Modesty is Priceless (12 minutes)

[Music] is also one of the good advices for B is that if you want to take a mitvah on if you want to do something new want to do chabbat you want to do you want to do anything you want to do something that's new learn about it the more you learn about a Mitzvah the more you connect to that Mitzvah the more you connect to that Mitzvah the more you have will power to do that Mitzvah but if you don't know what you're doing anything if I tell you listen go be modest you tell me why be modest everybody else is naked why you modest well if you learn what hasem thinks about it it makes it a little easier and simply said Hashem views every every creature as his creation but a Jewish woman is even more so simply because she's the one responsible for bringing more of his chosen people so Jewish if let's say for example a Jewish man is considered here a Jewish woman is considered not just the same level in many cases even higher for example s menu was a higher level Prophet than abam she was a higher level Prophet than AB that's whym said to abah listen to your wife so now a Jewish woman if she was let's say if we use the analogy of a diamond if we use analogy of a diamond I I read recently that there was the most expensive diamond that was ever sold was sold recently for $71 million it was a pink diamond pink diamond was sold for $71 million certain carrots certain clar all types of stuff W it's cool looking Stone to me but point is is that it was a diamond it was $70 million the lowliest of all low Jewish women is worth an infinite amount more than that to an infinite amount more than that $71 million Diamond but now let's say you took that $71 million Diamond you have $71 million Diamond pink diamond cool class I don't know do something on put it on the arm or something put on your head whatever you do with the diamond but what are you going to take this diamond and you go on the street hey guys look what I have hey look look I got a diamond I got a diamond you can do that in the middle of Fifth Avenue 47th Street hey guys look I got this big diamond $71 million haha I got 71 million you going to do that you going to go in the middle of Florida say hey guys you got $71 million diamond diamond diamond who wants two for 140 two for you going to do that two for 100 you going do that no why what are you going to do you're going to put it in a safe why because a diamond $71 million Diamond you put in a safe and you're going to put the safe inside another safe and that safe in another safe and then you're going to switch safes you tell them it's in this safe but it's in another safe and on both safe you're going to put security guards and the security guards are not even going to know what they're securing and the security guards going to have to go to a special gate to put codes with igac everything just to make sure that no one knows what's going on and what they're protecting because you're protecting your $71 million diamond right a Jewish woman is infinitely infinitely more valuable than the $71 million Diamond that you have all the safes and the guards and the bodyguards and this infinitely more valuable so why you going out and showing the whole world what you look like why you going out showing the whole world what your body looks like your hair looks like why if it's valuable you don't show it to the crowd if it's valuable you protect it you respect it you honor it so modesty is not keeping women down modesty is honoring women modesty is protecting women women modesty is valuing women that's what modesty is you look at every highlevel classy woman in history Jew or non-jew you will never find one that's not modest never no one ever says Cleopatra was modest and no one ever says she was classy either no one but no one ever says hey you know Queen Elizabeth is not classy they say she's classy no one says she's pretty but but they say she's classy why this just the reality as a diamond that's of infinite value you can't go around showing your goods to the world it only belongs to your husband if you don't have a husband your future husband so when a woman goes out with short sleeves she doesn't cover herself she shows her whole body she shows different parts of our body it goes against all logic and what's that logic you don't realize you're a diamond when a woman walks out showing her body showing her skin to the world acting IM modesty looking immodest having the short skirts or pants and pretty much giving everyone a free ride to see what she looks like naked in so many words she herself herself is telling everyone I'm not Priceless I'm worthless instead of being what Hashem says you're Priceless you're Priceless I want to protect you I want to honor you I want to make sure no one sees other than your husband that's allowed he's only has permission to see you because he signed a contract because he's going to follow the Tora he's allowed to see you because he signed a contract it's the only reason he's allowed to see it and it's only if you want it only if you want him to see it he's allowed to see it otherwise no one's allowed to see it but to go show it to the world for free you took yourself from being Priceless to worthless you don't go around taking a $71 million pink diamond and throwing it in the air like a baseball saying hey look what I have so why are you taking your body and showing it to the whole world our secular mindset can never get to that logic why because you have a Satan in the way Satan tells you the less clothes you have the prettier you are even if you're 690 lb this is The Logical mind this is The Logical Satan mind that's fooling you to believe everything the opposite of what you're supposed to they say the Judaism in the Torah is against women there's no document in the world that honors women more than the Torah none because no one values women as much as the Torah does both Jews and non-jews both Jews and non-jews must be modest both must be modest and the reason why is because you are Priceless it's not just because you lead other people to sin yes that's definitely another reason when another man looks at you and he thinks about you naked or or makes sins because of you of course you're leading other people to sin you have a serious serious problem in sham but that's not the only reason the main reason is because you're priceless and you can't tell me that any of these Playboy Playmates are Priceless you can't tell me that any of these people that walk around half naked in the beach or naked are Priceless no they're just this week's toy the nothing nobody wants to marry the playmate everyone wants to marry the class everyone wants to marry the girl that's covers that no one knows what she looks like that left some things to the imagination that's just telling you as as a man not just as a rabbi or teacher or anything someone a little bit of experience no one wants to marry the girl it's half naked no one no one and the guy that married him he suffers his whole life why because now he has to deal with everybody looking at his wife all the time all the time guys want to come over oh let us go with your house why do you want to come to my house no let's go to house have a drink in your house why do you want to come to my house let's just go to the bar let's just go to synagogue let's go some no no let's go to your house he doesn't understand why everybody wants to come to his house why you want to come to my house no I want to I'm going to go to your house what do you mean I'm not going to be there how you going to go to my house I'm not going to be there you going to be no no I'll talk to your wife talk to my wife why you want to talk to my wife why do you want to talk to my wife people are so surprised that there's like you know cheating and divorce rat it's not a surprise it's not a surprise you did it you did it you cooked it it's not surprised you let your wife walk around naked what' you expect no one's going to look everyone's going to go like this oh no no Mrs Smith is coming let's look let's look let's no you left it like that everybody's going to look and one of the guys don't want to touch and the second you make your wife angry he's going to take advantage of it like a tiger oh he makes you angry yeah I'll treat you much better I wouldn't do that to you everybody is the Mr uh Don Juan everybody's Don Juan with the a uh frail woman that got got uh yelled at by a husband why is he even in that position because there's no modesty there's no modesty in speech there's no modesty in behavior and there's definitely no modesty in clothing it all starts there Torah keeps you away from that stuff keeps you away from that stuff it doesn't happen doesn't happen if you follow tah just doesn't happen why you don't let it happen no one knows what she looks like you look at pictures of any woman religious Jew or non-jew 100 years ago the clothes make everyone look the same it's all big it's all wide all you see is a face pretty face not so pretty face some whatever everybody's the same no one knows anything what the difference is they stayed married they stayed married they stayed honest they stayed together you don't have marriages today stay 30 40 50 years marriage takes 30 40 50 days oh they got married what they spent 200,000 on the wedding oh wow what a waste of money why cuz next year you're going to do the same thing you understand so modesty is something that's one of the greatest things in the world you can bring to a marriage why a woman number one reminds herself that she is priceless every day if she's doing it for the right reason she reminds herself that she's Priceless that already builds her confidence already builds her confidence second thing is it reminds the husband who again if he does it for the right reason if he's connected to God is reminded constantly She's mine he doesn't have the need to go look elsewhere because he knows I have the best I have somebody I have somebody that no one else is allowed to look at touch nothing no one wants the Village bicycle everyone wants the one of a kind that's just the reality it's a reality of Life excuse my language being fresh whatever anyone wants to consider this is a reality I deal with Yeshiva guys every single day that have wasting seed problems every day I somehow became the expert in wasting seed and how to stop it fine whatever that's my tun in life no problem I'll do it why do they have a problem because they all have the same problem you a bunch of naked women walking around and some of them are married it's enough enough enough cover yourself value yourself treat yourself like you're Priceless cuz you are you don't want to treat yourself like you're Priceless why do you expect anybody else to [Music]