HAVING REAL BITACHON

[Music] Jacob is asking uh in working on what is the best way to conquer subconscious worry or fear even even when we know that Hashem orchestrated all of it example our company is being put through a hostile takeover and I accept it nevertheless the new company made uh made require uh is requiring us to relocate to either Cleveland or Boston and we just purchased a new townhouse I'm confident that no matter what AEM orchestrated it but it's not easy on My Wife and Kids and there is push back how do you deal with that ah okay so in regards to in general it's as we learned from the K is the is not just a having confidence that everything's going to be okay but rather uh and more precisely is that whatever happens is the best possible thing either way meaning there is no bad whatever is the outcome is the best possible outcome that's available to us so in such a case when you know that it's not only that it's AEM that is uh orchestrating it but whatever he chooses whatever he chooses to give you whether it's to leave in live in Cleveland or live in Honolulu or wherever it is whatever happened that is the best possible thing that could have been and there was no other choice meaning you should never think oh if this didn't happen then we would have still been in Cleveland OH if this didn't happen then we would still be in New York no whatever you have that's it and believe me I'm dealing with it right now we just moved uh to Cooper City uh and uh we looked for a bunch of different houses that was a story of its own we finally found the house and uh um you know where uh we moved into it it's a nice house bigger than what we needed but it was the one that worked for us and we moved and we figured okay this is going to be it and we were sure that um this made sense because not only the deal worked but also it was right next to a commercial space for us to open the synagogue that we wanted to to build and so on and so forth as you would have it we moved to the house everything is good with the house but the as I told you in the beginning the whole synagogue thing didn't work out because the landlord doesn't want a synagogue so okay fine we figured okay let's find another place go the other direction that didn't work out either okay let's go a little further so what's happening now as of right now pretty much we have zero next to us and the only thing that we saw that was a possibility of being available to us is something that's far enough to the point where we're going to have to move again she said we have to move again which is a nightmare but but but that's the thing my wife and I started laughing about it and despite being concerned it's like oh we finally have you know a place we're okay and everything's okay and now we have to move again so what the is why if we have to move that means that moving is for our best interest it is the best possible thing in the world this despite the difficulty and if we don't have to move in the end after all said and done if it doesn't actually end up happening and we end up finding something else then that means that worrying about moving this whole time would have been a waste so that's what I suggest I suggest that you understand clearly and watch the last two lectures in the Kish series that we did the last two especially because it talks about this topic extensively is that know that there is nothing that you can do uh to change the future if you will to change the circumstances you have certain choices available to you that Hashem is in essence working with and whatever happens whether it's to move to a different state or to stay the same one or whatever it is what that's the best thing available to you to to bring you good to to to save you from something to help you with something so accept it as this is the gift from Hashem for a million and a half reasons that I may never know until you know you meet him uh one day after 120 uh on the other hand if the choice that he ends up picking is that you don't have to move then worrying about it this whole time was just a waste so if your wife says listen I'm worried I don't want to move I really like this house we finally have a house and I don't want to move simply tell her honey we don't know if we have to move right now why should we worry about something that hasn't happened yet on the other hand if it's you have a confirmation listen we got to move and she says no but I don't want to move well we have to move uh because of the company has to move okay so how do you make that work you can make it work where uh perhaps you could move temporarily until the deal is done so you could keep your house while renting a house in a new state for let's say the next year or two until the deal is done or better yet uh you could a uh you know you could do something else where I me it's a little more difficult but you can travel you could travel uh part of the week or Best Yet which is actually much more likely and and and and more acceptable today is that uh because they're acquiring uh the company to move you could say listen I can't move right away I want to work remotely which really right now a lot of companies are having their employees work remotely one of my students uh who's uh you know in in Silicon Valley he uh he recently uh said his whole company went remote like even after Corona virus is um uh is done and they have a cure which I don't think is ever going to happen but let's say they do uh a cure that actually doesn't kill people um they uh they're not going to come back to an office why it doesn't make sense to them anymore why have this whole big structure of office and so on you could just do everything that you do from working with your pajamas so they ended up giving everybody a raise because they don't have to spend money on real estate anymore and uh everybody's working out of their house and of course everybody has to have goals and and so on now this is not easy to manage for certain businesses but the point being is that you have some choices in your hand even if you do have to move but until then don't worry about it don't worry about something that you have no control over and once it happen happens know that this is the best thing that hasem uh is is able to give you out of the choices that are available to you um it's for your own best interest and you know work with it work with it work with it in a way that this is a uh a gift from Hashem for countless different reasons sometimes it takes us time to realize why it's a gift but nonetheless it's always a gift we're very excited to offer you the new app 3.0 it's a newer faster app full of Torah lots of Kusa by the shim that we do myself Rim raim uh where you'll have also newer features where you're able to use the app uh while you're using other applications on your phone you'll be able to share the uh the lectures directly from the app you'll be able to donate online and support our CU and our Torah 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