How Commercials are Ruining Your Marriage? (8 minutes)

this is why people need to understand that this modesty has rules modesty in so many words for women is very very difficult in this generation because of what we see with our eyes we constantly compare ourselves to celebrities we constantly compare ourselves to Superstars and we constantly compare ourselves to everything we're not supposed to compare ourselves to instead of being proud of being Jewish and being proud of what we are and what we have we constantly try to want to be like the go and this creates serious problems because if we're comparing ourselves to one of these movie stars then we're going to want to look like them and when we look like them we can't be modest because in today's world the less clothes you have the prettier the world thinks you are this is the only thing that justifies rationally why a 400b woman canow herself to wear shorts and a uh and a tight top and think she looks good it's the only reason she doesn't have a different mirror than you but this is the only reason why because someone told her in her mind that if she wears less clothes she looks better has nothing to do with what kind of clothes it's just less and this is the Warped mentality that we have this is why that any wife that wants to have a good marriage first thing she needs to do is destroy television she's not allowed to have television in her house why what does she care she likes to watch Oprah she likes to watch all these I don't know whatever shows there are still on television what's wrong with television cuz when you bring television to your house you're in essence bringing competition and you're guaranteed to lose cuz your husband's going to come home from wherever he went he's going to put on television and if anyone ever watched television I haven't watched it for a few years but I'm sure it's still the same there's no one ugly on TV even the ugly people are good-looking so your husband is there he's eating the steak you slaved over he's Shing the kids that you were praying to have he's just thinking about I just want to be left alone and watch TV watch the game Watch a bunch of people throw a ball watch some show that talks about money whatever Wast his life doing something watching TV and a commercial comes on a nice half naked girl comes on TV and tells to buy soap and from that moment on he will always think of that woman when he uses soap even if he is intimate with his own wife and any man that has a backbone will admit that if you've ever seen an immodest woman there are specific times you think about them these are the specific times during prayer and during a time you're with your own wife so while this wife that slaved herself over to make this husband dinner prepare the house make a nice house for him do everything for him she loves him she adors him she takes care of him now he's thinking about a different woman when he looks at her whose fault is it it's her fault congratulations you're married to somebody doesn't even look at you so when you bring a TV to your house you're bring in competition and you can't win why can't you win because on TV she has makeup artists she always looks at our best in real life the wife doesn't always look her best she goes to sleep at some point she put on pajamas she's not wearing a fancy gown like she did at the wedding maybe she wants to put on I don't know comfortable clothes so now he looks at the you know model on television and he looks at his wife and he looks at the model he looks at the wife he's like I can get her every guy thinks this every guy thinks he can get the girl on TV and it creates an inner battle in him of whether he should stay even married and then when he goes outside he starts looking for this girl thinking he's gonna find her and she's in his mind all the time whose fault wife's fault she allowed the enemy inside so any wife that wants a good marriage eliminate the competition first second thing is beauty only allow your your husband to see it if you're the type of woman that doesn't want want to be modest and you want to go and show Joey and Steve at the supermarket what your what your skin looks like but then when your husband comes home you're only wearing sweatpants and t-shirts don't be surprised if he divorces you after 5 years outside to Joey Steve and Wilbur you're looking at your best Hi how are you yes thank you for putting my food in my cart with the 8 in heels and then your husband comes home he sees tab looks like he just woke up who wants to get married to that so if you do the opposite you don't necessarily need to look ugly when you go outside but look extra special for your husband and don't show the world the goods make sure he knows this is just for you this is why one of the many reasons why a Jewish woman is obligated to to cover her hair with a scarf or a hat because a big part of a woman's beauty is her hair this is a very big difficulty for women today but I can tell you that if when you do that you are guaranteeing your husband that you are his why because he's the only one allowed to see it when he's the only one allowed to see it then you're the diamond that you really are and I'll answer your question in a second then you're the diamond that you really are how do we know if let's say for example any one of you struck it rich and found a $100 million Diamond $100 million Diamond doesn't necessarily need to be that big now would you go in the middle of the street and throw it like a ball like a baseball to show it to the world probably not right what do you do you put it in a safe and you put that safe into another safe and that safe into another safe and another safe and then tell everyone it's inside but it's really in a different safe because you want to protect it why can't you protect your beauty why can't you show it to the only man that you promised to be with why do you have to show it to Steve why do you have to show it to uh Wilbur and Carlos why why do they have to see you that way you promised your eternity to be with this man why does Carlos have to also see the same thing he sees and even more so why are you showing such provocative behavior in front of them you're not you don't want to be with them so what's the point and I can tell you something that happened in thear and then I'll answer your question what does modesty mean in thear two simple stories it says if a man that's getting change you know he paid for something from a woman and she has to give him change she gives him money back you're allowed to do business with a woman does nothing wrong with it but if he's getting changed or giving her change slowly specifically so he can use that time to look at her and even if it's just his hands even if it's just our hands he can have the and he would still have to go to for [Music] that that's what modesty means to Hashem why because she belongs to another you Thief while you looking at her you've just experienced another Torah class brought to 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