Stay Away From Bad Neighbor!! (14 minutes)

you understand so says distance yourself from these bad neighbors distance yourself from these bad neighbors for yourself for your own good the r in chapter 61 says there there's an obligation says an obligation for for a person to move if his neighborhood if his community is full of is full of wicked people full of you know uh people that are going against the Torah not interested in Chua not interested in anything relevant to the Torah you're obligated to move you're not allowed to live there so then the next sh is the next question is okay what if there every place is like that I live in uh I live in Sodom and Gomorrah I go to Smith Street it's and gorah I go to Park Street it's Sodom and Gomorrah it's everything is Sodom and Gomorrah what happens I'm in Manhattan what do I do ra says move to the desert your neighbor should be the Scorpion and the snake this this not like a uh uh some uh weird uh mid that no one's ever heard of that I found myself he says move to the desert Scorpion and the snake are better neighbors than rash because at least if they kill you they kill your only your body whereas the rash is going to kill your soul forever so now you have to understand the significance of getting away from this this is why also it says means remove yourself from the Bad Neighbor technically it should say which means distance yourself go live somewhere else no means you can't even be friends with them you have AER you have a person that's an atheist no interest in chuva no interest in nothing goes against the tah openly has no uh mocks the Torah makes fun of things oh look at this Rabbi look what he said ha one of these idiots on YouTube has a YouTube channel with 300,000 followers making fun of the Torah making fun of this his whole life is just making fun of the Tor his whole life they're going to use all the all the content that he used as nice introduction to his G when he gets there and he finds out that it's true the Torah is real but you have some unfortunately you have many people like that in our generation a lot of people make fun of the T not necessarily everybody has a YouTube channel but as many people that are putting yourself as a in such such a bad way where they become they become they cause other people to sin and this is the essence of a a is not just someone that is just bad by himself and he's just like sitting in his home he Just Smokes on Shabbat by himself is talking about this one this person is a rash this person makes other people s he brings everybody else to have a hookah party on Shabbat afternoon it's the person that invites everybody to the strip club this is the person that has the Super Bowl party on the same day that there is a knowing that all of those people are going to miss the sh but now who cares put God on hold go tomorrow go next week this and these people are and ra says and says you're not allowed to be friends with them you have to do exactly what it said in last week's move cut yourself off cut yourself off you cannot you cannot stay connected to these people and that's why it says do not associate it with the wicked person obviously means connect to him now if you're in a business of doing K this makes it very very difficult if you have family like pretty much everyone in that has people that are secular in your family friends that are secular people you care about that are secular this is a very very critical thing to listen to what does it mean don't be so connected to them yes you're allowed to come in teach leave but don't start having barbecues on a daily basis the guy is at your house sometimes he's bringing pigs sometimes he's bringing monkeys sometimes he's bringing this and you make a separate side of barbecue let him eat this t no no no you come to our house for Shabbat you become sh Shabbat you don't drive to my house and then drive home on Shabbat you want to come to my house keep Shabbat stay in my house for Shabbat can't stay for Shabbat don't bring that stuff to my house why why don't bring that stuff to my house why don't drive to my house on Shabbat and go home on Shabbat cuz I have little kids little kids my little kids they don't know what a is they don't know what a secular person is they see somebody driving on Shabbat that I'm honoring and saying ah look this my friend Sika this is schoie and this is Danny they all came to celebrate Shabbat with us and after we talk and we smooth and we talk about Abu andu and all these wonderful things and everybody smiles and everybody eats and everybody celebrates okay good night everybody and they go and the little kid see him from the window TI tick turn the car and I drive AB what happened to Abu they said don't drive on Shabbat why is uh Danny and Shi andika driving what are you going to say to no they don't know what are you going to tell them the kids's not going to understand they don't know you just talked about M it seemed like they knew fine so you can't connect to them to such an extent that you let them sin inside your house listen I understand it's difficult some even say listen if you going to invite them the first time and they drive the next time don't let them personally I don't think you should let them sin at all ever cuz if it's okay once why is it not okay twice if it's okay for him to drive on Shabbat for one year why is it not okay for him to drive for two years and then three years and four years and 5 years and 10 years it's either true or it's not the fact that he's not willing to accept it right away and keep Shabah right away I understand but you have to let them know that listen when you're here when you're in my house you have to keep it just like if you go to a house where it's part of the etiquette of the house to take off your shoes when you come in what do you do you take off your shoes if it's part of the etiquette of the house to take off your hat when you come in what do you do you take off your hat you do what is the custom in the place that you go there no different than anything else you want to go to their house for Shabbat go to the house for Shabbat but to have these people that are completely anti over your house and allowing them to desecrate Shabbat openly like that is going to create problems in your life it's going to create problems in your life and you have to you have to really be strict with it even though it may mean that you're going to have less guests for Shabbat rather have less guests for Shabbat than people that are going to taint your kids and tell your kids that it's okay to drive on Shabbat and the car doesn't blow up when you turn it on on Shabbat cuz really all you have to stand on with little kids this is one of the things that people don't understand with little kids if you want kids to stick to Judaism to stick to Torah without letting go without S without you know just sticking to it you have only two things to hold on to one reward them give them a reward kid wore keeper the whole week give him a candy give him a little little story give him a high five where T teach give him a little story give him a little high five give him candy give him something give reward him for something he learned his M he learned his he did his homework give him some reward that's one thing you have to stand on kazal says this it's not my rules kazal says You must reward them this is in the days of K it's not just days of now days of now you should probably give him a plane but obviously you have to give rewards with uh with taste with tact you can't give the kid a plane every week give him a candy give him something small he also appreciate something small much more than he will if you buy him a video game every week and ruin him so that's number one you want to educate your kid you want them to to want to do the Mitzvah you have to entice them with that the second thing is which is going to be surprised to some people is fear scare them to death God doesn't like when people take off their keeper God doesn't like people who don't do their homework God and you have to let him know the fear of God you tell him one time to a kid they listen forever they listen forever I'm telling you I know this for myself when I was a little kid even though we didn't keep any you know much when we I was 10 years old we kept a few things we went to a uh religious uh school but as soon as we landed in America we became green didn't keep anything except holidays and you know basic in my opinion we didn't keep much but whatever some people may consider it miss you know just like uh part of the stuff in my opinion based on what I know today we kept nothing but it doesn't make a difference the point is is that we came in we keep some holidays kosher whenever it's convenient but what did I make sure to do my whole life no matter what doesn't matter if I'm dating a non-jew doesn't matter if I'm uh doing whatever doesn't matter if I'm eating t doesn't matter anything what am I doing my whole life there's two things I did my whole life one every time I have a piece of paper always put on top right top right corner of the of the paper anytime I write anything on a piece of paper always had the the B and the hay and second thing is before I go to sleep why because my mom told me this is what God wants when I was a little kid said listen oh my teacher told me about and my mom told me about it's good to say before you go to sleep God wants it God is almighty God is great God is everything nobody told me God uh punishes people don't keep Shabbat people told me God wants you to say before you go to sleep God wants you to put his name on a piece of paper Okay so that's what I did you tell little kids this is what God Said you put the fear of God in them they'll do it and that's the only thing you have to hold on to until they have enough Torah knowledge that they learn in school and at home that it's become part of them and they want to do it but before you get to a before you get to love of hem and desire to do his will you have to have you have to have fear there's no without so this is also another reason why it's very very dangerous to have in your life if you have a community full of full of people that are wicked full of people that are against the Torah they could ruin your kids this is also why you unfortunately hear sometimes that uh rabbis that you know move to New communities that are full of secular people trying to help them do chuva and sometimes their own kids the rabbis kids get tainted get hurt because of this the kid goes off the D cuz the rabbi can't be with his kids all day you know has the community he has to learn he has this he has a lot of things to do so his own kid's going to grow up he's going to play who's going to play with he's going to play with the secular kids he sees them smoking he wants to smoke he says that he sees them drinking he wants to drink he sees this so this what happens so you so it's it's a very very big problem it's a very very big problem and uh it's very dangerous to be in a place like that it's better to not go uh in most cases but it's also with the will have enough his kids do but nonetheless the point is that the mishna here is telling you that when you are next to connected to you are going to be infected by it you're going to be infected by it now