The Only Exile That’ll Save You From Terrorism - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (73)

[Music] always good to be in Avent T in the U chaotic world we live in things are picking up um as obviously everyone knows uh you don't have to really watch the news to know the news in today's world it's uh every 5 Seconds there some type of Bing or Bon or pun or something in your phone that's telling you something's happening somewhere you know Putin wants to attack this one Trump wants to kill that one you know all types of craziness happening around the world now there was uh terrorist attack in New York uh just uh literally maybe uh few minutes away from where I used to live uh for almost 15 years and um there a lot of bagand there's a lot of craziness happening around the world and uh like I said before we started I'm not sure if it was um in a sh that I said it or in a private conversation you know nowadays you you lose the track of time you don't know who you're talking when you're not talking I'm not sure if it's a dream if it's reality start losing yourself at some point um but uh it was a while ago maybe a year ago or so I said to someone that um all the uh unfortunately all the balagan that was happening in Israel at the time that the world wasn't really paying much attention to and uh always calling something that it wasn't um when the terrorists the uh these Arab terrorists uh would uh take their cars their trucks their tractors whatever they could uh find and uh kill as many people as they can or stab uh Jews all in the middle of the streets and uh Isel would scream out to the world that terrorism is happening in their own backyard and everyone would say no it's not terroris ISM he's a victim he's a this he's a that and even got to the point where their own Soldiers the own Israeli soldiers were prosecuted and sent to jail for fighting terrorism there's actually one guy now that's is's sitting in jail as we speak uh he's sitting in jail right now for defending the people against terrorism uh I wonder if the same is going to happen in America America because right now terrorism has arrived in America it already arrived a few months ago but they've been denying it uh for months now they always call it something else no this is a lone attack this is just one crazy guy this is just one single individual uh event it just happens to be a coincidence that he's using a car to kill a bunch of people it just happens to be coincidence that he says allahar it's just happens to be a coincidence that he sent a few emails to Isis it just happens to be a coincidence toot nonsense garbage well now for the first time in my I mean I don't watch the news I don't uh read much of it but today I got 500 Bings in my phone from every alert that could possibly be that something happened so I looked into it and I regretted that I looked into it because once you see one you see all the other garbage that's happening in the world so first I see that uh the mayor of New York admitted or said at least publicly we'll see if he retracts the statement by tomorrow but at least for now he says this was a terrorist attack this was an act of terrorism so these politicians are very careful with their words so we'll see we have about 24 hours to retract the statement if he doesn't retract it between 24 hours then they actually have to admit that terrorism as has arrived in America uh and we're not talking about September 11th uh so uh after that you see this the other garbage unfortunately and right under it you see that this famous actor Uh Kevin spacy has admitted to pretty much being a pedophile and also decided that after the the the other fellow actor that he molested 30 years ago uh came out in public Uh Kevin spy says I don't remember I don't remember what happened 30 years ago but if I did it I'm sorry oh and by the way I'm a homosexual he decided that this is the day he's going to announce something he's been hiding for three decades or four decades however long he's been in the public Limelight M like the world revolves around me the fact that I destroyed somebody's life is irrelevant and completely Sodom and gamorra and then if that's not enough if that's not enough you see that this is tied to other things and then you see some other actor this Corey uh spelling I think or somebody some Cory spelling Feldman Feldman Corey Feldman some other actor has been screaming uh you know uh that he's been uh molested for many years and now he's looking to do a charitable event he's looking for donations donations of $10 million nothing more nothing less $10 million so you can make a movie and uh tell the world who molested him and a bunch of other people and thousands of people because this is going to save millions of kids the fact that it's going to make him Millions is irrelevant is irrelevant it's not he says at the end of the recording because you know once you're in this thing once in Solomon gamorra you want to see what the whole story is so at the end of his six minutes waste of life of mine that I had today this I may I may actually have to spend six minutes in G for for spending six minutes looking at this stuff at the end of the six minutes he says this can save millions of children mama she thought that he was on a script this can save millions of children we don't want the children to suffer I'm like this guy for real and the best part this is a war for God that's that's why I said okay I said okay maybe I'm not going to go to G no maybe this is something I have to mentioned in the lecture why he throw God he throw you throw God's name anywhere I got to get involved now he's fighting for God all of a sudden became m p became Pinas became P he's fighting for God now but he needs $10 million in donations to make a movie he can't just say by the way so and so rape me so and so rape this guy you just put it on Twitter like you do a million other tweets why do you have to wait oh if they're going to sue me so use a public defender if you can't afford it what do you care if it's true if you really care about the kids you care about the kids because you care about the kids that are being raped right now so it made me this I learned some M from this you know you try to learn M from everything and I have to tell you guys really I have to tell you I think I mean spending spending unfortunately most of my life in the secular world I saw a lot of this Sodom and gamorra already many years ago I've always hated it I've always been disgusted by it always you know it's not it's never been something that uh I've admired I've always found the whole Hollywood World filthy and disgusting uh when I used to play uh poker in my sinful days with uh high stakes poker players some of these people for celebrities uh that you see on TV uh and I've always told people that are interested still unfortunately in poker like oh don't you miss the poker days no I don't and the reason why is because once you actually play with these people you get to meet them you know you sit there for hours poker is one of those games you sit there for hours and hours for days if you want and these people these sharks will sit there for days with you waiting for you to be tired so they could pretty much beat you for for everything you have it's almost it's professional and um long story short every single person without a uh exaggeration every single person I've ever met that's on TV that's a high stakes poker player is a complete loser in real life is a complete degenerate loser in life I'm not talking about like loser in poke he may be a great poker player he may be a great gambler but in actual real life the biggest losers in the world biggest like nothing more nothing less just mamash like degenerates of degenerates they win these huge you know poker tournaments and they literally in many cases lose them in hours all of it in hours because they go play Blackjack they go drugs prostitutions why do I mention this why do I mention this I have a little experience so someone has some experience in the this to of a world that people still ask me about if I miss it you have money you have a lot of opportunities to do a lot of and I always tell him no number one I didn't like it when I was in it but number two even more so once you get out you see how filthy that world is even more so especially when you get involved with tah and I can tell you that from my experience living the High Life uh seeing as much as I've seen from people that have worked for me people that I've met people that I've known so on and so forth um I think it's without without a doubt if you're not living a Torah life if you're not living Mas like I'm not talking about like you just go to besset once a week I'm not even talking about going to once a day talking about talking about I'm not talking about you keep kosher in the house sometimes outside when it's convenient talk about if you're not living mamash a Torah life like God said it you do it no questions asked no complaints about the bedin the rabbis the Kaa or they don't like me or they do like me or why does he do this why is everyone a sinner why do I have to do it if they're not forget about all that stuff stop being a victim if you stop yourself for a second and you you you think about this if you're not living a Torah life like I'm talking about 100% leave everything get out of yourself that you're in right now and get to a point of that's it I'm taking everything I know on hasem said it I'm doing it I don't understand it doesn't matter I don't like it doesn't matter be a par par no one knows why no one knows why we have this law the wisest man that ever lived that the sages say had that's below right below God something that's it's impossible for us to understand how smart he was we're not talk about to be like him we're talk about to understand how smart he was we can't we don't have the ability forget about understanding God that's different story we're actually lecture for tomorrow that's Mish for tomorrow understanding God but I'm talking about today I'm talking about understanding we can't he himself says in Ecclesiastes it's far from me I don't know I have no idea this one I have no idea why we do it know I know I know my father everything I know far from me what's far for me far from me means it's the distance between knowledge and no knowledge is significant if you have some type of knowledge you have some type of knowledge but it's not like 100% you say yeah I know a little bit about it I know a little bit about it I don't know the I don't know the answer I don't know why who when and what who the players are but I know a little bit about it I can hold a conversation but you say something is far from me you're pretty much saying that the distance is between knowledge and nothing and you're claiming to know nothing schl is claiming to know nothing about par he says I have it's far from me no clue there's many tamim I can give you that are you know tastes the different commentaries about paruma you can say about it it symbolizes this it symbolizes that it represents this it represents that it does this there's many things you can say but bottom line tless why how it works why we even have this why do we care why does it have to be so red so what if there's two hairs that are black big deal paint them in red paint them in red why do you have to make such a big deal it's only two hair you know how many hairs a has what if I bring you a shid right now bring a shid little Yesa boy wants a shid bring a sh she's Rich she's pretty she's nice she's everything IQ 190 she's your age she's below whatever you want everything else you say no no but she has two gray hairs two gray hairs take a little pluck it out big deal take him out or better yeah you don't have to pluck them out why you going to ruin the hair maybe you're going to notice the two missing hairs you're going to sue her so take uh some die diet what's the big deal says I don't know no clue no clue in today's world we are living this par by the way anyone who doesn't want me to melt before the end of the year would do me a big and turn on the air conditioner but if you just want enjoy me sweating and melting by the end of the should turn into an ice cream that's fine too the guys in uh the people on Facebook will have a new to see Rabbi melts on Facebook live maybe it's because he talked about the paruma so in today's world for my experience seeing what you can do with money what you can do with connections what you could do with popularity and so on and so forth um I've hated it then I hate it now even more so because it's there's nothing good comes out of it but people still Chase it people for some reason are convinced they will do better if they were given the opportunity to have a lot of money to have Fame and Fortune to have the popularity to have whatever the power they will do better than all those that failed before them despite the fact that every single day there's another horror story of someone that won the lotto and ruined their life or someone that uh you know got a $100 million contract and went broke because of it and somehow ruined his life alongside it and someone that made it and lost it and you constantly have these stories it's almost like old news when you hear go another one it's look it's like another one big deal another basketball player declares bankruptcy big deal who cares another NFL star spent a100 million on cars he's leasing he doesn't even own them another idiot spends $200 million helping his friends out on scams another goes to jail for fighting dogs even though he gets $100 million just to throw a piece of leather and you have these people ruining their lives every day with the money that Hashem gives them and somehow we are all convinced I will do different if I get this money I will do different I'll be a big sadik I'll build yot I'll build a business I'll be a b no one will be be homeless no one will be homeless ever again everyone thinks they'll do better I'm telling you from experience if you never listened to anything I ever said before should listen to this should listen to the other things too I think there's a little in some of them I think without a doubt that if you're not living a life today that's mamash at least trying at least trying to be abah ainu you can't be a ainu there's only one of a kind but I'm talking about not being a ainu like you're gonna go put your kid in as aan forem or anything but I'm talking about I'm talking about Hashem says go why doesn't make a difference it doesn't make a difference why hasem said shabat doesn't make a difference it doesn't make a difference why you have to be modest doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference why you have to eat kosher even though it's 50% more expensive it doesn't make a difference that the rabbis charge so much money for your shot and you still have to send your kids there it doesn't make a difference whether you understand it or you don't understand it it doesn't make a difference if you agree with it or not it doesn't make a difference I believe without a certainty without without a doubt that if you're not living a life of Torah mamash Torah like 100% you are mamash putting your life and anyone involved in your life in danger right now you're in danger you are a walking Time Bomb if you're not saying God said it I'm doing it if I don't know he did he said it how could I do it hopefully I Do by accident but in reality if if if you're still debating whether I'm going to go or not whether I'm going to go with Hashem or still stay like somewhat secular and weight tight pants and still go chase money instead of chasing Torah still go try to be the celebrity with a big watch that you know is enough for three people to have on one arm you know these guys wear these giant watches it's a clock just put the clock on your hand and that's it why you have such a big watch were you blind if you're blind no one's going to ask you the time anyway just have a stick at least give him a shot give him a little hand tell them you're blind why is such a big watch awful awful clothing that people have today M no sense of decency left in the world no sense of decency left in the world not for men not for women nothing not for religious not for not religious if you're not 100% on board with Hashem you are mamash a walking time bomb and this I'm not telling you this as a rabbi I'm not telling you this as uh some type of ultra sadik I know it I'm telling you as someone like you I'm telling you that m the greatest thing the greatest that hasem has ever done for me was force me to do chuva the greatest thing was put me through hell so I could finally be forced to wake up and see ah it's you okay okay I got you I got you okay took me a while I know you beat me up I know you pretty much destroyed my life or what I thought was a life but thank you thank you for making me really really sick I pretty much was dying technically for for giving me pain that's pretty much permanent I still have some of it till this day even though I'm 99% better that 1% is probably more pain than everybody in the room put together I still have to deal with it every day but B this is great I could still speak in front of you you don't even know what happens all of that millions of dollars that I thought I had all that stuff all garbage garbage mamash to toilet paper is worth more and people still chasing it people still ask me oh don't don't you miss it don't you want to go back to why don't you go make $50 million and then do kiru again the reality of it is that if you have your mind anywhere other than being much glued to AEM you're walking Time Bomb you're putting your life at risk because everywhere you look is Sal and gorah and that's this week's par this week's we continue to see the extraordinary life of abah ainu the extraordinary life of abah aino last week we finished the par where did something that most people would not do I say most because I actually met a couple of people that actually did it and he circumcised himself as an adult you know one of the most motivating things that I've had the pleasure of meeting were righteous converts and the reason is because many times the righteous converts are male that have not had their B have not had circumcision and to ask a 8 day old baby if they want to have a is not really such a big deal but if you tell a 30 40 or 50 year old hey by the way I'm going to cut a piece of you out and it's in the most sensitive part of your body when are you coming in um usually I'm telling you for me if somebody told me that it's said oh by the way I'm not going to convert but I like you guys I'll read the book I wouldn't do it telling you honestly right now I'm telling you honestly I wouldn't do it me personally I wouldn't do it I also have a little bit of a bias because I have hyper sensitivity so one of the benefits that hasem left me with out of the whole chaos that I had for seven years is that now I went from you know playing football as a kid so I was able to endure a lot of pain now I have hyper sensitivity meaning I feel everything five times more so me even thinking about pain is is it's Terror for me it's like a nightmare so for me thinking about somebody an adult taking a circumcision I'm doing I'm doing for him you your mind but M I actually met a few people that did it but I'm not talking about did it like they went to a surgery anesthesia I'm talking about I met a guy sadik he said he didn't have the money to go get a surgery but he was so motivated by what he read about in that he says this is what God wants okay I'm GNA do it and he gave himself a circumcision he gave himself a circumcision I I mean I met him in person like I live next to him I I I mean I said I I don't know if there's another person in a generation like you but I actually happened to meet other people like him there are other people like him that are willing to do it obviously most of them are a little more normal they go to a hospital but the point is that I don't care if it's in the hospital I don't care if it's to me it's just I I just wouldn't do it the fact that there are people out there that are willing to do it for hem is a on all of us it's a case it's a prosecution against all of us why says the the the righteous converts are like a skin disease for the Jewish people why like a skin disease there are several explanations one explanation is they show us how righteous we're supposed supposed to be because they're so righteous so we look bad in front of Hashem look at these people they don't even have to do it and they're doing it looks bad for hasem looks bad so I met some of these people and it's amazing it's amazing I love converts if people actually see some of these converts and what they're willing to do what they're willing to endure in order to serve AEM it's um it's a shame that natural-born Jews don't feel as passionate sometimes not all the time but sometimes because today from my perspective and I think no one could really disagree with this if you don't have a direction from the one above there's only one other direction it's sodam and Gomorrah all the things we aspired to be are proven in front of our eyes to be bad the rambam says that all of your desires all of your natural desires are bad for you you want more money it's bad for you look at all of these people that turn into the biggest losers in the world as a result of having a lot of money before they had money they were perfectly decent people had multiple jobs had good kids had decent marriages worked hard prayed to God you give them a bunch of money they forgot him they forgot the hand that feeds them if you actually think about that forgetting the hand that feeds you it's the most Preposterous thought that could ever be we do it every day he gives it to us and we're questioning why we have to listen to him can you see yes that's because of him can you breathe yes that's because of him do you have money in your pocket yes that's because of him are you alive yes that's because of him your kids are good yes that's because of him do I still have to keep Shabbat well that that's from him so if you're living a life where you're still questioning whether you should listen to him or not you're putting yourself in serious danger because AEM is closing the store R Shalom has uh multiple lectures that he talks about the end of days multiple lectures talking about everything else obviously also but remember vividly one of these videos that it's a CU organization in Israel that makes extraordinary movies like the Torah movies like we have they're like the pillars of it they're like the amazing they're like the Sony of making Torah movies amazing like every single movie they make is should be a blockbuster and there's one particular one that uh that they made with r nishim again in the background it's about the end of days maybe about 10 11 minute clip I must have watched it 50 times it's the same thing I actually heard the real lecture but the movie the way it's presented the way I mean it just it makes you because seeing is different than hearing Kaz also teaches this that uh Hashem could have taught all of the mitu by purely just putting a little disc in his head say okay now you know like that movie The Matrix the guy now knows how to fight karate but he actually says the that I showed you in the mountain I showed them to you what do you mean I showed them to you I showed you how to do them show them how to do he showed them how to do everything because seeing takes everything to a different level this is why there's a lot more to the learning you do when you come to the lecture then when you just hear it on one of these applications or on a CD there a lot more for the people that attend the lecture for the people that are watching it live um because you're a part of it and part of the special Merit that each and every single one of you have gives the speaker words to say that are relevant to you so I remember in this in this sure he says things that I've read things that I've it's not no no like U there no like in you know I just just the way he speaks is extraordinary uh but it's things that are in the books things in Zar Zakaria Ezekiel um you know all the prophets there nothing like uh that you've never heard of before in many of these lectures if you've heard these lectures the rambam and so on and so forth but he talks about he talks about the the end of days how things are going to happen and um it's happening he was already talking about it almost 20 years ago it's happening I've been talking about it for a few years but even more so it's happening now because things are being fast forwarded and it's getting to a point where it's obvious we're running out of time so one of the examples that Ren says he says you know in Israel there's this I'm not sure how it is in I know in America they don't do such a thing but in different countries I'm sure there's such a thing where you go to the local Deli they call molit in Israel and if you don't have any money uh then you tell the guy listen just put it on my tab you know whatever you want to buy milk you have cookies this that whatever you got to buy put it on my tab in Israel it's a very you know it's a family it's one big family even though there's you know millions of people and some of them want to kill each other we're still a family and just put it on a tab and eventually you pay it eventually the guy says listen you have to pay off your tab if you didn't pay the tab you build a big tab but the point is they're very very trusting people in America you do say put it on my tab he say say no shoes no uh shirt no service no tabs no tabs at a deli or anything so anyway he says everybody has a tab everybody has a tab with the guy at the molit the guy at the Delhi he says but what happens when the guy decides that he's going to close the deli happens once in a while once every few decades CES they close a deli so now he calls everybody that's in the notebook he says I jakov okay the 5,000 shekels I need them this week what this week I think I'm G to come up 5,000 shekels I don't have 5,000 she you have to have 5,000 she I need the 5,000 she why do you need it now I'm closing the store I I I know I owed you the 5,000 I know it's true I'm not saying you're lying about the 5,000 checkel I know I owe you 5,000 I know I don't have it it doesn't matter you don't have it you have to pay it now you have to find it I'm closing the store there's no next week There's No second opportunity this is the agreement we had Shalom is saying is closing the store it's not going to be a second chance whether you like it or not he's going to show you the truth when you like it or not he's fast forwarding everything right before he closes the store Everything Must Go you have to see those signs on stores in New York Everything Must Go going out of business sale some people actually go out of business for 25 years 25 years going out of business but here's not a joke Hashem is fast forwarding everything and he's showing you it's time to make a choice this is also one of the prophecies kazal says that the mashiah is not going to come unless the generation of fully righteous people or fully Wicked people kazal already almost 2,000 years ago says this does not make sense it's impossible these are people that were able to revive the dead he said we're able to revive the dead but we know there's always going to be somebody that's aash there's always going to be Wicked people there's no way that there going to be a whole generation of righteous people no way there's always going to be one two three four five million rotten apples there always going to be and there's no such thing as a whole generation of hamans the world won't survive hasem say he's not going to let it happen this doesn't make any sense what what does it mean so kazal explained it to say at the end of days it's not that hasem is saying everyone has to be righteous or else the mashia is not going to come or everyone has has to be Wicked and the mhia is GNA come no no no shim explains it in in the time of mhia by then you're going to have to make a choice you're either going to be fully righteous and going with AEM like why doesn't make a difference I said so why keep Shabbat doesn't make a difference no more explanations no more proofs no more I believe I don't believe go why I said so fully righteous no no more is this is this skirt long enough no more questions you ran out of time you had time to question is this wig Allowed no but did you see it it doesn't make a difference it's not allowed but the rebi said it no he didn't he said something else allowed it looked like straw not that looks like uh one of these Victoria Secret uh models you have people that call themselves rot giving lectures online they look like they just came out of a magazine you're not allowed to watch the lectures if you're a man honestly I don't think you should watch it as a as a woman as a man you're not allowed to look even though it's a head shot it's only the face I'm not talking about the whole body forget about no one knows how to dress modest in this generation anymore talking about just the head you can't look at it she has hair from here reaches the floor she has better hair than the runway models like wow look at these Jewish women rabot I want to be a raban I want to be a raban look at our hair it's so pretty it's always made even when she just wakes up yeah it's not real it's real but it's not real that's why it's always made you know let to look at it sometimes people send me these uh videos what do you think about what she said as soon as I press play I press stop I can't look at it I'm sorry don't send me such things why she's a woman she's a she's a raban I said I don't know what she is I can't look at her send me a voice send me a sound send me a text don't send me a picture someone asked me about a week two weeks ago what's my opinion about women that give make videos or put pictures online and I've been trying to write the article and I started it almost finished it and then obviously something took my attention away and I haven't answered it yet because you know you want to answer one thing but then it's you start thinking about other things and it's like ah this this also should be in it we should also talk about this we should talk about this you try to make something good but something good takes time and uh in so many words this is the answer if you're asking yourself as a woman that's trying to do the will of hem that's trying to live a righteous life both Jew or Gentile this applies to you if you're trying to do the will of hem and you understand that modesty is the number one mitvah for women in the eyes of hem this is what we learn about s menu this week in V when the Angels come to abah ainu they're Angels it's not a not a uh big deal for them to know where s menu is they're Angels they know what he had for lunch 30 years ago they're Angels but they say to Abraham Abraham where's your wife Sarah me if I was if I was a i' said how do you know my wife's name how you know her name were you guys in a WhatsApp group you guys on a Facebook group together how you know her name how you know her name that's what I would ask but AB didn't ask this he says she's in the tent so Rashi says why does why is this written what's what's the significance of this verse what's the significance of of this verse significance of this verse is that Hashem is trying to remind us of SAR menu's modesty why does her being in a tent represent modesty why does it represent modesty because in last week's we reminded twice twice in last week's parasa of how beautiful s was twice in last week's parem reminds us tells us that he created s menu with extraordinary beauty he says he was beautiful not just beautiful it's just one word but when it says me says this is something special how special kazal says that the most beautiful person that live on Earth right now looks more like a monkey most beautiful person whatever the most beautiful person looks like they're shiny I don't know what they are they have diamonds coming out of their eyes their hair is gold whatever you think is beautiful that looks like a monkey next to menu why is that so important for us to know because beautiful people tend to be emodest beautiful people tend to want the world to know hey I'm beautiful ugly people usually before we lost shame like we do in this generation before this generation ugly people used to hide like caves today they take off their clothes they think that makes them beautiful so here we learned from saru despite her beauty she was not hanging out with the guys not hanging out with the guys she's in a tent why that's not my place to be I'm not my place is not to be with the men my place is to be a righteous woman with other women we're not going to have a drink together and socialize that's not what we do not that you're not allowed to talk if your husband is next to you but the point is is that these women that are very friendly with many men need to learn from s menu you're too friendly so this leads us back to the question if you are trying to decide should I put or should I leave my pictures on Facebook on all the social media or not the answer is no you should take them all off all of them should not have any pictures of anything not your fa not your body not your nothing number one because it's number one it's not good for you there's nothing good can come out of it not that it's the most important thing is it's not an order of importance point is is that nothing good is going to come out of the world knowing what you look like nothing good nothing good has ever happened from such a thing two there are a lot of sick people in the world and those sick people even if you are dressing modest I'm I'm talking about people that dress modest I'm not talking about people that are IM modest imod is a it's a needless to say if you're immodest I'm not even talking to you this is not relevant to you this is not a com you're just we have to do a whole new sh for you if you're still modest right now talk about somebody that's modest I'm talk with I'm talking about somebody that's covering themselves modest already don't have your pictures online why there are a lot of sick people that will take your picture and do strange things with it what do you need that headache for what do you need the headache for for what what good do you get out of it now someone could tell me yes but what about if I'm trying to do a video and I'm trying to teach Torah trying to teach or or I'm trying to do a picture to teach other women how to dress modestly is that allowed based on Al yes it's allowed but it's not recommended based on Al it's allowed for you to make a video to tell people about Abu andu andu and whatever you want to talk about that's T I'm not talking about talking about your uh your your marriage and how you hate your husband this week and next week you love him like some people do every day it's a new status change married I'm divorced I hate my husband I love my husband I hate my wife I love my wife I'm throwing away my kids okay I just got adopted one every day people tell the world what's happening to their life why why are you reporting it to two billion people get a rabbi get a friend get a spouse stop sharing your life every day oh my marriage is over and you feel this is the best place to announce it two billion people need to know you're married is over and you think this is going to help your life what if she changes her mind or he changes his mind so what you going tell people oh we worked it out you look you look psychotic you look psych you look like you're making yourself and whoever is stupid enough to be with you look like a fool you look like a teenager that's that has nothing no direction in their life I have a boyfriend I have a girlfriend have a boyriend have a girlfriend I have two I have WF and girlfriend sometimes like this Kevin spacy imbecile he says yes I've had relationships with men and women throughout my life and now I choose to just be with men he's proud of this in the same day he's announcing that he molested somebody 30 years ago s and gorah we don't even Mas when you have no Hashem in your life you can't even see that you are in you you can't even see that you're bathing in feces you can't you're thinking it's a Jacuzzi so you want to give t as a woman teach other women how to be modest teach them it's allowed but it's not recommended why number one the same things I said still apply sick people in the world there's really not that much benefit out of it there's already plenty of material without you and the reality of it is that you just added an additional tun for yourself and that is to be modest in front of the camera which for women in my opinion is almost impossible in this generation it's almost impossible for a woman to be modest in front of a camera in today's age why they have to make a look they have to do something to get the camera's attention they think that it's like uh you know Vogue magazine is is is doing a cover story on them so they make these faces and they're flirtatious because it's cute to be flirtatious but they don't realize that's turning men on and that's IM oh I just got this kala it's so great okay well that's not that's not a behavior I'm sorry that's not what that's not you're not supposed to do that and know Smiles the hair the the wake is like all the way to the floor you can't do it you can't do it you're killing it all the toy he just talked about God doesn't need it doesn't need it why you putting why you putting yourself in that that why for what I have yet I mean trust me I work really really hard to not see anything but every single time somebody sends me something oh what do you think of this raban what do you think of this video of somebody saying I'm not talking about imod things I have yet I have yet to see a woman that's uh you know G doing a video in a mo with mod's behavior what it's just it's impossible it's it's the nature of a woman unless they're older and like Ultra Ultra but it's almost impossible for this generation it's part it's part of the nature it's part of the to capture attention you have to be flirtatious you're ruining it you're ruining that entire Torah he said you're ruining it if you really care about Torah do a voice only why don't we to see you yeah yeah it's it's a mistake you shouldn't you shouldn't necessarily look for Facebook to meet your special person you should I mean they're obviously dating sites I understand that helps with shim but there are Kosher shim sites that are run by shim so they're they're uh they're monitored to some extent uh to some extent and uh they also monitor what kind of pictures you put putting the face fine there's no problem if it's for an actual purpose but the reality of it is the overwhelming majority of the purposes that people put their pictures online is not for it's not for what you ate last week is not for your what what you ate this morning it's not for the vacation you took it's not for it's not relevant so yes if it's really for one head shot entire internet should have one head shot of you fine if you're looking for if you're married with three kids what do we need to see a picture still so that's the thing is it really for the or is it really just an excuse and that's why I'm saying when someone is living a life that's still 5050 that's still making excuses they're putting themselves at risk and the reason why is because if you're still chasing money you're very far from Hashem if you're still looking for the materialistic life we hear so many horrible news about you're very far away from hasem you could be praying Nets every day means nothing you could be learning to even means nothing if you're looking if you are actively looking to be rich that's you're actually trying to be rich if you happen to be rich because blesses you as a different story but if like your like purpose in life is to be rich you're far from hasem and the reason why is because you're missing the point where Hashem is telling you now something very very clearly everyone and anyone the people aspire to be that's obviously outside of the Torah world is being exposed as the biggest loser in the world you want to be a movie star name one that's a winner in life I'm not talking about winner in bank accounts means nothing I had money it means nothing zero zero less than zero zero at least you could do something with without getting into trouble name one that's an actual winner in real life look at what's happening in the news this one is cheating on his wife the other one is divorced five times this one is a drug drug addiction this one alcohol addiction this one sex addiction this one is a uh you know molesting kids this one is part of a pedophile ring now they're saying it's a whole thing it's not like like one or two or three or four cases of pedophilia in Hollywood it's a whole ring it's the hidden secret of Hollywood is pedophilia and as a matter of fact they're saying it's their biggest secret for decades it's part of Hollywood just like being a waiter before you're a successful actor is apparently being a pedophile or being connected to some pedophile also has to do something with it it's must craziness and people aspired to be actors every day oh look at my daughter she's so pretty she's gonna be an actress one day shom she can be an aous why just kill her now why you want want to ruin her life no she's going to be a singer Shalom why why you want to ruin her life every every parent wants their kid to be a celebrity if you're really trying to be righteous with hem you should say shalom my kid's going to be a celebrity Shalom God forbid my kids in a celebrity name one celebrity that's a winner in real life drug addiction oh divorce is none of them could stay married to the same person for more than a couple of years once in a while you hear a success story I heard will frell is married for like 30 years I mean that's like a MAA that's like uh finding a diamond on Mars and you haven't been there yet no he's divorced yeah he's divorced he's divorced like the rest of them the reality of it is that people that are aspiring to be some level of celebrity movie star athlete of any kind any sport you're far from Hashem and in essence you're you're asking AEM to put you in G this week's par ainu is recovering from the Brit mil from the Covenant he took with Hashem of circumcising himself and Hashem sends him the Three Angels one to heal his wife Sarah and in essence give her a womb she didn't have create a womb out of thin air only Hashem can create out of nothing second one is going to be there to he you also have the last one is going to be there to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah nowm says in uh chapter 18 verse 17 shall I conceive from a what I do after he tells him listen next year you're going to have a kid and uh there's the whole thing between saru she laughed about it and's questioning why is she laughing does she believe that I can't do it she's embarrassed by this but after this he still didn't tell abah ainu that he's going to destroy Sodom and gomorah and he says why does he why does AEM hasem feel bad for not telling abah ainu he says now that I'm blessing him that he's going to have a son and this and the son is going to have all these descendants it's going to turn into great nation and all the nations of the Earth are going to bless themselves by his name because I love him I love aam why do I loveam it says in verse 19 for i l them because He commands his children and his household after him that they keep the way of hasem doing charity and Justice in order that Hashem might then bring upon Abraham that which he has spoken of him he says why do I love Abraham he does what I said he commands his family to do the will of hem that's why I love him simple not because a jumped into the fire not because a did bre me love you know at the age of 99 specifically no not because of that he lives a life where he decid I said he does that's why I love him it's a pretty simple Arrangement so then a is told by one of the Angels that Hashem is about to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah soam runs to Hashem figuratively speaking and says will you stamp out the righteous along with the wicked are you going to kill righteous people and wicked people in Sodom and Gomorrah I mean maybe there's some righteous people maybe there's 50 maybe there's 45 maybe there's 40 from here we learn how a Jew negotiates he says there maybe there's 50 I won't destroy if there's 50 maybe there's 45 what are he going to destroy only for five difference not that the fact that there's 50 million that are no it's five difference you agree to 50 so five difference from 50 and 45 you already see teaching us how to negotiate don't talk about all the bad so Hashem says no no no I won't destroy them but the reality of it is that even if there were 10 he would not destroy it which tells us that there were none nothing as a matter of fact even lot that was saved had limited Merit his Merit was still limited even though he had Merit to be saved it was only because of abam not because of himself so now Hashem sends these angels two angels go to solom and Gomorrah lot meets them at the gate he knows that this is not a place that welcomes guests he knows that these are angels it's not uh hidden from him like it was hidden originally from abah and he wants to hide them but immediately theim of the city all realize that there's guests in the city and they say something horrendous it says and they called they meaning the entire city everyone everyone left what they were doing they came to lot imagine you have a little house or big house whatever it is everyone in the city left what they're doing left their baseball their basketball their football their uh MTV Cribs or whatever they were doing left everything they went to your front yard look like a Woodstock in front of your front front yard and this is what they tell you and they say to you they say to lot where are the men who came to you tonight two people that came to you bring them out to us so that me we may know them says what does it mean so that we may know them we learned this from when knew his wife meaning Adam was intimate with his wife said bring these two men that came to you so we could rape them this is what's on their mind all of these people are millionaires all of these people have all the money in the world apparently this was a a prequel to Hollywood so lot comes out says no don't act wickedly don't act uh don't act wickedly my brothers I have two daughters take them two virgin daughters it's the strangest two things I've ever in one hand the guy is trying to like defend these guests of honor on another hand he says hey by the way take my kids do whatever you want with them why what is how how does how do we explain this on one hand you're defending your guests with your life really his life is in danger another end you're putting your two daughters which you're supposed to protect more than the guests because here look wasn't really protecting anyone other than himself he was protecting his own kavod he cared less about his daughters and he cared less about the guests he cared only about his cavod the fact that they were in his house these two guests that's the only thing oh they're under my roof under my roof you know I got it it's my thing you're you're under me you know like the mobs just talk you're under me don't worry I don't don't worry about it I'll take care of you what do you mean you'll take care of me how are you going to take care don't worry I'll take care of don't worry about it both of you end up in jail like oh I took care of you didn't I take care of you there what do you mean I'm in jail for the next 10 years yeah but hey could have been worse friends like that who needs enemies so that's slot lot was trying to protect this kavod but now the Angels tell him let's get out of here they make everyone blind and still these people try to break down the door to find the two men not because of any other reason the fact they still want to rape them they just all the entire city lost their Vision they can't see they just made a big production the next Terminator movie the next uh uh whatever Transformers movie they can't see their own production what do they care about having sex with two men it's all they care about this is a sick mind so what's happening today is nothing changed nothing changed you have these people that have zillions of dollars zillions they have more money than they can count what do they do they still rape little boys why still like why you could get a regular person if you if you whatever just do it in a normal way why do you have to take advantage of little kids ruin his life sick people sick if it was up to me every single one of them will get death penalty every single one after they get tortured for a nice amount of time sick people sick sick people that torture kids with their disgusting minds and actions and unfortunately this disgusting behavior is everywhere sometimes these sick people are in Hollywood sometimes s they're in a synagogue sometimes they're in church sometimes they're in the office sometimes they're the teacher or the principal you never know this is why Judaism has laws it says you're not allowed to leave your kids with just some stranger you have to double check who you leaving your kids with doesn't matter that he's a teacher or he has a degree or he's a millionaire or he's a celebrity it's irrelevant if you have a young girl that's over three years old three years or above you are not allowed to leave her with a stranger not allowed not allowed to leave your three-year-old daughter with a some stranger if it's school it's a different story but the school you have to check out you have to double check who are these teachers is some guy off the street or is it somebody that's like a honorable person people just send their kids to schools like uh it's like sheep yeah no it's a school it's a big school they didn't they invest $100 million into the building okay if it was the building teaching no problem but it's not the building teacher the teacher teaching it's like this guy went to a Kos went to a food store and he asked the guy the balab is the uh sh here kosher goes yeah it's kosher it's kosher he goes can I see can I see the uh certificate goes look Buba he goes okay now the CER certificate goes look the he goes don't if it was them here and you were in a picture I'd buy the Sha no problem no certificate but since it's you here and them in the picture show me the certificate show me the certificate today's world unfortunately even the certificates are questionable even the certificates the K certificates are questionable it's a big big problem in Israel where even the major ranim won't eat in certain kosher stores because the kosher is not so kosher same thing is in America just that in America hasn't gone to that extent yet no one cares enough to make a balagan yet in Israel it's small country easy to make B gun so you can't just send your kids away and think no it's a big school they invested hundred million into the building who cares people are impressed with these big numbers and these big money it means nothing look at all of these losers coming out or being caught being rapists being molesters being all types of sick-minded people you can't send your kids to wolves and expect them to still be okay and what do you think a seven eight nine 10 year old kid is going to come home and say oh yeah everything is you know wasn't so good in school no he's going to be embarrassed and unfortunately sometimes our communities protect these Predators why we're embarrassed we don't want to tell the world that we have a molester inside the Jewish Community oh and by the way as a side note he donates a million a year you and him you that protect him and him should both go to Gom forever protecting these Predators he's destroying people destroying people we can't protect these people but the reality of it is the reality is that we have to take some responsibility too of course this does not remove any of the responsibility of these evil evil people that I just told you moments ago I would kill them myself if I could I hate people that hurt kids there's just few things in the world that are just like above and beyond this is worse than all of them people that hurt little children have no right to live no right heard a kid that doesn't have free choice you removed this choice you confused them you you took away his just whatever these people act like that they have no right to live unfortunately the law lets them live Hashem lets them live so here we have a choice what's our choice our choice is to be like abah ainu make the decision are you going to continue letting your kid go into the World unprotected making a mind for himself making a choice for himself as if he knows the difference between good and bad are you going to help him are you going to tell him that baseball basketball football and being a movie star and a superhero and an X-Men that's what he should aspire to be or he should aspire to be mhu if your kid is aspiring to be the next NBA player you are a at fault partly for him messing up his entire life you are at fault that he has no connection whatsoever to yish you are at fault that he doesn't know if God's real or not why because you made the basketball player God when you told him that he's allowed to compete on a Shabbat because technically it's not Shabbat to play basketball so you told him that it's okay to play in his little league basketball on Shabbat as long as he slept over his friend's house and he was part of the tournament and he didn't turn on the light and he didn't really violate Shabbat outright but he was part of a tournament it's okay to do it it's okay but he just ruined his life why you told him basketball is more important than God it was better off he drove on Shabbat was better off what at least itus he's not hiding it anymore ham knew he's Haman ham knew he's Haman he didn't care he's a man Titus knew he's Titus Titus in English he knew he's Titus he knew he didn't care he went for it if you're going to create a little Hitler let him be a Hitler then but if you're trying to get your kid to be okay help him help her stop telling them basketball is more important than hasem you have to give them better Direction why because the world is full of predators that are trying to destroy them spiritually or physically whether it's terrorists in New York that are starting to run over people or in different parts of America that are shooting people every other day in public schools when I was a kid not even a kid I was already a teenager you had the Coline shooting that was like wow the whole nation 300 million people were shocked colbi kids shooting up a school craziness how could it be now it's every week oh it's another shooting ah Shucks let change a channel yeah you just killed 50 kids change the channel put some baseball on change the channel put the stock market on what is CNBC does this affect the D Jones ah thank God Microsoft is not down yeah but he just shot 50 kids 50 kids lost their life in a school they went to learn math history they think they're still they're coming from a monkey they died thinking they came from a monkey what do they teach him in these schools they all came from monkeys they all died thinking they came from a monkey and you're worried about Microsoft or Google stock it's our fault it's our fault we just send them to the Wolves thinking they're going to figure it out on their own like I did you're sending them into the Exile without any instructions as a parent you should be arrested shouldn't be having kids it's not fair you're ruining their life before they even start you're telling them that being a movie star or some type of celebrity is a good thing when you know yourself you you've never read a good story about a movie star in real life never they're all losers they all be married a million times there's always exception to the case but that's not reality but you're telling them that all these rich and famous people that you see on TV you should be like him no you shouldn't you shouldn't you should be a very simple person work forem why it's the only job that pays all the time so now in this Paras we learn that Hashem at some point he closes the store and when he closes the store he doesn't give us much time he makes everything obvious right now he's fast forwarding everything for all of those deniers that terrorism has arrived to America it's becoming more and more difficult to deny the shootings the bombings they're becoming more rampant they're becoming a weakly thing everyone is a cameraman everyone is is a newscaster with an iPhone you have a phone you're a newscaster two seconds everything goes online you can't hide anything you 500 people call it a conspiracy people still believe it it doesn't make a difference Hashem is bringing to light he's telling you listen the things you aspire to be in Hollywood look at them pedophiles terrorists thieves whatever look at these people you want to be like that no then he's showing you in the religious World who's real and who's not he's showing you the difference why he's closing the the store it's time for you to make a choice are you going in or you not it's time for you to make a choice you can still walk around look like a enjoy no problem mashia shows up no more time you're still doubting if you're proud to be a Jew or not if you're proud to be a righteous Gentile or not you still want to look like you're like cool fine store is about to be closed what are you GNA do then oh no no I didn't mean it I didn't mean I thought I had more time no more time no more time abah ainu tried to buy more time hasem says no more time he destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah in an instant this is just a prequel of what's to be when the mashia comes and he sees some places around the world today what could save us says Exile Exile yourself to a place of Torah and do not assume that it will come after you for it is your colleagues who will cause it to remain with you and do not rely on your own understanding so ASU teach us always good to know who we're talking about who is Rino initially it looks like we're meeting a new T but but thear teaches us that RAB is really another name for some say it's uh but the leading opinion is that it's but why was he called means enlightened so since he enlightened the eyes of the sages in their approach of Al meaning he gave them called like he's the enlightened one he's all is the root of it is all all means light so not much more we could add that would even be sufficient about we've talked about them before every sapharic orazi Jew knows who was we know that any time we see a it is very likely thatz had something to do with it many times even though he's not even mentioned by name so someone says anytime it says someone says it's R and many times most not all but most of the times so one of the five students that AKA restarted the world of Torah was with which means that our entire oral Tor he's one of the pillars that it depends on now one of the says in is that when you write a seph Tor you have to emulate AEM meaning 974 Generations before Hashem created the world he created the Torah now the way he created the Torah is that he took black fire that he created out of nothing and he wrote on White Fire symbolizing today by seph SE is a white scroll with black ink on it there's no green There's No Gray there's no no other colors black symbolizing the black fire on White Fire so every ever since then every single Torah scroll that's kosher had to be written as a copy meaning you had to use some copy that you're copying from you cannot write a Torah scroll from your memory even if you know by heart if you're a scribe after a while you know the Torah by heart if you're aan a that reads Torah every week after a while you know the whole Torah by heart even if you know by heart is you're not allowed to write it by heart you're also not allowed to read by heart you have to see it there significance to seeing the words so if you're writing a Torah scroll you have to have another Torah scroll next to it and you're copying it word for word can't do it for memory got it so far but the says that was also a scribe he was a scribe but he didn't use a scroll he didn't use a scroll to say how could it be broke could it be could you could you even say such a thing Shalom is different what does it mean was different we Chang the law for him no we didn't change the law he's following the law he's following he is also when he writes a t he's also copying a seph t where's a seph t he sees it all the time him there's an image of a t in his eyes he sees it like you see this book like you see me he sees a t right there he sees it you can't see it's your problem but he sees theph it's not memory he sees theph that's what we mean to live like that for like a moment in life I have a dream that would like that even a dream have a dream like that I wouldn't want to wake up so R says Exile yourself to a place of Torah there are many people that take some of the things we say seriously and they start learning to start learning to every day not just the shim that we make not just the clips for five minutes they take a book they take they take they take they start making Torah part of their life and they think that that's enough that if everything that I set up to now were to happen mhia comes go Magog takes the next chapter chaos gets to a higher level than it is already now they think they'll be fine AKA is here to tell you it's not it's not don't get too comfortable why if you are expecting to become someone that's okay meaning someone that's acquiring Torah at the comfort of his home at the comfort of his convenience whatever it's convenient for him he learns whatever he feels like it he learns whatever books in front of him that's what he'll learn ah there's another book on top that you really should be reading yeah it's too high I'm tired I'm just gonna read this one you ever meet those people they don't want to get up just to get the book on top of the Shelf forget about read the book read the book is already get the book they don't want to get the book from top of the Shelf they exist these people they don't want to get up or the guy says no you know what I know there's a t but uh I'll watch it tomorrow on YouTube I'll watch it on the website I'm gonna go to bash.org right I want to watch it there I'm gonna watch it on Facebook I watch it on Facebook but why but you live 20 minutes 30 minutes an hour away from the sh why don't you come to sh ah it's long it finishes at midnight by the time I get home I have work tomorrow like he's the only person in the world that has work nobody else works tomorrow it's too hard it's too inconvenient it's too this it's too that maybe if he makes a sh earlier maybe he makes a sh I I bet you I make the sh at 1 o'clock in the afternoon still the same thing doesn't make a difference I've I've tried it a few times makes difference yet works all the day all day works but some people say if it's not convenient for me to come I'm not coming if it's not convenient for me to learn I'm not learning I'll learn when I feel like it you my friend are far away from reality and the reason why is because says someone that wants to acquire T which is the only thing that's going to save you at the end of times that we find ourselves in that along with meaning with k or overwhelming kindness if you really want to acquire Torah you have to be ready to kill yourself at the very least get ready to be uncomfortable you don't have to literally go kill yourself we're not uh terrorists we're not uh Palestinians meaning you have to exert yourself just like you would exert yourself to chase a billion dollars or a million dollars or whatever money you've been trying to chase your whole life just like you were trying to Chase your career just like you were trying to chase your spouse just like you were trying to chase every dream you've ever had times it by a million that's Torah meaning if you're not ready to go into the exile to go acquired Torah get uncomfortable you haven't even begun cha you haven't even begun if you're only willing to learn if it's convenient for you you have no idea what value Torah holds in your life if you are only willing to learn if it's convenient then you Haven an established the fact in your mind and your n haven't agreed on one thing what haven't they agreed on they haven't agreed on whether Torah is the cure for your spiritual disease or not your mind is saying no because your mind is trying to chase money your mind is trying to chase business your mind is trying to chase girls your mind is trying to chase Fame and Fortune and whatever else your mind is trying to chase your is screaming no no forget all of that stuff we need Torah we need to save ourselves it's the only thing your money is not going to help you in unless you used it on saving Jews unless you used it on helping people that couldn't help themselves if you use the money to buy another gate for the uh Noah hide Zoo it's not going to help you if you left it in a portfolio full of Microsoft and Google stock it's not going to help you if you're Dona donating it to the gay Foundation it's definitely not going to help you it's not going to help you what's going to help you says only thing that's going to help you is to so if your n is having a debate still we have a problem because the only way you'll be willing to make the ultimate sacrifice of taking yourself out of your comfort zone and going into the exile meaning Ram tells you you have to move where the desert why that's see it but it's hot there no if that was your answer you have a problem if you're not sure if you can study an hour or two a day you still don't realize really the Torah is the cure you have a spiritual disease like all of us and Torah is the only cure you're still thinking something else is going to cure it a lot of these speak speakers I hear people always ask me of my opinion of speakers to be honest with you it's very very hard to find a decent honest speaker and I'm not talking about the overall world I'm talking about the Jewish World talking about Torah world and the reason why is because many times the speak the speakers themselves many times are in bigger problems than the audience the speaker himself is involved with Chasing the Dream that he's not supposed to be chasing in the first place he's trying to become a celebrity he's trying to be popular he's not trying to save Souls trying to be liked trying to make money trying to build an Enterprise he's trying to show off his muscles trying to show off his quick speech most of these speakers with the keep without it doesn't make a difference a lot of them they just sound like coaches in the business World business coaches life coaches they call themselves they try to motivate you to do something what I have no idea it's definitely not Torah I heard one guy somebody sent it to me he was uh interviewed this guy is apparently very successful businessman and people like him and the guy asks him what's the secret to your success now he has a keeper he supposed to say everyone Hashem Torah something connected to those two words what he says I don't know I don't know I don't know what the secret to my success is oh you're such a motivating speaker people really like you they're motivated by you what's your secret I don't know I don't know you're you're a rabbi you're a spiritual leader that's going to bring the Messiah for us and going to save us you better come soon before you become more popular says get uncomfortable where did he learn it from he learn it from his Rabbi who's his Rabbi R AKA RAB AKA is the pillar of self sacrifice for Torah he went into the Exile left everything for 24 years we leave for 24 minutes we already get a text message are you home yet are you coming are you going to be there 24 minutes how long is it going to be this Shure two hours why can't you watch it tomorrow on YouTube you learn from his Rabbi why it's the only way you could acquire toora if you see some of these sikim they took this mishna and they applied it to their life in ways that is mamash against modern logic modern logic tells you if you're a teacher who should be your student your kids if you're a teacher first student should be your kids if you're a doctor you should treat your family aside from the public to make money and so on and so forth but in reality if you're a doctor and you're a heart surgeon and somebody in your family is going to do surgery you should be the one that give them the surgery says if you want to succeed in life or in Torah which in essence should mean the same thing you have to get ready to move away you're not going to succeed at home the said what does it mean he was very very successful both as a Torah scholar and he was also the treasurer in Spain right during the Inquisition we're talking about somebody that wasn't just a Torah life it's a multi-millionaire he was the treasurer of for the king and he's one of the major commentaries on the entire T and everything else and says and there's also several other places in the tah and the commentaries that are saying the same thing this apparently has a source in Yi it says there's no prophet in his own City you never see AEM sending a prophet to the city that he was that he grew up in never Always Somewhere Else why they're always going to remember him before he became a prophet they're always going to remember him before he became sadik they always going to remember him as the Troublemaker through rocks and windows they're never going to let him live that up they're never going to let him get out of that image you want to succeed in life you have to move away way why because your neighbors the store clerks your parents your brothers your sisters your world is never going to let you get out they're going to keep you as the little you they're going to keep you as the little you the little you that got in trouble for smoking pot at 13 years old you're 37 you haven't done anything wrong in 25 years they still remind you do you remember when I caught you caught you mean what what did I do oh when you're were 13 I forgot I don't have memory for 30 something years remember when I caught you caught me what when you broke the orange juice maker they don't even make orange juice makers anymore IMA I'll buy you a new one if they did they're never going to let you grow up they're never going to let you grow up why you're always going to be baby just like my little Sarah and my little aadya are little babies they're going to be babies in my eyes for the rest of their life she could be 20 she could be 60 she could be whatever she's going to be two years old in my eyes for the rest of her life I didn't understand what I'm telling you until I became a parent we'd always make fun of like you know my mom would always God bless her she's amazing she'd like we' always make fun of it it's like she wants or four boys it's me and three brothers and she has a hard time with the fact that like you know initially she wanted all of us to work together we work together for a little while and it was a nightmare and then we stopped we worked a different way she didn't like it she wants to work together again she worked together again it was a nightmare again and never changed it's hard but she like we always make fun of we say IMA wants us to all go back into our stomach all of us back there we always make fun of it but in reality as a parent now I 100% understand her you don't want the kids to grow up you don't want them to go home you don't want them to have friends you don't want do you want them to be there for you it's yours the reality of it is that mentality will suffocate them will suffocate them you got to let them go at some point you have to let them go at some point not when they're five not when they're 10 and you're sending them to a big school because they have a big budget at some point after you verify that where you're sending them is the right place and you're doing something responsible as an adult that knows the difference between right and wrong unlike a 15 or 18y old who for the most part do not know the difference between right and wrong they don't especially this generation they still aspire to be LeBron James they still aspire to be I don't know some movie star whatever their names are so if you want to succeed you're going to have to move out if you want your kids to succeed you're gonna have to send them out now what are some of the examples it doesn't get better than that came from the family of David raban Gamel was his was his father was the president was the head of the bed had an enormous Yeshiva but even he himself sent his son away to school he said he sent his son away to learn under he sent his son away to learn under RAV that was his name RAV even though he could have taught him himself he's not going to learn the same with me as he's going to learn with a different not going to learn the same with me I'm still ABA he still wants to get in trouble with me and I'm gonna have to let him go because he's my son if he doesn't do his homework I'm not GNA really punish him he's my son if he gets his Mish what am I'm i g to tell him if I do anything is my wife's gonna kill me one of theor in America Rabbi um schm ketki keski is uh I'm sorry kamki ketki kineski he his father was one of the pillars of American Judaism American jewry him and rabbi were like two of the main foundations and also RAB MOS Feinstein all were giants but uh Yakov ketki and uh Rabon Cotler were lifelong friends both were giant both were I mean it's just a uh the life these people lived was extraordinary now rabit is the current in America one of them where did he learn he didn't learn with his father he learned the ISA with r he learned with him he learned with his father's friend his father obviously knew where he sending him to even though he knew the same thing it's not like he knew more than him you can't compare the two you can't compare two you have to be like them to compare them but you see that they send him away they send him away because say he's still my son I can't do the same thing that he's going to do he has to grow up somewhere else then he can come home I know this from my own uh experience my brother my youngest brother God bless him I tried having him work for me when I was in the business World a few times a few times I really really wanted him to work for me and cuz he had he had uh he had What it Took as far as like skill said god-given Talent ability to speak he had a good mind but it just never seemed to work out it never seemed to work out it just a you wouldn't do it you would lose steam it just never seemed to work out as much as I wanted him to do it as much as he even himself at some point wanted to do it it just never seemed to work out and I tried we tried a few times and you know especially when you're successful at something you want to give it to somebody that's in your family you don't want to give it to some stranger you know one day you all think one day I'm G to die one day I'm gon to retire one day I'm gonna sell it I want some I want my number two guy I don't want it to be some stranger I want it to be somebody in my family so my one of my other brothers worked for me and he was extraordinary but I knew he didn't want to do it forever and we always wanted to bring my other brother in it as well but it just never seemed to work out but now he's in a completely different business he's in a uh jewelry diamond business with my other brother my oldest brother Oshi and they're doing really well and uh but the version of him today versus the version of what I had no 10 years ago two completely different people it's not because of the age difference of course obviously matured a little bit and so on but it's not necessarily the age difference really what changed in between he went to work for a stranger in between my place and my other brother's place he went to work for a stranger you go work for a stranger there's no more special privileges there's no more you can show up whenever you feel like it ah and if you're late ah I'll close my eyes I'll close my ears I'll close my mouth I'll close my nose too whatever you don't see you don't you don't want you don't want your you don't nobody gets in trouble in your eyes what okay you get in trouble but then you let it go the reality of it is that these special privileges kill them they never grow so when a person wants to succeed they have to move out for their own good number one it's very difficult for you to get out of your own comfort zone when you're at home you're comfortable at home you get up whenever you feel like getting up you eat whenever you feel like eating you could be in a pajama all day just you do whatever you want you have to get out you have to get out being too comfortable it's not good for you even though I work out of the house I have an office in the house but the office is an office there's no like games in the office it's office office we study we learn we do the uh run the organization it's an office it's not like uh you know let's let's have the uh kids Crib in there also and you know put some toys on the No it's it's an office we work it's hard it's hard the difference why because I work 24 hours a day so it's like you you're in constantly in the same place all day there's never a break so it's you have to get yourself out of the office to go oh by the way I have a family have to go say hi to them these two-year-old kids I just talked to you about have to go say hi to them they're actually in the same vicinity it's hard but you have to do it you have to do something but if you're young and you're still trying to do something with your life you have to don't do that don't do what I do I already have many years experience you have to go work somewhere else for someone else for a stranger get some scars from somewhere else because it's very very easy to become comfortable in your own house second thing is like we mentioned you're always going to be a child in your in in the eyes of your parents so studying while you're still at home it's not good for you if you can go away go away third thing we also mentioned the community is never going to let you grow so all of a sudden you went from being this little troublemaker Mo to now you're a the they're not going to let you be why you're the mo that caused trouble you're the ones that killed my cat you're the one that made slash my tires yeah but that was 30 years ago 10 years ago 15 years ago doesn't make a difference they'll never let you get out how do I know this I know this from my own experience also I remember I left the house when I was 17 years old I went to college for a year and then I came home I stayed at my parents house for a couple of months and already after a couple of months I knew that I had to leave and the reason why I already I was very very independent already as a little kid was already working as a teenager so after a couple of months of being in my parents house I got some money together and I got my own apartment and I was working and so on and so forth so already living on my own very young and uh as soon as I had the chance I left the city I left where we lived I grew up in Staten Island after we moved from Israel moved to St Island but after as soon as I got some money a couple years later I moved out of statal I moved to Manhattan now I moved to Manhattan mainly because it was closer to work and it less wasting time traveling but the biggest reason that I actually didn't even realize was going to Bay off is it'll actually helped me succeed and the reason why is because when you're home you're surrounded by your past and your past will always be your past your past doesn't become your future your past is your past and your past wants you to stay in the past so all of the losers that hang out in the corner in high school 20 years later they're still hanging out in the corner they still are hanging out in the corner they're still losers there were losers in high school they're still loses today and if you want to advance in your life get a job make a few dollars and you have to like work a little harder they look at you like why so I remember going to work I leave the house I 5 o'clock in the morning 5:30 in the morning some God awful hour and I would go to work take me an hour on the bus to get to Manhattan finally get to Manhattan work till 1:00 in the morning almost get on the bus again an hour get home 1:30 in the morning 2:00 in the morning some awful hour I got home it's the middle of the night and it's always the same guys hanging out in front of the house drinking a few beers smoking a million cigarettes smoking pot doing whatever they're doing in the neighborhood and I'm in my little briefcase in my suit trying to make you know trying to Dollar in a dream and I see him like where you coming from and I say work like now what do you do I told him same thing whatever it's like why why do you work so hard why don't you come home at five like the rest of the world or six or seven or eight or 10 and I would always say the same thing I'm trying to make something happen and they never seem to understand it and every single time it would be the same thing and it eventually I would just just walk I just wouldn't and talk let's walk yeah yeah guys I I can't talk I'm tired I got to go I've been working they've been hanging out for 10 hours already I've been chasing my dream for 10 hours but they didn't want me to why bothered them that I'm doing something productive they're staying exactly where they've been for the last 25 years I'm trying to get somewhere so what ended up happening is I moved away eventually started succeeding making a lot of money and I just literally disappeared from the scene years years no one saw me no one from the old neighborhood I never came back I never visited I never called I moved on they moved on I moved on and one day I uh see this girl that went to my high school in the street I had an office already at this point I was already making a ton of money and had an apartment in downtown Manhattan and you know literally walking to the office it was like a 10-minute walk to the office and uh had an office bunch of employees was very successful still very young but very successful so I see this girl that used to go to my high school I don't know years before she was on the way somewhere and hey how are you how you doing you know what are you doing how you doing what do you do and she H know she works as uh I some assistant or something for insurance company I know whatever she has a regular job for someone that's in their 20s and I she says what do you do I say I own a brokerage firm so she looks at me she goes you own a brokerage firm she sounded exactly like that you own a brokerage like it bothered like I just took it out of our account I took all the money from our account she fell and I said yes I own a brokerage firm she goes you mean it's like your your your father's said no my father's in a diamond business he has nothing to do with the business my business she goes what do you mean you own a brokerage firm like it B like what do you mean that's that's my point my point is it didn't make sense why she's the past she's the past it didn't make sense to her that I would succeed apparently apparently I don't know I guess I was supposed to be a loser in life I don't know the point is is that your past is your past you have to get out you have to get out and every single time I would see somebody from my past in the beginning for years until it was already known and everything else every time oh what do you do I own a firm I own a this I own a that what do you mean you own it like it would always be like a follow-up question what do you mean like it was like like I just said I discovered Mars Mars is really ruven like what do you mean it's it's own a firm what's the big deal it was UNC incomprehensible for people why because they were all the past didn't make sense that I'm 26 and I got millions in the bank and they're 26 and they just barely paid their rent didn't make sense to them didn't make sense why that's the past it's no different than the Torah world it's no different than any part of your life you have to move away you have to move away because your past will keep you down that's the other reason also you move to new places if you've made mistakes in the previous Place new place is not going to know it if you made some trouble in your previous Yeshiva go to a new Yeshiva why new Yeshiva doesn't know that you made trouble in the last Yeshiva start new old neighborhood you uh terrorize the neighbors excuse me terrorize the neighbors new neighborhood you didn't terrorize you're not you know no one know that you terrorize the neighbors so be a sadik now do CH if you terrorize The Neighbors in every neighborhood eventually everyone's going to know but a new place is going to also let you do chva without people getting in your way and getting out of your comfort zone getting out of your comfort zone is extremely important this is also part of the reason of why hasem told AB ainu to leave leave his father's home why get out of your comfort zone get out of your comfort zone yes you got to a certain amount of success where you are but you're not going to be able to become a a where you are why did hasem wait till he 75 that's when he was ready that's when he was ready so for example right now you're ready to accomplish let's say from 1 to 10 you're able to accomplish six but if a little more learning in Yeshiva you're going to get a little better you're get a little smarter a little more wisdom a little more experience two three four five years from now you're going to be able to achieve 10 out of 10 so if I have something to give you I rather give it to you when you're ready then versus giving it to you now why because giving it to you now you're bound to fail so Hashem is not going to give you a test that you can't pass Hashem always had a plan for abah ainu to become abrah ainu but there's a time and a place for everything but the key is that abah ainu was known to Hashem as someone that was looking to do his will now this is the next part many people assume that the Torah or aem's will is supposed to come to their con to their home to their comfort zone meaning if Hashem really wanted me to do it then he would just tell me like you're mosenu he's going to talk to you in a out of a burning bush if it's not comfortable if it's not convenient I'm not doing it so the reality of it is that if you're going to assume that there's no chance for you to succeed in life not in Torah not in not in business not in anything whyem created you as a person that's supposed to be ambitious supposed to want more it's within your nature to want more than what you have even your desire for money you have a 100 you want 200 wanting more money is not a good trait but it's part of the inclination that Hashem put within you to be ambitious and the reason why is because you're supposed to be ambitious with MIT you did one mitvah you not want to do another Mitzvah you read one book now you want to read another book you had one kid now you want to have another kid every time you did something for the will of hem now you want to do more it leads you to want to do more unfortunately many times we use this trait that hasem instilled in us for bad things one sin leads to another sin I I made one sin might as well make another one I I already wasted seed might as well do it again today I already going out with a Goya might as well be Shabbat ah I didn't read today might as well not read tomorrow this week or next year one SE one sin leads to another so the nature of wanting more is within you meaning that when you're lazy you working against your your own nature it's like a machine trying to ruin itself it's like a it's like a computer giving itself a virus that's what laziness is laziness is you're killing yourself because you're working against your own nature little by little you get to a point where you feel like you can't move you're perfectly fine but you feel like everything is too much because you've gotten to a point where where all the things that were easy you don't want to do anymore if it's not big enough you don't want to do it if it's not good enough you don't want to do it eventually you don't want to do anything So eventually the easy thing you don't want to do them either so he says do not assume that it will come to you don't assume that Torah is going to come to you Torah is something that you're supposed to chase now someone that understands the both the value of Torah and the value of chasing it his sped was was his a u yard site was just a few days ago and uh rilov said an amazing story about radya that gives you guys an idea of a radya that you probably don't know most people that know radya or the stories about radya know the famous Rya know theor r know the head Rabbi of uh you know all of Israel head Rabbi of the sapharic world all these things he had a helicopter take him from place to place giant of giants the babaali Shalom which was also an a by the way he wasn't just someone that made Miracles was was a giant the family in general were all huge and just so you know AB is not a real name it's not a real name the abat name was from the original the original of the family and the reason why it was called Abu abuat means the master of the rug was like a rug or a carpet why he was very poor and he wanted to go to a different city wanted to go to a different city so he went to the boat like everyone else he would go by boat there was no planes or anything like that she went to the boat and the guy said you have to get off the boat you don't have any money I need to go I need to go do need to do this need to do that no money no no service so he took out all he had to his possession was his rug he went outside the where the uh boat was went outside put the rug on the water on I'm sorry right next to the water sat on the carpet and started learning to start learning T and now you have hundreds and hundreds of witnesses watched him follow the boat the whole way on water on his carpet on his carpet from City to City so they from that point on the whole family was known as the ab family now every one of their babot every one of their babot was a Big Miracle Worker but also was a giant now one time um the Baba Sali which died less than 30 years ago I think 30 years ago something like that maybe less he uh had an outfit that he would wear only for Shabbat only for Shabbat white outfit only wear for Shabbat he was more modest than any woman in the world today would cover his hair would cover his face she pictures of the babaali he was more modest than any woman in the world cover every part of his body so he was a giant and uh one time he tells one of his uh his his helper to bring him his outfit says but for theit not Shabbat bring the outfit the person that's going about to visit me now the that's about to visit me now is in the same level as Shabbat who is visiting him Rya R before he became Rya before he became famous and after he left he came to visit him and he told him come on let's uh do a s together we'll bring the mashia we'll bring the mashia closer together says I'm sorry I have to go I have a I have to go give a goes yeah but we're going to bring the Mah closer now together goes you know as well as I know you cannot allow to cancel a even for sud can to bring the mashia say you're right he left after he left the Baba Sali tells his helper he goes you know him he was a I mean there's many many miracles that are famous Miracles that the babaali made that are reported it's not like a uh oh one guy saw it and he's saying it like the Christianity nonsense talking about thousands and thousands of people witness with their own eyes even in uh just uh 15 years ago his son made a huge Miracle some uh kid was kidnapped a girl was kidnapped the family went to him and uh he drew to them exactly where she was different country different continent he drew them exactly the map of where she was the map of the house he's never been there he's never been there he draws exactly what to them show it to the cops the cops go there they say who how do you have this go we go to this stuff existed unfortunately I don't think it exists anymore I think they were the last of it and if it does exist it's I don't know about and I don't know anybody else knows about it but anyway the uh Baba Sali said about rabya he says you know that soul that that just left just left the house he isn't belong in this generation he was born in the wrong generation and what do you mean for says he was only born in this generation to save us he doesn't belong in this generation he has nothing to do with this generation his his love for the what he does it's not from this generation it's only because where M need him why we need him what did he do so much well because he studied a lot it's a lot of people that study it's a lot of people that study why cuz you had a good memory it's a lot of people have a good memory plenty of of people have good memory plenty can't compare memories why because people like them very likable people there's even that people like what that means they're good what made so rail said a story that most people people don't know he says before R became R still he's young in his 30s and Jerusalem in those days not many people had cars so one of the people would have a car I actually believe it was rail kov was the one this is a story from over 60 years ago and he say to him okay let's go take me where are we going where we going because we're going to go out of Jerusalem where are we going going anywhere that there's Jews any biget outside of Jerusalem we're going to go there because they invite you no they told you to come no you know where to go no anywhere we see there a yesu there's a b there's people there's Jews there we're going to go there every day you go there after go there after he go to the podium nobody invited him nobody knows who he is he's not that you know nobody knows him he goes to the podium I'd like to say something you know israelies they're not polite like you guys like who are you what do you want from us who brought this guy is a practical joke know leave us alone I need to say a few words in between there's maybe 15 minutes okay a few people made fun of it a few people left a few people people taunted a few people stayed he start talking for 15 minutes about what how you have to sign your kids up to yeshivot did he have a Yeshiva no did he own Yesa no did he have an interest iniva no you all have to sign your kids up to yes you must sign your kids up to a few people said okay fine fine one two people said okay bunch of people said no he start saying after he finished you think he'd go home now right no no no okay let's say the one that said yes let's go come on we'll fill up the application together I brought the application for you I brought the application let's fill it up together right now fill out the application a few people said no goes no no give me your phone number no no I said no I'm not sending my kiss to Yesa give me your phone number anyway maybe in six months from now you Chang your mind he called called them he called them a few months later he tried to get them to do it the heads of this in the beginning there was no Safar the heads of the one of the heads of the asaz said built the Yesa system in in is I talk about just the safic side about the ashkanazi side said most of the kids came from him that's imagine going to a place you're not invited they don't want you there they're making fun of you and you're there what go do K that's a that's a person that knows the value of Torah thebat page 147b says that this entire mishna is about a famous story with rabar rabar Ben was one of the was the biggest student of of ran and um when they compare all the students if you remember in the previous Mish they said razar he's bigger than everyone combined so one day razar moved away to a very beautiful place very beautiful city and uh his wife said listen you're a big you're you're important and everything else your students are going to follow you they're all going to move they're all going to come too what they're all going to stay where they are ah they're going to come to you with all of his Torah made the mistake of listening to his wife and and took the advice of be comfortable be comfortable stop chasing tah what was the punishment he forgot all of his Torah hasem removed all of the Torah that he had in his head to such an extent that he didn't couldn't even do a uh Basics his students came to visit him one time and they saw that he's mamash knows nothing in comparison to what he knew and they all started praying for him they all started crying and praying to him for Hashem and Hashem made a miracle and G him back the Torah so that's why the mishna says Exile yourself to a place of Torah meaning don't go to some place that's really really nice if there's no Torah there already don't assume that it will come after you don't assume that your students are going to come after you and your colleagues for it's your colleagues who will cause it to remain with you the only reason why I still have TOA now razar says is because my friends my colleagues not my students my colleagues they prayed for me they prayed for me so to finish off there's three main points that we need to understand from this we talk about the value of a RV a lot and I still don't think anyone understands what the value of a RV is I still don't think that anyone really understands the value of a real K is I really don't think so because most people think that if they have some books they learned from some books they have the rambam they have gar they have they have that's it that replaces everything that becomes your Rabbi what do I need to go to for what I need to go to I have I have I'm reading what he's reading right wrong wrong having a RAV first and foremost gives you Direction when you go and you study from the books you are assuming that everything you're reading you're understanding who says you're understanding it right okay we both read the same material who says you're right we both read the same material we both had different different conclusions you says I say who says you're right this is the difference between life and death one of the uh to previous generations I believe the story is being told by r desler no no I'm sorry rovic Movic one time they uh asked the son right next to him a certain question right away right away the son answered on the spot they asked the question right away asked the question Pon slapped him in his face that's tah he was right though the answer was right he wasn't wrong he slapped him in his face why you SLA him in his face say that's Torah just what do you think you just take it out of your sleeve you didn't think about it maybe you're wrong but using your memory for tah maybe you're wrong work on it Amal Amal means work labor for your Torah someone asked you a question it's not just you remember the this by heart like it's high school it's not if you remember if it's an amoeba or it's a bacteria in this diagram that if you remember if it's the if it's a dinosaur that's called Tyrannosaurus rex or some other nonsense life for death means you have to work for your Torah someone asked you onic question you can't just thr it oh yeah it's this yes it's yes sure it's yes you sure sure it's yes how you know it's yes who says it's yes cuz you say it's yes cuz your memory says it's yes maybe it's wrong maybe it's no so when you have a r that R directs you the r directs you to see if what you're understanding is really what's supposed to be understood the second thing is is that two people three people 10 people a thousand people could all look at the same thing and see different things even more so in Tor you could read the same yourself a thousand times every single time you'll get something else every single time never fails even more so from someone else's Vision one of the things that amazed me about the Torah is that people that have been religious and learning Torah their whole life like to listen to my shim I I didn't understand it in the beginning I honestly didn't understand it I said what do you mean you've got to Yesa you're a rabbi you are you even wrote a couple of books in some cases why do you waste your time I thought it in my eyes I was why do you waste your time listening to my CD or listening to my lectures why go learn go whatever I mean what do I know that you don't know he goes everything you're saying in Yeshua I never learned what do you mean you don't know everything you're saying in is shoe I don't know what do you mean mean you don't know this is a Basics it's not Basics it's your vision yes you're reading what kazal says but then you're putting your own taste into it your own perspective of it it's D 100% but it's the way that you're delivering it's your perspective of it I see it differently not that it's a different conclusion it's a different way to see it both of us see the sky you call it blue I call it turquoise in essence it's still the sky everyone is entitled to their own Everyone's entitled to their own perspective you have a ra you have a you're going to see their perspective of things that you're just not going to get to in many cases so when you are arrogant to the point where you're not no one is good enough to learn with you no one is good enough to guide you you're also short changing yourself with Tor you're also misunderstanding the value of Tor you're thinking that you are the holder of all Tor says Someone Like You AEM hates why you could live with the wrong conclusion your whole life and not know it you could become a Despicable but thinking that you have the permission of the Torah to be so so to say just give me books that's enough Lov Proverbs 3:5 says don't rely on your own understanding don't think that you can succeed on your own without the help of a mentor of a r you can't use your intellect alone you have to have you have to have some type of guidance and the way to truly get to success is by questioning your teacher said something extraordinary we'll finish from here he says you know in his days it wasn't like today everyone wants to be Aid people think that is Judaism it's not it's a part something you could add to it if you'd like but being a seed doesn't make you righteous if you think that is only because of your clothing unfortunately in today's world Judaism to people that are not really deep within Torah is viewed as something that's solely dependent on your exterior meaning the way you look so if you are religious that means you wear black and white even though this is in essence really more of a modern tradition our s ages none of them wore black and white as a matter of fact you weren't allowed to wear black it was it symbolize death didn't symbolize good as a matter of fact in the and also in a few other places there at least one or two other places in the if I remember correctly it says if you're going to sin you have a big you have a big you want to I don't know go be with some prostitute or something Shalom you want to do big put on black clothes and leave the city put on black clothes and leave the city so tsot says why put on black clothes why put on black clothes why you put purple clothes green clothes yellow clothes why answer very difficult to find black clothes in those days so by the time you had found the black clothes you probably kill your you don't want to do it anymore it's not worth it anymore it's not worth it anymore it's not worth to go do this let me go and get married let me go and go learn Tor go learn Tor it's not it's no no black clothes there's no black clothes so first of all people thinking that you need to be black and white in order to be a religious Jew it's completely wrong on the women's side women think that in order for them to be modest they have to look like they're going to a funeral all the time this is also not the case now even though darker colors make it easier to be modest obviously you don't want anyone to turn into a traffic sign you should not wear certain colors or certain clothing that make you a traffic sign where every single soul or what's living or not living is stopping because of you you don't have to wear black all the time where do we learn it from the song that King Solomon wrote about his own mother you read it every Friday and it says the uh the uh uh woman of Valor what does she wear per clothing a woman of Valor is wearing purple clothing so even if you're righteous like B you're allowed to wear purple if you want no problem as long as it's modest as long as it's modest there are certain things that can be modest in different colors you don't have to look like you're going to a funeral all the time if you like to wear black wear black fine but don't think that the only way for you to be modest is black so therefore you don't want to be modest anymore and that's what happens many people I tell them listen you should you know you have to be Mish you have to cover yourself no I don't want to look like I'm going to a funeral who said you have to look like you're going to a funeral all modesty is is you have to cover your body and leave everything to the imagination everything as much as you could possibly leave to the imagination leave it to the imagination the exception of your face in so many words you have to cover your whole body with the exception of your face your hands and your feet that's it everything else needs to be covered that's it it's very simple it's not rocket science you have to wear a dress that's loose fitting and the reason why is because again leaving everything to the imagination you don't want a strange man that's a sick mind to imagine what you look like when you're in front of your husband in a private place there's no reason for him to know what you look like so if you wear something very tight you're not even letting him imagine you're doing a job for him what kind of diamond are you you're a Precious Diamond for AEM but you're not treating yourself as such so loose clothing that's the reason covering your neckline when women don't cover their neckline unlike a man unlike a man where he in general men are unattractive creatures men are gross really they are they're close it's not it's not it's not insult I'm one of them but men are are not attractive there's no woman in the world that has sense that looks to the guy says wow I wonder what he looks like naked women don't think like that they just don't it's not number one guys don't look like that like that to drive a woman to think that way and two women don't think like animals like men do they just don't they think oh he looks like he's a nice guy oh he sounds funny oh he looks like he's very smart they think about personalities men on the other hand are more animalistic they're like you know Raptors or something in from from the Jurassic Park so women need to understand what you're dealing with this means that everything that you show men we use the yet that's in us to imagine something so the neckline that you Precious Diamond woman think is not such a big deal it's a big deal it's a big deal it's a big deal why because the bone that you have here makes us think of something else the where depends how much you're showing eventually say certain women that want to show you pretty much everything people think it's like a mitvah to show like parts of their body so you have to cover it why it belongs to your husband when you sign a you said it belongs to my my husband not to Steve and Carlos from the supermarket not to them not to your brother-in-law not to your cousin not to your son's friends that are coming over to play basketball belongs to your husband so you cover like a you don't have to cover like a turtleneck all the time just cover your it's very simple no v-neck in so many words arms cover your elbows cover your arms at all times you're not this uh Obama woman what's her name Melle Obama that made uh pretty much sleeveless a new uh somehow it became a style not to wear sleeves anymore despite the fact that most women should never ever do such a thing and I'm not even talking about for modesty reasons it just doesn't look good but for some reason it became uh stylistic to not wear sleep you see pretty much every every single person that's a reporter or or that's reporting the news that I saw for six minutes today there's no sleeves it's like summer everywhere everyone's on a beach practically it's crazy but anyway you have to cover your elbows you have to cover your elbows you're allowed to show your wrists you have to cover your elbows last but not least aside from obviously covering your hair with a hat or a um scarf you have to wear wear a skirt that covers your knees at least 6 in past your knees after you sit down after you sit down after you sit down repeat after me after you sit down six inches past your knee after you sit down why because if it's covering your knee before you sit down but not enough as soon as you sit down you might as well not wear anything you might as well wear pants this is one of the things that women fail to realize it's a big deal those six inches are the difference between ganed and G it's that it's to that extent if you wear a skirt that covers your knee six inch past your knee after you sit down since you're covering most of your leg at all times in reality ideally you should be wearing a skirt or a dress that covers all the way to the ankles if you don't want to you don't have to allows you to wear something a little shorter you could show a third of your leg but that means that twoth thirds have to be covered that six inches past your leg after you sit down because many women unfortunately are victims to the wicked F Fashion World where apparently it's almost impossible to find a long enough skirt so this is not only their fault they don't make skirts that qualify what I just told you so many women wear skirts thinking they're they're doing a Mitzvah they're doing chuva they're wearing a skirt it's obviously not pants which is not allowed for women aside from the fact that it's not modest it's also men's attire until the last hundred years no one no woman in the world wear pants this is only something that happened in recent Generations so the Torah forbids men from wearing women's clothes and women from wearing men's clothes but aside from that women are wearing dresses thinking that they're doing something good unfortunately it's not and the reason why is because as soon as they sit down pretty much you could see their legs they have to close their legs the whole time but in reality you can't even look in that direction this is a very very big problem for them it's not only a big problem for the person that's looking it's a big problem for them because they become part of it so you it's harder to find it's more difficult it's annoying but remember it's for God it's for God it's not for me it's for God you care less about me you can hate me for all I care it doesn't make a difference to me just listen to what I'm saying so when you use your common sense none of this stuff is going to make sense your common sense is gonna go against this Common Sense what difference does it make what skirt I'm wearing does God really care about my skirt your common sense is going to tell you God doesn't care about your skirt the next thing is God is going to tell you in your common sense God doesn't care if you eat kosher or not what does he care he made all animals why does he care if I eat kosher or not Kosher does he really care who the butcher is my butcher is really nice anyway so what my butcher was a gun what ises he care it's cheaper doesn't if God wanted me to eat kosher food he' give me more money he didn't give me more money so I'll eat cheaper food that's not Kosher your common sense that schl is telling you don't use your understanding will always go against so when you don't have a rabbi to direct you you don't have a someone you're studying with on a regular basis to keep you in check you're only bound to become a k and that's why some of the big have said that if you're not gonna have a that's like your R better off you don't do CH why you're bound to become a problem so said something extraordinary about he said the have a problem but also their opponents also have a problem the think that all they need is their rebbi whoever their rebbi is in general having a reab has always been important that's like one of the main things of is to have a re have the Ado but he says theim think that all they need is just their rebi but not their books not not the ram not uh the uh tanak just their re as long as they have their RBI everything's gonna be okay yeah everything's gonna be okay my Reb said everybody has he says but their opponents also have a problem they think that all they need is the books and no rebi what we're learning here from rabai is that in order for us to receive this extraordinary Torah that's going to save us from the Sodom and gamorra world we live in right now that's being destroyed as we speak that's being exposed as we speak we have to get ready to become uncomfortable start chasing MIT start chasing Tor start chasing ing start chasing the truth it's the only thing that's going to save you it's the only thing if you're still 5050 you're putting yourself in danger what's the danger becoming one of them becoming one of them they don't know that they are them they think they're okay this guy that's did a video saying that he's gonna do an act for God and raise 10 million to make a movie with it he actually think this is a good deed he doesn't know he's him he doesn't know he's Sodom and Gomorrah he doesn't know he's part of the system he doesn't know he doesn't understand it he doesn't think there's anything wrong with what he's doing so when you're still 5050 it's very very easy to become one of them so it's time to make a choice hashem's closing the store it's time for for us to seriously take the Torah start chasing it start getting uncomfortable start going to shim start really doing things like you're supposed to and a way to do it is pick way pick a rabbi pick a k and stick to it if you don't have a rabbi locally find one if there's no one locally move move if there's no Rabbi that you can learn with regularly on a weekly basis you need to move if you have no you need to move hey cost money so what what else are you going to do with it build a retirement account what do you think that God gave you money for to do mitv it's time to do mitv now before mashia shows up [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh a [Music]