Killer Diet Plan - JEWISH INTIMACY (27)

do you ever hear the killer diet diet that kills I mean everybody heard about a killer diet in a positive way everyone teaches us this diet's going to help you lose half your weight this one's going to turn you into a little stick this one will turn you into some type of uh Alien all types of diet but there's actually a killer diet that's dangerous a diet that literally kills not just the body a diet that kills marriages a diet that kills servitude of God a diet that kills every single thing that's good about your life including your intimacy and unfortunately this diet is something that you'll find in countless households and countless lives even in the Jewish Community this diet is a diet that's so dangerous the people that are on it don't even realize that they're part of it tonight you're going to learn a lot about this diet in the Jewish intimacy series you're also going to learn about how to avoid it and in fact if you are in it yourself it may sting a little bit to hear some things that perhaps are relevant to you but by the end of the lecture you'll realize that this is the only way to get yourself out of this diet if you're in it to keep yourself away from it if you're not but most importantly to get on the path of being holy enjoy share and be holy we're back here on our Tuesday night Jewish intimacy Series where we're learning for uh some time now about I think we are lecture number uh 27 uh in the series about Jewish intimacy really what's intimacy is supposed to be versus what it's become uh not just uh in the world but unfortunately even in the Jewish world and uh how learning the uh the writings of the sages especially here thean manad that was written over 700 years ago uh could certainly improve our lives uh both in marriage as well as our servitude of our creator uh tonight's sh will be for the for ran s anav and all of am is and all the righteous Noah that continue to watch our lectures support share and all the other good stuff anyone that 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but not in the way that he's done it but he's also prepared us mentally what is uh really jewi intimacy all about but in the last several weeks the uh the ramban has been actually going deep into the health aspects uh that are required for healthy intimacy and in so many words the ramban has taken a break from the uh deep Torah sources that he was using in the first several chapters and really giving us a health lesson a health lesson that is not only something that is effective so could change your life could help you serve AEM better but it's really a health uh plan that shows you how much the sages loved am Isel and this too becomes Torah as the Kish said about the rambam manad uh you know he covered all types of wisdom in his writings uh and included it inside the uh his teachings of the tah and when he went to into the world of mathematics you know teaching us the numerology of different things things uh this was wisdom that was partly you know learned from the uh Gentiles uh so people would think okay if you have you know mathematical wisdom that's obviously very valuable it's very important but why include it in the Mish T why include it in a work of Torah and the K says once the ramban realized that this is important he included in the because this too is part of your servitude of hem this too is part of your prerequisite knowledge in order to serve hem and this too became Tor so all of these numbers that he used the K says they became holy uh they became holy and literally if uh if one were to uh take uh the notes of the ramban where he simply wrote numbers whatever numbers uh even if it's uh something as simple as 2+ 2 or two * a th000 or whatever number he wrote that because he used it for the purpose of Torah it actually turned the numbers into something holy and if somebody would want to dispose those papers in that time uh they would actually put have to bury it like they would a SE of course today nobody would uh take anything that the rambam wrote uh and put it in G and bury it but rather uh most likely either collect it or sell it to a collector as these things are very very valuable but the same concept is with the teachings of the ramban here uh where he's actually teaching us about the different health benefits uh or uh uh the uh detriment of not eating healthy or not knowing how to eat uh you know properly especially when it comes to intimacy now Rim is well known around you know from across the world both by the Jews and the g everyone that thinks about Rim immediately thinks about the mystical works and the mystical writings of Rim in the whether it's uh you know uncovering for us and unveiling the uh the mystical aspects of the upper worlds or the names of different Angels or the uh the different names of uh of different uh uh levels of our soim was Lally dealing with the issues that are beyond the scope of our knowledge beyond the scope of our intellect altogether and literally dealing with the supernatural as if it's natural but yet if you look into the talmud if you look into the gar you will found countless places that Rish shimai alongside many other sages lowers himself in a sense by teaching us things that are for the everyday person things that you would never think such a great Sage would ever even bother with but if you look at the in on page 17A we've actually mentioned this already before but we are going to go a little deeper into it tonight where Rish Shimon is giving us a very serious warning and he says the following says there are five things that are so dangerous that whoever does any of them is liable to pay with his life and should he indeed die his blood will be upon his own head what does this mean here is telling us there are five things that a person can do that are dangerous and if a person is careless when it comes to these issues which are health issues if he is simply careless about them then he will actually he could lead himself to the point of death but even more so he will actually be punished for being careless about his health what are these things the first one is one who eats a peeled garlic bulb or a peeled onion or a peeled egg that has been peeled and stayed that way overnight meaning that you peeled an onion you peeled a garlic you peeled an egg and you know what you decide you don't feel like eating it you figured you know what I'll eat it tomorrow I'll eat it tomorrow I'll uh do something with it tomorrow and you put it in the fridge you believe it on the counter whatever you want to do with it the second you did that and you left that onion you left that garlic overnight that garlic that onion that egg became poisonous for you you're no longer allowed to eat it and if you do you're putting your life in danger now of course the science of it is not going to match up if you look if you go to any of the health gurus out there the he Health experts the scientists they're going to tell you well what's wrong with a peeled onion so what if it stayed in the fridge for a few hours like what's the big deal what what's the big deal if you peeled a egg you left it in the fridge 8 hours later you decide to have it for breakfast what's the big deal so healthwise according to science it's not going to do anything you're not going to find the issues at least not that I know of but says the the he's the one that is famous for being not only one of the that gave an extraordinary amount of commentary uh on the tah but also is one that's known for the Golem where he created a Golem taking the dirt of the ground and creating a living being that he used as a uh protector for the Jewish people at the time that had many troubles with the Gentiles that were uh going and trying to torture us in many different ways especially coming from the church by uh led by one particular evil person named toos so anyway the maral says that the things that rabish Shimon Bai mentions as hazardous are not within the physical scope of science dangerous rather the spiritual effects associated with them were considered hazardous and because of this it is pointless to speculate on the reasons why these things in particular are deemed injures in so many words you just have to take the word of Rish shimai at face value you're not going to understand why a peeled onion a peeled egg peeled garlic left overnight is hazardous for you and you should not eat it the next day or any other day but rather just take it at face value this is dangerous for you now a person that doesn't want to listen doesn't want to listen and says if something bad happens to you you're going to be prosecuted for it why because you are careless you careless furthermore he says someone that drinks of Beverage such as wine or water that stayed overnight meaning you had a cup or a bottle of water and uh you left it on the counter you didn't cover it the the the the the bottle cap was left off but for all intents and purposes the composition of the water the wine the whatever beverage you were drinking nothing changed physically speaking nothing change I mean if it was soda obviously it probably doesn't have any more gas in it the the little bubbles but all intens and purposes nothing changed scientifically nothing changed wine sometimes people like to let their uh wine breathe so they leave you know when they turn when they uh open it up they leave it open for a little while now of course there's no problem with doing that during you know when you're about to drink it shortly later but if you leave it open the whole night don't drink drink it in the morning says why it's dangerous it's dangerous same thing with water same thing with any other beverage in fact there are some that are so stringent that uh in this and so careful I should say with this issue that during the night specifically during the night not during the day during the night if they let's say for example they have a bottle of uh of some type of Beverage or a cup and they walk away from it and they forget about it even if it's for short period of time let's say they uh you know they go to they take a shower or something they go to the bathroom they go to the garage whatever they walk away from it for I don't know a good amount of time and they in so many words it escapes their mind that this beverage is uh still on their desk some are stringent enough where they say listen when they come back and see oh I left this beverage uh uncovered and they pour it out they don't drink it now again these are not laws that you have to keep these are suggestions but Rim is telling you that if you ignore them you're putting your life at risk now the stringency that I mentioned as far as walking away from it at night that is a not something I heard from these are other sages cabalist that are saying that it should be that stringent but nonetheless what is mentioning here in the page 17A is if it's left overnight night it becomes dangerous and for the same aspect of what the Mah already explained to us it is spiritually uh uh dangerous not physically dangerous at least uh what's uh what we know of furthermore he says someone who sleeps in the cemetery or someone who trims their nails and throws them on the ground or someone who lets his blood out you know people bloodlet in the past used to be very popular apparently today in the uh I think that it's in a it's become more common again where people actually uh bloodlet especially people that are wealthy and are very uh um I guess health conscious uh or at least trying to be health conscious they go to you know certain experts uh that know how to uh take blood out of your body without killing you uh and uh some people literally think that this is a very very healthy thing to do in the past some have said this is a very healthy thing to do others uh disagreed with it because it also in those days led to a lot of infections and even death uh but needless to say there is a long history about bloodletting that apparently is coming back around and is becoming more popular among the wealthy people uh that are doing it more often now than they have in many many years either way Rish shimai says there's nothing wrong with blood letting unless you're going to be intimate right after so thear then clarifies each one of these five dangerous practices one who eats a peeled garlic Bulb Has Done a dangerous thing this applies even if the garlic bulb or the egg or the onion was placed in the basket and even if it was tied and even if it was sealed meaning even if you put it in a Ziploc bag and then put it in the fridge if it's peeled should not eat it if uh the next day because even if they were not exposed to the air overnight still since they were left unpeeled overnight an evil spirit rests upon them proving what the M said which is that this is something that has to do with the spiritual aspect of it not the physical aspect however we may say that eating these things is dangerous only when one is not left either their root or peel attached to them but if one did leave their root or peel attached we have no objection to it so here it gives you a little out where if you're going to leave the peel or the root attached to it you can leave it overnight I don't see necessarily the point of if you're going to peel it peel the whole thing if you're not going to peel it and you're going to wait for tomorrow wait for tomorrow but again this is really supposed to teach us the point which which is not only the danger is here but also how much the sages cared about the well-being of am to the point where they literally stopped their teachings of the laws the teachings of the mystical the upper Heavens the teachings of the details of what happened in the Tora and they start guiding us about how to live a better life in every single aspect and there are literally thousands of places around in the talmud that you will find different guidance about how to live a better life whether it's the intimate aspect of life or the uh the health aspect of life or the uh the marriage or the uh you know uh raising children or business or legal literally every single aspect of life is discussed here it even talks about how to invest gives a guidance of how to invest and the sages build upon that and anyone that wants to uh learn wisdom the sages say should learn the and meaning the the the three tractates that used to actually be one they used to be combined as one but it was too big so they split it up into three those three tractates are the ones that teach a lot of the details of the uh the legalities and the illegalities of business business law and things like that anyway continuing with shim he says one who sleeps in a cemetery has done something dangerous we understand the wine the garlic the onion what's with the cemetery now obviously I don't think anybody normal would go sleep in the cemetery but there are many abnormal people or there are many naive people where they go to a cemetery because they lost a loved one and they're so distraught they don't want to leave they simply decide to stay there all night and they fall asleep this is a danger Dangerous thing why because if a person sleeps at the cemetery then the spirit of impurity should rest upon that person and sometimes these Spirits may put the person in actual danger life danger one of the examples of this that uh is recorded in history was actually something that happened to one of the greatest sages in the last 500 years v v once uh he he writes himself of what happened to him once uh goes to a cemetery and uh out of nowhere he feels like something entered him he feels like something enter Ed him and he started struggling to move struggling to function and he started going towards his Rabbi the Aral literally by the time he got to the Aral he died died who loved V dearly he was his main talid resurrected him took him out of uh to brought him back to life and he has this whole record of this he wrote literally every single step of what happened and who and what and when and darel explained to him which Spirit it was and why you almost died very uh very interesting but the point being is is that going to a cemetery in general is never a good idea uh unless you're going to the grave site of a sadik and that sadik has a specific uh uh Road that's meant that's that's was built just for him where you're not going to be walking over uh other Graves and still even this is not recommended for women to do in fact the Z says that a woman should never go to a cemetery even to uh Cemetery even to the graves of our own parents because a woman going into a cemetery puts her ability ability to ever have children at risk every single time and even if she no longer uh has the ability to have kids anyway she's older it's still not good for her to go but someone who sleeps at the cemetery says he's putting his life on the line many times people that uh deal with uh you see people that are interested uh in Witchcraft and all typ of uh Voodoo and uh all types of Satanism and things like that it's common for them to visit the cemeteries often and uh some of them actually get uh some of their uh I could call it uh abilities abilities to do things after those visits the problem is what they don't realize is that while they think they got an ability an ability to move things an ability to see things uh with don't realize is that they just become a became a prisoner they became a prisoner of whatever Spirit entered them and uh it's only a one-way Street meaning there is no turning back in so many words the equivalent of selling your sold to isan and it's uh something that is almost impossible uh to get out of uh when people make certain commitments many times people that are involved with Satanism and uh and Witchcraft and things like that typically they make sacrifices either with their seed or with blood or both uh sometimes the the women use their menstrual cycle blood for stuff like this and uh they could do a lot of horrible things to other people and feel powerful as a result of it but they don't realize that you know and eventually they do realize that they actually become a prisoner to this thing either way this is one of those places where I say don't try this at home and if you do your blood is in your own hands last but not least says someone who trims their nails CH their nails their toenails their fingernails and just like many people do and I've actually even seen this you know in uh people when I used to live in New York it was very common for people to literally you know do their what they're supposed to do in the bathroom in privacy they do it in public or sometimes I even used to see people do it in the office they start cutting their nails and you know it's so small they just you know they just let it drop on the floor or it flies up flies everywhere no one really cares someone that does such a thing is considered a wicked person in fact the says that three things were said in respect to nail trimming one who burns them is considered aid aid Pious person one who buries them in the ground is considered sadik righteous one who throws them down where anybody can walk over them just throw leave them on the floor he's considered he's considered Wicked why because if a pregnant woman walks over one of these fingernails the impurity from those fingernails could lead her to miscarry miscarry the child so this is also something that uh why this explains why the first one that burns them is considered pious and the one that uh buries them is considered a sadik like what's the big deal he buried his fingernails why even go through that much now burying them is the equivalent of throwing them in the uh toilet and flushing the toilet that's the equivalent of it or you could actually go and physically bury them why is burying them considered a righteous person because you are removing the risk of anybody walking over it if it's in the ground that's it it's gone if it's down a toilet it's in the garbage it's done so how come the one that burns them is actually considered Aid even more than a sadik because of two things number one while burying them lowers the risk drastically it doesn't eliminate the risk because you could always miss one or two or something can come up and whereas burning them certainly eliminates the risk this obviously takes time time this is a extra effort but even more than that the teach that this also is a uh a major effort by the person because the tosot says any time somebody destroys a piece of thems it actually weakens them physically for for a period of time you know in those days I know that some of you are probably all of you are going to be disgusted by this but this was something that was very common in the old days where uh you know poverty was was was was a norm and uh many people you know would would would do things whatever they could to survive one of the things that uh women that were very poor uh would do if they had uh if they had cats they had pets that would actually feed them the blood of their menstrual cycle so at least they could these these animals would survive and because they weren't able to feed them regular food now the uh the TOs says here in the that this is forbidden it's forbidden for a woman to do such a thing because by doing it she would be weakening her own body even though the blood comes out anyway even though this is something that doesn't make any scientific uh uh sense still we know that when uh a person destroys a piece of themsel it weakens their body physically their body and therefore it is not allowed not allowed for her to weaken our body for the sake of a cat and the same reason this explains the same reason of why the one that's Aid that burns the fingernails is considered Aid because he's not only taking the time to go and uh and burn them and go through that whole effort but he's also weakening himself for the sake of other people to protect him from any risk of his nails now again this is not an obligation to bury them it's not an obligation to uh to burn them but certainly it is a uh it's important for a person to do that uh and not be considered evil in the eyes of God now as far as the uh point of all of this is that we see from there that Rim took time out of the world of the above and started teaching us things that have to do with our world have to do with our lives the same you will find with here this ramban as he says the following here in this chapter we have told you of the way of the proper Foods in addition it is proper to tell you that even with good proper food it is not necessary to fill one's belly but rather to eat in mother moderation so that the body's nature May process it and quickly convert it into clean pure blood for if there is a great quantity it is not grounded up as well in the stomach and it will give in return a bad and filthy blood more so than if a little had been eat eaten of coarse and bad food here the ramban tells us about the killer diet what's the killer diet not killer diet like the expression of killer being a good thing but killer rather being a terrible thing here the ramban is telling you that he already told you about different foods that you should eat different foods that you should avoid different foods that the rambam said are literally poisonous he says taking all of that into account now I have to tell you about not just the quality of your food how clean it is how light how heavy the type of food no no now I'm going to talk to you exclusively about quantity how much you should eat and a person should eat in moderation enough to satiate you but not to the point of filling you up and blowing you up and making you into somebody that's you know unfortunate how people usually finish off their dinners especially if they're eating out and they they feel like they have to take advantage of every penny that you spent you know he spent $100 on that steak he's going to eat every penny of it even though he's already full after $20 worth of steak so here the ramban says that if you eat in moderation your body will be able to convert that food quickly into blood that's going to be pure blood but if you indulge if you are a glutton then what ends up happening is that even if everything that you're eating is healthy it'll turn into poison it'll turn into poison more than if you eat junk food but only a little bit if you ate junk food but only a little bit it'll actually cause less damage than if you ate a lot of healthy food to the point where you're just bloated that's what the ramban is telling you so we have to go and see where is this in the rambam spoke about this across his works both in and also in in the r in chapter 4 after the uh rambam told us about the different uh things to eat to not eat and how he even gave us the uh disclosure that anyone that listens to his in instructions precisely is guarantee to never get sick a promise that you cannot make with uh without some type of literally divine inspiration the ra says in chapter 4 as follows a person should never eat unless he is hungry nor drink unless he's thirsty he should never put off relieving himself even for an instant rather when he feels the feel when he feels the need to relieve himself move his bowels he should do so immediately furthermore number two a person should not eat until his stomach is full rather he should stop when he has eaten to close to 3 is of full satisfaction meaning you're eating but not until the point where you feel like ah I'm finished I'm good that's already too late why is it too late because as you're eating the body starts to work the body starts to digest now as it's digesting you're starting to get more and more full but that means that process takes time especially if you're not eating appropriately where you're eating the heavy food first and the light food later for example if a person has meat and vegetables the rambam WR you should eat the vegetables first and then eat the meat and the reason why is because the vegetables are the lighter food and therefore they're going to be digested faster and then you're going to have still all the energy left to to digest all the heavy food the meat but if you do the opposite what ends up happening as explained to me this which literally brilliant is that if a person eats the meat first and he eats the vegetables later or he eats the meat first and the chicken later chicken obviously being lighter than the than the meat since the process of digesting can take six hours or so and the body the temperature inside your body is much hotter than a temperature outside that means that the food is going bad is deteriorating much faster when it's inside your body than when it was outside of your body and therefore if a person eats a piece of meat first that meat starts going down the tube he's thinking yeah it's all going in the same place what's the big deal the big deal is that since you put that piece of meat into your mouth first you swallowed it first it's going down the tube first few minutes later few seconds later whenever it is you put the vegetables down but that means that they're behind they're not going to pass them so the body is going to start exerting all of its energy on this piece of meat this is no different than if a car that you uh is not exactly uh super car all of a sudden you decide that you're going to go up the the the mountains of of Jerusalem with it you're going to start going up the mountains of the the Himalayan M mountains with it you're going to start going up the mountains with it in reality once you are a quarter in into it half into it you're going to start praying that the car doesn't roll back why because you're exerting all of the energy which many times has a detrimental effect now in this particular case even if your body has perfect ability to digest this meat you're exerting all of the energy to digest this meat but it's still going to take time it's still going to take hours in the meantime the vegetables or the chicken or combination thereof is sitting there waiting in line waiting to be digested and deteriorating faster because the body temperature is much hotter it's no longer in the fridge it's no longer on the fire it's no longer being preserved and it's no longer being cooked it's being it's deteriorating quick and the food literally deteriorates that by the time you actually digest that meat and it gets to the chicken or it gets to the vegetables they already have become partially rotten which is literally now when your stomach finally receives it it's like you're digesting now rotten food you're digesting bad food hence the reason why several hours later all of a sudden you have a stomach ache all of a sudden you're not really sure what's going on with you it's not what you ate but rather how you ate it but here the ramban is adding furthermore it's not even just what you ate and how you ate it but the quantity that you eat the quantity itself should never be to the point where you are full with that last bite rather your last bite should be I'm not full but I'm not uh hungry anymore you are 3/4 of the way there why because once you're 3/4 of the way there the food that you ate already in the last few bites hasn't been digested yet hasn't hit those nerves hasn't hit Those sensors inside your body to let you know you're full once you let some time pass usually takes I don't know somewhere around 2 3 minutes all of a sudden you feel full even though you haven't eaten a few minutes all of a sudden you feel full sometimes it could take depending on the person it could take 10 minutes but all of a sudden you feel full that's a healthy full that's a healthy full because you really ate what you needed anything after that is gluttony anything after that is too much anything after that is the ramban calls it poison so here he's telling us that a person should not eat until the stomach is full meaning that you feel the stomach you feel yourself full as you're eating that should never be you should drink only a small amount of water during the meal he also talks about how a person needs to obviously preserve his uh his uh his hygiene where he should not eat until he checked himself that he knows that he does not need to relieve himself never start eating if you have to go relieve yourself it's both spiritually and physically unhealthy in fact if you have to relieve yourself you can't pray so person have to make sure that as soon as they wake up in the morning don't hurry up to go to the synagogue and skip the bathroom you have to go to the bathroom even if that means you'll be late for prayer you have to go you cannot pray to hasem with a dirty body inside also if a person wants to bathe with hot water after exerting himself it would actually be healthy for him be beneficial and after he has bathed should wait a short while and then eat don't shower and then right away eat wait a little while 15 minutes 10 minutes 20 minutes half hour depending on the body again but don't do it right away one should always eat while seated anyone who eats while he's walking or exerting himself aside from it Being Bad Manners so much so that the says that it's better to eat sitting down next to a dead body than eat standing up outside in front of people so it's a horrible character trait to eat standing up needless to say the ramban the rambam says that a person that's walking around while he's eating is bringing serious harm to himself and all types of sicknesses now as I said If a person the ramban says that if a person desires to eat poultry or and meat in one seating you should eat the poultry first and the meat later because the meat is the heavier food it should go down second same thing with all other types of food if he wants to eat eggs and poultry you should eat the eggs first and then the poultry whatever is the lighter food should go first but then the ramban says in number n that there are foods that are extremely harmful to a person and he should never eat them large fish that are aged and salted cheese which is aged and salted Truffles and mushrooms meat which is aged and salted wine from a press cooked food which has been left over over until it produces an odor and any food with a bad smell or a bitter taste these are like poison to the body says the rambam see here the rambam is literally going into the world of food inserting it into the laws of how to live a healthy life both spiritually and physically and is warning us from these things that more or less all make sense all should be done easily but yet few people do it lastly we're going to mention what the ramban brings here and he says overeating is like poison to anybody's body it is the main source of all illnesses most illnesses which afflict men are caused by harmful food Foods or by his filling his belly and overeating even if he's overeating healthy foods you know some people say listen the quality of my food is great I'm only eating organic great you're eating organic fantastic but you realize that an elephant also eats organic he also eats only vegetables he's a vegetarian but he still wears weighs four tons just because you're eating healthy food doesn't mean you you could eat like an elephant this is the mistaken notion that people have that just because if it's good quality food they could just simply eat and indulge with no end the r says no no overeating is dangerous it's like drinking poison and this is what King Solomon said in Proverbs guards his mouth from eating harmful food and eating his fill and his tongue from speaking about other uh than his needs so here we see again that the rambam as well as the ran my manad and aades take time to teach us diet and both connected to the potential of what's going to come out of a person as far as what type of children he'll produce and ala 19 in chapter 4 the ram writes the seed the semen is the strength of the body it is its life force and the light of the eyes the more frequent the emission of sperm the greater the damage to the body to its strength and the greater the loss to one's lifespan this is what schl said in Proverbs 31:3 do not give your strength to women whoever is steeped in sexual relations old age Springs upon him before it's time his strength is depleted his eyes become dim a FL foul odor emanates from his mouth and his armpits the hair of his head his eyebrows and eyelashes can fall out the hair of his beard armpits and legs grows in abundance and thick his teeth fall out and he suffers many pains Beyond these the wise of the doctors have said one of a thousand dies from other illnesses and a thousand dies from excessive intercourse therefore a person must take care in this matter if he wishes to live a good healthy life he should not engage an intercourse except when the body is healthy and particularly strong when he has many involuntary erections the erection is still present even when he makes an effort to think of something else he finds a heaviness from the loins and below the tendons and the testicles seem to be stretched and his flesh is warm such a person needs to engage in Intercourse and it's Med medically advisable obviously he has to be married to a wife and his wife has to be pure but the point being here is that the rambam is not just telling us a health course just for the sake of uh uh giving us a diet plan he's not he doesn't have a food store he's not have a chain that's operating 800 years after he already left this world what he's telling us is that all of what you eat is going to result in a certain level of Health if your Healthy the outcome will be a healthy seed but if you waste that healthy seed aside from the punishments and and the Gom and everything else you'll waste all the hard work cuz some people they eat healthy they exercise they do all the things that they're to with their diet but they are excessive when it comes to intimacy they're promiscuous they're uh simply doing things beyond the uh the norm and they waste a good thing and turn it into a bad thing so everything has quality and quantity now as I said about the five things that Rish shimai said those uh five things those five warnings are not obligations but certainly only a fool would violate them after knowing what they are here he's telling you these are obligations where do we learn these [Music] obligations why is it that you may not realize that gluttony is an obligation it's a Prohibition for you to to be a glutton to be to overindulge in food now the ram has a book called seph and you have the positive MIT and the negative mitz mitvah 193 sorry 195 195 says Hashem prohibited us from being steeped in eating and drinking at a young age what is prohibited says the r the eating and drinking in a matter characterized by the Ben Ben is mentioned in the Torah in The Book of Leviticus chapter 19: 26 is the rebellious son this is what the exalted God said in the Torah also in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 21: 21 they shall not eat over the blood and the explanation is that the Ben is one of those that's liable to a death penalty by the high court by the sanin and a Torah is stating explicitly that his method of punishment is stoning which is the word death penalty that exist and what is this all about this is because this young person was a glutton that couldn't stop eating and drinking eating meat and drinking wine to the point where they knew that if his F he eats all of what he has he's going to start stealing and hurting other people and even killing people for it so he say it's better to kill him now before he kills other people and as a whole section of the talks about the Ben what are the conditions for him to be Ben but in so many words what we all learn is that gluttony is a Prohibition it's for forbidden for us to be Glutton it's forbidden for a person to overindulge at the same time the tells us that there's no problem with you enjoying life there's no problem with you enjoying good food the problem is only when a person makes food the top of their priority in life something they think about constantly something that they overindulge in indulge their energy indulge their their their time indulge obviously their body in it that's when it's a serious problem now as we said before most people when they think about food and perhaps the health aspect of food usually they're thinking about the quality of food so they'll tell you I only eat a uh healthy food I only eat proteins I only eat vegetables I only eat I don't know animals that uh were grown in a free Farm you know and you know that's all CR but in reality that is not necessarily eliminating the possibility of gluttony that could both destroy the body and the Soul you know a person can say listen I have a uh clean food fine you went to a clean restaurant and clean food and all of a sudden you ate ate the clean sandwich and the hairs came out of that sandwich where apparently the guy that was preparing that sandwich left his brush ins inside so yeah it's clean until you find out it's not necessarily so clean but it doesn't have to be dirty like that because the reality is that even if the food that you eat in that restaurant or even if you prepare yourself doesn't have hair in it doesn't have dirt on it doesn't have some cockroach on it it's not dirty it's not a bad food but if you eat too much of it if you've EX exerted too much energy to acquire it if your life is literally revolves around it then it's poisonous anyway meaning it doesn't have to be physically dirty for it to be damaging says that when he was young and he saw how some of the guys in the Yeshiva loved cars especially you know the fancy cars the uh the fast cars and any time uh you know one of these cars appeared somewhere you know everybody would like stop their day he says I thought then that really these fancy cars should be forbidden for us to look at just like we're not allowed to look at women that are not our wives and today he says watching the Food Channel watching people watching TV watching a video about how other people are eating how people are cooking he says that also should be forbidden it's not forbidden but it should be forbidden why because those two things you know looking at other people's fancy property their their cars their houses that type of stuff or people eating or cooking what is it doing for you other than waking up all of those lusts all of those desires that are completely unnecessary now if you're watching it to learn how to cook fine you could really just get the recipe but that's say you want to watch it once in a while no problem but if a person is constantly finding themselves just watching the Food Channel watching watching watching and it's not because they're cooking it's not because they're even following anything they just like to watch food just like a person could see they just like they're not buying a car they're not looking for a new Ferrari they're not looking for a new airplane they're not looking for a new $50 million house they just like to look at other people's houses and other people's cars that is bad why it's waking up all of those desires that going to take you out of control now you may think oh okay so I won't look at cars anymore what's the big deal if I look at a car what I'm going to marry the car what's the big deal if I look at a bunch of food what I marry the food I'm not what's the big deal how could that be compared to a forbidden woman the key is to understand is that once you wake up those forbidden desires by choice all of those other desires that are forbidden also also get the okay get the permission to wake up and it's just like if a person sees he's walking on the road and there's an e modest woman ahead of him if as soon as he sees that she is in front of him she has no arms and legs meaning she's not covering her body as soon as he sees that she's in his way he looks away it's not a sin why she's part of the world he saw her but he looked away so he got that first image but he looked away so that little image is not considered a sin but if he stays looking or he does one of those like you know that the two time that's a sin same concept with a person if he sees a fancy car or he see somebody cooking you see it the first time no problem but once you put yourself in that situation you're looking for videos or pictures of food or of of of fancy cars or of houses all types of other things that are going to wake up that desire that lust within you you're also going to wake up the desires you don't mean to wake up the desires that are for things that are outright forbidden now one of the uh things that a person needs to know is that that when it comes to food the truth is we shouldn't really have any lust for food if somebody thought about it rationally they would understand why some of the great sages that lived Among Us literally still live among us today some of them you're never going to find these lust for food even though sometimes you'll see that some of them are very heavy it's not because they eat a lot but rather because the lifestyle they live where they are sitting all the time they eat rarely they sleep very little so their body doesn't digest as quickly and therefore they gain weight not because they're eating five meals a dayi all of these great sages they don't if if they ate once it was already a lot says that when uh when when they were kids you know was very very poor he said that if they had a tomato to go with their piece of bread it was considered like a yum was considered like a holiday but he says ABA you meaning R if there wasn't bread you just wouldn't eat for the day meaning there would literally be fast days not because of choice simply there was no food one time thean she would prepare some type of food for him so when he would come back from his day usually he would have shim every night and he' come back late at night especially during the month of so one night she made a p of food and after she making finished making the the P of food she made a uh she had she went back to her work and she started making the starch you know in those days you had to make the starch for the colors so she cooked it she was cooking it and after she finished you know both pots were next to each other one pot of starch that's obviously not something you're supposed to eat that's for the shirts that's to fix the colors and one is food usually she waited for the r but this night it was very very late she went to sleep as soon as she went to sleep she felt that everything is ready she made sure that it's the rav could know exactly where the food is and that's it the next morning she wakes up and the ra R already is out he's already learning she gets to the kitchen and she opens the Putt and she sees that the putt is full of food what the r didn't eat last night he didn't eat the whole day a she felt so bad that the rabbi didn't eat her husband didn't eat he says Rabbi how come you didn't eat no no I ate it was good it was good she know that the rabbi is not going to lie to her she went back to the kitchen she opened the pot there's no there the food is there then she opens the second pot the starch cuz she has to go use it now it's completely empty she starts laughing and she goes back to she goes it was good you liked it she say yeah sure it was good fine nothing wrong good like usual everything is good she says my dear husband you ate starch you ate starch that's what you ate said no it was good what no not not food like his mind was so deep into the Torah it didn't make a difference what's in front of him it's red blue green what it didn't make a difference you're just eating okay eat so the body can stay alive and go back to learning to and this was the attitude that had throughout the generations where yes food is necessary but don't turn it into an idol don't turn it into your life many times people they don't realize that even if they're not physically healthy even if they're not healthc conscious about their diets even if they're not necessarily so careful about what they eat they still turn food into their gut why cuz the whole day they're planning their Day based on what they're going to eat and where are they going to eat oh what are we eating for breakfast oh you want to go from that restaurant last time he gave me it was kind of cold of food maybe we're going to go to the other restaurant 20 minutes just to figure out what to eat for breakfast now 11:00 they're already preparing what they're going to eat at 12:30 lunch can't miss a lunch so what are we eating for lunch today guys I don't know what do you want to eat Chinese nah Chinese we had Chinese already okay so what do you want uh you want Korean you want Indian you want uh Mars you want Pluto what do you want to eat everybody goes I want fish I want this I want this 25 minutes a half hour arguments about what what we going to eat for lunch now by the time you finish lunch you have to go fill up the rest of your day but you're already thinking about what we're going to have for dinner tonight you guys want to go out oh you know what I'm going to take the old lady out we're going to go somewhere and uh yeah I'm going to take her to our favorite Steakhouse I'm going to take her to our favorite like your whole day is determined based on meals that's a problem that's a very like if you spending that much time planning your day based on what you're going to eat you know places you you literally you know the menu by heart it's a problem sometimes you get to meet certain people where literally they become food connoisseurs oh this type of steak has to be medium rare and that one is rare medium just give me the meat let me eat and's get move on with my life no no no it can't be in that way it's it's it's a shame you're wasting it you're destroying it and all types of things like this is a person that spend way too much time eating way too much time on food and that is certainly not a healthy both physically and spiritually the other thing is some people go to the extent where they indulge and enable those food addicts and create new ones how simple they raise special cows they have cows on a farm free Farm all the cows could walk around they could skate they could do ballet they could do whatever they want but just make sure these cows are free or if you want them to be even more special cows make sure that these cows drink some beef here and listen to Beethoven not really sure how a steak that has some Beethoven and music in it tastes like but apparently for some people it's worth $1,000 a pound literally you have people they're willing to spend thousands of dollars just to travel across the ocean to go for a lunch to go for a dinner just to have this meat just to have this chicken or have this fish or go to Japan for their special million dooll sushi why because they've become such gluttonous people it's taken over their lives now these companies restaurants chefs only exist because there's a demand for it if there was no demand there wouldn't be a $100,000 cake if there was no demand there wouldn't be a $100,000 burger if there was no demand there wouldn't be a fast food restaurant in every single Corner if there was no demand the average restaurant wouldn't have 25 different items on the menu why isn't two or three enough because people literally have turned food into almost like a religion without even realizing it now of course it's a mitvah to eat and enjoy each little bit of each food on as part of the Mitzvah but no one says it's a Mitzvah to eat until your head doubles in size until you're literally you're about to explode you know there's a funny statement it says anyone that eats or it's called also chant is sounds like he's obligated in death but M with a with a t is obligated to go to bed why cuz he's so he ate so much that he's going to fall asleep so when a person literally forgets that the taste of that food that he's thinking about for hours and hours of his day literally he's spending two three four hours a day just thinking about food which means that he's spending 20% of his life 20% of her life or more just eating or thinking about eating now out of all of this time that you're thinking in planning for eating how much time is actually spent tasting the food seconds because usually the more gluttonous the person is the quicker they eat the less they enjoy the food in fact because the less time the food is in their mouth cuz they eat fast cuz already when they eat their first bite they already look at the next one it's like wow that uh that one has some tomato in it it's looking at me I got to have it so chew fast he has oh wait it's a cucumber in the next one get that one and the other one and this one and he's literally racing before he realized he finished he finished the food but he also forgot to taste any of it generally speaking even if a person does what they recommend people recommend to chew 13 to 15 times any bite that you eat fine let's say he chews it until it becomes liquid 15 times no problem how long does 15 chews take 15 seconds that's it 15 seconds you're finished how many bites you can to eat 10 15 20 bytes meaning in in in in a in on a good good day where you've e every bite 15 seconds you have 10 bites that's a little more than two minutes that's how long it took you to eat you have 20 bites okay so you ate for a little more than that double that four minutes the reality is the amount of time that a person enjoys the taste that he that was literally spent so much time on making preparing paying for it you may not have made it but you literally spent a whole day's work on it how between the thinking about it and literally making the money to pay for it people don't think about that oh I'm going to go to a steakhouse and a steak house is going to cost me $2 $300 how long how much money do you make I make $2 $300 a day oh so you spending a whole day just to eat steak tonight like that makes sense to you there's no problem of doing it once in a while but no one really does it once in a while anymore people literally make their life around going out to this place and that place and that's why in places like New York and and Los Angeles where generally speaking it's high income High income Society very very few actually have assets because they spend everything many times eating it or consuming it in things that are disposable so here the ran is telling us that this lust for food leads to gluttony this it leads to overindulgence an overindulgence that doesn't even make any rational sense because if you were to think the amount of time that you spend preparing the food or preparing to eat the food at some restaurant versus the amount of time that you're actually going to taste the food and benefit from it it doesn't justify it doesn't justify no one says you have to eat board or something or eat some piece of wood but it doesn't justify that much investment into it needless to say if now you're going to not only plan and spend and exert but the result will not only be a actual enjoyment out of it that's minimal but even worse the result will actually be detrimental to you where the food that you're eating even if it's healthy is still harmful to you because you're overeating that overeating is really the biggest point that is the the danger here enjoying a piece of food going to a nice restaurant ordering whatever you like to eat that's not the key part of the danger sometimes ordering is the most convenient thing you could do you don't have time you don't want to spend time cooking you want to spend time learning working doing a lot of productive thing so it's easy to press a few buttons and just order some food there's no problem with ordering especially if you enjoy it no problem but once you make it a priority in your day a topic of the day something so significant and then you get to a point where you want to literally enjoy every second of it to the point where literally you're eating enough for two or three people and you leave that meal as if you just ate a person now you've got to the point you've turned that blessing into a curse where do we see this in the Torah some of the worst places one of them that I mentioned already is the Ben the Ben is the Glutton is the drunker that even though he's below Bar Mitzvah age of 13 he still gets a death penalty of stoning he should have learned from asav asav we know from The Book of Genesis is called adom why is he called adom he's called ad the Torah says after the whole interaction between him and his brother Yakov he comes back from hunting he comes back from killing he just killed Nim that day he just raped a woman he just did all five different sins during that day he comes back he's tired yov who studied all day had to make a meal to eat part of lentil lentil soup as soon as asav sees this he says to him give it to me or I'm going to die so yov sees this opportunity he says okay give me your firstborn rights you don't value It Anyway asab says who cares about the firstborn rights go ahead you're firstborn but make sure to pour this food from the pot into my mouth and there the Torah says asav is a why is aav a says aav is a because the food was ad the food was red so what if you eat green food you become green called green monster you're the Incredible Hulk no is that the food defined who asav was not the color of the food but rather that one day that he ate the food that way was not the first time he ate food that way he was always that way asab was such a glutton was such a materialistic person his whole life revolved around materialism that's why he had no problem murdering Nimrod because Nimrod had something that he wanted being the uh clothing of Adar that's why he had no problem of killing a woman because she had something that he wanted that's why he had no problem selling the first born rights because Yakov had something that he had food he was such a materialistic person that if he couldn't have what he wanted he simply couldn't tolerate life so he said give it to me I don't even want to waste time putting it in a bowl getting utensils just pour it directly in my mouth and says in the t is a he's called after the food that he ate not because the food was red but rather because that minute that he did it defined who he was not just that minute but his entire life that's how he was so the gluttony of esav defined who he was unfortunately what people don't realize is that when a person overindulges in one thing it opens up the possibilities the likelihood and even the desire to overindulge in other things if he over indulges in food it's not just food he'll overindulge in anything else that he can because once a person loses their sense of control of self-control then they're simply going to lose their s sense of uh uh uh sense of control over a lot of other things hence the reason why people that uh are wealthy and are able to overindulge with let's say food they also overindulge with promiscuity they also overindulge with gambling and money uh uh matters they also over indulge with other types of things that literally make that their entire life one big disaster it's not that they're just overindulging in one thing and one thing only they're going to overindulge in whatever they have access to so some people are only going to overindulge in food usually that's because they can't afford anything else they can't do anything else but if they can they do because once you've accustomed yourself to overindulge in one thing whether it's gluttony of food or gluttony of money or gluttony of women or all types of men or whatever it is there's no limitation a person could literally turn in themselves into a monster that will ruin not just their own life their marriage and needless to say their intimacy because if he does not know how to control himself when it comes to eating there's no way that he's going to be able to control himself when it comes to intimacy he's either going to want too much or he's going to only be concerned about himself completely eliminating the thought process that it's supposed to be enjoyable for both him and his wife or vice versa a woman that is overindulgent doesn't have to be overindulgent in food only it could be overindulgent in money matters but that will lead her to become overindulgent in food or overindulgent in her own selfishness in intimacy and this loss of control by choice leads to a disaster when it comes to marriage and a disaster when it comes to intimacy now one of the examples that we see overindulgence stick out its really ugly head recently in the Jewish World obviously the non-jewish world it's a standard unfor unfortunately these these matters but in the Jewish World we at the very least as well as Society expects more of us so when you see these things you have to highlight them because if you don't they're just going to continue getting worse one of the things that we see now is that this loss of desire to work for something this loss of desire to earn something something is something that comes from gluttony something that comes from making ourselves okay with overindulgence okay with demand uh you know at a uh at any given moment meaning without any any uh patience whatsoever the button generation where you press a button and you want whatever you want to happen right away now if this was only something that affected shopping affected I don't know your bank account it wouldn't necessarily be the worst thing in the world but it never is and what's happened now is that am is has known about the prohibition from anything that's harmful to you harmful to your health but needless to say drugs drugs have always been forbidden in the Jewish World several years ago I was invited to do some lectures in New York and we did a whole Ser whole lecture about drugs the drug addiction in the community which really affects mostly secular people mostly people that are not involved in the Torah but in recent times it started affecting more and more people that are actually religious now how could this be a few people that consider themselves rabbis spiritual leaders Psychopaths they probably don't consider themselves but they should apparently said that there is a permission to connect to God with through spiritual drugs one as I mentioned a few years ago said uh that marijuana is perfectly fine to use if that's going to help you connect to God better in the last few years what's taken the Jewish World by storm especially the most religious Jewish world is a psychedelic drug called a aaska this aasa is a psychodelic it's something that makes a person see things feel things and many times makes them believe that they're seeing something Supernatural whether they're seeing God or angels and some will even say this is actually making them closer to God the truth is anyone that has watched that lecture years ago would know that this is completely forbidden according to the Torah now what about those rabbis that are saying no no they're doing chuva because they're taking aasa they're doing chuva they're learning more Torah because they're smoking marijuana well guess what the Torah has discussed this and the is it's not allowed why is it not allowed the got Feinstein writes 722 and you read that these drugs when they're taking electively meaning you're not being fed these drugs because you are in a uh uh you know your life at risk you're some cancer patient or mental institution no no no you are choosing to take to smoke marijuana you're choosing to to uh to uh ingest aaska or any of the likes they number one ruin the body and the mind they desecrate the body and the mind they turn the person into a sh a sh means a person like a drunker a person that's not mentally all there and therefore cannot be considered part of aan cannot be considered uh for for his actions you can't calculate his sins or his mitv in fact anything that they do during that time even if it's a mitvah doesn't count he learns T while he's high it doesn't count there's a Mitzvah he prays while he's high it's a sin it's not a mitzvah why because to serve your creator you have to be at complete Focus not high not having your mentality altered by some type of chemical or plant and in fact this intentional sh that thinks he's doing a mitvah that Hur some Rabbi that pretends to be Aid that pretends to be elevated from other people and the likes every single thing that they do during that time is not only not considered a Mitzvah it's considered a sin how big is the sin says Moshe Feinstein because you made yourself an intentional you are in the same level same category as the Ben the wayward child that gets the death penalty of stoning had mosenu or the sanedrin seen you with your aasa with your marijuana they would arrest you immediately and kill you yeah but it got me closer to God now you're gonna be real close just not in this world anymore so what about the rabbis that told me that I can take it to my knowledge it's only a few Psychopaths that calls themselves rabbis that recommended the rest of them are just simply drug dealers guess what they're individual opinions that no one considers no one will ever consider because they're against ala we have ala it doesn't change the fact that you think that you can get closer to God by skipping learning Torah by skipping praying by skipping the toil by skipping the hard work is a result of you accustoming yourself to overindulgence to I want now without an effort how did aasa and marijuana and all of this garbage enter the most religious communities in the world simple somebody wanted a shortcut why would anybody want a shortcut when you know that we've been waiting for the mashiah for 2,000 years certainly not a shortcut when you know that to become a takes a lifetime certainly not a shortcut when you know to finish the sh even if you are a a genius will still take you a while everything in Judaism takes time to pray in a morning takes an hour the Gentiles ask how is it that the Jews are so smart simple if you're a religious Jew first thing in the morning you're reading 200 Pages first thing every single morning you're reading 200 pages on Shabbat 400 just the start of the day that's our prayer afternoon another 50 at night another 3540 that's just our prayer that's not even our studies all of it takes time why did you think reaching the ultimate levels of connection to God shouldn't take any time could simply be done with a little pill or a little drink or a little puff why did you think that makes any sense because you weren't thinking with your Tor hat you were thinking with your lust hat the same lust and gluttony and overindulgence that took over you when it came to food or when it came to money when it came to morality issues of promiscuity issues of between him and her you figured that I could have as much of this as I want so therefore I could have as much of this as I want and therefore I could have as much of this as I want but everybody keeps talking about this God thing and getting close to God so I want as much of that as as I want also so but I don't want to wait 50 years to become the next rki I don't want to wait 80 years to become the next leader I want now how can I get it now your local drug dealer will tell you yeah you'll be flying high one little pill one little puff you are in not aasa you're in Hawaii you're in wherever you want and guess what you're also in gay you also have a decree of death penalty on you you also are as far from the truth as it literally gets you are living a delusional life while you're awake meaning your highlight is this state of mind under the drug but that has less lies in it than the life that you're living because your life when you're not high you're thinking you're doing okay in reality you're living such a lie that you're thinking that you're religious you're thinking that you're close to Hashem you're thinking that you're serving hasem and the worst part about it is that typically people that do this recommend it to other people which means that you become a you become person that causes other people to sin where does all this come from somebody just wakes up a religious married woman and all of a sudden she starts taking drugs somebody just wakes up a Rob and the next day wants to take drugs wants to do psychedelics somebody wakes up and Yeshiva wants to take no it doesn't happen that way what happens is the upper Heavens decide everything that's going to happen someone that does good and wants good Hashem gives him good someone that does good but also does bad and sometimes wants bad he want wants her even though she's not his wife he acts as if she is he thinks as if she is he wants that even though it's not his so he takes it and makes it his whether he steals it or he cheats for it he starts indulging he starts accustoming himself she starts accustoming herself that Indulgence is fine I'm just enjoying life and this type of mindset has unfortunately become almost a norm in certain parts of our society where you see people literally go on pesak uh uh Retreats that literally cost enough to put a down payment on a house oh we're going away for PES where you going to your mom's house no to your father's house to your kid who you down the street where you going no no we're going on this uh treat what isn't it like5 $10,000 a person and you guys have 15 people in a family yeah yeah yeah it's going to be fun it's great you coming no I'm not going to spend $100,000 to beat for PES but people do it all the time they're going for PES $75 $100,000 and that's just PES what another 100 150,000 now again Ma you have money no problem but how is it that you're spending 75 100,000 on P but when it comes to helping the local Sho with some St or for something useful the oh yeah I'll give $200 wait so to go eat 75,000 to tell the time 150,000 to live 3 million million and a half whatever all all types of crazy numbers but when it comes for things that matter all of a sudden it doesn't make sense why because again a person that accustoms themselves to Indulgence to gluttony to a sinful life also loses their Merit their Merit to do good their Merit to receive good so it literally becomes a deadly diet a killer diet something that kills Life as we know it he starts with allowing himself to Simply eat everything and anything as long as it's kosher he goes to the event he spent two three $400 to give him a gift he wants to get his money worth so he'll eat two or three servings from the buffet he'll eat his whole meal and maybe perhaps even whatever is left over from his kids why he wants to get his money's worth it's kosher why it's not allowed just because it's kosher doesn't mean you eat to have to you have to eat the cow just because it's kosher doesn't mean that you have to uh rent out the entire farm and a person simply indulges in such a fashion he doesn't see anything wrong with it why because it's a Mitzvah to eat kosher food you're right but it's a sin to be a glutton and he does the same thing when it comes to money oh Rabbi why it's a Mitzvah to work and make money right givea right but nobody told you to work 18 20 hours a day and pretty much see your your kids once they're already old and they're visiting you in a nursing home no one said that you need to live your life in such a fashion where money is all you're thinking about you're talking about it on your Shabbat table you're talking about it on on on on Monday Tuesday Wednesday in the middle of the night during the day like all you're thinking about is this money and this business and that's it's becomes a addiction no one tolds you that's okay and when a person starts thinking that's okay then before you know it a lot of other things become okay adultery becomes okay promiscuity becomes okay and simply acting the opposite of what you're supposed to the opposite of how you were brought up the opposite of what you yourself knew was good becomes acceptable but that spark in you wants a connection to God you're not going to get it when you pray you're not learning so how you going to get it oh the Satan will send you a solution he'll send you some fake drug dealer pretending to be a rabbi it tells you listen you connect to God through the teachings of what teachings of oh yeah the said that over here you can take no ever such such things dust should be put in the mouth of those people that say such things they tell you take drugs but they call it other things sophisticated names and unfortunately this all stems from the same thing allowing yourself to be a glutton turning that killer diet into a lifestyle and that says the Torah that the one that is the Wayward Son the Ben is taken out of this world before the damage is too far to repair too big to repair and the raban continues and says he should not eat more than to sustain his soul as schl said the righteous eats to the satisfaction of his soul but the belly of the wicked shall want this is in Mish Proverbs 13:2 and the wise man whose eyes are in his head meaning a person that has a rational mindset sees clearly will choose the good way for him and his progeny will listen to the wise and learn from this and therefore keep to this important principle of the matter of foods in relation to the union if a person starts thinking of the food that they eat in connection to what's going to come out of them what's going to come out of them as far as their servitude of God what's going to come out of them as far as the children they can U what's going to come out of them is also what kind of Lifestyle they will have because one permission to be a glutton one permission to CER a a pig meaning a a something that's forbidden is going to yield other forbidden actions it's only a matter of time when he starts looking at it as wow this meal is not just about saying thank you to God before I eat and thank you to God after I eat I have to think about Hashem way before I even thought about eating while I'm eating and after I'm eating because all of it has to connect to him or else I'm no different than the elephant or else I'm no different than a cow to give you an example of how this worked in real life Shalom was also thees he was like the father of he was loved by all was a big big sadik one time he was invited by a billionaire billionaire Jew to his Island in uh to his place in j Walter and apparently this very very wealthy man wanted to celebrate in the honor of the sadik he wanted to have an event where he invited some of his wealthy friends to his uh Palace over there and the rabbi came with a few of hisim to this place where in order to get there to this island you had to take a helicopter so they arrived private helicopter private everything finally they get to the house and the rabbi sees already that all of the workers are running around doing everything to set up the place for this big event it's going to have you know hundreds of people there and he sees they're all putting down everything and now everything is beautiful and set and all of the utensils are gold we're not talking about goldplated the forks the knives the spoons they're all actual gold that's how wealthy this guy was now the guy's proud of everything he's doing he's it's the honor of the rabbi the honor of the Tor right first question from to the host to the billionaire did you dip them in the mik the guy didn't know what hit him he go huh what mik what are you talking about do you T the forks the knives Spoons the plates everything dip in a mik no no Rabbi they're gold they're gold they're brand new I got them get where did you get I got them from you know some some some some sold me made it all custom for me wait so he didn't dip in a mik now let to eat from them oh RAB they're all set now let to eat what can we do you have to dip him the guy with was wealthy enough to get this done but how he hired a bunge jumping company bunch of guys came all the staff that he had took all of the utensils the plates the spoons the knives everything took it to the top of the mountain because top of the mountain there's a cliff Cliff overseeing the ocean the Bungie jumping company would go with some of it they would give them some dip him all the way down the ocean dip the rabbi watching every single one good go back up dip good go back up some of them fell down became a national treasure under the under the ocean some of them came back up long story short this whole thing took three hours three hours they're dipping from the cliff into the ocean to make sure every single thing is pure to be used the rabbi is very happy we have a lot of it's a big Mitzvah you did so the guy is happy now the time for the event everybody shows up everybody's there food starts coming out the rabbi is sitting at the head and the fool is going to come to him go no no no it's okay I don't want so the owner is not sure what's what's happening here but he can't say much he just watch the rabbi obviously is not like one of his friends as he sees something that he will never forget in his life all the plates went to the mik all the spoons went to the mik an ocean the best mik in the world so you would think the rabbi's happy with everything he is but it doesn't mean he's going to eat the food it's koser doesn't mean that he has to eat it what's he going to eat the rabbi takes out from his bag a little sandwich with chocolate that the the raban made for him chocolate spread like Nutella the raban made for him back at home in Israel he has it in a little ziplock bag takes that the Z back puts it on the gold plate and he and he does the blessing with everybody wash their hands like everybody else and that's his M that's what he eats what about the steak and the five course meal all that stuff no no no no no that's uh gluttony that's extra what do I need all that stuff for so so what about all the plates it's good the plates need to be CER for everybody else doesn't mean I have to eat the food but why because the little sandwich the Ruban eat meat is perfectly fine why do I need anything extra no one is telling you to just eat a little sandwich for the rest of your life but just understand that when we talk about the sages we talk about great rabbis we talk about great sikim they weren't great because they just had a good memory or they read a lot of books they were great from beginning to end beginning to end of every single day beginning to end of every thought beginning to end of every action was different than everyone else because they understood that yes it's perfectly fine to eat that steak it's perfectly fine to eat that 3 four 15 course meal it's perfectly fine but what do I need it for what do I need to this extra Indulgence in my life if the satiation could be done just as well without the Indulgence and if I don't open up this Indulgence and turn it into this gluttony turn it into something bad then that's also protecting me from anything else that it could bring the lust for money the Lust For Women the lust for all of the other things that are prohibited so the restraint wasn't because he wasn't hungry wasn't because food is not good wasn't because of K but rather the restraint was because this was a part of life that was necessary to get to where he wanted to be in life now we are all at different levels but certainly all of us can use some better performance can use some better uh uh uh some better actions can improve in so many words all of us can perhaps 5 minutes or 10 minutes or 20 minutes less thinking about food perhaps not eating as much perhaps not thinking as much about eating perhaps not wasting your time life and mind looking at other people people's property perhaps spending more time connecting to God rather than imagining that there's a shortcut perhaps helping others do the same thank you very much for learning with me May Hashem bless each and every single one of us to get closer to a the one and only way the long route that's really the short route we'll see each other again tomorrow oh [Music]