Jealousy: The Silent Killer

[Music] now person that has jealousy there's a few different levels of it the most extreme form of jealousy is somebody that's upset that someone else has something and they don't simple and to the point he has a car I don't he has a big house I don't he has a wife I don't he has this I don't says that's the worst level of jealousy worst how many of us are innocent of this second lesser degree of Envy is someone that can't tolerate when other people have more he also has but they have more he has a Mercedes or something but the other guy has a Bentley he has a Toyota but the other guy has a Mercedes he has a house the other guy has a mansion He has a watch the other guy has a fancy watch he has a wife the other guy's wife is a few years younger a few years prettier and whatever whatever he has he has but he's eating his heart day and night because he has a little more and the most tolerable level is someone that's jealous of his friend actually having and just wishes that he had it also natural jealousy that he Le he has a nice house I wish I a ni house still jealousy all of them are bad the serious problem we have here is that just wanting someone something that someone has just not because I'm I'm upset that he has it because just I want it that's also considered bad but the sad reality is that most people are in the first class most people are upset that the other person has and they don't and this is the root of all the problems that have ever happened from until today you look at the entire Tora and you're going to find endless amount of stories that start with K that start with jealousy starts off with the angels in sh looked at they thought he was God they thought he was God in human form he was so big so beautiful so perfect such wisdom that they could not even comprehend they thought he was God they were about to bow to him and that's when hasm made him go to sleep they knew Hashem doesn't go to sleep oh it's not God but they were so jealous of the said I can't let this continue I'm G to ruin it I'm G to ruin it why are they so jealous of him I'm going to ruin it he went ruin it became the snake became the serp you know the whole story made the woman sin and then him sin and then they were both kicked out of ganeden now before they got kicked after they got kicked out what happened that Sons can enable what happened with the sons Cain had half the world Abel had the other half of the world who's better than you you don't have to worry about a mortgage you don't have to worry about Banks calling you you have to worry about insurance companies you don't have to worry about yes you have to worry about nothing you have half the world whatever you one is yours no no no no I don't like it why he has two wives I only have one they were both born with twins and those times obviously since it's the creation of the world hasm allowed for a brother to be with his sister if they're married so Cain was born with a single woman twin and Abel was born with two women two girls twins so it's triplets Kan didn't like it he has two wives I only have one one I don't like it jealousy killed them killed them you fast forward you go to generation of Noah generation of Noah what happened all the all the gone that happened in the generation of Noah not too different from today's generation what happened people started stealing each other's wives jealousy fast forward abuu each one of them had their own trials you go to this week's CH this week's CH you have your aad your aad only person entire T says he's aad who's better than youm called you tadik will just call us just come in just say come in don't even say my name just come in to G it's already enough he says this his brothers also this is comes from them and it says so isov loved y more than all of his other Sons since he was a child of old age meaning he was a he had a lot of wisdom and he made for him a uh a fine wol tunic and his brothers saw it that he that it was him that the father loved the most and the brothers hated him because of it to such an extent that they couldn't even say hello they hated him so much not they hat him Hey listen he's uh Obama fan he's a uh you know Trump fan no the jealous see that the ABA loves him more than us I can't stand it wasad and Tam God bless him wasik was little young so now he didn't realize that his brothers could possibly hate him so what did he do when the father made him this special clothing he would wear it and he would tell him oh look at the clothing I have look at the clothing I have now he's thinking they would be happy for him why would his brothers why would they be upset be happy for me ABA made me a special outfit look at the clothing I have look at what are you doing to yourself what are you doing to yourself your so we see that it's also here fast forward fast forward could not have enough could not have enough could not have enough but these are couldn't have enough didn't matter what he someone had something else he had to have it but he's it's not really good examples what's a good example k k is a good example why k wasad k wasad kak was one of the before he went to kak knew the entire Torah kak was wealthy in Big B K CH he's one of the leaders he was so big that he got 250 of the do to sign off yes we agree we agree we had a missionary want to come come to a b a year ago went to to get a single signature I think I had to give my heart I had to put my heart on the table it's like is my heart give me the signature and exchange for one signature me who am I say is my heart hey take the heart take this take this okay just give me one signature K 250 of signed on the spot with no questions asked for what not against the missionary against musu against mhu that made all of them do cha mhu you're going against mosenu why because I'm jealous of mosu I want to be the leader why is mosu leader what he's smart I'm smart also why he has money I have money also what he I'm also why ISU the the leader Why Not Me Maybe maybe he didn't really speak to God maybe God didn't really mean for him to stay the leader maybe this maybe this why jealousy and jealousy took k out of the world and the says no why jealousy simple jealousy made the ground open up and swallow him and his family with the exception of a few of his kids that did chuva in the last minute swallowed him and everything that belonged to him meaning if somebody still can continued holding on to any of his money the ground swallowed him also just for for holding on to anything that belonged to kak why hasem hates jealousy hates it so now we see that there's literally endless examples in a Torah about how much hem hates jealousy and the say being jealous is hated by Hashem to such an extent that anyone that's guilty of you should question you should question whether they're following D at all why because if someone has this jealousy that's gets out of control it's very easy for them to violate all Ten Commandments and there's actually AAR about it there's AAR about it that uh also in the talks about it says that a someone that's jealous leads a person to violate all Ten Commandments and it gives a story it gives a story of how somebody was what jealous of what his next door neighbor's wife his wife was good-looking and he saw it through the window over there and it said oh she's pretty that's it nothing else maybe she was wearing a wig who knows says she's pretty but every day would peek in peek in and see she's pretty she's pretty she's pretty okay whatever the guy's looking at a woman it's not good but why you call him a rash already says yes why look what happened with the story one day the husband left town as soon as the husband left town this guy that's peeking in from next door knew so what does he do he breaks the fence already he's vandalizing his his uh he's Ving the Commandment he's vandalizing his uh his neighbor's stuff next thing he does breaks into the house next thing he does rapes the wife so now you've already violated a few Commandments wife starts trying to defend herself he kills her now you f another commandment and cops come in cops come in people start screaming whoa what's going on goes oh look what happened some murderer was here and I just came he just ran away I just came I tried helping her I just came because I lent the husband some stuff some stuff for Shabbat and I came to pick it up and this is what I found so now he's going against the tah in every single way so then they say okay we have Tak you to trial and he swears in the name of Hashem that this is what happened from just looking at a woman that's not yours violate all Ten Commandments matter of fact if you look at I didn't really want to go over too much but you should know that r he met with came to him he says you want to see G he says yes he tells him all the different things that he saw different things that he saw but not going to go into it now I don't want I want you guys to sleep this week but he says and I saw some people that are hung from their eyes why go look at a woman it's not yours why you looking it's your wife no it's not why you looking then why you looking why are you looking at someone that's not your wife you know if you actually understood the dean in sh when you look at a woman that's not your wife you would never look at another woman again never if you have to have a conversation with a woman for whatever reason or another you want to help her custom or whatever you look once to see who you're talking to but look away after constantly once to in a while you go back just to make sure that you know she knows you're talking to her and so on but as much as you can pretty much 99% of the time if you can don't look directly at her why as a man it's almost impossible for you to have a clean mind unless you're for unless you're glued to hem it doesn't matter she could be 95 years old she could be 15 she anything anything your yet does not have limitation does not have limitations maybe thinking about what in maybe will help you a little bit break that rock and it talks about says three go to G and do not come back is the first one someone that goes with a married woman G will end but his G will not end so we're not going to go over anything else here I think it's scary enough for tonight but the point I'm trying to say is that here you have all of these disasters begin with a simple look a simple look at the grass on the other side you know there's a famous saying the grass is always greener on the other side the an the real question should be why you looking why you look looking at the other grass why you looking on the other side what difference does it make to you if he makes a lot of money what difference does it make to you what his wife looks like what difference does it make to you how much money he has what car he has what house he has what difference does it make to you do you realize that you're killing yourself by looking somewhere else other than yourself you're guaranteed to lose guaranteed to lose on one end the most likely end you're going to find something that he has that you don't because that's usually what the looks for so his wife is ugly and yours is pretty you're not going to care about that his house is small and yours is Big you're not going to care about that his uh bank account is small and yours is Big you're not going to care about that what are you gonna do you're gonna find out oh one of his kids and my kids are half oh can't be can't be now you're jealous of the kids now you have on his kids says 99% of people die from 1% died from regular death you looked at this kids say oh they're so smart they're so smart or so this my kids are not you're putting in on his kids why you looking why you looking and that's the thing that a lot of people waste their lives mamash waste their lives looking at other people's lives whether it's on social media on Facebook or different things like that and that's why I always tell people if if you're smart don't ever put anything personal on Facebook no pictures and no sayings really you shouldn't be on it anyway but whatever if you're using it for good to do k or something like that fine a uh it's you're able to use it for good purposes just like you can use a computer for good purposes in general just you use a car for good purposes in general just like you can use a house for good purposes or bad ones and so on but the point being is that to use any of these vehicles that Hashem gave you just to publicize things about your life is a stupidest things in the world you can do first of all you're leading other people to sin if you're a pretty woman even if you're ugly woman doesn't make a difference you're showing yourself immodest you're showing yourself in general someone's going to sin because of you there's a very scary movie that came out recently in the last couple of weeks of a woman that had a near-death experience maybe some 10 years ago or a little less than 10 years ago she had a near-death experience she was a BAL Chua Bal Chua that uh she did chuva and um she used to be a model when she was young she was like 16 years old she was a model and then she started discovered AEM and so on and so forth the cha got married um had kids and ini she covered her hair with a with a cchf with a um tickle and um everything was fine but then she started seeing she moved to a new neighborhood and she started seeing that this new neighborhood also also religious but more people wearing wigs so she decided wait this is allowed to wear these wigs she decided okay I'll wear a wig so she started wearing a wig and she tells the story herself starts wearing a wig and the wigs become more and more stylish he says oh the clothes become more and more stylish a little tighter a little this a little shorter she said as I started cutting my skirts a little bit just an extra two inches why I wanted to fit in they were wearing it right to the knee I'm wearing it right to my knee they're wearing tight clothes I'm wearing they're doing their whole life I'm just a b CH what do I know especially since the rabbi told her it's okay her husband told her it's not okay but she said no but they both spoke to a rabbi it was a supposedly a big Rabbi and he said no it's okay it's allowed it's fine go ahead do it go ahead do it do it it's fine no problem yeah we have some Rabbi sometime million years ago said it's okay to put a straw in your head but We're translating it to be hair better than what you have fine go okay she did it little by little life is good she says one day they decide to take a trip like on a regular day family trip they get into a car accident her husband dies on the spot one of our kids is in critical condition one of them is is saved miraculously and she's in critical condition and she goes into a coma and the coma continues but over here continues in sh something else going on she says in sh she goes to theed of sh she they start she starts seeing things and she starts seeing all these millions and millions of millions of yelling at her you did this to us we hate you you did this to us we sinned because of you you you she's like I don't know why they're yelling at me I don't she's crying I don't know why they're yelling at me it's so embarrassing millions of people are yelling at me I I don't know what I did and then they show me a movie of my life and they show me me modeling and me today and it looks the same me modeling as a 16y old and me with the wig and the tight clothes and it looks the same and sh they didn't like it too much they said everything that happened started with your wig everything that happened is your fault and she says I took it and I cried to Hashem and I wanted another chance and when I realized that I actually died I wanted another chance she got another chance and she says I accept everything that I got with love because I know what actually happens out there and hasem did a for me for giving me another chance the story is much more extraordinary than I tell you she went to R Shalom before he died I mean uh this is again like I said like about a 10 year old story or so maybe even longer and R says You must publicize this to everyone now I personally never heard it until the the movie came out recently and I'm telling you if you don't cry hearing this story you should double check your post you're probably not alive yeah I don't remember but I'll find I think it's something to do with a crown something Crown something uh I'll send it to you I'll send it to you I'll post it on post it somewhere so now why did she start all of this why why why what was what was wrong with the what was wrong with the the the the hat or the scarf in head what was wrong with it nothing was wrong with it she saw the neighbor saw the neighbor wearing a wig long nice pretty this looks like a looks like she 16y old model she goes why should I wear the shata on my head and she looks like she just came off the runway show if it's allowed I'm doing it too jealousy why you looking why you looking so jealousy is literally the root of all evil every single sin you're ever going to make is usually going to start with your eyes and that's the reason why say that the first thing that happens after a person dies if they're Wicked the the demons that come to punish him immediately before he even gets to sh first thing they do is they break his eyes why because he violated what following his heart because he saw something he saw something don't look don't look watch your eyes and people really don't understand what it means to watch your eyes in there's a few different things things in page a it says mosenu when he saw the arm is come back from the war against the midianites he saw that they're bringing a Corban he goes why you bringing a Corban what' you make another this was after the whole thing that happened with balak and Bam when is sinned with the with the n Jewish women and Hashem put a plague on 24,000 of them died he almost killed everyone then Pinas came and killed Z and Cosby and stopped the whole thing soem says now you have to go fight them you have to go fight the moabites why fight them go take revenge okay so they go to war start killing people why because you made a sin you almost killed the whole nation fine they come back from the war after they won and no one died why they did chuva you do fights the war for you fight your you should remain silent meaning you go with the spear but in reality hm is shooting you go with the tank but in reality hasm moves the bullets you're not really just you're making it look realistic that's all it is so now they come back from the war come back from the war says what's thisan you guys all right again made a sin what you go with the midianites also like you did with the moabites goes no no no shom shom Shalom we didn't do it again go so what's theban for he says because we looked we looked at them we looked at the truth we didn't sin with them we looked at them we looked at them so we have to give you understand looking at them is a sin looking at them is a sin looking at the girl that's not your wife is a sin whoever gazes at even the little finger of a woman where her ring is a wedding ring it's considered in shim as if the looked at the place of our nakedness don't think that just because finger it's no big deal oh just because it's her face no big deal it's her ear no it's our ha everything's a big deal the entire woman is considered nakedness if it's not your wife stop looking stop looking at women that are not your wives why you ruin your life you must ruin your life why you going to think about it all day you're going to think about it all night you're G to make sins you're GNA think you're ruining your life you're going to look at your wife you're going to look at her you're going to look at your wife you're look her once in a while she going to look better than your wife now what happens you going start thinking oh he has I don't he has I don't ruins your life my M ruins your life [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music] for [Music]