How to Properly View Suffering? (13 minutes)

page s it explains the common question that we hear today a lot of people go through suffering whether it's a broken fingernail a flat tire you brought the wrong size shirt your son failed in school wake up with a cold all types of Things Different suffering for different types of people and everyone always looks up and says H why why it tells you why it says there's no such person that gets an injury on his finger down in this world without there being the righteous reason for it in the upper World Translation there's no suffering without sin it's called Kar for a reason meaning anything that we're suffering for is a reason for it either we've sinned in this life or perhaps in previous life but nonetheless we've sinned there's a reason for it now suffering though is a choice you don't have to suffer because once you understand what kapar is once you understand what suffering is and it's in in essence an atonement for your sins you could change it and actually look at it as less than suffering and if you get to a really really high level of you may even get to a point of actually welcoming it like some of the sages did in the past we're not going to get there overnight but let's explain how we can get there if I know that me taking a coin out of my pocket and instead of it being a quarter it's a dime in sham it's considered suffering obviously they're very low form of suffering but suffering nonetheless the surgery where I scream for 62 days is higher level of suffering than the coin I prefer the coin I'm sure you do too but both of them are different levels of suffering once we look at it as the general secular perspective which is why is this happening to me it's not nice why is AEM doing this to me and we treat ourselves like victims then that means that we are suffering 24 hours a day every single day that we're alive with moments of happiness in between we are always suffering always wake up suffering go to sleep suffering in between we're suffering and maybe once a year we go on break for a vacation to Tahiti or something and while we're looking at a beach we're not suffering until the waiter comes with the wrong drink and then we're suffering again but in general we're always suffering if we are victims if we're not at fault life is terrible it's awful it's depressing why would you want to live a week you're always going to suffer you're guaranteed to suffer there's even T-shirts they made in selling flea markets that tell you to expect to suffer I can't say it because it's foul language but I'm Ain the point is is that life without understanding the purpose of suffering is awful and this is why we have so many depressed people because the psychiatrists tell us I can't really help you but I'll listen to you for $350 an hour I went to one one time and I think it was all I think it was $350 or $400 an hour but as soon as I got to exactly one hour says yeah thank you very much but we're going to have to continue this next week I'm like spilling my heart out and the guy tells me we're done now we're going to continue next week like wow you care so much I don't think I'm going to see you again so our psychiatrist tell us thank you I'll listen to you but I can't actually help you if someone has an addiction which we talked about earlier today briefly you have a drug addiction you have a alcohol addiction you have a sex addiction all types of crazy addictions this generation has you go to an AA meeting that's in a church surrounded by idol worship and they tell you yes this is a disease and you're going to suffer from it forever unless you come here meaning there's no cure it's a disease to be a drug addict it's a disease to be any type of addict and by the way thank you for coming if we think that way then yes we have a disease and it's not curable but once we realize that it's not a disease once we realize that D Tor the wisdom of the Torah tells us that there is no such thing as a disease such as alcoholism or drug addiction or any type of addiction it's a desire that's it it's just a desire some people have more of a desire than others but it's a desire how do we know it's a desire you weren't born with it and you can stop it may be hard for you to stop but you can stop without taking medicine fizer is not making drugs to help people stop taking drugs because that would take them out of business the people out there that are have quit taking drugs or alcohol or any type of other Addiction in many cases realize that it's just a choice once you realize it's a desire then you realize it's a choice once you realize it's a choice then you start making the right choice or at least you have a chance of making the right choice but as long as you listen to these people that tell you it's not a choice you have to come here in order to stay away from this Choice then unfortunately you really do have a disease it's just called stupidity it's not called drug addiction so once we realize that we have a lot of choices to make we realize that one of our choices is to realize that there's a different perspective that we can view our suffering and we do not have have to view it like most people we do not have to view it as a negative thing we do not have to view it as we are victims we can view it as it has a purpose once you see that okay wait a minute this God is a holy God it's a good God he created me if he wanted me to purely to just suffer it wouldn't be in this world there's a much much more entertaining place called Gom you can send me there why make me suffer here meaning that as long as you're here you're not here to suffer there is a higher purpose suffering is done somewhere else kafak G other places not here meaning that the suffering that you do here has a purpose and part of it is to clean you up part of it is to make sure that you're ready for a better place and that requires you to become less stubborn kazal says that if is did not go to Egypt they would never have the Merit to receive the tah they were too stubborn of a people and completely intolerable by rest of mankind so they had to go through years and years of suffering in order for them to soften up their character and even then we have ourselves today we're still stubborn this stubbornness is also a kept as Jewish No Other Nation would have survived with as much persecution as our brothers and sisters have gone through we would just quit start something new like the Christians start every other day there a new sect Protestants and this one and that one and 7day Adventures or adventus there's a new thing every week now they started a new movement in recent years called Messianic movement but they call themselves Jews 100% Christianity but now they call themselves Jews and they created a new name for their Idol they chose a name from the Torah called Yeshua why cu the other one is not in the Torah so they stopped having a fight they created a new name they added a few letters only in this generation see see that nonsense continues but nonetheless our nation continues to have a choice Hashem continues to bring us back to the world but at the same time continues to let us suffer there's no end of suffering that I hear every day every week someone calls me with a different story whether it's Health crisis marriage crisis money crisis or any other crisis in between it never ends the real job of kiru starts after the lecture after you leave and it's all wonderful that's when it really starts that's the 20 hours a day the lecture is the fun part the real key of work starts after it's also fulfilling but it's much harder work than just talking so if I viewed suffering like a miserable horrendous situation no one should ever call me what could I do yes I'm sorry to hear your suffering she could have paid $350 somewhere else and helped somebody make a living with that instead of doing it for free with me why call me and tell me you're suffering if I agree with you that you're suffering why tell me that you're going through trouble and there's no point there is a point the reason why people call me is because I explain to them what's a possibility of why the point is the point is is that you probably made some type of sin at some point and hasem sees that you're authentic and you're realistic and you are trying to do chuva and therefore he says listen my son or my daughter I love you I see that you're trying to become modest I see that you're trying to keep Shabbat keep koser keep the keep I see that you're actually learning to for real and you're not just watching video games or playing video games and watching TV I see that you're actually trying so there's a tab that you still owe me for the previous sins before you did chuba you have to pay for it you have two choices you could pay for it here for a year two years three years or four or where I am there's a section that I Department called Gomen the sentence are very very long because there's no time there CU there's no material and if you compare the time there to here it could be millions of years for just one small sin so he already knows which choice we would pick if he asked us so he makes it for us say okay you're going to suffer for a year instead of suffering for a million much much worse and when you get up there and you finally find the news say thank you hasm this was worth it's a good deal so now when you realize okay there is a deal to be made I have to pay for something therefore this is why it's happening you've just experienced another Torah class brought to you by tor anytime.com