GETTING OVER THE PAST

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Chu he comes to this world to serve a in a much better way than he or she did in the previous G some of us had the fortune of growing up in religious families some of us had the fortune of growing up in non-religious families some of us had the fortune of not growing up in even Jewish families but the goal for all of us is exactly the same to serve a and to do chuv now the problem is that doing chuva whether it's doing chuva from somebody that's born into a religious family but needs to serve AEM much better than he did his whole life in the previous Carnation because that's the reason why he's here he didn't come here to this world and she didn't come here to this world to go pray three times a day and uh you know eat chant on Shabbat and then you know go to it doesn't work that way every one of us has a t of some kind some for money some for some for some for some for this some for that every one of us has an issue and we all have to fix it things from this world and also things from the previous Carnation some people came here already into a religious family they got somewhat of a head start some would say it's opposite because their way of uh their religion uh um religiosity was uh actually affected in a negative way because of their surroundings on the other hand some of us came from families that were not religious at all and we had to overcome all of the different obstacles to abandon our past in order to adopt dropped a completely new reality and even more so for someone that came from a different religion and the uh Aral says that the people that convert many of them were actually formerly Jews they were formerly Jews that uh made enough sins that punished them by kicking them out of is and reincarnating them as non-jews usually this happens if somebody has uh sins with non-jews meaning a you know a Jewish guy with a non-jewish girl he doesn't do Chua he comes back either as a dog or he comes back as a non-jew a non a Jewish girl decides she wants to have a Jose as her boyfriend she wants to have Charlie as a boyfriend she come back either as a dog or as a non-jew or both and it's uh not an easy tun why because the whole goal of them coming to this world is to do chuva meaning to convert to convert and converting anyone that's gone through it it's not easy not easy so but that's just the first step that's just the first step most people they think oh okay so I did Chua I started keeping Shabbat I converted I started being modest I'm finished right anyone that's been doing chuva for at least five or six 78 years knows that's only the beginning why because that was the first test that was the commercial to get you in but then comes all the problems of your past what problems with your past all of a sudden your friends from high school that you haven't seen in 15 years show up at your door hey what's up man what are you doing how you doing what's going on I just moved in next door maybe we could be boys maybe we go back to the ne you can do this you could oh I I moved on with my life what moved on with your life he's reminding you about your life he reminds you of who you really are he thinks he really knows who you really are and all of a sudden your girlfriend they used to go clubbing with she said hey girlfriend how are you let's go let's go out I got this guy you're not married right okay even if you are listen we're just friends and all of a sudden she wants to have coffee she wants to have tea she's always thirsty and she always want you to join or to drink together and all of a sudden all of these people from the past they want to join you they want to befriend you and if you don't want to join them then they make you feel bad oh so you're better than me now well we're not good enough for you anymore you you you forgot where you came from and it remind you of where you came from how you used to be a little you know bug like them and you did nothing and you sinned and you did this you did that they don't want you to move on they don't want you to move on there was a guy one time that went to Yesa with the uh now he won in his life and R also went in his life he became some type of merchant made some money RAB became RAB now many people don't realize rabman he died young 36 years old he did all what he did to change the Whole World in His capacity 36 years old suffered a lot and one time they after he already became famous they announced is coming to town of course everybody gathered everybody was uh excited and this guy says who's this rabman i' never heard of him no you don't know rabi nman this that goes oh yeah of course I don't we're like this went you know we were in together me and him we used to share lunch 30 years ago you know we used to share lunch we used to sit next to each other so he thinks that you know 25 30 years have passed but we're still boys so comes with his all Entourage all the are following him and this guy he sees him even though he's got money and he's got whatever he's got no one cares about him everybody cares about the sadik sadik showed up the whole Entourage everybody just wants to just look at his face maybe get a kiss his hand something anything to this day people that understand what sadik are they're willing to pay millions of dollars for anything that the sadik owned the little big pen big pen that you could buy from a 99 Cent Store maybe even for Less I don't know with inflation maybe it's $5 now but the uh the big pen for one that was owned by one of the from the previous generation was sold for $2 million $2 million the standel forki Shalom also sold for a fortune all of these different things why because people don't understand what sikim are they understand that the sadik puts certain amount of significance into that tool you have something you have a share of it it's very good now again we don't serve it we don't worship it we don't do anything like that this is not like something that you got to you got start to put that pet in your hand and all of a sudden you start writing going to happen still a pen but it has a certain level of uh significance in the world and everybody wants to get some type of share from the sadik this guy on the other hand doesn't see a sadik he says this just the same guy from 30 years ago but maybe he forgot who he is so let me remind him so he comes with the intention of reminding that he's you know we're boys we used to eat lunch together you know we used to play climb the walls together cause trouble she wants to remind them so you know like some people they they're very aggressive like they don't just say hello like hello with the word like they give you like a hug but they don't just give you a hug they give you a hug like they're a bear it's not like a bear that's like a friendly bear it's like almost he wants to eat you too like one of those people so he comes to with his big jash hand and he shakes his hand and and shakes rabman to yay remember me how are you and all of a sudden everybody sees this in front of their eyes initially they're seeing shaking inappropriately this guy is hang you know shaking his hand like he's one of his boys but a half a second later the other guy can't move stops moving finish shaking his hand and walks away the other guy stays like this and he can't move he's Frozen people walk away and they start they see the guyy is still there what's wrong with you move nothing he realized he made a mistake didn't like that uh he touched the sadik in a certain way and only until then did he realize that uh maybe they grew up together but you could also grow you could also grow and only then did he start realizing that rabman was not the same little kid that he knew from 30 years ago the problem is that most of us have some friends have some family have some people that we know that are like that guy they don't want us to move on they don't want us to grow and for the first time in their your life the first time they care about your life and what your choices are 20 30 years you know them they never car what you eat 20 30 years you know them they never car what you wear no one ever asked you hey are you sure you're going to be hot with that outfit or cold no one never asked you middle of winter 5° outside in New York you're walking around with a t-shirt nobody says maybe you should get a jacket no one cares oh you know what it's pretty hot yeah it's cool no one cares all of a sudden you're religious you want to be modest hey hey why you wearing that jacket what somebody died no nobody died so why you wearing a jacket it's the middle of the summer what's wrong with the jacket why is it ass it's it's illegal I don't know it's just kind of weird to walk around next to you wearing a jacket so you wear a jacket too it's you know it's a big scam they sell it in stores not just one jacket I didn't make it all of a sudden everybody cares that you're wearing a dress why you wearing a dress you going to a party no where you going to the supermarket why you wearing a dress because I need to wear clothes I don't know I figured that you know people wouldn't appreciate if I just walk around with no clothes on so I put something on yeah but why are you wearing a dress though why don't you wear something else why do you care what I wear did I ask you but before you before you came over hey what are you wearing what are you wearing what did I ask you no so why do you care all of a sudden they care 20 30 years they never cared what you wear they never cared if you going to a party or you're going to smoke crack but all of a sudden you tell them that you go into to sh and they care why because the yet has employees has employees he has to send his employees to go do the work while you are working working for him and I was working for him because we were making so many sins we were the employees he didn't send anybody to us to ask us what we're wearing and what we're eating and what we're drinking and what we're doing we were the employees we were the one doing it to everybody else without even realizing it we were on autopilot once you decided to quit it's said hold on a second wait a minute you going to betray me like that he's going to send you five employees 10 employees to go recruit you all of a sudden everybody likes you everybody doesn't like you everybody wants to be next to you everybody can't stand you everybody this everybody that everybody's confused but either way they can't leave you alone they all of a sudden all care about who you're deciding to marry until now you got married to a new girl every single week no one cared until now you married all the non-jewish guys on the Block no one cared until now you did every single thing that you can possibly want no one cared in fact they said you know what you're only 12 years old you have five boyfriends good job for you good for you enjoy yourself all of a sudden you're 19 years old little pure girl finally you decided to do chva you want to get married oh maybe you're too young what too young I was already married for Five Guys at 12 years old what too young how come I wasn't too young at 12 all of a sudden everybody cares when you're 19 you finally want to get normally married why because back then you were the employee now you're trying to be the boss so you see to do chv it's a multi-step process and one of the things that a person needs to realize is that this multi-step process is not easy it's not intended to be easy but we are we do need to be aware that there is a process there is a way to pass it it all stands on the shoulders of Torah the same thing that got a person out of the confusion of the world is the same thing that's going to keep him out of there and one of the most important things that I learned from RAB AA was when we did that movie called The World of Lies we did a whole sheer about it it's all based on thear that says that R AKA once went to go visit some King in order to convince him to cancel a decree and because the king heard that RAB AKA was one of the was the leader of the Jewish people he wanted to honor him by sending him prostitutes to his room and RAB AKA saw these prostitutes and vomited the whole night just threw up the whole night non-stop he got to a point of Holiness to such an extent that sins and lust the that the world is chasing became disgusting to him just like sins are disgusting to so now one of the things that you see many times in the world of B in the world of Judaism Al together in the world alt together Jews Gentiles is that even when people change change their ways they're no longer violating Shabbat they're no longer stealing in business they're no longer doing a lot of different things it's not often that they become disgusted from their past usually they pick a new way because they figure the new way is better I used to steal now I make honest money I used to hang out with five girls now I'm married to one now if you ask him so how was your how was your life when you were 18 years old all of a sudden he's oh when I was your age 18 years old I had five girlfriends he's proud of it he's proud of you had five so meaning that yeah but you have one wife now so what you're not happy now no no I'm happy so why are you still proud of five girls why are you proud of Five Guys like I don't so so wait did you do Chua you didn't do Chua the rambam says that chuva is multiple steps it's four steps the first step is abandon your sin second step is make a offense make offense a spiritual offense not to repeat the sin meaning you know that you sin every time you go to a certain place you sin every time you hang out with certain people you sin every time you see certain things don't do it make offense learn enough about the subject in order not to repeat the offense step number three regret the sin says wait a minute how come the regretting the sin is not step number one you're stopping the sin shouldn't you be regretting it no why because you didn't stop it because you don't like it you didn't stop it because you're disgusted by it you didn't leave the non-jewish girlfriend because you think she's disgusting if she converted tomorrow you would marry her in fact if she wore a certain outfit You' marry her you didn't abandon Mustafa your boyfriend for 5 years because you're disgusted all of a sudden you don't want an Arab boyfriend no you didn't leave him you Liv him because you figured there's a better choice somewhere else better because of this better because of that so you didn't stop the sin none of us stop to sin because we're disgusted by the sin we stop because we figured there's a better choice out there but once a person distance himself enough from the sin from the things that are disgusting in the eyes of asem all of a sudden they realize hold on a second I used to do that I used to do all that I used to do this I used all of a sudden they start realizing that maybe it was disgusting hence the reason Salan says the rambam said that disgusting is something that's required in in order for you to really repent step number three which is to be sorry for the sin you're not sorry about something that you like you're not sorry about something that you enjoy you're not sorry about something that you think and is is admirable you only sorry about things that are revolting you they may not Revolt everybody else but the key is to understand is that we have to get to a point where we are disgusted by our sins that takes time and that time is needs to be spent sanctifying ourselves making ourselves Holier and one of the ways to make yourself Holier is to distance yourself from your past meaning that for the chuat to continue growing and for it to succeed we're obligated to distance ourself from all of those people that want us keep us there so that means that there are going to be some relationships that will grow as a result of your Chua and there's certainly going to be some relationships that will end as a result of the chuba now some people say yeah but I don't want to end my relationship with so and so she's been my friend since I was three years old we we we grew up together we played in the sand together okay but you're 30 you play still play with sand together a lot of things have changed in the last 27 years yeah but we're friends okay so what do you have in common now if it's not sand and she's not sharing her bucket with you what do you still have in common you want to get married and have a Jewish Family she wants to go nightclubbing one of you is going to win after you get married your husband you probably want him to just look at you so are you going to invite her in a nightclub clothes she came at 2:00 in the morning right after she hung out with Jose and Steve Husband number one husband number two for the night or better yet she's going to bring one of those guys she met for the night because he's really really nice and he gave her a ride all the way to your house at 2:00 in the morning what what are you going to talk to her about she wants to go nightclubbing you want to have a family what is there in common okay so yeah you played with buckets and sand 27 years ago now what a person has to realize that there are certain relationships that simply cannot continue if you want to continue and therefore getting over your past is a required step for every single person if they want to get to where they want to be now of course the knows everything I just told you so he was prepared before we even gave this lecture and he said you know what one of these days these smart Jewish people are going to realize they cannot stay friends with all of these people and they're going to move far away so the says okay so I'll send them new friends and when they rejected the new friends they say you know what I'm going to tr send them somebody really trustworthy who the rabbis he's going to send them a rabbi that's going to be even worse than their worst friend why because the rabbi is going to cool off their Chua they want to wear with the the Rabbi says why you covering your hair it's so pretty they want to cover their body and say why you looking like a Arab they want to go to a he says no why don't you go to hang out with the community be uh one with everybody everything that they want to do that they heard in the shield that got them closer to the Rabbi says no they want to serve hem and the Rabbi says what do serve AEM hasm needs you he needs you he created you therefore he need you that's what they say and I wish it was only one Rabbi that would say this because that's what it was for a while but today unfortunately it's a new epidemic much worse than Corona and the monkey virus combined so the yet Works in all types of ways in order to get a person away from the direction that he wants to go and one of the main tools that the yet works on in this generation is convincing everybody that there are no consequences to such an extent that the consequences are minimized by telling people either that everyone goes to heaven at the end anyway or the punishment is just embarrassment which pretty much all of us get embarrassed at least once a week for accident on purpose anyway some people even bring embarrassment to themselves on purpose or it's a limited amount of time it's so short you know what's 12 months out of a trillion years so they minimize it to such an extent it is that if it does not exist now of course over the last eight or so years we've worked very hard to bring the consequences in front of people's eyes from the sources from the from the midashim from the and some people most people it was enough for them but then the attacked again and said sent them another Rabbi said what what did he say what he said mid no you don't have to believe every mid and they'll even give you a source of how you don't have to believe every mid oh no he's misunderstanding the Mis understanding yeah but it says G forever over there no no he's misunderstanding it he doesn't know what he's talking about he's about too he doesn't know anything and they convince you that everything that warmed you up again to go serve hasem to become modest again to leave the boyfriend to leave the girlfriend to leave the sins to live leave and abandon all the garbage they convince you n you're making a mistake one of the best proofs that I know that this is what they do is because this is one of the things that happen to to me there was this rash called himself a rabbi who used to come to my office every single week sometimes two three four five times a week and he wouldn't leave until I gave him money this manal literally would stay in my office until he got money he would not leave I tell him listen I got to work I got business I got this okay you just sit there I like how long is he here for that's why I said how long is he here 5 hours what is he doing I don't know just sitting there he has nothing else to do until you gave the guy money he wouldn't leave it's like a it's like a treat you give a treat okay he runs away one day a few years past I did I CH I did a lot of good things started teaching he sends me a uh a uh message what is this you're talking about fear of Heaven women shouldn't uh wear uh wigs they should wear you you're learning wrong so but this is what the says and I gave him the sources so what do this man say ah the biggest mistake you ever made in your life was doing this chuva of yours I say excuse me Rabbi what what do you mean it's the biggest mistake cuz nah you're much nicer when you didn't do chba I said yeah but you realize I was M Shabbat I was this I was that you know l a few crimes that I was a criminal of go yeah it's okay in this generation the only mitvah you need to do as a Jew is give money that's it I said you know you're a right today this has Messengers those Messengers will sometimes have a beard sometimes have a sometimes they look religious sometimes they don't look religious they come in all shapes and sizes all of them have the same attention to cool you off to cool you off from that path that you already got on I don't believe any of you showed up here to a lecture that I'm giving because you've never heard of me before because you want to stay exactly the same usually people that come to my and watch my typically they're inspired in some way or another to change to improve to get better to to to do something different than what they're already doing many people have changed have improved have done and have gone closer to but there's still a lot of work to do and I was thinking about it yesterday I was talking to the ran and M the more I think about it the more I regret thinking about it because it makes me very sad very few things make me sad because I'm stuck in the world of Tor and T makes me happy but when I think about the status of certain people either that I know or that I don't know that don't have to in their life I don't think there's anything more miserable than that now of course if you would have told me this 15 20 years ago I would say why why because I'm not reading a book because I'm not reading a book every day that means that uh I'm miserable no I'm happy I go to clubs I go make money I go do this I go do that and the truth is when you look at the you look at the it tells you everything it tells you everything there's AAR it's my favorite and I read it every day or at least they try to but usually they read it every day sometimes multiple times a day anybody Lear learns probably learns this also every single day without realizing it it's starts off in a page 28b and uh it starts in a mishna mishna in the name of RAB would pray when he entered the BET mid and also another prayer after he left so the people over there said them what what kind of prayer are you doing when you come in when you leave what what is this prayer and he says I pray when I enter that uh I don't make any mistakes and no mistakes no mishaps will come through me and when I leave I thank a for my portion so the says what kind of prayer is this what is the actual words what's the text what's the text of this prayer it says may be your will hasem my God that a mishap not come about through me and that I may I not stumble in a matter of ala and cause my colleagues to make fun of me to Rejoice over me as a side note why why is why is he praying that he doesn't make a mistake and other people make fun of him it's not because he's afraid that people are going to make fun of him because he's going to be embarrassed it's because there's also says someone that takes pride in his friends downfall loses his share of Thea you saw your friend get embarrassed he let's say he gave a sh or he just lost all of his money or uh his wife just embarrassed him in public you you you're enjoying that ah you see what him byebye deleted you have do cha to get it back by the way that means comedians you're not going to see Ina why cuz comedians make a business out of making people making fun of people and the reality is that the Tora hates this hates this why are you gaining out of somebody else's downfall so a person says listen I'm going to go learn T I won't make any mistakes in my learning and then that's going to cause my friends that that are not exactly uh so uh particular about things that they're going to make fun of me why cuz I'm afraid they're going to go to Gom I don't want them to go to Gom because of me and then he says the prayer continues and may I not say regarding something that is impure that it's pure or that something that's pure to say that it's impure meaning don't make mistakes that are the opposite say that something is allowed and really it's not allowed saying something that's not allowed and really it's allowed somebody says Hey listen Rabbi can I drive on Shabbat oh yeah sure sure as long as you going to sh no obviously no you're not allowed to go to shabbat but somebody says listen Rabbi I have to go to the hospital save somebody's life can I do that on Shabbat or let them die of course you have to it's a mitvah so you have to know when allowed when not allowed to go save somebody's life on Shabbat it's aah the whole T is put on hold whether it's driving or flying or whatever it is if somebody let's say for example is having a baby that's considered life risk anyone that is involved is allowed to put Shabbat on hold meaning if she has a helper that helper is allowed to drive on Shabbat to go take her to the hospital to help deliver the baby or anything like that in fact even our husband that's not doing anything he's not delivering the baby he's not even telling her to breathe he's not telling anything he himself needs breathing he himself is nervous he's also alled to put Shabbat on hold why cuz he makes her feel comfortable by being next to her in in in the hospital being next to her in ambulance it's going to calm her down a little bit he's allowed to also put hold for a little bit now he's not allowed to go hold and then go back in the car then go to the casino and then go you know buy some f that he's not allowed to do so you need to know one's allowed one is not allowed so says that I pray that I don't say things that are allowed it's not allowed things that are not allowed they're allowed also that my colleagues don't stumble in a matter of law that would lead me to Rejoice over them meaning I don't want us my friends to go learn to they make mistakes say ah you guys are idiot you don't know anything no they I lose my so I don't want to make that mistake either and upon exiting when I finish studying that's the prayer that he does when he gets in and this is by the way and everybody's all supposed to do this that's why it's a it's a custom of is to have in the uh in the inside cover of the on the right side you see these two prayers I'm telling you you're supposed to do them every single day now if somebody learns they know already everything I just told you if somebody doesn't learn they introduce to these two new prayers that they're supposed to do every day now what about what kind of prayer do you do when you leave the prayer that he does when he leaves is why he said this whole thing because this prayer is relevant to everything that we just said until now what's the prayer that he does when he leaves when he finishes learning tah every day before you finish for the night or you finish uh studying what PR PR you're supposed to do I thank you hasem my God that you have established my portion with those who dwell in the study hall and you have not established my portion with idlers what's idlers all your former friends all the people that used to hang out with your whole life all the people I used to hang out with my whole life all your co-workers all the people that don't learn to instead of it they go have coffee at Starbucks for 5 hours all of the people that watch TV all day all of the people that go watch sports all the people that talk about sports all the people that make the topic of conversation other people's money the lowest form of conversation it shows that there's two cockroaches in their head there's no brain because if the only thing you could talk about is other people's money that means you have no intellect whatsoever but that's what people love to talk about they know the salary cap of every single player in Major League Baseball since the 1980s they know how much the contract that LeBron James signed with some shoe company they know how much Steve Jobs made a year before he died they know how much this guy is worth and which number he is in the Forbes 500 list you ask him do you know what time is M huh what time is Shabbat come in is that today Shabbat no it's Wednesday but Shabbat you know when Shabbat is the seventh day no you ask him you know any Al you know nothing but they know the salary caps and the statistics and who's the most faced most famous instagrammer and who's the most faced Twitter and who is Tick Tock they know all that stuff oh Rabbi you got to watch this video went viral what is it it's two ducks crossing the road and do they explode do they start a business in the middle of the road they start playing poker what did they do no they crossed the road it went viral two ducks went from one point to another it went viral that means 100 of million people are [Music] stupid but this is what people do when we finish learning to every single day we are obligated to say to thank you I'm not him thank you I don't watch ticktock for a living or just for fun or just for any reason whatsoever thank you I don't surf the internet all day just to see what people liked on Facebook Facebook thank you I don't even know what he commented on anything because I don't even have a profile thank you for not letting me know what's going on in the coffee shop next door because I didn't even know there was a coffee shop next door because I'm too busy learning toah thank you I'm not one of those people even though I used to be even though he used to be and even though everybody used to be thank you that today I learned to Li I wasn't one of them that's one of the that's the first step of saying thank you to hasm when you learn to now when a person is still in that world still in the coffee shop world still in the news world still going and hanging out doesn't seem so bad like what what do you mean why are you thinking for not going to the coffee shop why are you thinking for not going to clubing you know how much fun it was in the club last night we hung out we drank this guy got drunk 4:00 in the morning was still partying boom boom boom pigp the same music from the 1990s all of a sudden became popular again the DJ is 59 years old when I was a kid and we were 16 17 18 years old and we saw 35y old people in the clubs like why is this old man here why is this old person here he's 35 isn't he supposed to like be like a grandfather by now as 17year old we used to make fun of them why is this 35y old guy 40y old guy with his grandmother oh it's his wife whatever why are these two people here in this club with us 17 year olds today 45 50-year-old grown men and women go to clubs with the 17-year-old kids the most bizarre thing in the world is standard and you see this like old man he's hanging out with all these kids that are literally his grandkids why cuz he's paying for everything but the loserm the the the the the the meaninglessness has become acceptable behavior avior in society and while a person is immersed in that world they have no idea that anything is wrong why I'm having a good time just had three shots for tequila I didn't even have to pay for it the girl that's the waiter just winked at me I think I'm going to get her number like what's wrong with that in his mind like what's why why why why can't I watch sports why can't I have beers on a Tuesday afternoon what is wrong with that the guy that learning he is thanking that I read another line in the thank you and the guy that's in the club has no idea why is he happy why is this guy that's reading a book happy I'm the one drinking trying to like numb my pain and he's the one that's Happy why he's not only happy he thanks for being in the study hall he thanks and he says to you've you haven't established my my portion with idlers why because technically our lives are the same I Rise early and they rise early we both wake up early in the morning I wake up early in the morning to the words of T thank you the minute that I wake up I already know it's you minute I wake up I already know I have a purpose I have a plan there's a reason why I'm in this world he also wakes up in the morning but he wakes up with Idle Words what's Idle Words who won the game last night what are we eating what are we drinking few cuss words why cuz he's late to everything we both wake up early I wake up early he wakes up early I wake up to the words of T he wakes up to Idol words I toil and they toil we both work hard you can't say that only the religious people are working hard you can't say just the secular people working hard what work hard he toils I toil what's the difference though I toil and receive reward they toil they don't receive reward I toil I learn to I do even the job that I have is going to make me mitv cuz I'll give some I'll do some good things I'll do honest business whatever it is everything that I toil in is mitah he also toils he also works hard no MIT why there's no purpose no his purpose to make money okay make money for what so you can buy stuff buy stuff for what so you can do stuff what are you going to do with that stuff sins there's no purpose you bought a car fine I bought a car fine we both bought a car where you going going with your car you pay the bill I pay the bill you may have a fancier car I may have a fancy car you get from one point A to point B I get from point A to point B we both get at the end of the day same level of enjoyment as far as the the tool itself what are you doing what is the end objective to your car versus my car my car goes to Sho my car goes to the bet midash my car goes to sh your car goes to go pick up girls boys cats dogs this that sins run away from the cops run after the cops so so we have the same tool but one is used for serving a the other one is serving lust so he says I toil and they toil I receive reward and they don't receive reward I run and they run mean we're both chasing our Tails trying to do something we both are running I run to the life of and they run my whole purpose in life my goal that I'm running after the reason why I work the reason why I read Tora the reason why I pray the reason why this the reason why is to run to build myself a Biga an eternal place of good they're also running but they're running to a place called be Shak what's that it's one of the chambers in when you read this gar a few times you get to understand it you start realizing thank you very much for putting me in a situation where I could actually run in the right direction run in the direction of getting getting to Heaven getting to good but I'm not talking about the good after this world I'm talking about the good in this world a person wakes up without a what's the point a person goes on to their day without a what's the point what is the life of a person without a we've all lived it at some point or another you wake up wash your face shower whatever it is that you do eat you eat I eat one does blessing one doesn't do a blessing the one that does a blessing the eating becomes a Mitzvah the one that doesn't do a blessing the eating becomes a sin they get punished for Hashem is going to have to punish them specifically just for that act every single bite they get a special punishment for he ate a bagel he ate a bagel one got a reward special place in heaven another room the other one got a special place in G same exact act one goes to work the other one goes to work one reads the other one everybody does the same exact thing but one earns reward the other one earns sins and Punishment so then you say okay but maybe at least the secular person or the less religious person or the really really modern kind of religious person that's not really religious but they look religious at least they're enjoying this world and you could lie yourself all your life thinking that until you see what their life is like if they don't have to every single day in their life you see what their life is hey what's up what's going on how you doing good good I just uh made a deal I bought XYZ oh okay what else nothing anything else going on no how's the family good how's this good end of conversation there's nothing else to say okay next time you call them hey what's going on how you doing I just want to say hello oh no no it's bad times right now why family's bad no no they're fine they're fine what's wrong I can't unload the goods that I have oh anything else going on no nothing okay see you later third conversation hey how you doing oh good good I just finished uh selling all the stuff that I had how's everybody else yeah they're still fine same nothing has changed with them nothing has changed with anything the only thing that has changed is what they're buying selling or they can't sell that's it there is no substance whatsoever to their life and when a person that learns to hears this they literally start crying M poor person you have no reason to exist you're an Amazon store with legs there's no reason for you to exist if you existed or you don't existed if they called you eBay or Amazon or Pikachu no one would ever know nothing happened there's nothing going on you ask him what's going on nothing what has changed nothing how long has how long has heaps from the last nothing to this nothing years and years I have people that I know from 20 years ago I could continue the conversation from where we left off why nothing has changed nothing has changed it's the same exact person the life is exactly the same sometimes the car changed sometimes it didn't change sometimes the shoes changed sometimes they didn't but generally speaking in here in here where the N is nothing silence like a cemetery nothing they murder their now you go to any that has real ask anybody how are you doing and you're going to have a conversation from here till next year about the different thoughts and ideas and experiences and appreciations and and all types of things that just happened that day they live they live their life is life the other one might as well be death so when you see the life of someone that does not have a Kad and you literally is see seeing a living Amazon store nothing changed one day he works for this company the other day he works for that company change the logo you could already fast forward 5 years oh I haven't heard from someone from so and so in 5 years okay just nothing has changed probably just the logo changed on his on his Facebook page nothing changed oh I haven't talked to her in 10 years yeah probably nothing changed maybe the logo changed the uh relationship status changed maybe that's said nothing changed the life is the same no new ideas no Innovations no development of any kind and it's very said because there's so much to live for the the mind that gave you the gave you is capable of doing wonders you can do so much that it's truly unbelievable that when a person wastes it purely just for Commerce purposes purely just for physical Pleasures it's literally like murdering yourself because yes we all need to do some business to make a living and we all need to fulfill certain desires eating drinking procreating and so on and so forth but if that's the only purpose a person lives for it becomes a purposeless life that you can fast forward 20 years hair do will change maybe maybe not clothes will change maybe maybe not for sure they're going to get fatter because we all do other than that nothing you can continue the conversation that you stopped 20 years ago as if nothing has changed because nothing has so when a person that learns tah and makes an effort to learn toah every single day and it doesn't need to be 20 hours a day or 15 hours a day or something that is you know not feasible in the mind of a person when they first start it could literally be an hour or two a day but an hour or two of serious learning that is actually going to change their life a person that learns in that fashion turns the entire day the entire 24 hours revolves around that one or two hours that they learn that whole 24 hours exists just for that one or two hours why because that's when they I'm alive that's when I'm alive now I can tell you all of this but I can't make you feel any of it doesn't matter how many words I use I can talk for another thousand hours hours I can never make you feel it I can never make you feel what it feels like to learn for several hours straight I can never make you feel what it feels like to learn for several hours straight multiple days in a row and I can never make you feel like what it feels like to learn every single day for several months in a row and apply those changes to their your life in fact the greatest pleasure that a person could ever have whether it be drugs or or any other physical desire if you combine all of them with would not be equivalent to even a single minute of the feeling that a person gets after they start applying Torah to their life but not initially after it becomes a permanent fixture in their life now when you tell this to a average person that has no concept it's not going to help them so if you're going to try to change yourself with this it may work sometimes it may not work sometimes if you're going to try to convince your old friends that are trying to bring you back to the back in the day to being a criminal again to being a gangster again and it doesn't need to be gangster against the police you could just be a gangster against God usually it's not going to work why I need to see it thank you very much for speaking for an hour I need to see any of I can't see any of this I could you know maybe be funny a little bit but I can't see any of it but you know what everybody can see you know what everybody can feel suffering that's something that is universal and every language everyone is afraid of suffering everyone has their life revolved around the fear of suffering in one form or another they go into relationships because they suffer from loneliness or they're afraid to suffer from loneliness they make certain business transactions because they're either suffering from poverty or they're afraid to suffer from poverty they do all types of things because they're afraid to that they're going to be missing an action and suffering whether it exists or it's simply in a person's mind is the primary driving force for why people make their decision in life hence the reason why I can speak out of my bedroom out of my office give a lecture for two hours and help thousands of people do chuva other people can do the same exact thing in a hall with 5,000 people for 20 years straight and not a single person will change because one person is tell telling people what they can connect to the other person is just pacifying them everyone is afraid to suffer but what happened is is so clever he's so smart he convinced everyone as I said earlier that the suffering is minut the suffering is limited what no I don't think he understood it it's only a mid it's only a and you know there are other opinions and the yet try to make sure that everybody just doesn't even think about the 13 principles of faith of how punishment is actually something you're obligated to think about every single day and in fact when you actually understand the words you're saying in prayer in the morning in the afternoon at night what you read in every par what you read in every Sido what you read in every holiday what is literally a Ross all spectrums of our holy Torah you're constantly reminded of the consequences in the morning in the morning sh for anyone that's going to attend synagogue in the morning you may have not noticed it but you will notice it tomorrow where in the morning prayer says the Arrogant they go to G why because if they're arrogant that means they're not going to change if they're not going to change certainly they're not going to do hashem's will yeah but if he's still coming to sh is not good enough no if he's coming to sh and still arrogant he's actually much worse off than the guy didn't come to sh because at least before he came to sh there was hope that if he came to sh and came to the and did CH he would change if he's going to sh and he's still arrogant we have a very serious problem and that's good morning good morning already in the morning you just woke up you still have little cobwebs on your eyes and said already you have to know G is right next to you and it mentions it countless times in the prayer but yet anytime we've mentioned in shim anytime somebody has asked their local Rabbi unless that local RAB was a serious that had they would do whatever they could to cool the people off because when a person has that means that instead of being an autopilot working for the making sins when a person has when a person has fear of the almighty they go on autopilot of doing what Hashem says one of my dear students told me that one of the ways that he tries to steal time from the so he can learn more T he's a very big mm Works a full-time career does kiru and he learns seven to nine hours a day I have some people that I know that if they learn two hours a day I would already be a miracle this guy learned seven to nine hours a day with a full-time career works for two companies and does k something unbelievable one of the ways that he does it is he steals times from the wherever he can and so show me an example he said I bought a car it's called a Tesla I said okay Tesla studies for you goes no no it drives for me so what do you mean drives for you say he drives for you you just go into the car and it drives wherever you want it to go you just put it in the computer and it drives says so what do you do when it drives because I read I learn genius Tesla exists just for this guy literally you have a trillion dollar company however much is worth today it's just for this guy there is no other reason for this company to exist what do you think really cares if people drive or don't drive if people are going to you know fill up their gas from something that he created from from his own nature or they going to fill up from a different part of his nature like he isn't think cares about this or this but to give a Jew an opportunity to learn for an extra 40 minutes a day because he doesn't have to turn the wheel that's worth it it's worth it for a p for for to create a trillion dollar company just for this what's the source the r the r brings it he says that a loves his children so much that he will give some some Arab endless amount of money and a crazy desire to build a tower in the middle of the desert for no reason whatsoever just because a few hundred years later some righteous Jew is going to walk by he's going to be hot so he needs the shadow he needs there you know something to cool off oh big tower over there let me just stand over there for an hour and then leave the building can exist for 400 years just for that Jew to be there for an hour that's how much values the righteous people the righteous Jews so it's not a that Tesla exists for this guy it's not a and surely I'm hoping and I assume that there's other people that are smart like this not because of this company but because they know they need to fight the for time if you think that you're going to have free time to learn you haven't met the yet if the is sending you rabbis to fool you sending you friends to fool you sending you all types of people to fool you surely he's going to send you opportunities to take your time the is even going to be willing to give you millions of dollars make you as rich as you want to be just so you don't learn toah because when a person finishes their life in this world they can't take the money with them so the gets it back anyway the MIT they can take with them and when a person doesn't learn to they have no MIT so now while everybody is saying that you don't have to worry so much about the consequences of things I wanted to see what are some of the examples that we have in the Torah that's quite the opposite the same that I mentioned continues and it has a story a famous story some of you at least have surely heard it before but it's worth to hear it again when became ill death Le he was on his deathbed his students entered to visit him and when they saw him he began to cry and a student said to the rabbi light of is rightmost pillar Mighty Hammer why do you cry meaning you're the you're the the entire in the world exists because of we would have lost the if it wasn't for him why are you crying can't say I'm crying cuz I'm afraid to die because uh what are you crying you going to heaven right that's what the student assumes but the old man's crying crying like a baby why you crying he says to them he knows he's going to die he's not delusional and he says to them if they were leading me to a judgment before a king of Flesh and Blood who's here today and in the grave tomorrow if he becomes angry with me his anger is not an everlasting anger and if he imprisons me his imprisonment is not forever and if he puts me to death his death is not for Everlasting death and I'm able to even appease them with words I'm able to bribe him with money even though that would be the case I'd still cry but now that they're leading me before the king of Kings who Reigns over all Kings the Holy One blessed is he who lives and endures forever and ever where if he becomes angry with me his anger is an everlasting anger and if he imprisons me his imprisonment is an everlasting imprisonment and if he puts me to death his death is a Everlasting death and I'm unable to appease him with words nor am I able to bribe him with and not only that but there lies before me two paths one of them to ganeden and the other one to G and I don't know which one they're going to lead me to shouldn't I cry about that this is theu of his generation he is crying because he says to us simple if you took any major leader in the world that has the power to kill he told me this guy showing up the house tomorrow and I know that if this guy doesn't like me I'm dead if I can't if if I can't appease him I'm dead but even then I'll be scared for that but not scared absolutely scared but scared why because whatever punishment he gives me is temporary but then you tell me no no no you're going to meet the king King of Kings you can't bribe him you can't negotiate with him if he punishes you it's permanent punishment if he's angry with you it's it's permanent anger the magnitude is unlimited infinite there is no limit whatsoever and here there's two options there's two consequences not one with the king of Flesh and Blood consequence is either he doesn't like me and I get punished or nothing I go on my way he goes back to Bangladesh he goes back to Iran he goes back to whatever he goes to and I go back to my life like nothing happened that's the king of flesh and blood but this King of Kings no it's not only that the punishment could be severe Eternal horrible atrocious but also I lose out on eternity of good that I could have gotten meaning that not only does a person that's a sinner get punished and he goes to the horrible place and the Holocaust times a million and all that stuff no but he also gets to see all the stuff that he could have had had he just made a smaller difference in his life just one minor change instead of going to the pub go to the BET midash instead of going to hang out with a bunch of drunks go hang out with a bunch of religious Jews instead of going out with this girl go marry that girl why she's not Jewish she's Jewish we're not telling you be celibate be alone be a monk we're not telling you go to some keave and live off of cherubs like not telling you can't do it do but do it in a Kosher Way work but work in the kosha way so not only is he scared wait not only I get punishment but I also lose out because I see what I could have gone and you don't want me to cry so now Zak Zak is scared but the local rabbis are sometimes not scared the local religious people are sometimes not scared an entire generation of secular people is not scared how come can you can anybody give a legitimate reason why they're not scared I think it's lack of knowledge or lack of belief so maybe they don't know ran Zak does anybody here not know who mosu is raise your hand everybody knows mosenu Moses everybody knows Moses right everybody knows mosenu okay so surely the people that don't believe in G and Punishment and so on also they know who m raenu is now I don't have to justify mosenu being righteous I don't have to qualify him everyone knows even the go even the secular even the anti-god people know who mosenu is and even they agree thatu is amazing so now you tell me this the m in this week's says the following there's a verse in the where says to M command the children of isra and say to them when you come to the land of Canan this is the land that I shall fall that I shall fall to you as an inheritance meaning this is the land I'm going to give you mid says why is a adding the word this Z we learned from here something called that we have a certain Superfluous word here that means this word is used somewhere else we have something to learn from this word so M says here that the first thing we learn this teaches us that the Holy One blessed is he when he says this that means that he's showing mosenu what he's talking about not just telling him says this is the land that mean he's showing him the land like he sees everything but also he's showing him everything that was and everything that would be meaning all of what happened until now in the past from the creation of the world and everything that's going to happen until mhia comes till the end of the world that's what he's showing in this he shows them that Samson would rise from Dan from the from the tribe of Dan and Barak the the son of a will rise from the and similarly he shows him that each generation and its uh do it's expositors it's people that teach during that generation each generation and its judges each generation has its leaders each generation has its Sinners each generation has of righteous people so he shows them all of the righteous people that are ever going to live all the wicked people that are ever going to live the crimes the the the good things he shows them everything but the M says but also we learn that this word Z this is also used somewhere else where he says this is the land hasem says to mosu this is the land that I swore to abah andov saying I will give it to your Offspring I have let you see it with your own eyes says what's it see it what does it mean see it why don't you say see the land why it no see it doesn't mean the land this teaches us the mid says that shows that's it says after he sees this who's punished in this place says to M the wicked ones the ones that rebel against me and they will go out and see as it says in the uh the prophet Isaiah the last verse chapter 66: 24 where it says and they will go out and see the corpses of The Men Who rebelled against me for their Decay will not cease and their fire will not be extinguished and they will lie in disgrace before all of mankind so this is one of the verses that's a source from the Torah it says that there is a form of punishment that is forever sees and the mid says began to become petrified of Gom became afraid of Gom I'm not going to tell you what's there I've already done that in different but the point here is m is scared of G why is M scared of G does anybody here think that M needs to go to Gom no right you don't have to be a genius to know that but is scared of and he's scared until come them down and says I have let you see it with your eyes but you shall not cross over to it you're not going to go in there don't worry meaning that mosenu is scared enough that he thinks he's going to go there even though he knows that he's not a bad person but he doesn't know to what to what extent maybe he's going to punish me that I didn't sanctify his name maybe it's not enough that he's not going to let me into maybe I still have to suffer on the way to heaven I have to get burned a little bit he's scared even of being there for a single second because he sees what it is it's no longer a teachings it's a reality when someone says no don't do this or else you lose money okay you may listen you may not listen why because so far it's theoretical don't do this or else you can get sick you may listen you may not listen why because it's theoretical but if he says hey don't do it you see him he died that's going to happen to you if you do it no more questions I'm never going to do it take it back I don't want it go why cuz you're seeing it's real something happened mosu sees G he's scared to death why is mosu scared to death but the average person walking around today you ask him are you scared of G what is that why should I be scared average lecture online makes it sound like a good place so you see that there's a lot of confusion and one of the main things that the has done is convince people that it either doesn't exist or it's limited or and so on now the says that shows mosu all of the criminals in every generation and also all of the judges why does it say criminals judges why does it specify says because sometimes the judge is the criminal and sometimes the entire generation is full of criminals that are sometimes leaders now it also says that matches the speakers the rabbis the leaders the judges with every generation to remind us that whatever we have is what we asked for is what we deserve so we can't complain oh this is a weak generation therefore I'm allowed to do no what we have is what we asked for the key is to know that this little bit of information is enough for us to ask if it's in the mid and it's also in AAR what's the only reason why people would say that GOM is not mentioned and they're not talking about it it's because say no it's not our way it's not our way to teach about punishment it's not our way to teach about consequences we want to teach you to love God and be happy see some well do you teach yes you teach yes do you disagree with not allowed to be why because if you're Orthodox Jew is that's it the end all be all there's a few Customs different between asaz but the basic Foundation is exactly the same sometimes somebody would tell me listen we we don't learn about consequences it's more of a safari thing what I'm going to do now is solve the last equation to eliminate any doubt left for anybody to justify not speaking about consequences because we're not going to go into the details of the consequences but just give you some statistics where is Gom in not m not we did that already thousands of of of of of minutes and hours have been spent in order to get that point across the question is is there a difference between a mid and and yes a world of difference why you can debate with the mid you could hear what they're saying agree or disagree with certain things even though they all have value even though they all have significance there's no obligation to to follow every single mid even especially since some of them contradict each other or look like they do same thing withar there's different layers of that you extrapolate from thear understandings and so on but once something is Al that's it that's like Mount Si Mount Si mosenu the end there is no further discussion how much does the Torah mention the subject of Gom and consequence is it just some strange thing that is in my mind and I'm the only one that likes to talk about it like I have some fixed fixation about it or is this the way of the of that we are actually have to be like the rest of society and not only think of consequences of missing out of doing wrong in business missing out doing wrong in marriage missing out doing wrong in relationships but also missing out doing wrong in our purpose of life life we're all living based on fear everywhere else in our life as I said fear of loneliness fear of poverty fear of this fear of that fear of sickness and so on and so forth for the last two years people walking around with this mask on their face everyone said oh I'm afraid of being sick well you should be more afraid of saying because that's the reason why put a mask on everybody's face once for the first time in two years they shut their mouth the only thing that the only other thing that has it in creation is the dogs they put a muzzle on them people got a muzzle for two years at least they speak Les at least theoretically that was the idea didn't work so good but the point is all joking aside is that for two years people showed that they're afraid they're afraid of getting sick then they were afraid of the medicine then they were afraid of some some new creation that people made in their mind now there's like a whole craziness in the world of people are anti the system anti this anti that fine we're not going to go into that debate clearly everyone knows that there is a certain amount of fear that is necessary for us to exist so is that also in which is the rule book that tells us yes or no no debates no this different opinions yes or no inal the word Gom appears no less than 133 times is the foundation of our oral Tora but that's just the word Gom not the subject of Gom because Gom has multiple names there's no less than seven names of Gom there's there's Aon a um and so on so just the word Gom appears in the 133 times in 15 times the 13 times the BET 14 times no less than a thousand times 76 times meaning that putting mid and so on aside theic Foundation of Judaism discusses Gom much more often than they discuss pretty much anything else with the exception of Shabbat but even Shabbat this constantly mentions the consequences of not following now the r in chapter 5 number four surprises a lot of people that think that the ramban perhaps did not follow the teachings of our about Gom and so on and so forth and he says the following if there was if there was a situation where a person was under the uh uh rist of losing his life because of a wicked King but he had an opportunity to flee to run away but he doesn't do so he knows that there's a horrible king that's forcing people to go become Idol worshippers and he can run away and he chooses not to the ram says one who could escape and flee from under the power of a wicked King and fails to do so is like a dog who returns to lick his vomit he's considered as one who worships a false god willingly he will be prevented from reaching the world to come and he will descend to the lowest levels of G this is Al this is not a midash where the rambam says outright you have an opportunity to avoid a sin the Torah obligates us to avoid certain sins under all costs if somebody tells you either die or violate Shabbat you have to violate Shabbat but if they tell you die or worship a foreign God you have to die but if they tell you listen either violate Shabbat or give me all of your money you have to give all the money all of your you have a billion dollars you have to give just just to avoid violating a single sin in to any sin somebody says either sin or give me a hundred billion do that you have in a bank you have to give the $100 billion to avoid a sin of you're not allowed to do certain things fire on Shabbat and so on and so forth eat pig whatever now if you have an opportunity to avoid making that sin you can run away but you choose not to either because you're afraid or whatever other reason there is the ram says not only is that itself turned into a sin but it's the worst possible thing that a person can do it's the equivalent of idol worship and it brings him to the lowest level of geham meaning not only does the ramb mention geham in but even specifies that there is levels in gam it's not just like one size fits all the rambam in in chapter 23 Al number eight talks about the den how a a judge a Jewish judge has to behave when he's about to make a judgment Ruben and Shimon are in a case against each other ruen thinks that Shimon owes a money Shimon thinks ruen is crazy the judge has to decide who's right and who's wrong the ram says and this is something that comes from the page 78 also comes from uh uh many other places that it's quoted but the r says that a judge should always see himself as if the sword is drawn on his neck and G is open before him he should know who he's judging before whom he's judging and who will ultimately exact retribution from him if he deviates from the path of Truth meaning that the judge is supposed to think of G while he's actually doing his job that if he judges the wrong way he's going to get punished severely how is this in real life one of the great sikim of the previous generation from family he got murdered by one of his uh crazy talim and one dayar came to Shalom and he says to tell me the secret how is it that every one of your sons became a that teaches he says I prayed he said come on we all prayed all the rabbis prayed not everybody has every son is a okay maybe one maybe two maybe five but every single one of them is a man is a leader is is M something special every one of them n something else tell me the secret so after pressuring of tells him this he says you know I was a danan in the bed for a long time decades not once in all of my life did I ever look at a woman so says how women come divorce women come lawsuits how do you not look at them you have to look at them goes no no I put my head down doing what drawing what do you mean drawing you have to have your focus because I'm focused they think that I'm writing down everything they're saying me I'm drawing because I can't learn because I'm obligated to have full focus on what they're saying so I can't learn and have my mind somewhere else so I'm doing something else that doesn't occupy my mind but also the same token I'm never looking at them now one of the customs in the aadya family the the the the's family is that every day would come home with one of his drawings he's an artist he asked the raban raban who is who is the best boy today best girl today who was the best kid today oh uh David was okay David Gets aba's drawing and the kid would celebrate who got the drawing that day who got they had no clue when does aba have time to draw no one realized until many years later that he's drawing at the bedine in order to avoid looking at a woman one time there was a criminal that came to the bedine and flee the bedine ran away from the police and know this is like maybe 70 years ago so in those days there's no cameras and all that stuff that you have today it's standard and the police don't know how to find this person because how do they identify him there's no pictures so everybody says that I have a picture oh you do yeah yeah I have a picture I have a drawing of him what do you mean you have a drawing of him I draw him when did you have time to draw him he goes don't worry I have time here here's a drawing of him he gives him the drawing identical to the guy they found the guy they found the criminal because of this drawing now why did he draw was he did he have a uh love for drawing no it's for the sake of protecting his eyes when when a person protects their eyes they're protecting their Nish when a person protects their Nish there's an endless amount of rewards for it so now you have the telling us that when a person is a they not only have to worry about pining the right way but also how the surroundings are going to affect them how do they do that by constantly thinking about the consequence of every single thing they're going to do now in the we also have mentions of consequences interestingly enough unlike what common belief is today the most common mention of the word Gom is not by R the Safar but rather byis the the asazi now the tool mentions Gom 13 times he mentions it twice where he says that the ud that you have has has to be on thein has to be drawn in a certain way where there is a uh tip a pointy tip on top and a pointy tip on the bottom if your do not have a pointy tip you're not following one of the that's very important why is it important did you even notice that it's that that it's pointy no but the tool says it's extremely important for it to be why because it's pointy on the bottom to remind people that if they sin they don't put on they're going to go to G this is where the go when they don't put on they don't follow they don't follow the is pointy on the bottom to remind people that the is going to go to G that's the the to says bins what about on top if they're righteous if they're righteous but they still made some sins just know it's pointy on top to remind you that even if you went to gain them for something else event going to come out because you put on filling that's why the ud is drawn that way and this is mentioned a couple times in the to and he mentions it in many other places of why there is a need to know according to in 62 he says that when a person has kavana when they say they're relieving themselves for a certain amount of time that they would be supposed to be in G again this is not a mid this is not a story it's not a a it's not a fairy tale this is a law in the Torah now the in mentions Gom like I said before much more than in we have it a couple times in in s 291 it's certainly worth anyone that has to look into it and you see something interesting when it comes to something that the average person doesn't even know exists there's a about when how who what all that stuff but in uh s uh 291 in um the second section theama says that says there are some that say that in the time of that's right next to not in the afternoon not that's like right next to the night where most people pray they pray and uh during the week and then right after that it's so usually in in a on Shabbat you pray but he says during that time where it's not quite and you can still technically pray during that time don't drink water why he says because that's the time that the that are in Gom right now that punished family members cousins whoever that you know is there but they kept Shabbat so they're not g Shabbat but now the end of Shabbat they're going back to Gom on the way to Gom they give them some water if you drink the physical water here it takes away from the spiritual water they're supposed to get so you cause them suffering don't drink water during this window of time that's it that's if that's not bad enough in the next or next 295 the mentions even more he says one of the things that people are bothered by the most is when the Kazan extends the prayer he goes on he starts singing and this and he want everybody wants to go home already but he wants to go on and usually we try to minimize the Lent of prayers so there's not what's called but the says here that all of a sudden on the of uh of Shabbat Shabbat all of a sudden we do and we take our time during the week you lucky if it's five minutes 15 20 minutes they add some songs v v this why go home you've been at TR all day already why we intentionally add this why because we want to we want to delay all of the wicked that's supposed to go back to G they go back to get as soon as Shabbat is over so why are you making Shabbat over quickly let it take a little extra time maybe it's your cousin maybe it's your Aunt maybe it's your uncle maybe it's this so you that are in a hurry to finish the prayers what do you if you were there in their shoes you would want to go back to M Shabbat no so we extend the prayers a little bit why Mercy to those Wicked people that are in Gom this is just then you have it's at the end yeah says in a uh this San 37 76 the again brings that oh so this is when a uh the person Shabbat or during the time of the first year person his parents passed away usually he wants to be Kazan when you give him a position to be it's a big to give a person that his parents died that year it's a big to give him to give him to be Shabbat why the says because that's the time where the go back to G but because he relieves his parents from G for that day so how grateful are our parents that their son just because he a Kazan he's a Kazan is relieving them from some suffering and G meaning that when when you see how often the mention this it wasn't some theoretical knowledge of oh what could happen if you're bad or if this this is standard Judaism standard Judaism to the point where when a person does not understand this they could easily justify every single crime Under the Sun now in the third out of four sections of the we also have you have it in a uh Beginning I Remember can have2 the mentioned the same exact thing that we had in thear which is that a when he's judging a case has to always consider that there is Gom opened from under him and it there's a sword right next to his bit so ask why is sword right next to his breit so you should know the sword is if he judges against if he judges because it's convenient for him if he judges because it's profitable for him and not because it's the truth the sword will cause him damage immediately in the most scary place that he have meaning it's a sword next to your bre everybody gets the point of what that means that's in this world the Gom being opened is also that he's not the suffering won't be enough just in this world meaning that for a person to be to go work really really hard to become a just to be corrupt is the craziest and dumbest thing on planet Earth but unfortunately it does exist it does exist so the wanted to make make sure that everybody understand that there is a consequence for doing to now what is the conclusion of all of this the conclusions is this says that a person should never be scared of speaking about Gom or hearing about Gom but rather the opposite they should be scared of somebody who doesn't speak about it they should be scared about somebody that refuses to listen to it what is it like if you wanted to become a doctor and you went to school and you learned biology and chemistry and and all types of other things and then I told you okay listen you have to take this uh course and this course is going to be the most critical step of your learning but we have two options we have one Professor on this side of the building and another professor on that side of the building choose whichever one you want so you go naturally if you're a smart person you say okay what's the difference between the professors so you ask some people that went to that class you know what's the difference between two professors yeah yeah huge difference what's the difference the guy on this side he's the funniest guy in the world he's so funny I mean you're not gonna you're you're not going to stop laughing the whole class you're going to laugh so much he's hysterical he's really charismatic he brings all types of stuff and like theatrics to the to the class we really have a good time once in a while he brings beer we having a good time what about medicine nah we want to talk about medicine what about the other guy oh the other guy he's boring he's so boring and now sometimes not just boring he's scary too tells you about all types of stuff what what what is he what stuff what stuff tells you all the consequences of what if a doctor fails he can kill people the consequences of not putting the right prescription or the right medicine or not cutting appropriately or not numbing appropriately I mean the guy is just miserable I don't know he always talks about negative thinks now a wise person which Professor does he go to if he wants to graduate as a clown he wants to graduate as a comedian he goes to the first one to the funny guy but if he wants to be a doctor he has to go to the other one why because the other one's going to teach him the consequences so he could avoid them when a person runs away from learning about the consequences of their actions that means that they have simply accepted the fact that they are incapable of changing but the truth is is that everyone of us knows that we could all change we just need enough inspiration enough motivation if we're going to rely on our past to motivate us it can't motivate us forever because the past at some point you pass it and staying close to it is going to bring you back to it the only thing that's going to get us forward is by getting us to learn enough to that we realize that if we don't continue to learn if we don't Contin continue to grow we're simply going to fall in and be prey to our own foolishness and a person needs to know that learning about the consequences is simply a a necessity a necessity in all aspects of Life once a person applies these types of teachings to their to to their life to their to their tah then they're able to change to finalize everything we have to learn from the people that in so many words beat the system in such a fashion that we remember their name until this day that we aspire to be like them the people that regardless of how they started we all know they had a good finish one of the Great musar Masters was the Sab he was a of but you should be surprised that the sabok unlike today where you know someone that wants to be a student of somebody they have to literally dedicate years and years of their life to be glued to the rabbi to listen to everything that the rabbi said was already a he learned 13 from in order to transform his entire life now the sabok he said that life is like a deer that's running away running away from things that are chasing him things that are trying to destroy him naturally that deer is going to want to run as deep into the woods as he possibly can we want to run into as deep into all types of things in our life and if you have a good goal you want to go as far into that good goal as you possibly can but the says that there's one thing that gets in the way of the deer what the antlers those beautiful antlers those really really beautiful antlers that make the deer feel like he's bigger feel like he's more beautiful feel like he's better than everybody else they're getting in the way why cuz naturally they're going to get stuck in the trees and the bushes and slow him down he can't go everywhere he can't go as fast as he wants because the antlers are in the way the sabuk says the antlers are the bad character traits of a person if a person wants to get to where they need to get to those bad character traits will always get in the way that arrogance that lust that that c behavior that stinginess whatever it is those things will always get in the way if you want to get to where you want to be you have to get rid of the antlers yeah but the antlers they you know my friends my everybody likes them they say I'm beautiful because of it yeah yeah it's an illusion it's all an illusion if you want to get to where you want to be you have to get rid of the illusion sometimes that illusion is being reminded to you by your friends or family or Associates or certain uh hobbies that a person has you have to get rid of that stuff one of the things that is a driving force to get rid of bad things is consequence consequence of losing everything and says that there's two ways to refine your midot one is by simply being determined and two by examining all your bad stuff I believe that the combination of both is more relevant to most people because usually when people are very very determined they could turn to be very very fanatic to the point where they destroy everything around them and when people only look at their flaws they can become very very depressed so unless you have a teacher that's going to teach you on a regular basis how to apply when to apply what's too much what's too little and you have to be very honest with this teacher that knows what he's doing to do one or the other is going to be too difficult for most people so that's why it requires for a person to be both determined and to analyze to reflect of where they stand at all times now of course we could all look at the great and all theik in the world but that in itself is not going to be enough when someone came to Nal he asked the raban the rabbitson was the nal's daughter and he asked her about the ISA she said you came from Rin from the say yeah she told do you know what's the difference betweenin and and he said no says you see the the the he gives you something to Aspire to to to be something remind you of who you are now and you need to know who you are now in order to beat the you need to know who you are now who you are now is not necessarily who you were before you did Chua before you converted before you got on the right path so don't let those people that want you to be there still stay in your life to bring you back there at the same token don't be delusional and think that who you are now is simply enough because if it was you'd be like and a would turn you into an angel if you're still here there's more work to do now we can focus on our past we can't go back to our past but at the same token we can't stay where we are a Jew a servant of a grows permanently grows constantly that that requires to end certain relationships to make difficult decisions and sometimes to have shed a few tears why did we mention Gom why why is g no mention in why is it mention all across all spectrums of the Torah to remind us that it's either you cry here or you cry there you can cry here about the difficulty of the changes that you need to make and the relationship lose a deal that's not allowed and so on so you cry a little bit it's hard but it's better to cry here than cry over there because you made the wrong decision this is why reward and punishment Gom all of these things are a necessary part of are necessary part of Al a necessary part of day-to-day Jewish life our necessary part of of Simply it's not that you need to constantly be uh uh uh uh thinking about the gruesome and the horrible things but you do need to be aware that there is a consequence for everything that we do that in itself makes you spiritually healthy the second you know that there's a consequence for every single thing that you do both positive or negative that in itself makes you spiritually healthy now you can make an educated decision the second you lose the the the the connection to that the second you think that no no this you don't even think about a consequence automatically you could assume that you're an autopilot but for the wrong team so these are some of the things that I thought are going to help us a little bit help us a little bit get to where we need to be past this uh next chapter of chuva next chapter of Life next chapter of learning next chapter of teaching we have to get to a point where we realize that okay maybe some of us are not disgusted by our sins maybe some of us are but we all have to Aspire to be there we have to all get to a point where we realize the truth about all of the lusts all of the sins all the things that a person was part of and get to a point where you know the real truth about it the con the real consequence of all of it the real uh significance of of of living a life that's against God get to a point where you're not just proud of being on a good path and you're not just disgusted of everybody else that's not on the right path but your gr you're grateful to to give you the opportunity to be on the right path and you're also crying for the rest of is not this is the next chapter of where each and every single one of us needs to get to you have to get to a point where you're not just happy about where you're at and you're not just disgusted by whoever's not on it you're sad for them when you start becoming sad for them you won't be sad for yourself for not being there because that in itself is already contradictory this two will get us to that point this two will get more and more people at that point anyone that wants USBS CDs books and so on it's all in the back with that being said you guys could all ask questions and B we'll uh answer as much as we can yes iness should a person that's in the middle of conversion process do somebody asked me that yesterday um if you're doing all of the basics meaning you're praying three times a day you're learning every day you're doing all the things that you need to do as if you are already completed you already completed your conversion and you're already living a your from life and is something you're adding to it fine there's no problem in doing it uh but if it's going to come at the cost of learning TOA uh then no then it's better to learn to it's better if it's comes at the cost of uh doing one of the things that you're obligated to do then no so it all depends but if it's if it's in addition to what you're doing no problem if it's say uh uh going to replace something no I mean I generally think that the one of the difficulties that people have with in the process of conversion is that they want to move too fast into things that are not obligatory so you have to just you everybody know has to know themsel if you know that you're doing everything that you're supposed to do and that you're obligated to do and this is just an addition to it go for it but uh there's a uh it's it's it's like a lot of other things it's practice it's practice so if I were you if I were anybody else that's go to the process of conversion I'd use the extra time to learn more but again that depends how much a person if the person is already learning 5 Second 10 hours a day then yeah that that 20 30 minutes is not going to be a big deal but if the person's only learning an hour a day two hours a day that 20 and 30 minutes is very valuable so it's better to use it to learn next yes our our restaurant we're always approached by Christian because of the way we're dressing more modest now you know by the and it's really hard we want how to respond to that because we either try and pro TI or we try and do and explain to them and Le them off that path but always doesn't seem feel like it good don't response to them if a Christian is trying to uh missionized priz uh you know you have to understand that they're they're not necessarily looking for specific clothing they're looking for anybody that gives them attention uh the more attention you give them uh the more they're going to you know feel like this is worthwhile in Denver they feel like if when you say no to them you're really saying yes like criminals criminals that justify rape and murder and so on she said no but really she meant yes that's the mentality of somebody that's an idol worshipper so you have to understand that the more attention you give them you debate them you uh you know Converse them you try to convince them to them that just simply means they need to invest a little bit more time in you in order to break you I see sometimes they have internal videos that people send me of of certain missionaries and you see how they talk they're literally like like brainwashed but it's it's almost like a it's a sickness so to reason with them is almost impossible almost impossible especially when they're on the job especially when they're in the you know like they're in that mode in fact thear says that there was two and they got into a fork on the road and they had to go from you know from one point to another point but there there two directions on one road was a prostitution house where once in a while the girls would come out to collect to get customers another house another uh Road was a church so said oh which which road should we go to so one of the says Let's us go by uh the uh the idol worshipping place and you know we'll just pass by but uh surely we don't want to go by the prostit prostitutes says no you go by the section the direction of the prostitutes why and next to that next to those The House of the prostit number one we don't know for sure if they're going to come outside number two we could always close our eyes so yeah but why can't we do the same thing with with idolatry he says no idolatry missionizing in itself in its nature creates so much Tuma that just it existing already creates a certain damage on a person's n meaning you don't need to talk to them in order for it to damage you you don't need to be inside the church in order for the church to damage you so the point is when a person is in that world they're they're they're spiritually sick to the highest level so for you to reason with them while they're in the the the deepest part of it where in essence they're they're missionizing is very very difficult very very difficult I personally think it's impossible uh at least in one session you could potentially argue with somebody and and try to calm them down try to reason with them in order to get them to you know reconsider things but to completely abandon their ways I personally don't think it's possible uh so for you to tell them listen we have a different faith we believe in you know in in Torah we believe this that's only going to take more time of your day you're not going to change their mind and all it's going to do is take away time that's I you know it's valuable that you can use for other things so if you if part of your uh uh goal is to try to convince people to adopt Judaism to to to become observant and so on I would recommend using it with other people that are not in there that are not missionizing because if they are just you know like most Christians and most people in general they're less Affiliated less religious at the very least they're not fanatic they're usually more of a uh you know they're more open to uh to uh other ideas whereas when a person is a fanatic it's very very hard to break them it's possible I've done it once but uh I I don't recommended it's like one of those things where don't do at home uh it's very very it's very timec consuming uh and it's also very difficult for them to abandon it like they have to go to a much bigger transformation in life and ideology than the average person so my recommendation is if if it's to it's for the purpose of trying to encourage people to do good things and and to adopt toah I would choose different customers if it's to you know what to do with those specific people simply walk away without saying anything as if they don't exist because the second you give them any attention that's it for them oh that's it it's it's like a you know it's like the somebody goes fishing and all of a sudden there's a little part of the water that starts you see some bouncing you're not really sure whether it's a fish or a crocodile or a shoe but they're simply there you're going to put your R you know you'll put your your your line over there why there's something there there's something there so in essence the same concept once they see that you're reacting automatically they say okay that's the customer and they could put all of the energy in the world on you they'll call their friends before you know it you have an entire church around you what do you need that for so it's a uh it's the best best thing to do is simply not talk to them uh same thing if people come to your house people come to your house don't debate them don't tell them listen there's mistakes in your new testament the Torah says 70 you say 75 you know everybody likes to repeat the same exact mistakes that have been repeated a million and a half times it doesn't matter it doesn't matter they they they're not thinking straight they're they're not thinking with logic they're thinking with emotions so you you could tell them listen I have 87,000 proofs while your new testament is wrong their typical response is well then who's the suffering servant then it's like did you listen to anything I just said like I just gave you a like 80,000 proofs why your book is toilet paper and it's used like like it's but who's the suffering servant and Daniel 9 like it's like you're talking to almost like a monster you're not really sure what it is usually something has to happen in their life on their own in order for them to like break that shell in some way like it happens and there are many Christians that convert to Judaism there's more Christians converting to Judaism than any other other other religion but something it's it's usually not from like a direct interaction it's usually something happens they watch something on their own they have you know like this Mercy from Heaven I don't know there something happens where it's like over time they break it's not like a sudden thing so but if they're on the job it's uh it's just even if it works it'll be 10 times the amount of energy that you would spend on anybody else that's that's you know halfway normal uh so I'm highly you know I'm all for helping people convert and helping people to identify the truth whether they're Jews or Gentiles if if you have somebody in front of you it's a decent human being for sure you should show them the truth I've had people that were exterminators coming to pick up some dinosaur lizard thing that lives in this you know that came into my house in Florida we have all these dinosaurs in the streets uh they call them iguanas right iguanas so one of these dinosaurs came into my house one time so the Exterminator was this you know nice lady she looked like crocodile dande and anyway long story short I gave her a kiru package and B it actually helped this woman she has a little son she's a single mother and you know she started like you know she's non-jewish but she ended up like you know starting to learn toah because of it so yes I'm all for helping people that are you know decent human beings that are uh you know that have an interest but no clue where to go right or left that is great but someone that's on a mission of idolatry when they're on the job it's just a waste of effort it's a waste of effort you have to wait for a different opportunity yeah the second part of that question to our mom or my mom children's grandmother that she's still a Christian and we're trying to honor her and she needs help she's [Music] older You Know She lays a lot of guilt on me for our choice things doesn't understand we keep our children down her house put the ideol Tre and stuff in there but it's a constant you know contention with her and um she drives over to visit us and stays in the driveway she refused to come in our house anymore Etc wait she refused to come into your house or you refused to go to our house we uh we don't let our children go into her house because of the JC all wall but why why wouldn't she come to your house then she come to visit the grand kids on the driveway and talk to them for a minute I know but why wouldn't you why wouldn't you go into your house what's the problem going my beliefs aren't good enough for yours that I'm not oh okay it's like retaliation got you okay she you know ask for help and things and obligated we feel that we should help her out too so we go there and help her a lot but it's usually shatown with you know my wife or I and whatnot right we just don't know what to do I mean is there a better way I mean should we write out completely like it's my mom um if she is causing damage to your marriage to your belief in God um then there is no obligation to help her uh because it says even for you know Natural Born Jews uh you know sometimes will uh or or you know will have you know Jewish parents but that are anti toah that are against the to and uh you know tell them listen uh you're not obligated to honor your father or your mother that's telling you to go against the toah he goes no but you have Ten Commandments say yes you have Ten Commandments but the Ten Commandments specifically say honor your mother and your father observe Shabbat I am God so the sages explain why is it these three things in a row says honor your mother and your father in another place it says honor your father and your mother another place it says honor your mother and your father so it says honor your mother and your father number one to show you that you have to honor your mother and your father the same number two is that you have to honor your mother and your father but you also have to observe the MIT which like Shabbat is one of them and but always remember I am God meaning that if you your parents those same parents that you're obligated to honor tell you to violate my mitv you're not allowed to listen to them because I am God cuz God comes before your parents so as much as we need to honor our parents there is a line if they are against God we're not allowed to listen to them we're not allowed to listen to them so if your mom tells you that uh you know she wants you to go believe in uh in some Idol she wants you to eat not things that uh are problematic and so on and so forth then there is no Mitzvah of honoring her uh to that now if she tells you go you know make me coffee you know give me a right to the doctor for sure yeah go definitely help her there's no there's no problem in doing that uh but uh again it's you have to you have to do things in a calculated way if you see that she is respectful of your beliefs then it makes it easier to uh to live a life even if you have different beliefs if she's a missionary which is very common uh you know people that are you know religious uh in Christianity they're all missionaries but it's just you know different amount of energy some of them have some have more some have less sometimes your religiosity will make her more religious meaning she is not religious until you became religious but in a different faith and all of a sudden she cares about her faith so that could happen sometimes so again you have to you have to try to eliminate the talk of religion altogether if possible but that's also going to make the relationship very empty because not else not much else to talk about uh but you have to do to you know as much as you can but the second you see that it's creating problems for your life your responsibility is over you have uh you know once it creates uh there there's problems between you and your wife or you start seeing that one of the kids or you or anybody else is starting to have doubts and God and things like that that's that's that's when the responsibility is over and if you want to be nice you can send somebody else to help her but you have no no responsibility you're not allowed to put your life at risk for somebody else it's not uh their their blood is not any R of than NS especially if they're not you know following God uh but if they're reasonable they're open to uh discussion or at the very least they're respectful of what you believe then there's no problem there's no problem the way to change those types of people and last thing I would add you didn't ask about but I'll just tell you the goal everybody wants to change their family everybody wants to change their parents from you know idolatry to Torah or their parents from you know money to you know everybody wants to help their their family and so on the number one most effective way to help other people strangers is to give them bring them Torah bring them our shim our USBS R CDs things like that but that's strangers the number one way to affect your family is not always with Torah it's with your life when they see that your decisions LED you to a better life where all of a sudden now you're much more calm now you're more generous now you're more loyal now you you you feel better now things are improving in your life but not just for a short period of time but for an extended period of time and not just you but also your kids so it's not just a show if it's just you it looks like it's you he's faking it but if you see the whole house is changing everything is improving it's only a matter of time before they say you know what whatever it is that they're doing it's working it's working I I I don't agree with it but I agree with the outcome and they ask you questions about it and that could be the uh the greatest thing but that takes a lot a lot of time it's not 6 months it could take 5 years it could take 10 years it could take you know different people different things but that's the thing sometimes people think listen if I teach them the same thing that I learn they're going to you know they're going to no it doesn't always work that way you could show 10 people the sky and tell them what color it is and you know they all give you different uh shade of blue different people have different perspectives so sometimes it's just they know you in a certain way and now you're changing they don't really know why they're thinking maybe it's a it's a phase maybe maybe you're losing your mind so they're not really sure what to do with you so you're telling them it's because of this teacher or because of this Torah they're not buying it because they have their truth already they're not willing to replace it so the only way they're going to you know even question themselves is once they see that your system works better than theirs but that takes time until then you have to like you know keep it uh you know maintain it to a certain extent if it's possible uh but your number one you know biggest CU of efforts should we be strangers you'll have much more customers you'll have much more uh uh success strangers are willing to listen to strangers they're not willing to listen to family I can call certain family members of mine they'll talk to me about any subject except T anything I talk about business stock market uh whatever you want but once I tell him listen what about Shabbat what about this yeah I'm busy I got to go I got wait we just talk for three hours you weren't busy what happened but then I could talk to a stranger listen I I want to call you before I finish saying I want to call you they're calling me already why cuz they're interested in talking about whatever it is I want to talk about why they're strangers so there isn't you know so that's you also have to know that there you have to you have a certain amount of energy spend it the right way don't just spend it on the people you care about the most spend it about where it's going to work the most and eventually the other stuff's going to work too yeah next M this side anybody how does one okay anger so we have a series called there's probably a USB over there that you should get it if not there's one on uh on on the on the website or the YouTube channel is a series of about 30 or so lectures and he talks extensively about about KAS about about anger and the root of anger is arrogance it's it's being arrogant it's thinking that you are entitled you owed something why is a person angry because the world doesn't function according to his likings he wanted this to happen and something else happened so in essence the person thinks that the world is supposed to to work according to him so the more a person analyzes what he's angry about and whether he really has the right to be angry about that thing whether he's truly you know owed this thing or he's just you know delusional the more he'll start realizing himself that in reality there there's no reason to be angry so that's one way to to analyze the mid itself and analyze where is a what's causing you anger so if let's say for example uh you know people cut you off in the highway you know you have road rage like do you realize that God runs the world he's the one that sent that car there do you realize that you know you're not the only car in the world he also has to go places do you realize that the world Road doesn't necessarily have to work according to your likings and to your speed like again more a person realizes where they stand in comparison to creation and how small they really are and not they're not big they're not running the wall no matter how much they have the more they'll you know realize that okay I don't need to be angry about a lot of the stuff that I'm angry about whether it's traffic or people talking to me a certain way or whatever it is that people get angry about the other thing is also to work on there the more and specifically that a person has in hasem uh the the more they'll run away from from anything connected to anger and the reason why is because a person that has they have that hm created the world but a person that has they have a belief that hem is micromanaging their life that every single thing that's happening in their life has to do with God to the point where they understand and know that God is next to them at all times so God doesn't like anger says somebody that is expresses their anger physically is like someone that brought a sacrifice to an idol it's like so when a person thinks oh I'm not going to do okay great thank you very much but you got angry now what about doing Abu next to God himself no definitely not well that's what's happening every time you get angry God is there and you're getting angry so the more a person has a strength and stronger in the more they'll run away from from uh uh from anger because they'll realize again it's not worth it so you have a combination of analyzing where you stand altogether and also knowing that the the the consequence of anger are not worth it the last thing is is a simple thing that I try to remind myself and anybody that has a uh you know is a hot-tempered person uh is that anger never gets anything done in a positive way anger is like giving yourself poison and expecting the other guy to die that's what anger is it's you know you're angry about him saying ABC now you being angry is not going to change his mind he still did it you being angry is not going to make him do anything in fact most likely you being angry will make that person even more distant from you more more likely to do more bad things to you or just simply run away from you it's anger in general doesn't ever really convince people to do things that you want them to do if they weren't going to do it even anyway meaning the people that Express their anger like in business people that are angry like to yell at people uh and I remember myself doing that a lot and but the truth is that if I would have said it in a whispering voice in a nice voice in a happy Voice or in a clown voice they would have listened anyway like meaning that me choosing to say it in an angry voice did not help me in fact it hurt me because if I would have said it in a nice voice they probably would have wanted to do it better they probably would have wanted to they would have you know had more excitement doing it or at the very least they wouldn't uh feel so uh inferior but because I chose to do it in an angry voice they'll do it because they want to keep their job but they're not going to put their all into it so that's another thing that a person needs to think about is that what's the what's the goal what's the objective of what you're doing the more you think the more the the less angry you're going to be last thing I would tell you is a something that I uh I learned years ago is uh you know it's if a person that's hot-tempered but is not completely a lunatic if you uh uh can like before you have to say something you're angry take a bottle of water leave the water in your mouth you can't talk a minute a minute passes if you're really crazy two minutes by the time two minutes pass you don't have anything to say anymore why it's enough time for the anchor to go away if what if you don't have any water you don't have any water hold your breath or just don't do it just shut your mouth say nothing I'm angry but I'm not going to say anything for two minutes that's your rule from now on I'm not I'm angry but I'm not going to say anything for 2 minutes two minutes pass you forgot why you're angry forgot why you're angry so again there's different ways different tricks to do it but that trick is only going to work if you're doing the other stuff you know it's it's not it's not going to work if you know the other stuff is not is not being worked on but it's it's definitely necessary next good okay uh yes go ahead yeah it's free questions by the way free like the books are the Jewish single events closer to attend Jewish single events what do you mean when they have a bunch of boys and a bunch of girls hanging out and maybe drinking a few cups together uh according no if Orthodox Judaism no no Orthodox Judaism is not there's no there's no mingling of men and women uh uh in such a fashion where they're un you know unattended and they could just the way they do it today they used to do something that they want to compare it to during at the time of the that was the time where they used to make but that's because people went there to look for someone to get married to not people to have a good time with not people to have a drink with not people to you know with so and also it didn't involve drinking and getting drunk and things like that today you know it's a very big money maker uh so they'll tell you listen she do opportunity all the boys and all the girls come so everybody that's looking for a good time it goes there and they'll have a few drinks they'll get some free stuff and they'll have a wife for a day or two or three days and tell Ima I found a nice Jewish girl a week later hey how's that Jewish girl oh you you still remember n n she wasn't for me yeah but she was for you for the first two days so who's who's responsible for all that not just the person but everybody that arrang that party you want want to find a a a woman you have to find it the oldfashioned way you have to go to a shid somebody introduce you to her that uh you know you go to sh or a family friend or somebody like that and you know meet somebody in a Kosher Way you go you uh they you know you see a profile of some kind you meet you talk a few times have some coffee have two three 4 10 15 dates however is required without ever touching each other without ever putting each other in a compromising position with an intention to get married and that's it but don't put yourself in a situation where it's really almost impossible for for any that's a koser to come out of those parties number one because there's a lot of sins there number two because you're giving people too many options you're giving people too many options I have a friend student of mine he just moved from India to Canada now I don't know if you been to India India is a big country but they don't have the same choices as the Western in the world so when he came to Canada it's very similar to America and he went to the supermarket and he says to me why do they have so many cereals and he said why do they have so many different types of rice and why do they have so many different types of soaps like how many ways can you clean yourself how many ways can you eat breakfast how many way like everything has 500 choices so what does that mean that means that nobody knows they're just they're guessing today they're going to buy this next week they're going to buy something else no one's committed to anything that's with food needless to say with people people go to a place imagine everybody here was single looking for somebody you can't have your mind on any one particular person you're just looking at anyone that's going to pay attention to you but if somebody else that you know that's more attractive to you will pay attention to you all of a sudden you forget about this person Hey listen you very nice talking to you for two hours but I see she's winking at me hold on a second and all of a sudden you just abandon this girl because you care less it's just it's whoever's getting attention so there's no way that you could give the abat is the respect that she deserves the attention that she deserves and there's no way that the B is can make a legitimate choice that you are a decent human being when there's a bunch of beasts that are looking to eat her at the same time she's just trying to survive the poor girl you're trying to hunt and and everybody's trying to get something it's an unhealthy way to do things there's a much much more kosher way to do things it's one-on-one it's through a oldfashioned system and it works I know that people want to get married yesterday and and I I I'm all for people getting married as soon as possible but when we start cutting Corners eventually we end up with a with a different shape and that's unfortunately what's happening in in the world today is that everybody's like oh this is sh problem so let's bring the secular Club world into the religious world you know in the clubs what do they do we go to a club there's music there's boom boom boom there's drinking there's everybody's high and uh that's it that's the outcome so what are they doing oh let's just make everybody Jewish so that way at least it's a Mitzvah no no no this is this is turning Jewish women into prostitutes so you have to run away from stuff like that and it doesn't matter if there's any Rabbi that says okay there is no permission to do stuff like that it's you have to know that according to there's a certain way to do things and and it's there's no G that is said that these things are okay now of course I know there are certain people that are saying nothing about it and it's not because they agree it's because they're so uh sad from the amount of inter marriage that's out there that they figured you know what it's better that at least they end up with Jews then they end up with non-jews and that's really not the right logic it's a it's it's it's it's a it's a Mitzvah that comes in the way of sin he's the one that responsible for everybody to to find their Z and if a person works on themselves can send them the Z or the all the way to their front door you don't need to cut any corners for that and end up with a different shape it's a it's a I know it takes longer and it's but you don't need to help God you'll definitely uh do it in a in a better way and I think I think that uh eventually people realize that the amount of sins that come from those parties those events are not worth it I've already had at least a half a dozen cases of uh of girls that ended up getting raped as a result of these these shid parties or whatever it is these events the girls getting raped or they end up all types of horrible things that happen in nightclubs now if you talked to me 25 years ago and some girl cried that uh that somebody did something bad to her or some guy cried that somebody else did bad I it hey hey you signed up for it you went out at 1:00 in the morning you went out and took some uh drugs in the middle of the night you went out and looked for whatever you could find you signed up for it you sign up for that that's what you got don't tell me that oh it's not fair that somebody put something in my drink who goes out what normal person goes out at 3:00 in the morning what like what what what did you think was going to happen now that's in the secular world that's in the against the tah world the problem is when that arrives to our world to the Torah world you don't have the same the same uh thing to the what do the girl is not going for that the guy is not supposed to do that so when the when the rabbis or the leaders of the community are actually creating that then you have a corrupt system then you have a corrupt system that you have to find you have to run away from you have to run away from as far as possible uh and not fall into it because it's it's definitely not going to end up in any good yes next any so I have a a son that's into collecting cars and a daughter that's into sculpting things and I wanted to get to clarify a little more of the parameters of idolatry and Crea gra images uh if it's for if it's for Jews uh Jews are not allowed to have uh statues or sculptures of a full body of Person of a person or a full body of an eagle or a full lion or an ax like a bull those are the four uh Kings of creation that Hashem instituted in the world there's the king of the beasts the king of the uh uh uh birds and so on uh so these are the four images that are on the The Throne of Glory of God there's an image of Yakov ainu he represents all of mankind uh there is the image of an eagle there's an image of a bull there's an image of a lion so those three those four things not allowed to own them that's for Jews uh everything else a uh owl uh I don't know a parrot a lizard whatever other Statue is not really problematic some say that it's really uh it's forbidden to make a statue or sculpture of of a globe of Earth uh because some people you know in the old days would turn that into idolatry you look at the it says that you're not allowed to make the statue of a globe because there were people that would make a statue of a person holding a globe as if this person owns the world and runs the world so they said yeah but ran gel himself he teaches from the globe about the rotation of the moon so obviously he owns a globe he owns a moon so how could he do it he says no you're not allowed to make it but you're allowed to own own it so if she didn't make it yet don't make it if she made it she's allowed to keep it but that's again more there's more stringencies for the Jewish world uh of course it's forbidden to have a statue of anything that's an uh that's connected to idolatry anything that's connected to idolatry not that it's a symbol of idolatry that it was used for idolatry meaning there are religions that idolize everything so you can't say everything that's connected to idolatry in some way is idolatry like for example elephants or cows or uh or mice or rats or or or even uh you know feal matter human waste it are different things that certain religions you know pray to so that doesn't turn them into idolatry that's just people are stupid now if they if they actually pray to that thing or serve that thing then you can't use it but if you're just making I don't know let's say a a mouse a statue or a drawing of a mouse that's not a problem but if somebody prayed to it then it becomes a problem now when it comes to uh uh when it comes to non-jews there's more leniency there's much more leniency because they don't have an obligation as far as specific images they just have an obligation where they're not allowed to serve anything other than God so you're allowed to make whatever you want to make uh so long as you don't serve it you don't start turning it it to God uh same concept with anything else whether it's uh stamps cars baseball cards uh you know bikes whatever it is that people collect everybody has a collection I think the main thing that a person should uh uh always keep in mind is number one don't turn it into the purpose of your life because it's not whatever collection is whatever passion you have it's it's good it's good to have certain things you're excited about it's good to have hobbies it's good to have your you know even even even nonsense is good to a certain extent to for some people they need a little bit of nonsense in their life the younger they are the more nonsense they need the older they are the less nonsense that they need and they have less time to waste but you know to waste your time is necessary to a certain extent but don't turn the waste of time into your life like if somebody has a hobby of they like to watch nature shows they like to watch Eagles Fly and Hunt monkeys off of trees in Panama fantastic they they like uh watching you know octopuses hunt in the middle of the the deep ocean fantastic don't turn that into the focus of your life you want to spend 5 minutes a day 15 minutes a day doing it enjoy but don't turn that into your whole house and life is full of octopuses and and mice and and Eagles and that's what you that's what your whole purpose in the world is it's okay to to have some of these things uh but it's again it's to a certain extent same thing with cars there's nothing wrong with collecting cars nothing wrong with with fixing cars there's nothing wrong with driving cars there's nothing wrong with having a nice car but don't turn it into your life life you know it's it's it's good to do it you can make a living out of doing it it's a it's certainly a valuable profession it's there's no problem with it per se but there is a problem with anything that you turn into your God or you turn into your whole life meaning if unless it's learning Torah too much is bad and even you know meaning too much food food is good too much food no good intimacy necessary too much no good uh uh uh even drinking water drinking water is good too much you drown and die uh so so anything that's too much is no is no good so again you're allowed to do a lot but not don't make it everything don't make it every don't become fanatic about to the point where you lose your uh your uh uh your head uh but uh as far as her making sculptures it's it's certainly uh perfectly fine the the uh the cars is perfectly fine as long as it does not make them abandon the rest of their purpose in life if uh if they're still connected to to reality and it's no problem you need generally speaking you need something something to do you need something something to do to make a living in also and these are two things that could turn into a profession usually people that go into those professions are people that are passionate about it by nature meaning that they're not doing it just because they're making a living they're doing it because they're passionate about the profession so it's definitely a decent profession too yeah he El going once twice okay last one one quick one I'm sorry last one amen we were confused whether or not we can say Amen or not there know yeah am amen means amen means uh uh or in English amen means um it's an acronym it means the uh the god the king that's reliable that's trustworthy meaning whatever he said he will do he said he will reward you for good he will reward you he said he will punish you for bad he will punish you although he doesn't do it instantly he will do it eventually and a person that says amen is saying Amen to a certain blessing why bless you Hashem that you gave us such and such so in essence you're blessing Hashem that he's the one that commanded us to do this and because we're doing what he said he will give us the uh he's reliable to reward us for it at some other point so in essence that's the thing and and everybody's allowed to do it whether Jews Gentiles everybody can say Amen it's not a problem okay thank you very much by the way reminder for everybody uh the event in uh Israel is going to be next week we're going to try to have it uh online also uh live I'm not sure if we're going to succeed or not that's only in the hands of any of you that want to contribute for that event can any of you that want to sponsor USBS can we're going to do the raffle right now that I'm sure some people online are looking to uh to to see who's who's winning uh this raffle is going to have three winners three winners the uh these are the people that sponsored at least $1,000 worth of USBS uh and some of them chose to give out the USBs themselves and we mailed it to some of them some of them chose for us to give them out for them uh but either way each one of these people already won because they they have at least 1,000 USBS under their uh you know under their name now as far as the winners of the raffle the first place winner is going to be uh a person that uh is going to get a ticket of um to Israel if you are the winner in this room or online please contact me ASAP on WhatsApp with your information your date of birth and all the other details so we can buy you the flight ticket uh because you know the the event is a few days now so we don't have that much time uh so send me your information and uh we'll get you the uh ticket um and then um or we could work it out where you could just pretty much tell me you can fill out the information show it to me and I'll just send you the money whatever it works the uh the person uh first place winner gets a ticket to ER is you'll have to find a place to stay uh on your own I'm sure there's plenty of places that you could find probably not in yush you're probably going to have an easier time finding a a place uh in other uh uh cities uh but either way that's on you how long you stay that's also on you I don't really care how long you stay you can stay for a day you can stay for a year it's not not up to me second place is going to be a person that wins the um uh the Big T do we have the toit it's in here where ah there you go okay so we have three kinds of talot this is yeah I think I showed one in the lecture right yeah so these are cool they really nice they have they have three different ones one is blue one is small diamonds one is big diamonds long story short they're all very very beautiful uh so that's second place second place of the raffle wins the talit if you're one of them take one if you're not one of them you're you're somebody on online send me a message and we'll uh sent it to you uh to the house I actually think I wrote the names on the uh raffle tickets anyway so I'll know who you are and third place is going to be one of the cups that's also here okay so I'm not going to do the whole thing again all right so all right so let's see uh uhuh okay first place let's see what it is 0048 034 4 0048 034 okay this is actually Jonathan Jonathan I don't I don't think he think he's okay so Jonathan one Jonathan see you in Israel okay so Jonathan's first place winner uh Second Place let's see okay this is also a person that's not here uh I think I don't think so bad name 026 last name is hayun I don't think you guys okay so he is going to get the talit and third place see huh that's a uh you came here last week last time uh 027 the rabbi friend of mine where is he I think he's probably okay 00 48027 that's Rabbi B he was here last time with his son and friend uh they started Kila in Honduras so good addition to the Kila okay that's third place I did my best I uh either way whoever sponsoring the uh USBS is uh certainly going to be a winner because those things work have already gotten some good feedback from them of the people that um that uh bought them uh oh and anybody that wants to see a tickets that they don't trust me they think I see the tickets and that's it I'm going to be gone for a little while I don't know how I'm going to do shim over there English Hebrew all that stuff not really sure how long when why I'll try I'll obviously try to stay in touch to a certain extent um what I'm going to also try is to start answering more questions on the app again so there's going to be uh that's going to start being a little bit more active and uh we'll continue working we'll continue learning we'll continue teaching we'll try to get some extra Kusa and energy from is they uh they have a lot of plans for me over there that uh I don't know what they have already but it seems like it's going to be a lot of work not a vacation but thank you again everybody for coming thank you for the support and will continue to learn together for many many years [Applause] [Music] Shalom everybody very happy to announce a major event coming up in is this event is going to be unlike any other we've done as an organization last year we had a group of young guys that completed the entire sh and the Mish in a single year this year we're going to have the entire foundation of the oral T completed in a single night um dear and other of the organization and a single night we'll have the completion of the years and years of toil lots of effort is coming to fruition and uh in a single night all of it will be completed to sanctify kosh's name this is going to be a night where many manyik will be joining us at this event there'll be hundreds and hundreds of people at the event and is including the of course our own very dear I myself will also be joining coming to is for the first time in many years to join this Monumental event this Monumental K in order to sanctify name to show him how much we love his T how dedicated we are to his Tor and to be able to give in 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