PLATONIC "ATOMIC" RELATIONSHIPS

[Music] no such thing as boyfriend no such thing as boyfriend he's a husband or is a uh stranger because the point is we have to understand is that we are not allowed to trust oursel we're not all to trust until now the boyfriend the girlfriend didn't even touch each other's fingers they're a platonic relationship they call it or platonic platonic I have a Le I call platonic you know Atomic not platonic Atomic atomic bomb Atomic relationship not platonic why because even though today he didn't touch the finger and tomorrow he didn't touch the finger and next week he do touch the finger one day the yet is not aair he's not doing anything right now but one day yet is going to come and something is going to make her really emotional somebody died somebody born she got a job she got fired from a job something happened in his life something happened in our life and they're really emotional and they need affection and that platonic relationship can change just like that why she needs a hug today and the platonic relationship is not enough so the hug so now once you have changed that boundary now a hug is automatically okay what under extreme conditions what happens with the you let them Inn once you open a little bit of the door he's inside your house already now hug is one time is okay next thing it's two hugs next thing it's a hug and a little smooch on a cheek no she's my girlfriend but no no we're waiting we're waiting waiting till go get married we a get married we wa to get married guess what doesn't usually work why because we're human beings we're human beings and we are vulnerable and the works really really hard so if you love him and he loves you then get married get married there's no reason for a person not to get married now if a person going to say wait a minute why should I get married I'm only 17 years old so 17 years old so what's if you're not going to get married then what's the point of the relation ship what like what why why would you let anyone so close into your life so close into your heart if they're not going to be there permanently like you're going to tell especially women they like to talk to says Hashem gave 10 degrees of speaking in the world nine he gave to women women like to talk so women likes to spill our heart so the boyfriend missed the boyfriend that's platonic relationship he likes to listen that's why she likes him so he likes to listen and she talks he likes to listen she talks and she tells him since he likes to listen she tells them all of the most personal things about her all the most personal things What She Likes what was really bad what was really embarrassing what was this what was that why would you tell him if he's not going to be there permanently if he's just temporary do you really want to tell your deepest secrets to somebody it's only temporarily in your life if he's temporarily in your life then that means he's going to the information is not though he's not temporary he's only temporarily going to protect that information he's only temporarily going to protect that privacy you have because he's only temporarily committed to you until he doesn't get what he wants so that's why in Judaism there's no such thing as boyfriend girlfriend if you want to be together because you want to build a family because you want to build a future you don't need money you don't need a job you don't need uh a certain age you just need to understand what expects of you if you are of the age you're are mature to make your own decisions there's absolutely no reason for you to not get married whether you're 18 or you're 20 in college not in college financially set not financially set all that stuff is HEM decides Whata you're gonna have how you're going to pay for everything how you going to do everything all of those worries are a figment of our imagination that comes from the and I'll give you a proof for it from one of my students I had a student came to me young young young maybe 25 years old 24 years old and said listen I love her she's fantastic but I'm not ready to get married I'm only 25 I don't have $5 in my pocket she's even younger than me she doesn't have not only she doesn't have $5 she has debt she has $50,000 $60,000 in college debt we don't even know how we're going to you know right now we live with our parents if we get married we can't live with our parents how we're going to afford the house and then on top of that we're going to have kids right now I'm still a kid I'm still 25 I'm still she's still 20 how we GNA have a kid we're still kids how we going to do this how we're going to do that one question do you want to do what Hashem said or no obviously every know being will say yes I want to do what hasem said do you trust hem do you trust hasem do you trust that Hashem runs the world or do you think that hem is here to torture you ohem is here he loves me if you trust AEM and you want to do what he says Get Married they listen and they have a fantastic family everything worked out the money issues worked out the job issues worked out the kid issues worked out life worked out and all of those friends that told them you're too young and you're to this and to that guess what they're eating their hearts out still single and miserable five six years later why cuz they still think that you're too young and too young and too young I have a bunch of friends former friends that were too young to get married now they're almost 50 they're still too young to get married though you know why they're too young to get married because nobody from the cemetery wants to marry them so they have to get there first until they find a wife all the people in the cemetery are old anybody their age doesn't want to get married anymore why are they 50 already spent half their life already uh being single e [Music]