatred andan says this baseless hatred and he's not the only one many of the sages explain what is this baseless hatred this baseless hatred is l what does it mean baseless hatred you're going to not like him and you're going to tell people how you feel oh no no he doesn't know what he's talking about no he doesn't know I don't know what he's talking about don't listen to him don't go to no him no I think he's askanazi Safari I don't know it's not it's not it's not from us it's not like us it's not like us don't go there don't go there not like us it's not like one of us unusual B chaa you know those bvas you know they they could always turn turn back they always turn back oh convert convert okay you canri them you can invite them you can invite them to dinner but you're not gonna Mar you're not gonna marry their kids you know it's convert it's like a it's like a half a Jew I had somebody tell me this he says I love your he tells me I love your your story is amazing you know wow I don't know why people you know this that or the inter marriage it's crazy wow yeah I would never marry a convert it's like a half a Jew he's telling me this this is the stupidity of people but this this this is this is this is constantly happening every single day in our people among us people say now page 64b says there are four types of people that are considered Dead four people that are considered dead someone that's poor someone that hasat someone that's blind and someone that cannot have children so here we see thear tells us these four people are considered like they're dead explains he says if you notice no one talks against those people anytime you say guy tells no no he's poor oh I'm sorry sorry poor scin he just lost all of his money I'm he scin yeah you're just saying that you hate him no no no not different guy behind him behind him just lost all of his money all of a sudden or he said the guy know the guy is this oh no he has a sick he has cancer oh I'm sorry no noin me skin all of a sudden no on the cancer patient he has disease say oh why is he looking no no he's not looking he's blind oh yeah he's probably like uh he's probably like one of those he sees you were just saying you're just saying about him two seconds ago and the same thing you tell the guy I heard a story myself one time IIT there was a guy did became something amazing and uh I asked I'm telling you my own story this is my own shame my own shame so I tell I asked my Rabbi like uh wow I heard one of his lectures the guy tell me really sharp I'm like how long is he doing CH it's like 10 years only wow 10 years he knows all this stuff and he's popular too he has he says himself he has I don't know maybe four or five lectures a day each lecture he gets uh maybe like five $600 mean the guy is not only successful in tah he's also making a lot of so me I'm like fired up a little bit like a little jealous a little jealous he knows so much to wow and on top of it he's doing okay wow amazing this I'm I'm feeling myself I'm telling you my own my own shame I'm feeling myself and then my Rabbi tell me go yeah and he also has an artistic son all of a sudden like wow what a sadik wow wow all of a sudden me and my shame I go down and become a loser again why I say how could you be jealous of a person I'm like it's not worth it for all of that it's not worth it what kind of difficulty it is all of those parents that have these special kids first of all they should realize anyone that's autistic is a sadik is a sadik inside inside that person why they have a limited T they have a limited T in this world not like us Hashem is limiting their ability to make sins but the parents themselves also obviously they have a certain significance that they could overcome and so on and so forth but that's not a t that that I could ever say myself that I could ever do but I see my own shame I say myself oh he's successful in this successful in this successful in this and I'm thinking of myself I didn't say anything but all as soon as he said he has this T I'm like wow what aad wow what aad why because soon as somebody has such a big you're like no you don't say so here we see we learned from this if you notice anytime you mention something about somebody that died he says no come on you can't talk about them why it says somewhere it says in one of those books somewhere in a library in a book and somewhere in some you talk about people that died they yeah but the guy killed 80 people on the way out no no sadik you don't talk about once he died you don't talk about once he died meaning we have a once they're if they're alive we have say whatever you want about them but if they're dead they're allim so here's the thing notice that if someone died or is considered like he's dead there's no but if he's alive there is L there's nonstop why because the reality is that the root of all the root of all is jealousy you do not say against someone that has less than you you do not say it's against someone that has something that you have a thousand more who do you say l against you say against someone that has something you don't have so if he's blind no why because you can see if he's poor no why because you have more money than you can count if he's dead well he's not my competition anymore he died he's not my competition anymore he doesn't want my job he doesn't want my wife doesn't want my kids doesn't want anything he's dead he say sadik sadik yeah show whatever you want not a threat to me anymore he's not a threat to me who am I going to say against against the guy that could potentially be liked by others more than me against the guy that could potentially take my job against the guy that could potentially get more attention to me against competition the root of all is your ego your jealousy that's and that's why says it's worse than everything else because one of theim that I learned just in the last few days I guess it was your Merit is that if you notice hasem said in the Torah that when there's an arrogant person he cannot be in the same room as him says it says it the pride will come before the fall hem is disgusted by person a person that has GA has Pride to anyone that's prideful is considered disgusting in the eyes of hem and Hashem literally says that a person that is pride he cannot be in the same room as him if you notice hasem detests Pride if you also noticed the root of all atheists is pride every every single atheist that exists in the world and ever existed in the world is a arrogant prideful person Hashem says I cannot be in the same room as them because they're prideful The Arrogant person says there is no Hashem he's right in his life Hashem is not there Hashem cannot be next to him now what's his pride about what does he have so much pride about the pride is he doesn't want any rules he doesn't want any rules doesn't want any want the root of atheism it's not that they don't really believe that the that something created everything it's not about that it's about having so much pride that you make your own rules and no one's going to tell you what to do you're not going to submit to any system to any rule to anyone everyone is below you or at the very best case scenario just like you no one's above you everyone's the same or less than you and no one's going to tell you what to do that is the root of all atheism that comes from pride pride is worse than everything else so when you say you're only saying because of your pride because there's no way that I'm going to let him take my job there's no way that I'm going to let him take my attention there's no way I'm going to let him take my time there's no way I'm going to let him do anything because maybe I want to do it sometimes so what do you do you destroy him you destroy there's no way that he's right and I'm wrong there's no way that he's right and I'm wrong so you destroy him and that's why the Torah says that is worse than everything else that Pride leads to that L will lead to all of the sins of in the world to idolatry to sex crimes to wasting seed to every sin in the entire Tor because once your pride is at the steering wheel nothing is going to control it nothing's going to stop it you're going to make every sin on the way to G every single sin and that's why they say that even atom even at the Gate of Gom do not do Chua even at the Gate of Gom why because they're pride is so big that even at the Gate of G they cannot Adit maybe I made a mistake maybe I should do chuva no even at the Gate of Gom there's still no no I think I was right I think there's maybe something wrong with the system I think I was allowed to do that I think I'm going to find a way out they're so prideful they cannot see the wrong in themselves and that's what we learned last week or the week before that a person Shabbat says a a person does not see the wrong in himself it's not that there's no wrong it's that he can't see it in himself he could only see it in everybody else and that is what caused all of the in the world all of the all of theat all of the wasted seed all of the all of the disaster that ever existed from the beginning of time until today is all starting from Pride all of it that's also the reason of why teachers have failed time and time again why they have too much pride to say by the way I was wrong you're not allowed to drive on Shabbat by the way I was wrong you're not allowed to marry her she's a not Jew by the way I was wrong they have too much pride to admit they're wrong they have too much pride to say listen we got to change so what happens the K invites me they want me to come he say oh send us some CD send us some CDs I send the CDs the rabbi gets it and he hides them and they call me three four five months later like oh how come you never sent us the CD what do you mean I invested $1,000 in your Kila I sent you $1,000 worth of merchandise CDs AAR cards books everything I sent I sent it made attention to your Rabbi in Australia your Rabbi in Montana your Rabbi in Gom your RAB wherever he was I sent it every single every single person whenever I asked for something I sent we sent for the shipping the shipping cost a ton of money the CDs cost a ton of money the everything cost a ton of money we sent it you didn't want to send the money we send you the stuff whether you send the money or not it's up to you how come nothing ever happened because the rabbi was too arrogant to say oh yeah maybe there's something else you're going to learn from this oh what he do he throw it in the garbage throw it in the garbage you'd hide it and it's not once not twice not three times not four times not five times a bunch of times it happens why you ask I can't I can't get there I can't fly everywhere with the CDs but he has to ship and then he thrs it away no I ship it without asking no I ship it to people I send it to them and then they sometimes they never get it why don't they get it because the rabbi is throwing it out even if K here and in in in Florida Rabbi I gave the CDs in the rabbi's hand next to his congregants I gave it to them and then you know a few months past people forgot they got busy with life and so on and I asked them did you ever give your my CDs to your Kila I asked the people goes no no I don't think anybody ever saw it I said why not I gave remember I had the sh at the house we had the sh and I gave it to the rabbi goes yeah and then one of the people goes and checks the rabbi's house the rabbi was hiding the cities the rabbi was hiding the cities why Shalom somebody going to do Chom shom Shalom somebody do CH so all of this comes from Pride all of this everyone's worried about everyone's worried about everyone's worried about and and all of these and so on yes you're right all of those are problems they're all problems but there's one thing we can do to solve all of them learn learn learn and eliminate our pride once you eliminate the pride by default the rest of them will be eliminated like a domino effect but if you work on Shabbat okay so maybe it convinced you to keep Shabbat but you're still going to curse your wife out every every Shabbat on the way out oh you didn't care hey ah what what happened oh the food wasn't hot okay so that deserves all the curses the fact that she gave you food that's edible is enough fact she give you food is enough you cursing her oh cuz I got you to keep shabb you stole an animal oh another guy oh no I stop wasting seed everything is good yeah but you're still cheating on your wife though not your girlfriend is not the bath it's a different girl now what what is this it's all you made One S he Chang with something else oh no he's keeping Shabbat and he's this and he's this but all day he talks against me all day he talks against somebody else all day like bullets come out of his mouth like bullets instead of he comes out with on people I tell him no go what would I talk about if no what would I talk about if it's not about people what would I talk about so that's the thing about time all of those things are problems Shabbat and this and that people love to talk about but the reality is you cannot solve that problem without getting to the root the root is pride the root is pride once we realize once we realize that hem is the king of the world he's the only King and we submit to him already Pride went down 50% then we learn more and more about what does it mean that I love him with all my heart with all my soul with all my money what does it actually mean I love him that much did I really love him that much do I really really love him that much with all my heart that everything that I do all day is based on his opinion and not mine everything that I do all day is based on what he wants and not what I want everything that I do all day is all based on his Tor all my biggest Investments and and time and resources is only based on his Tora it's not based on the car and the house and the dish and the Lamborghini and I'm not planning for retirement all of that that's if I do all that once I realize the meaning then I realize oh Pride went down another 50% then we could be become little but until we do that we could solve a problem here we could solve a problem here we could solve a problem here but the reality is and the grand scheme of things this disease is still there so you put a Band-Aid on a heart attack it's nice looks good looks like you did something but you still got AIDS you still got a problem you're still dying and that's what's been happening for 2,000 years we've been trying to solve one thing and another one thing and another one thing it's nice we need to solve the core problem the core problem is we are too prideful all of us starting with me and that's what we learned m m is going to teach us how to evaluate Things based on reality not based on our warped reality but on reality and how we're supposed to look up to the tadik not the Michael Jordans of the world not the LeBron James of the world we have to look up to mhu not like this from England that said oh yeah the best leader that I could think of today is the soccer coach soccer coach that's what you that's what you tell tell to go look up to soccer coach okay this is the head Rabbi of England go tell him that so the point is is that all of this the root of all of our problems is pride once we learn once we learn M like we're supposed to then we can start doing cha because m is not something that you just learn oh it's nice it's entertaining you delve on it you think about it you write it down you meditate over it you say how does this affect me you start looking in a mirror and look at yourself instead of everybody behind you and that you start doing Chua and you recognize the evil in yourself too why because the only way to remove it is identifying it first any questions temp get destroyed this one studentt with wife okay I told you guys a story that three weeks ago and uh in uh no in the in um in the in uh Hollywood I said this story about a month ago so you have to watch the you okay a student was rash and he uh his pride got the best of him and he wanted his uh his rabbi's wife and he manipulated everything possible until he got what he wanted and that was one of the last straws that Hashem had yeah this is one of the things that's it's considered a now ripping paper ripping paper is considered a but you should know there is a a leniency if you're doing it for so a lot of people are very overly strict with it to the extent where they they uh think that you're not allowed to rip any paper now in general you should avoid ripping all paper you should avoid ripping oil paper and you should prepare your household to avoid ripping o paper but if there is a need and let's say you go to the bathroom and you need toilet paper then you're able to rip the paper the toilet paper why because yeah you should do with SH but in general you're allowed to do it you're allowed to do it simply because this is the honor of the Body for the sake of honoring the body you're not allowed a person should never think that for the sake of not ripping paper you're allowed to not wipe and then all cause because you're disgusting and you're walk walking with filth and by the way when you have any filth on you you're not allowed to pray not allowed to learn you're not even allowed to be next to people uh so people sometimes they don't learn the details of the Al and they think oh yeah I'm such a sadik I'm not going to rip the toilet paper but in reality you're you're ignorant because you're you're making so not to because it's considered it's one of the things that they did during the uh building of the bet mikdash or the the mishan uh but nonetheless you are allowed it to do it if it's for the kavod of the body if it's for the honor of the Body for the sake of clean in general what we do in my house is we prepare even uh toilet paper or things like that or paper towels we prepare it before Shabbat it's one of the things you do before Shabbat but if it happens that you forgot you're allowed to rip it according to R uh but in general you should prepare before Shabbat so one thing that you could do also is use wipes use wipes that's uh you know they're already pre-cut it's also more hygienic uh you know uh in general it's better to use anyway next question yeah he said that story want the story like did he rape her why did did say okay so I tell you okay so I tell you the story no so I tell you the story story is thear says is that uh there was a young Rabbi with a young wife um who one of his students of the Kila took a liking took a liking to the wife but uh yeah he saw he found he found he found a pretty page 58 he found it pretty and but still he knew that she's a she's married to you know to somebody so he can't do anything but one time the rabbi asked for a loan because he needed some money and uh the guy you lend him the money when the time uh I'm sorry when uh the guy was willing to lend him the money and um he lended them when the time came to uh collected the guy says okay I'm going to pay he goes all right send your wife send your wife to the house and um I'll give you what you need he sent the wife to the house to the guy's house and uh she never returned one day two days three days after a few days the rabbi asked the guy have you seen my wife he goes yeah well she came by my house and I gave her what what she uh needed and then uh she left but I heard that the young guys and the know the the the uh criminals in the neighborhood they had their way with her they were bothering her or something so if she hasn't been at home for three days that definitely means they probably did something and if I was you I wouldn't take her back he goes yeah but the problem is that uh I have a bigba you know if I divorce her I have to give her all the money goes ah don't worry I'll give you the money oh really do me the favor you give me the money yeah yeah I'll give you the money so he lent him the money he got divorced all this time he doesn't realize that the wife is really at this rash's house she's at his house and he's convincing he's of course he's convincing her to be with him and manipulating and people that have slick speech people that are Sweet Talkers are able to get other people to do what they they want needless to say get women to do what they want especially young women that are naive like this woman was and nonetheless this guy lost his wife but that wasn't the worst part of the story the worst part of the story is that this guy's ego was so big he did not see the wrong in himself he did not see that there's anything wrong with what he did why because he said listen I didn't touch her when she was married to him I only touched her after they got divorced and I got married to her everything so one day came and the rabbi was supposed to pay back the loan and he didn't have the money he's still a rabbi he still barely makes minimum wage so the guy says listen you owe me the money I need the money I need the money I need the money goes yeah I don't have the money he goes okay so you can work for me okay what could I do he goes yeah you could be my uh chauffeur you could be my uh the guy my servant in my house okay I'll show up at your house later on what time I show up at 8:00 in the morning so the rabbi young rabbi scan that lost his wife and now in debt goes to work for his talmid who he thought is a talmid and goes and makes them coffee and he comes to give him the coffee and he sees in the bedroom the guy with his new wife and who's his new wife his ex-wife and his sorrow from seeing all of this and now realizing how everything just happened literally caused him to cry on the spot and as soon as both of his tears touched the tea or the coffee Hashem says for that I'm going to destroy the world I'm going destroy the why because if the evil of the people is gone to such a level that not only did you steal somebody else's wife not only did you steal your own rabbi's wife but you don't even have any bu you don't have any Shame about it there's no there's no there's nothing there's no saving that's what we saw we saw the mikdash was not destroyed until the nation did not have any shame anymore they lost all of their shame they would make sins in the open without thinking that there's anything wrong with it they thought the guy says why I did a mitvah I helped him he needed a loan I lend him the money he needed another loan I lend him the money he you know his wife wasn't with him so I told him to get divorced the fact that she was with him he's saying that he he closes his ey for his own sins and I helped him I gave him the money for the get I married a woman I I married a woman Bo no what I'm doing sadik and that's why the ramban the ramban says a person can follow the entire Tor and be a still be considered despicable in the name of the Tor with permission from the T and lose even though he follows the entire T still be considered despicable why because there is the obvious laws that hasm right and there the laws that you're supposed to Simply understand and sometimes people think that if you just do what's written that's enough and that's the root of most people's mistakes is that once you put your pride on the Torah the Torah says your Torah is no longer from sh why you're tainting it with your pride once you're taining the Torah with your pride you could learn the entire by heart backwards and forwards like the knew the entire Tor from the beginning to the end and from the end to the beginning end to the beginning beginning to the end he knew the whole thing by heart end to the beginning beginning to the end you can know the entire to from end to the beginning beginning to the end and it still won't help you why because your pride destroyed it and that's why people people that have pride that's why they say that's why they do all these big sins because they don't see us they don't see wrong in themselves they don't see wrong in M themselveses they think that what they're doing is a Mitzvah they think that oh no no I'm just telling somebody not to come to you because you made one mistake in five years and it really wasn't a mistake according to most opinions but in my eyes it was a mistake so therefore I'm warning people from what something what is it I'm not really sure but I'm warning it's like you didn't find anything else in know what to warn them about but this is this is this is a this is pride this is pride talking this every single time that I've had problems with students in general it's only because Pride got in the way every single time it's never been any other thing every single any any single issues that you'll ever see it's only because of Pride there was one time there was a guy that was uh supposedly a very big fan eventually one day he wrote something that was against the Tora I told him he's wrong he decided to make a movie against me why he do he doesn't like that I told him that he made a sin it's not allowed you really did a movie many people did you should look up my name you'll see many people yes yes many people do lectures and movies on me they like it they spent a lot of time investing into my life that means you made it I didn't make anything I'm just saying that they made movies but the uh another another guy with a student don't waste your time you should learn to instead but uh another time another guy thought I was uh the new mashiach thought was Masia everything is good everything's Kad everything is this needs needs for this million and a half questions one day I tell him listen by the way you know uh you're rebuking your son and uh this particular rebuke wasn't the right rebuke you're supposed to uh just let this one go why because in reality you didn't do anything wrong in reality you're wrong in reality you're wrong he's not wrong he's right the kid so just let it go you don't have to make a big deal of it you don't have to necessarily apologize to the kid he's a kid but still you're wrong you shouldn't have done it you can destroy the kid that way I became I became what why I'm no longer mashia I'm K why I rebuked them This Time After Time After Time After Time every single time that's just the way it is you have to everybody loves the truth until it affects them so the point is to understand if you want to do full cha you want to do full Chu you have to work on your midot starting with pride as long as there's Pride you have not completed your chva you have not even begun because pride is pride is a very very dangerous Satan it's the beginning of all evil once you've worked on your pride once you realize you have it it's already half the battle all of us have it and the reality is you have to identify then you have to start realizing okay am I doing this because of my pride or am I doing this because of is am I not I I don't feel like doing it because of this or I don't feel like doing you know you have to like start asking yourself this question you have to do why don't I feel like doing it why don't I feel like listening to him is it because he said it or is it because I disagree is it because it's wrong or is it because he said it you have to you have to have to you have to do that's is is looking and doing self- accounting we have to we're full of it all of us we're all full of it stop being full of it ask a bottom line why don't I feel like doing this why don't I feel like waking up in the morning why don't I feel like changing careers why don't I feel like marrying this one having this one why is it what's the point what's the real root of the cause don't tell me it's money and all the superficial stuff bottom line why not why not why don't you want to go to this one or that one why don't you want why why okay you have to identify the root cause that is real if you're doing that then you're doing Chua but until we do reflection and self-analysis and start calling ourselves out yeah yeah no this one I'm a re Loser on it but yeah this one worst but not like just give up because you're a loser on something but at least you're identifying yeah here I'm good I learn I'm good at this but here this section loser what loser I am but I got identify where you're a loser why because that has to be to to-do list don't tell everybody no no no but you know how many I do you know how much I gave you know how good I am at learning I can sit there for eight hours learning I'm likeu of the generation okay good all those things are good but what about the section you're a loser in no so that's thing we have to identify where are we weak if you could identify your weaknesses you could work on them and you could really become something you could really become something any other questions or we'll finish for T night Ken mm I'll tell you this when a uh I give an example maybe about a year ago uh using my uh daughter as an example that I saw I learned this from her cuz I first when I learned this sug was baffling to me because I agreed with and with was saying what about our Torah so I said how could it be that little kid's Torah is more significant than R how could be a kid's Tor is more significant than even average in today's Agee how could it be until I saw my little daughter at the time two years old do a now she didn't know know how to speak 100% but she knew they you're supposed to do a blessing and you see her it's unbelievable she she she you know she follows my wife God bless her and she sets up these uh little candles and she has three wine cups and she has all these candles and she has auk also and she has plates and cups and everything and she puts on this little apron and a and then she goes like this and she goes like this with the candles and then she's two years go like this and she starts doing a blessing oh you don't understand a single word except once in a while you hear hem she knows H she knows [Applause] hem on you understand we as parents we understand what she says but as a stranger you come you see this like it's you don't know what you're saying but it's KES bottom line is she puts her entire self into this bless in you must think mashia must be coming from the ceiling why all she knows is this one blessing all she knows is she doesn't know all the whole the whole Tor the the all to andash and this she doesn't know all that stuff she knows one blessing she does one blessing and when she does that blessing her entire being goes into that blessing we could do it why we do blessings we're doing a favor you at already oh I have to bless for this I I had I meant it in the morning it's like you're doing a a fa we're good to eat for three hours but we don't want to do the reality is that when we do blessings when we do shma we do all the blessings it's like our head is somewhere here over there yeah it's like a tree with branches stock market baseball football girlfriendy boyfriend car everywhere like our heads and branches but the little babies they don't have all that garbage they tell them listen go do a blessing they stop the world and they're doing a blessing and the whole world doesn't exist it's just them and the blessing and AEM you cannot compare the two you cannot compare that two three four five 6 seven eight year old and anyone else in a generation why because for him he has all this other stuff going that even if he has a lot of kavana he still has a lot of stuff going for the little kid that's all they have that's it it's all they have don't comparison and that's why the say there's no comparison the whole world exists because of them the whole world is saved because of them and the mashia will come because of them but that's also why the BET mikdash was destroyed as soon as Hashem saw that instead of them doing blessings and learning blessings they were playing in the streets playing football once he saw the kids are in the street playing games instead of being in school learning blessings he said there's no hope for the Next Generation I Must Destroy it so for all those parents that think that they're doing themselves a favor or their kids a favor by sending them to the these uh extracurricular activities by uh dance and uh and uh and uh soccer and baseball and all the you're not doing them a favor in reality at the best case scenario the best case scenario your kid's going to be someone that is not interested in Judaism 100% the worst case scenario your kid's going to be a why let's say you're a kid you find okay you sending your daughter to dance okay okay you send this 5-year-old to go dance right okay send the 5-year-old to go dance let's say the kid's talented he has of course the Satan's going to make a talented of course you got to make a talented so the kid wants to continue dancing but if she wants to be a Jew she can't do it why because to be a successful dancer you have to dance in front of men ballet is not a exclusive to women you have to dance in front of men so what are you going to tell her when she's 15 years old and she became an expert dancer oh I'm sorry it was just a hobby what hobby for you was a hobby me I'm a career dancer now no so what are you going to do best case scenario what's gonna happen oh soccer oh this gr a winner oh you gonna send your kid to go play soccer okay so the kid tell oh come on learn I got a game tomorrow I got a game tomorrow I got I gotta go practice with my friends I go practice with my friends yeah but you're not going to be a professional soccer player you going to tell that you're a kid you're not going to be professional you destroy his dreams so what's going to happen best case scenario kid's talented he ruins his entire Teenage life becomes a until he's 25 30 years old realizes his whole career was is meaningless because he's still a short little Jewish kid and he's not going to be a professional soccer player but now he's also not a Jew either so now he has to do the same difficult Chua we had to do at 30 years old who it's your parents fault that s to go play soccer why because they don't want to learn with him so that's the thing parents that think that they're doing the kids a favor by sending them to these extracurricular activities should ask themselves what's going to happen out of this extracurricular activity where is it going to lead to okay now it's getting the kid out of the house and off your head and you don't have a headache anymore fine but what's going to be after who why someone who sees what will be born out of this what what won't happen out of this okay so the kids playing soccer at 5 years old all kids are cute all kids are cute at 5 years old they're playing soccer or they're dancing or they're flipping or they're playing with mud they're all cute at five what about if you add a one to it now it's 15 with zits what's going to happen then what's going to happen then now a k still wants to play soccer he wants to play baseball he wants to play basketball but you want to go to Yesa he doesn't want go Yesa he's not interested in Yeshiva why the the best Yeshiva guy is sitting there all day the best one is sitting there all day going like this all day let sit in the corner the best guy he's for him the best guy is the guy that's getting all the girls attention and the News attention and runs really fast meaning that the best guy here in the ISA is the epit it's the opposite of what he thinks is the best you understand so what what' you do what you killed the kid you just destroyed them destroy the kid why he thinks that he's supposed to be the next Michael Jordan he thinks he's going to be the next uh Messi be next athlete it's his Idol his Idol is a guy who that kicks the ball notu is old news you killed the kid at 5 years old so that's why Jewish parents need to understand you're not doing your kid a favor by sending him to all these extracurricular activities that doesn't mean that they should not be active let let that not enter your brain that and manipulate what I'm saying to the point where I I'm telling you that the kids should be sitting down forever and never get up and all everybody become paraplegic okay I'm not saying that kids should be active they need to be active they actually have to be active because they cannot sit like an adult they cannot be aash at six years old but don't make a hobby out of it where it's every day and it's organized Sport and they go and they go they're on a team okay they want to play with the friends here and there a little bit here and there that's fine there's nothing wrong with it every kid needs a little in their life every kid needs a little fun nonsense in their life but don't make it organized only thing that should be organized is learning everything else unorganized today it's basketball tomorrow it's I don't know some other ball and this ball and that ball every day something else don't ever think you're going to be a professional in this stuff this is just for fun just for fun that's good that's fine that's fine you need some activity to move you don't you know you want your kid to be 900 pounds it's eight years old you want them to to move a little bit that's fine there's no problem with that but once you make it into a a whole thing where they are a traveling team and they're uh all this stuff you're killing the kid you're killing the kid and by the way I don't know about you but how many real successful athletes are Jewish in history anyway there's one guy that did Chua after he retired from from Sports he was actually a Super Bowl team I forget his name he was in a Super Bowl team um I think it was the Dallas Cowboys became actually a speaker there was a story written about him in uh in zman maybe 15 years ago something like that 10 15 years ago but that's after he retired from the sport aside from that in general it's virtually impossible to be a successful athlete as a Jew number one because our physical abilities not like the go and number two because you cannot be a religious Jew and keep all these uh you know all these Sports just not possible Goldberg Bill Goldberg is not a religious Jew yeah Jewish saf Jewish but yeah huh team Ken the Jews own the teams yeah the Jews own the teams yeah Goldberg yeah he's not exactly religious but yeah yeah so that's the point so at the best case scenario the guy's a that's the thing that's the best case scenario the guy succeeds and he's a so that's that's that's you just you destroyed your kid spiritually yeah you said you said you said before like there's this guy he said keeping a but he's cheting on his keeping his breed meaning he's not doing it himself but he's he's replaced the girlfriend he has in a bathroom with an actual person meaning he's violating his breed in another way still of course he's not he's violating the breed of course he's also going understand RAB wife why would RAB because the rabbi Was Naive himself right he thought he's he's learning all day no I mean listen the wife wives wives are allowed to move they're not uh necessarily uh bound to be inside four walls so when she came start she wasn't supposed to go inside his house she was supposed to go to the house to pick up the money and then leave so and he started coming just like you go you send your wife to go uh you know to go pick up groceries she goes she picks up the groceries and comes home you're not we're not uh Muslims drink right you obviously entic her you slick speech he enticed her to do other things she doesn't know she's a everybody has the everybody has a everybody has a what the details of how was I don't know all I know is that she fell for it he fell for it everybody fell for it and that called caused thean the point is is that the Satan pays cash Satan has a lot of money Satan is gonna convince you that your sin is a Mitzvah that's the job of the Satan Satan is going to convince you your your your sin is a Mitzvah that your is mitvah that your pride is mitvah that your everything is a Mitzvah everything is a Mitzvah that's what the that's what the Satan is going to do he going to convince you that everything that you're doing is mitvah and the reality is is that unless you acknowledge that you have evil in you that you have a yet you've already lost the battle we already lost the battle so the point is that we learn all these after this you reflect you start analyzing yourself where do I stand what's the most difficult for thing for me to deal with what is the one thing that I know for sure is not the will of hem by the way this was a secret of how I stopped smoking I smoked for over 20 years cigarettes and when I first started doing chv I learned that you know you're not really supposed to smoke because uh you supposed to protect your body but my told me yes but there is a leniency that they write that if you're already addicted to it then you're allowed to smoke on certain holidays so if you're allowed to smoke on certain holidays and that probably means allowed to smoke so then when I learned a little bit more and I realized wait yeah but it's still hurting your your your your body you're not really supposed to smoke but I said yeah but how am I studying at 3:00 in the morning I'm smoking cigarette that's how I'm up it's helping me stay up it's helping me stay awake my yet was very creative by the way genius I'm like if I didn't smoke at 2 3 4 o'clock in the morning I wouldn't be able to study and if I'm not studying how I'm going to learn to if I don't know to who's going to have this I have to it's a that I smoke it's for it's for the honor of will remove all his sin because it's I'm doing K now I made the smoking into a Mitzvah smoking became a Mitzvah why because it's helping me study in the middle of the night and bottom line the more you analyze the more I realize I'm more full of it full of it nonsense nonsense it's not the will of hem if it was the will of hem he would create me with a cigarette in my hand it's not the will of hem so that's when it got real so I said okay so I'm doing this whole thing I changed my whole life I left the business I left this I did this I did this I did this for what for the will of hem but yet at the same time doing it with a cigarette in my hand that's not the will of hem and I said I don't want to quit smoke I like smoking I don't want to quit smoking I want to smoke I like smoking I enjoy it I care less about the disease I already have enough sickness I'm with disease good I don't want to stop but the problem is it's against God that's the problem source of it's against God in the who says you're supposed to protect your body you're not supposed to do not supposed to do things that are going to put your your your health at risk but the key is when I realized that this is not this is not the will of God he did not create me in a world to smoke cigarettes and I only realized this after students made a comment even though I generally wouldn't wouldn't uh wouldn't smoke in front of people CU I realized there was something wrong with it at had a uh couple of one student or two students said something about it oh you smoke wow okay you smoke and I realized oh this is not good and little by little I started realizing okay I have to stop I have to stop why because it's not the will of God and that's what the says says a person should never say that he doesn't want to eat milk and meat or he doesn't want to eat wasn't doesn't want to wear shotes because in reality he probably likes milk and meat in reality he probably likes the jacket that has Shotz so he should never say he doesn't like it it's not true it's not true what should he say he should say I want to eat milk and meat I want to wear chates but what can I do that my father in Heaven said no it's not that I don't want to eat pig I want to eat pig but my Father in Heaven said no it's not that I don't want to be with this one that I'm not allowed to be with I want but what can I do that my father in Heaven said no that's the reason that's the real reason it's not that we all become so pure that we don't want to sin anymore more we all want to sin but we don't sin why because it goes against our father in Heaven that's the key that is the root of chuva that is the root of Chua that's how I quit smoking that's how I quit a lot of other things and the reality is that's how we continue doing Chu we realize it's not the will of hem it's not the will of hem once you realize that it's not the will of hasem already that changes the price so this gives us some to get prepared for the holiday the the fast we have a few more sh beforehand we have another sh on Tuesday here uh and then Wednesday AUST in Miami uh we'll have some other we'll have the we'll continue unless you have any pressing questions go enjoy the food you haveen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]