Money,Torah and Mashiach - MUSSAR Pirkei Avot (29)

[Music] n [Music] good to be in at the breast center once again in our weekly sh we have a uh the series continues to help me to help other people around the world work on ourselves that's really the key you know one of the most important things that a person needs to know first thing that he thinks about after he says to Hashem thanking Hashem that Hashem brought him back the uh his back to his body the first thing that he needs to think about is what do I have to do to fix myself something about myself today something if he thinks that he doesn't have anything to fix that means he hasn't learned enough so already he knows what the solution is he has to learn more if he already has a list of five different things that he needs to fix he has to pick one because you can't address everything all at once but at the same token you can't ignore reality either the only way you get better in the world is by working on yourself and that's whether you're trying to work on yourself for business purposes for ethical purposes for marriage purposes for Education anything anything in life you have to work on yourself so when people generally see for example the title of this series m m and if they know what the what the meaning of musar is uh which is ethics in essence but it's a little stronger word than ethics ethics sounds like nice and sweet you know it's sounds more like a uh being nice whereas musar is really more of getting to the bottom of the problem and fixing it so when someone sees it immediately they're like oh why this is this negative why is it so negative it's not negative it's a reality check and every single person has to have some type of reality check with where they stand now a lot of the stuff that we're talking about has helped me I'm hoping that it's helping many of you uh but the key is that every single person has you know that comes to gets a little bit of a special message personalized message that a person online may not be able to get and the reason why is because one of the things that Hashem does uh when it comes to kiru is is that he gives the uh the people he gives the people that come to the extra he gives them extra reward part of the reward is because they toiled to the point of getting to this sh whereas other people didn't come to this sh in the old days it's not like today where you got into a car 25 minutes later you're at the Shure an hour later you're at the Shure that could be you know a few hours or even a few days uh Walk In some cases today half a and if you don't feel like going to the sh you press a button you go online you get a sh so in today's world there's not really that much for getting the as it used to be because it used to be you had to walk two three four days to get to the sh and the itself used to be several days was a seminar each time now so getting to the Shu was a big Journey staying being awake throughout the whole Shure was a big Journey it was a big thing it was a big deal today people constantly tell me oh yeah I watched that really long Shure like which I don't know all of them along which one is sh oh yeah that two and a half hour sh oh wow okay good like it's the first thing that a lot of people mentioned to me is how long the shim is and they feel like it's a sense of accomplishment that they've watched the sh in reality in today's world it is a sense of accomplishment because most people's attention span is very short and usually they can listen to sh for half hour 45 minutes an hour is usually like an average but in many cases most people can't listen to a sh for 2 3 hours uh unless they have some type of deeper connection with the speaker unless they really get stimulated and really get uh connected to the speaker it's very very hard for someone to sit there for 2 hours and listen to any speaker um so it is a definitely an accomplishment to listen to a but the reality of it is that at least from my perspective it takes me almost to hours to get to the real key part of the sh other people maybe they're big I'm not exactly so you know maybe they get to their point in five minutes I can't get to five minutes there's a lot of points there so much material that honestly if you would allow me I'd go for 5 hours but I know that after 2 three hours people start dozing off it's late at night they want to go home so we cut it off do it at Five I'll stay here for 5 hour if I do it at five I think it's just going to be you and me so but the key is that in the old days you got for going to the Sho says why is the why is the reward for going to the shouldn't you get the reward for being at the sh for learning Tora they said if the speaker a high level speaker in those days it was T people that were able to revive the dead it's a high level speaker most of the crowd willat either not understand or not remember anything that the speaker says now in today's world it's still the same not that anyone in the world today is a Tana or even close to a Tana but in reality most of the Jewish world is secular so unless you've been attending for a long period of time when you first going to the sh is a lot of things that you're not going to understand unless you're already in the you're already in it you're not going to understand when somebody says a uh listen Shabbat deserves a death penalty according to the T you're going to take a person hey hey relax why you being so harsh like I made the rules no that's what it says in the Tora as a matter of fact in this week's it's one of the first that talks about the punishment forat and it's very very harsh it's very very harsh it talks about how someone loses his status as a Jew loses his uh years off of his life in this world where in those days they would actually kill him with the worst type of uh death penalty called stoning which just describing the uh death penalty that they would give him is M that by itself should make people do cha if they believe what actually happened because it's a really really harsh punishment much worse than a murderer and then on top of that as if that wasn't enough they say he has no share of the world to come he dies he has no share of the world to come so it's three levels of punishment that is completely unbearable so somewhere it's the first time they went to and they hear something like this sounds like hey these people are extremists what is this Nazi Germany what is this Iran what is this a uh these people are crazy fanatics but this is what it says in the tah now of course in today's world not many people talk like this not many people can tell you the truth how it's written because it takes a uh certain type of person to do it on one end uh but on another end it's also a uh you know it's not not everybody necessarily has the uh ability to do it for many reasons but nonetheless many people that even if they do understand what's going on in the Shure they listen to it they already connected to the speaker they have a different problem they go to the Shure they stay there 2 hours 5 minutes after the sh they get home a half hour after the sh they get home they see their wife wife asked what was the sh about yeah it was you know about yeah what did he say what did he say I don't know what he said he just said things what do you mean you were there for two hours you can't tell me five minute pitch you can't give me a f minute pitch on what he said forgot I don't know I forgot I forgot they forget a lot of things we're going to learn part of the reason of why we forget today we're going to learn part part of the reason of why we forget we're also going to learn part of the reason of why we don't understand but the point I'm trying to make now is in regards to the people that come to the shim one of the advantages they have over people that are watching it on YouTube is that when you come to the sh you're part of the you're part of the K itself and as a gift hem gives you or gives the speaker to talk about things that are specifically meant for you to hear specifically for you not that the speaker knows or has a pre-arranged uh you know relationship with you he says oh listen you know do me a favor I have some schom this talking about schom yeah we talking about has nothing to do with we're talking about has nothing to do with your children right now but he puts words into the speaker's mouth to specifically address things that are relating to you and this this is why sometimes you'll also see that there are certain uh lectures that you connect to more than others sometimes the lectures that you connect to the most of the ones you attend where you've watch it online doesn't doesn't really uh connect to you as much and again it has to do with the nonetheless regardless of uh whether somebody attends the sh in person or watches online everyone obviously has a the people that are watching it online live now I think it's the uh second best thing you could possibly do is watch this shim live you're watching it on facebookm provided technology where we use it for good and you have thousands thousands and thousands of and online watching it right now as we are they're just right here right here with us and also if you notice Satan works very hard so every time we have the online for the last month or so we've been doing this online there always a that shows up to the threat and tries to bother everyone with their nonsense talks to them about Christianity talks to them about all types of stupidity has nothing to do with this sh but he takes the distraction away takes the um attention away from people that are some of the people not everyone some of the people that are watching a so for everyone that's watching in a home if one of these idiots is on the thread right now that's making comments obviously I can't see the comments I don't have the time to pay attention to the SC screen but if one of these idiots is on the thread do yourself a favor completely ignore him completely ignore don't even swipe don't even look at the comments don't even look at the comments swipe don't swipe don't even look at the comments don't do nothing why this is also will teach you a little bit of for Life a a an argument what's an argument an argument is when two or more parties are in a conflict of some kind where they're expressing their frustration with each other now what if one person walks away two people let's say you know we'll St five five people arguing no this no this you know you have five Jews 18 opinions so you have five Jews they arguing arguing arguing arguing one of them says you know what I got to go to work now he leaves got four left the four are still arguing now somehow from 18 opinions we went to 25 fours got to make up for the one we lost okay after a little while fourth guys and the third guy they both got to leave thank you very much for the argument woke me up for the morning nice just like a little bit of in the morning thank you very much I got to go to work now two guys left they're arguing they arguing they arguing but along this time now at the end of this day people going to ask him so who won the argument what happens after one of the two leaves and the guy that's left continues to argue what happens he continues to argue what happens everyone the whole argument changes and turns on its pH they listen me skin the whole time we didn't know the guy was crazy we're arguing with him like he's a normal person but the whole time he's crazy he's arguing with himself this is what a v is this is what an argument is if you AR with Shalom with a spouse or with a friend or with a partner or something like that it's an argument but if one of the two people decides to walk away or be quiet the argument immediately ends why because for that person to continue the argument by themselves they know that they're crazy same thing with these people that are online they make comments you know everybody is a keyboard Warrior keyboard Warriors they make comments everyone's a strong guy they like to make comments no he said this he said that all that things if you acknowledge them they're going to continue saying it they continue writing because you're giving them energy you're giving the Satan more fuel but if you ignore them like they don't exist they'll make one comment two comments five comments six comments eventually they see nobody's uh answering them they leave they go away they go back into the ho they came from and that's the best way to deal with these trolls in general not just on my own shers but in general all trolls online don't even bother with them because honestly when someone is looking for the truth you can get to the truth within two to three comments when someone is looking to just Express their flawed opinion 50,000 answers would not even be the beginning and one for me one of the things that taught me this was not only the things that I saw on Wall Street when I would write different articles about uh different companies and different issues there would be always somebody going against it saying I am wrong or I'm right or whatever it is and usually the ones that say I'm right it's oh thank you very much conversation ends you agree on one or two points that's it the ones that say you're wrong it's 500 emails back and forth and still you don't get to a point it's even more so with Judaism and toah the guy that has a different opinion you can give him 500 sources 500 sources it won't be enough why because he doesn't agree and this is also one of the things that happened with this whole Matthew Kelly situation where somebody made a video recently saying how it's wrong to uh to go against this missionary because he's not really a missionary or even if he is a missionary he's not a mean and all these different things we talked about this last week we're not going to talk about it again the point being is that when someone is looking for the truth you can find out the truth within a 10-minute clip that we made you find out the entire story you get from beginning to end conclusion the end it's 100% fact not allowed to have him in a synagogue let's say there's no there's no two points about if you're looking for an excuse you're looking for a you can watch seven hours worth of sh that we did and still disagree still disagree doesn't make a difference so there's no point there's no point someone is looking for the truth they're going to find it very quickly because is going to give them to find it so now moving on into this Mish we are in bet now in bet which is chapter 2 m 17 it says Asos said a couple of weeks ago and RAB yosua said last week these are the students of raban yanan asked each one of them to say three each one to say three things that they feel are the most fundamental to your growth and connection with hasem now as we know each one of these people has enough Torah to fill up the world several times over in one of thear there a story about R AKA comes to Vis comes to visit one of his rabbis hos and is very upset at him he says how come you didn't come visit me in so many years I have so much T to to teach you say how much Torah do you have how how much Torah exactly do you know he says to him if the entire ocean was ink entire ocean was ink and all of the trees were pens and all of the land was paper it wouldn't be enough for all of the Sim all of the scribes in the world to write down just the Torah that I know and the Torah that I know is not even a lick that a dog takes from an ocean in comparison to the Torah that my rabbis have you know dog comes to the ocean takes a little lick did he affect the ocean nothing nothing nothing changes in the ocean says my Torah that I know is like that little lick next to my rabbis so just like a says open your mouth and I'll fill it meaning however much you want to learn I can teach you no problem but here asked a special request from his T from his special tamim this handful the five All Stars give me three things don't give me everything three most important things why only three things you ask one of them listen how many MIT we have in the T tell you you have 613 biblical and seven rinal that already 620 those 620 break down into hundreds and hundreds of hundreds of just Shabbat Shabbat has over a thousand that you could go through within a few days shabat how many just for just for is a thousand to make couldn't say listen you know what let's just mention to them 20% of the MIT each break it down you have 100% MIT each one of you take 20% 1 2 3 we finished the whole 620 says no no no three why three because these three are the foundation that you can build on to get to the ultimate level of connection with hem whereas without them you'll always have a piece missing with them you can connect without them you'll always be disconnected meaning they're so foundational they're so fundamental to your development and your connection withm that it's virtually impossible for you to get to a true level of connection without having your mind on them at all times now obviously when someone is just starting the day it's just starting to get in he's not going to be able to get attain all of these things in one day one week or even one year point being here is that from every sheer that we listen to and every Sher that we learn you got to take a few pointers okay you know what that relates to me I'm going to try to implement that that doesn't relate to me as much okay which one relates to you more something's more something's less you have to judge yourself I don't I'm not a prophet I don't know exactly what your level is and where everyone not you and not the thousands and thousands of people that are online watching this stuff but you know you're your own best judge and it's better that you judge yourself than they judge you in sham you say listen three things we learned first one one 1 to 10 affects me five second one affects me five and a half third one is a 9.9 so what's the answer you got to work on a 9.9 yeah but Rabbi that's the most difficult one exactly that's why you came to the that's why hasem maneuvered the world today for you to show up today that's why hasem maneuvered the world today for you to press play on Facebook on tour anytime on uh on YouTube wherever you press to watch the sh that's why you that's we allowed you to do it because you need to work on that 9.9 you need to work on that one specific thing the only reason why this you existed in your life is for that for that particular point which means that if you don't do it it you're wasting your time it's a grinding water doesn't matter how long you grind them it's going to stay the same so the other thing the other point that uh brother fry mentioned when we learned this Mish together is that many people when they first start doing chuva get very very excited and usually they're able to express their excitement with the exterior usually you have a rabbi has a 20 years 25 years already he's running it it's got looks got the jacket got the Hat got a nice beard most of the time and then you have the B 6 months has a longer beard he still doesn't know all the of Shabbat as a longer beard he has a even bigger hat at the jacket exterior looks the same you look at both of them sometimes the looks more holy but that's not what Judaism is all about Judaism is what's inside Judaism is what's inside you of course your exterior needs to match your interior needs to match if your interior is rotten you could hide it with your exterior but if your exterior is rotten we won't even look at your interior why because there's no way for your interior to be any good if you're half naked all day where do we see this from we learn this from page two where they say that a man gets a Woman based on his MIM based on his deeds and Rashi explains it he says yes a sadik gets a modest woman rash gets a prostitute so asked what do you mean do one thing have to do with the other righteous with righteous Wicked with Wicked what are you saying you know righteous with a modest not righteous with a prostitute what is one have to do with the other so Rashi explains if he's a sadik he's going to get a modest woman because if she's modest much more likely that she is righteous not always but much more likely to be right but if he's a rash he deserves a prostitute why because if she is immodest it's impossible for her to be righteous there's not one woman on Earth that ever existed in all of the generations that was Imus and righteous at the same time why because in essence when you are a modest especially as a woman as a man it's not necessarily as relevant to the same extent it's relevant because men have to be modest also but not to the same extent why because if a man walks around half naked most women just think he's just you know I don't know maybe he thinks he's a cow maybe he thinks he's coning the Barbarian or Tarzan I don't think much of him they don't have any lustrous thoughts about this guy they just think well maybe he's homeless who knows but when a woman walks around with a tank top or with a mini skirt or with clothes that are very very tight she or she wears one of these wigs that looks like she's a superstar from uh one of these uh you know uh Oscar shows and you don't you can't even tell that it's not really her real hair and she looks him out what happens all of the guys excuse my language but every single guy that she walks by imagines having sex with her every single guy holy and not holy every single guy that got that failed a test and got to a point of looking at her for a moment or longer thinks about having sex with her that's the sad reality and that my friends is a sin de it's a Biblical sin to such an extent that the Tora says it's better that he die and not have that thought so when a woman pretends to be AED she says oh listen I'm going to the but I'm going with my tank up what does the rabbi care about about my tank top what does the rabbi care about my tight top what do they care he's a rabbi he should be focused on his Tor the other people should be focusing on not on my clothes I like it it makes me feel good which is all bogus by the way no one dresses like that because it makes them feel good a tight clothes do not make anyone feel good it makes you feel constricted the fact that you have to breathe in before you close your jeans is not making anyone feel good not making anyone let's let's start at least let's past the lie no one wears those clothes because it makes them feel good no one walks around with a mini skirt in the snow they have in New York right now because it makes them feel good you're freezing you would prefer to have ski clothes on right now but you wear the skirt because you want attention maybe you didn't get attention at home maybe you didn't get a hug I don't know you didn't get attention so you want attention from somewhere else but if you want a relationship with hasem you must get over this craziness because you are literally destroying your connection withm he loves you but he's forced to not pay attention to you you pray he listens but he's forced not to answer you why because when you are IM modest you are killing his children you also his child but you're killing the rest of his kids cuz each time one of one of these B one of these rabbis one of these talim one of these teenagers one of these go anytime someone looks at you and imagines a sexual thought you're destroying their you're destroying hashem's kids how do you expect hm to listen to anything you say so when a person understands the responsibility they have to the world around them it becomes much easier when a person is selfish there's no way that they can have a connection with hem so kazal here is telling us each one of these Mish asked to have each one of these Mish has to have we're going to tell you three fundamental things that without them you're not going to make it you're not going to make it maybe you're going to make it this week maybe you're going to make it this month maybe you're going to make it even 5 10 years but to get to the ultimate to get to the continue no what happened is this working I think it's working yeah okay somebody called called my uh phone should have a technology not the call but anyway the the key here is that to get to the ultimate level of connecting to hasem you must work on each one of these qualities so the first thing that see is saying it's three things don't take too much start with three fundamental things cuz if you take too much you work too much on the exterior 6 months later you're not going to like the beard anymore 6 months later it's going to be too hot to wear the big coat that you decided to wear because you wanted to be a for 6 months 6 months later you're going to realize that paying off the $5,000 on a big hat that you don't wear it's too much to take and there's not that many buyers on eBay if you work too much in your exterior it's not going to hold it's not going to hold eventually going to break or sometimes people say you know what just started keeping Shabbat last week this week he's going to start sleeping less he's going to cut his schedule instead of eight hours a day he's going to sleep three hours why you going to sleep 3 hours I'm going to learn to all night okay good you're going to learn but you just started learning last week this week already you're learning f you know you're not sleeping you're not going to make it start little by little it's not that we don't want you to learn 24 hours a day that was what you were created for you were created to learn but one step at a time l so different people take on things that are bigger than them and when they take things that are bigger than them you're bound to fail so obviously each person has to be their own real judge real jury and has to evaluate themselves and most importantly look at theal look at the most important don't look at the the is the secondary stuff in the religious world one of the biggest problems unfortunately we have today is that there are many people unfortunately even one is many but there are many people that are leaving leaving the world and not just becoming like a new B cha a little K you know just starting no no no they become anti T there's actually a show in Israel a guy that runs all these shows who finds all of these M all of these poor people that have left their families and he highlights how they've become complete Kim yesterday they were with the hat and this and that some of them were rabbis some of them were rabanes today they're prostitutes drug dealers drug users I mean worst types of like how did you go from I don't knowa to I don't know what happened okay listen you're not going to be fine be normal where keep go to Manan pray three times a day learn a little bit of to they eat kosher that's it how do you go from this to this what happened a lot of them leave CU they break and one of the reasons of why they break is because there's been so many added stringencies to some of these Cults within Judaism that's not for everyone whether it's or breast live or different places there not this this is not is not a or it's not necessarily going against any it's just that that is not for everyone but when you fit when you make it for everyone everyone was born into it there's a family it's in sat their whole life and their son is not really the rightest fit to be within son he just he just can't do it and you're forcing him to do it and if he doesn't do it you're not exactly very understanding you become violent you could become very abusive you could become a lot of different things people that don't have you know a good foundation themselves unfortunately sometimes they make other people worse instead of making them better so what happens that person eventually breaks that woman or that man ends up breaking they say you know what if this is Judaism don't want it and they leave the they leave everything and they don't just leave and just say okay you know what I'll just continue keeping kosher they say you know what the whole thing if I'm not going to keep I'm not going to keep anything and what ends up happening is that they blame all of the problems of the additives that were added to the on God when it has nothing to do with him these are not the rules of God Hashem didn't make these rules these are things that the added it added Customs that's it not obligations you should act like your community if you're going to be in that Community but if you don't doesn't make you necessarily the biggest sinner in the world you're not going not losing your uh or anything the point being is that people have become confused at what Judaism is and what it's not to such an extent that anytime something doesn't work out they leave God they blame God for everything they blame it has nothing to do with him it has nothing to do with his Torah there's no that says listen you have to go into the middle of the woods every day and do for three hours no like that there's no it says you have to wear a hat no like that says you have to cover your head it's a reah doesn't say you have to wear a big hat small hat black hat blue hat doesn't say anything like that there's no says you have to wear a jacket as a matter of fact even though anyone that doesn't that's that believes in hem and is already in the process of doing CH already in the process of of fulfilling the anyone doesn't wear a is unfortunately a fool because he's missing out on the best easiest mitvah in the world but in reality you're not obligated to wear wear it unless you're wearing clothing with four corners that's it this is not part of C this is part of the but the point being here is that we have forgotten what is the and what is the and today in the name of when they asked them what should we teach people today this age and this ISS he died uh less than 10 years ago he says teach them he didn't just say one section of Judaism ISM or another section the basic most important part of Judaism that's what you teach nothing else why because we're so far from a we're so far from the truth that adding things to Judaism now making it for people that are not a right fit he can't do it if he's already in it and he wants to take it on himself and he has a rabbi that knows him and knows that he can handle it or knows that she can handle it but to say to the guy that just started uh chuva last week last month or even 6 months ago that him shaving is not uh is not a good thing listen he doesn't have to have a beard he doesn't have to have a hat if he wants it as a matter of fact it's better that he doesn't grow beard right away you have to also be ready to wear it it's not just everyone can wear it so nonetheless point being here is that the B just like the two other starting out by telling us first and formost understand where you stand don't take too much on yourself just focus on the most fundamental most important parts next let your fellow's belongings your fellow's money be as dear to you as your own just like your money is important to you let your friend's money be also important to you we'll explain what that means in a second apply yourself to study the Torah for it is not your inheritance unlike money that can transfer from generation to generation if you are from the Rothchild lineage you're probably Rich they had so the original Rothchild which by the way was a big and aik the original Rothchild had so much money got to such wealth that if he was alive today he would be richer than anybody else on the fores 500 list by at least a factor of 10 or 20 if not more unfortunately many of his descendants are not exactly what you call Fr but they still have money showing this exact point here that the inheritance as far as money that could transfer from generation to generation but being a being a it doesn't transfer that you have to earn and let all your Deeds be for the sake of heaven so as we know from every single week the basic already means a lot but when you go deeper into the details we see that there's a world of difference am amen so first and foremost let your fellow's belongings let your fellow's money be as dear to you as your own money is to you A lot of people are very careful about their own money you tell them listen why don't you give some no listen I got to save I got to save for the house I got to save for the car I got to save for the kids I got to save for this and I got to save for that very careful before they do anything unfortunately being stingy is a bad midad that many people have today especially when it comes to giving that's good quality to give money to Ping parties and Hanukah parties it's never difficult I've never heard of a poring party or H party that went bankrupt every single poring party or H party or any party in general that needed money got money you have these fund and GoFundMe and all these websites that you know try to help good causes many of them are Jewish causes raise money anytime in my experience that I've seen someone try to raise money for a wedding for party of any kind they get to that Target and sometimes very very quickly doesn't matter what the number is 5,000 10,000 50,000 I don't know why somebody doesn't have any money wants to raise 50,000 for a wedding but they do people love to give to parties they feel good about it they feel good about it they tell somebody listen I'm going to save a uh Soul okay I'll send $3 they send you $3 they send you $6 they send you $12 $18 they send but it's different level of first and foremost people don't have the understanding of the difference of what's important what's not second it's easier to see a party come to fruition you go to the party you saw it come to fruition guy saved the soul the guy became a sadik you don't see him you're not friends with them but the more important one is the one that we talked about last week is that not everyone has the to be part of helping somebody do CH but nonetheless when someone is careful about their money regardless it's a very very important thing to do you shouldn't just be wasteful with your money it's a bad thing to do you want to be poor be wasteful with your money one time when I was in the business world I wrote an article I used to deal with some athletes as clients and I wrote an article where statistically over 80% of NFL football players declare bankruptcy within I think 3 to four years of their retirement now the average NFL player we're not talking about the guys that just make it for 6 months and then you know get dropped we're talking about like successful ones talking people that have made 50 100 $200 million crazy amount of money $10 million even insane amount of money you have a guy named Terell Owens made $100 million in his career he's broke maybe he start making money back now I don't really know I haven't followed it but the point is I know at some point a few years ago you declared bankruptcy how do you lose $100 million it's very easy actually as crazy as that sounds it's very very easy to lose $100 million all you got to do is find a bunch of really bad friends which when you have money come to you naturally you don't even have to find them they make the job easy for you they don't have to e the loot they come to you by themselves and everyone somehow needs something all of a sudden everybody come became an entrepreneur yesterday was homeless today he's an entrepreneur he has an idea his whole life he wants to start and you're the investor you're the lucky guy you invest in this idea you invest in that idea all of these entrepreneurs and you you have the money you feel strong yeah you feel like you're a little mini Bill Gates your a little Warren Buffett you're investing in businesses lo and behold money's gone that's one way another way is buying fancy things that are beyond what your needs are instead instead of buying one house you buy five houses I had one player bought five Range Rovers in on the day he signed the contract five same car each one I think was like $75,000 you bought five of them just in case just in case one got lost five Range Rovers for what who knows maybe he want his friends to all Drive in the same why is five friends why you have that many friends five Range Rovers so the average NFL player loses all of his money within a few years of retirement and the reason why is because as soon as they retire the money stops coming in the retirement package that they get after they leave is nothing in comparison to what they were getting when they were playing and they end up losing every single penny they still have the same high level of spending they still spend 100 200 300,000 a month they're not making anywhere near it so they eat all of the money they have left cuz they think that you know I made $5 million a year for the last 5 years they think that they're always going to make $5 million a year not realizing that after you retire you're forgotten no one cares about that you ran a thousand yards last year no one cares that you are in a wed box no one cares that they you know that you aren't sneakers no one's even wearing them anymore you're old news and what happens you have this 25-year-old retired person he's 25 but he's retired and he has no idea what to do with his life and the same goes with other sports a little more and a little less in other sports some sports it's less some sports it's the same but nonetheless the career of athletes is mamash a tragedy so they tried having this organization called NFL PA the NFL players Association to help in one of the goals of this Association is to help these players manage their finances unfortunately it's not helping anyone for the most part the same statistic holds for the most part it's still a disaster for the most part even some of the advisers that are in this uh registration help these people lose their money so nonetheless one of the biggest reasons and why this happens to these players is first and foremost they have a work mentality of how their future looks like someone that's 25 years old thinks that is making $5 million a year or is making a lot of money is already assuming that the rest of his life is going to be the same I could tell you that from a as a financial expert I thought about it myself when I was making a lot of money I thought Hey listen if I'm already 26 and I just made $5 million by the time I'm 30 I'll probably be making 10 million without even working logically that's what made sense I didn't think that God's going to take control of the whole thing and just throw me out wash me up a little bit clean me up I didn't think about that that wasn't part of the equation the equation was logical rational if I'm already 26 and I just cashed in $5 million that means that based on this pattern by the time I'm 30 I should be making 10 million a year if not more this is the same type of mentality more or less of every young guy that makes a lot of money so first and foremost they when you are when a lot of money comes in very quickly a lot of money leaves very quickly and it gets to a point where you don't have any respect whatsoever for money it looks like chips throw them on a table you play with them you buy things you don't need you pay for people that you don't know you do a lot of stupid things with money so first you've already failed at the first part of this Mish by saying to respect your money you're not even respecting your own money but aside from now which is even worse you're enabling your friends your fellow you're enabling him to disrespect your money he already doesn't respect your money to begin with he just cares about himself he's selfish like everybody else is selfish but by you throwing your money around you're actually enabling him you're making him feel good about it so when he went out last week with him and his wife he had one drink one meal normal person you came out and he knew that you were paying all of a sudden he wants the bottle all of a sudden he doesn't do anything but Johnny Walker Blue $35 $45 a shot all of a sudden he's a connoisseur he's a connoisseur of special wine it's a connoisseur of a of scotch he no come on Johnny Walker black it's for regular people buddy you didn't even drink beer last week what do you know about Scotch all of a sudden every 18yearold with 100 bucks in his pocket knows about Johnny wbl every single guy knows this wine oh I see these kids this makes me drives me crazy I see these young kids sometimes they don't even have a job a job they don't have but their parents give them money M I don't know why these parents are such fools they give these 25 30y old kids that don't work they give the money what happens they give the money I see these kid doesn't have a job maybe 5 years he's almost 30 years old oh we were out one time I don't know where we were I think we're in Israel somewhere everybody order something to drink water Sprite you know it's hot this 29y old orders wine he orders wine and he you know he takes the glass and he goes shakes it like he's some connoisseur from the uh Food Channel he's like shaking it like and then he does these weird things with his mouth he starts shaking it in his mouth I just like want to take the wine and spill his come wake up bud wake up what is this nonsense what is this game who you showing off for who are you showing off for who are you showing off for so that's the thing what happens why it's all show off it's all nonsense when it comes to money if you're paying everyone's a connoisseur everyone knows the drinks they know this they know the this label and that label it's all nonsense 99% of people and probably even 100 but let's just give him 99.9% of people cannot tell the difference between a $8 B of wine and a $800 bottle of wine that's just reality this whole shaking wine letting the wine breathe shaking it in your mouth it's all nonsense all of it tastes like cigarettes has tobacco in it you like the taste you don't like the taste but it all tastes the same it's red it's white it's the same thing no one can tell the difference even had experiments where they actually had professionals they tell them taste this taste that most people failed they couldn't tell the difference what what happens when you're spending it when you're buying the bottle come on no you're only going to spend $100 on a bottle be a men $500 minimum it's for us your friends your friends be a sadik so everyone wants to be a sque with your money you tell the guy listen we need to raise money we need to raise $100,000 for cube sponsor CDs this oh yeah my friend my friend has a lot of money what about you you you now I didn't ask you if your friend's here no he's not here forget about your friend call your friend after the Sha what about you you you made 5,000 last month where's your male you made 10,000 last month where's your male oh you gave it away already you have anything left you have $5 left no I'll bring my friend I don't want your friend AEM didn't bring your friend here your friend doesn't have the what about you what about being generous with your money what be being generous with your stuff but everybody wants to be generous with somebody else's stuff everybody wants to be gener for somebody else stuff or better yet everyone is very very quick to say they're going to be generous in the future oh once I win the lotto if I win the lotto I'm going to give at least $100 million to to to do this once I do this I'm going to build a besset once I win the lotto I'm going to build this I'm going to buy this everybody's generous with money they don't have what about today you have five bucks in your pocket you have 10 you have 500 you have 50,000 what do you have if you have $50,000 or $115,000 sitting in your bank doing absolutely nothing collecting 1% interest because you're trying to save for some vacation or some car and there's people on your block that don't have food for Shabbat you're you have people don't have food to eat and you have you're worried by your IRA account you're R not that you're cheap I'm telling you you're R this is why the sadik didn't want to be rich one of the sadik his wife bought a lotto ticket as soon as he found out he immediately ran there and he says the entire lot ticket winnings are yours whatever you win is yours don't give me anything somebody asking for why not why don't you want to be rich you know how much CU you can do you know how much Tor you can spread you really think I want all that responsibility to make sure that I know who has and who doesn't have being rich is a big responsibility that means that if you're rich you have to spend part of your energy finding out who doesn't have you can't just say oh if they come to me I'll give them but they don't come to me I guess it's not from shamine no my friend Hashem gave you money you have to find out you have to find out who within your circle doesn't have big responsibility to be rich but now being rich with somebody else's money that's a different lack that's a big problem and one of the reasons for it is lack of respect people don't have respect for each other makes people very quick to spend other people's money this also happens in businesses I remember when people would want to buy something for themselves whether it be pens or it be I don't know whatever office supplies if they bought it on themselves usually they buy something very basic from Staples for a dollar but if I ask if I go to the office I tell them listen anybody needs I'm making an order from whatever store anybody needs anything everybody all of a sudden has the wish list $8 pen not dollar pen the fancy stapler for $27 all these things that are completely NE why because it's my money it's very easy to spend my money very easy so this is one of the things that convinces a person to do elaborates on this even further he says that this whole issue of money of having an easier time spending other people's money having an easier time disrespecting other people but thinking at the same time you're making a mitvah this is the is best the is there it makes you think you're doing a mitvah why you have money you have $50 to give somebody homeless came somebody needs somebody needs the C you $50 but your friend that you know for sure has 50,000 tell the guy no no you give give give give what about you no no it's easy to be generous with his money the makes you think you're doing a mitvah but in reality you're missing you're missing the point what is this like comes to a person with a very very small sin but it's a sin it looks like it's a sa of whether it's a sin or not it's like maybe a sin it's not a big deal sin all right it's like not really a sin but it's like a Kola it's like a you're a little lower level you've been eating let's say for example somebody's already in Judaism for a long time he's serious he already got to a point where he's eating he's already eating all of us sudden he's out of star he sees sees a Twix bar or Snickers bar it's not get come on it's just chocolate what's the big deal it's kosher when did you become the fact that you've been eating on it for 5 years already it makes you forget about it very quickly deal today tomorrow you'll do it all week today you have the Twix bar you're hungry starts off with a little tiny thing next thing you know he doesn't go with he says listen it's chocolate is it kosher list and it's chocolate what could it possibly be in chocolate it's just chocolate what it going to put CH Pig and chocolate when the last time you heard is a little pig foot in a Twix bar nothing wa what do you care it's just chocolate what's so big deal well you looking for a k listen on the vitamins list says vitamin K that's kosher yet is convincing you yesterday was to regular now it's just doesn't really need the kosher symbol because it's just chocolate so now he occupied a little bit more real estate the next thing you know now the original sin of is that wasn't really a sin it's not even a sin in your eyes anymore little by little now you're saying you know what I'm out I'm having a business meeting it's not that easy to find a kosher restaurant I'm going to have I'm not going to just sit there with my clients and not eat looks disrespectful they're from Greece they don't have to eat kosher they're from uh different places around the world they don't have to eat Kos I'm going to sit there it's disrespectable for me to sit there and not eat so you know what I'm going to do I'm going to eat salad I want to eat salad yeah but salad non koser place is worse than eating pig you forgot about this though why it's just salad Kasa it's a uh cabbage lettuce tomatoes a little bit of sauce what's the big deal you're not thinking about the fact that they're the go are not obligated to wash their vegetables like the Jews so you're much more likely to eat a bug in your non kosher salad which eating one bug is like eating pig five six times one bug Pig six times we not thinking about this why because it's a salad it's not nice is convincing you that listen if you don't eat next to these everything all of a sudden today if you're not like to go eat eat M enjoy the next thing you know that chocolate bar you're eating it every week it's not Kosher but it's not a sin anymore why because you've upgraded already to the salad after the salad it's pasta or some other parve if you will type of food but that's not Kosher and little by little eventually you graduate and start eating McDonald's non kosher and por por and shrimp and everything else how do you get from being FR to eating pig how the way you do it is very very simple originally comes to you and he says listen you have a very big beautiful house I don't have anything I'm a poor miserable man all I want is a place in your house to put my hat I just want my put my hat not my whole every just my hat you feel bad for the guy you know what okay no here you go this place I put a nail hang your hat in there says no no but listen I don't want uh anything for free I'll pay you for it is 100 bucks make you feel good go I got 100 bucks to put a nail on my put two Nails next day 3 o'clock in the morning yes yet is there he says listen I want to take my hat back I want to replace it with my new hat you couldn't come in a normal hour no you know I finish this now work is late he's convincing you little by little to give him more of your time after a couple of weeks of him showing up to ask for his hat or then replace it with a jacket or annoy you constantly eventually kazal explained to us that you had it and you just G the whole house as it says in thebat page 105 this is the way of the Satan this is the way of the first he tells you this to do this then he tells you to do something else first it's small then it's bigger then it's bigger then it's bigger and eventually he tells you go do and that's what you do why because he starts eventually taking control of the entire house this is the same thing with someone that slowly but surely falls off the first they start with the chocolate and little by little they become numb to that original sin because it really wasn't a sin it was a that they couldn't really uphold then they made a sin but it was a small sin they still felt good about themselves when they were laying when they were dressing modest when they gave Sak they still felt good about themselves they didn't think that eating the soo chocolate was such a big deal so they became numb to that eventually they wanted to look good in front of the go they so important to look good in front of the go not so good to look good in front of hem everyone worries about theim no one worries about Hashem so they want to eat salad with the go and the salad little by little became pasta now they're numb to the Sal Sal now is like kosher to them and little by little they become comfortably numb to their pre-existing sins eventually getting to a point where they're okay with it they're at one they're at peace with it it's the same thing that happens with people that wear wigs no woman at least most of them that came from a FR house is putting on a wig to make a sin generally most women that start when they get married they put on a wig they put a modest wig they're thinking they're doing a mitvah now how does it go from going from a wig that it says it's supposed to be even if technically it's not allowed but let's say if you go with the leniencies that it is allowed supposed to be short and supposed to not look like hair supposed to look like obviously this is not a real wig obviously this is not real hair but how does it go from that to looking like a a long hair that reaches your ankles it looks like you have a horest tail on your head How does it go from that it doesn't to go overnight first it goes the wig is goes from $500 to couple thousand looks a little extra real then it becomes real then it becomes a little inch longer and an inch longer and an inch longer and an inch longer and eventually so many inches add up you have three fet on your back and slowly but surely you become comfortable L numb to these pre-existing sins thinking no no I can always go back the same thing goes with anything else in life and that's one of the things that is telling us once a man allows any evil to penetrate his defenses he's no longer able to see the truth or accept rebuke he becomes spiritually deaf and blind like a Sentry the evil inclination stands guard at the entrance of his heart preventing any talk of change or growth this is similar to a King who appoint thieves as his PL as his palaces guards they would certainly never allow people who want to complain about them to enter the palace in so many words the is telling us once you let the in willingly say listen this chocolate what's the big deal this wig what's the big deal this uh light on Shabbat what's the big deal they meant don't light fire they didn't mean iPhones once you let the yet in a little bit he says automatically you become spiritually deaf well anyone that's telling you hey by the way no I don't think you're allowed to press the iPhone snooze button on Shabbat I don't think you're I don't know I mean I'm not sure if it's in yakut yourself but you should check all of a sudden like you check I know I know I know my stuff I went to Yeshiva for 20 years I know you don't want to hear anything you don't want to hear anything no one can tell you what to do why CU you've already let the yet in and the yet as soon as he come in he turned around and he became the guard he doesn't let anyone else in no one else is allowed to come in and complain about him he now runs the show you gave him a little space in your house eventually he's going to take over the entire house the ramban asks a question how is it that the brothers of yusf they're allim they're all neim they're all prophets extraordinary people they sold their brother they thought that they would do doing it for a right reason but finally when they discovered that yadik is the visero of Egypt he's second in command he's running the show over there finally the token fell in and they realized we have sinned 20 years of past you didn't think about it once maybe you messed up a little bit it took you 20 years to realize maybe you sinned what happened for 20 years you didn't do any bud you didn't think about it once re ffield explains that In the Heat of the sin a man is so captivated by the force of evil that he really hears and sees no legitimate counterargument once someone is in the heat of sin once someone is at the store about to buy that chocolate that doesn't have a kosher symbol on it just has a k but it's really a vitamin K he has a salad and it looks kosher but you know it's not Starbucks Hey listen they're using kosher milk but you're still not allowed to have it unfortunately a lot of uh people that call themselves rabbis permit going to Starbucks there's no koser sign in Starbucks there's no permission to go to Starbucks there's no orb at Starbucks or youu or anything at Starbucks their packaged Goods have a kosher sign on it but their store doesn't have a u on it why because they sell things that are not go they sell meat they sell all types of things you're not allowed to eat plus it's cooked by non-jews not to have itless a not to have it but you see some modernized rabbis themselves go to the Starbucks or sometimes mention in their lectures yeah you know this morning on the way to Sho I stopped by a Starbucks and I was thinking like wait wait hold on a second let's just stop forget about the sh you're about to give me wait you just say you went to Starbucks buddy you just say you went to you know it's not Kosher right like there's no like Starbucks in kosher unless there's the only one in the world that you have a franchise of there's no Starbucks at kosa what' you buy no no you know the coffee it's only coffee it's only coffee well if it's only coffee how come it doesn't have a u on it if it's only coffee but they ran out of money they spent the $67 billion that they have in the bank on everything else they don't have enough money to pay for the U or the K it's not Kosher it's not koser we make leniencies we make a lot of leniencies leniencies leniencies eventually we start breaking the law why because takes over but In The Heat Of It In the Heat of the sin even the rabbi even thead even sometimes someone a is not going to see it as yet is already inside he already let him in he already had a coffee at a place that was questionable yesterday a today at least if I'm going to have coffee in a place that's questionable let me have the Starbucks let me have good quality coffee yesterday I went to a place I'm not even sure I forgot to look for the go or not forgot yesterday I forgot today I didn't forget but you know what it's just coffee what's the big deal what's the big deal that many coffee companies use beetles as part of their ingredients what's the big deal big deal is that beetles a nakha that's the big deal so that's the thing when we let the in we come spiritually deaf numb blind and even if you tell the guy something the Fright fell to saying he won't even see what you're saying he doesn't even see that there's a possibility of a counterargument because the nail is already in it's already paying rent on the wall with the hat on it he's thinking well I'm going to get this guy to kick I'm going to kick him out what kind of Rashad do you think I am what I'm going to tell the guy from Starbucks that hey forgot it's not koser I have to give it back to you please going look bad it's everything's it's when they give it back say what the Jews are not drinking our coffee now we live in this wonderful country with all of these merits we can't even drink their coffee they start making up all these arguments and then he continues and he says only when they were overcome by therapeutic guilt and spiritually began to disengage themselves from the hold of the evil inclination to the brothers the 12 tribes realized that Joseph had begged for mercy all during the time of their sale only after they realized they got a reality check the world we saw is not the world we live we thought he was a Rashad King he's actually the brother that we sold and thought that he died the truth we thought was the truth is no longer the truth it's actually a lie someone that was born Christian one day woke up and realized the New Testament is a fairy tale complete a falsehood they got a reality check 20 years someone is trying to convince him hey by the way why don't you read the old test esate AKA Torah no no no I trust my uh Reverend my priest my whoever I'm only learning about JY Penny now you didn't want to hear anything about King David unless the priest approved it he didn't care about abrah ainu because it's it's not it's not relevant anymore Moses yeah Moses yeah Moses is a nice guy but I I have still have to catch up on Jesus he didn't want to hear anything he didn't want to hear anything but then one day reality set in and he saw a contradiction that gave him a complete different world and he realized this book is fake this New Testament is fake Everything Changes all of a sudden all the doors open and all he wants us to consume as much Torah as possible the secular mindset thought that we all came from monkeys eventually realizes the monkey still here if we came for monkeys why is the monkey still here how come he didn't evolve how come the monkey still here me scan what happened they forgot him or carbon dating all these dating systems that date the world World 50 zillion years and 50 billion years and if all of these dating systems are right how come every scientist have a different year how come one guy says it's 50 million years and the other guy says it's 67 million years and they make it like it's not a big deal what do you mean it's 17 million years another guy says it's 2 billion years another guy says 250 million years they throw millions and billions like it's a chump change you're only 60 years old and your you feel like you're life is very long but you just threw 15 million years like it's nothing So eventually somebody said you know what this doesn't make any sense and all of a sudden he wants to understand what the purpose of life is all of a sudden he wants to know the meaning of everything is there a Creator what's his name and if there is one and now I know his name I need to know what he said and all of a sudden all of the gates open and you want to consume as much Torah as possible now after we start understanding that the fact that we are not respecting others like respect our own things start to change but how do we get to that point how do we get to the point where you know what at home we don't let our kids run around like crazy because we don't want them to break the house for whatever reason or another people feel free to bring their kids to a synagogue or to a mall or to a different public area and let them break everything oh no it's just kids just kids just kids why you know it's not just kids what do you mean manage your kids if you don't want them to break stuff in your house don't let them Break Stuff in someone else but that's all a matter of respect but how do you get to that point the next part that is telling us is yourself to study Torah in essence telling you already right off the bat the only way to fix yourself in general your your ethical flaws your character trait flaws which eventually will lead you to respect your friends family and everyone around you is with Torah because it's the only thing that's any truth at all times meaning some things in the world in a secular world can be true and some you know at at some points and sometimes they're they're false example would be if let's say for example you have your kids and they come to your friend's house or you go to a synagogue and you know a little 5-year-old kid breaks something in your mindset it'll make sense not Torah sense it'll make sense that you should pay for it you little 5-year-old broke something you should pay for it now on the other hand if you brought your dog a lot of people have dogs or different pets and a dog jumped on the table and broke something what's the immediate reaction let sorry it's my dog people don't generally get the feeling like they have to pay for it because a dog did it okay it's my dog but it's a dog so the secular mindset says that everything I just said is right the kid broke it you should pay the dog broke it you don't have to pay in the Torah it's the exact opposite the 5-year-old broke something you're not obligated to pay the parent is not obligated to pay the kid should pay for it once he grows up and becomes a mature as a something that's righteous to do but the parent does not have to pay for it on the other hand if the animal broke something you'll have to pay for it showing us that our secular mentality is so upside down and different Torah which is the reason why is telling that the only way you can fix this is with tor you have to know the truth first you have to know the truth in order for you to fulfill it but now he didn't just say go learn Torah like we've heard many many times he's saying here apply yourself fix yourself really means fix what fix what a person needs to know inm says I created has multiple names Moses called him which which means evil many many different names Hashem gives a description he's huge he's smart he's strong we can't take him we can't beat him but he says I created that you can't beat be stronger smarter older wiser everything better than you but I created a potion to beat him a potion it's called Torah now obviously if the is as smart as they say he is he obviously knows the potion against them meaning that R is preparing you here already he's like listen that you're trying to beat he knows you're trying to beat him so prepare yourself for war because throughout the whole day you're working you're hanging out you're by the pool you're watching the game you're doing everything in the world that's completely a went away from hem yet will help you he'll bring the pool to your house he'll make your car faster he'll give you money to buy a fancy car he'll break your car just so you go spend hours at the shop he'll make you your team win sometimes just so you can spend and waste more time and energy watching stupid Sports he'll do whatever he can just so you don't spend time do learning Torah why because as soon as you start learning Torah you're killing him so now if you want to work on these mid that we talked about prepare for war because it's soon as you open that book as soon as you decide oh my 15 minutes a day begins now my hour a day begins now my two hours the day begins now my 5 hours the day begins now whatever your time is to learn Torah daily is because as we all know it all has to be daily just like you have to eat and breathe daily you have to learn to daily just like that as soon as you're on the way he's also already at work and he's going to send you every single distraction you can possibly imagine there was one time a story a real story older man in his late 60s him and his wife had a deli in Israel one day he went to F started getting stronger and said you know what I'm going to take on myself to start learning to seriously instead of just once in a while so one day he didn't really want to get his wife involved so instead of opening the Delhi at 5:00 in the morning he went to the synagogue learned a little bit then prayed and continued learning didn't show up to the deli until 10:00 his wife worked with him she went at 5:30 she saw he's not there like oh maybe he's late maybe he's busy with something so she already started the day thinking I'll be there by 600 6:30 7 guy shows up at 10:00 hey you not you should be ashamed of yourself coming to work at 10:00 didn't say anything why cuz we said already argument is two ways if you don't answer you don't acknowledge you don't continue the fire it ends the next day same thing every day is an arguing she's like what's going on with this guy you know what today by the third day I'm going to follow him she follows him he leaves the house at 5:00 she wakes up 2 minutes later she starts following him where is this guy going at five o'clock in the morning and she sees he goes to besset learns praise a little bit and he learns all maybe he's probably going to leave here at 600 she waits 5 6 6:30 7 he's already it's 2 hours and he's still opening the books reading no sign of him leaving and she realized this is the place that he spends 5 hours a day she barges in at 8:00 what are you doing we need to make a living we need to do this we need to do that you're here what all of a sudden after almost 7 years you decide to become an all of a sudden you're a CU you went to what are you doing we need to run our business we need to make money it's just idea I'm already in my late 60s I don't know how long I'm going to live now what would you do if I died tomorrow what would you do with to Deli she didn't really expect that kind of a response she expected him to argue yell back say no yes something she didn't really expect it to talk be so morbid start talking about death you said I you died I'd go back to business and you know I run the store what could I do okay so this is what you do from now on act like I'm dead from 5:00 a.m. to 10:00 a.m. act like I'm dead at 10:00 a.m. you get to see Miracles resurrection of the dead I'm back to work this is what R is telling you in order to prepare yourself to even have a chance you even have a chance to beat the you have to fulfilled the verse a man would die in the in is a what's oil in Hebrew in English um tent tent is referring to a place you learn T what do you mean die in his uh in his tent meaning when you're going to learn Torah the world around you should act as if you died your phone buzzing every two seconds if it buzzes even half as much as what mind buzzes you have to throw it in the garbage not just hide it throw it in the garbage why because there's no way you can study t with serious kavana with serious like Focus every two seconds you have this Buzz every two seconds this one's calling that one's calling no no it just don't vibrate yeah but you see the screen today screens are getting bigger and bigger the phones of today look like the tablets of yesterday like I saw a guy with a phone the other day and a phone this big I'm like it's like a television how do you put this in your pocket you need a bag just for the phone but if you have if your phone's next to you and it buzzes even half as much as mine you're not going to make it it's going to be very very tough on the other hand you have kids you have a wife you have everything you have to prepare the house to know this next 15 minutes next hour next 15 hours whatever it is act like I'm dead don't answer like just everyone has to chip in everyone has to chip in because if let's say for example you're trying to study every two seconds your wife knocks honey do you uh want to go this weekend to Charlie and Steve or do you want to stay home no I don't know maybe we'll just stay home okay 10 minutes later honey what did you want me to make for Shabbat make whatever you want schnitzel is good okay 15 minutes later honey what did you want to do you want me to get the red wine or the uh white wine for the sh every 50 minutes she comes to your office to ask you questions how you going to study how you going to every two seconds you have to answer questions every two seconds you have to look somewhere every two seconds you have to change something how are you going to how you going to succeed now this is not only about success it's also if you look at what rabish shimai said it's very very scary he says someone that studed iies but then stop studying in the middle of studying without a plan to go deal with nonsense to go deal with the World At Large in the middle of studying they take coal they call that never stops burning and feed him this in gay now when I first read this in the you're studying T in this genertion someone studies 5 minutes to should already get you're telling the guy he studies and he stops studying to go I don't know go watch a commercial go change a diaper go talk to his wife about what they cook for Shabbat that's that's you're going to punish him for that he answers a text how could it be this a little extreme come on let me Shimon relax a little bit how do we answer this tough question on one end is telling us a person has to act as if he's dying page 63 says if a person wants to become a he has to be he has to be willing to kill himself for it you want to attain Torah like a you have to be willing to M kill yourself for it another end okay fine this sounds great willing to study exert my effort sleep less do less secular stuff work do everything less just to study to all fine but hey once in a while I'm a human being once in a while I have a text message once in a while I have a phone call I have to answer this phone call I'm going get punished for this phone call I'm going to get punished for answering my wife telling her that I don't feel like picking up the kids from Camp it's a punishment it's that bad there's not enough in the world you have to focus on me now the answer there is is based on the fact that we have no idea what it actually means to study Torah the book of Jeremiah Hashem says to Jeremiah if not for my Covenant day and night the laws of the world the laws of creation will will cease to exist andat says here is referring to Torah learning meaning Hashem is telling Jeremiah the prophet if someone is not learning Torah in the world at all times 24 hours a day there has to be somebody learning tah the world's laws will cease to exist meaning now you have gravity no longer have gravity gravity now you have oxygen no more oxygen now all of the atoms are spinning to make everything look like it's solid no more spinning and for anyone that understands science when Adams stop spinning the subject evaporates it dis disappears doesn't explode doesn't break just disappears we talked about it in a different lecture but nonetheless Hashem is telling us here that if it's not for the Torah someone in the world is learning the world will cease to exist meaning that you little guy that's studying a little Kash at 11:30 at night he studying a little whatever you're up to at 1:00 a.m. at 1 p.m. whenever that is you barely understand what they're even saying but you're studying you're trying you're breaking your head a little bit of sweat almost as much as I'm sweating today because no AC you're breaking a sweat you my friend are responsible for a certain part of the world at that moment why now out of let's say right now we have about 7.37 billion people in the world let's just call it 7.4 billion people in the world out of the 7.4 billion people approximately 20 million are Jews give or take some say 13 million some say more some say less let's just say 20 million 20 million or 13 million it's the same on a grand scheme of things out of 7 and a half billion people it's a rounding error out of the 20 million people 2 million keep Shabbat which in essence means that out of the 20 million people the 2 million that keep Shabbat approximately 2 million maybe 3 million they're the ones that are more likely learning T the ones that are not keeping Shabbat most likely are not learning t on a regular basis maybe once in a while they're watching but on a regular basis they're most likely not learning to so now you've already lowered the number out of let's say the 3 million that are learning to on a regular basis not all of them are learning at the same time some are learning at night some are learning a day some are learning for an hour some are learning for 15 hours some I'm are learning for 15 minutes so now you've narrowed it down even more to that one hour now there's different time zones one guy is learning at 1: in the afternoon but the other guy that learns also learns at 1 the afternoon but here in one the afternoon is 24 is 17 hours later 8 hours later 7 hours later meaning they're never learning at the same time so at any one particular moment I don't know maybe you have 50,000 let's say give or take 15,000 even they're actually learning to in the world 15,000 or 50,000 even if you have 100,000 learning tah 100,000 people learning toah now if you had 2 million people studying toah that means that each person is responsible for approximately 3,700 people in the world meaning 3,700 people in the world are alive because of him learning to that's if all 2 million are learning in reality it's not all 2 million you have a half a million learning at the same time times it by four approximately 14,000 each each person is responsible for 14,000 people most likely it's 50,000 which means that each person is responsible for 140,000 people being alive that 15 minutes that he's learning that one hour that he's learning meaning that if he didn't learn Hashem would end the lives of 150,000 people you understand what means to learn Tora people celebrate CU they have 5,000 friends on Facebook that they don't even know I'm telling you you learned t for 5 minutes you're responsible for 150,000 people being alive in the book of jeriah chapter 32:32 Hashem talks about how upset he is that am is this time they angered him many times we've let him down unfortunately but here he specifically says that he kicked us out of the country because we angered him not only did we do evil but we angered him it says in the verse because of all the evil that the children of Israel and the children of Judah that they committed to anger me they and their kings and their officers their priests and their prophets and the people of Judah and the inhabitants of Jerusalem so what do they do so bad get angry listen hem we let him down many times but he specifically says we angered him to me they turned their back and not their face and though I I taught them arise early in teachings they do not listen or to accept rebuke he says listen I taught them many things they won't even listen to what I'm saying they won't even accept the M the prophets that I'm sending them to tell them the truth they won't even listen to them people that are talking to me directly they won't even listen to them but he says something different here from all of the verses he says they turn their back and not their face now if I turn my back to you that obviously means you don't see my face why is there a repetition of turning back and the face it's two of the same thing it means the same thing why is there repetitional explained that this is Hashem is trying to tell us that this is a double sin a double sin which we learn in Chapter 2 of Jeremiah in chapter 2 verse 13 it says for my people have committed two evils they have forsaken me the source of Living Waters to dig for themselves sisters broken sisters that cannot hold the water so Shem is telling us here you made two sins first you left me you're making sins first you said listen I can't keep Shabbat cuz I got to work I got to work on Shabbat but what do they replace me with they replace me with falsehood H Satan showed up so the Facebook live died cuz my phone died let's see let's try it again sorry Facebook live people the uh battery is dying we only have a short period of time left but nonetheless anything you miss you'll be able to see on YouTube or to anytime or b.org but here hasem is telling Jeremiah they made two sins first they left me that's already a sin said I can't keep Shabbat then I asked them why why can't you keep Shabbat he said I have to work but in reality 6 months later they use that money that they made on Shabbat to go on vacation to Cancun to go buy a fancier car to go buy a bigger house if you have all this extra money to go on vacation what you need to work on Shabbat for how come you have extra money to give to vacation but you don't have extra money to give how come you can't keep Shabbat you have to work on shabat all year but on your vacation it's okay you don't work you can take two weeks off for vacation but you can't take off one day a week for Hashem so it's not only the sin there's theah of the sin so that makes it a double sin and hasem says that made me angry it's not just a sin they made it's not that they just went and worshiped idols they worship nothing they replaced me the source of water with a little hole that can't even contain the water that I gave them to fill in it what happens to people to make this double sin if you go to Psalm 115 verse1 17 King David says translation neither the dead can praise God nor anyone who descends to Duma what's Duma Duma is the Angel responsible for the excuse Department in G all of those people that had special excuses of why they're not keeping Shabbat CU they needed to work but yet it wasn't because of work all of the women that said I can't be modest because people make fun of me but that really wasn't true it's because they want to get attention all of the people that made all types of excuses for hasem says don't worry you have a special Department reserved for you Duma will take care of you you become BFFs real quick and Jeremiah gave us a pretty serious we got today sunny and I we saw something very scary continuing in Chapter 2 here in verse 20 hasem is telling us that we've let the control us to the point where we are acting like a harlot we're acting like a prostitute chasing money we're just oh you have a thing so you could take it off yeah take the thing off and then uh there you go Facebook you uh get to the rescue do that got it okay we got an extra battery like yeah I think so yeah it's good looks professional looks like I'm doing I know what I'm doing here so Hashem says here in verse 20 chapter 2 verse 20 for I have always broken your Yol and torn off your straps and you have said I will not transgress yet upon every lofty Hill and under every leafy tree you wander like a harlot Shem says you're the one that says you're going to be religious you're going to do chuva going to start keeping what keeping you started keeping Shabbat but you're still a thief at work you started keeping kosher but you still yell at your wife Non-Stop you started learning T but you don't listen to a word the sages say you go to bedet but you're thinking about the baseball game instead of thinking about the fact that you're in front of hasem everywhere your yet is taking you you're going just like a prostitute to such an extent that he talks about the end of times in verse 26 seven say yet got us to a point where we're worshiping Idols it says they say to the wood you are my father and to the stone you have borne us if any of you remember in my other the book of Deuteronomy chapter 4 Hashem gives us a prophecy of what's going to happen at the end of times after we've made many sins we're going to get to a point where hasem is going to throw us out and we're going to continue sinning and what's going to happen we're going to follow the god of wood and the god of stone if you remember in chapter 4 verse 27- 28 says Hashem will scatter you amongst the people and you will be left few in number amongst the Nations where Hashem will lead you there you will serve Gods the handiwork of man of wood and stone which do not see and do not hear and do not eat and do not smell he's saying these two Idols fall the handiwork of men of wood and stone is what you're going to follow wood representing Christianity Stone representing Islam you're going to follow this idol worship you're going to follow falsehood all types of heresy before you come back to Hashem that's what you're going to do here many many centuries later he's telling Jeremiah the very same thing he's saying that these they already went to that they're saying to the Wood meaning they're saying to Christianity hey you're my father and to Stone saying you're born to us and we all came from the same place and then he continues and he says to me they turned their backs and not their faces again he's saying the the double sin but in their time of distress they will say arise and save us said eventually when they get into serious serious trouble they're going to say Hashem this God of wood and stone is not helping us this falsehood is not helping us you need to help us now all of this sounds wonderful sounds far away until today I saw a clip that was published maybe a year ago anyone that's been following some of the current events what's happening with terrorism and things of such you see that Isis is doing everything they possibly can to not only kill as many people as possible but to scare everyone that's still alive so one of their scare tactics is that they brought some Arabs that speak Hebrew to make videos and send it to Israel to scare them saying we're coming to you we're coming to scare you we're coming to kill you we're coming to fight the war don't think that just because we're in Syria or we're in Iraq or we're in all these places is that you're okay we're coming to you now this has happened several times there several videos you can find online quite a few of ISIS killing people and so on is even a handful or so where they're actually speaking Hebrew which is more intimidating for anyone that speaks Hebrew why because it's showing that these people lived in Israel at some point meaning that they're they were breed in Israel but the rest of these terrorists that live over there that uh you know these Arabs that hate Israel live there but they them but what's the scary part the scary part is that in the clip we're about to publish in the next few days you're going to see this terrorist from Isis talking in Hebrew and he says we're coming to you it's going to be a big war not a war it's going to be a big war the war of stone and wood just like the prophet said in accordance to what Hashem put in his mouth the end of times there's going to be a war of stone and wood it's not so far away from home sages ask why did such big punishment come to am is that's mentioned in Jeremiah CH 3 to CH threw him out got angry why for what what did they do that was so okay you know many times we made other sins but here he's not just talking about idol worship here he's saying they angered him what do they do he says the punishment came meaning because they didn't make a blessing before they started learning to a blessing that's it that's our problem is a problem not eating koser wasting seed this is what you're telling me we didn't make a blessing we learned toah we didn't make a blessing that's why you destroyed everything another page 881a says some some sages have sons that don't end up being not everyone has children even he's a they don't end up being just like it says in apply yourself to Torah study for it's not your Yours by inheritance just because you're does not mean that your children will also so the asks why and it gives the very same answer because they didn't make a blessing before they start to learn Tor is asking it's that much of a big deal to make a blessing learn to that to the point where you can destroy everything for it no not it's not the blessing that's important it's what's behind the blessing these learned T they were prophets there were were they were amazing people they sat down they took they started learning they started learning started learning and Hashem says that's a problem today we'd be lucky for if I could just convince everyone in the room to start learning every day and you're telling me that not making a blessing is a problem what's the meaning behind this the meaning behind this is the problem we have back then is the very same problem we have today we have no idea what it actually means to learn Tor because had we known what it is to learn to we wouldn't stop if we knew what it means to learn T that every time you open the book AEM shows up you open a Tor 10 people learn together comes nine people comes kazal says all the way to the point where even if you're studying by yourself the comes meaning you have a meeting with the King of Kings is coming here and what are you doing you're learning then you're answering the text and you're looking at the bunny video he look honey look at what happened look at the baby pictures what is this like someone is having heart surgery heart surgery is no joke the middle of surgery top surgeon in the world stops the surgery cuz he has buzzing in in his pocket takes the phone he starts looking he starts laughing everybody looks at him why is he laughing about they go over to his phone and he all watch and he sees little cartoon videos that his grandson sent him and he starts laughing at this sees Bobby's World he starts laughing at this cartoon meanwhile the patient's Heart is Open bleeding everywhere and he's laughing at the video if the owner of the hospital manager of the hospital president of the hospital even the patient's family saw this idiot doctor playing with his phone in the middle of the surgery what would they do they'd probably switch places with him make sure he has the heart surgery tomorrow this is us when we learn Tora and we let the world around us distract us this is us we have a meeting with the King of Kings but we're looking at our phone we're looking at the television in the background we're managing a conversation with the wife with the friends thinking not a simple par this week it's just Moses just C you know past the Sea of reads great Miracles oh what's the game What's the score oh yeah yeah they continue reading like it's a Harry Potter book that's what the means here they sat down even them even the sages sat down and they didn't think enough about the fact that they're about to meet when they're learning to so they didn't make a blessing was so Focus they wanted to just go down to the learning oh even if you're a sage even if you're is considered higher than a prophet higher than a prophet even if you're even if you even if you're a t you must prepare yourself to learn T not just learn toah prepare yourself to learn toah because when you open that book comes you have a meeting you have a meeting with the King of Kings act with some respect act with some care don't act like it's a baseball game don't act like it's just another thing I'm just opening a what's the big deal just learning he says if you don't treat it with respect not only is that enough to make AEM upset but it's to the point where your kids are going to see you they see how disrespectful you are to the tah okay so you know a few verses by heart okay you even know a few dine by heart so what so what to them there's no book He's reading this old book from 2,000 years ago that's why they're not going to come in and they're not going to say Hey listen that's your you own that it's not my inheritance I just want money I just want money so to end it off a BC said say everything that you do must be for the sake of Heaven you want to get to a point of learning to like you're supposed to you want to get to a point of becoming a you have to start adjusting your life to make sure you're ready to learn toah you have to start adjusting your life to start learning to for the sake of learning T not just learn T but learn learn for the sake of learning t as the says chapter 31 all of one's motives should be directed for the sake of Heaven everything that a person does has to be sh not because he's getting money not because he's expecting a reward not because he wants hasem to help him on something specific he's doing it simply because he has to do it says do do says keep Shabbat you keep Shabbat not because there not because you make it not because you want hm to send you anything no you do it purely because that's what you have to do you start treating tah like that where I have to learn just like I have to breathe just like I won't go a day without breathing I'm not going to go another day without eating and I'm not going to go another day without learning Tor you start treating the Tor like that you have a chance to succeed in the book to remain a Jew byak zilber he gives an amazing example on page 364 says all the things that he did in his life he went through practically a holocaust and a lot of craziness in Russia persecution beat him up took his money tortured him and his family went to jail for just being a Jew he says my most important thing that I wanted to do every day aside from obviously teaching the public Torah was to teach my son a little tah also teach my son one day I was really really tired in the middle of the sh was started to fall asleep so I fall asleep in the middle of a sh get tired it's 12:00 at night fall asleep and my son said ABA why don't you take some rest and I thought to myself yeah you know what I really should rest I really was tired then I said to myself maybe just the maybe she is making me tired so I said to my son okay wake me up in a half hour that's all I need I need a half hour just to get myself power nap I got a half hour I woke up and we started studying we had a great lesson but the most important lesson of that day was this was that I finally realized and learned what it means to do everything the sh what to do everything for the sake of Heaven two people exist two people have the same exact job both made the same amount of money both let's say make $75,000 a year as an example I'm going to give you now two people make $75,000 both of them work same amount of hours they both work 12 hours a day let's say they both make $75,000 one guy makes all of his money and works as hard as he does to make sure that he has money to pay for the vacation to Cancun or to Israel or to Mexico or different place I think Cancun is actually in Mexico so somewhere else to grease or to buy some furniture or to buy a newer car the other guy he makes the same amount of money same amount of work same amount of effort but he works this hard so he could afford to give his children Torah education they go to good Yeshiva where the teachers are koser and they're not beating up kids like we hear every other day kosher teachers Kos teachings not boys and girls separated real Yeshiva like it's supposed to be and then he has extra money to give some for people that are in need and he has some money to help other Souls come back to Hashem do some K now both people make the same amount of money both people work just as much they both work 12 hours a day they both make $75,000 but when they both are arve to shim their is Worlds Apart the one that made 75,000 for the vacation and the furniture and the car and all the stuff that he had they say that what did you do in this world and he says listen I worked I worked I worked I worked and I worked so how much T did you learn no not so much H maybe like 15 minutes a day okay so you have 15 minutes a day times 100 years that's what you have the other guy comes say what you do in the world like I worked I worked I worked I worked I worked and what' you do with the money I did this like oh every single minute of your job is considered as if you learned T why because the only reason you worked is not because you wanted to get fancy hotels and fancy cars and fancy anything even if you got them even if you out a house even if you had a fancy car but the main purpose of you working hard was to make sure that you're supporting Torah supporting supporting and the other things were just a byproduct it's considered as if every minute of your job was considered as if you learned Tor in addition to the Tor that you learned obviously in reality you can't say listen I work all day and I learn there's no such thing as a righteous person that's also an ignorant you have to learn T in addition to working but nonetheless if every job that you did everything you did had AEM in mind I'm doing this so I can learn more tah publish more tah support more T it's considered as if it's all Torah and R zilber says that half hour nap I didn't nap just because I wanted to sleep just like any other animal I need to sleep but I slept just so I could learn better to if every one of your actions is for the purpose of getting to Tor then you can fulfill the issue we had in the past where we arrived at Torah but we didn't know what to do with it we didn't even make a blessing and that's one of the most important things that a Jew needs to understand if you start valuing the tah what it really is it becomes easier it becomes more valuable if every time you learn to you start thinking you know what there 150,000 people or more that are alive just because of this very simple sh we had for the last couple of hours couple hundred thousand people are alive because I sat here I learned to that seems more valuable that seems more significant that makes you feel like the Superman you really are but if you're thinking listen if I know I don't know if I know the I don't know I'll just follow what everybody else is doing then it's very easy for us to fall and the fall as we talked about in the beginning of this sh is very very far we start with a little thing that doesn't seem like a big deal listen I don't know what the is but I'll just read along I'll read along I don't know what I need to do on Shabbat but I'm going to his house I'll just do what he does seems like it's not such a big deal I'm new anyway next thing you know you've become used to this small nonsense sin then you start actually sinning but it's a small sin then it's a bigger sin and little by little the yet takes control and makes himself comfortable inside your and la and behold eventually takes complete control and you're back to where you started before chuva or even worse and it's much harder to do chva a second time that's why some of the most difficult people to help come back to Hashem are people they used to be religious cuz they already think they know everything so is telling you be careful with all of your Torah because it's not something that you're just going to get by default just because you read a book just because your father knew something just because your uncle knew something just because even because you used to know something if you don't learn to on a daily basis you'll lose it Hashem says you leave me for a day I leave you for two not because hasem is punishing you and he's being taking Vengeance but because the Torah is a moving Target if you're not growing with Target you're not growing with Torah you're shrinking meaning the Torah is moving forward with or without you it's moving if you're not going to find out this tonight someone else will it's moving you're either going to be on the train or you're not going to be on a train which means if you leave it today it's going to continue moving so by the time you figur it out oh wait I got to go back to t you missed it for a day the Torah is already a day apart from you meaning now it's a two-day difference you went here it went there now you have to catch up it's much much more difficult to do Chua now you leave it for three days 5 days a week a month the next thing you know you become and you lost everything you knew and this is why the video that we talked about is so scary cuz while the Arab terrorists know exactly what's going on that this is the war of wood and stone we're still here twiddling our thumbs trying to figure out you know what can I really make it tonight to study for an hour We're still trying to convince ourselves to whether we're going to study Torah or not they're already on the page of where hasem is putting them and we're still trying to figure out where we are so this wakeup call wakes up our gets us to start honoring the Torah like we're supposed to and get closer and closer to any questions amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music]