How To Avoid Gehinnom?

[Music] we have lots of interesting things planned for this week um tonight's sh has a few interesting things huge enor that I learned from uh that uh I think that if you actually miss out on understanding this or listening to this it's almost like having the lotto ticket a winner for the grandest price that ever exist I don't know billion dollars or whatever it is and uh losing it or leaving in your drawer never collecting on it that's that's how big this K is uh uh also bem we have a uh sh on Tuesday night in Aventura the the from uh from aventur um he actually today contacted me andem is uh taking the uh you know the advice the idea to uh start showing the movie to different uh groups of people so B tomorrow he's going to show it to a group of people uh and then in a couple of weeks again to a different group of people and maybe ofm will go and give AA to the people after the uh the movie this movie is getting an enormous amount of feedback um almost every single person that has watched it has given positive feedback some have said some things like it's changed their life it's uh given them a new perspective on life but you know I say almost because of course there's always a few that just like to hate not because there's anything to hate but just because if there's not if they don't hate have nothing else to do CU that's all they know how to do uh so of course there's always some people like that that complain about nonsense uh but uh like some people like if you notice there's always in every single video that we have on YouTube it's always an enormous amount a lot of good comments a lot of likes but there's always two unlikes same number every time always two unlikes same number every time before even you publish the Sho it's three hour sh two hours sh 30 seconds after it's published unliked meaning what you don't like it not because you watched it you don't like it you don't like it CU you don't like Hashem you don't like me you don't like tah you don't like yourself you don't like Chua and so on unfortunately there's some people like this in the world uh May Hashem help them do Chua or take them from the world whichever one comes first um because it's sad it's sad that uh some people waste so much of their energy hating it's such a miserable life such a miserable life it's much from to uh to do one of those two things either help them do chuv or take them it'll be for the people around them imagine living next to such a person being a wife or a husband to such a person or a son or a daughter it's it's a dis disaster but anyway we do not want to focus on the sad things or the bad things we talk about them because we cannot avoid the truth uh but there is a few amazing things also BM on Wednesday we'll have a very special event uh two of our children are getting married uh spiritual children my uh biological children still young but we have many other children that are much older they getting married on on Wednesday and it's going to be a special it's going to be a uh sh the the wedding reception is going to be the first one uh that I've done as far as uh officiating at it uh which is uh much a lot harder than I thought and uh learning for the things you need to know and all these different things never really planned on being a uh Rabbi for weddings but has a different plan for me I just uh you know I just sit there and say okay thank you uh you know sometimes Hashem is funny he gives you something he like you're serious Hashem this really so sometimes hasm gives us these different tasks uh but the interesting thing is is that uh this is a very special story it's going to be the Sher itself not Thea the sh itself is going to be uh posted online maybe even we'll have the fortune to put it on live for anyone that's watching because it'll replace the sh that we have normally here on uh on Wednesday uh but these two sikim are inviting the public it's not just like uh friends and family people that want to come learn welcome bring a gift though don't be so cheap uh so uh so this is going to be a Wednesday event um also I know that there's a uh the start of a week usually people have a lot of questions so I know there's a few questions already in the air now that'll answer some questions now and uh then we'll go over into a k for anyone who is interested in learning how to avoid Gom if you're interested in learning how to avoid Gom uh this sure is for you if you're interested in not really knowing it or you're interested in going to Gom just to see what's there you could skip out leave early you know and uh forget about it don't worry about it you'll find out when you get there uh we don't get there if we learn the but believe it or not it's actually not as hard as you think that's the it's only hard for 70 years after that it's easy so so the sh will be forat and for Leana SAR SAR Lana Ben Leana ysf Ben Leana David benri Doris B Ben s and all of will have so with that being said uh let's start off with a couple of the uh questions from the uh back over there yes importance of doing says inab that there is a when a person actually first starts it and Shabbat continues in B it says that when you go to sleep it's 160th of death meaning part of you died left a big part of left and it's considered a partial death so there is a special Mal that uh in essence is in charge of this and that Mal is not your best friend and that Malak does not leave uh your body until you do and the most impure two most impure places in your body are your fingers and your toes now since your toes virtually cannot become purified even if you watch them you're constantly walking you're constantly doing things we don't really necessarily we don't have any Mitzvah to wash your feet that's also by the way as a side note why the kohanim would wash their hands and feet uh but we have a Mitzvah that as soon as you wake up you say thank you that you had in me that you return my and immediately we go and we wash our hands now uh some people take the mitv lightly and it's a mistake such a mistake where they uh they go about their business they do something sometimes they'll grab something to eat sometimes they'll grab something to drink sometimes they'll play with their phone a little bit because we all have a phone addiction uh a lot of us do other things andar says that it's better that your hands were chopped off than you use those hands to touch your eyes your member your female member your male member your uh uh rectal area pretty much your body uh it's it's better off that they were chopped off than you touch your body without doing it to let you di why because the T the impurity of this Mal can affect and hurt those body parts that you're touching and uh says this that if you touch your eyes it could actually hurt your vision you touch your member it could hurt your ability to have children and so on and so forth so that's why a person needs to get rid of this as soon as possible you don't need to be hysterical or crazy you could just walk a few steps to uh your you uh take a canister one one one one one one three times on each hand but unlike for uh for bread we do three on one side and three on the other side consecutively in the morning it's opposite one one one one one one uh so you go back and forth uh there are certain things that uh are understandable and very clear in the tor and there are certain things that are Beyond even our imagination this is probably one of them because some people uh that do not understand or even like mysticism and it's hard for them to rationalize mysticism they simply need to just say okay thank you I'm going to do what you say that's it don't be an akshan don't be a stubborn person you don't necessarily need to understand everything before you do it you take medicine without understanding what it does you know the doctor can say yeah this antibiotic is going to cure you if you ask him okay how does it work he says well if you want really know how it works go to medical school take some biology classes also before it for Premed do some chemistry classes too then med school then have a maybe five to 10 years of experience and then maybe maybe you'll understand how this antibiotic works so maybe by the time you actually get through your first year of understanding you'll die because you didn't take the medicine yet sometimes we want to understand but the reality is that understanding takes a lot of time so sometimes we simply have to just do what it says without understanding it but of course you can learn about it as I said and many many other that talk about and other different different uh little beautiful things that you could learn about each one of them but do not be one of those people that's foolish enough to say I'm not going to do it until I understand it because then simply you'll cancel out the entire Torah uh because in reality that the more you learn the more you realize that you don't understand anything just like says this is a uh this this it's far from me it's far from me so why only this one MIT is far from him he says no no the entire I learned from the that the entire Tora is far from me meaning I always thought says I always thought that everything had a reason for it and that's the reason why we do it but when I learned that there really isn't a reason for a human being to understand I realize that the entire Tor is just like that the things that we know about it it's not really the reason it's something that hasem says as a benefit to doing it you'll have schom if you do this this and this you'll have P if you this this and this there's different things that you benefit from from the mitv but that's not the reason the real reason to do all of the mitv is because hasem said so as we spoke about in detail on Tuesday in the that we did last week so so with that being said uh wash your hands right away in the morning don't waste much time some people especially in in the really religious world they're so careful and zealous with this mitvah that they have a canister a bucket right next to their bed they put it under the bed they cover the bucket and they soon as they wake up they don't even get out of the bed they don't even get out of the bed before they wash their hands and the reason why is because there is that say they shouldn't even walk for amot which is about six feet four steps approximately uh without washing your hands but today especially in America this is a very very uh prosperous time for people are very rich the distance between the bathroom and the bed sometimes can take I don't know maybe 100 steps in some people's houses so if you waited for that it may take you 15 minutes to get there so sometimes it's better to just have it under your bed but if your bathroom is relatively close uh you know have it there either way wash your hands don't be you know you don't need to uh lose your mind if you don't have it you don't have this canister and it's not ready tomorrow the key is wash your hands sometimes people are overly zealous to the point where they make the mitv distasteful they try so hard to do perfect that they end up torturing the whole world including themselves like this one rash that uh named yalan that uh he says he left the religion he used to be Rabbi supposedly but he left the religion why because he was tired of hitting himself to cause anguish to himself who said you have to cause anguish to yourself oh the sikim used to do it many many years ago centuries ago as part of their who says you're a who says that you're you're you are one of those people that should do this if you get to their level of Tora and and you understand why you're doing it then okay you have permission from the ra to do it that's one thing but who are you and who World apart so this guy added a uh something that was not really a mitvah not not really not a Mitzvah at all and he it ended up causing him to hate the religion and uh gave him an excuse to leave everything Al together so uh this is unfortunately what happens very often people add different things or they create too much uh pressure on other people uh the the way of the Torah is the way of pleasantness even though sometimes we have to rebuke even rebuke has to be way way of pleasantness uh even though sometimes you have to say things that are uncomfortable for people even that has to be pleasant you have to know what you're doing and how you're doing you can't yell your kid because he woke up late and he missed kma okay it's not good that he woke up late and he missed kma but don't ruin his life don't call him a loser don't tell him that he's never going to be anything why because that means you're not nothing he's much better than you don't hit your kid uh because he's late to school you should hit yourself oh the kid certain things you know educating the kids it's good you have to educate the kids you have to discipline the kids but there's a there's a way to do everything that's why you have to connect to a that knows how to do things uh you can't do nothing but you can't overdo it so that's also very important so when it comes to or anything else as long as you wash your hands first thing in the morning right after you're fine if you could do it even right after right by the bed that's even greater but if not no big deal just wash your hands that's the key wash your hands it's like keep Shabbat that's the key don't worry about if your Shabbat has 15 guests every Shabbat it's good if you have 15 guests but it's more important for you to have Shabbat first if having 15 guests is gonna cause you to hate Shabbat guess what don't have guests you're not allowed to have guests that's why sometimes guys force their wives to have a bunch of their friends over every Shabbat the wife becomes a hater of Shabbat why she works like a slave every Shabbat she has to feed a bunch of strange people she doesn't even have time to spend with her husband she doesn't have time to spend with her kids have time to even eat herself cuz she's serving everybody like a servant she doesn't like it and husband's like no but come onat what you go to their house what where she your slave so if you're going to host guest it always requires the permission of the wife always unless you're the one that's going to host them meaning you're cooking you're cleaning you're hosting you're this and she's going to sit there like this thank you honey thank you give me a coffee thank you and she's going to say like that have as many as want but if you're going to have guests and it's all the whole thing is going to be on her you have to ask her permission have to ask her for permission next question yes oh you have another one good good I know you had like two three so just go through it uh can you stop somebody playing uh video games or other types of uh mental addictions cold turkey or not just like their faces are different their personalities are different and their abilities are different it all depends on the kid it all depends on the person there some people you could tell them listen I know you've been smoking cigarettes for 20 years and it's a physical addiction but you have to stop cold turkey another guy same thing he's only been smoking for five years but he tell him listen you have to stop smoking but one at a time you know you what are you smoking a pack a day smoke half a pack then smoke got five cigarettes a day there's 20 in one in one pack you know then smoke one a day then eventually stop all together why even though he's smoking for less time and technically he could be less addicted you tell him little by little you tell the other guy all one shot why because the guy one shot his personality is he cannot handle a little bit at a time he's either all out doing it or not doing it the other guy he cannot even mentally comprehend you know how how you expect them to do this all at once or how you expect them to stop all together you tell them listen stop little by little little by little you'll get you'll get you get the Ang of it same concept with video games or any other addiction although it's ideal to uh stop things that waste our time immediately unfortunately if you do a one-size fits-all with everybody you'll end up hurting more people than you save and the reason why is because some people that are not able to do it all at once you tell your wife listen from now on you have to look like s you have to be modish you have to do this you have to do that you tell that she goes okay thank you very much here's the gate here's the gate on another hand if you go to the same woman same woman say honey I'm willing to buy you as much clothes as you want just make sure it's long dresses it covers your elbows covers your knees you don't talk about K on day one you don't mention it you say honey I just want to I'm going to buy it to you I'm buy you a present what's my budget as much as you want I'll put a whole life savings into this why it's mitvah pays it back you do this she's like oh honey wow what a great husband I have I can buy a whole new wardrobe next thing you know she's wearing it for a few months she starts liking it she starts watching with you and she says to you honey you think I should have why why second time didn't she give you a get she didn't want to divorce you because l on the other hand some women I know there's a couple of women as soon as they heard modesty they literally threw out all their clothes they threw out all of their clothes and they started went shopping for for for for mest clothes it all depends on the person all depends on the person so you cannot you know have a one siiz fit all that's why you have to go who knows you who you are a little bit more of a personal stuff it's not just one size fits all ideally of course it's ideal for all of us to stop our sins tomorrow but it's not realistic because of our yet how much our addiction is next question is it worse to kill a Jew at to break Shabbat what's the Naina what's the purpose of the question you're a murderer and I didn't know about it I gave you right home last time I was want to know if I'm giving rights to murderers one time bit one time I actually give a shoe and uh one of the guys that's you know people always stay after this youu uh ask questions personal stuff this and that and uh this actually happened to me twice once in New York once in Florida and the guy I was talking to it's a little weird you know it's like one of those people that's like is like something off you're not really sure what what to say and what to do and why but you know this guy is off it's off like it's just like he might want to kill me not really sure he's saying but I'm not really sure maybe he means you look tasty to me I'm gonna eat you I'm not really sure you're not really sure happened to me a couple of times and on one of those times there the guy asked me for a ride guy asked me for a ride the other time he didn't didn't ask me for a ride but the other time he asked me for a ride and I'm thinking to myself it's good chance he may eat me today s you know shame but uh sometimes that happens you have to be careful but anyway uh when you you're doing mitvah says you have protection of the mitvah so you don't have to worry but this make you laugh a little bit uh this really happened though anyway um as far as the Torah says in the uh 10 commandments there's a list of Ten Commandments fourth the uh fourth Commandment is say keep Shabbat don't desecrate Shabbat Ram says that if a person desecrates Shabbat is considered an idol worshipper he loses part of his life in this world because he has also a Heavenly death penalty in this world because we don't have a sanedrin anymore so we're not allowed to kill anybody but if the S was still around they would actually Stone him they would kill him give him the worst death penalty there is and then there is a uh the person is a uh since there's no stoning in this world anymore uh the there's a Heavenly death penalty that he may not feel that he just got but uh if it was decreed for him to live 120 years he just lost a few years and every time he he violates Shabbat he loses a little bit more time of his life he does die he just doesn't realize it yet that's why you see if you look at the statistics there's statistics of how many people die every single year uh approximately 54 to 56 million people die every year according to statistics of 2017 and if you look at the numbers the uh you would think that most people die 870 and over that's normally that's what we would think 70 and older okay you already lived a full life okay you you died 71 you died 76 you died 86 okay you lived your life well you know okay we're sad but not that sad we're not as sad as a femon old baby dying we're not as sad as a three-year-old falling from the window we're not as sad the 75y old dies okay we're not happy but it's not like the three-year-old that got shot in crossfires in the hood it's not like the uh the 18-year-old girl that got cancer and uh no cure it's not like that right but if you look at the statistics there are actually more people dying under the age of 70 than people above the age of 70 more more than that why why is that because a Pays His haters cash to their face people that hate hem people that make fun of the Torah people that make a joke of the Torah people that don't take things seriously doesn't like them he hates them and what ends up happening is that he takes away years of their life they don't feel it because they're 15 years old and they're strong and they think nah it's not going to happen to me well guess what I'm not that much older than all of you I'm older than all of you but not much older and I already know over 25 guys 25 guys and girls from my high school class my graduation class that already died in their 30s in their 20s maybe even more so death happens so says keep Shabbat or you get a death penalty death penalty doesn't necessarily mean right away it could mean in you know early you die at or a person dies at the age of 35 or 45 before he even really had a chance to begin his life when it comes to murder murder is the sixth commandment sixth commandment commandment and the death penalty the S would give on a murderer is less lesser of a punishment than a uh even though it's also a death penalty it's a less severe death penalty now I know that some of you are saying what do you mean if he's dying he's dying what difference doesn't make which death penalty he's getting trust me when I tell you when you hear about the details of the suffering that the Shabbat goes through before he dies versus what happens to the murderer it's shamit sh just for hearing the punishment you don't want to do nothing second thing is also there's a there's a debate between if the murderer has a share of the world to come meaning the guy that violat Shabbat for sure is not going to ganen ever if he didn't do he's going to G home permanently P 17A and also 16b and several other places and so on the guy that violated Shabbat didn't do CH he's going to Gom he's not coming out the guy that again if he didn't do CH if he did CH the guy that murdered there's two opinions one opinion says he has a share of the world to come after he died that was his suffering that was a big payment for the suffering which he still has to go to Gom but he gets out eventually and there is an OP says no if he took somebody else's he loses meaning a point being is that obviously from this we see that uh violating Shabbat driving to synagogue on Shabbat even or or playing uh you know playing with uh working on Shabbat or playing with fire on Shabbat is much worse than murder even though this doesn't make to our make sense to our rational mind the Torah is not supposed to make sense to your rational mind the Torah is from God if you understood him you would be him not everything makes sense but nonetheless we have to do it next question okay since uh you guys uh know the rest of the Tor I'm G to try to give you a k that perhaps you don't know now I don't know I mean people ask you know ask questions all the time but usually after um now we talk a lot about reward and Punishment we talk a lot about things that not necessarily always pleasing to the ear whether it be Gom or kafak all these other places the whole goal of talking about Gom the whole goal of talking about punishment is not necessarily to give you nightmares but uh rather to scare you enough to realize that you don't want to mess with hem you simply got to do what he says whether you like it you don't like it you agree with it you don't agree with it doesn't make a difference Hashem said it it you do it yeah but I don't like to doesn't make a difference doesn't make a difference the way you got to look at it is imagine somebody has a gun to your head he says if you drive in Shabbat I'm gonna shoot you don't drive in Shabbat I'm just going to say you do nothing how many of you by raise of hands how many of you drive in chabbat you don't drive right because you don't want to get shot that's the way you're got to look at it the good news is that the same guy in this analogy that has a gun your hand loves you that's what puts a gun to your hand and he wants you to do chva and he wants you to avoid G home now anyone that has not watched my sh which was part of the uh series I believe it's number 84 anyone that does not watch that sh or watch the sh we did about which was part of the ramban series one of the first few lectures uh or the sh we did a little bit about kafak these few scary sh you should watch it at least once in your life why because you could see that there are many many sources in the Torah that discuss punishment many we're not talking about a handful of books like some people think that GOM is a cabalistic teaching Only Fools and say that anyone that learned T anyone surely knows that GOM is part of not only part of Judaism but it's actually part of the foundation of Judaism because we believe as Jews inish it's one of our 13 principles of faith we believe that there's reward to the righteous and there's punishment to the wicked and everyone here knows that not everyone that's righteous has a pleasant life in this world which means that obviously the reward for all of their mitv is not here in this world it's in the next World sometimes you see really righteous people sitting in the hospital suffering from some type of disease or they lose kids or the uh clbi CL rebbi KES I'm reading his bio right now it's hard for me to believe that he's classified as a human being like us if you see how holy this person was you see might as well be mashia I don't know be this is unbelievable in the Holocaust inside the camps he put his life on the line for he put his life on the line not to eat non kosher meat he put his life on the line not to eat non kosher bread bread he put his life on the line to keep Shabbat every day he put his life on the line it was unbelievable in the beginning they thought come on don't be overly righteous what are you making us the rest of us feel bad you don't need to keep all these MIT we're in the Holocaust here they're killing us uh you know day and night over here what's going on the closing of a rabbi said no I'm not eating T I'll die but I'm not EA not eating Kos me after they saw that he's really serious about this everyone started respecting him including the Nazis that didn't stop them from beating him up and almost killing him a few times but when you read this book you see how many miracles happened to him now you would think that someone that make sure to to keep Shabbat I'm talking about he kept Shabbat better than everybody else in the room including myself inside the Holocaust he kept Shabbat better than all of us and anyone that's watching inside the Holocaust he would convince a few guys because they would feed the Jews they would starve us so it give people just a few grams of bread but they would give him a loaf of bread you have to divide it up to to six people so each person got like you know every few days they got like one one slice of bread so you convince a few people every week don't eat the whole loaf don't eat the loaf leave me a few loaves why so I could do so I can fulfill the and and do the K with two complete kalas you're not allowed to do K on an incomplete kala one that's broken you can but it's not on Shabbat it's not on Shabbat in the Holocaust he's worrying about this we're not talking about lighting fire we're talking about everything including the things that we don't even think about or even know he commins a few people every week don't eat the whole thing but if he saw that some of the people were starving and some of the people was hurting them was putting them at risk he said no no no feed right now I'll feed right now feeding the whole he never put other people's lives at risk for his but if they could handle it they want to be part of this mitah so now you read this book you think this person this is a this is a seph somebody like this walks into the room I don't know what I would do I don't even know what I would do it would might as well be mashia now you would think such a holy person for sure I lived a fantastic life for sure the Nazis killed his wife and all 11 of his kids not a single member of his family stayed alive not a single one and he knew it he knew they all died he's not like he didn't find out after the he knew it right away they killed everybody little babies all the younger everybody body everybody he put all of his heart into murdered in cold bloodis what do he do every day you have to serve with you have to serve with would sing all day how could this be after the Holocaust he fulfilled a promise what promise he promised to if you save me from this place I'm going to open a hospital for Jewish people and he open the hospital in NATA one of the best hospitals in Israel he opened all over everything how do you have the energy they ask them all those horrible things that happened to you he say either I can go insane or I could serve AEM so from here we see that serving hem doesn't necessarily mean an easy life you look at all of theed mentioned in the tah all of them himself says meaning wrote in the Tor there's a that says that no isik it's not like you have to question was he wasn't he he says he's a sadik the biggest sadik in his generation one of the biggest we ever had hasem restored the whole world from him Noah's life nightmare a year a year he's in this T suffering day and night filth they couldn't let the filth out of the out of the because the would only open from the side if you open from the side all the water goes in so all of the filth imagine being surrounded literally there's a whole floor of manure of Filth of human filth of animal filth non-stop for a year here and it's not like today there's ventilation systems and all that stuff nothing on top of that one of the times he was late at feeding the lion the lion hit him and the whole year the whole year he suffered in anguish and pain to the extent where he was spitting blood spitting blood for a year that's how much pain he went through his grandson Kanan raped him they okay no what his grandson raped him so you look at noik tough life AB at three years old his own father Rats on him to tells him he doesn't want to worship the idols n says you don't worship the idol I'm going to throw you in a fire cuz my idol is fire if you don't serve the fire I'll throw you you into it abah says I believe in a God that's stronger than fire he throws him in the fire why his father told on him after that Hashem tells him go leave leave the city go somewhere else no promises of a good place you think hasm tells you go somewhere and he tells you it's going to be a good place you figure it's going to be good but he didn't say a promise right now it's going to be good he said you're going to have a lot of good but not right now he go goes there starvation famine his wife can't have a kid his second wife has a has a son that's trying to kid kill the first kid that he waited 100 years to have no end no end to his suffering any one of his tests none of us would survive he brought his son as a sacrifice to Hashem even though it didn't make sense he still followed What hasem said he comes back after he passed the test what does he see his wife died died 37 years old his father says y let's go yourban if you're if you're you talk to this old man over 100 years old said you be you that's what the sons of after the battle that he lost against because sent the angels to kill all of his soldiers he wanted to bring a sacrifice to his Gods he wanted to bring his sons a sacrifice what did his sons do they killed him jakov how many test Jakob had first he has his brother try to kill him then he has to run away then he has to go to the place of Lavan Lavan is the biggest gangster in the world such a big gangster that even as is scared of him and laan is Gangster he's stringent being a gangster he changes his payment system his salary a 100 times I'm gonna pay you a th000 bucks a week the end of the week no no I'm not paying you thousand but you said you going to pay me th bucks a week yeah yeah I'll give you a 100 though how I'm going to live with $100 I didn't really mean a th okay fine I'll do 100 a week later 60 bucks what happened no I didn't really mean 100 I didn't really 100 is a lot of money for what you do 60 bucks okay fine a week later $20 what happened what what what do you mean what happened I told you I pay you $20 no you said 60 a 100 times he did this then he changes wives how many tests he saved from what good did am return they called him an adulterer they called him a womanizer they called him a thief they didn't know his point being we see that don't necessarily get paid their reward in this world do they get paid some of their reward in this world yes but you should not do the mitv for reward in this world you should do the mitv because said so by the way it's freezing here kiss maybe I'm the only one um I'm the only one that's freezing or other people also you're cold okay usually I'm not freezing here usually I'm I'm the opposite I'm hot but today I see that there's a little bit of frostbite in my fingers so we see that Sim don't necessarily get their reward in this world now does that mean that you shouldn't do MIT in expectation of a reward yeah you should expect a reward but in next World in next World should you pray fora yes should should pray for Z yes should you pray for good things yes don't give up on praying but don't think that once you do get the P that's really the reward for what you did you prayed for it hem is giving it to you why to help you do more to help youra and if he's not giving it to you that's because either he says it's not good for you to get it because it's not going to help your amuna it'll actually distance you from me or perhaps you don't deserve it you did something wrong point being don't give up you keep going keep going keep going M prayed 515 times if you pray 515 times and hasm doesn't answer pay 56 that's really cold next question right Canan is the one that raped uh Noah um as far as uh the issue here is also the fault of of K why a midash that says that that uh's wife cheated on a husband before the and she had uh intimacy with one of the Giants she was pregnant inside and she gave birth to if you remember you read about him in one of the Giants how the logistic work I have no idea this is what the mid is now since said my wife is pregnant anyway she gave birth and birth wasn't necessarily nine months like it is now he figured it's allowed to be with his wife so what did he do he violated the law that hasem said don't be with your wives in a so he had intimacy and from that came Canan so already came from a cursed place and ended up doing bad things so that's the reason why also was part of the crime next question yeah YT says there is a uh there's a book I bought my kids that uh has some really nice pictures but it was written by that uh put together a series book even though it's colorful it's for kids really I think every should learn as an adult because has a bunch of and so on but it gives you the pictures and one of the pictures it shows the with a huge giant sitting on top of it why because that's what mid says mid says that OG was saved how by sitting on topm allowed him to sit on top of the why there's a few Tam a few reasons one of the main reasons is that Hashem wanted the people that would be born in the New World to know that he destroyed Giants which means that if he destroyed Giants surely he could destroy us Little People unfortunately this only worked for 350 years 360 years we have the Tower of Babel already at the end of no already they became but the point is that hem wanted to show us that he destroyed Giants that's why he left o there's other reasons also that he gave him he gave him a long life because he assisted uh by telling him that his uh nephew was uh was um was kidnapped so he did a few things but in reality the reason why did he told about kid because he really wanted AB to die so he can marry Sarah because Sarah was so beautiful next question I'm really freezing I'm either getting really sick or I'm freezing okay but I'm the only one I'm usually hot blooded always hot it's cold okay no this week this week what else yes right um the Z says and all of say that in that generation people lost their uh concept of good they would steal from people they would murder people they would waste seed they would commit beastiality they would be with animals even the animals didn't go with their own species but the uh the one thing that was completely unbearable for hasem was that they were stealing from each other because that meant that they don't even have peace among each other it's not just the war against hem but it's also there's no peace among each other the real reason the says that hasm destroyed the world is because they're wasting seed but the final token that in essence put hasem over the over the top says okay that's it enough is enough we're stealing because once he saw that it's not just a war against them it's a war against each other they lost their right to live when we don't have Unity we cause a lot more problems than we simply do something against theem individually when we don't have a heater the speaker freezes I think it's myy don't worry just watch me shake like when I was younger I dance next no no they they started with immorality because they were greedy they wanted more a guy wanted more than his wife so he stole his his friend's wife a guy wanted more than what he had in the bank so he robbed his friend a guy wanted more buildings so he did all type of cinos all types of strategies to steal from other people and that type of mentality caused them to do other sins yes well he's not losing hisa is that he's not allowed to enter until he does chuva so he's given another chance I tell you guys the story of the bmov and the horse so bmov had a uh wanted a horse and he went to one of his students and uh he said that one of one of the horses is special and he wanted that horse so the guy said please please not this horse any other horse there's hundreds of horses here just take any other horse says no I want that one da please this is the best horse I have I want that horse he okay since je you could have the horse he goes you promised mine yeah how much is it whatever the money cost and then after he bought the horse they did a transaction the B asked them do you have a friend that recently died maybe from freezing cold maybe from different reasons he said yeah not too long ago my friend died he goes does this friend uh owe you any money he goes yeah he owed me 100 bucks he goes do you forgive him goes yeah of course I'm so sad about my friend dying so early of course I forgive him he goes you forgive him forgive him he goes yeah of course okay says say say it I forgive you I forgive you I forgive you when he finished third forgive you the horse died he was shocked how this happened he says I saw the of this horse is your friend because he owed you $100 they weren't allowing him to go to ganed until he worked for you to make up for the hundred bucks but since you forgave him he's allowed to get so I don't think there's anybody in the world that hases at least not to that extent and uh could see anything in horses but uh point is that if a person owes other people money you should pay back if other people owe you money and they're not they refuse to pay back it's better for you you to give it up forgive them why because if they return you have to return also even if you're a sadik because they have to return it to you so and the problem forgive people it's better to forgive people thank you give me I think you should give everybody C I feel like I spoke about the Holocaust and I am I'm reliving it right now phrasing gold K still if anybody wants to make some tea because you're freezing or because you want it go to the back same price $50 sugar 75 listen right now it's a literally no next I need to get warmer before I give you guys this this what was there before Hashem created the world or before he created day and night and how long has theem been there the says that there are certain questions that it's a such a waste of time to ask that uh you shouldn't ask them why because they can get you to more confusion than you already had before the question but there certain questions that you must ask now Hashem answered the first question and and did not answer the second what's the answer before he created the world it was to a state of nothingness and page 12 a says that initially there was only Hashem after that he decided that he wants to bring good to the world and he in essence created a DOT that expanded and expanded and expanded until he told it to stop expanding from there we know that his name is El Shai the god that said die the god that said stop this is similar to the uh Evolution and the world expanding and so on just the difference is T says that the world sto expanding because a said stop the scientists believe the world is expanding still because they base that off of the past not off of the current or the F the present or the future so before the world was there was only Hashem and it was in essence nothing how long has Hashem been there forever that's the question he didn't answer meaning that we do not have as much details simply because if Hashem had a starting point then that starting point would be his God he wouldn't be God whoever created him would be God and he wouldn't be God he would be the creation since he's the Creator a creator of the world cannot have a Creator because that means he's not a Creator himself he's a creation so hasem does not have a starting point or an ending point that's why we say he has no no no he has no first one no last one there's no one before him there's no one after him next I think I want to bathe in the tea no go ahead is there like a certain point she stop cursing unfortunately is part of the epidemic of the world that lacks knowledge and by knowledge I mean knowledge of hem knowledge of his Tor the less knowledge a person has the more likely he or she is to make sins such as cursing such as being promiscuous and such as stealing and and so on now when a person simply has no knowledge you telling them to stop without telling them why is simply annoying why because you're telling them stop but not telling them why why should I stop if you tell them well God said so if he or she is already keeping Shabbat keeping other mitv then that saying God said so may mean something to him but if they're not keeping Shabbat or other the basic foundational mitv then obviously they don't follow the rest of the mitv of T needless to say this one is just going to be an added part to the rest of their violations against Hashem so it's important to know who you're speaking to when people do not keep the basic Foundation your main your main things that you should rebuke people with is number one convince them to watch because at least that way you'll educate them if you educate them they'll find out on their own especially if you send them this you other that we've done education is key if you teach people T they can become without T they cannot become anything so much so say what if somebody wants to watches bit because he knows that it's bad to waste seed it's bad for your health it's bad for your marriage it's bad for a lot of things but he doesn't want to keep Shabbat doesn't want to keep it's not for him say he will never succeed in watching his why not because the K the strength to watch your bre the most enticing that a human being has you need that strength to come from Shabbat that's AIT and that's AIT so long as he doesn't keep Shabbat it's only a matter of time before he fails and and desecrates his breit if he keep Shabbat like eventually he'll overcome the breit if he wants it but if he doesn't he'll never watch his breit one breit depends on another so if a person is desecrating these big sins work on those by sending him sh sending herim to get him to start learning and also specifically focus on the big MIT on the big sins the ones that even he or she can understand this is a big deal cursing today has become a second language for most people in some cases even first language you have some of the most famous celebrities in the world don't stop cursing for a living their entire album of music is full of curses if they don't have curses they don't sell the video if they don't have imad's girls they don't sell the CDs they don't sell the uh videos they don't do nothing meaning we've trained the world to be like sadom to the extent that people think that in order for me to succeed I need to curse I need to uh to have IM modesty immorality and so on and so forth so most people don't see the wrong in cursing because you going to tell them don't curse hasem doesn't like it he's going to tell you okay if hasem didn't like it how come he made Kanye West and 50 Cent and Eminem and all of these other clowns how come you made them so rich they don't stop cursing there's not a single song that they don't have that's not full of curses it's a big deal if they make something that's for children that doesn't have curses like it's a big deal but it doesn't sell really because the rest of the song is not for children anyway so that means if you tell person don't curse unless they're already willing to serve hem can be very hard for them to accept it so focus on a big if you focus on a big and the people still say no don't give up try get next week try again in two weeks try again in two months try again don't give up why because you have to look at it this way if you don't help them they're going to gain home a place that has bad begin and doesn't end all of the bad stuff that all of you can can think of together combined think your worst nightmares you've ever thought of your nightmare his nightmare his nightmare his nightmare his nightmare all of you together then take all of the people that you know take their mind their imagination including the people that make scary movies and then you take the rest of the world almost eight billion people worst what all of them thought combined put it on to a little box that's not even one hour in G which means that if you know that if this person does not do CH they're going to this horrible awful Place how could you allow yourself to stop I tell you the truth I don't want to live in America aside from the fact that I don't really like it very much um there are certain benefits of America that I do like but when it comes to when it comes to T there's plenty more Tor in Israel more I go into a enter and never leave there's so much over there there's over over 100,000 over 100,000 people that study for a living that's all they do imagine it's like a city of people just learn to so realistically I want to go there I want to go to I want to be next to my I want to learn Tora but most importantly I want to have a future for my kids because here in Florida and many parts of America altogether I cannot tell you that I give you two thumbs up for any school many schools have a lot of problems so we don't have to move tomorrow but we have about a year and a half once my uh daughter turns close to 6 years old I have to to send her to school and the school has to be at the level of learning that would fit her and fit our lifestyle doesn't have to be a Ultra place where everyone's covering their eyes or something like people think just a place that teachers emit unfortunately that virtually does not exist in many places because even the places that have emit from a few teachers there's a few teachers that ruin it like there's one school bet for girls I won't mention the name yet because we're giving a chance to do chuva there's one place to bet yov bet yov is a school for girls I spoke there I meet some people there I uh you know over the years you meet people and so on and you see the girls are much precious good girls some of the teachers fantastic human beings amazing but after hearing some of the things that the principal of the school is doing I said they shouldn't call this place bet yov they should call it bet isav why because that's the thing she's doing and she's considered a FR lady there's nothing FR about her so for me to send my kid to that school it's like sending the kid to a sacrifice can't do it so with that being said not wanting to live here not having the schools moving a state is almost as difficult as moving a country plus you don't have necessarily as many benefits in both places so we decided you know over the holiday and I spoke about it last week that if who hears our cries hears our prayers hears and has Mercy on us he'll allow us to open a big bov the whole nine if he allows us to do it and some people that are rich step up and start writing some big checks not for me for the school we will here happily trying to save every single kid in Florida and even if he's not in Florida as long as he want to come here every single kid as long as he's Jewish want to keep I don't care if he has money doesn't have money we'll figure it out if hasem allows us to do it because we don't want to do it for Cav we don't want to do it for money we don't to do it for anything else but we need a lot of money to do it if hasem allows me to do it then obviously he wants me to do it and we'll do it if not most likely in the future the only sh that most people GNA watch is on the internet why I cannot allow myself to send my kids to a sacrifice kid it's not it's not uh your blood is not more red than theirs and so on and so forth I'm more than happy to stay here and try out this new system and new school and so on and so forth but to send them to to this asav not in a million years N9 million years unfortunately Florida is not the only place that has such a place today I heard there's several places in practically every corner of the world there's problems everywhere it's not just here but this is where I live and we need to do something for two reasons number one for our own kids it's a little selfish but reality if it was just selfish I would just go to Israel it's a much better place anyway say somewhere goes to is they eras his sins I wanted my my sins erased but there's something even more what more I spoke to a couple of in the last couple of days and they said if you and ra leave virtually there's not going to be any emit left in America surely there's other people but perhaps the not as popular perhaps they don't post their on online or so on and so forth but these big say okay if you want all of American juice to go burn go leave go enjoy but if you think it's a to do it you're wrong meaning you need to do everything possible to do your own is to do something so that way you know if it opens it's hem if it doesn't open it's also AEM you fulfilled your obligation you can't just do nothing and just protect yourself and go somewhere and good luck tell everybody else good luck with you you can watch me on YouTube even though most of the people that watch our are all over the world world and this is a very very small portion of the people that actually watch me you guys live or just a small portion of it needless to say the people that are here that are local do count on us for many many things and you need to have a local RAV that is going to help you so the point being is that we'll try everything that we can to open a place a big place a holy place and turn this entire State into a holy State turn it into a mini if hasm allows if he doesn't allow doesn't allow but he does if you guys can help with your prayers with your money with your time with whatever you have whatever skill you have you'll be part of Saving countless that are simply going to gain home if they do not go to this school just so you know when we first started this program this Torah ChalleNGe Program a few months ago there's many other people some of the people are missing because they started school again so it's a harder schedule to stay the sh till 11 12:00 some of the people was too much for them they weren't ready to do CH yet but my favorite is that almost 10 of them that came here they came here not keeping to exactly are in Yesa right now in is learning t 10 kids anyone that could do such a thing obviously wants to wants him to continue so anyone that sponsored the sh anyone that you know donated for the shim that helped us pay these kids to come to the shim guess what now they're learning and every single second that they do goes to your account also there's no one luckier in the world than you because you have somebody Ina now not somebody just doing Chua somebody is already Next Step he's Ina learning every word that he reads mitvah every letter he reads the mitvah how many MIT you going to the sh for what for few dollars that he donated hasm wants to reward us next question how many exact number I don't know um I spoke to another ra ra today he said KES and he God bless him he is a grandson of the Ben and he also grew up with the umad to the extent that uh every day he would have breakfast would have and he learned Tor with many of the in his generation he told me that in his generation they didn't know where yafu was yafo is the next city said that the once asked him to uh go to the next next city over yaf and he says None of knew where ya is didn't know what it was that's how much doll they had were Ina literally day and night didn't have enough time to see anything of this world asked him so what did you do said we had to look at we Hadad all these would be in the call with us we' look at them who needs to go see y who needs to go see T aiv who needs to go to the beach he's seeing seeing of the generation four of them five of them every day that shows us where we were and where we are the same says that unfortunately today even though there are gim there's theki there is a uh several in in America um mfi and several others the problem is that they're not the same level of the previous not only because of knowledge and and so on not just that that we would have to be them in order to evaluate it rather because they none of them have as much power over the people as much influence over the people as what we had in 10 years ago five years ago even when in 2004 said that wigs are coming from you had almost a million Jews almost a million Jews around the world take off their wig on the spot and burn it in the streets this happened in year 2004 was all over the newspapers there was huge bonfires of all over the world in y and New York and other places of wigs today we had a letter that three or four or five signed bis what do we get no my Rabbi says that to ignore this who's your Rabbi your Rabbi is bigger than them no he uh you know he's 35 years old he's a really good speaker you listen to this clown next to the that that said not to do it no he's my Rabbi he says listen to your Rabbi right yeah but not if your Rabbi goes against D tah obviously D is with the not with your little Rabbi so that's the problem so even though there are in the world today we're still considered a generation of a generation of Orphans because we do not have to lead us few people have a rabbi they listen to they ask questions but sometimes many of the people that listen and uh ask questions of the rabbis they do it they do it they do it until they don't like the answer this happened to me countless times you help somebody for a couple years you help him do chuva you help him learn you help him SCH you help him everything but one day he asked you some question and he didn't like your answer either because he heard somebody else say something else or because it hurts him to do this it hurts him to shut you know shut off his store on Shabbat it hurts him to shut down his illegal business it hurts him to say I'm sorry to his wife and so on and so forth so that moment not only does he stop listening to you many times he turns you instead of a rabbi he turns you into an enemy and you guys some of you that have been with me already for a few years have seen this live somebody that came here I let him not in this Sho different Sho I let him speak I let him speak he finished the I want to give him Cav some you know some some uh you know some uh ambition to do more to do more to do more I let him speak this guy hates Hitler less than me no helped him with schom helped him with everything everything I invested more in him and his family than probably anybody else at that time that guy hates me other woman we told her not to kill our kid she was pregnant she wanted to kill the kid we convinced it was almost nine months of convincing literally we had to convince her every month for nine months I mean how do you kill a 9month old baby he's he do next week okay one month two months you don't feel anything at nine months he's already been in inside you he's kicking he probably said your name already For Heaven's Sake how do you still want to kill him for nine months of convincing especially the raban she convinced her and this and that after they had the baby they saw us in the uh in the neighborhood passed by us like we're ghost they didn't even say hello this happened many many times I'm just giving you a couple of stories that are probably shocking you a little bit but there's many many like it why because people are ungrateful to say the least and two people like the truth until it obligates them as long as it doesn't obligate them if they keep Shabbat they don't mind you talking about Shabbat if they keep they don't mind you talking about if they keep n they don't mind you talking about n but as soon as you talk about thank you as soon as you talk about something that they are uh you know they are guilty of you turn into amalik even though you're doing it because you love them in order to save them from getting home arant people do not look at it that way so that's what happens as far as how many we have a few but like I said not a single one of them is respected like the ones even from just three four years ago I tell several people someone asked me oh the uh you know I need to show a really powerful G that went against the wigs I said kki enough it's called by all of Jews even the gra call the general of T he's good enough he finish and many many other books we don't even know how to say every single year is he good enough his father is the St good enough good said yeah it's good send it to me she answer rabbis no it's not good enough why because the rabbi holds by another Rabbi that's not even enough to fit the shoe of kaneski but because he likes the way he speaks and he already knows his opinion he doesn't want to listen doesn't want to listen so this happens unfortunately a lot people that are looking for you know fake news people that are looking for lies they will always find someone to give it to them people that are looking for the truth only if they look for it with all of their heart and all of their uh uh ambition and all of their efforts and all of everything of theirs only then does hasm give it to them the only people that find me or find or a few other ranim that speak the truth are people that have gone through hell and back and they finally admit that the truth is the only way to life or they hate the truth and they just want to fight somebody because there's not really that many people tell the truth so it's easy to find us if you hate the truth but if you love the truth you find me you find a you get hooked on them you get addicted to them and before you know it you become a sadik orik next question what time is it 10:36 so we only done okay so we have an hour have an hour we live okay said if hasem wants we'll finish this this if he doesn't want we'll continue next time hopefully he wants because I think if you understand the it can change your life can make you happy and um now we started this youu with a thought that there are some people that want to start doing chuva but it's incomplete chuva what's an incomplete Chu incomplete is what it says incomplete meaning that they actively and intentionally lack something significant that they don't want to do either they don't want to do Chua for wasting seed because they're addicted to it or they don't want to do Chua for being married to a non-jew as it says in the book of NE the prophet NE punished am for being married to non-jews why because hates it not allow to be married to a non-jew says it all over the Torah but that's another place so they don't want to leave the Goya they don't want to leave the they don't want to leave Carlos they like Carlos he's a good guy he buys her lunch every day you know Linda is a uh really nice girl why she sleeps over his house and nobody complains Steve is a great guy why he looks Jewish but he's really not so people sometimes they want to start doing they listen to they like it they know that it's emit but they're not ready to abandon their falsehood and the things that connect them to falsehood the other thing that they're not ready could be aside from Mitzvah directly it could be an indirect Mitzvah that leads them to all of their mistakes which is they do not have they do not have honor for the meaning they'll ask a rabbi hey is this allowed yes or no if the Rabbi says yes and they want yes they'll they'll listen if the Rabbi says no and they don't like this answer what do they do they shop around for another Rabbi many times people tell me yeah but you said this but the rabbi so and so said something else first of all you're supposed to tell me that you asked another Rabbi that's ethical to ask a person a question uh you know you have to tell them that you've asked a question from somebody else else for many many different reasons but needless to say if you're asking me or you're asking another Rabbi a question that means that you are portraying yourself as someone that wants D someone that wants the opinion of the to if you want the opinion of the T why are you asking so many people why don't you ask the rabbi that knows you the rabbi that helped you do TR the rabbi helped you with not just the rabbi that's at your local Sho but says hello and collect staka but someone that actually knows who you are and helped you get closer to so sometimes they say listen I like what you say but you're too strict I said when am I too strict what what stringency did I teach you he says no you said if you don't wash your hands it's better off that you uh cut off your hands I said that didn't teach that no no I saw it it was in sh it was on Sunday no I didn't teach it what do you mean I'll show you the video he sends me the video said no no all I did is repeat what the gar said that's all I did if you disag agree you're disagreeing with AEM not me oh then how come my other Rabbi didn't tell me the same thing I don't know who your Rabbi is I can't answer for him why don't you ask him why don't you ask him why he didn't say it and I'll save you some time if he says yeah you know what that's true you have to keep wash your hands it's dangerous if you don't spiritually good is a good Rabbi or at least indicating that he is if he says not this is not applicable to this generation that Rabbi just violated the 13 principles of Faith which says that the Torah will never change and you are forbidden from learning toah from him until he does chuva which most likely is never so some people ask questions and uh they don't like the answer they look somebody else they go shop around for rabbis like they shop around for fruit they shop around for rabbis like they shop around for all types of things in life houses you never see people want you know shop for houses they minimum minimum they don't they're not satisfied unless they've seen at least five to 10 houses why isn't the first house good it was good sometimes they pick the first one but they have to fulfill their Desire by seeing another nine options why just to make sure it's the best one that's human nature but the point being is that if you shop for houses that way you're not going to G on it's okay but if you shop for rabbis that way it's a very serious problem now the Torah tells us that if a person does page 86a says if a person does Chua from being afraid all of his sins turn into shig accidents meaning that he caused people to die wasted seed he violated Shabbat he did all types of things she walked around IM modest with one of these tight clothes that you can't tell if it's her skin or if it's her leg he uh they violated theem they violated the name of hem but now they're doing saying we're sorry Hashem we didn't mean it we didn't know it so bad we're sorry so said their past sins that were that they made turn into accidental sins like I told you recently meaning that they still have to pay for those sins they're still a g for those sins there's still a punishment for that sin because after all somebody still died somebody still suffered because of you you still uh you still did something it's against theem so you have to you have to get punished for it but on the other hand the same says who about Chu himself says that someone that does chuv from love he does not go to G why if he doesn't sin anymore from the time he does chuva or he does chuva for all the sins that he did in the future he doesn't have it to worry about all the sins that he did in the past why because all of those sins turn into MIT so he's very very rich sh spiritually that's now had a rabbi obviously that helped him do CH who is his Rabbi who wants to answer is his Rabbi says in thear the version of thear that was written in Jerusalem in Israel the B was written in Babylon in Iraq but the says something extraordinary says anyone who does chuva all of his sins turn into merits wait a minute hold on a second how could it be it's good that if he does Chua all of his sins turn into merits we thank you very much but is this or no because we have a different opinion so the says there are rules to the Torah says that if there's a m there's a debate between ran and and his student is like that's fantastic what say if you do all your sins turn into no gain on amazing but says there's more rules more rules these more rules are the reason why we have to teach about why because the G also says that anyone that sees that there's a m a debate so says if there's a there's a debate between the Tami in the Tam is Babylonian Tam why it came second the Yami was written first but the second one the B was written second which means that it reviewed everything that was in Yi and included other things as well therefore it's closer to the that's why most people that learn 90% of them 95% of them Focus only on the B not Oni so now on one hand we said that if there's a m between that said in Yi that if there's a m if he Saidi that you erases all your sins you don't go to G on one hand we listen to but on another hand we listen to the in B the opposite so what do we do in this situation we listen to the bav meaning that if a person does chuva from Fear his sins turn into sh accidents if he does Chua from Love he loves AEM then all of his turn into all of his a turn into but now we see here that this this is an enormous we can't just let it go just like that if this can be verified and we can find somebody that proves that actually thought also agreed with agreed with with this meaning that he had a debate with with in the B if we get him to to see that this side is the truth then that means that all we need to do is CH doesn't matter if it's ch from fear or CH from love we could all skip G this is says if you continue looking at the page 86 at the end of 86a beginning of 86b you see that actually said that someone that does CH gets all the way to the all the way to not past it but all the way okay wait so how does this relate to Chua from love CH from Fear says if if he does Chua from Fear he gets all the way to the to the to the throne of Glory if he does it from uh with with the public with people then it's ch then it's ch from love Yeah but this is not the same what you said about which means that there is a between and says the only way you could avoid G is if you do from love says if you do chat period if you do chat period you're going you don't have to go you're good that's the opposite of what said and what did we say before if the opinions of the two are the opposite who do we go with which means that does think that if we do CH from fear we could literally get to a point where hem erases all of our sins and turns them into mitv now this is a fantastic but we need some that say this we can't just decide for oursel to decide what so there's a named Katz he lives in his generation and he wrote a book called and he's the son-in-law of the ad of quotes one of the before him from a couple hundred years ago in his book the book called all sh in it says on when says I forgave he says from here we learn that CH that a person makes that's enough to erase all of his sins turn into and what about the between and you have to understand who's saying what that's why it's important to understand who's saying what himself was about Chua when he first started doing chuva he did it from Fear he realized the whole world is collapsing told them they're going to rip you apart this that you know much worse than what I tell you guys so he said okay so do from fear and uh all my sins will turn into uh you know sh accident I didn't know but then as he learned more and more became K with his Rabbi with r he became also one of and he realized that what is Rabbi said initially that if you do chuat period you are go going to G you're not going to G again assuming that your past sins are your past you're not doing any new sins now if you do new sins now you're going you know you have to pay for those sins so here we see one of the verifying everything that we just said now there is another in book says there is no chance that a Jew doesn't do chuva from love meaning every Jew that does CH if it's real CH it's for sure for love what's the what's the proof he says we learn this proof from the rambam we learn this proof from the rambam where do we learn it from the rambam look at the of the laws of getting divorced and RAM says what happened in chapter B bit and it says what happens if the woman wants a get but the husband refuses to give her a get he wants to keep her a prisoner ra you beat him up until he says yeah yeah I want I want to give her a g until he wants to give her the G so the r says what do you mean he wants to give her the G he didn't want to give it the again until you beat him up ra said no you don't understand the of a Jew is pure it's good the only reason he makes sins the only reason that he says no to give his poor wife a get and move on with our life is is because the took control of him once you beat up the senseless yet leaves all you left is and of course the wants to do so from here we see says from here we see that if a Jew does chuva surely he does it for but now you have a question it's a big question what's Chua chat just keeping Shabbat if you're still married Toya it's ch you know watching your bre but you're not keeping chat you're not keeping shabat is chuba eating kosher but only in your house outside sometimes what is CH how come the Torah explain to me this really clear how come theor someone just like his on his it's called rash right never said such a thing right because that person that does not want to give a get he is holding somebody prisoner he's holding his wife prisoner meaning he's already defined as a rash he's already defined as a rash but furthermore like I said the rambam answers that question he says the guy really wants to do cha the guy really wants to give her a get he just doesn't know it yet because he's so used to being a sinner he's so used to his G now what is chuba no who can give me what is Chua so we don't get out of the direction what is chuva if I start keeping Shabbat is that Chua or no part of it if I start learning T every day is that chva or no part of it if I start watching my bre watching my eyes is that chva or no but what if I only keep one of them it's not chuva so what does that mean chva is in essence a DE that you're wrong you're wrong in the things that you're doing it's violating the and you're going to start improving but when that's that's in essence the basic level definition of it changing your ways that's what K says that a person that has the desire to change that's someone that's already starting his cha but when is he considered a BAL Chua a BAL Chua by the eyes of hem so the ramb WR there are four steps to chuva the first step stop sinning stop driving on Shabbat stop stealing money stop yelling at people stop uh looking at women that are not your wife stop doing things that Hashem says not to do and start doing things that hasem said to do eat kosher go pray with the minan and so on and so forth so the first step the rambam writes what is chuva chuva is you stop sinning meanly mainly stop sinning Second Step second step is make yourself a fence that protects you from those past sins so if you know that in the past you like to go to clubs and every time you drove by Lincoln Avenue you ended up going to a club at some point that week not just that day you have to make yourself a fence what's the fence under no condition are you ever allowed to go to Lincoln Avenue if somebody says I want meet you at Lincoln Avenue you have to say I'm sorry I can't can you meet somewhere else you have to make yourself a fence to protect you from yourself if you know that every time you hang out with certain types of people they convince you to cheat on your wife cheat on Hashem cheat on uh on yourself and all your chat goes into garbage so what do you do you decide I'm no longer hanging out with these people yeah but they're my friends for 20 years okay so they're your friends for 20 years thank you for being my friends for 20 years I'll find new friends yeah but there's nobody like them that's perfect that's the point you find people that are not like them because they make you sin so you have to abandon your ways and you have to make yourself a fence that will protect you from your sins things that you know that if you go next to it you're going to do something you know that you are addicted to food and you know that every time you drive to next to McDonald's you have to go inside and eat a Big Mac you have to it's like for you what do you do not allow no not allowed to go next to McDonald's or Burger King or whatever those restaurants are that s so that's the second step first step is stop second step make a fence third step what's the third step third step is think and meditate over all of the sins that you've made in your life one at a time you're not going to remember all of them in one shot hm will only allow you to remember a set amount that you can handle without breaking emotionally physically and so on think about the sins that you've made in the past you had an abortion you wasted seed you violated Shabbat you wasted time instead of learning Tor you you played video games and so on and so forth and now meditate over the past and say I'm sorry how much I'm sorry as much as you possibly need until you cry how much do you cry until you stop crying what if it takes me more than one time perfect that means you're really doing because that means you understand the sin and the fourth step is Hashem testifies that you are about now in the book has a question says wait a minute how could it be that he stopped the sin put a fence around the sin but only regretted it as the third step that doesn't make any sense he should regret it first first and that should lead him to stop if you regret being with somebody you're going to stop and therefore you're GNA do cha right that's what a lot of people wait for like no I still like smoking no I still like him no I still like her no I still this I still that and they're waiting for everybody else to do Chua before they do Chua no my family hasn't done Chua yet how I'm G to keep sh myself no I don't know how I'm going to leave my girlfriend or my boyfriend and so on and so forth so the ramb writes the only way that you can do Chua is if you regret it but the regret has to be the third step not the first step why the third step explain something extraordinary saying when you make a sin the first time you weren't really sure if it's allowed or not allowed you thought it's not allowed but you didn't necessarily know about all the punishments or whether it's gonna happen or not you heard the rabbi say that but you've never seen anybody lose everybody you know is still here so what do you do you fall for the Trap of the Satan and you violate Shabbat after you've done it one time you see nothing happen theem didn't kill you like it says in a so what do you do you do it another time just check it out maybe the next week maybe a month later maybe when there's a party maybe there's a wedding whatever it is you find you know I I violated Shabbat in the past nothing happened so I'll do it again it's not a big deal after after all now the gar says once a person makes the same sin twice in his eyes that sin has now turned into a loud meaning in that person's mind driving on Shabbat is now no longer a big deal even though he learned his whole life that it is a big deal he did it nothing happened he knows a bunch of people that did it nothing happened in his mind it's not a big deal which means that one day when he hears a about G and that's where he's going if he doesn't do Chu one day he hears about how he's going to lose all of his money and that's what's going to happen after he doesn't do Chua for a certain amount of time he gets scared he gets scared why he doesn't want this stuff to happen to him it's fear so he stops doing the sin he doesn't stop doing the sin because he agrees that it's not allowed because until now nothing happened he does the Chua he stops sinning because he decided that it's not worth it to continue he wants to be more righteous he wants to be closer to Hashem he wants to get more money from Hashem he has problem in his life and so on and so forth therefore the reason why he does Chua is not because he really repented and he really scared of the uh of the punishment but rather because he wants to be more righteous now how does he get to a point where Hashem testifies that he's really a b Chua because if he continues this feeling that it's not a big deal but he keeps Shabbat anyway that's not Chua most people today that keep Shabbat are not actually doing cha they do nothing they're not considered B cha they're considered robots to keep shabat what happens what happens is once he follows step number two says and he makes a fence and he stops going to the parties he stops hanging out with certain people because he knows if he continues hanging out with these people or going to clubs he's never going to be more righteous he's never going to be able to do chuva so what does he do he stops going to those places he puts a fence around the fence and once he is distant away from the sin for an extended period of time he finally realizes that he's been standing in manure his whole life he's been standing in a place of sins his whole life and he only thought it's allowed because nothing happened yet but now he sees as he learns more Torah as he distances away from the sin and develops a bias for the good versus a bias for the bad he now realizes I don't want to do it he regrets the sin he starts crying she starts crying that she walked around IM modest she starts begging hasm to forgive her he starts begging hasm to forgive him all the time as often as they possibly can and then hasem says Ah now you regret it now you are about Chua now all of your sins have turned into that's what happens so that means yes you can get out of jail free for all of the past that you've done but only if you do serious serious chat to the point that you're disgusted from your past sins if you still talk about your past like it's a good thing you went out with different girls you you you stole money you did all these things that are against hm if you're still proud of the past that means you haven't reached level three you haven't regretted it yet if you haven't regretted it yet hem has not signed off on you being a yet so this is one of the greatest that a person can understand but there's one little addition in last week's par or two weeks ago we learned that a the two brothers of the two sons of adish they uh didn't do so good why Hashem punished one of them and says to him why did you bring me garbage you know you uh if you do Chua I'll accept the Chua but he allowed him to kill Heaven K that didn't do good that brought him garbage because he was so arrogant he thought hasm will accept anything I want anything I give him he accept why nobody's giving him anything anyway nobody's doing kma nobody's going to nobody's learning nobody's doing anything so hashm will accept whatever I give him so he gave him a bunch of rotten fruit Hashem rejected this Corban says I don't want this you're a sinner if you stay this way the sin will take over you and that led him to do the next sin which is kill his brother he now he brought a goodban after he saw K give theban he brought theban but instead of hasem rewarding him what happened he allowed K to kill him why do he allow K to kill Heaven K did the right thing did the right thing says worth a million and a half dollars he says if you notice he only gave theban after K why because K like his name he's arrogant he thought I give AEM whatever I want he'll take it he was like his name was like a nothing he thought he had self-conscious lonly person didn't think that he's good enough to give Corban to hasem who am I to bring Corban to hem who am I to do a t who am I to open Yesa who am I to to help people do CH who am I I'm a nothing I'm a zero I'm a loser hasem says to be humble when it comes to the mitv is good but not to be humble to the point where it leads you to stop doing mitv where you show loneliness and you act like a loser you're making other people not want to be religious you're making other people not want to do cha why because you're nothing you always say people ask you are you doing you know oh did you uh everything okay with the col yeah you know we struggle everything okay with this holiday yeah you know holiday for People Like Us yeah it's tough all you do is complain you are making the Torah smaller uglier and that is death penalty meaning for being a lonly person when it comes to you don't think that you're good enough to do you don't think you're good enough to give a shield to the Kil you don't think you're good enough to screen a movie to help them do CH you don't think you're good enough to give out CDs you don't think you're good enough to be be even better learn the entire shots and so on and so forth that's why because you're acting like a loser hasm didn't create losers create winners especially when it comes to the Torah as it says in Chronicles 2ter 17 verse6 and his heart was very high in the ways of hem meaning if you're doing what Hashem said you have the full permission to be proud of it because you're doing the will of hem but if you're doing your will you're doing just whatever you want no that's Gava it's no good there's Gava that's allowed G is not allowed how much is the one that's not allowed not allowed to the extent that it's even worse than the G of Kem killed heav not K even though K was the murderer he says making a toah look bad is worse than murder like V says so this helps us cheer ourselves up and realize that it's onto us to help do no matter where you started no matter what you have no matter nothing do the best you can with what you have and vamen [Music] n oh [Music] [Applause] [Music]