For The Love of Yisrael - IGGERET HAGRA (35)

[Music] bem hasem We are continuing our series of the where the is teaching us one week after another uh in each one of his sentences uh about how to live what to live for how to deal with the uh difficult circumstances of the days that we live in today where there's terrorism in the streets anti-Semitism everywhere and uh of course uh lots of uh confusion uh and ignorance that's out there tonight is going to be for aavid and also for for and big mazalov for the new couple that's uh getting married uh tonight uh Yeshua Ben uh Baya [Music] and they have and build a uh also for the parents as well of course our dear friends and also for a um toat Julie Isa bat Mara Samuel Ben Mara sephos Ben Mara Alexander Ben Mara LS Ben Mara sha Ben faran Amir Ben shahin and all of is and all of the righteous noahides especially the ones that continue to work on themselves watching our sh continuing to serve a to the best of their abilities each day learning more doing more uh to get closer to as we're all obligated to do now of course the uh the G VNA uh did not skip a beat uh uh with with the letter that he wrote one one uh one rebuke after another to uh the people that he loveed the most as uh we learned from our sages that if you uh you know when you rebuke somebody uh that's only because you love them you're not rebuking them because you hate them uh rebuke that comes from hate is not uh is not rebuke but rather just simple animosity and disagreement but when you truly love somebody you are uh very happy to fulfill the mitzvah uh of that you must rebuke your people uh and of course when you do love when you do love uh you know the tah itself you're happy to receive a rebuke even though it's sometimes difficult to you uh and of course all of the shim that we do uh part of them is uh to rebuke ourselves part of them is to rebuke different students that are watching andem the uh event that we had last week uh you know those that uh came bem had a extraordinary experience I know I myself enjoyed it a lot meeting a lot of new faces bem that came from different parts of the country from California from uh New York from Pennsylvania uh from Far places in Florida people drove you know four hours uh each way just to come uh and and join us people came from Texas uh a lot of wonderful people that uh you know came got uh got a experience of a lifetime and those of you that missed it I I can't tell you that uh you'll you'll have the same event uh you know soon but we will have another event at some point after P but the same event will never be uh why because each event is of its own each event is has a life of its own and uh the people that are in the crowd uh you know throughout all of the years that I've done it always tell me I felt like you were talking to me and uh of course people that watch online also have the similar where they uh they get their own personal M and messages when they watch the shim especially if they're looking for the truth but there's nothing like seeing a sh live uh just because you're part of it it's uh it literally takes a life of its own so we had the uh great event success uh successful event last week uh a couple of things that to give you updates on the uh the campaign for Ping was a very big success we reached hundreds and hundreds of people uh helping many people literally put food on their table that they simply would have not had uh the situation in Israel is uh deteriorating by the day uh as uh quickly as the prices are uh getting higher and the heresy and stupidity by the uh Israeli government is uh you know Crossing all borders and all lines such as the difficulty of the poor Jews that are in is especially the ones that have the ones that are learning and doing everything possible and we had the Merit to uh once again uh help hundreds of uh people and uh the biggest campaign of the year uh the the P campaign is is upon us uh we uh haven't had the time to uh set up the campaign yet online as I always tell you these things take a lot of time and this time of the year is also tax season which uh takes a exorbitant amount of time uh to deal with but uh you know we uh we're getting phone calls and messages uh that are literally getting worse by the day especially with the new uh terrorism uh that uh that's upon us uh you know as we learned from our Sages you know that when a sadik leaves the uh the protection leaves with him uh just like we learned with when yob ab and yob each time they left uh especially uh uh uh you know during that time where there was a limited amount of righteousness in the world tragedy hit uh and of course we know that these are similar things happened in the world when big sikim leave us ra kvki throughout all of the years that uh he was learn to run nonstop in was protected uh you know whether it was sadin uh that literally targeted uh civilians with his uh with his missiles not a single missile touched B uh certainly uh you know due to the Merit of the sikim that are there needless to say also ra keski who promised in the name of the Tora that nothing will hurt the people of but unfortunately now that the sadik has left us and is now learning t with andov and ganeden that protection is uh is no more and we already see that since he passed there are several terrorist attacks uh that uh in Israel that we've never seen before simply uh you know the the terrorism of yesterday is old-fashioned is raising the end uh once again uh you know after bringing a incurable virus uh that uh you know caused a lot of uh hardship and difficulties for am Isel a lot of confusion a lot of heresy a lot of people going against the rabbis uh this Corona virus and all of its uh fruits that came out of it the rotten fruits that came from it uh not only caused uh physical death but also called caused a lot of spiritual death uh for people that went against rabbis that disagreed with them uh about how to deal with it and needless to say uh the uh the situation that uh didn't get any better with uh financially a lot of people lost their jobs a lot of people lost their uh you know main source of income in their businesses uh a lot of people suffered throughout the last couple of years and if uh that's not bad enough you also had a new uh government put into place run by Lefty liberal uh uh anti-t anti-semitic uh people uh that are running the Israeli government right now literally it's no different than having Haman himself as president uh the uh as calls him Liber ham Liber ham is a rash that hates the Tora and literally had campaign videos in Russian uh having the similar words and uh and and uh overall language in general uh that uh the uh the Nazis have uh only that he was catering to his uh you know to his Nazi followers many of them unfortunately from Ukrainian descent uh the very same Ukraine that uh are is at War right now and being punished by uh this is uh this is unfortunately uh you know not uh not as uh simple as people make it seem to be this is not a uh a happen stance Ukraine is not being punished for no reason uh of course this is not to say that we agree with uh terrorizing people and murdering people for no reason but again nothing happens for no reason as we've learned already time and time again runs the world with a set of rules that he even has for himself and uh most uh importantly is the reward and Punishment M rewarding the righteous and uh and punishing the wicked and of course's patience is unlimited and uh you know there are endless examples of when aadh would wait decades if not even centuries before he would punish a certain Nation a certain people uh for things that they've done uh you know individually there are times that he would let a wicked person do all of the bad things that they want to do for a period of time years even and then eventually bring the wrath of God on him that no one can help him from uh so as the rambam writes in a in and in other places that uh there are some severe punishments in the Torah but the worst possible punishment that a person can get is when a removes the the person's ability to do CH there is a slightly lesser horrible punishment of uh removing the the person's willpower to do ch uh but meaning that there's no help from sh for that person to do chuva but there's something that's completely worse that is uh literally unfixable which is removing the ability of a person to do chuva meaning that he doesn't want it uh this is a rare exception don't ask me if you are one of those people because if you're watching my shim if you're even thinking about Chua surely you're not getting that punishment even if it's very difficult for you to do chuva if you're even thinking about doing chuva then surely you're not getting that punishment but the point being is is there are certain people that a will allow them to do a lot of damage a lot of damage literally using them as the stick to hit his people because his people sinned many people like to complain uh about the uh the government and the uh the the Liberals and so on but as our own very dear ra frim said in the Shure this past week stop complaining about the Palestinians stop complaining about the the uh the Zionist government stop complaining about all of these weak people this is all a punishment because we haven't done chuva all of those people are simply sticks that Hashem are is using he could simply eliminate them tomorrow and replace them with sikim or he can simply continue to use them but complaining about those people as if that can change anything is not going to do anything we only mention it in shim simply to educate people that there's more than meets the eye there's more to to the world than what uh perhaps they're getting from their liberal media that's out there that's Picture Perfect uh and makes everything seem as if uh the the good guys are winning the bad guys are losing uh and uh it's not exactly all that so the point is is that you have a situation where Kosh is upping the ENT we have a horrible situation going on right now where in the recent years the uh the uh the Arab terrorist would uh instill so much fear on the uh on the people in Israel that they could literally walk into a store or or or be in the middle of the street with a uh disposable knife with a uh with a butter knife and literally kill people because everyone is so scared fulfilling the curse in that there is a fear that hasem puts on the Jewish people that could make even a thousand of them not be able to handle a single terrorist so it's not because of power but rather because of a certain punishment from shamim to make them fear and even have a government as stupid as the one that we have right now that tells the uh you know the the soldiers that are supposed to protect the people that uh when they shoot the terrorist the ter the very same terrorist that killed people they'll actually go to jail so now instilling fear even on the protection so you can't rely on the government you can't rely on the IDF you can't rely on the police force you literally cannot rely on anything uh other than and of course when you have the majority of people not observant in in it's very hard for them to get their head around this so now that hasem up the anti even more and the terrorists are now walking around the middle of the street driving in uh in in motorcycle riding motorcycles and cars with automatic weapons sticking out of the uh the uh the windows and the motorcycles and literally shooting everybody in sight like a movie like a video game and just killing whoever they can it's literally just by the kindness of hasem that they didn't kill a few hundred people rather than you know instead of just a few a few people uh it's it's literally the kindness of Hashem the amount of damage that they wanted to cause over the last couple of attacks in in B inad uh all of these things that are happening literally they're walking around with automatic weapons that if would simply allow the world to run without his protection on it you could literally have hundreds of bodies shalom shalom hundreds of bodies piled up and no one even knowing what to do because even again like I said the protection is scared for their own uh lives uh but not from the they're not scared from the terrorists they're scared of the bigger terrorist which is the government itself so a scared Soldier is a Dead Soldier and unfortunately this is what we have in the world today uh and uh this is a showing us that it's up to us it's up to us to love is more than they love themselves it's up to us to do more for than what they think is even capable it's possible there are many people that are struggling struggling financially right now because all of the things that are happening now in Israel are not all of what what's going on obviously we also have the 53 billion shekels that the Israeli government is giving to the Palestinian terrorists this 53 billion will surely is going to allow them to uh you know uh increase their weapons perhaps that's how they're getting their automatic weapons now uh I know that somebody asked me oh can you quote a source for where the 53 billion shekele is saying cuz I think you're just making it up like I have nothing better to do go look at the news if you want to waste your time it's public it's public news that that's what's happening of course people have a much easier time going uh and and and asking me for sources and and looking for mistakes because Shalom that you can touch their uh their uh their horse their favorite horse that is their fake reality now again the uh important thing to know is that the situation is is as bad as it is it's not a lost cause does not put us in a test that we cannot handle he doesn't give us a test that we can't handle but again the uh when you look at the lives of people and how they live especially people in Western Society especially people that are not living in is and how they justify their actions you see see that perhaps perhaps we're not doing enough perhaps the the the energy the resources that we are exerting is not necessarily going to the right places because when you look at the world of yes the world of Tor the world of aim the world of kiru with the amount of money that people have made forget about how much they have just simply the amount of money that people have made and I'm not talking about people have made like the billionaires of the world I'm talking talking about the common people that had a few dollars that they invested in Bitcoin had a few dollars invested into real estate had a few dollars invested into businesses or into the stock market over the last five five or 10 years literally you have endless amount of people that have made a fortune a fortune uh you know both relatively and uh you know uh in comparison to historically uh over the last several years so much so that just from the m just from the M of the prophets that people have made you could literally fund all of the world of yes all of the all of the C operations that are necessary to literally make all of do but unfortunately that's not happening the amount of people that give M and I know it's not just for us as an organization but just generally overall the amount of people that give M that give 10% of their income towards Torah is not increasing very much if anything in some cases it's decreasing people are so obnoxious and so uh uh uh just uh warped in their mindset that you even have people uh take money that they were supposed to give inaka and instead use it for other things and now unfortunately some people that have such a such a for money that even after they do a the doesn't leave them alone and they fall for it like we had uh several times happen even recently somebody that uh donated on behalf of themselves and their family almost $3,000 to help us uh uh feed the poor people for the campaign in Pim now of course this is very nice thank you very much uh you know but uh it's thank you very much if you actually uh continue with this process with uh but not dispute the uh transaction after we've already spent the money and unfortunately that's what happens sometimes people donate money and then they dispute the transaction meaning that not only did you lose out on the Mitzvah but now it's turned into a sin because now you've actually stolen money because we've lost money because of you now we don't spend much effort chasing these people around we send usually send them a single message to see if this is a mistake or this is intentional if they respond uh usually it's because it's a mistake if they don't respond it's because it's intentional simply because they care less they're too self-centered too uh uh too uh uh ignorant of the consequence of their actions and there's not much for us to do but again is the one that runs the world so we're not going to skip any any nights of sleep because of it it's just tells us how bad the situation is with some people where you have certain people that literally will send you 10 questions a week you know a few hundred questions during the year and then when you do the annual report you see that this person donated $18 now again if this person was so poor that uh they can't donate more than $18 how could they afford all this Internet access for the hundreds of questions you know some people say listen Rabbi I binge on your sh I watch at least one or two a day and then you look at the annual report and you see this one or two videos a day that this person is using to change their life hasn't woken up their bank account because they only donated $50 for the whole year and again I'm not talking about poor people there are literally very few poor people in Western Society uh the and and in the reality is sometimes you'll see people from India people from uh you know a different parts of of the Philippines people from Malaysia uh that literally donate more money than people that make thousand 2,000 5,000 more uh uh money that they make you have some wonderful people some Jews some righteous noahides that do whatever they can to send you that $100 every month or $200 or whatever it is or $50 and then when you added all up you see these wonderful people actually got themselves a spiritual bank account at the end of the year of a th000 $2,000 if they donated but the other people that binge on your shim that supposedly Chang their life they what do they give you they give you $100 for the year or $18 some miserable sum that really shows you that the shim are not really doing much for them there's something wrong here there's something wrong when people are cancelling their $50 a month commitment and it's not because financially they're doing uh bad there's something wrong when somebody donates $2 or $3,000 and then disputes the transaction and as I said this is not the first time this has happened there's something wrong when the world of yes the world of kiru the world of K is struggling so much that we can't grow as fast as we should be able to there's something wrong when a has to wake us up in the morning with terrorism there's something wrong when you have grown men and women calling sending messages even sending short videos of them and their kids crying hysterically showing you their refrigerator empty of everything but a little uh slice of butter literally this this is like the Holocaust this is what we're dealing with we're dealing with a circumstance where you have poverty on one end by some of the greatest people on planet Earth and then on the other hand the people that have the money simply don't feel the need there's something wrong with that there's something wrong with what's going on now of course with our small shoulders we can't fix everything but we can fix ourselves we can push ourselves that's what we can do we can't Inspire everyone to the point where everyone decides that oh I'm going to do it this time you can't some people will be inspired some people will not some people will continue to pretend like they're sadik some people will face facts and realize there's a lot of work to do some people will continue getting better as they already have been in the path of getting better turning from you you know formerly being drug addicts prostitutes drunks uh uh you know Heretics and all types of disasters and now beautiful amazing righteous people that are growing and learning Torah some people will continue growing continue growing into the amazing people that I saw at the event and that I talk to every day some people will continue bringing more beautiful n into the world where their priority is to learn T is to Dov is to follow the will of hasm no matter what anybody else says and some people will simply wither into nothing where you have people that literally have millions of dollars millions of dollars where they could build a Torah Empire with it but they're too stingy to even get uh donate $100 or $500 literally it's not something that you don't cry about the fact that they don't give it to you because of course you know that everything is from Hashem if you were supposed to get it you would get it nobody in the world can take the food that's on your table that belongs to you whatever decided for you is you're going to get but what you cry for is to see that your brothers and sisters are sometimes at such a dismal situation that they don't even realize where they stand they don't realize that the kipa the the spiritual layer on top of their Nish that's comprised of sins is so thick they can no longer see the difference between right and wrong they decide that they know better than the sages they know better than mosenu they know better than radya they know better than the rambam and all of the greatest people that ever lived in history that toiled and toiled over Torah because they watched a YouTube video that perhaps doesn't make sense to them and it literally you see people throw their lives into nothing and one of the worst things in the world is when you see the outcome of this stuff where the organization has grown tremendously over the last several years we've been giving lectures for many years we've been helping people for many years helping people in a lot of different ways and of course along the way you meet some really really amazing people and once in a while you meet people that are not exactly in such great shape not exactly such amazing people and I remember just a few years ago maybe four years ago or so those are a fellow that I met and this fellow told me that he has a ton of money and for whatever reason or another he uh felt that this is something that I care about and he told me about how he has a fancy car and a very big house and a very big company and a very big this and a lot of things and yeah I liked your Wall Street story and I think the same thing was happening to me but I already changed I already decided that I'm not going to work on a Sabbath anymore and uh I decided that I'm going to uh you know start learning and okay great so what can I help you with well listen I thought maybe we could uh talk and uh and maybe you could teach me I said I'm sorry I don't give private lessons but if you uh want to watch my videos by all means you're welcome well Rabbi why don't you just move to uh to my community and I asked him about his community I told him well is there a synagogue there or anything he goes no no you could start one I said okay are you going to buy the building he said no I'm not I'm not going to buy the building but you know I'll help with the rent oh so you want me to pick up my whole family and just decide to go move to the middle of nowhere just so you could have a personal shoe and it didn't make any sense but nonetheless one of the things that I noticed is that you know four years or so have passed and uh this fell this fellow uh you know you know was in and out of touch from time to time and then uh he decides to get in touch and uh I for whatever reason I had this thinking wait I remember this guy I I spoke to him four years ago and and and nothing has changed actually he's gotten worse look what he could have done with that 50 or100 million that he had he could have literally had a 100% of all of the growth that has had he literally could have had tens of thousands of in his spiritual portfolio he could have had a Yeshiva Empire he could have helped literally 50,000 people eat over the last few years he could have been part of any of it and what is he a part of nothing zero nothing has changed he's still a miserable still nothing but at least you got your money and that's the saddest thing in the world when you see people that have the tools have the tools but don't know how to use them and unfortunately this is not just talking to the people that are secular this is not just talking to the people that are newly religious this is not just talking to them this is also talking to the religious ones Among Us the ones that think that they're already perfect and they don't necessarily need to change very much and sometimes even the ones that watch our shim on a regular basis but have hit some type of neutral plateau and they stopped growing or even realizing that they need to grow stop reflecting but instead only focused on projecting they figure that everything that I say in a shield has to do with the guy or the girl behind them maybe on the side maybe somebody else that's watching while for them it's pure entertainment intellectual stimulation at best but to change to improve no no that's not for me I'm already doing the best that I can Rabbi and the saddest thing in the world is to see people spend so much time becoming the internet police the internet police I had to rebuke one of my students in a nice way today just literally telling him just a few words that I hope he got the message and I think he's smart enough to get it where you know every once in a while he sends me these messages oh this rabbi did this and that website wrote this and they're doing wrong here and they're wrong there and I'm just thinking of myself I don't have time to read all of these mess I have hundreds and hundreds of messages and most of them are real problems and but of course you have some people send these messages and they figure that anything that's wrong out there just go bring it to me and I'll make a whole she about it and have the headaches to go along with it and really after I looked at this guy and I know that this guy learns to he learns tah he's not a fool he's not a ignoramus he learns toah but then I see what's going on I looked at the last several messages and I started noticing a pattern here what's the pattern pattern is you're spending too much time on the internet that's the pattern you're you're spending too much time on the internet the internet is a place for you to go learn T don't spend any time any time whatsoever investigating the wicked people of the world and being the internet police and going on fighting campaigns with comments back and forth of who's heretic and who's not that is not going to help anyone especially you but unfortunately when a person forgets the purpose of why we're here in the first place they figured that you know what I'm already doing enough because some of the things that are mentioned in the about G where people that violate shabat and waste seed and they steal they don't they don't relate to me I don't violate Shabbat I don't waste seed anymore and I don't steal and I don't wear a wig so since none of this stuff relates to me perhaps I'm good enough perhaps I'm good enough so what happens they start coasting they start relaxing and they start falling without even realizing it literally going into a spiritual death without even realizing it and unfortunately many times when you want to measure people as far as where they stand spiritually just look at where is directing theira money to whether they're even giving whether they have in their money whether they're able to get from the Tora that are actual koser or you see these people literally three four five seven years same exact thing they started they did a couple of big things but then after that I'm enough anytime you see yourself not growing and not fighting for growth you are declining it's not that you're the same you're declining because a Jew only goes up or down never stays the same and that's one of the things that we see from these sages no matter who they were whether it was the G me Vila or is or is anybody else that's out there when they talk M they're talking to themselves they're rebuking themselves and literally you see people that they're 80 years old full of Torah full of Kus but still fighting to get better still fighting to maintain everything still fighting to serve a to the fullest and that's what we see with this letter this letter is one of those things where you could read it a million times and still go more get more insights from it same thing like all of the other letters that we've reviewed in the past or the the by or all of the rest of the Tora is something that you could learn and toil and toil and toil over it and always get something new unfortunately when a person allows themselves to get some good stuff but he mixes it with some then you could ruin everything and it's no uh it's no secret that we all have a mitvah that's coming up over the next couple of weeks before PES where before PES Begins the night before on the 14th we all have to go look and destroy the Kitz and there's a reason for that look and destroy the that's the mitvah the Mitzvah is to go look and destroy the not look and maybe eat the look and if you don't find anything then no big deal no no look and Destroy theit that's the actual Mitzvah why doesn't it say look and find theit why doesn't it say look for and that's it you know if you find find something good if you don't find something no good why because anyone that's looking for like they're supposed to will surely find some anyone that's looking for the right way will surely find some and that's the physical needless to say the spiritual says anytime a person has difficulties and who doesn't have difficulties he should already review his own actions where do I stand where's my Torah where's my where's my where's my where's my where's my where is my where is my honor to my spouse where is my honor to my uh dear friends where are all of my where do I stand with everything if you're getting into a fight with your spouse on a regular basis if you're not liking to give if you're not enjoying your prayer if you don't like to study and in fact you don't even find yourself studying at all to if you are finding yourself more inclined to do the things that the go do play sports watch them watch the Oscars uh read the news if you find yourself doing things like that you should know you have a very serious spiritual disease and the longer you let it go the worst it becomes if you find yourself not able to givea that's not because of financial circumstance that's because of spiritual circumstance because surely there are people that make less than you and yet give more than you how can they do it it's not because they manage their money better it's because they manage their better and that's one of the things that a person never really thinks about many times a person gives a lot but he gives to the wrong places never thinking what is it the right place is it the wrong place the reality is AB if a person wants to check their spiritual status check where where do you stand with all of these things I just mentioned what kind of fruits are you getting out of the things that you're getting are you getting new are you helping people do you are you are you growing spiritually do you see your kids getting closer to hem are you able to overcome the difficulties spiritually that are around you are you able to cope with the problem psychologically by using the Torah or are you always using the the the Gentiles that are self-help gurus instead as if there's no wise men among us if a person actually delves into the that's inside him or her surely they will find it and the mitvah is to destroy it it's not the mitvah is not just find the MIT is not just find and don't do anything about it the mitvah is find and destroy why because if you're looking surely you will find and your obligation is to already be ready to destroy it before you even found it before you even found it and that's one of the things that we have to do as as a person each and every single day now the G VNA has been telling us time and time again how important it is to learn M how important it is to uh to to teach it to our kids now he's talking to his son-in-law who is a a person that's learning Tor on a regular basis not just doing it on the side but making it his vocation making it his vocation taking the blessing the blessing of making Torah your life now sure learning Torah full-time is not for everybody it's not for everybody if you have the ability to do it surely you should do it if you don't have you still could learn two four six hours a day I mean you don't need to think that just because learning T like is not something that you can do that means that you're absolved from learning it more than just watching the occasional sh every person can learn for a few hours a day every person now if you're just starting out this is the first year that you're ever watching or the first year that you're watching in a long time this is not this 2 three four five 6 hours is not something that most of you are able to start with typically 15 30 minutes is what somebody can start with and that's fine too that's how I started 15 minutes a day but every day no exceptions no uh nothing you have to make it like breathing you breathe every day you eat every day you drink every day you have to learn tah every day you have to feed in a every day and that's going to help you do more MIT and that's going to help you serve hem even better and want it more but if a person learns a lot one day but nothing for several days it's as if he did nothing so a person needs to know that you have to constantly grow in toah but the the the further you grow the more difficult it becomes why because now you start realizing that that that Divine assistance you had from Heaven okay that helped you in the beginning where you were able to sit down or stand up for two four six hours straight and get all types of amazing new insights you felt certain ways you saw certain things you you you you were able to uh to literally feel what you were learning during the first one or two years all of a sudden it's much more difficult all of a sudden it's hard for you to get even an hour in all of a sudden it's hard for you to even understand what's going on don't think that the you have to give up for a second don't think that you've gone down but rather you've gone up why gave you special training wheels in the beginning to get you going now he wants to move you up he wants to move you up but he has to test you so now you have to fight for the to you have to literally steal hours steal minutes from everywhere you can you have to be very particular about your schedule very uh uh uh um committed to it because if you are committed to it you will eventually succeed much more than you did before but again the says that despite the amount of Torah that you've learned in your past your AEM your aod of theid your servitude of hem and your constant self introspection has to continue at any stage of your life thereby he talks to his son-in-law who's a and he tells them things that are simple to learn Torah for the sake of Heaven to make sure to uh to teach T but also to make sure to learn and teach that is in essence the uh the the tractate of the mishna that is the teachings the moral teachings of our sages of our forefathers that a person that reviews it and delves into it realizes that the wisdom in it is in itself never ending this is the reason why and you know many of the literally I can't think of anyone who has it many of the have have writings some have been public some are private but nonetheless many of the have writings on have their commentary on it and all of them are different all of them are getting different teachings where there's literally endless endless wisdom on because this is moral teachings so the is telling this that's his son-in-law make sure to learn yeah but what you probably learned it already at least a dozen times why does he have to learn it again because each time you'll see more you'll find more inside yourself you you'll find more in society you'll find more reasons to serve hem you'll find more reasons that you're able to uh run away from uh more ways to run away from the the evil inclination but that in itself is not enough why working on yourself means that you have to constantly measure your relationships which relationships do you have to measure first and foremost you have to measure your relationship between you and Hashem you and Hashem many people say no me and Hashem we're like this oh really so uh you learn to every day what 5 10 15 hours how many hour no no you know I get uh I watch a sh here and there oh so wait so hashem's instruction said hashem's love letter is the Torah and you're saying you're glued to hasem but the Torah The Love Letter only once in a while you get to it that's what you're saying okay next question so you know your servitude of hasem is that helping you uh keep Shabbat well you know I'm not quite uh there I just don't work on Shabbat wait so what do you do if you don't work on Shabbat why can't you have k why can't you have a uh go to synagogue why can't you uh stop uh working you know stop playing with your phone why oh you know I'm bored I'm single or I'm newly married or the kids want to play and you know I don't want them to cry so I take him to uh you know somewhere every time wait but you just said that you're glued to Hashem how are you glued to Hashem if you're desecrating a Shabbat how how exactly does that work and people live a diluted reality thinking that they are close to hem when in Realties in reality calls these people as haters people that do not observe T MIT that people are called hashem's haters hm's enemies uh this is a uh not mentioned just once or twice in the by the sages but it's actually mentioned in the Torah itself look at uh the book of Deuteronomy who says that he will pay cash to his haters to their face and who are these haters these haters are the people that do not observe but a person can say no no he's perfectly fine with hasem and sometimes it seems like he is you see him in synagogue you see him learning here and there you may even see him say so you have to go to test number two test number two is how are you when it comes to your your am how are you when it comes to am is do you care about am is are you are you making sure that you uh you show your love for yeah I get along with everybody I didn't ask you if you get along with everybody do you show your love for do you know what that even means to show your love to well you know I get along with everybody it's not loving am is no that just means that you don't get into any fist fites to love am is means that you care for their well-being no less than you care for your well-being so that means you have two parts of well-being you have the spiritual well-being and you have the physical well-being when it comes to the spiritual well-being did you make sure that your portfolio in you know for for helping am get closer to hasem spiritually is growing as rapidly as your financial portfolio you know your Bitcoins your stocks your real estate your businesses your cars your watch collection all the stuff that you want all the stuff that you already have all the stuff that you forgot about all that stuff continues to grow you to accumulate more stuff Amazon keep shipping more boxes to your house different dealers keep calling you every day because then you're a good customer everybody gets excited when you walk into the mall you know so your stuff portfolio continues to go up your broker your financial manager your insurance advisor all of those people they depend on you to uh to uh have an addition to their uh to their uh vacation house each year they make enough money from you so surely your portfolio is growing you're growing your 401k is growing your IRA is growing your stock is everything is growing is your spiritual portfolio growing also and I don't mean you learning toah I mean helping am learn toah helping am get closer to hasem Do You Love by caring enough about their well-being because if that portfolio is non-existent or virtually non-existent in comparison to the rest that perhaps you don't love Amel as much as you think no but RAB I gave St you know I helped a few poor people last year I gave uh okay so let's check the physical portfolio now your PES last year how much did it cost you two three four five $110,000 uh yeah it cost me probably I don't know probably we went away last year so yeah you know what Raba yeah by the end of it probably costs about 20 25,000 oh so you took the whole family on some vacation that everybody said it's kosher food over there yeah 20 25,000 that's pretty good deal okay so now 25,000 you spent on your PES right and you're just one family did you at least consider that maybe you should spend at least as much at least as much on helping am P but not help one family 25,000 could help a lot more than one family did you think think perhaps your one Family Expense should be somewhat similar to the expense you spend on am did you think about that well perhaps maybe that's too much for you what about 10% you spent 25,000 did you think maybe you should you know help am is with 2500 dollars not rupees because then we're not going to get anywhere did you think about that just like the same currency you to pay for the vacation perhaps use the same currency to help am is eat did you think about that well you know I helped that guy that's downstairs from my office you know I give him like 50 bucks here and there exactly you see everybody gives something and that's how the yet gets you he gets you to give stuff and he gets you to give so often and he gets you to give to the wrong places just to satiate that hunger in the wrong way it's like junk food it's like you eat you order Chinese food make sure it's kosher you order it you get a plate literally the plate looks like it has enough food for 50 people but it's only for you you got the line you got the uh the the rice you got the uh the the Mongolian chicken the the this chicken the spicy chicken it all tastes the same but they call it different names and you have a plate literally it's bigger than your stomach and you consume it as fast as you can because it's so sugary and so delicious and you're figure oh I'm good for the night not a half hour later passes and you're already hungry you're like whoa how could it be how do we have any leftovers from the Chinese food how you just ate enough for five people how that's the reality reality is it's a you know it's it's it's it's it's false news over there it's fake news what you're never going to get sated over the Chinese food just like your Nish is never going to truly get satiated off off of these fake all of these people that donated zillions of dollars to Ukraine literally they have to pray just as much about theira that they gave as they do on helping the people why because the reality is first and foremost they mentioned the other sh who knows if it's even going to get to the right place who knows if it's going to get to the right place with all the crime over there with all the corruption with all the problems that are over there with the Corruptions and it Stocker world and so on that's number one number two who knows if that money is going to save the right people do you know how many Nazi ukrainians there are that are actually entering right now and are being protected by the court they want to allow another million or more Nazis into Israel just like they did in the past they allowed a million Russians into Israel under the premise that they're all Jews only to find out that only 4% of the million ion Russians that entered are actually Jews literally they allowed almost a million people to enter is as Jews even though they're not Jews and now people are donating zillions of dollars literally tens of millions of dollars to help the ukrainians okay fine you want to help the ukrainians do you understand that you may be helping the next guy that's going to be like this Liber ham you could be helping a guy that could be a heretic that's going to publish another God needs you book that's a full of heresy do you understand that you have to pray for youra to bear fruit people send money because it touches their heart but that's not the way to invest that's not the you don't invest with your heart I was in investment business for almost 20 years I can assure you people that invested with their heart didn't end up so well why you don't invest with your heart you had to invest with your mind you have to see where do I need to spend my money where do I need to invest my money needless to say you're stuck because that's the only money you truly have the only money you truly have is staka money but if your staka money is funding Nazis it's funding liberals it's funding anti-t mentalities and you think it's a Mitzvah you have a surprise waiting for you and that's one of the things that a person usually doesn't think about they figure that if I gave 5,000 here $2,000 there $50 there $20 there I'm good but when you really do a portfolio analysis as we call it doesn't work out so well doesn't work out doesn't look so good sir I think you have to re-evaluate I think you have to restructure the whole thing why it sucks in English that's what happens that's what happens when we evaluate where we go where we invest so when we analyze our love for am we see that their spiritual status eh their physical status eh we don't care so much about them as much as we thought we do because we're not necessarily investing as much time and energy to analyze where what we're doing how much we're doing if it's appropriate if it's not if it's the right place if it's not many times people donate based on either emotional uh uh video that they don't even understand what it says or they invest based on who's the best salesman who is the one that's going to you know kiss up to them the most amount of time call them the most amount of time and make them feel good about their wealth the most amount of time that's the wrong approach remember your spiritual portfolio is comprised of dollars that you invest into good things and bad things not just good things good things and bad things and if you have a lot of bad stuff that you funded you'll get punished for every single penny why that's just the way the world works that's how runs the world so now a person analyze their relationship with a and they say perhaps I have some work to do you analyze the relationship you have as far as loving am you realize perhaps I have some work to do then you have to analyze the third part your immediate circle meaning your wife your husband your children your Rabbi your community how's your relationship with them oh no it's perfect is it perfect just from your perspective but your wife cries every night herself to sleep because you're such a miserable cheap stingy you know good for nothing person like it's perfect by according to who who is a perfect by are you analyzing it from your perspective or from their perspective is is is is it per perfect from your perspective because you have everything you want but yet your husband has to work three jobs just to pay for everything you want that's why you think it's perfect is it perfect because you think that oh no everything is good my kids are going to the uh the school and everything is good okay it's perfect from your perspective because you send your kids to school and you only see them once a year but your kids could be cracking out and you wouldn't even know because you haven't even called them in a few weeks is it's perfect because you're able to hang out with your girlfriends every day and have coffee because your kids are out of your hair why is it perfect from whose perspective is it perfect sometimes you have kids literally crying to their parents for attention and when their parents don't pay attention you know what they do they become bad kids they figure my dad my mom didn't give me any attention when I was looking for attention so you know what the only time to give me attention when I started breaking stuff when I started destroying stuff when I started doing bad things that's when they paid attention to me when I ended up in the hospital they paid attention to me when I ended up doing stupid things they paid attention to me so the kid starts doing it and then sometimes you talk to the parent you tell them listen why don't you uh spend some more time with the kid and perhaps see where where where is all of this leading because it seems like your kid is crying for attention if your kid's 12 13 years old and says think I'm homosexual that's a kid crying for attention it's not a kid that's really homosexual it's a kid that's crying for attention it's a kid that's crying for re-education yeah but I'm busy working then stop working or simply don't have kids you have to understand that sometimes you have to take charge and make a sacrifice for the better good you have to save this kid and don't be the one no no I'll just call the rabbi and he'll fix it doesn't work that way there is a you have a responsibility you have to fix certain things you have to work on certain things and you have to evaluate things not just from your perspective but from the world around you's perspective sometimes you have these guys that live a diluted reality they think that everything is perfect because they have a uh they have a house they have food they have uh you know their their job they they learn a little bit everything is good but in reality the family is miserable the family is miserable the wife is depressed the kids are high all these different things they don't happen for nothing you have to evaluate things from everybody else's perspective to see what can I do what can I do sometimes all you can do is just put out fires until things are under control and then you can start building them sometimes there is a little bit of calm time that's a time to build sometimes people are already doing good and then you could simply just watch them go and guide them from time to time and then do some other things but you have to understand that you can't just look at things from your own perspective it's not going to work it's not going to work and a person that does some self- accounting will always find something to work on we'll always find something to work on this is why it fascinates me how people have any time to spend on the internet how do you have time to spend on the internet there are so many things to do if you evaluate your relationship with hasem the right way that already eliminates all the time that exists in the world if you actually evaluate the right way now let's say we're not we're not able to do all that okay so we evaluate it somewhat then you evaluate your relationship with your own family your own Circle your community your Rabbi your your your spiritual account where do you stand already that takes up half the day if you evaluate your relationship against am where do you stand do you care do you not care are you contributing are you one of these leeches that only takes takes takes where you see some people literally all they want to do is take they cannot contribute anything to anyone why these are sick people sick people don't get mad at them they're sick unfortunately you hope that they do cha you help you hope that these people wake up one day and realize it's not just the world around you it's also you you have to work on but nonetheless you have situations you have circumstances where you have people that don't pay attention to anything and you can have their whole lives going to the garbage without them even realizing or better yet they know it's a problem but it's too painful them for them to fix it so they simply decide to live with it this is usually the most common people are aware of their issues but they simply are not willing to deal with the pain they don't want to work on it they don't want to fix it they figure listen as long as I have the basics that I need H who needs to deal with this pain this is unfortunately a bad decision that many people make and again you don't have to deal with everything at all times but if you have enough time to waste on the Internet to read the news to read the comments to go back and forth with people to make friends on the internet how do you have time to make friends on the internet you have a family you have kids you have a husband you have a wife you have a job you have stuff to do how do you have time for all this stuff who has time for all of this stuff if if I could ask for anything from other than please have mercy on me and allow me to ENT gedin one day the only thing I could ask is literally give me some more time so maybe have a chance to anen I mean I don't understand how people have all this time they make friends and they go to bars and they go have a drink oh and what did you do this weekend how do you have time for these conversations who has time for this stuff we didn't come to this world to have coffee and cake we came to this world to work and unless you take your life seriously no one else will no one else will this is what the G is telling his son-in-law now if you think this is exaggeration let's just read the words after telling them to learn M after tell him to learn M after telling him to learn Torah for the sake of Heaven meaning don't expect anything in return learn t for the sake of learning T and fulfilling the the word of hem that's it don't ask for reward don't ask for anything learn t for the sake of learning Torah that's it after telling him to do that after tell him to learn M he still has to remind them my dear son-in-law I have to remind you what does you have to remind you you should honor your mother-in-law meaning the G's wife and honor your children's grandmother who is the the G V's uh uh mother you should greatly honor them with regard to everyone conduct yourself with politeness gentleness and respect I don't know understand he's not talking to some gangster that's trying to do chuva he's talking to a he's talking to a his son-in-law somebody he knows and he's telling him things that you're supposed to tell yourself things that you're supposed to tell your children things that you're supposed to tell people that are perhaps don't know this but he's telling them the same thing he's reminding them of what's the obvious because as the says in his preface in the uh introduction to I'm only here to remind you of the things you already know but in reality we don't know any of it and everything is a k but nonetheless he says I'm only here to remind you of all these things why remind you because the things that we already know typically we don't pay attention to them we don't pay attention to them ask any person on the world any person Jew or Gentile young or old are you supposed to honor your parents they tell you of course follow-up question do you honor your parents uh yeah well you know what do you mean by Honor what do you mean what I mean by why is it why is it a trick question simple what do you know you're supposed to honor your parents everyone will answer yes again assuming normal conditions not uh parents that are sociopath and that torture their kids I'm talking about normal circumstance normal circumstance you ask any normal person do you honor your parents are you supposed to honor your parents everyone will answer yes any religion any part of the world do you honor your parents all of a sudden you get people to get confused why what do you mean by Honor what you just said that you should which means that you already have a definition of it do you do it well you know I try and know you know well do you want your kids to honor you as much as you honor your parents and all of a sudden you get people thinking and that's a good thing because when we think usually we can get to good places it's when we don't think that we're already doomed so here the G is reminding his son-in-law the of the obvious in order to get us thinking are we actually doing it but he's not even saying honor me because he's not going to be there so what honor do I need he's saying honor my wife who is your mother and law honor my mother who is the grandmother of your kids and also make sure to conduct yourself with politeness gentleness and respect with everybody else now these basic things if you don't work on them surely you are failing miserably in all of them why as much as they make common sense they do not come to us naturally they don't come to us naturally now the midash says that a person has to honor his father-in-law as much as he honors his father now even though the in 240 also says that a person has to honor his father-in-law he doesn't say like he has to honor his father nonetheless you have an obligation to honor your your in-laws again assuming normal circumstances those of you and it's not many but those of you that I've told you to move as far away from your in-laws as humanly possible this does not include you because your circumstance was unique you have psychopath for In-laws I'm sorry that's a reality you have psychopath for in-laws run away you have normal in-laws that are decent people that want to help you serve AEM that uh that don't intrude on your life don't feel like they have a uh you know a uh your house is a is a bus stop they can walk into whenever they want you know they give you your respect they give you your space they're not looking to manage your marriage they're not looking to fly in unexpectedly for a 3 week vacation they're not looking to decide what you're going to feed your kids and where you going to send them to school you have normal in-laws they want to be part of your life they love you they try to help you if possible they're one of those people that's good you have to honor them good people honor them obligated to honor them even but the mid says even honor them as much as you honor your parents now again is not as much as your parents but nonetheless everyone agrees is how we say in the everyone agrees you have to honor your inlaws everyone agrees where do they get it from they get it from the where did say it the book of 1 chapter 24 had the worst relationship on planet Earth with his father-in-law who was his father-in-law Sha Sha gave his daughter mik to M was a and mik made a mistake where one time she saw David dancing in honor of the Torah it's not C for uh for for a king to dance like a fool like you dance for the Tora like this of course it's all the in the world to dance like this agreed with and he punished M she never had kids but nonetheless she was a righteous woman her father was one of the most righteous people in the world so much so that the tanak says that when sha became a king he was like a one-year-old now of course the Christian Heretics say oh look there's a country contradiction here look it says that he's one years old he's really not one years old no it's like a one-year-old meaning that he was sinless he was sinless we don't read a Tanakh like you read a Harry Potter book you have to understand what you're reading but nonetheless sha was a righteous King a sadik the first official king of is but he had literally the entered him and made him think that deid his son-in-law is there to kill him he's there to steal the king good from him and ended up chasing for years trying to kill David so the book of in chapter 24 says about something that happened despite the fact that sha tried to King David and chase him up and low right and left in the mountains in the caves he chased from everywhere just to find to kill him David had an opportunity to kill sha he had an opportunity sha was sleeping everybody was sleeping D came close to sha took his sword and ripped the corner of his tiit and then left the camp as soon as they woke up D called out to sha and said please sir in verse n now verse uh 12 verse 12 says please sir take a look at the corner of your cloak meaning your tiit it's in my hand for when I cut off the corner of your cloak I did not kill you you must see plainly that I have done nothing evil or rebellious and I have never wronged you yet you are bent on taking my life may the lord judge between you and me and may he take vengeance upon you for me but my hand will never touch you see here the Tells sha I could have killed you not even your best soldier was able to help you don't you see I'm not trying to kill you so the mid and the and all of the discussed this particular verse say look look over here David had all of the chances in the world to kill sha and he chose not to and not only that not only that it says please sir take close look V it's really the best translation is my father my father see see please and uh uh see mentioned it twice so say what what is he talking about my father please see he says despite the fact that his father-in-law sha is trying to kill him still calls him AI still calls him my father still gives him respect and say from there we learn you have to honor your father-in-law you have to honor your father-in-law again just like your real father you only obligated to to honor them if they are compliant with the Torah if they tell you to violate the Torah no honor is to be given to them no honor is to be given to them not your father-in-law and not your real father biological father but nonetheless some actually just like the mid which they actually say you have to you have to honor your father-in-law and thereby your mother-in-law like you honor your real parents all of them agree that you have to honor them but some actually go to the extent like the mid and say you have to honor him in the same measure which is a much much higher extreme now when we evaluate just this part just this honoring parents do we have what we thought was obvious just a few moments ago where the tells us son-in-law make sure to honor your mother-in-law honor the uh greatly honor your great grand your children's great grandmother which is your uh uh GOI V's mother conduct yourself with politeness gentleness and respect do we do that with our own parents when your parents as ask you to go do something for them something simple go to the store go pick up something for them help give a helping hand do you do it with a smile oh yeah sure ABA no problem when do you want me to pick you off from the airport when do you want me to uh where which store do you want me to get it from do we answer that way or when they ask us for something where you know we have one of those responses like oh there's nobody else that can do it you know I got my friends are coming over I really I was I was looking forward to hanging out with them is there nobody else that could clean is there nobody else that can go to the store is that nobody no no nobody else can do this what coffee can't you just make yourself coffee I mean it's only just putting some you know sugar and no water what you your hands don't work if we evaluate our own self if we whether we honor our parents or not we'll find that uh we're not always uh there it's okay maybe I'm not honoring them like uh DAV or maybe I'm not honoring them like yov ainu but you know I'm still I'm still nice to them are you are you polite and gentle and respectful when they ask you to perhaps do something are you polite or abrupt are you Gentle in your response or once in a while you yell at them but you figured that oh I said I'm sorry so it's okay yeah if you say I'm sorry because it happens only once in a blue moon then yeah I guess you know but if you yell at them you know four out of five times saying I'm sorry is to obviously no to no avail when a person evaluates their relationship with their in-laws they'll see that they're not necessarily always where they need to be let just say needless to say when a person evaluates where they're supposed to be with am their Community their Rabbi their their their kids their spouse the the different people that they know at work they'll see that yeah I mean maybe I'm not a Torah scholar but I'm I'm polite usually and I'm gentle and respectful were you Gentle and respectful when you were cursing that guy out that cut you off in the highway were you Gentle and respectful when the teller behind the counter gave you an answer you didn't want to hear and you made sure that her mother heard your voice also even though she wasn't in that city were you Gentle and respectful when the bank teller told you that the check didn't clear and it was a clerical error and due to that you know you have a problem with this company and you you told her that gently and and politely how much you were upset you were gentle and polite were you gentle and polite when your kids perhaps uh came home with a report card that's not exactly to your uh likings and uh even a haircut that's not to your likings were you gentle and polite in your response that uh they learned the lesson uh you know and they're not going to do it again or you were uh not so much if we really evaluate we'll see that even the basics even the basics that we all take for granted we sometimes fail sometimes we see people get angry and we say what is he angry about sometimes we see people sad what is he why would you get so sad about that sometimes we see people really confused and you baffled how do they not get it it's so clear but do we do the same thing ourself now you could easily say well everybody should know that there is a God that runs the world but do you always think that everybody should have a and should keep do you always do that you know should stop talking in prayer do you always keep quiet in prayer meaning do we dish out both ways to ourselves and also to others do we embody the things we say and lead by example do we tell people to have AA and we also do we tell people learn and we do too do we tell people be nice be friendly love love and we also not always we all fail and we all have to work on it because that that is the minimum requirement from every human being to at least not be a hypocrite now this doesn't mean that a person should be quiet or practically turn himself or herself into a mute and never tell anybody else any constructive criticism ever again the point is to remind us that all of the constructive criticism we give others and more has to come towards oursel first and even the things that are simple Common Sense politeness being nice to people respectful honoring parents that everybody in society agrees is a requirement even having respect to our kids and knowing how to give them the proper there are times where you have to speak to them sternly even give them a little flick and there are times where just sitting next to them and giving them a hug is the only thing you can do and should do there are times you should play with them and act like a fool just like they do and there are times you should take things seriously and tell them that it's enough there are times that you have to be a listening ear to your spouse even though you're really not interested in anything they have to say and do with a smile too and there are times you have to tell them listen I have to go back to learning toah there are times that you can cure an ailment by simply being a listening ear and there are times that you can cure an ailment by telling them to just stop the nonsense because they're not going in the right direction truth is critical but there's also a time and a place for it the one place that it's constantly required is with ourself with others most of the time but not all there are times that you can't necessarily be 100% truthful with people why it would hurt them at that time at that place you have to wait for a better time and a better place and it's but with yourself you always have to be honest you always have to reflect and see where do I really stand do do I do what I say or am I a hypocrite if you see that your mindset is constantly agreeing with Wicked people you should know you are one of them that honesty is required because it'll save your life or destroy it it'll save your life if you take that into heart and you change it'll destroy it if you ignore it and say nah come on just because I like Wicked people doesn't mean that I'm wicked well it does you see when a person is concerned about CL is at least as much as he or she is concerned about themselves then the stories that you'll hear will make more and more sense to you but if they don't or if they just seem too far for you don't lose hope we are all obligated to think of our forefathers and say when will my actions be like theirs went to Yesa in when he was younger under the teachings of a big sadik Shimon Solomon Shalom and shim Solomon was a big sadik is without skipping a beat and at the time the there was a uh election for mayor one secular Israeli that had no problem eating non kosher food desecrating Shabbat and had an intention to bring more desecration of Shabbat to the city and it was a religious guy trying to run and of course there were some uh some brown nosers that uh kissed up to the secular guy because they figured that if they kiss up to him he'll give them some buildings and some Land once he becomes mayor and unfortunately some of those people were rabbis that kissed up to him but Salomon was a is that protested and put his life on the line just for the sake of getting Jews to keep Shabbat and taught taught our own dear to think and do the same now when this election was going on Salon was supportive of the religious Jew but then a picture came out and an ad and that picture showed this religious Jew that was trying to run fam shown in such a way that his keeper suddenly lost its way and went to the back of his head so from the picture you couldn't tell he was wearing one and without skipping a beat of Solomon rebuked this person with roar roar that he'll remember till this day how can you do that were you embarrassed of being a Jew who are you trying to emulate the secular people and surely he was right and surely agreed and surely the secular person that was at least honest about his false beliefs ended up winning now many people continue to kiss up to this politician but not Solomon and even one day when time passed and this politician really wanted that Shimon Salomon would shake his hand in camera and make peace because it was a very public War he was the head Rabbi of the city he was the mayor you know so it was a uh uh two uh very big people very big disagreement and they orchestrated that they would meet and Shimon Solomon was barely able to shake his hand literally tapped his fingers as if he has AIDS SL Corona SL cancer that's infectious by simply touching a finger that's that's how that's how much uh he did you know dreaded touching this guy so even the shaking of the hand was barely but that was good enough for this mayor he wanted any positive attention he can even if it's fake nonetheless the pictures were taken and then one of the people that like to kiss up to anybody decided to make their foolish suggestion oh let's give the [Applause] mayor and got a glass of wine to go bring it to the uh mayor the secular mayor andon did not skip a beat and said no no no don't give him anything don't give him anything don't give him anything why don't give any wine needless to sayon never got the building never got the land but he did get for sanctifying name and standing for theit knowing who to be nice to and when to be nice to them knowing who to be nice to and when to be nice to them you can't be nice to everybody all the time because sometimes that niceness is literally evil when you have people that are desecrating the toah desecrating Shabbat desecrating hashem's name on a regular basis and you think that being friends with them acting as if it's all okay not telling them that they need to change in whatever way you want you could tell them in a in a in a through through a video through a audio through a few words of torat through a rebuke through a story but needless to say telling them something and not just pacifying them and making them believe as if their few good acts and their few uh uh decent behaviors are okay and uh you know they don't need to do chuva being nice to them and in essence enabling them to continue their Wicked Ways is the most evil thing that you can do it's the most evil thing that you could do it's not it's not loving when you sometimes see these people that call themselves rabbis that show up to mixed dancing weddings that are and literally a a disaster a disaster and a making and and something that brings tragedies to you see Rabbi show up to the and even stay sometimes for the event itself while people are dancing boys and girls are dancing together with each other and you see Rabbi show up to these types of things that's not that's hating that's hating when you see people like some of these Wicked people that say no telling people about punishment and rebuke that's not the way bring them with love that's not that's evil it's evil don't don't think about it twice it's evil it's 100% evil to to Simply eliminate parts of the Torah especially the parts like reward and Punishment it's not it's hating to tell people I'll accept you no matter how you are that's not loving them that's hating them why because anyone with a brain in their head and experience to go along with it knows the world doesn't work that way if you do bad bad things eventually happen to you both in this world and the world after there's no question that those that do evil will have evil come upon them there's no question that the same God that wrote the Torah that made all the Miracles for us is the god that said that there is reward and Punishment and those people that are homosexuals inter married with with Jew and Gentile uh they're they're committing adultery they're wasting seed they're desecrating Shabbat they're not eating kosher they're corrupt in their business they're they're simply evil stingy bad and so on those people will get punished severely severely and anyone that says no we don't like to talk about punishment everyone is good hm is going to forgive everyone that's not is that's hating why because just like if you saw your own child about to jump off of the cliff about to stick their finger into an electric socket about to run into moving traffic about to fall and lay down on the train tracks while the train is coming just to see what's going to happen about to do all types of dangerous things just like you staying there and doing nothing intentionally while you can is evil so is watching your brothers and sisters destroy their eternity and do nothing about it when you can is also evil it's not is when you care about the wellbeing of both physically and spiritually both physically and spiritually no less than you care about yourself you want to go to heaven you should want them to go to heaven no less than you want yourself to go to heaven even if you don't know them even if you know them and don't like them if you want to emulate AEM you're not going to be looking for just people that you know to help you're not going to be looking for just people that are your best friends to help you're going to look for anyone you can that's part of and do whatever you can to help them get closer to hasem help them serve AEM sometimes helping them serve hem is simply giving them a few words of truth that you see in this sh and other sh sometimes it's to tell them about the the stories of the sages of our forefathers sometimes it's giving them a meal it depends but if you see that you gave them a meal and two meals and five meals and they've been eating at your house already for a year but they're still driving on Shabbat that means the meal in itself is not working if anything it's pacifying them to make them think that they're doing enough which means that your help is not help but rather it's enabling them to continue their sinful ways and it's not love anymore continuing that way is evil a person needs to EV evaluate themselves with a fine tooth comb to see do you really love or not Shalom once somebody knocked on his door and he opened the door and he sees that it's his neighbor from across across the road the neighbor looks flustered says I'm sorry I have a problem I had to bring to the rabbi uh because uh what can we do we have tell the truth yeah yeah what can we do what happened he says listen uh you uh you guys painted and uh apparently used too much paint and it went into uh the sewage which ended up causing us a blockage in our house and that blockage was very problematic we had to bring company we had to fix it and uh listen it cost us 600 shekels to fix it and I don't know the r knows what's Dean to I think you should compensate me of without skipping a beat went got 600 checkel and paid the man on the spot the neighbor was very happy he said thank you for the appreciate it and left one of the of was there how come you didn't uh why did you just pay him why don't you argue at least I mean few things why did you just decide that he deserves exactly what he wants he got he paid 600 you have to give him everything how how did you arrive at that says in fact I had three reasons to justify me not paying him the first one was that the paint that he's talking about it's liquid and we all know that paint does not cause Plumbing issues in the sewage number two he lives across the street and that means that the sew systems that comes from our house from our floor at no point whatsoever could ever connect to the sewage system that he has in his building across the across the road number three we didn't paint the house so now the student is even more confused so hold on a second so why did you pay him then not only is one two but even three he didn't even paint the house so why did you pay him says something that only someone that wants to love is can understand it's a very cheap price to buy a good neighbor 600 shekels is cheap to buy a good neighbor why should I argue with him if I argue with him and I tell him number one number two number three surely part of him is going to doubt it disagree with it it forever and ever will always look at me in a certain way ah maybe this maybe that or I could just simply say oh here you go 600 checkel that's it solve the problem now we're best friends every time he sees me he's going to smile why we have no problems between us and that it's worth it it's worth it sometimes a person needs to go to a bed to resolve his problems you have issues with somebody but sometimes a person needs to do a Dean with himself to see is it worth it is it worth it sometimes you have to fight for the sake and the honor of the name like what we're doing with these missionaries every lawyer that we've spoken to said oh listen why don't you just settle with them I told him listen no settling will ever happen says what if they told you settle by just removing the video I said zero settling will ever happen we will never settle with them why they're desecrating hashem's name they're enemies of Hashem are settling with them in any fashion whatsoever is a desecration of hashem's name we will never settle why this is not a financial battle this is a spiritual battle much much more valuable than any amount of money in the world when a person has a legitimate Torah reason to fight you have to fight tooth and nail when a person knows that this is not something to fight for then you don't then the Torah will tell you not to fight but you have to know when to or when not to when to love and to give benefit of the doubt have patience and so on and when there's simply no uh no no patience allowed in we see p elazar kill Z and Cosby in a horrific way such a way that literally the the the mid the the discuss it with details literally you feel it you see it and it's a horrific way and then literally after putting the spear through their organ while they're in the ACT he lifts them miraculously and waves it like a flag showing it to all of am this gruesome scene was a Kem now if one of these fakers would tell you know maybe you should have benefit of the doubt you're not Pinas well let's see if loving everybody unconditionally was really a reality that we're supposed to do no matter what then let's see if we could apply that with Pinas if Pinas would have said you know what maybe Z maybe Zim doesn't know he's not allowed to be with a guya so he's sinning but it's like accidental cuz he doesn't know or maybe maybe she converted already we just don't know about it or maybe they're not really going into the tent to do anything maybe he's just he's teaching her for conversion maybe they're even reading together you know they're praying he's trying to give a cuz he wants to get married to her maybe she's just a tell his maybe he's just you know he's just being nice to the Nations you know you have to be light to the nation she just be nice to the girl why what's the maybe this maybe that if P would have said maybe we would not be here because said at the beginning of that he was already in the process of destroying that if it wasn't for p we wouldn't be here where there are times to give benefit of the doubt to be patient and then there are times where you have to act only the Torah will guide you when and how because if you listen to your emotions or even your logic you're bound to make irreparable mistakes where you can think that you being zealous was the right thing but in reality you embarrassed an innocent person in public your ambition was really stealing money from Gentiles or Jews both are not only forbidden according to the Torah as far as stealing but also desecration of hem when you're stealing from a nonu your ambition was Prohibition Your Love also earned you because you showed love to somebody you're not allowed to show love to whether it's your girlfriend your boyfriend somebody else's wife all of these things have to be measured in accordance to the when a person analyzes these things he can start seeing oh so the difference between is me and me is not that he can make decisions that I can't but rather he already learned enough Torah that his opinion of the Torah became his only opinion whereas we are striding striding to all at least have the opinion of the toah even if it requires us thinking for a week when a person starts listening to the words of the sages they'll see that there's really not much confusion to be had if a person simply dedicated as much energy into learning to as they do into doing all of the other things they're not supposed to do now many times people spend a lot of effort looking at what's happening in the world world news instead of looking at the news I can tell you the news of the future 117 praise hem all the go all the nations praise him all the states for his kindness has overwhelmed us and the truth of hem is eternal Allelujah it's the shortest taing Psalm 117 what does it say what is D trying to teach us here it's a prophecy what is the prophecy here says the praise of hem is going to come from the go in the future the go are going to praise hem why are the go going to praise hem because of all the kindness that he did for the Jews that's what it says here now any normal person will ask a question why would the GRE praise AEM I don't need a help there because I can figure they see he did good he's good and so on but why are they praising him for doing good for that's confusing why the vast majority of the world is anti-Semitic not just because of uh today's world but rather because of how created the world and the end of days is not going to be a pretty picture and isma are both going to attack is together it's going to be a horrific battle but before there's going to be many other battles goou magoga is just the last section but many wars will be beforehand so the hatred that you see in the streets the terrorism you see all over the anti-Semitism in the media the stuff that's become acceptable today and only a few years ago is unacceptable those people will one day praise God because of all of the kindness he gave to amlan says the Reis the brisker rebi why would the Nations praise for the kindness he showed why because only the anti-semitic only the haters of only the that wanted to terrorize you as often as possible only they and who know how much damage they wanted to cause and how often they wanted to cause it and only they know how much saved us even when we were sleeping even when we thought he wasn't there even when we thought there's tragedy among us and it can't get any worse little do we know that it was supposed to be much worse only the haters the enemies the wicked know how much kind has for his children because those evil ones were the same ones that kept stopping kepts making their plans foil kepts making them fail over and over again they wanted to go with automatic weapons in the street to kill thousands he says I'll give you four we're crying crocodile tears horrible you're right every PR Jewish wor the world world but do you understand how bad it was supposed to be do you understand how bad it was supposed to be the tunnels the Arabs built literally tunnels you you the entire cities under Israel you know how much damage this was supposed to be the weapons of the Iranians the weapons of of of the Iraqis the weapons of all of these amim do you understand how much damage was supposed to be all of these different people that are constantly conspiring on a daily basis to destroy Israel to destroy the Jews even some of them being Jewish and yet behind the destruction of the Jewish people and the Torah and the physical and the spiritual they know how much damage they want to cause and and they also know how keeps ruining their plans so the kindness that aadh has for us is only clear for those that know how to see the same goes when it applies to people and applies to loving am is knowing whether somebody's truly being kind and loving for am Isel is only something that someone that knows what kindness really is only someone that knows how to see kindness only someone who knows what the Torah says is kindness there's a lot of fake kindness there's a lot of false news out there that is view this kindness all these billionaires saying they're going to donate everything to charity when they die that was one of the scams that started about 10 years ago 15 years ago and people still are foolish enough to believe it they don't realize it's just tax planning but nonetheless a person that has the sight of the Torah knows that there are things that are clear only to some people that look from the perspective of the Tah and there are certain things that you'll have the majority of people majority of people think yeah you're right this is the way it's supposed to be and take it for granted and think that somebody else is doing the job not realizing that nobody else is you have a situation right now where there's a lot of conf confusion out there about what is a job of everybody and you have people from the Jewish World investing an enormous amount of energy and efforts helping strangers while their own neighbors are starving both physically and spiritually people think that they are doing mitv by leaving their houses and going to help the ukrainians and the horrible stories continue to come in worse one yet is a husband that suddenly saw his wife become Aid who needed to go to Ukraine to help the victims there leaving behind our husband and five kids coming back after a few weeks but already in a hurry to go back and her husband said it doesn't make any sense I mean yeah she was a decent woman but where did this urge come from all of a sudden he didn't believe it and he followed her followed why she's leaving her five kids and husband to go to Ukraine and help a bunch of strangers and to his dismay is following her and our phone calls and our conversations and messages led him to find out that she developed a relationship with some in Ukraine and she was looking forward to going back to see him surely he filed for he went took it to the bed got a divorce right away but nonetheless she thought it was a mitvah to go to Ukraine people think that whatever feels good is a Mitzvah and it's not always the case you have to look at the Torah Compass much more often than you look at your own moral compass because your moral compass sometimes is being steered by magnets from the Satan himself and unless a person has studied an enormous amount of T to already have that instilled within them likeit like the like the like these you'll see that many times our own inner Compass is bringing us to the wrong direction we have to constantly evaluate things we have to measure ourselves and this is one of the things that we can't just teach we have to learn we have to push we have to do whatever we can to constantly imp prove because it's the things that seem easy it's the things that seem obvious that they get us at last but not least something that I mentioned in the beginning of the sh that is our own test test of our test of our own test of our own love because surely the haters the naysayers the Heretics and anyone that we've exposed in the past have a lot of wonderful things to say about us and how we scare people and how we hate people and how we do all these things interestingly enough we never see any of those people help anybody else but thems we never see them publicize anyone but thems help anyone one but themsel our T has helped us become vessels to help countless people both physically and spiritually get married keep convert eat have mattresses get uh divorced at times even when it was necessary all types of things and now while you have tens of millions of dollars going to Ukraine supposedly allegedly possibly imaginably to help a bunch of people some of which are Jews I even had one of my dear students who left with his entire family and went to from Ukraine to Israel last week met with and miraculous story not just the leaving but also the meeting itself so surely there are good people from there but not everybody's like that in fact not even the majority many people are as disconnected from the tah as you could possibly imagine and many of them are even against the toah some are even Nazis out out right but yet the help that's going there from the Jewish World mainly the Orthodox world is unbiased without much consideration for any of the eventual realities that some of these immigration policies will lead to and people are throwing their money into it thinking that they're doing right now whether it's all going to be okay or not we'll see in time but I can assure you that it doesn't look okay not only because of the countless things I've mentioned about it already in this year and in others but also because we have the laws ofak laws ofak regarding and everyone knows that when it comes to takaka you have to help your own house first meaning if there is somebody poor outside but your parents are poor your kids are poor you have to help your own family first yeah it's sad that the other person is poor too but you have to help your own house first and when you have over a million children in ER is that we know about that go to sleep hungry every night when you have the financial situation of the religious and non-religious World in Israel deteriorate in the worst way we've seen in years where prices have gone up so much many people are simply electing not to buy 30 or 40% of the stuff that they used to be able to buy people are simply not able to afford it where you have working people calling us and asking us for help because despite their job not changing the cost have changed so much that their job can no longer afford it so you have so much going on so much struggling going on in Israel itself in the FR communities in the religious communities you could rely on that you know these people are telling the truth you know these people have you know these people are learning T you know these people are not just hanging out there and choosing to be poor they work they learn they do everything they possibly can but nonetheless they're still struggling some are struggling with big family some are struggling with sick kids some are struggling with sick parents some are struggling because of their own sicknesses and the horror stories literally are pouring in like a flood the pictures the pictures that we get to see may your eyes never see such pictures the stories we hear man your ears never hear these stories and I tell this to you because I'm telling you you simply would melt from pain so when we have so much poverty struggling people have no idea how they're going to afford to buy matah matah for p forget about meat chicken we have one of that we just met hasn't bought a piece of clothing in 15 years 15 years hasn't bought a piece of clothing other families we just met the kids were outside begging for change because they wanted to buy uh cremo some uh candy some snack that cost you know two a dollar or something like that or less the struggling is so severe but I don't see many rabbis raising tens of millions of dollars and all yeah surely there's money going and there's money being helped and surely there's a lot of great help coming especially during this time of the year shows us how many are still left in the world where you have a lot of people helping but when you compare that to what we're giving to I can't even call them cousins because of the history Ukraine has it just begs the question what the heck are we doing yeah you could always say yeah but we're helping the Jewish people there are you sure you're only helping them because I don't know I last time I checked doing a Mitzvah is not supposed to be that easy how is it that you raise so many tens of millions of dollars for that but to go and start a Yeshiva to go and help uh poor people to go and do all the things that we're all obligated to do since the beginning of time literally you're lucky if somebody donates $1,000 you're like oh blessings from here till next year you have to send them a blessing that's literally half the because they donated four figures and not just once quarterly not the donation quarterly the blessing quarterly or and if you don't call them oh donation I'm not donating again how is it how is it that there's so many Jews that are from sh Jews K Jews Yeshiva Jews Jews that are Jews don't have food to eat and yet $40,000 a bus easy to get literally there's more money than there's buses how is it how is it that's the case anyone that learned enough knows something's wrong because of that is sending us different warning messages the terrorists are upping the entty the disease the government the problems upping the entty everything is getting worse it's not because we're doing great thought he was doing great was had if we could just simply understand the magnitude of his Kusa and his wisdom we see that J this Throne was beyond our comprehension sl's Throne was something that is impossible for anybody else in the world to build you had 72 lions and Eagles and gold that would move fly every step you would take there would be like a b like a voice a Heavenly Voice come out saying different biblical statements such as don't pervert Justice don't accept bribery don't show preference of judgment don't uh plant a tree for idol worship don't erect a multi own Altar for the service of hem all types of biblical statements as he's taking steps on his throne that's surrounded by the saned the wisdom that schl had was impossible for us to understand but yet on the day that they celebrated the opening of the bet mikdash the grant biggest greatest event the greatest bet mikdash the bet mikdash that did not drink wine for seven years until it was built literally he's fasting having a a certain fast for seven years until this bet mikdash is built the Holiness of schl was unbelievable but yet something simple was overlooked the says in that on the same day that celebrated with the grand opening of the first mikdash he also celebrated his wedding his wedding to another wife who was the daughter of teach us that tried marrying each one of the princesses from all of the Nations after converting them to Judaism because he wanted to bring mhia and this was a way that he thought would bring World Peace by everyone becoming Jewish so he married each one of their princesses and along the way came the princess from Egypt and after converting after saying she believes in the god of Israel there was the wedding thought let's mix the party we have the party of the bet mikdash we have the party of the wedding says the m say during all the seven years that scho was building the bet mikdash he did not drink wine however once he built once he built it and he married the daughter of par he drank wine that night and there were two celebrations were taking place there his wedding and the grand opening of the BET mikdash one rejoicing the building of the Holy Temple one of the is marriage observing these two celebrations said whose celebration should I accept the celebration of these or of those and at that moment it entered his mind to destroy yush for it's written for this city has aroused my anger this is in Jeremiah 32:31 it's aroused my anger and my wrath in me from the day that they built it until this day so I should remove it from my presence what happen here and it goes further and so on but the grand opening the grand opening of the bet mikdash the smartest man the smartest man made a common sense error he celebrated his wedding on the same day as the celebration and got so angry he wanted to destroy all of why how could it be that people are celebrating their own house their own wedding their own car their own career more than my tah no but who says it's more has to be more why they like theirs more than they like mine and he's not even talking about schl he's talking about the people that are going to the party cuz surely they want to please the new princess forgetting that is great than all of the things you could possibly imagine if as wise as he was as holy as he was can make a common sense error needless to say we can also so the way that we figured out so far that we could help ourselves is to constantly do a self accounting constantly do self- accounting as a result of learning toah to see how our relationship is with hasem how our relationship is with how our relationship is with the world around us our spouse our kids our co-workers our community and so on but remember we we said that we have both spiritual and physical concerns material concerns so we can't just continue complaining about how people are not doing enough we have to do more ourself so as part of our own test each year we do a each year we do a we try to help a lot of people but we don't know how much we're going to raise and if we're going to raise what we do know for sure is that there are more problems today than any other time I've ever seen now that may be just because we've gotten more popular and there's more people watching us or that just simply may be because there's the situation is as dire as can possibly be and because of that we couldn't really wait like we waited in the past and we planned in the past and we decided that we have to do take action but take action that's more more significant than any other time because like I said the situation is warranting it and therefore we contacted and signed a contract with the uh supermarket chain Ramy leev like we did last year but unlike last year where we bought 100,000 dollars worth of cards to to help thousands of people we took step further and we put pretty much everything we have in reserves we we sent a quarter million dollars and uh this is the contract with Rami Levy it's going to be about a little over 800,000 uh shekel that uh is going there or went there already this is the contract this is the bank wire and this is the other bank wire and the reason why there's two bank wires and I had to do this over the last hours is because we're running out of time and we need to make sure this gets there with enough time to distribute it uh before the holiday and um when I went to the uh bank they wanted to uh charge uh 40,000 shekels in uh exchange fee which is about $155,000 so we found another way to do it a little cheaper for only 8,000 shekels so about $2,000 $3,000 by doing it this way that I did so anyway you have A4 million dollarss almost a million checkel 800,000 checkel or so that's already contracted that's already going that's already bought that's already paid for as of today this is everything I've done over the last uh hours and uh I have no idea if any of you are want to be partners if you want to be partners with uh for the whole thing you want to be partners for a small part if you don't want to be partners at all those was were some of the thoughts we couldn't consider we couldn't consider if anybody's going to contribute and we couldn't consider if uh anyone else is going to care just simply because the the is It's Our obligation to to be leaders when there is no leaders It's Our obligation to hear about what our forefathers did and say when will my actions be like theirs now my actions will never be like theirs and but we could at least try to get better last year we took a risk of 100,000 shekels and $100,000 and you know some people contributed some people didn't but nonetheless a lot of people ate this year we're taking it a step much much further uh simply because the need is there and there is a principle in the teaches the prophet J who did me a favor first and I'll pay him back meaning that there's no way that a person could ever lose by doing the will of hem does that mean that it's always going to be net net profitable or or you know monetarily not necessarily but what it will be is always it'll be profitable spiritually always be profitable as far as your servitude of hem and this is one of the things that I'm proud of because because although it's a very very big test uh it's one of those things where it says okay at least we had the Merit to have the Merit to give you know our amuna muscles a uh a test and uh it's important for each one of us to do the same where when we evaluate whether we care about we can't just evaluate whether we care about them spiritually because that usually can be done for free or for cheap or indirectly we also have to care about them materially and this money could uh easily feed easily a uh 10,000 people maybe less 8,000 people but definitely it's a uh uh something that we need to do I wish we had the $50 million that and hundred million do they had for Ukraine to feed people but nonetheless the point is is that everybody has to do something this is one of the ways that you we're trying to lead by example where we're not an organization that has $50 million or anywhere near close to it but we are organization that had this money in the bank and we figured if we have it and we don't need it this second surely other people need it right now what will we do when the bills come for other things and the responsibilities for other things just like who sent this money all sent other money now rationally makes no sense financially makes no sense anybody else do this I have never heard of it is it the right thing to do 100% why because we have to show that we love them not just by saying words and not just by taking safe bets sometimes you have to do things that show that you believe in him so this is something that we could celebrate together whether you contribute or not as irrelevant we took under the we we're under the impression that no one will contribute a single dollar if people end up contributing $10 million by all means great fantastic but if they don't that won't change anything why because at least we did what we could and we can teach what we can teach from it and the people will have no less of a respectable PES than we do and that in itself is all the reward in the world all the profit in the world you can possibly get if you compare that to actions we've done in the past I believe it's an upgrade if you compare that to the actions that you're doing you'll know what the Sol you know where where you're at and where this is at if you compare that to where the wicked people are surely you can see that none of them not a single one of them that have a th% more money than we do none of them are doing any of this none of them are helping anybody but their own Pockets their own popularity their own uh name and so on and so forth why because there's a difference when you are there to help is get closer to Hashem then number one job number one job is them their well-being not yours when you are there to build a so-called brand to build a so-called company then the number one mission is to help yourself hence the reason of why they call themselves the number one Rabbi on YouTube and the uh this and all these other different uh titles that they give themselves and again this is a uh uh not a uh insult for the sake of insult but rather insult for the sake of Education to know the difference between right and wrong to know the difference between and to know the difference between words and actions everybody can say I love is what are you doing to show it are you doing you know somebody could say oh I donated $5 million no problem where did you donate it to how did you donate it to if you donated it to go buy some more tanks doesn't show love of anything other than you but if you k care enough about that you care that they will get closer to hem spiritually as well as materially by all means this is my uh my for myself hopefully you got some out of it as well there was some other things I wanted to discuss with you but perhaps we'll see each other again tomorrow and learn some more tomorrow about mhu about PES a little bit why we do it how do we do it what does it really mean to be humble what does it really mean to serve AEM without any uh self-interest perhaps we'll learn that tomorrow so we'll give everybody enough time to digest uh what what they got today thanks again for learning with me Shem bless each and every single one of you at least for trying at least for Learning and this to we'll give each one of us to get closer to [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music]