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SHOVAVIM: 58 Secrets That Help Succeed In Tikkun HaBrit TeShuva (BH FILMS)

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Rabbi Yaron Reuven

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time to stop how do we stop why stop aside from being scared to death how do you do cha for something like this so a few things first and foremost chuva is you have to stop immediately you cannot continue the sin one more time he should love charity he should love being rebuked stop doing this do Chua love doing kindness helping people get closer to hem is the ultimate kindness get people to come to the Sho get people to watch a Sho help people that are helpless bring guest to his house when he prays when she prays pray with full kavana don't be a robot When you pray try to understand what you're saying and saying with meaning as often as you possibly [Music] can they different fasts during your think about what you did that's relevant to this sin [Music] says would have said I'm sorry to hem he would have stayed in G forever the magnitude of saying I'm sorry work on humility Shalom used to say if you want to be somebody realize that you're a nobody next never embarrass anyone including yourself feed poor people any opportunity you have to feed poor people take it don't be wasteful with food because being wasteful with food is symbolic of wasting seed also make sure to eat the remains of the Mi sometimes you have a little two three four five pieces of Mi on Shabbat eat it if you have full during it's a major for there's nothing more important than it's more important than no speaking in you speak in sure you're going to end up wasting seed at some point why because you're being careless about the of the sages as well as the Tora when it comes to break it up why because it'll help you think about it what does each word mean there's also a special prayer that many have that talks about all the seed that a person wasted help me fix it and so on and so forth go to the mik if you're fortunate enough to have a kosher mik then you can go if you don't then don't go because it'll actually make you make SS read as often as you can why once you read it you're never going to want to even look at your bleed if you're single says you could only clean yourself with some type of sponge thick sponge you're not allowed to touch your member with your own hand crying is fantastic anyone that cries over his sins it's very good being a s in a going up to the Tora as an Aliah once a month giv every single day to your ability also lighting many candles for Shabbat aside from the two that you light light other ones giving to people that learn T you give praying alone you're not going to disturb other people cry hysterically when you're praying fantastic also learning M some people say learn 18 per day learning Z does not require you to understand what it actually says but it still has in it even if you just read the words go to sleep with your even though you're not obligated that's the point be the first person in it to to do to the point of sweating do K as much as possible this is the ultimate t for wasting seed in the past and obviously if you ever do in the future why you get other people to do Chua you're fixing your prior sins become zealous to the fullest extent so your sins are forgiven to the fullest extent telling people telling people gay is real it's not a joke it's not a fairy tale no share of the world to come doesn't mean emptiness it it literally means Eternal punishment you're not allowed to steal you're not allowed to be modest learn toah before you go to sleep stop lying stop saying start your night by sleeping on the left side then switch to the right don't remain single get married be a on Fourth meal anyone that has has many many we learned from but also we learn here that it has to do with do every with happiness to the fullest extent don't give people evil eye don't look at other people's money don't look at other people's wife don't look at other people's husband don't look at other people's kids don't be an evil eye don't be leads to a lot of sins including if you have a good eye it fixes your learn and after you finish learning T every day a little bit every day say 72 times when you say Amen don't be one of these people that says half a men in sh every time you see men men men this is called orphaned Amen in sh amends will go against you so unless you're going to say Amen don't say nothing say Amen with helps with but the type of where you're alone but you're only thinking about hem don't think about all the things you want from hem nothing else but him anytime you have you have any type of suffering accept it with love say thank youm I know it's good for me give people give people the benefit of the doubt don't assume the worst on people if you you have to give work on your test yourself become an expert in one is the ultimate fixture of and think about Shalom says that if you want to fix your bre whatever you were learning yesterday double it seeed something that is a person that weigh seed simply cannot learn T like a normal person wasting seed damages your brain both spiritually and physically the people that have an empow possible time to learn T are always always without an exception always wasting seed people that have a hard time doing CH always because they're wasting seed if a person is not willing to stop wasting seed is chuva is impossible he creating so much T so much impurity so many demons that are influencing him to do bad it's impossible for him to do enough good to fix it but anyone that makes excuses for wasting seed meaning they're just not going to stop or they're making excuses to continue they're virtually a lost cause this person that's wasting seed won't understand two words if we really did cha we could become the biggest nation in the world not just by but also by number if we really didn't destroy ourself we would be bigger than China so when a person weigh seed he's having the exact opposite effect on Humanity on the world then what are he supposed to the says we're supposed to increase sixfold you're destroying it by wasting seed if you want to do chw up for this it's very possible all you really really need is desire same thing for a woman if she really wants to do cha she doesn't have to care about the neighbor doesn't have to care about the her mom her sister her this her past her future all she cares about his AEM I'm going to be modest for his people I'm going to be modest for myself a person that understands that they live in this world only due to Hashem will find that all of their excuses are waste of time whoever walks in such a path Whoever has such a mind that constantly is thinking about bringing good to the world bringing good to CL the r writes if he does it all of his days he will be serving God constantly even in the midst of his business dealings even during physical intimacy for his intent in all matters is f fill his needs so that his body be whole to serve God the rambam says a person that wants to get to a level higher than a Mal higher than an angel all he has to do is think about God at all times during business but also the physical as if a person is constantly thinking about what's the point of what am I doing I'm doing business so I can make money so I give so I can feed my family so I can do okay you're thinking about I'm being intimate with my wife so I can bring children to the world why because I want to bring more to the world there's enough if you're thinking what's the point of doing everything you're doing you could literally become thaner than an angel this is the type of thought process that a person is supposed to get to eventually 7 years of lectures 7 months of film editing countless hours of study by two rabbis [Music] information we received over 3,000 years ago all for this [Music] moment agreed the movie there's a small member in it shouldn't take over your whole life if you satiate it you're never going to have [Music] enough the S clamp when it gets a hold of something it does not let go time for us to rectify what we have done normal number should be somewhere around 20 million or higher you'll never going to have control if you start [Music] it only feed it when it's permissible according to the LA pornography is as addictive as crack cook [Music] me you're always going to be happy including this world and the [Music] next for