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STOP HATING EACH OTHER

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um we'll continue the as uh now we're past half the day so uh you're allowed to sit on chairs and no longer need to sit on the floor we'll have another sh and um try to uh get a little bit a uh of a better understanding of things that are going uh to affect this really for the rest of the year last night had a lot of good feedback lots of people watched it got out of it will do the same today uh today sh will be for for and Rima s Le but um Sarah dor but Mercedes Esther butora and also the um tar and benana and to an and the Montenegro family uh and all of the uh donors supporters of May bless each and every single one of them with especially when it comes to and may this be another thing that another sh another little bit of that gets us closer to now um for anyone that uh studied some of the uh mid uh that discuss what happened uh nearly 2,000 years ago uh the uh the details are as horrific as can be uh and uh the question is was the uh you know the punishment the punishment uh right for the crime you know because we say really today that uh the common thing is that the whole thing was based on you know hating each other baselessly senselessly too much question is what does that really mean you know and ises that really deserve such a horrific uh punishment uh to the extent where uh we are uh reading midashim that discuss how is was massacred by the millions massacred in unusual ways tortured in unusual ways how could it be how could it be now in the end of uh the seph the book of Lamentations in chapter 5 the Prophet Jeremiah says to Prophet Jeremiah is the one that wrote the book of and he says to in the last verse he says in verse 21 and 22 bring us back to you Hashem and we will return renew our days as of old for even if you have utterly rejected us you've already raged sufficiently against us meaning saying to bring us back we want to be back we love you we're sorry we we want to back go back home you kicked us out of the house you punished us already meaning that even if uh we did something wrong you punished us already enough enough with the cancer enough with the hostility enough with the tragedies enough bring us back you already punished us anyway so the prophet yesah prophet Isaiah in uh chapter 40 verse number one says where he talks in prophecy about theban that's going to be the destruction that's going to be and uh he says for she received doubled for all of our sins ask you know Jeremiah says that hem you already punished us how much should you punish us and Isaiah says double for all of our sins whatever he sinned pay double he sinned one hasem punished you two that's what Isaiah says so Rashi comes we cannot read the Torah without Rashi we're not going to understand a single verse without rashi rashi comes and ask himself is it A's ways to punish double for a crime but of course we all know know that AOS has a rule in the world that he has instilled for himself where it has to be measure for measure meaning one for one two for two four for four 10 for 10 if I did a crime level five I should get punished level five not level 10 so how could it be that we have verification here from the verses from the prophets that tell us that we got punished double the answer is and the prophet that's in between them the Prophet Jeremiah where says to the prophet in chapter 16 verse 18 it's the same Jeremiah that wrote he says says I shall repay them I shall repay them first for the repetition of their forefather's sins and transgressions so says you see here we learn that sometimes he does pay double sometimes the punishment is double why when when is it double it's double when you saw your for Father's sins and you continued you saw that your father was AABB and his whole life in the end ended up becoming completely meaningless Maybe looked good when he was in his 20s and 30s driving a brand new car every year had a big office had a big building everybody was his friend in the beginning it looked good but as you saw your father age you saw that it wasn't as good anymore all of a sudden he lost all of a sudden he got sick all of a sudden people didn't like him all of a sudden he didn't know what he was doing in the world anymore you saw that your father's ways in the end didn't pay out even if he had millions and millions of dollars the rest of his life was meaningless where he was so poor that the only thing he had was money there are many people like that in the world where they're so poor that the only thing they have is possessions nothing else though no meaning to life no purpose whatsoever no good marriage no no good relationships nothing else no happiness no joy whatever Joy or happiness they have in their life is just momentary they live in the moment constantly needing to take either new Vacations or buy new things in order to give themselves just a little bit of elation a little bit of you know happiness that's superficial but when a push comes to shove if someone told them give me all your money and I'll give you happiness in return they'll give it to if they actually know what happiness feels like many times people ask me what does happiness feel like what does it feel like how does it look like how do you know truth is happiness is not a feeling happiness is a state of mind happiness is a state of being and if you're happy you know it you know that you're happy there's no question of you're happy it doesn't mean you don't have any problems you could very well have a lot of problems but that status does not change but that can only be if you're connected to the source of Happiness to himself which means that you have to be connected to him through the vessel that he gave us which is this Torah but if you only connected to different parts of the that you like and you pick you like to put on so you connected to that you like praying so you connected to that you like giving stas you connected to that but what about SCH no not so much what about you know actually having n a little bit what about being honest in business nah it's a little hard I'm I like the other the other stuff is easy I put I'll put it twice on you know I'll do a few things but that other stuff it's too hard that's not a real connection and that's also not going to be real happiness so we see that many times we see as we age we see the people that came before us age also and we see how their life turns out and you talk to them and ask them about themselves and more than nine out of 10 more than nine out of 10 only like to talk about their past when they were young oh yeah when I was your age I did this and we did that and and we went here and we did that okay that's great what about now no no but listen but 20 years ago I did this and I was here and I was there all right fine that was 20 years ago fine but what about now ah no no nothing's going on oh so that means that pretty much anything that of any value to you is just a memory it's just the past in so many words you just can't wait to die because there's nothing else for you to live for your white your life didn't work out that means that means your life didn't work out because obviously if you're living in the world for 70 80 90 100 years it's not just supposed to be good for the first 20 30 or 40 it's supposed to be a fulfilling life if you're telling me that all of your good memories are of the Yer year of the previous generation of all the things that happened when you were 20 and strong and goodlook and everything and now that you're 50 you just simply have no reason to live but you're living because you don't want to kill yourself that means your plan didn't work out your way didn't work out and as a smart son or daughter that sees this as a smart nephew or niece sees this sees the older people get older and more miserable is telling us you should have learned from them not learned what you chose to learn which is to repeat the same crimes against me when they were 20 not learned from their stupid stories of what they did when they were 20 years old and 30 years old no that's not what you're supposed to learn from them you're supposed to learn from what was the result what was the result of what they did when they were 20 and3 where they tried all types of drugs what happened after that oh from now from that point on he wasn't able to see in one eye you should have learned from that not from the story that he took drugs you should have learned that he doesn't have an eye now oh from the fact that that he was a womanizer and every week he had a new girlfriend oh you should see now what's the result he's single he's 60 he's 60 years old divorced three times and single you should have learned from that not from to be a womanizer you should have learned to not be a womanizer why it doesn't work out in the end it doesn't work out in the end oh she told you that she used to like going partying with all of our friends now she's 45 50 years old but she can't find a husband and she can't wait to have a kid but unfortunately you need a husband for that and she's miserable about it you should have learned from that not you shouldn't have learned that she went partying and she became a lawyer at 22 and that she did all these uh fun things and she went across the ocean to Japan and to China and to Bangladesh and to tah no that's not what you should have learned from a story you should have learned the outcome now she's 45 55 65 and miserable cuz she doesn't have any kids she doesn't have a husband and she doesn't have a purpose that's what you should have learned not the stories the outcome because I created you in my image says I created you in an image that is able to decipher right or wrong I created you with a wisdom that's able to take things and evaluate them in order to come out with with an outcome I created you with the ability to acquire do and that is the most important things for a person to acquire in the T why because that is the wisdom the wisdom of how to determine right and wrong correctly according to and it's so critical that thear says someone who does not have thatt you're not allowed to be merciful on him meaning he makes mistakes because he doesn't want to learn tah not that he never learned T and he never even knew it's important you told him it's important he heard it's important he agrees it's important but he doesn't want to do it why I'm busy working I'm busy laying down because I don't like fasting I'm busy uh you know making money I'm busy doing stuff oh so you're too busy to acquire that so that means that when you fall and when brings you to that stage we can't even be merciful on you why you did it to yourself you did it to yourself it's not that you lived in some jungle your whole life and you never knew who A was it's not that you lived in some foreign country where there's no Jews and you never knew that you're the only Jew there it's not like you never saw of 10 Jewish people that actually keep Shabbat and you got invited to pray along with them it's not like you never knew what y was and that's a day that you're supposed to fast and atone to to give you another year it's not like you never heard that your entire no matter what job you have is already decreed in sh you heard all these things and you chose otherwise you chose that you're going to figure it out on your own we're not even allowed to have mercy on you why you made your bed you made your bed and now back to the Prophet Jeremiah who tells us you see when we see when we see our parents and our grandparents and our uncles and all of the people from the previous generation the ones that have not succeeded in doing ab like they're supposed to we see the outcome and the outcome is always with no exception whatsoever a failure the outcome of their life is a complete and utter failure no exceptions there's not a single human being that lived a life that's against hem that ended up being a success and I mean a success in life not a success in material because as far as success in material that is actually an indication of failure many times not always but many times as says in this week's Pays His haters the people that live a life that forsakes him the people that live a life without keeping Shabbat without keeping Kut without having kosher business without being a morally righteous person he actually pays them a reward in this world in order to eliminate them and the mid says he also does the same for their children where many times the children see oh yeah my dad's a success why is a success he's got six buildings yeah but he committed suicide though yeah no but he succeeded while he was alive though yeah but he died on purpose how's that a success yeah that's just because he got really depressed and you know it's a chemical thing yeah but before that he got divorced because he cheated on your mother yeah you know you never know really what's going on between a husband and a wife yeah well he cheated on her with for 20 years with 20 different women yeah you know sometimes that happens so see knowing all of this you're still going to follow his way and you're still going to go chase money for the rest of your life and run away from hasem at the same time guess what you're going to succeed you're going to succeed in getting a lot of money cuz that's the curse that's what the M says you follow your father who went and chased money and acquired it but lost everything else in the process and you know it you're going to succeed in acquiring money but you will lose even more why because the punishment on you on this generation on right now is double because you should have known different you should have seen the outcome of their actions and the utter failure of every single one of them people love to highlight in the news and the all types of media oh look at this guy he just bought another building he just bought another sports team he just built another casino he just built another gome he just built another cailla for himself he did all these things look how much stuff he has and they like to take pictures of these ugly people and put it on the media as if all of a sudden because he's got a billion dollars he's good-look I need to look at him now look at how much stuff he's he got and people wow what a success story I'm going to read his book to see how he succeeded but the reality is if you ever get to know these people or you ever read to read the real bios of some of these people that talk about their real life you see how much of an utter failure they were with no exception every single one of them whether it's the top of the top in the investment world like Warren Buffett a complete and utter failure in life like no other where to the extent where his own wife does not want to be with him left them alone go live by yourself I can't take you these kids are almost like strangers they talk about their father as if it's a third person like as if it's like a distant Uncle the media talks about him as he's the Oracle of Omaha yeah he knows how to make money yeah but nothing else nothing else yeah but he's going to leave money to some Charities okay so the Charities are going to forget about him two days after he dies because they have a little bit of money that he have or a lot of money that he gave them but but who cares what does that why does that give him any purpose what about the stuff he did or people like Steve Jobs or people like the uh the the celebrities that die or still alive for the time being that made up fortune in athletics and in in in in movies and all types of things every single one of them that people admire is an utter failure to the highest power when you look at their real life you'll see there success in money and acquiring stuff in many cases but as far as life complete and utter failure and instead of learning from the failure not to repeat what he did not to do what he did not to do what she did you chose to learn to actually do the wrong that we're doing for that is a double punishment why you should have known better and that's why K says to the Prophet Jeremiah yes yes you want to come back I understand and I want you back and I'm never going to leave you and I'm never going to destroy you no matter how much I'm going to hurt you but you should know that although you want to be back I still had to punish you double for making the mistake again now of course we know that a is not he's not Vicious he's an awesome God he's a jealous God he's completely full of kindness so how do we explain a double punishment as being kind how do we give a the benefit of the doubt even though we just learned the reason behind it still how is that kindness how is that good malim brings a parable a real Parable not like some people say things are Parable from theah well he says imagine a person that was caught doing a crime and punished to a 10-year prison sentence where every day he will get whipped one time 10 times 10 whips a day 10 whips a day he is not having a good time goes to the prison he sees a bunch of criminals some of them are much worse than he ever was and he knows he has to park his life over here for the next decade and if that's not bad enough they're going to whip him 10 times a day there's nothing for him to do he got caught doing the crime and he just waits for the prison Ward to come with the whip and hit him because they said that's the sentence prepares himself mentally prepares himself physically but the damage has to come at some point the prison W comes with a whip much scarier than it was in his imagination and he starts hitting him 1 2 3 4 5 and every single one he's screaming in agony and pain 9 10 and he thinks ohem I just finished 11 12 what's going on the sentence is 10 it's 10 it's 10 15 20 25 30 40 60 100 times completely collapses passes out wakes up the next day just to have the same exact thing happen again 100 whips he's thinking this place is the worst place on Earth I don't know how I'm going to survive here for 10 years what's going to happen a month into it he's getting a hundred whips a day he doesn't know what to do with himself this is a nightmare this is gome this is kafak this is the worst thing in the world how am going to do this nine months into it he's still surviving but just just a little bit what is happening here how come they won't listen to me when I tell them and I show them the document it's only 10 10 not a 100 10 and they keep going and after a year of hitting him this way after a year of hitting him this way he's about to lose his mind the prison W shows up again but this time there's no whip this time he opens the gate he tells him you're free you're free to go but you're free to go you paid you paid for the crime might be tells us will sometimes punish us double notom because he wants to punish us double because he wants to hurt us but rather because he knows that there is a bill to pay there was a damage done and a bill to pay you broke something you have to fix it but since he does not want to punish us for 10 years he does not want to punish us forever he does not want to punish us for an extended period of of time he'll punish us a lot but for a short period of time so instead of giving us a little bit of punishment every day for 10 years just like the parable says he punishes a lot for one year now of course this does not look like when it's happening when you're in agony and pain nothing in the world looks like I promise you have been in pain for 16 years straight the fact that I'm able to speak to you guys a few times a week you have no idea how much of a miracle it is if anybody actually sees me out of here they say wait a minute you sure it's the same person that's on the screen my wife tells me do me a favor do do lectures every day why is the only time you're normal all the other time you're in pain people have no idea what it means to be in pain when you're in pain it's hard to understand that this is that this is kindness how is this kindness I'm in agonizing pain I can't stand up I can't do stuff what how is this you only understand it when it's finished you only understand it when you evaluate it according to the Torah and you realize in reality your crime was much much worse and what you're getting what you're getting is Expediting the salvation Expediting the Salvation because your way according to what you're supposed to get in so many word it's supposed to be forever instead it's a few years instead it's a few days instead it's a few hours when a person understands that instead of saying why he says thank you you stop asking questions why you know who asks why Heretics ask why go ask why go that do not know that they're obligated to fulfill the seven noahide laws but instead worship idols Jews that act like go and don't know that there's a difference between the two how many times I have young kids that come from modern Orthodox families tell me listen I don't really know why I have to keep Shabbat I don't really know why I have to keep it doesn't even make any sense to any of my friends I every time every week I tell my friends listen I can't see you until uh tomorrow night why not we're having a nice game at his house we're going to play some poker then a little basketball then uh eat some pepperoni pizza why can't you come you've been hanging out with us the whole week yeah because I got Shabbat who who's that now it's this thing that us Jews do where from Sundown to sundown we simply have to uh we can't use electricity we can't turn on the TV we can't turn on fire what are you a vampire what's this Sundown to sundown no it's just this 25h hour period of time where I have to go pray and stuff you just pray now I'll bless you I bless you you don't what do you want you're good you know why it doesn't make sense to his friends because many times he's friends with go many times he's friends with Christians many times he's friends with Muslims many times he's friends with all types of Hindus and all types of other religions of course Shabbat is not going to make sense to them it's not their gift it's ours of course they're not going to understand what it is the question is why are you friends with them no I play basketball with them why ran out of Jews in the world of course you're going to have doubts in your belief if your surroundings are contrary to your beliefs all my friends don't know what this means of course your friends don't know and don't understand they're go or Jews that are acting like them so of course they're not going to understand why you doing this to yourself don't you know that this is the reason why your father suffered so much your grandfather suffered so much he made the same decisions as you don't you know yeah but I'm different I'm smarter than them by repeating the same mistake you're not smarter you're actually stupider and the problem is is that many times will bring different forms of punishment on us because we do not learn the right lessons from the previous generation now when you bring such information to many times people identify that this is true and they get the spiritual strength to do something about it but unfortunately since this last generation before mashiach is infested with many times they're going to go to the sh and start becoming more religious in front of everyone and they see people are talking in SHO and say listen listen we're praying what are you religious who are you I'm talking you talk go to different beet no but why don't you go to different besset why don't you go outside to go talk what are you religious more religious than thou who are you what are you becoming some R here no RAB is here and who's that talking the rabbi who's that the gab who's that some of the president of the sh tell no don't be too religious on me we want to talk to in sh we want to do whatever we want we want to have a little bit of vodka right before prayer maybe even sometimes during it's no person that drinks is not allowed to pray even if he's religious even if he's even if he's a prophet even if he's what do we learn it fromin's children two of his kids were measured as equivalent to M both got killed by for having a sip having a drink before serving hasem but yet you that you want to be zealous now you want to be a b cha now even though you grew up religious even you grew upes and you're coming to the Sho you're coming to the you're coming to theat you're coming to the breast of sh you're coming to the lit sh you're coming to all types of different uh you know backgrounds of of of synagogues but this time you want to go to sh and it be a sh so you don't want anyone talking while you're praying you you don't want anyone you know screwing around while you're trying to serve AEM you want to actually pray so when other people are doing it sh a little sh and all of a sudden they all attack you like werewolves with 3in teeth who are you to tell us what to do you go to the rabbi the rabbi agrees with them and not with you ah there's nothing you can do about it listen if you don't like it you have to probably go somewhere else nothing I can do don't be so Rel I though it's going to don't be so religious so this is a constant problem when you have someone that gets inspired to serve hem because he realizes that continuing his or her life will only yield them worse damage than the parents that they have the grandparents that they have the other oldest siblings that they have that made those mistakes they want to start becoming more zealous they want to become better servant of hasm but then they're surrounded by people that are telling them otherwise so the minute they try to rebuke or say anything about it the automatic thing that people will tell heyy no M don't do no no no no that's the reason we're not allowed to have M it's not allowed no no no come on don't don't be a you know that's the reason why the BET mikdash was destroyed you know that's the reason we're still in the Exile you know that's the reason for this and that's the reason for that no because we're not supposed to hate each other we're supposed to accept each other no matter what that's the mentality of the's teachings that's against the Torah in fact is very much a key part of is where can be utilized for good and for evil does a there a m for yourself if your M is for yourself for your honor somebody insulted you somebody made fun of you in some way or another somebody beat you in business somebody hurt you in some way leave it alone let AEM deal with it don't even curse the person don't wish them bad in fact pray for them yeah but he insulted me pray for him even more yeah but he called me names yeah yeah pray for him he said say thank you for having somebody say about what do you mean you should say thank you for saying about you what this a new teaching it's a why should I say thank you about me you spread rumors about me yeah yeah say even more thank you go you should shake kiss his hand thank you why why because the teaches the second he did that the second he did all of that to you he did you a big favor why at the same process the came out of his mouth at the same process the came out of his mouth at the same process that he was doing all of these wonderful favors for you you know what was happening all of his MIT were coming out of him and going into your account and you didn't even realize that your a your sins were going to him tell him thank you next time you see him it's good for your said all those things about you hurt you a little bit good tell thank you why is going to take care of it don't worry he's already going to suffer enough for it you don't need to punish him so there's no reason for you to have a based on your personal issues but when there is a for the when there is people that are sinning and going against theem they're desecrating the T they're distorting the T they're distorting the and and treating it like it's a pub when they're treating the bitet like it's some place that you just hang out in when they're treating like to like it's some philosophical teaching like it's just another subject of wisdom that you want to learn they make it equivalent to all of the other wisdoms that you learn in a secular world as if they're equivalent that that's and that's an obligation our entire our entire oral Tora Foundation is built on when you have you're building the Torah not destroying it but people today have such a warped sense of what the Torah is a warped sense of what good and bad is that as soon as they see you speak against the wicked people say no no you should say I'm sorry it's not good you should accept everyone we should all get along no we shouldn't no we shouldn't we shouldn't all get along we should get along with the people that want to serve AEM or at the very least are open to it not the people that are actively against it someone that's actively against AEM even if they call themselves religious andish and whatever else you want to call yourself but you're actively against theem you're making friends with the Enemy like this lordy guy that we keep talking about just me best friends with leid one of the biggest haters of Judaism in in the modern world part of the Israeli KET has done everything possible to follow his Father's Footsteps which is to destroy Judaism inside is the former head Rabbi of of of England Lord saxs because you can't call him a rabbi he has an article that came out right before T what he's now friends with leid and he said we don't have he doesn't have to agree with me he just needs to care about me no there's no such thing there's no Shalom with there's no Shalom with there's no Shalom with people that anti T but you know why you're having Shalom with him because you're also anti Torah because you believe the Tor is just another wisdom that you compare to your sciences and your histories and and and your arts and your everything else that's why you just do it in a custume of a rabbi he does it in a custume of a congressman that's it politician different Customs there is no mitvah whatsoever of making Shalom with those people in fact it's a to have why for for for the honor of but again it's a very thin line between are you really fighting for are you fighting to show your right and that happens also where sometimes you have somebody becoming insulting to people that are ignorant you tell them you see a post people decide to make all types of I don't know open-ended post I never understood the purpose of these things and they say intermarriage is not allowed wow thank you that's really invigorating I'm going to leave my Goya because of this post you just changed my life tell me why it's not allowed what's going to happen if I do it don't show me some verse from Tora and don't tell me who what when and how give me some basis I'm an ignorant person I don't know nothing I'm married to a go yeah tell me tell me why I'm I'm not supposed to tell me why don't give me some post but better yet what happens there's one guy that is inter married makes a comment on it oh that you're really judging people and either the guy that makes the P or some other superhero starts insulting them no you're just an idiot because you're doing this and you're rejecting AEM that's not rebuke that's not in fact he's aad and you're a r there is a way to rebuke people there's a way to talk to people there's a way to do certain things you can't just go out there gun blazing without even giving people a reason he doesn't know why it's wrong he just knows that you're saying something that he's doing is wrong but you never told him why you never explained to him why this is the case and for any of the people that are still wondering why we took out the video with the 14 on there and yet continue to talk about them is because obviously we didn't change our mind there's still every single one of them but we took out the video because it didn't explain why enough each one of them is it it just explained a general topic that but unfortunately many people didn't know why they are so we took out the video and we talk about it in detail one after another you can't just shoot the gun and not tell people that you're upset and why you're upset so when you just insult people oh you're making a mistake why am I making a mistake cuz you're making a mistake cuz you're not listening to AEM what did hasm say oh no he said you're making a mistake but who and what and when that is not yeah you're seeing you're seeing that it's for sh you're saying that it's because you're defending the honor of hem you're not defending the honor of hmbi you are arrogant arrogant person that thinks he's living a righteous life no there's nothing righteous there's not a bone in your body that's righteous you're full of arrogance you're full of evil but you do it in the name of hem because if you really cared you say listen you know what let's go offline I'll tell you exactly I'll show you exactly without calling you names without sending insults there's no reason for that you obviously don't know so I'm going to tell you why after that you can make your own decision but there's never a reason to go personally insult a guy poor kid there's no reason this happens every day every day it happens and they're right those people that end up becoming disgusted by religious people they're right why because their version what they saw is disgusting what's the problem here they didn't see Judaism they saw some arrogant fool representing it in the wrong way so we have to be we have to be knowledgeable enough to know how to rebuke how to talk to people and how to show people a little bit of love even when we have a with them even when we have a debate with them it doesn't need to get personal and to just just try to destroy people's lives it needs to be based about a point what's going on now this requires this requires you to love him senselessly this requires you to love him without even knowing him even though he's on the wrong path why should you love him because that's the only thing that's going to give you enough energy and patience to want to help him to want to help her even though right now their education level about the Torah is the equivalent of a monkeys so you have to have a lot of patience to help people like this and guess what you should do it you know why cuz somebody did it for you you used to be monkey too you used to know nothing too and send you somebody or something or some book or some show or some uh video where somebody else gave you the information and turned you into to someone that actually knows what's right and wrong and if you're not willing to give it back to somebody else then you didn't deserve the present in the first place so when we talk about hating each other again remember there are different reasons there are some people you're obligated to hate them obligated why because they're anti a person like leid a person like some of those people on the list obligated to hate these people they're constantly going against the toan and they're causing people to sin knowingly they're changing the tan knowingly they're going against the T knowingly you're obligated to hat these people obligated but a person that's ignorant grew up grew up secular grew up in some Farm grew up under the impression that you could just pick whatever religion you want even though you were born Jewish K don't hate him for no reason try to educate him try to bring him closer see if he's if it's really in his blood to be empty or he's just an ignorant person but we just go attack everyone that's not like you Mr all righteous that's not and many times you're going to see that a new person a new B cha even if it's a person that's been religious their whole life goes back to the same sh that they've been going to for 20 years but now with a new head on their shoulders with the right head the right ashfa and starts telling people that listen let's let's this is a bet mikdash Katan this is a small bet mikdash let's not speak during prayer or at all you want to speak go outside this is a place where we want to learn Tora not learnes Bish let's let's treat it like it is many times they get the feedback that they don't want well people tell them listen you're too religious for us you're too much you're you're like you're bringing a they're only saying that because they're ignorant of the truth more times than not it's simply because they're ignorant of the truth either because they were T the wrong way or they weren't taught at all and they just assume that any conflict between two Jews is forbidden this is not true our entire is built on the conflict between the sages to find the emit after toiling and toiling and looking at the verses one after another proving back and forth yeah but this verse means this no no no but the other verse means that yeah but there's no way that the other verse means that because it's already being used somewhere else to mean something else it cannot mean both things ah you're right okay so it does mean what you say yeah but you just said you had this that took you three years to figure it out yeah it took me three years but I didn't know this new information that you gave me so this three years I'll get rewarded for toiling in Torah but it's the wrong conclusion so it's not I'm not going to use it so you just toiled you just worked really are to build this building for 3 years and you're just going to destroy it yeah it's not AIT that's all I care about I only fought for the because I thought that's the but now that you showed me proof that what I said is not a no problem gone garbage it's garbage this back and forth both sides and sometimes three sides are fighting for what they've toiled to a conclusion they didn't just think this up they're not shooting off the cuff they thought this through and they arrived at this emit but the other Sage says no and then sometimes the third one says no and yes and maybe and they're all fighting da after Da after Da after d yes no maybe yes no maybe then comes says everybody's it's option D when I saw this the first time I wanted to like take all my hair out of my head and just throw it just get it out of it was the most insane thing I've ever seen in my life cuz in the beginning it took me six and a half hours to finish One D I was like a half a person so even though I was extremely smart and everything else in the world when it came to this I I just couldn't understand anything six hours for one do one two three 10 for one so I finally oh yes I'm finally gonna get to the end comes TOS everybody in the garbage I said that's the heck with it I Quit why didn't he just come in the beginning and save me to 10 pages I asked my Rob what's he says no the whole point of the 10 pages is not to show you the m and tell you his opinion and that opinion and that opinion just to get to the conclusion no if you want the conclusion you look at the that's conclusion you don't from the point of the is to teach you how to think like a Jew the point of thear is to teach you that they've reviewed every single thought process that you could ever imagine so when you finally see the you don't think maybe they're wrong because they've thought of everything already the point of all of those 10 pages is not because they have nothing to write trust me the was much much bigger in the beginning than you what you have says that justice tractate of a was 600 times the size of our entire today or I'm sorry 10 times greater than our entire just distracted of that's how much had that's how much had so how come you spent all of those pages to tell me him him him you no yes maybe no yes why why to teach you how to think to teach you how to think and also to teach you a certain discipline that when a Gad do says yes it's yes don't ask a follow-up question why you want to know why go open a book if he said said yes that means that he thought about everything that you can possibly think about no but are you sure that he yeah yeah sure of everything like sometimes people tell me ask me a question Hey listen I uh put on this morning but uh I heard that you're supposed to do again this afternoon for but I already did a blessing so somebody told me that I should do a second time but without a blessing so I say good you did it and do it again with the blessing don't put on without a blessing so what you me to follow up okay thank you what do I get no no but you realize what I said I said that I did it already and I did a blessing and somebody told me don't do with a blessing yeah but I I I I know you told me the first time you don't have to repeat the question I know I got it when when I gave you the answer I I took all of that into consideration the fact that you don't like my answer it's not my problem that's the that's you don't want to put on don't put on but don't put on with no blessing yeah but you realiz I real you said it I reviewed that information because you sent it to me if you didn't send it to me then yeah maybe I didn't consider because I'm not a g but if a if a says something to you if he says don't ask why don't tell him yeah but you realize this and you realize no no there there is no but you realize he's a g because he does realize a lot more than what you think when he writes a letter that says XYZ guess what he thought about all of the options all of the circumstances all of the people that will get hurt and all of the people that will benefit he thought about that you don't ask a second question that's the and the problem is is that we do not know what a g is we do not know what the is we do not know what the Torah is we look at the r we look at at the we look at all of these different things as if it's just I disagree and that's the mistake this leads us to a lot of problems in our because when it comes to if you don't have the discipline to listen to the if you don't have the discipline to listen to what the says you're simply not going to make it in Judaism because there's going to be certain times in your life that it's not just one two three and everyone understands everyone understands you have to build a Suka everyone understands that you have to live inside the Suka during sukot everyone understands that if it's raining you don't live in a Suka why because of training a training you're not you know there's no reward for you suffering on you're supposed to be everyone understands that's an easy easy but sometimes a difficult Mitzvah where you have somebody that's a anti Tor person coming to your seeing all types of foreign ideas anti- Tor ideas you have an obligation to rebuke you have an obligation to protest that's not a comfortable mitvah for anybody trust me when I tell you it's much easier for me to do it from this position than for me do it from your position why here I'm talking General to the world but if you're going to do certain things you talk to specific people it's uncomfortable but guess what you got to do it you got to do it it's an uncomfortable you got to do it if people are talking in TR you have to say something if people are treating the Tora like it's toilet paper you have to say something why this when we did not give says I have nothing to do with you I have nothing to do with you the last prophet that we had says to the prophet says to the prophet of the Kim says to the Kim you sinned against meim says why we we we did our service in the BET mikdash how we brought the how do we sin against you says you sinned against me because you didn't want to do it you treated the like as if it's a burden on you the rabbi said come pray three prayers a day like no all three I got to do one's enough for Hem Hem has a lot of people doing three I'll do one it's enough what no come on doesn't necessarily need to be a whatever I'll do when I get a chance Rabbi when when when it's 5:00 p.m. can can I still do can I do why don't you do it at 6:00 in the morning why don't you do it at 9:00 in the morning why don't you do it at 10:00 in the morning why don't you do it until now why I didn't get a chance ah he didn't get a chance everything else you got a chance though you got a chance to make money you got a chance to get a few clients you got a chance to uh eat lunch you got a chance to eat got a chance to do everything else but to do had a chance ah you treated my you treated my mitv like it's a burden on you it's a burden it's too much for you says to the yeah you brought the but you treated it like a burden you talked about my bet mikash it's a filthy Place who wants to be there all the blood is there I rather be with the uh with the rest of my friends hanging out if I could not be here I wouldn't be here if I could not be a Jew I wouldn't be a Jew who wants you who wants you oh I wish I was wasn't a Jew okay you're not a Jew go bye bye what but you said you love me no I don't love you I love someone who wants to be a Jew you I don't love yeah but I'm religious no you're not you're just a monkey with a keepon if you don't want to be a Jew no one needs you that's what saying to the you don't want to be a you want to serve my bet mikdash I don't need you I don't need your I don't need it I don't need your prayer that you don't want to pray I don't need the that you don't want to give I don't need the that you don't feel like doing you don't want to do it go give it to your mother doesn't need it why if you're going to do mitv it has to have don't act like you're doing anyone of favor especially not a and we forget this a lot we forget that we're not doing the MIT for him we're doing the MIT for ourselves we treat his mitv like it's a burden on us how when's the fast end that's all you can think about mikdash was destroyed is not with us that's all you can think about is the fact that you're not eating like a pig that's all you can think about today that's it that's said the BET mikash was destroyed twice in the same day millions and millions of people murdered and Cold Blood a river of blood that literally reached the stomach of horses every single year tragedies happen on this day throughout the generations many of the pilgrims inquisitions and natural disasters that we've had happened to our nation happen on this day for the last 3,300 Years starting with the and all you can think about is the fact that you can't have a hamburger who needs your fast the whole point of the fast is to think about all you can think about is when you could eat that's it oh I'm thirsty welcome to humanity do you want to plaque for it all you can think about is your thirsty all you can think about is that you're hungry did you think about Kem today why do I have well let's see 2,000 years ago or approximately the Romans showed up to 60,000 soldiers came out of nowhere like a shed the Jews that have been fighting among each other for the wrong reason their day's version of Zionism was called Bim who anyone who didn't listen to them they simply tortur them in different ways and when they saw that there is a Revolt what they do they burned all of the food they had enough food stored in yush to feed all of the citizens in y for 21 years without leaving the city the Bion the Zionist of the day the Heretics of their day the of their day the modern of their day you know what they did listen if you want to listen to our way we're going to burn all your stuff yeah but why why do you have to burn my stuff I don't agree with you I have the Torah because it's my way of the highway this is the new way but I don't want to listen to you I want to listen to hasem No No I'm going to burn your stuff I'm going to ruin your career I'm going to ruin your life but why go away go to your Gom that you built for yourself have a good time over over there let us religious people alone leave us alone we want nothing to do with you if you're ignorant you want us to show you what Shabbat is more than happy but if you're empty go go to your hole why do I need to listen to you you have to you have to modernize what they do they burned all the food so after this war happened and they burned all the food which was one of the biggest disasters no one understood the damage until the Romans showed up because now the Romans surrounded us and we couldn't run away we couldn't go anywhere and we couldn't even stay inside either and the starvation began to the extent where literally the mothers would eat their kids the starvation was so horrific that the good ones Among Us started doing things that even crazy people don't do they lost their mindan Zak wanted to go talk to the Roman leader maybe there's some type of Peace maybe we could do something about it no no no no no we're running the show here we're the modern ones we're the strong ones we the zionis ones where're the modern Orthodox ones we have a keeper but we don't follow all the Torah we follow whatever fits you can't go why can't I go but I'm an individual person no no no no you're not individual we we're we're representing everyone he had to pretend like he was dead in order to be allowed to leave they put him in a casket and it said he died our Rabbi died we have to go bury him said let us check the body no come on that's not that's not honor for the for the someone are dead needless to say a big Rabbi he died leave us alone let us go bury him let us uh stab him to see make sure he's dead that's really what how you going to treat somebody okay okay go go go M by a miracle ranan was able to exit Y and go to vpan who was at the time simply a general a general leading the army and he says to him thean says to him Rabbi I should kill you twice for what you said once for calling me and I'm not the Mel that's going against the king the real King the Caesar he's the Mel why you call me for the that's like you're desecrating the king calling the wrong person me she kill you for that says to him no you don't understand we have our truth that comes from the Tora not from what you see as reality we find the truth based on the verses we see what's in the verses and in the verses in our holy Torah it says that only a m only a m can hurt y only a m is given the power by the the King of Kings will only give the power to hurt his kids to another m not this just somebody so you're a m whether you realize it or not as they're having this speech a messenger comes from Rome and tells them you are the Mel now you're the Caesar now you're the Caesar now the other se he died you're the new one he sees this live in front of ranan was the rabbi of RAB who was the rabbi of Raba who was the rabbi of R Shimon and R just so you understand who we're dealing withes can decide who lives and die based on his word he tells him you're a Mel within the speech within the conversation he says he sees he's becoming a Mel he becomes a king during the conversation he's so enamored by it he says I still need to kill you because if you say I'm a Where Have You Been until now if I'm a me if I'm a king what took you so long to come see me said the following every single day we say we keep telling he a we say blessing he's the of he's the king of the world every day there's a blessing you do you do constantly we talk about being a king being a me but yet when it comes to a when it comes to learning T you when it come to you're fasting and everything there's nothing else to do anyway no I'm tired but why you fasting hasem said who's hasem he's the me oh so you don't want to learn this T you say he's the me but you don't want to learn this T he's the me that you ask for p right yeah you ask for Z right yeah you ask for kids too right yeah you ask for yeah you don't want to have Corona virus you keep walking around with all these strange masks right so you want the me to to protect you right yeah so how come you want to learn his T how come when it comes to learning his T all of a sudden he's not a how comes when it comes to all of the mitv all of a sudden you don't feel like doing it you treat it like it's a burden you treat the me like it's a burn like learning to I don't have time for it hey Rabbi can I uh can I like only learn an hour a day and then play video games the rest of the day is that okay or is that be Tora why are you learning to for what why even bother to do the hour why even bother learning an hour why for what why you going to do it oh no you said God said it who's God I don't know you say he's the Mel I said he's the me he said he's the me yeah yeah yeah same thing no no it's not the same thing if I said who cares what I say I put on my pants on one leg at a time just like you but if said it and I'm repeating it only to save you the time if he's the king where were you until now how come you're treating his T like it's a burden that you could only study you could only tolerate it you can only tolerate for an hour a day so you can get to play video games for the next 20 hours you could only learn an hour a day but work 23 hours straight with no break there's no problem for anybody to work to make money nobody ever says wow you're overworking me but when it comes to comes to if it comes to M it comes no no come on I can't do it I can't do it why can't you do it how come you could work at at some company building buildings putting stuff over your head making contracts negotiating with people arguing with people with no limit to ah half hour a day 15 minutes a day once every few days when I get a chance on Shabbat on because there's nothing else to do how come if I'm a Where Have You Been until now says Where Have You Been until now how come my Torah is distasteful to you how come my MIT are distasteful to you how come you treating them like a burden how come the only think that you've established during T is that you're hungry how come the only thing that you cared about during is that you weren't able to you know drink whatever drink you wanted how come that's the only thing you thought about the whole day if I'm a that you're going to pray to the whole year how come my are disgusting to you and when a person understands that is a he has to Now work on himself to get himself to enjoy the mitv to enjoy praying to enjoy learning to to enjoy doing every single mitvah which includes the uncomfortable ones the ones that we don't really like to do so much the ones that people call the ones that people call you know this is not politically correct why because if we are to say that we're going to love each other and stop hating each other that means that we have to start thinking ahead just like we're responsible to think ahead when we see the older people that have been and have made mistakes and have ruined their own lives and we have to think ahead not to do the same thing we have to think ahead for each other you see one of your friends playing more basketball than he's learning toah you see one of your friends stealing more money than he's actually doing legitimately you see one of your friends ruining his marriage more than hurting more than working on his marriage you seeing one of your friends spending more time with his friends than he's spending with his kids you got to say something that's love that's love when you don't say stuff after you see something wrong that means you hate him when you see your friend driving on Shabbat and you don't say anything that means you hate him in fact that means you hate him so much that you care less about the fact that he's going to get a permanent punishment that makes the Holocaust look like Child's Play a person that leaves this world Shabbat a person that leaves this world without doing Chu for Shabbat for wasting seed for uh all types of other morality crimes a person like this that leaves this world with such a crime their punishment according to the ran according to the page 17 and 16 according to many many sources across the Torah their punishment is permanent their Holocaust is permanent which means if you don't know what that means just watch my sh Gom you'll get really well educated about that place that's a permanent punishment not everybody gets permanent punishment only some people those people that die with or wasting seed or somebody didn't do CH for even for being with a married woman it's not his wife things like that that's a permanent punishment what is mean a permanent punishment it'll take millions of years however many years it's going to take to destroy that n until there's nothing left other than that goes back to hem meaning the you the version of you that person that was here is gone but only after suffering for millions of years now you know it and if you see your friend doing those crimes and you don't say something that means that you're okay with him or her going to that place that means that somebody told you listen by the way if your friend goes makes a right and then a left and then goes two doors down right over there they're going to kill him and you see your friend going you see your friend going and you don't see nothing that means you hate him that means you're a partner with the crime cuz you know where that leads you know where that Journey leads and you don't say anything you hate them so stopping the hate among each other is not like most people think in this modern world oh accept everyone regardless of how they are that's not the case stopping hating each other is fulfilling the Torah the right way with Kem in mind with the honor of hem in mind with an understand of what is for our own personal interest what is for the interest of the tah itself what does it mean reward and Punishment what does it mean to help each other go towards the reward versus the punishment part how do we fulfill the Torah without treating it like it's some burden how do we liter literally work on ourselves until we love to learn love to do because it doesn't come naturally in the beginning it is hard in the beginning it could even be boring in the beginning it could be very difficult when I first started going to I wouldn't be able to last five minutes before I fell asleep I go to five minutes into it Max fall sleep you know what the solution was go again next week waited the whole day couldn't wait Tuesdays 9:00 sometimes we had to wait for the rabbi an hour and a half until he came sha didn't start till 10:30 sometimes even 11:00 wasn't that long of a she usually it was a half hour to an hour but sometimes you had to wait an hour or two for the shield to start but I was excited cuz it was new for me and I was excited and I was there and I got my little you know notebook she starts 5 minutes into it 200 people there everybody's invigorated me sleeping I slept better at the Sho than I did in my house but you know when I woke up how frustrated I was how much of a nightmare was I waited all week for this I waited all week for this so I would take all types of things I started bringing chips and a little drinks and different things to chew on but without making so much noise I brought a pen and paper so I could write down everything I just kept trying five minutes 6 minutes a week later 10 minutes 15 minutes eventually I got to actually watch the whole sh but it wasn't after literally several months of suffering everything else I'm awake for work I can work till 5:00 in the morning with on 2 hours of sleep regular things I don't even need to sleep this Torah 5 minutes it was mind bugling to me solution keep going keep going it's hard for you to learn from the book you fall asleep after two minutes okay tomorrow you try again still two minutes okay try again still two minutes A month later okay try again how long forever forever that's what you have to do you have to work on yourself until it works how you going to get it to work ask for aem's Mercy tell Hashem through your actions look a I want to learn your Torah I want to learn it I don't understand it so I want to learn it but how could I learn it if you only let me learn for five minutes how could I learn if every single time I learn I don't understand anything how could I learn if if if if there's just nothing makes sense to me how could I learn please please please open up my mind give me the ability to learn like a regular person that you want in this world now if you do that based on actions where you try every day day in day out failed or success you keep going and going and going and going will eventually open up your mind just like he did for Yeshua who until he opened up his mind was known as theil as the fool but then hasem opened up his mind and he became the after M but you have to try hard now if you don't try hard and you just try whenever you get a chance after you finish playing video games after you finish work after you finish everything else you only get to it on Shabbat you know what is going to say to you when you plead them oh plead I want to understand this one why do you want to understand it Mar because you're the me going to say to you if I'm a if I'm a Mel Where Have You Been until now you have seven days a week how come you only showed up once you have a local sheer three times a week how come you didn't even show up once you have videos available online how come you didn't watch any one of them how come the only video you watch is as long as it's shorter than five minutes but when it comes to work and somebody tells you listen we have this project but it's going to take at least 3 years to complete no problem but a video about to 5 minutes how come if I'm a Where Have You Been until now that means that in order for us to get to where we need to get to which is to serve a with honor to serve with to serve a like we're supposed to Anyway by default that means we have to even earn that too earn the Merit to serve him the right way because naturally naturally we just want the yet naturally we just want to make sins everything we want naturally is bad for us everything we want is bad for us what do we want we want more intimacy bad for you more food bad for you more money bad for you why because unless you have to in your life you don't know how to use money so it's bad for you more Cav definitely bad for you you want recognition every time you donate money extremely bad for you why you go up to sh and say listen uh sorry but you used a ticket what do you mean I have a ticket yeah but it has holes in it you used it why cuz every time you made a donation the whole world knew that you donated this money and uh you used your merits so getting that C bad for you everything we want is bad for us so in order to get to the point where we serve hem the right way where it's not bad for us we actually have to earn that we have to earn the Merit how by serving him even when we don't want to serving him even when it's difficult for us serving him even when it's something that doesn't make sense to us but we keep pushing and pushing every single day yeah but I don't want to be here okay that doesn't really make a difference Hashem said you're supposed to be here he's the meel right yeah yeah yeah okay so let's go he's the M right okay so you do it we don't do it because we want to right away we don't do it because it's fun right away we don't do it because we Taste of deliciousness of Tor right away we don't we be we do because he's the me and enough servitude of the right way will earn us that beautiful taste that delicious Taste of Torah that that you have when you look at the Torah and you actually understand what it says you look at a verse and say wow I got a k about this cuz it connects to the and it doesn't disagree with the sages and that's a k and it's mine and I brought it to the world you got to earn that and that takes a lot what's a lot a lot of hardship overcoming your yet that tells you don't do it it's not fun it's not delicious when a person starts fulfilling a Tora that way little by little he'll not only be able to serve hasem the right way but also serve Society the right way he'll start loving the right people and hating the wrong the right people there's the right people to hate and there's the right people to love and there's also the wrong people to hate and the wrong people to to love because this too is also a Mitzvah this is a that we're experiencing because we have not done enough CH over the last year this will give us enough to do CH finally do CH where says yeah you want to come back you want to come back okay I'll be back I'll have you back why you earned it we earn it by fulfilling his mitv whether we want to or we don't want to by getting our brothers to fulfill the MIT whether they want to or don't want to but always doing it for not for recognition not for money not for uh popularity not to show the were right for for the honor of hasm nothing else that is loving each other there will achieve this we'll love each other I'm going to see you guys in a little while a 6:00 we're having another lecture with the rest of the K so you guys can hang out over here maybe learn some other stuff I'm going to go in the car take care of some other things learn a little bit we'll see each other in a little while [Music]