Guarding Your Eyes

[Music] a suggestion book the Torah is simply a rule book of how to achieve success in everything in this world and the next if you don't do it it's not like if you do it you succeed and if you don't do it you'll find something else that's better or maybe not as good no the Torah is if you do it you will succeed if you don't do it you will fail at everything else that you will do yeah my uncle has hundreds of millions of dollars but guess what a bunch of strangers are going to get it all the money he worked for stranger going to have it he's not going to enjoy it why he's going to die soon from TG cancer unless by some miracle decides to give him another chance cuz right now every single day he's alive is a miracle cuz you didn't get the signs I almost died too I had to fight for my life for a long time cuz I was stupid playing with fire I didn't understand oh it's God that's doing all this I thought it's like bad luck I thought it's a bad doctor after 50 bad doctors I realize it's not the doctors don't be stupid like me be smart the second version of me but don't wait too late that's in essence what we're trying to learn here people play with fire they get burned it's not that hasem wants to burn you it's a reality you put your hand in fire you're gonna get burned it's not that the fire is a punishment it's a reality it's an outcome of your actions if you defiled the N that hasem gave you he has to destroy you that's it you have no right to be next to him he gave you a pure n at the very least we have to return it pure the problem is we return the Nish worse than what we got it and yet we expect to go to ganeden it's ludicrous imagine your boss at a company says listen we like you we're want to put you in charge of a million dollar account to take care of company business grow the company build the company do whatever you can all right okay they come back to you a couple of months later no so how much money did you make us with this million dollars turn it into a million and a half 2 million 3 million what you do with it uh no no we are actually you're in debt of million not only did you not make us money but you lost the money we gave you and you put us in debt of 15 million and yet you want a promotion you want to keep your job doesn't make any sense right when we make a sin it's much worse than what I just gave Hashem gave us aish what n is your has to travel 500 light years from different places in the heavens in a matter of M no no time to enter your body your comes from the under the it has to travel thousands of light years in a moment to enter your body got from the highest place and you came to this world beautiful Nish Hashem says you know what at least give it to me like I gave it to you and prove a few things that's the whole point of why you're here don't think you're going to get back to the if you're returning to him something worse than what you got that's in essence when when you have an opportunity to keep MIT it's an opportunity to purify your it's an opportunity to purify yourself and get closer to hem why because is the king of kings he's not going to be next to anything filthy it's just not going to happen he's the king of kings he's not your boy he's not your friend he's the king of kings so this is why we have to speak harshly at times to explain to people the worst thing you can do is sin in tionally sin accidentally happens you're human and even the sin accidentally from time to time even there's a in about it but an intentional sin is completely different you make an intentional sin you have a very serious problem first you have to focus on stopping the intentional sins do everything you can understand that making an intentional sin is worse than turning a a atomic bomb under yourself not under somebody else's uh country you're blowing yourself up you will suffer from that intentional sin you have to understand what this fire is why because that's the only way you see a a beautiful woman that's practically walking around with no clothes on unless you understand the fire and the circumstances that you're putting yourself in by staring at her you're going to sin either with her with somebody else or with yourself you're going to sin so what you got to do he said no no this is fire you can't even look can't even look why it's fire it's a bomb I got to run away from this you look away it becomes a reflex now I know to some people it sounds impossible what do you mean how do you not look if you train yourself long enough it becomes your nature the second you see a woman it's im as you look away and you can even get to the point where a second you see a woman you look away You're Still appropriate you're still polite you say hello and you know if somebody's approaching you ask you question yes and we look now sometimes a women tell me listen you know that woman that uh you know my friend I brought it to the lecture that you did over there and uh you know my friend that spoke to you after the lecture she had the black hat and the blue this and the black that no I don't know no that woman that was there I have no idea no you talking to her for 15 minutes yeah I have no idea I have no idea what you're talking about why I wasn't looking at her I was looking behind her I'm looking your face but I'm not looking at you I'm looking at something you think I'm looking at you but I'm looking at something why I had to train myself to do that I can't tell listen hey yes ma'am she's over here yes ma'am listen I can't can't do that she'll be she'll be offended because she has no idea what I'm doing so I have to pretend like I'm looking at you to look at somebody behind you and hope that behind you there's like I know something really really ugly or a wall why I know if I look at you it's fire it's fire I don't want to get burned that's what you have to do you want to go to ganed that's what you have to do to look at a woman that's forbidden to you is a from the Tor to look forget about be with her to look at a woman that's forbidden to you if she is somebody else's wife it's already is if she's n she's not your wife but she's not she's not she's not your wife she's n she's not anybody's wife single woman she forbid can't look at her she's a Goya not Jewish woman forbidden to you looking at her you're already violating the Torah now what do you do you deal with things in a polite way hello and that's it whatever you need to do cashier yes yes but one second no staring you know sometimes I remember in business do a certain weird women that would like to like when they talk to you they talk like this like they want to look at your eyes like what are you looking for the brain behind my eyes there some weird people that want to look at you like this like yeah no no you high something wrong no don't do that don't do that if if it's a opposite uh gender look but then after that train yourself to not stare at people why you have to protect your eyes because if you don't protect your eyes evil will come to you at night what's evil the already tells us evil is wasting seed so when you understand that making this sin is fire you will do whatever you can to avoid it when you understand that noner money is fire you will do whatever you can to stop it Renu the grandson of Rashi grandson of Rashi one of the biggest giants in the world every single day every day of his life he would read scariest in the T specifically the section about who is cursed by hasem cursed is the person who sins in hiding why is the person that sins in hiding cursed why isn't he just bad because the explained to us when you sin when you do bad stuff there are certain sins there certain bad things you would do you're embarrassed to do in front of somebody you're not going to do it next to your wife you're not going to do it next to your husband if your husband's there you're not going to do it if your son is there you're not going to do it if your neighbor is there you're not going to do it if your boss is there you're not going to do it if the police officer is there you're not going to do it sometimes there's certain sins if a dog is there you're not going to do it said look you wouldn't sit next to your wife you wouldn't sit next to your husband you wouldn't sit next to your neighbor neighbor you wouldn't sit next to your boss you wouldn't sit next to the dog but you're sitting in front of me all the time you're the worst you're scared of everybody except me that makes you cursed if you made sins in public you don't care about everybody says okay you're you're a really bad person but at least you're treating all of us equally but when Hashem is the only one you're not scared of come on so that's the thing when a person knows what the sin means he understands that when would literally study every single day of his life why he says I need I need to be scared of making sins yeah but you're a big so so well does that mean I have no yet I have yet everybody's you have to fight it you have to fight the you have to stay away from sins why when you stay away from sins your mitv become more enjoyable your MIT become more natural your MIT become part of you but when you're making sins even your mitv become defiled even your mitv become defiled so that's one of the most critical things that a person needs to know but again you can't do chuva for everything in one day so each day you choose something sometimes you may be six months or even six years working on one thing cuz it's a big thing you're working on your anger that may take you 5 10 years to work on your anger but work on it as you get stronger with this start adding other things that you're working on but if you work on yourself every single day you'll definitely improve your life for sure there's no doubt about it [Music]