SHOVAVIM: Chassidic Guidance To Guarding Your Eyes (BH FILMS)

soin is now going to take these holy words and help us protect the windows to our soul in the case where a person is trying to purify thems but either they have so much garbage from the past still in the system or they accidentally run into it what do you do how do you guard your eyes how do you guard your soul if a person accidentally sees something indecent God forbid such as animals or Bird's mating or hand breath of a woman's hair or skin that should be covered a one's wife when she's in a state of nid of impurity or similar things he should immediately recite the verse do not follow your heart so it's not to defile his mind God forbid so what happens if it's accidentally happens where he sees something indecent sometimes a person doesn't actually know the definition of what indecent means there are plenty of people that are walking around thinking that they're perfectly modest even though their behavior is like animals they may have modest clothes they may cover their hair they may wear a stral they may dress perfectly righteous but their behavior is literally no different than an animal in other cases there are people that walk around thinking that they are modest or they'll wear their K only on part of their hair because they figure that they like this part this ponytail they have or they they they don't necessarily need to cover everything nice people wonderful people but as far as following the Ala not so much the sages taught that in the verse that you shall beware of anything evil is referring to things that a person would see and would end up bringing immoral thoughts to their mind you go to the r number 18 He talks about how it's forbidden to waste seed it's forbidden for a person to engage in uh relations with uh even his own wife in in in the public you know you have to be moral you have to be modest it's forbidden to do a lot of different things that unfortunately today have become anorm but here there's one thing that the rambam says that I can assure you many people don't realize is even forbidden one should not look at animals beasts and fowls time males and females are coupling why why is this forbidden for the same reason that the rabam says that it's forbidden for men to look at a woman while they do laundry even forbidden to look at the colored garments of a woman that he knows because it'll bring these thoughts to his mind and it's the same thing that is forbidden for him to look at his own wife in a way that's permitted when she's pure but when she's not pure because these will bring thoughts to the person's mind to whether he's looking at animals or birds or even a woman that's not his wife or even his wife when she's impure or anything that's similar not only has he done something that's forbidden but he has put himself at risk he has endangered his holy of holies and the reality is that the Torah is telling us that protecting our eyes is protecting our Nish and if a person wants any any chance whatsoever of ever being holy it all begins with the eyes because if you can protect your eyes you can protect your breit you can protect your Kusa you can protect your mind but if you don't protect your eyes it's impossible for you to ever arrive at [Music] Holiness do not follow your heart and you should not Converse excessively with the women because you may ultimately come to perform an act of loudness people that have friends or colleagues that they become friendly with of the opposite gender they're asking for problems all you got to do is look at anybody that you know that's divorced and ask him who committed the adultery and with whom and you'll find out it's always the friend it's always the colleague it's always the platonic relationship that turned into [Music] Atomic if a person saw it by accident immediately they should say to themselves this verse that we say in is do not follow after your heart why why do not follow after your heart why the heart the heart is referring to the imagination this is a dangerous place once a person looks at something for long enough which could be literally as much as 2 maybe 3 seconds it's not the first look it's usually the second look the turnaround one the one that where you're already looking at the person not just they were aren't in your line of sight at that moment your mind starts transferring the information to your imagination to your heart and the longer you look the more fuel you're giving to your imagination to think more and more things and if you're looking at something inappropriate the outcome is going to be inappropriate even if you're looking at someone that you shouldn't even be attracted to whether it's a relative a colleague someone that's married your best friend whoever it is the more you stare at someone the more you allow the mind to [Music] imagine if a person avoids sinning and overcomes his evil inclination two or three times then the Holy One himself will guard this person from then on as the verse says in the Book of Job 33:29 behold God does all these things twice or Thrice with a man meaning after you've overcome this obstacle on your own two or three times Hashem will start helping you overcome it but not until you help yourself and for those of you that are still looking forward to Bringing more children to the world or you have young ones and you want them to be good ones too protecting your eyes not only has an impact but has literally a direct connection to what kind of kids you're going to have a father who guards his eyes will Merit raising his children without suffering he will Merit health and successful children here you're getting a promise for what for helping [Music] yourself this was the secret that made abah ainu AB ainu we saw how Abraham ainu distinguished himself from every person that ever lived and until this day is benefits from it if a person wants to have the benefit of being connected to Abino they must protect their breit they must protect their wheat which means they must protect their eyes if a person does everything that the sages teach they're going to have a filter on every part of their soul by default that's really where a person should get themselves to constantly be involved in MIT even if you're at work even if you're with the family even if you're with kids look for opportunities to connect everything to me and if you really do that you'll be able to succeed in protecting your n by protecting your eyes and if you're protecting your eyes certainly many blessings will follow [Music] we are meant to be a light unto the Nations not to follow their misguided practices remember every Jew has to remember that he's a Jew and she's a Jew we don't celebrate non-jewish holidays even if they seem harmless it's a zul disrespect to the Torah and could lead to CH Hashem desecration of God's name stick to our holy Torah and our own holidays that's the path of a true Jew