Praying Like A Chassid | Torat HaChassidut (15)

now what is this prayer that expects the result the rashbam comes and he says this is not just referring to someone that prays for a long time and therefore expects a result this is even for someone that prays with full cavana and because he prayed with full cavana and he used all the holy names and he did all the different things that he learned from the books of the or the teachings of the or the other and he's using the names and therefore now he expecting to get that million dollar deal now he's expecting to to find that wife now he's expecting all of these wonderful things to happen thear says what you're doing is a sin not only you're not going to get answered it's a [Music] sin every day it's more than just a task it's a call from sh a connection that will [Music] last a daily obligation for all of them you to see [Music] every build [Music] thatdude you guys have some interesting profile man each PR thank you you know the word [Music] us the same that [Music] love feed the soul like you feed the body each and every [Applause] consisten in underestimate the power of daily prayer is more than ritual it's Hashem always there in every life we whisper and every we singing out our father our King every your to build that bridge again gratitude and streng every a Lifeline to bless this is welcome deep in your soul daily pray LIF a path that [Music] makes we grow closer Beyond strle and stri [Music] everyone we're back here on our and tonight we're going to learn how to pray like Aid how to pray like Aid because this is going to answer a lot of questions tonight's sh is going to be for the and all of and all the righteous noahides that continue to support our organization continue to contribute whether they're sharing our lectures or they're donating their money in on our website be.org uh and have uh benefited in becoming Partners in some amazing things like uh the video that we showed last week of the uh distribution of food and comforters and heating products for 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expecting Hashem to respond maybe even speak to you like uh a little bit of a burning bush I told you guys the funny story about myself many years ago when I first started doing Chua started praying so much I literally thought that hem was going to speak to me so I can assure you this is not a unusual thought people think that Hashem will speak to them people sometimes actually believe Hashem spoke to them and for those people they need to go to a psych but for the rest of the normal people that don't hear Hashem speak to them but yet expect Hashem to at the very least respond to their prayers what happens when he didn't do you know why your prayers weren't answered well tonight and hisat is going to open our eyes to how to pray and he's going to awaken us to mistakes that we're actually making every single day by expecting an answer now of course this may discourage some of you at first what do you mean if I pray hashem's not going to answer me so what's the point of prayer hold up obviously there is a way to get your prayers answered but it's not as simple as people think and it's certainly not for those that believe that asem will answer them just because they prayed this and much more is going to be learned from thisan which literally should have been called because there's just so much wisdom in it it's literally unbelievable so starts off the next section section number 11 and he tells us the details of how to pray and he says as follows accustom yourselves to praying with all of your might in a strong voice that draws your attention to your words during both the morning and the evening prayers you should face the wall and look into your prayer book your sidu without glancing around from the beginning of the prayers until the end when the prayer leader the K or repeats the out loud you should look into your Sid and answer amen after each blessing with all of your strength after that he goes into what to do when the Torah is being read but we're going to cover up to here because it's already more than enough of course we see that the says few words but when you look deeper into them we can elaborate into them for years here he's giving us several different strategies several different insights that if we take into account and compare them to what the sages have told us in the talmud in the mishna and other we see that there is literally endless wisdoms in these few words and that's actually one of the signs of wisdom when someone can say little as far as the amount of words but at the same time say very much so thean tells us to accustom ourselves to pray with all of our might in a strong voice that draws your attention to your words what does it really mean to pray with all of your might I mean sometimes a a person has some type of issue whether it beom Financial issue or or health issues or any other issue and uh even if they're not sh Shabbat they're still going to start praying to Hashem because they realize that all hope is lost other than from the hand of Hashem they don't want to declare bankruptcy they don't want to die they don't want to get divorced they don't want to stay single forever they don't want to be childless they want to pray they pray to Hashem no one else can help them and even if they try going to the doctor or doing any type of uh procedure that's going to help them or or making any type you know loans or business deal they pray to Hashem that this is going to work because at the end of the day when the moment of truth is in front of you and you're looking into the abyss you realize that only aad can help you and I can assure you that even the atheists have at some point or will at some point pray to a because they know that all other hope is lost in fact the tells us that even though his father was was aik at first was a rash was an idol worshipper but when push came to shove and theim kidnapped him and were about to literally eat him and they were cooking him alive he started praying he prayed to all of his idols and none of his idols answered him then finally he prayed to Hashem and Hashem not only answered him but he literally made an open Miracle where the pot that he was being cooked in flew in the air like a UFO and flew all the way to this is in the tanak by the way so we see that there are certain times that the prayers are answered in wondrous ways but we don't necessarily need wondrous things to happen to us all the time we just want to be healthy we just want to get married we just want to have kids it seems like all of this is small for hasm so why wouldn't he do it why wouldn't he answer our prayers well first we have to look into not just the prayers where you're praying to hasem out of a destitute but rather the prayer that we're obligated to do as Jews every day a Jew is obligated to pray three times a day if he's a male if it's a female once a day and the prayer is the two main parts of it as we discussed last week is the and the or it's called This is the silent prayer now this is the prayer that we're supposed to do every single day you wake up in the morning you have to pray later on in the afternoon you have to pray in the evening you have to pray many shs have the the tradition of connecting the so praying very late into the afternoon right uh before the uh right before the um uh Night comes down and so they can wait only a few minutes after the prayer is finished and then already start the arit sometimes they start a little too early so then you have to repeat the is again later on but nonetheless they want to make sure that everybody prays uh together the because if you send everybody home just to come back a half hour later or an hour later many times people don't come back so it's a very common custom among all of the to have the back to back but nonetheless this is three times a day that we have to pray to but in this generation of ignorance that we live in even though there's an abundance of information there's a lot of ignorance of what the truth is so much so that the Heretics are having a party and the Heretics continue to fool people so much so that they'll actually have convinced many people out there that Hashem needs you and he needs your prayers because he told you to do them there's no bigger lie than that and in fact we're going to learn about that today what is prayer in the eyes of Hashem in fact what is prayer when you expect Hashem to answer you because you prayed maybe perhaps you prayed for three hours instead of only one hour you prayed with full cavana like you are a rough cook like you are one of theim and you were expecting an answer look hm look how I prayed but then you were disappointed that you didn't get an answer you didn't get an answer like what happened why isn't hasm doing this to me and this could easily lead a person to heresy to abandonment of the toat all because of a lack of understanding of where you stand first and foremost the tells us that the prayers were instituted by our forefathers ab and yob instituted the sh prayer instituted the and yob instituted the so these are prayers that our forefathers did in fact page 6B tells us a few things about how to treat going to synagogue rabelo said in the name of R Huna that a person that's leaving the synagogue should not take long strides why not why shouldn't he take long strides meaning he shouldn't walk fast out of the synagogue because then it looks like you're happy to abandon AEM happy to run away from his Torah happy to run away from the one that could answer answer your prayers in fact one of the said that he once saw sorry RAB zos Z said that once he saw a group of running to synagogue on Shabbat he said what the Shabbat these kids what are they running on Shabbat but then he heard the teachings of ab who said wait wait hold on a second you're not allowed to run away from the synagogue but to run to synagogue even on Shabbat running to synagogue because you're running to the Tor after that said ah after I heard that I was comforted and I said this is the way to do it I'm running also he started running himself now when a person doesn't know he can get himself into trouble and rauna says anyone that prays behind the synagogue it's called rash it's called wicked as it says in the uh Psalms 12:9 the wicked walk roundabout why is a person that's praying behind a synagogue called The Wicked This is a if a person is praying with his back to the synagogue he's praying outside in a different direction than everyone else is praying he wants to make a statement because he thinks that his Compass is better than the synagogues or he doesn't agree with the synagogue or Whatever It Is Well Torah says with all of your compasses and your AI and everything else that you have you aren't using AI Rabbi for sure because the AI Rabbi would have told you you're for doing such a thing not allowed to do such a thing why because it looks like you're praying to another God while am is praying in One Direction you're praying in a different direction looks like you're praying to another God and in one case tells us page six there was one time this one rash that wanted to make a statement he had a disagreement with the synagogue and he decided that he's going to go to the synagogue and pray the opposite direction sent them in the image of an Arab who saw him and said to him you stand before your Creator and act as if there are two Powers governing the world he took out a sword and killed him some people ask how do I get AI to see me well guess what got to make sure that if you see because if you're not also kills asks there is a all he did was pray to nonstop and in chapter 12 of Psalms verse number n says the same verse that we mentioned before translation in which the wicked walk on every side when baseness is exalted among the sons of man so kazal of course has to look into every single word says wait a minute what is the meaning of the phrase thatav is saying to people becauseum room means height some something very high zul means lowly so Z oximoron there both of these in the same sentence one after the other so what does it mean so the answers people is referring to things that stand at the Pinnacle at the room of the world top of the world most important but which people treat lightly M lowly as if it's nothing there are some things that are of utmost importance but people treat them as if they're meaningless Rashia kados on his commentary here says an example of this is prayer which Rises to Heaven N Rashi 900 years ago in France could have used any possible example he wanted that is extremely important but is not valued correctly he could have used Torah study he could have used uh I don't know honoring your parents he could have used uh any any one particular thing that people mistreat but no no he chose prayer why prayer because this is the one thing that every Jew is obligated needed to do every single day and therefore they become accustomed to it they get used to it and when you get used to prayer you could easily be turned into a robot that's doing mitzvot where if they replaced you with one of the new AI robots that are coming out perhaps you two would look the same with the same kavana emptiness nothing from inside just words as the prophet says in the name of hem their mouth and their um uh uh people SP up their mouth and their lips gave me honor but their heart was far away from me so on one end thear is telling us people mistreat something that's of utmost value that's the prayer in fact the mishna depending on which you have it's in chapter two it's either going to be in mishna number 18 or in mishna number 13 again depending on which n you have says in the name of rabish Shimon r be meticulous in reading the shma and in prayer prayer is referring to the amid the the silent prayer when you pray do not make your prayer a set routine rather an in treat for mercy and a supplication before the omnipresent as it is said for he is gracious and compassionate slow to anger abounding in kindness and relent full of punishment and do not judge yourself to be a wicked person meaning you're going to hear some things about prayer they're going to make you realize you made a lot of mistakes in your prayer let alone in the rest of your life don't turn yourself into oh I'm wicked let me just give up no no you can still fix you're still alive so long as the Candle is lit we could still fix but the point being is is that is telling you your number one tool to connect to a is to pray to him don't turn that into something that's robotic that's soulless and he's not just talking about the prayer where you know certain parts you like certain parts you remembers no no he's talking about specifically the because those are the highest level of prayer but the rest of the prayer as well many times people like to skip parts of the prayer even if they could do the rest in fact Shalom took prayer very seriously in a and the which is a part of the prayer that that's before he wanted to make sure that his K is not like one of those where half the K misses the and they get there literally a minute before or after so he would literally stand by the door stand by the door and everyone that came in late he would give them a look and these are not these are not regular people but everyone understood I don't want that look and he literally gave to grown men and turned them into by simply having them take prayer seriously now taking prayer seriously is very difficult because when you're serious about something you expect a result if you're serious about work and you work really hard whatever your business is so long as it's ethical you expect good results if you're a boss you have employees you expect results you're investing into them sometimes you'll be you'll have The Misfortune of having employees that think that you owe them something but that's a tun of being a a balabit that's a tun of being somebody that has employees everyone deals with that but nonetheless you invest into things you expect results you invest into property or into stocks or into anything you expect results positive results the more you invest into something the more you expect good results so the tough part with prayer is that you're expected to take it very seriously but expecting results is a gray area why is this the case why is this the case we have to look further into the but now we're gonna look at page 32 and the g says a name of RAB rabiaa said in the name of raban whoever prolongs his prayer and contemplates it will eventually suffer a heartache as it says of course he's bringing a verse that's from Proverbs 13:12 prolonged prayer makes the heart sick hold on a second wait a minute you're telling me that if I have instead of praying for an hour or 45 minutes in the morning depending on which K you're in if I make my amid much longer because I want Hashem to answer me you're telling me that the result is going to be the opposite I'm G to have a heartache so why should I pray why should I pray if you're telling me that prolonged prayer expect a heartache expect a broken heart in so many words Rashi explains and the gar itself also explains what is this prolonged prayer and contemplating it why does it yield to a heartache why does it turn to a heartache because the one that's prolonging his prayer and contemplating it it means that he's expecting that his prayer will be granted to him due to his having prayed a great length and that's what schl is saying he's destined to be disappointed for his expectations were not something that he should have had in the first place so what's his cure says the let him occupy himself with studying of Torah as the rest of that verse says but the tree of life is a desire to desire fulfilled which is referring the tree of life is referring to T the tree of life is the those to grasp it but I don't understand how is learning toah going to cure my broken heart I just prayed for three hours that God will give me a brand new car I prayed for four hours that he' give me a uh new house and he didn't give it to me tell me go learn to how is that going to cure my heartache I'm even more confused but then you have to read the rest of the and says no no no you have to understand there's no uh difficulty in understanding this the first guy was prolonging his prayer with the expectation that Hashem is going to answer his prayer prayer because he prayed for a long time the second guy that studied tah knows that just praying for a long time is not going to yield your result but rather he learned to and he did CH and that turned his prayer into a prayer that was welcomed whether was long or short the key is that it was a prayer that was appropriate and we'll get to what an appropriate prayer is where he prayed but he didn't contemplate it meaning he didn't think just because I'm praying therefore Hashem is going to answer me what about there are some people that will pray and tell you wait a minute hold on a second doesn't it say that uh if your prayer wasn't answered you should pray again yes it does and continues on that the son of said If a person sees that he has prayed but has not been answered he should go back and pray again as it says hope to hem strengthen yourself and he will give you courage and hope to hem in fact the sages even teach the four things that require meaning a constant renewal of the effort to succeed one of them is T learning T practice of Good Deeds praying and pursuing a livelihood well we know the learning t t tells us we have to you have to learn to in the morning and at night the whole point of the Torah is to get you to also do good deeds but prayer itself also needs why because there's going to be times that you pray to hem and it's not answered and you need to know why but then it also tells you about livelihood what's the connection of livelihood to all of this just like in livelihood when you're trying to make a living or you're trying to operate yourself in the ways of the world even if you're in the middle of a war theim bring a example from the book of Samuel 2 10:12 where yav is addressing his his brother of isai and they separated the two camps and he told them you go one side I go the other side but in case one of us weakens the other will will come and help him same concept in everything else that you do in life in business you diversify your Investments don't put everything else into just one thing but the same concept applies to prayer same concept applies to Torah same concept applies to the rest of livelihood don't think that just one full effort is enough but person is going to say fine you're saying if I prayed a lot on one end I shouldn't disrespect it fine treat it very importantly fine so if I prayed a lot and now I'm expecting a result you're telling me that that in itself is not going to get me the result result then you said that I should learn Torah to know how to pray appropriately which we haven't gotten to yet so what should I do in the meantime pray again but didn't you just say that praying again praying is not going to give me the result the throws us another curveball Raam said in name of R there are three transgressions for which no man is saved every single day meaning everybody makes some form of sin that's one of these three thoughts of sin examining one's prayer and thoughts of sin thinking of things that are inappropriate someone that's not your wife someone that's not your husband doing all types of things that are against the tah idolatry and so on even thinking about it second is examining the prayer again where a person prays and expects a result and now what is this prayer that expects a result the rash comes and he says this is not just referring to someone that prays for a long time and therefore expects a result this is even for someone that prays with full cavana and because he prayed with full cavana and he used all the holy names and he did all the different things that he learned from the books of daral or the teachings of daral or the other and he's using the names and therefore now he expecting to get that million dollar deal now he's expecting to to find that wife now he's expecting all of these wonderful things to happen the says what you're doing is a sin not only you're not going to get answered it's a sin wait but you said not to expect results because I prayed for a long time now you're telling me not to expect results even when I have kavana so what gives so how do I get results when I pray how do I get results when I pray how do these great these great get their prayers answered where they say something and fulfills it you see in between this dilemma the gave us the answer it said go learn toah go learn toah learning T has many different aspects of it you can learn the laws the code of law the thews of is endless endless books that discuss the laws there's also M character development whether it's the which is the foundation of all M that stems from the five books of Moses or it's all of the other amazing musar for him that have come throughout the generations there's also learning the Torah itself the the the written Torah with commentary by Rashi by ramb byi by the mid endless millions and millions of books you learn you can learn M you can learn you can learn you can learn the oral T you can learn you could learn so many different things but there's one thing that people don't realize is that when you learn Al the teach us that when you learn it actually helps you pray why does learning Al help you pray the in 57 says that the yet evil inclination is inside everyone confusing them not to believe that their prayer is going to work confusing them that Hashem is not listening to them confusing them that hasem needs the prayer confusing them with all types of things and the way that we settle confusions in the world of tah is with the AL is the debate between the and then they in what the AL is so in person learns Al those internal spiritual confusions get settled and therefore it actually clears up their prayer this is why say if you want someone that can help you with blessings go to a p many people want to go to people that say that they're cabalists people that sell water people that sell all types of things there are certainly some real cabalists in the world they're very few and they're not necessarily open to the public but none less many people advertise themselves as cabalist allp stuff and I can tell you from experience these are many of them are Jokers but many people go to them you know run to them give them everything only to be disappointed that all they got is a smaller bank account you want a blessing get it from someone that's a PK why someone that's AEK literally is living the code of law is L fighting against the but if you don't have access to go to P or if you don't need to go to a b you want to do it yourself you want to pray for yourself every day and you don't want to be one of these people that mistreats prayer you also don't want to be one of these people that prays for a long time and expects to prayer only to be disappointed and get a heartbreaking or be a person that has cavana his prayer all the different unique names of hem and expect a result and the rashbam says that that's actually a sin so you want to be the guy that actually prays and gets results how can you be first and foremost a person has to understand where they stand when a person understands that aad does not need them and does not owe you anything even if you heard some Santa Claus figure and his followers tell you that God needs you don't believe the lies there was a a side note there was a song that came out by Ura recently that confused a few people because it's called God needs every Jew but RAB mince the head of UR explained this is not what Santa Claus was referring to as far as God needing you no it's that God wants us to do good so he can give us the reward in so many words he needs us to do the good thing so he can reward us not that he needs us as if he's lacking something Shalom but because there's so much poison of heresy in the world very people are confused they actually think that God needs them if you think God needs you you're wasting your time praying if you think that God has any lacking whatsoever without you you're wasting your time praying if you think that God owes you something because you pray because you give staka because you do mitv because you're your mom is a Jew and therefore you're a Jew don't even bother praying why because none of that is going to help you God does not need us for him to need that means he's lacking if he is lacking he's not God so the first place that a person has to get very comfortable in is in the fact that they are not needed by God he loves us but he doesn't need us and any which way that people want to somehow manipulate the words do I love you because I need you do I need you because I love you get that garbage out of your mind God is not a person and should never be compared to one this is the reason why anyone that believes in a New Testament is an idol worshipper because they made God into a person so the first place that a person has to get really really comfortable in in their servitude of hem is I am the servant he is the master I need him he doesn't need me I owe him everything he owes me nothing and as the says even if all of the righteous people that ever lived combined all of the good that was ever done in the world it still does not amount to justification of a single breath coming out of your mouth all of the right Deeds that we ever did that all the righteous people did abrah yob moso David whoever you want combine all of them combine yourself combine your grandparents combine theik combine everybody combine everybody all of that does not justify him owing us even a single breath of air nothing so the moment you get comfortable in that place where God does not needs you and does not owe you anything but you on the other hand need God and you owe him everything you already at a good place why because now that you've humbled yourself your prayer is different you're coming to Hashem pleading with him begging him please Hashem help me please Hashem have mercy on me me I know you don't owe me I know I don't deserve it I know everything you've already given me I can never pay you back for whether it's the money or it's the wife or the husband or the kids or even literally the oxygen in my lungs today none of it I could ever repay you for when a person comes to aadh literally pleading with him already you're starting at a good place but the moment you think that just because you did something such as pray for a long time or pray with cavana or pray after you uh did something good therefore hasem owes you this prayer owes you this thing automatically you have literally thrown every possibility of your prayer being answered why God will prove to you who doesn't need you so now this is the reason behind the prayers of the where they use words like this Volume 2 page 493 look at the personal prayer that sikim used to say before they pray before they prayed this is not even the prayer yet this is the prayer before the prayer God in heaven everything is revealed to you and you know the great confusion we experience while praying we have we have no one to rely upon but you have mercy upon us and Deliver Us from every improper and confusing thought from now and forever May our thoughts be always Pure Clean and holy especially when we pray so that not a single improper thought enters our minds May our prayers never feel like a burden Deliver us so that we may pray to you with all of our heart and soul with great concentration in Holiness and Purity and fear fear and in love may our thoughts and our words of prayer be fully United so that we do not utter a single word without intentional concentration may we be worthy to pray to you with true self- sacrifice and may you give us strength to subdue cast out and erase all foreign thoughts so that we can completely take our minds off of them and may our thoughts be always holy and pure these are the prayer before the prayer of the sikim another example of it is this one byot the first section first uh chapter section 84 may I serve you with truth faith and simplicity may I engage in Torah learning and prayer with intense feelings and invest all my strength and all the thoughts of my heart and mine into each word of prayer may I believe with perfect faith that the world is filled with your glory glory and that when we pray you stand before us and take heed of every one of our words may I know before whom I stand the King of Kings the Holy One Blessed Be he as a result may I experience fear and awe of you may I have profound intention in my every word of prayer and never lose focus and may my mind not stray from focusing on the meaning of the words and be free of all superficial foreign thoughts rather may I connect my thoughts to my words of prayer with a strong Inseparable Bond have mercy on me for the sake of your name deliver me help me strengthen me with your great might that I may put every ounce of my strength into prayer and constantly pray to you with great force until all the prideful selfish and faring thoughts within me are ened and lose their ability to disturb my prayers rather may I be able to cast them out and completely remove them from having any contact with me so that I are so they are completely unable to enter my mind and my prayers become pure proper pleasing acceptable to you look at the language of the look at the attitude of theim do you see any one of them ever saying you need my prayer God look how I prayed you owe me this look how good I these are sikim that are saying this if anyone is theoretically entitled to demand something to be owed something it would be them the sikim but instead you see that the greater the sadik the more humble they were the more they realized they're in debt to Hashem that could never be paid the more They begged him for Mercy the more they realized that that they're insufficient in fact the says how does a person know if he's a sadik a person who wants to know if his deeds are pure and honest should examine his prayers if he can concentrate during the entire amida prayer reciting all the blessings without any foreign thoughts any extraneous thoughts he knows that he's a sadik this means this is the meaning of the verse where SCH says in Mish chapter 27: 211 the refining pot is for silver and the furnace for gold and the men according to his praise meaning according to his prayers so a person that comes to a with humility pleading begging him to please give me another day in the world give me P so I can feed my kids give me a wife so I don't spend my life not only lonely but unable to fulfill the mitvah of bringing children to the world that I could raise them with Torah and bring me health so I have the strength to serve you please please so I could serve you I don't you don't owe me this you you don't need this you don't need me to serve you but I want to serve you the moment that a person comes to aad pleading and begging and knowing where they stand to the best of their ability automatically that turns you into a pure vessel that may very well get their prayers answered but if you come to Hashem with pride with arrogance as if he owns something as if you're like a bill collector you're coming to collect because you prayed because you gave staka because uh you learned a certain amount of Torah because you did such and such you could be sure your prayer is not going to be answered why dka for that and in fact the say it's a sin to even pray the way you do you think God owes you something because you pray no you get the you get the opportunity to pray you get the opportunity to serve AEM that in itself is something you have to thank Hashem for that you actually even have the ability to pray to him that you even have the Merit to pray to The One and Only God and not be one of these billions of idol worshippers or Heretics that are out there the fact that you have an opportunity to pray to hem that in itself is the greatest gift in the world even if he doesn't answer your prayers so the moment that a person comes to hasem with the proper mindset I'm not owed anything if anything I am in such debt I can never pay it back even if I say I'm sorry which I will say I'm sorry forever for anything I've ever done wrong things that I know of things that I don't know of but please Hashem help me because where else am I going to go to I can't go to people they don't have any power they're they're Flesh and Blood who can I go to I can only go to you if a person comes to aadh with such an attitude now they're starting in the right foot but if you come to Hashem oh look what I did I just gave to this one I just did this I just did that why don't you answer my prayers you you think that a owes you something you think that a owes you anything you're lucky you're still alive to even pray that filthy prayer that you're praying and this is one of the things that is unfortunately happening to many as a result of the poisonous heresy that's in the air where people are going to sh people are praying people observing but when you learn this you could see that someone can pray their whole life and never pray properly even once why because they thought that hasem owes them something that hashm needs these prayers that he somehow somehow he benefits from them this is like somebody that get upset at something that I told them they told me something I told that they're wrong they don't know enough tah or history in order to arrive at the conclusion that they said and the conclusion they came up with this completely wrong oh I'm offended now I'm not going to watch your lectures anymore don't watch you doing me any favors what do you think that when you press play on one of my videos I benefit out of that you're benefiting out of it you're benefiting out a bit you watch it you share with somebody else they end up doing Chua they end up praying to hasm better they end up giving staka they end up doing mitv they benefit I don't benefit out of it no but you benefit spiritually I'll benefit if it's spiritually whether you watch or you don't watch why cuz my effort is there hasem decides what the results are going to be Hashem decides who's going to watch who's not going to watch no but it's a business there's no business I work for Hashem I don't work for you I work for Hashem he's my employer he's my guide he's my everything the moment that I start working for people and thinking that oh I'm going to say this because these people agree with it I'm not going to say this because those people don't agree with it what's the difference between me and some Idol worshipper that's praying to some guy that died 2,000 years ago but then somebody some zon says that he came back to life what's the difference cursed is the one that relies on man says the Torah people do not know where they stand people are deluding themselves to thinking they're much more important than what they are and the reason for that is because they have minimized God either they minimize God like the New Testament has minimized them by turning humanizing God and therefore they think that if God is a human therefore he's flawed like me therefore I could do whatever I want therefore he'll do for me what I would do for him so if if I was God I would forgive him for all of his sins no matter what he did so if he's God then he's going to do the same thing for me they humanized God and destroyed it they destroyed any any real belief in anything true same concept with people that have humanize God in ways where they say he needs you or he benefits from you God is the almighty he doesn't need anything the moment a person removes all of that heresy and idolatry out of their mind they're at the very least making themselves into a vessel that's worthy of praying to Hashem and perhaps he may answer you even in a favorable way but a person has to start knowing where they stand if they know where they stand then thean continues and says pray with all of your might put all of your strength into to it all of your heart your attention with a strong voice what does it mean a strong you have to yell no meaning you have to speak enough for you to hear it let your ears hear the words that are coming out of your mouth don't be one of these people that prays in their head only same thing goes by the way the says when you study T when you study T study out loud why because if you don't study out loud you'll forget what you studied this actually happens with prayer if you only pray inside your mind sometimes someone will ask you what you do today you'll forget that you even prayed people forget that they even pray so now the tatan starts off by telling us pray with all your might and also with to have a strong voice that draws your attention to your words to connect your thoughts to your words sometimes a person speaks faster than they can think sometimes they think faster than they speak in prayer when you're praying to Hashem those two have to be synchronized don't pray faster than you can think or vice versa you have to synchronize yeah but that's going to take me a long time let it take you a long time over time you'll become more fluid you'll understand things faster and but the key is to make sure especially when it comes to the is and amid of course it should be across the board but especially when it comes to sh is amid cannot emphasize that enough you have to know what you're saying and have your thoughts in the same place as your mouth and your mouth and the same place as your thoughts because one of the things that's going to be embarrassing in the world of Truth when a person goes up to the bed of sham is when they show him his prayers they're going to show him in synagogue they're going to show her in synagogue and show them praying and he's praying and he like he's one of these people that likes to make moves you know there some people they make moves when they pray it's not enough for them to just pray like most people they want to make moves they want to go like this they want to move their arms because they saw some sadik do it and sometimes they'll even pretend like they're catching something in the air maybe they're grabbing shoe ofel or something they're they're they're grabbing something and they're doing and they're moving and they make a joke out of themselves but they pretend to be they pretend stop pretending why when you go up to sh is going to show you all of this h big screen not just what you said but what you were thinking at the same time so while you were pretending to pray to a but really with thinking about some sports team you put $1,000 on hoping that you're going to double your money while you were praying you were thinking about the stock market while you were praying you were thinking about some girl that works at your office while you were praying you were think about the grocery list that your wife gave you when you forgot to buy the eggs while you were praying you were thinking about that your shoe is a little too tight and it's kind of Hur in your toe and maybe it's bleeding while you were praying you weren't thinking about a you were thinking about everything else except and guess what all of that all of that theatrics is going to be thrown in our face what embarrassment that day is going to be what embarrassment that day is going to be when a shows us what we were thinking thinking while we were praying to him we're not even saying what the person was thinking while he was sinning while he was looking no we're talking about what were you thinking while you were actually praying the you were saying what were you thinking about did you think about AEM did you think about a sports team did you think about the stock market did you think about you just made an investment in a new property and you're you're thinking it's going to do really well you're thinking about the bills that you have to pay right after work to make sure it's on time so it's on a delivery date so it's on this date so you can increase your credit did you think about all that or did you think about hem I can tell you if speak so much about prayer and rebuke about it across all spectrums of the Tor in literally everywhere speak about prayer left and right if they speak about it it's because we need help and a person that thinks that their prayer is sufficient should look at these sikim that apparently were a whole lot more righteous than we could ever be but yet did not think that they were sufficient so the first thing that a person needs to do is know where they stand after that they could start praying properly with K AO voice that your ears can hear you don't have to if you're in a synagogue there's other people with you you can't pray so loud that it's disturbing other people's prayers but it can't be nothing it has to be enough for your ears to hear then it has to be connected to your thoughts meaning what you're saying is connected to what's in your mind you have to clean your mind of all the filth one of the strategies raim has taught me to do is to think if you can't understand the prayer quick enough then think of something something holy of the the name of hem something constantly while you're praying so if there's any foreign thought that comes in you're thinking about the name of hem you're thinking about some something that you are it's the same thing all the time that kicks out all the foreign thoughts you have to keep your mind clean especially for guys you have on you have on you can't pray with filth you can't have filthy thoughts when you have on by the way this is the reason why many used to pray very very quickly it was a custom where it's still to this day many of them pray extremely quickly why because they want to make sure that throughout the entire prayer their mind is completely clean and why take the risk by elongating the prayer so they pray really quickly there are some people I know they like to dance and sing and everything else in their prayer and if they could do that with a clean mind but the average person cannot the average person is going to start thinking about all types of other things even if it's not thoughts that are inappropriate such as immorality even if it's you're thinking about paying the bills or you're thinking about what your kids are doing in kindergarten or that you have to speak to one of your daughters because she got in trouble yesterday or whatever it is all of those thoughts do not belong into your mind while you're praying to hasm so now the is telling us to make sure that we draw attention to our words make a voice that's enough to draw attention to our words where our words and our mind are connected and during both the morning and the evening prayers should face the wall why face the wall That's the Cel one of the things that's highly highly not recommended is to sit next to one that likes to socialize whether he's your friend or anybody else somebody likes to socialize during prayer stay as far away from them as possible if you can sit by the wall look at the wall why less distractions next thing is look into the Sido the whole time even if you know the Prayer by heart because you've been praying for many years and you know the whole thing by heart look into the Sid says the without glancing around don't look around at who's praying along who's singing along who's doing this who's doing that he finish you finish who Finish First don't look around look straight into your Sido the whole time from the moment you come into the shore until you leave only the Sido why everything else is going to distract you you're going to look left you see somebody is talking it bothers you you're going to look right see somebody's falling asleep it bothers you you're going to look straight ahead you're going to see somebody dressed not modest you look behind you're going to see the the women section is open and somebody's peeking in and they grab your attention you look that way the door is open and somebody is looking in why are they looking in everywhere you look there's going to be distractions why the Satan is going to send you something if you give him the opportunity he's going to send you something don't look anywhere look at your Sido look at your Sid now if you pray amid the way used to pray amid by closing their mind and saying the whole prayer in their mind by saying it out loud obviously saying the saying the words if you know the entire amida by heart and you want to close your eyes by all means you can but most people don't know it by heart so they pray from the sidu either pray with your eyes closed the whole time if you know the whole Prayer by heart or look at the and since the knew that the average person does not know the entire Sido by heart then it's better to look at the Sido rather than look at anything else and when the prayer leader repeats the out loud you should look back into your Sid and answer amen after every blessing now there are some that say that you're owed to study T while the is reciting repeating the as long as you don't speak the words out loud and you have the kav on the ending blessing Theo in 102 CH number eight writes that you're allowed to study Tor during the the repetition of the but if you're not studying T then you have to be looking at your and repeating every word alongside with him looking at every word alongside with him in fact for those of you that are conscious of getting to 100 blessings a day this is one of the greatest places to do that because the abim says that the counts for two blessings for you as if you said it twice so now you said the amida once that's 19 blessings then you uh you hear what the uh is uh is uh saying thatd says that counts for you as another time it's another 19 and then when you said amen at the end of every blessing that counts as if you said it again a third time so now you have 57 blessings just to start off the day the point being is is that is not a time to socialize it's not a time to look around it's a time to pray and when a person prays and says amen they have to understand that that amen is a big deal because when you say Amen say greater is the one that says amen than the one who actually made the blessing that's how big saying a man is and that's why the says answer amen with all of your strength answer amen with all of your strength because when you're saying amen you are sanctifying A's name amen it's three different things some it's it's three things during the prayer it's saying may it be his will amen is may be as will or also a man is stand for of of hem and sometimes it stands for both may it be his will and it's AIT So when you say Amen at the end of every one of the blessings when the Kazan repeats the it's a very big deal so when people make the mistake of socializing during not only are they missing this opportunity and these blessings but the says people that speak in sh their sin is too big why they cause a damage to the entire Ka everybody everybody is has a problem as a result of the guy that's speaking and that's why that's the one place that the ram says that if somebody refuses to be quiet in sh and continues to socialize in sh you're allowed to embarrass them in public in order to make sure that they're quiet or kick them out now when a person looks at what the katana is telling us I mean technically he's telling us all of he's telling us all the things that all Jews have to do whether you're a or not but the fact is that when you look at the prayer of this sadik of this and how he's literally spoon feeding us the basics of following T but yet they look so big to us I have to be quiet I can't expect I can all of these different that means that how little we know that means how far we are removed from the truth but at the same token how easy it is to get back on the right path all you got to do is have the right mindset don't think that hem owes you anything plead with hem beg AEM serve AEM never think the other way never think he needs you or he somehow cannot run the world without you or that he owes you anything just have the right mindset and when you have the right mindset you'll think of everything differently going to sh late no longer becomes a problem why because if you're going to go to an important meeting to land a big deal a big contract the bigger the deal the bigger the contract the more likely you are to be early to that meeting now if that meeting is with a the king of kings that makes everything happen and you truly believe that and you live that way then of course you're going to go to sh on time of course you're not going to miss a prayer of course you're going to be excited to speak to him at every opportunity but when you have the wrong mindset then everything goes by the waste basket everything is uh everything changes that's why when a couple came to the Shalom and that a 5-year-old kid a 5-year-old kid that has not spoken a single word yet they came to a p they came to a sadik who was also a mbal but they didn't come to him because he was a mbal they came to him because he was the rabbi what can we do can you help us looked at the little boy and said what we all say before we start the and when he said P which means mouth hasem open my mouth my lips say your words say your your teachings when he said pee when my mouth he put his finger on the kid's mouth and the kid started talking and he talks to this day what happened H H how the doctors the this the psych psychiatrist nobody else could do anything you just said this little sentence said of course once that mouth is now dedicated to say the words of Hashem of course it's going to speak what kind of mouth is not going to speak if it's going to say the words of Hashem the mouth is here to serve Hashem now you as the parents have to make sure of that now how did he do that was it magic trick no it's simply understanding where you stand everything you have is to be used to serve as the says everything I created says is for my honor for my glory for my from everything is hashem's if you have stuff that you think is yours you have a mistake supposed to utilize everything we have in order to somehow sanctify aem's name even our eating as we learned from thees from the ran has to be Sanctified needless to say making a living needless to say our kids our wives our husbands everything we have has to be now when a person says wow this is all too much for me fine on day one to try to make everything holy and make everything to to serve Hem Of course seems impossible but at the very least can you at least make your prayer something that is sanctifying hashem's name that you know where you stand and you're praying to hasem you're pleading with them maybe you can't sanctify your relationship with your wife or your husband or or your kids or or or or your but can you at the very least when you pray you're actually praying to Hashem and not some foreign God you invented in your mind and that's one of the things that every one of us can do we we can all do it we could all pray to hasem we could all pray properly and we could all utilize the opportunity that gives us to sanctify his name instead of being the idolators or the Heretics or the scorners and the losers to try to make fun of the Torah to try to make fun of the truth because the day will come where a kadosh will show his glory and Destroy every single one of them in a strange and unusual destruction and you the one that is praying to Hashem will finally see the true value of every one of your prayers and every one of your good deeds I have told you guys this time and time again in the past and I'll say it again when people invest in teiru to help our organization to publicize T to do shim like this everything for free they don't realize what the value is I could give you a small microcosm of an example 10 years ago when we first started giving shim and there was literally one guy showed up to the shield the following week two people showed up the next week I think three people showed up but there was no donations there was no website there was no B organization with distributions of food to hundreds of thousands of people none of that there's no CDs even there was me the books and an iPad that's it that's all there was my dear parents my sikim parents that didn't grow up in the Baba sali's house didn't grow up with everywhere but they knew the value of Torah and they love their son and they want to support us they helped us by giving us money to eat to drink to to to literally to live throughout all of that time and if it wasn't for them using their giving there wouldn't be a there wouldn't be hundreds of thousands of people eating every year because of what we do hundreds of thousands of people doing chuva there wouldn't be people listening watching transforming their lives getting married in South Africa in Canada in America and Israel all over the world because they've done Chua finding shim they made an investment nearly 10 years ago for as long as they could for as much as they could you fast forward 10 years everything that we ever do they benefit from because of the original investment because of of what they did as much as they could do when they did it look what turned out even if everything stops today the reward is literally endless why because the invested into Tor and decided to take their pure deeds and make it Bloom into something Beyond anybody's imagination the same thing that a who can do with every one of your prayers of your of your good deeds if it comes from a pure vessel at least similar to what my dear parents did then perhaps you will see extraordinary rewards in this world and the next the question is whether you do it or not and the choice is in your hand every day that you open your eyes and you say thank you Hashem for giving me life again question is how do you justify that life each and every single day what' you do with it how did you glorify his name did you glorify his name or yours when you glorify hashem's name guess what he'll uplift yours eventually too thank you very much for learning with me May hasem bless each and every one of us to serve a and pray to him properly with a clean mind with a pure mind with a pure vessel that we know that it's our opportunity it's our opportunity to serve him it's our Merit it's our and maybe do it perfectly just like we're supposed to thank you very much for learning with me anyone that wants to donate contribute can go to b.org you could also 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