How To Rebuke Family & Friends Properly (5 Minutes)

that's a so you can punish but without anger right so now when when you have a uh you could show anger but not really be angry meaning so you see for example sometimes arav wants to correct his uh his students so but to correct his students by saying please please please sometimes doesn't work sometimes you has to show like a he doesn't have to say much but show like an angry face it's just play but it's in reality just trying to show them an image of what somebody looks like what he would even look like if he's angry in reality he's not angry but he has to show them that face to give them an image to remind him he by the way listen I'm not joking I'm not joking why because there's aah that all of us are obligated which we also talk about in this called which means you must rebuke your people which includes your children you must rebuke when someone is doing wrong when someone is not polite when someone is violating Shabbat when someone is violating any type of mitvah and you have a connection to them either you're their parent you're their friend you're their Uncle you're their neighbor you have some type of connection to them you must rebuke them but it also says but you can't bring yourself to sin meaning even the rebuke has to have a strategy you can't just go into every single guy that drives on Shabbat and say say g g g you can't say that why because then they're going to you know they're going to start thinking of you as a crazy person not going to listen to you or some of these fools that throw rocks at people that drive on Shabbat not realizing that throwing a rock is also not allowed on Shabbat the rock is M so sometimes we have to use our brain and realize that there's a way to rebuke so okay so for example you have somebody in your Bess you know the guy drives to Nets drives to Nets not only drives he drives to Nets extra early in the morning every Shabbat make sure he gets there on time you fool don't come to Nets don't come to anything stay home if you have to just don't drive on Shabbat but nobody tells him and he sits next to you in sh tell Listen by the way I'm not sure if you follow the par you remember the par where AEM gave us the Ten Commandments yeah yeah yeah which commandment you remember which command you remember the Commandments he goes yeah more or less I pray Nets Shabbat pray Nets which commandment said you have to go to sh on Shabbat he's going to tell you no I don't I don't I don't remember being there a commandment and the Ten Commandments they have to go to sh on Shabbat oh no you sure yeah which commandment says you can't drive on Shabbat the fifth commandment when it says says keep Shabbat one of the 39 restrictions is lighting fire when you light a fire each time you light a fire it's a sin of it's violating Shabbat the problem is huh it's the fourth the fourth command yes so the problem is that when you light fire it's one sin when you turn on the car it's much more than one fire according to one of my uh students it's an engineer each time you press the gas pedal and go 60 MPH according to the RPMs he's an engineer he did the calculation it's no less than 6,000 fires so just driving from your house 15 minutes later you got to theet you're all happy you got your little talit with your little quarter keep on you're running to at 5:30 in the morning think you did mitvah you just violated chabbat somewhere between 800 to 900,000 times what are you going to do is also each one is of course so now you have a serious serious problem the important part is to know how to tell this guy this you tell him listen going to B it's very nice it's aah but it's not obligation in Ten Commandments it's not even an obligation in 613 Commandments 13 not obligation it's good to pray it's good to pray in be but but shom it's not over Shabbat you're obligated to keep Shabbat you're not obligated to go to B which means if you cannot live next to AET either move because you don't live next to AET or don't go to stay home keep Shabbat it's much more important you can't go to ganeden if you drive on Shabbat even if it's the even it's the mikdash even if it's to the Cel even it's to whereever wherever you you're not going you're not not going to let you in so oh you drove here sorry you can't get in you only take people that walk so people have to understand how to tell this to somebody I am a much more blunt person I think I say things as they are some people take it the right way some people take it the wrong way some people fight with me some people argue with me some people take it the right way and people do Chua you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by Torah anytime.com