Modern Orthodox Teachings Have Psychological Flaw

[Music] says the clear and the dirtied water become mixed inside the sponge so when they're released they're all contaminated such as with a student who doesn't know how to discriminate in his learning and does not classify his knowledge his ideas will be randomly Blended and he will certainly be unable to express himself clearly to others this is when a person starts learning in such a way where he doesn't know what's good what's bad what's Al what's opinion what's this he doesn't know and unfortunately I've seen a lot of this with uh with certain institutions let's just call it certain institutions in the world today the religious world today they teach their graduating rabbis to teach Torah in in my opinion my opinion for whatever three cents that it's worth is completely weakening doesn't not only it's not it's weakening weakening toah why they give you when they teach a source sheet Source sheet so they give they say oh there's a lecture on Shabbat is a source sheet on a website everybody print it or you can get it at the Sho and it's the mainstream shoes mainstream shoes get the sour sheet and they give you whatever Rasha that the rabbi is gonna give you he's G to give you a i 50 page Source sheet of what he's going to say for an hour it's 50 pages he's going to briefly go through a bunch of different opinions Rabbi said this Rabbi said this Rabbi said this Rabbi said this yes no yes no yes no yes no any okay so what's the top what's the bottom line what's yes am I allowed not allow you make your own mind this is weakening Torah this is weakening Torah why because the average person whether he's wearing a keer from the day he was born or he just put it on foret does not know how to make a decision on his own that's appropriate why he doesn't have D he doesn't have D if he has D he's not listening to your shoe he's learning he's not sitting in your lecture with your 80 Source sheets he's getting his own source sheets so you're giving 50 opinions to the average folk that most of the time the only Torah they learn the whole week is this year and maybe five 10 minutes between every day that's the whole Tora for the whole week and you're going to tell him his 50 opinions of different rabbis that said yes no yes no yes no yes no yes no and you don't tell them what's the bottom line yes or no oh you can make up your own mind this is weakening why I'll tell you a few reasons number one if it's a secular person like I was most of my life to me if you give me two opinions to me that means I could do whatever I want I don't know what it means I don't know what it means both this and this are the words of the Living God I don't what that means I don't know that what it means that bet sh and bet he let up both right even though they're on two different sides I don't know what that means to me as a secular person neither one of them what they're talking about I'll make up my own mind he says no he says yes okay I'll say maybe sometimes yes sometimes no sadik sometimes I agree with him sometimes I agree with him look I love everybody I'm the next R something I'm rabone no I'm starting a new guys who's joining who's joining no I'm agreeing with I love everyone so a secular person it says wait a minute when there's two minds there's yes and no oh I'm going to take everybody but then that means they missed they miss something why page 14 says someone who takes the leniencies the leniencies of bami and the leniencies of wicked meaning whenever a bet Shi says yes he goes whenever bet says yes he goes whenever they say no he goes with the other one he only looks for leniencies Wicked why he's not looking for the truth what about someone wants to be someone wants to I want to do all the worst stuff I want to do the stuff that's most difficult I want to be someone the says that takes the stringencies of bet and the stringencies of bet you think what does it say tadik no it says this is a fool that walks blind in the night fool that walks blind and night why it's not about yes or no it's not about difficult or easy it's about what's the truth what did you toil and toil and toil and work and work and work and work to do to arrive at the actual truth that your understands since we're not bet sh we're not bet he we have a rabbi you have to have multiple rabbis you have a p that you have to hold by if you're Safari most Safari is hold by Ria if not whatever whoever your p is that's your P that's you go by Al but then you have to have your local Rabbi and then you whoever Bess you go to hopefully has at least 10 people that actually keep Shabbat that's another Rabbi it's a local Rabbi basic day-to-day questions and then you have your Rabbi that's your M that's your guy that's your that's the that's your rebi that's the one that you that really knows you that knows if you're honest to your wife or not that knows if you really have money you just look like you do that knows if you cheat if you don't that knows all the stuff about you the one that you ask all the questions including the uncomfortable ones the one that's going to pick you up when you're a little mattress on the floor you need so a person needs to have that but if he's just looking for RAB no he's looking for the the rabbi that's the most comfortable for him because no also means comfortable whatever is comfortable on going with him that's a r that's a wicked person that's a wicked person so a person that teaches the public every opinion yes no maybe yes no maybe yes no maybe is doing damage to the community why because the average person does not know D in fact unfortunately the statistics haven't changed much they've deteriorated over time in America and the world especially America where at this point 90% of American Jews do not even keep Shabbat do not keep Shabbat the very basic mitvah of Judaism to such an extent that that the ramb in Shabbat Chapter 30 last Al says a Jew that violates Shabbat by driving on Shabbat smoking cigarettes on Shabbat watching TV on Shabbat uh grinding on Shabbat all of these different things a Jew that's Shabbat is considered in the eyes of AEM in his Torah 100% an idolator an idol worshipper no different than a Christian Missionary what what if the TV was open before it's different that's when it's to uh as far as the uhat but if he's doing it it's no it's a problem if it's if it's on he didn't know it was on it's on then he has a different problem why does he have a TV in his house he a different problem but it's not considered Shabbat no that's not Shabbat that's not that's not Shabbat no Shabbat is when you're actively you're turning on the TV you're turning on the car you're pressing on the ignition you that's when 10 people know that you are violating Shabbat they don't need to see you they know that Johnny Smokes on Shabbat they don't need to see you people think that beesia public sin of Shabbat means that 10 Jews saw you no if you look at the it specifically uses the story of P to teach us what is Faria mean what does a public sin mean a public sin means when 10 Jews know that you are sinning 10 Jews knew that Z was with the Goya kby they didn't see him they were in the oil what do you think it was a everybody was inside is oil no 10 people knew they both went in there and they're doing whatever they're doing in there 10 people knew says that gives me the the the right to kill them because that's the dean of a zealous person that sees a a a Jew and a non-jew in the middle of the ACT if they're zealous they're allowed to kill them we don't have that Dean anymore because we don't have zealous people anymore in the world but the point is what we learned p is that now Faria means when 10 Jews know that you drive on Shabbat they don't need to see you drive they only to see you smoke so a person that violates Shabbat is not going to know what does it mean opinions the rabbi tells him listen there's yes there's no there's rambam there's to there's this there's that there 50 opinions what's the M Shabbat gonna say oh no one knows like me maybe I'm a bigger sadik than them I think I'm nice I paid for the synagogue I paid for SE you know how much money I donated you know how much money I this you know how good I am you know how nice I am to them I buy sandwiches from them I bought I bought the guy don't like people magnify their uh day-to-day life as if they're mosenu so the guy that doesn't know right or left he drives on Shabbat still and the rabbi never told him anything he's like if the rabbi never told me anything that means it's okay for me to drive on Shabbat because there's yes and no so I'm I'm choosing on he yes and on the other one no driving yes parking no I'll give it to the valet that's a besset in in in in Beverly Hills is they call themselves Orthodox besset Orthodox besset in Beverly Hills they valet parking on Shabbat but they call themselves Orthodox I don't know why why bother because they don't why bother why bother call yourself Orthodox just don't call yourself anything call yourself reform call don't call yourself why what why bother why why lie to yourself I don't understand that but this is not the fault of the people it's not completely their fault it's the 50 sources it's the flaw teachings that are disconnected from the People by telling them you can make up your own mind it's all subjective it's all subjective what you think what you don't think do what's right in your heart bam thought what's right in his heart was to kill am is does that mean it's right Hitler thought to kill is right his heart what does mean right who said this is Christianity so the first flaw of the teaching style of providing multiple sources without a actual yes or no what we do to the average person it kills them it weakens them it weakens them for the slightly above average the one that's trying the one that's trying to get stronger but he's not quite he doesn't have yet he's like two three four five years into it he's not learning every day he's not a but he learns a little bit he had goes to sh he learns a little bit from the books here and there he's new you give him a sh 50 sources you've ruined all of his learning why because now he thinks that he's supposed to in order for him to ever arrive at an actual opinion he has to know all the sources and even if he goes to all the sources is what makes it right maybe it's wrong so maybe sometimes I'll do it maybe sometimes I won't do it andic said over here this one and the rabbi said over this one and this one said this one and and again you've mixed him up not that different from the secular person not that different from the secular person it's one step removed you've confused them to now he is now a a but he doesn't know it though he thinks he's good good why he says no no the rabbi said there's 50 opinions I just picked that one like he thinks it's like a shopping list he no you're not allow to do such things so that's another problem now the one that actually knows Torah that can discern and learn with you all of the opinions and understand that all of them are words of the Living God nine out of 10 times if not 9.9 out of 10 times he's not in your shoe he's not attending he's not attending and if he's attending you didn't give him anyim anyway why has not taught so who are you making this you for you have a thousand people I remember we're in BRS every week they give these 50 page Source sheets a thousand people 600 people 800 people in the crowd people learn it and you know I'm sitting there I didn't go to many just in the beginning I'm just trying to see what's what's going on in the place and sometimes I'll come to f a little early so you have nothing to do so you sit there and you hear the guy finishing his speech and you start overhearing people talk and one guy would say oh so what do you think goes oh you know I just sit there pretend like I know what he's talking about like the people are talking to each other and they're religious so so what do you think go yeah I'm pretending like I know what he's talking about I just keep nodding he goes yeah me too and they give each other high five so this is not not my opinion I see this from the people I was there no one knows what's going on the ruined a thousand people's t for the Shabbat a thousand people instead of getting an hour of T what they got an hour of confusion the rest of the week is ruined so when a person does not when he not only is a sponge himself but his speech is like a sponge where he gives them everything all the good all the bad all the this and doesn't tell them yes or no you are doing a disservice to the people you're doing a disservice to the people please stop you're ruining it now last Point statistically statistically you could tell that's your opinion that's your opinion it's your opinion all this stuff is your opinion I have students that I have students that are benefiting from it I have students that like it okay so let's see your style of teaching people everything has been utilized by Yu and the likes for a while now a while they didn't just open last year when I became religious they've been around for a while I'd say right let's see the Jewish the jewishness of the Jewish people throughout that time has it improved no it's deteriorated it's deter to such an extent that many of the are saying that the modern Orthodox today are what the conservative used to be 50 years ago conservative that are now reformed used to be like the modern Orthodox today I spoke to one of theor in America and he told me modern Orthodox different religion I'm like what do you mean it's Judaism he goes no no they call themselves modern they they call themselves Judaism it's different religion modern Orthodox like why you say something because it's the no Twilight it won't help they have their own they listen to their 50 opinions they don't want to listen to One opinion they want to listen yes or no they want to everything is subjective everything is what do you think what is this thing what is this we use we like we cherry pick the the the rabbis and the opinions like Skittles oh no I like red okay give me all the Reds oh I like green give me all the greens this this is is a Biz of the Tor it's disrespect of the Tor this is a disrespect of the Torah and it's causing a lot of confusion people are simple people are simple people are simple people need to know yes or no they don't need to know Pim how you got to it and who said this one and who said that one reason why I mentioned sources just so you know I didn't say it don't blame me for writing the Torah that's why I mention mention sources to you I don't necessarily expect every one of you to uh write down the page number and go there maybe you will but if you will you'll find it but it's not I'm not telling you it because I think that you're going to write every single word that I say down the point is to show you that there is a source but at the end what we try to do is say yes or no even though more times than that there is an opposite opinion there many times there is a yes for every no and there's a no for every yes many times not all the time many times there's an opposite opinion but that's not what we go by why we have a direction what's our Amit that we arrived that's the that's what we go by yeah but there's another opinion good for him good for him for his opinion we don't go by his opinion we go by this opinion yeah but Rabbi he's also big good he's in GED I'm trying to get there he going to then good for him he has I'm I'm not there I'm trying get there okay so why you do what he says because I don't go by him I don't go by I go by I go by rash I go by whever there whever your p is you go by him you stick to him you can't pick and choose rabbis like you do uh sandwiches unless your own Rabbi says you can go with the other opion sometimes you'll see in the Rabbi says this is yes and anyone that says no there are enough there are opinion that says no and you can go by that too you have something to rely on meaning that you're allowed to go with the no because your own Rabbi said even though I've got I've arrived at the truth my truth is yes I'm not saying that the no is wrong there is enough wisdom that the other arrived that even they have the right so you can go with either one he's telling you I'm doing yes but they said no you if you if you choose to do no you're okay you have something to rely on your own said you have something to rely on but if he says I say yes and whoever says no is wrong you are forbidden to go to a different opinion you're forbidden this is why it's for all of these sapharic Jews that want to rely on to wear wigs because they that spartic for the most part rely on radya now radya said it doesn't matter if it comes from Gom or it comes from India wigs are forbidden and he provided m a list of over 100 different P throughout generation to other Generations that are it's forbidden to wear a wig just because of modesty forget it's not allowed to wear a wig for a Jewish woman according to according to the according to and so on and so forth the list goes on all all the way to the days of the he says you're not allowed so for a spartic Jew to say no no but this uh Feinstein or the rebi said yes yes but you don't hold by them you cannot go to them when it's convenient to you that makes you so a sapharic person can never do such a thing but unfortunately many of the local rabbis don't tell them that why because the local rabbi's wife also wears a wig so he's Naga he's biased you allowed to wear a wig no absolutely not somebody tell R but your daughter wears a wig my daughter going to have G also yes so said when they told him yeah but your daughter wears a wig he say yes there's place in G for to there's place in G too the point is the truth is the truth you cannot avoid the truth just because not convenient for you so now a person that teaches the public needs to take all of these things to consideration you cannot just tell people you can decide for yourself they don't know what d t is the average person needs to know am I allowed or am I not allowed yes or no many times my Rabbi tells me yes but no like no no I need to know yes or no he goes but it's not so easy yes or no I said for me I'm a cow I need yes or no right or left that's it that's all I need yes or no and this specific the certain things I want to know all all the complications right left certain things I want to know but certain things I listen I don't care enough about it to investigate because I'm too busy investigating 70,000 other things so just tell me what's right I want to go to gedan tell me what's right what do you do what do you do do do you do it do you wear a wig no okay I'm not wearing a wig what do you do you eat you eat bet yourf yes okay I eat bet yourself then you eat okay what do you do that's what you have to ask what do you do yes or no what do you do would you eat it no okay so I'm not eating it too why not because you're my Rie if you go to Gom I want to be with you I want I have to ask somebody some questions what do you mean who going ask questions what do you think if we go to ganeden think he's GNA look at me if we go to ganeden he's mhu only have a chance if we go to G together so now this is the key this is the key you need to know sponge sponge it's good but it's terrible why you have a talent that Hashem gave you to absorb a lot of information but you're absorbing too much you're absorbing too much this is like a person that wants to live religious life and secular life at the second same time [Music]