Jewish Students That Break The Rabbi's Heart

So the bad student, the bad student, it's not  really his fault. Why? No one is connected to him   yet. 30 years in the world, no one's connected to  him to actually help him do real TeShuva. All they   tell him told him is, uh, put on a black shirt,  put on a black hat, put on all the exterior stuff.   No one actually told him, listen, stop being an  animal. No one ever told him that. So him, you   have a chance with him. Even though he's annoying  and obnoxious, he's going to break your heart 500   times, you have a chance. Why? All you got to put  is enter some Kodesh into this empty vessel. Now,   the one on the other hand that's getting one ear  at the other is much worse. Why is he much worse?   Because he's pretending to be a student the  whole time. He's sitting there hand over hand,   leg over leg. He's sipping his tea like he's  interested and he comes to the shiur like and   he nods his head and he's like this. He's in.  He's in. He has no idea what you're saying. He's   saying like this and like that. He's thinking  about his stock portfolio. He's like, "Yeah,   wow. I bought Microsoft today. Microsoft's  going to good tomorrow because it's earnings.   earnings with this earnings and if  Intel beats also then I got two wowen   yeah maybe he probably hold the stock  it's such a good stock Moshe probably   invested in it he's nodding to you he's  talking to you with his eye but nothing so you are thinking that you're teaching somebody  you're thinking I'm investing my time into this   guy. And you find out he goes home and he  beats his wife. You find out he goes home   and he's still Mechalel Shabbat already.  You've been teaching him for a year. He's   still Mechalel Shabbat. You mentioned Shabbat and  every single he still Shabbat. He's coming to you.   Don't come if you don't want to listen. It's like  I used to have clients. They'd ask my advice. Now,   after I give him advice, I'm assuming we're  going to take advantage of it. We're going   to do something about this advice. Maybe  not right away. Maybe after two, three,   four conversations, but within reason, we're  going to do something about it. After a few   conversations, I see they're not listening to my  advice. They ask me more questions. Said, "No,   there's no more questions. No more questions,  your honor. No. What What does this say? Uh,   fortunetelling. If you're not going to listen  to my advice, why are you asking? What do you   think I have? I have I have I have nothing to do  with my life. And some people, that's what they   do. They have nothing to do. They think you have  nothing to do. So, they ask you questions for no   reason. They're not going to listen to you. This  they think they're like a they're like opinion   shopping. They have no consideration whatsoever  to your time, no consideration whatsoever to   other things you have to do. And I think it's  like it's like a Google search. Google what is   do. Oh, okay. Let's ask Yaron. Yaron, what  is to do? They ask you random questions. Now,   you have to invest time into these questions. You  give them answers and you see they do the opposite   anyway. Why'd you ask? Why' you ask if you're  not going to listen? I just want to know what   you think. Why? What do you care? What you What  do you care? This is a person like this is the   worst type of student. And the reason why because  one ear out thing goes one ear out the other is   the teacher is going to invest an enormous amount  of time into the student and if he's not going to   listen that teacher's heart is going to be broken  even worse than a student that spit in his face.   Why? Because here he realizes that the whole  time was a complete waste. He had no chance to   he lost before he started. Why? Because it's not  a matter of a student being stupid or smart. It   has nothing to do with intellect. It has nothing  to do with logic. Actually, the reality is that   when a person has information going one ear and  out the other, it's only because of their choice.   They chose to be that. They chose not to listen  to you. They're coming for different reasons.   They're coming because they want to make it look  like they're coming. They want to make it look   like they're religious. They want to make it look  like they're, you know, I had some people come to   my shim because they were trying to impress their  wife or their girlfriend or somebody. In reality,   they cared less. The good thing about my shiurim  is you can't last very long unless you're going   to do TeShuva or you're going to run out. You  can't come to the shoe for five years and not   do TeShuva. Either you're doing TeShuva or you're  leaving after a couple of months. After a few,   you can't take it. Why? You're going to get hit in  the head every time that you're the talking about   every time because you haven't done TeShuva. can't  last very long. That's the good news. But still,   nonetheless, you see people falling off three,  four, five months you invested into them and you   see they stop coming. It hurts. Why? You thought,  oh, there's another guy and another guy, another   guy. Now, you build on them. You build on them  because there's more. Oh, he's guy. He's going   to bring a friend. He's going to bring a friend.  She's going to bring a friend. Eventually, it's   going to be a whole little family for people. And  they disappear like smoke. What happened? And you   realize, oh, they still go to the beach to make  speech. Oh, they still go to mixed weddings. Oh,   they're having a mixed wedding. Oh, she wanted  to put the wig on. Oh, she didn't want to put   anything on. Oh, he wants to steal at his job.  Oh, that's why they stopped coming. They stopped   coming because the information that we were  saying, the truth that we were saying started   hitting home and they c they couldn't take any  more of it. They wanted to come to make it look   like they're religious because they live in a  religious community. Once things started hitting   home, all of a sudden do not call list. And it's  happened to me multiple times. You build a group   15 20 people, zero. 15, 20 people, zero. 15, 20  people, zero. Several times it's happened. And   then later on you find out it's because in reality  they had one ear information going one ear out the   other or at least one or two had information  going one ear out the other. Eventually he or   she left and now the people that were like half  listening started falling also started falling   also they connected to him they pulled them out  and so on and so forth. Sometimes it was a rabbi   that influenced them to leave. So this is the  worst type of because the minimum of minimum the   minimum of minimum requirement to help a person  is for them to be receptive to a potential change. So anyone that is looking for ways to uh  better his situation, protect himself,   protect his family from the horrific situation  that's around us, the terrorism and everything   else, he must understand that the only way  is to increase Torah. More Torah, more life.