The Jewish Secret to Answered Prayers on Tisha B'Av

Perhaps there's a reason why the sages go into it multiple times in the shin saying that when you cry over the problems of your friend, your own prayers will be answered first. Well, why won't my prayers be answered first if I'm crying about my problems first? Says to us, maybe you have problems, but surely I'm the ones that gave it to you. Maybe you're crying about those problems, but surely you may not have the merit for me to solve those same problems that I gave to you. But if you cry over somebody else's problems and that somebody else is one of my other children, that means that you have already begun to do chuva. Why? You're removing yourself from yourself and saying HIS PROBLEM is priority. Yeah. What about your problem? MY PROBLEM IS MY PROBLEM. WHEN a wants to fix it, don't fix it. HE MAY NOT KNOW THIS. SO, I GOT TO HELP HIM RIGHT NOW CUZ he has a problem.