The Secret To Control Your Mind

[Music] many people today are very impressed by the secular knowledge uh whether it be uh the knowledge of technology or the knowledge of psychology or the knowledge of different types of uh monetary systems and so on but little do we know that anything that's of any value meaning anything that's any good has a place in the Torah so much so that uh one of the main things that I remember studying as a kid when I was uh maybe uh 15 16 I was already taking some college classes and one of the classes that we took was uh advanced placement of psychology psychology classes and we learned about this Jew named Sigman Freud famous Jew unfortunately wasn't exactly the righteous Jew but nonetheless was a famous Jew that came up with some uh interesting theories about psychology about the state of the mind of How It's really split into three you have the conscious the subconscious and the unconscious and so on on and in 1899 exactly 120 years ago he came out with his book which rocked the world and until this day his work is studied in essence what he tells you is that there are certain things in your mind that is in the front of your mind I ask you what's uh you know if I say the color blue immediately you're going to see oh there's blue you could visualize blue I ask you something what's one plus one you're going to say two you don't have to really think about it's a reflex already there's certain things that are in the uh back of the memory you have to think about them I ask you what did you do you know 6 months ago you going have to think about it then if you have a relatively normal memory you're going to remember oh six months ago I actually lived in this and this block and you can remember certain things that happened where did you live 10 years ago you're going to think about it for a minute or two or maybe a second or two depending on how fast your mind is you say oh 10 years ago I lived in such and such place who was your teacher when you are at this age oh you're going to think about it maybe you're going to remember it depending on your memory but generally speaking that's the way it works you also have the subconscious it's the stuff that you've seen in your life but you don't really necessarily think about very often but when push comes to shove these things happen and these things come to the front of your mind immediately without even realizing what just happened and many times uh the things that we thought are forgotten uh really are stir in the front of our mind now obviously more details nobody uh start sending me emails no there's more detail segment for said this and this I'm not planning on giving you the entire book you can read the book if you want but you could also read the Torah you could also read the Torah and you'll see that Shalom already wrote that everything that Sigman Freud said was already written by RAB salant 50 years before Sigman Ford was even born where did the uh person that started the M movement almost 200 years ago where did he get it from he got it from 2,000 years ago where it's in our Torah it's in our written Torah it's in our oral Torah if you simply understand the mitv certain mitv tell you how to do and what to do and I'll give you a couple of examples to see the wisdom of the Tor the Tor says that you should not if somebody did something bad to you don't take revenge on him but also don't hate him now this is relatively understandable okay and tells us that hem is the uh responsible for all Revenge you're not allowed to take revenge even if somebody did something really bad to you he cut you off he stole money from you he I don't know what he did to you now take revenge even if somebody did something terrible you're not to take revenge why Hashem is the one that's responsible for Revenge so says don't take revenge okay that we can understand that way if you believe in you can understand listen this happened to me because allowed it fine I'm not allowed to take revenge from this against this guy no problem she uh did this this and that to me I'm not allow to take revenge against her that's just like eating kosher and and Shabbat and so on but what's hard to understand is how come it says don't hate him too okay the fact that I'm not allowed to kill him even though he killed somebody that I love I understand that the fact that I'm not allowed to beat him up after he beat me up okay I can understand why that's aem's responsibility but I mean I should remember it though I should remember every time I think OHA I hate that guy why that guy did the whole list of things that he did to you so how could it be so us theah is trying to teach you that if you have real you have to truly believe that not only is Hashem responsible for delivering the Revenge that perhaps that you want to take but also Hashem is the one that took Liberty and actually is the one that allowed this to happen in the first place which means that there's no reason for you to hate this person Hashem only allowed him to curse curse you or hit you or do whatever he is that he that he did to you for different reasons it's not him he's just a messenger of hem he's just a stick that hasem chose to hit you with which means that our mitvah here is to teach us that even our minds are supposed to be controlled even our minds are supposed to be controlled to what extent to the extent that even what you think even what you think has to be something that you work on so much so that the page 29 says that somebody that looks at bad things looks at bad things it's worse the results of him seeing bad things is worse than the actual action itself why the action itself is a one-time thing let's say for example somebody just had a you know desire he wanted to eat a you know bacon egg and cheese sandwich or something he ate the sandwich but finished he's not going to think about that sandwich 20 minutes from now he finished the sandwich as soon as he finished the sandwich he already forgot about the sandwich he's done with the sandwich he's not going to think about that sandwich five six hours from now saying wow that was such a delicious sandwich he's finished the appetite is fulfilled he's done it's over but if he looks at the emodest woman even if he doesn't touch her even if he doesn't see her in real life he just sees a picture he sees it on the screen teaches us almost 2,000 years ago that's much worse than the sin itself why because that image is going to be imprinted in your subconscious for eternity forever it's never leaving the N records something it's done your best case scenario is now to start doing chuva and repress that memory put it so back in the back of your mind that it's not that you forgot it it's that you have so many other things that have replaced it what other things good things so everybody has seen something that's immodest everybody has seen something that's inappropriate at some point in their life men women irrelevant everyone has seen something how could how can we get rid of those thoughts you can't you can't get rid of those thoughts so what do you do you have to learn Torah and you have to fulfill the Torah that you're learning and get to the point where your mind becomes occupied with chasing new MIT chasing new opportunities to serve a and your mind is constantly occupied as the rambam writes that people that sin with sins of morality sex crimes and things of that nature are only people that have an empty mind why what empty mind of what what they they they build buildings they just got married they have kids what what do you mean empty mind empty mind meaning empty mind of Torah if your mind was occupied with fulfilling the Tor learning the T fulfilling it there's no way you'd be making SS impossible impossible for you to make SS now our T tells us that we have to cling to a we have to act a certain way we have to make sure that we treat our bodies and ourselves in a certain way but most importantly we have to protect what these eyes see because these are the windows to our soul because once these eyes see it it's recorded in our mind and it could imprint in our subconscious or what the uh Sigman Freud called the subconscious and that's something that's not going to go away so what is the what does a b T's mind look like do you ever wonder what is like for example what does a K's mind look like what does he think about you say well he probably thinks about MIT thank you but what's what his mind really look like we'll give you an example my R told me he a famous story about rki from recent years several years agoi who's the current one of the today his father was AES one time somebody walked into the BET mid of the ston looked like beard hat suit everything immediately St never saw him he was in his room and the guy just walked into the B mid big building much bigger than this immediately St says get out of here people got scared what who what everybody's looking at each other who they saw somebody just came in he goes get out out out he goes what do you mean why I want to say a question with the rabbi he goes no you're goes how do you know he goes the rabbi knows how does he knowes KES is having an idea that Hashem literally implants into your head about what's happening right now what happened in the past and what's happening in the future to such an extent it's almost like prophecy now his son is the current several years ago kki had a stroke his grandkids took him to the hospital and doctor said listen yeah you you had a stroke you know and uh with certain treatment so can you do me a favor can you write something for me you know to see how it affected you I know that my father God bless him he had a stroke almost two months ago and immediately when we got to the hospital they started asking some questions and they asked them to write something they asked them to write something to see how it affected his mind did he forget what is he going to write so what did kki write who wants to volunteer and answer well let's take some guesses what did R keski write no give me an answer guess there's no there's no wrong answer no no no give me an answer where rki WR a mishak no next a gamar no next what do you guys guess the G the biggest Rabbi in the world he's called s meaning he is like the king of Tor in our generation one of the Giants of the generation what did he write after a stroke Torah scroll a Torah scroll no in the back ladies what are you what is the biggest Rabbi in the world going to write you know what he wrote no you want another guess you know I thought that too I thought he's going to write m something you know what he wrote 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 that's wrote so the doctor said okay good but then he tells the the grandson it's a it's a little unusual the grandson says why he goes usually people write their name usually people write their name you know I ask them to write something without telling them what to write the typical person writes their name I mean it's okay he wrote numbers and it's in order it's not a problem it's just a little unusual so the grandson was interested why because he knows that his that his grandfather is a seph it's a living seph so everything has a reason so he says Grandpa how come you wrote numbers how come you didn't write your name so after a stroke rafki says what do you mean don't you remember thear says never write your name on a blank piece of paper Les somebody take and write something on top of your name and that becomes a contract you have to hold by meaning that after a stroke is subconscious mind thought has so much toah in it he knows not to write his name on a blank piece of paper why maybe somebody's going to write oh you wrote the name okay so uh I sell everything to Joe for for for nothing signed rki he already knows his subconscious mind is full of so much Tor he knows not to write his name that's the mind of a to have such a mind [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] 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