ESAV'S SECRET, Noahides Shidduch, KOSHER INTIMACY, Reincarnated Trait, TAKANAH -STUMPTHE RABBI (110)

[Music] we are back in our wednesday night uh stumped rabbi where uh after a little bit of director uh you guys will ask some questions who will give us uh answers uh so uh tonight's show will be for a refusal journal lewis ben malsha should ben falzane david benesley oshri bendulis gabby benduris amir ben shaheen and all of amis of hashem will have a uh uh also very special uh miracles without the [ __ ] will happen to the people that need it i know that uh malsha and her family still are in needing of a few more miracles so please continue to pray for them if you remember the story that i told you about the wicked father that kidnapped the baby we're still fighting this uh the isla has not come home yet uh although hashem the trials are going in the right direction and uh things are going okay it's a uh still the fact is that the baby is not home for a long time which uh i could i can't even imagine the pain this is worse than any genum shield that i could ever teach you guys to gain on this earth but who is doing everything that's necessary to uh to get isla back with hashem and uh so please continue to uh to pray uh any time a person uh really looks at the the the difficulties uh that other people have the difficulties of isla and really uh looks at them from a a serious point of view they realize that quite frankly your problems are blessings next to some other people's problems so uh please don't forget to pray for other people uh because the mala teaches us that if you pray for others will end up answering your prayer first but of course it has to be a genuine prayer and not just because your prayers will be answered first so with that being said we um we have a couple of things we have a lot of material uh not really sure how which direction will take us uh but with the shim we'll try to cover a lot of different things because right now there's a lot of uh turmoil in the air uh with everything that is uh that's happening out there with uh with the missionaries infiltrating into different communities uh jewish communities uh you have uh of course the uh el coen elk that uh was uh um exposed uh not too long ago uh surely he's uh he and his uh you know followers are looking for more uh victims to uh that they could fall under but hashem the benenu organization uh did an extraordinary job alongside a rabbi tovia singer to expose these people enough that at the very least uh they uh you know they're not gonna have an easy time doing what they did already um and of course you have the uh the case uh that was just exposed just in the last couple of days it's a missionary uh that uh you know took a jewish old jewish woman as prey you know stayed at our house for some time saying that he's jewish and ended up changing his name uh to her name uh in order to use that to bring his family uh which were also idol worshipper missionaries uh to eretz israel and uh they were recently caught and exposed uh by um one of the uh uh missionary anti-missionary organizations in israel uh of course we have also the uh the current situation that we've been dealing with uh which is the uh the dawsons aka isaacsons they call themselves but in reality it's 100 dozen nothing to do with isaac or anything else these are shayim are predators that have already preyed on a few communities but unfortunately they found themselves a uh a good partner for crime which is the uh the erev named michael l cohen a michael aminov anyway this uh this whole situation you would think that after you expose uh missionaries in the community uh the the people would simply just you know run away uh if it was only that simple if it was only that simple uh life would be different but uh of course this uh rasha aminov is not only uh not kicked out the missionaries but he's actually upping the ante by uh in essence trying to say that everything he's doing is perfectly kosher and he's keeping the missionaries the christian missionaries in his key lab they're still active as rabbi's so-called rabbis in his uh in his synagogue uh and he's trying to get as many people as possible to support and both hashem a few people have realized the despicable nature of this person and have run away but not enough not enough uh what is it about the uh the criminals the spiritual criminals that uh entices people to the extent where even after people see that they're criminals keeps them in you know we learned yesterday that the uh the snake's tongue is uh obviously the unique tool that the snake has it's uh ghazal compares it uh to uh to lashonara to uh to saying things that are inappropriate uh to using your mouth in in the wrong way where you're saying things that you're not allowed to say but we also learned that to go and uh expose speak bad insult spiritual enemies is a mitzvah just like eating koshers and mitzvah just like keeping shabbat as a mitzvah exposing such spiritual enemies of israel idol worshipers missionaries heretics epiculsing all of the above is a mitzvah torah now what is it that the these spiritual enemies have that keeps people coming because you realize this is a snake but yet people keep coming back now of course some people are also criminals so criminals you know want to be surrounded by criminals but for those people that are not criminals or at least not uh not uh uh you know not people that are sophisticated criminals they're just no you know they're criminals simply because of ignorance what keeps them coming back to the snake uh you have people that know that uh you know these people are bad but yet they come back you have people that know that some of the other hashing that we've exposed over the years are bad but people keep coming back what keeps people back going back it's a very very strange uh behavior uh that's technically part of human nature and uh really we're gonna try to see if we can find somewhere in this parashut uh a place that can help us a place that could help us in the torah to really try to uncover the problem and also talk tell you about perhaps if we have enough time about another missionary battle that we've been fighting behind the scenes if we have enough time visiting so we see in last week's polish we see already that there is fakers is not being a faker is not a new thing uh you know says you know speaking uh big words you know making in essence empty promises is not a new discovery it's not something of this generation we meet uh some clown by the name of efron that uh in front of everybody talks a big game promises avraham that he'll say you know he'll give him you know for uh for free but then later on asks him for 400 zoos uh a 400 check in case if that's a uh extraordinary amount of money uh we're talking about millions and millions of dollars so instead of giving him something for free he ends up selling it then for above market price uh and for that he actually gets the the teach us we see that his punishment uh is already shown in the pursuit where in the uh chapter uh verse number 16. so it says that the uh um heeded the phone and iran weighed out to a throne the price which he had mentioned in hearing of the children of hit 400 silver shekel and negotiable currency was given to the soheil sohail means the the merchant the businessman this is a big business manager guys like amino tends to be a rabbi but he's really a businessman charges 15 20 50 100 000 per conversion it's business and in essence what we're looking at is why would a uh such a person do such a thing well first at first uh i think it's money money guy wants to make money he uh he's he's not ashamed of it he wants to make money efron is not uh is as looking to make money and a catastrophe who says to us look first time it says in this verse the word efron it's spelled meaning it's missing a letter it says the same word but it's spelled differently it's missing a letter showing if on you wanted the money you talk a big game no problem you get the money and therefore that's your reward in this world because you don't have you don't have what about avraham abraham that just gave up 400 shekels should you if you're a religious jew should you be a sucker every time somebody cheats you tells you listen uh how much uh you know what do you want me to do i want you to do xyz okay it's gonna be ten thousand dollars no problem ten thousand dollars it is i'll pay ten thousand dollars the guy is uh 60 70 into the job says okay listen when's the other payment coming what do you mean the other payment what are you talking about other payment i got you said ten thousand dollars no i said ten thousand that's just the deposit it's twenty thousand no no no no you said ten thousand oh listen it's twenty thousand if you know what i'm not going to finish the job how many of us have experienced these vultures these vultures these these conscious these uh ticks uh that call themselves businessmen businessmen that tell you one thing and do something else i have dealt with literally thousands of people throughout my career on wall street as a rabbi as a human being on earth i do a lot of business i i'm the best customer in the world i can tell you that i wish i had customers like myself if i had a business i wish i had customers why i don't negotiate what's your price there you go that's the price don't negotiate don't ask me to give me a discount in fact i don't want a discount you know what i do want though i want you to do what you say you gonna do you say gonna charge me a thousand dollars five thousand dollars a hundred thousand dollars for xyz do it that's all i want that's it and guess what i will take i have lived a life i've gone through a lot yesterday i love you thank you very much for everything you give me everything you give me thank you even the bad even the good and everything in between thank you and guess what i've lived a life and i've dealt with a lot of people millions of dollars in transactions and i have yet to meet a single person that i've done business with that does what they say they're going to do lawyers doctors merchants of some kind vendors nobody does what they're going to do why there's always a change there's always like a last minute fee a last minute punch you in the face a small print i can't do it yeah but i already paid you yeah but i didn't know i couldn't do it and so on and so forth all types of businesses websites uh marketing uh whatever you want name it we did it and again it's not me alone i'm sure that you've gone through your own your own difficulties why because the default in the world without torah is cheating in the world today they call that hustling hustling really is means you're a thief means you're a liar means you're getting over on people but today it's actually uh admirable trait i'm just i'm just hustling oh so you're just stealing from people no no i'm not stealing i'm just you know i'm trying to get mine oh so you're trying to get yours that's not really yours it's somebody else's you're a thief you're a liar you think you're robin hood that that's a good guy but robin who's a criminal you're a criminal just like him no no no why are you saying that why you talk like that i'm not talking like i'm just calling things as they are that's the reality of a type most people are criminals who is not a criminal people that have you got your mind people that have you got your mind people that have you got your mind you can deal with them unfortunately not everybody has yet to remind if you only dealt with people every night you're right most likely you're not going to be able to do a lot of things that you want to do in life why because it's hard to find people that have you got your mind and it takes time to find people they only got your mind so the point is that you have here efron you have amino you have all types of criminals in the world that do things purely for money and academic who says those people don't worry i think whatever they got don't worry that's the reward in this world next world they don't have what about the victims what about the victims the pursuit says in chapter 24. avraham was all dwelling years and hashem blessed avraham with everything meaning he was filthy rich had everything you could possibly imagine he had wife he had kids he had money he had property he had everything could possibly imagine yeah but people cheated him he paid 400 uh uh million dollars for this uh for this uh did he just waste all of his money no no don't worry i could as well give you more money yeah but he he got cheated shouldn't he fight for it go to bed you'll go to bed dean if you said a story one time where somebody cheated him somebody cheated him in business of some kind and uh he wanted james and he went to his ralph and he said uh i want to take this guy to bed and his rabbi said why because well because he did something you know says something bad because okay so he did something bad no white thing in the vatine [Music] talks about going to bed deen you know things of uh all types of lawsuits and so on and so forth yes people don't you know that don't have them he says ah now you know the answer if you have a hundred percent then you know that what he said is true and he said everything is written for you in shamani what you're going to get and what you're going to lose and what you're going to spend page 16 multiple places it talks about who already decides how much money you're going to get how much money you're going to get how much money you're going to get how much money you're going to keep how much expenses you're going to have all of those things are decided in jeremiah yeah but he just stole from me he didn't steal from you he stole you on the other hand your money's on hold wait if he's on hold perhaps who is trying to see what you're going to do because we're trying to see what you're going to do if you believe in him and you do all the right things that are necessary to do look at this but we'll give you the money back and if he doesn't give you the money back then it wasn't yours to begin with it wasn't yours to begin with he'll get punished the other guy will get punished don't worry about it he's not you know going sky freak but this book who still runs the world but as far as whether it's your money it's only for those people who give it back to you if he gives back to you that means it was your money the whole time he was just you know pretending like it's his because those people will give you the money one way or the other and it doesn't have to come from the thief it comes from a million half other ways he could take a million dollars from you and i could as well give you two million dollars in a different way you have to be smart and have enough you got your mic to know that the two million is connected to the one million that's what emunah is of course it's very hard to have a muna in a world full of criminals because every five seconds you have to have a moon there's no better life than having a munna no better life than going to heaven and munna i remember one time i had to go to a big deal with somebody that was a thief and after that decided that uh even invited me to abedin uh so i wasn't i couldn't say no i have to go once a bit dean invite you you have to go if you say no three times you could put you on helen so say somebody invites you to bed didn't go to bed the funny thing is he was the thief he was the thief i brought my information he brought his information there was pretty much pretty much anyone with eyes and ears saw that he's a liar i have all the proofs in the world he just has words what was his argument your own reuben's a better speaker than me so maybe he's giving his argument better don't forget i'm a mute yeah look information look this is what we did this corrupt bed deen tells me listen takes me to the side one of the rabbis pretends to be my friend listen yeah you're smarter than him and uh you're right you did all those things and technically yeah you have you have something yeah you're right but he's not so smart just settle with him give him you know just just i'm looking at myself is this a serious situation you're telling me i'm right you're confirming he's a thief but you're asking me to settle with him why this is unfortunately what happens this is unfortunately what happens in corrupt bed deans says not going to come until all of these corrupt bed deens are uprooted from the world of course there are good bed deens in the world but there are also corrupt bed deens in the world best suggestion is rely on the bed dean of sherman battino sherman is the best bad teen in the world who run the world of course if you if you can't handle it if you're talking about something that's too much of a test for you go to a bed dean but remember it's a uh the uh it's a priority that you have to uh uh go to a bed dean and not to a secular court unless you have a permission from a secular court but nonetheless don't think that just because you're religious and you're observing the mitzvot that the world is gonna be uh there's not gonna be any criminals in your way there will be plenty of criminals in everybody's way because the world is lacking anyway we have here that uh avraham teach us that if you have fear of the almighty you follow who says it doesn't matter who steals and who says this and does another in the end will bless you with everything with everything furthermore and don't worry we're going to get to this week's pasha told abram remind us a little about emunah why because it tells him listen if i'm going to go to this place what if she doesn't want to come with me what if this girl doesn't want to come with me what's going to happen says foreign so it says that avraham answered him answered eleazar beware not to return my son to there meaning don't think for a second that you could take tuck over there why hashem the god of heavens if you break up this verses you'll see what the blessings are how many things that is bringing up to remind us hashem the god of heavens look what he did for me in essence he's saying who took me from the house of my father that's already saved me from idolatry and from the land of my birth from the uh uh uh the um nimrod that wanted to kill me who spoke concerning me doesn't just take care of me spoke to me spoke to me who swore to me saying meaning you made promises to me to your offspring will i give this land he made promises to me he will send his angel before you and he will take a wife from my son from there but if a woman will not wish to follow you you shall be absolved of this oath of mine however do not return my son there in so many words abraham is trying to teach first and foremost look how many times the qadosh about who has blessed you you have a spouse you're married already it's one blessing i know sometimes people look at their spouse like a curse but i promise you if you know how to work on the tools that we discussed in our schlombaichu last week if you work on those tools your spouse will turn into a blessing if you don't work on those tools then obviously it's a curse but nonetheless if a person has a spouse blessing number one person has kids blessing number two have a job blessing number three a way to make a living blessing number four having a job making a living are two different things by the way not everybody that has a job can make a living and not everybody that makes a living has a job you're healthy hashem another one you are you have uh different people in your life that you care about care about you another couple of blessings and on and on and on and on a person starts counting all the different things they have you have the ability to speak you have the ability to see of the ability to smell touch hear all of these things are blessings if a person starts looking at their life and all of the things they have versus the one or two things that they're lacking it's very easy to develop emunah to be able to overcome the obstacles that are in front of you but if you only look at the things that you're lacking surely you've already lost the battle surely you're going to be very very miserable in your life safran says look how many things that godzilla who gave me he spoke to me saved me he did this he did that he did everything for me in the world i'm not going to believe him that he's going to believe in him that he's going to give my son a wife and a wife that's a kosher wife that's going to come back to him and not uh make him chase after tell them something like no listen i want to live next to my parents in germany yeah but my call is over here in uh florida my call is in a uh in uh new york my call my rabbi is in israel i don't want to go to germany just to be next to your mother or your father yeah but i want to live here if not then that means you don't love me a woman like that run away from her why this is a woman that's still a child still a child a woman has to leave her parents home go to her husband she wants to stay with her parents let her marry her parents you find somebody else find somebody else many times i've dealt with slumbite issues and almost 9 out of 10 times when it's a situation like that when either the husband or the wife are still married to the parents it never works out they end up with a divorce they end up with a divorce and you can all usually tell if the person is married to their parents or they're looking to get married to somebody else early on based on how involved their parents are in conducting the wedding there was one guy told me that um the uh the the uh the woman's uh father was very wealthy and uh was so involved in preparing the wedding because he was paying for it that he did not allow the husband meaning his future son-in-law to invite the guests that he want he only limited him to immediate family members even it was a huge wedding hundreds of thousands of dollars he didn't allow him to uh to invite whoever he wants he limited him why ah we want only people we're paying for it with this without okay don't pay for it we'll do it no no no my daughter's gonna have this type of wedding and that type of wedding and we're not gonna do anything less than that and this poor guy wasn't thinking with the right head was thinking about okay it's just a one-time thing i'll uh get married and then uh i'll have he'll give me some money and i'll be able to do this and i'll be able to do that in his dreams what ended up happening even after the marriage the father was constantly involved in their life constantly coming to their house on a regular basis uninvited constantly involved involved involved until divorce that's at the end and that's what happens unfortunately many many times where people are not really looking to get married they're just looking for you know somebody like a friend or something so a person needs to know if you want to develop a muna first step of developing a muna is count all of the good things that akidos boho has done for you and to find things that academic who has done for you is very easy just simply look in the mirror look at your life don't just focus on the bad things that are happening to you or the difficulties that you're dealing with yes of course all of us have difficulties but again that's not all you have says look if you believe in you'll see someone that has confidence in hashem has beaten hashem only kindness will surround them where do we see this in a tower was praying praying to uh in the merit of his rabbi in the marriage of his rabbi also another source we see who people pray in the merit of in the merit of in the merit of baba sally or the barbecue or whoever you're praying in the merit of somebody else it's not a new invention it's even uh did it where you pray takadas that in the merit of abraham please do hesit for me and what did he get he got the hesitate he got the collab that he wanted just like we see um so here we see that one one perfect example furthermore we go we see that and yes there was a tamik and the talmud of not just meaning that he did the same thing as his rabbi when when avraham avinu was not able to give a shield says that would replace him he would give the shield why do we see that in the actual that after hashem sent for my master what did he do first thing bless hashem just like his master did what does master do what did hashem uh god of the heavens he did this for me this means a blessed blessed blessed blessed bless and that's what as alieza did he also blessed hashem as soon as he saw something good as soon as something good he blessed hashem and we became even more proud to be evident when uh when when a person tells me rabbi can i wear a hat instead of a keeper and ask him why you're a big head no keeper mitch you mess with your head i mean i kind of have kind of a big head size 13 keep up i found a keeper that matched my head no no no no no it's not it's not it's not it's not because of your head why do you want to wear hats i know because you know i don't want to know people you know it's anti-semitism and you know people have something to say i said tell those stories to your grandmother maybe she'll believe you you are ashamed of being jewish you are ashamed of being jewish you are ashamed that god is your master you are ashamed to even think of being a servant of hashem you should be ashamed of yourself why and he isn't it and the israel is proud to say by yomer everett abraham and the ezra is proud to be the evid of a human being that's a sadique that's abraham he's proud of it he's telling people that's how he identifies himself he doesn't say oh i'm at the ed smith i lived in this street uh my parents go this my father is a really powerful king and he has a lot of money no i am avid abraham the servant of iran you're not proud to be uh a maid servant of akkados you're not proud to say i am modest why because i am the servant of hashem i'm the servant of hashem that's why i'm alice yeah what about if people say something about your kish that you have a little turban on your head they make fun of you let's make fun it's like dog's bark we're gonna start uh start uh taking every every dog's tongue out let them bark what do we care what they say oh what about the anti-semitism anti-semitism only happens who decrees it who decrees it anti-semitism happens it doesn't happen because of the kippah it doesn't happen because of there are plenty of muslims in the world to walk around with their heads covered and there's no islamophobia like people think it's all nothing all nothing you have to be proud to be a jew if you're not proud to be a jew you have a very very serious problem why because you have a rebuke from that eliezer was proud to be an avid of his master that's a human being needless to lay it needs to say he was the evident of hashem but he was saying i am evident because ivaram is my teacher is my rabbi but the point is you don't need to say that you're the avid of your uh rabbi but you definitely should say that you are proud to be a jew and you're proud to be evident you're proud to be evident now last night we learned a little bit about the show and we said that a person needs to be careful the person needs to be careful what they say because the issues of are not so simple it's not just about saying things that insult another person that's not good or false which is it's not just that it's even complimenting another person saying something good about another person you have to be careful doing that why because if you're doing it too much over complimenting them you're making a sin if you are doing it in front of his enemies or in front of our enemies you're saying to everybody how beautiful she is next to your friends that hate her that's la you've turned your compliment now where do we see an example of the danger of speech also but again told her mother's household according to these events she told them about what happened she met this guy eliezer he has 10 camels and he says he's from the house of abraham shultana house what does it say after that has a brother named and he ran outside as soon as he heard this he ran outside as soon as he heard this something unusual here upon hearing his sister livka's words saying this man has spoken to me he ran outside he approached the man who was standing on the camels in the english translation in this article it says standing by the camels but anyone that knows hebrews knows that it says standing on the camels yes and the others are standing on the camels why why are they standing on the camels zacado says as soon as lavon heard that there's some rich guy outside that gave his sister some money ah perfect takes his machete runs outside to go kill the god he ran outside just like his master who blessed hashem got miracles and yes i got miracle miraculously academic who made all of his camels climb on top of each other in an instant like a pyramid an eliezer on top hence the reason why lavon stops called and says come come you're blessed from hashem you're not a normal person you're a blessed machine why would this kofi rasha levan say come bless the hashem why because he saw i can't mess with this guy this guy two seconds went from being on the ground like everybody else he's uh 50 feet in the sky 50 feet in the sky but here we see also that even though we've got did nothing wrong you still have to take a lesson from this she said certain things about complimenting good things that happened to her but she didn't realize there's an enemy of everybody next to her levan so here we have beautiful teachings from the plan of levan and his father between fails they tried to kill in the israel by poisoning him hashem does not allow that to happen instead sends an angel to switch the plates and uh levon's father if god's father dies instead that's why he's not mentioned the following day when eliezer once says we want to leave let us leave now don't delay me they say stay why stay meaning mourn for the father no no there's no morning we gotta go so that is the lessons from that so far we've learned a lot but we're still looking for more we're still looking for more we still need to toil a little bit more later on this week's it says since this these are the offspring uh of because there was a lot of lashon of in those days because avimelech kidnapped sarah before she got pregnant with itzhak so people said ah 90 years they're together they didn't have a kid they're captured by avimelech one day and all of a sudden she's pregnant oh surely this kid is in mamzin surely this kid it's not really avalon that takes the honor of his uh of his even more stringently than his own honor protected that sadiq how he miraculously made it face look identical to his father abraham so much so that people would not know the difference between the two of them they didn't look alike they were identical it was as if the same person is in the world twice and that's why it says as if avram gave birth to why to protect the honor of the tzadik but also showing us again another example of how lashona you know saying bad things about people false things about people it's very very dangerous a person needs to be careful of that so before you say something about somebody that's a bad person you have to have the proof and it's the reason why i tell you guys sometimes we're working on cases for months or even years before we ever talk about them why because we want to make sure that everything we bring to the public is 100 percent validated whether it's the amanov or the mazes or the manases or any of the other the shine out there every single one of them that we brought we've brought evidence and even the stuff that we've shown is not even everything there's a lot more but it would simply bore most people either way we have the enemy of ami sev born during this week's parashat which is a self where initially rifka is a uh confused she's pregnant but one baby wants to go pushes goes crazy every time she walks by excited but then she goes and by you know on the way home there's one of these missionary places one for israel they have a building somewhere and she walks by that and all of a sudden the other baby goes crazy what's going on over here if this is what's going to be a baby's going to be an idol worshiper one day he's religious the next day he's an idol worshiper better off not to do it one day he says he's orthodox the next day he's inviting a bunch of christians to the synagogue what is he from goldberg what does this say uh uh a uh one of these uh the shame out there and i don't want this i don't need it she goes he doesn't she goes praise doctor who says this is a nightmare giving a giving birth to a child that is confused is a nightmare why would a child be confused if he sees the parents of confusion he says i'm not confused i believe what can i do she has to go pray to hashem i'm not confused my husband's not confused we're all religious while keeping time it's what why is the baby confused he hasn't even been born yet why does he go crazy when he goes next to the colon and then he goes crazy when he sees the missionaries what's going on over here how can you live like this says fantastic he says what is lefka trying to teach us he's trying to teach us it's better to have one son that's an orthodox jew that keeps the entire torah and one son that's an idol worshiper and not to have a son that is confused one day he's religious the next day he's going to nightclubs better to have clear cut let him be an idol worshiper at least we're not confused she was bro none of us want such a thing but it's better to be to know what we're dealing with and to be one of these manipulators one day he's here one day is there so who tells him don't worry you have two nations inside you it's not one baby it's two two babies inside you says page 11a you have two nations inside you this is not a typical nation this is not a typical relationship why says when one is up the other one is down if somebody comes tells you that the church is built rome is built and the bitter magnesium is built they're a liar not possible if somebody tells you the church is destroyed and so is the veterinary that's destroyed don't believe them they're a liar but if they say the church is up and the baby does destroy it believe them if they say the brethren does and the church is destroyed believe them why that's the way who designed the world they cannot both be up or both be down at the same time one is up the other one's down they cannot coexist with harmony just like there's no peace in the middle east that will never be so but for a moment in history the maratha says for a moment in history there was peace between all between libya qaddosh roman empire his father was a cloney moose and uh no i'm sorry his father uh uh was uh one of the roman caesars uh colony most was actually the father of ankylos anyway antoninos was a roman born of roman and uh but later on converted to judaism and he was the khabuta of of vrabiya qadosh and the harmony between them was as if a sab and yakov were were friendly for a while now and there was many hidushim in the says that really one of the things that we also learned from this stegoin that there's two nations in your stomach is a show in sephiroth and parashat says that really the ideal situation was supposed to be that there would be two nations but the two nations were supposed to have harmony between them and have a complimentary partnership where a saab that's an issue it's inside your dead side the man that knows hunting was supposed to defeat the evil people while yaakov who's each time yesheva alim who's a perfect man who dwells in tents meaning he promotes torah promotes good he is uh going to do that whereas a cell is going to fight the enemy that was what it was really supposed to be but isab did not fulfill his role had he fulfilled his role says would have actually been farther to six of the tribes and yakov six of the tribes but because asav knew the truth but still went against it akadoshva who hated him and therefore removed any good any good that he would have any good partnership that he would have with ami said he became the enemy and he gave all of the me all the good to yaakov all of the blessings to yaakov yakov became the father of all 12 tribes but yet we see that isabe still has a lot of blessings in the world if you will you see that assad has tons of trillions and trillions of dollars the church is the richest entity in the world the missionaries are you know partying everywhere they're unfortunately catching a lot of prey out there how could this be how come people keep going back to the missionaries whether the missionaries are heretics that are jews uh or they're heretics that are christians whatever it is the point is that we see that there is a problem here the the the aminos the michael aminos of the world and the partnerships with the church the the uh the drug suitors of the world that speak favorably of christianity the uh the ephraim goldbergs of the world that invites the christians to the synagogues and all types of other strange creatures in the world that pretend to be orthodox jews bringing the christians into the jewish world we see there's something wrong here we see that this this it's not kosher it's not kosher it's something wrong why in the pasha we see that asav will do anything to meet his physical desires that's why his name is edom if you like math we don't call you a mathematician just because you like math if you like to eat cheese we don't call you mr cheese but a because he asked for red red stuff the very red stuff so therefore we call them pretty much mr red they don't why because the name defines who he is he is a materialistic junkie and that's why he was willing to disgrace his birthright just for the sake of meaning is physical demands and desires and that's by the way to answer the question of why would hashem allow this type of deal to take place i mean after all it looks like cheating looks like yakov cheated he got all of the blessings all 12 tribes under his belt all of the blessings of to be the chosen people for a bowl of soup for for for some for for some food for stew doesn't make sense it says in the pursuit because disgraced or spurned the birthright he did not value the birthright he did not value the blessing of hashem instead of learning from his grandfather that blessed hashem for everything for the good and the bad instead of blessing hashem like avraham's servant and enzo instead of blessing hashem like itzhak did like leafguard instead of blessing your shirt like everybody else did didn't care for the blessing what this car it's not even though it's in 2021. it's not even that good this ah you know i've seen better you know one of those people nothing's nothing's good enough for them a person like that loses everything in the ice mission loses everything it's an ungrateful person and because he was ungrateful and he disgraced the birthright the deal was perfectly fine why because he himself did not value the birthright and therefore what he sold it for is what he actually thought it was worth the fact that he realized later on that it was worth a lot more is his problem he shouldn't have disgraced it in the first place but anyway we see here that the blessings go to to yaakov they go to iran but yet asav looks like he's winning at times and we even see it in project few examples we see that the uh avi medec says one thing to tweetshak we'll do deal we'll do good but then he changes his mind he changes his mind so itzhak lets it go tries to find some water finds it waters what is good found the hot water right you made those people come no no no this is ours where many jobs i just found it no no we already dug it you just you just happened to find it now you talking about dean choose not to he says if this is minor this won't give it to me anyway meaning let's go yeah but you did all the work okay i did all the work so what move on because who wants to give me a blessing give me a blessing moves on they come back again after he finds another uh wellspring this is ours too no we just did it no no no no it's ours it's our land what is uh uh it's like no problem take it first place he calls it asic second place he calls it sitna different places where in so many words symbolizes that they took advantage of him at least they thought but it'saka vinu shows us that someone who has confidence only kindness will surround them he relocated there this is chapter 26 22. he relocated there and dug another well and they did not quarrel over this one so he called it rejovot so he found another one and then what did he do what his father does every time i got this book give him something blessed bless hashem yeah what about all the difficulties why does that make you work so hard until you finally give your bonus up apparently i need to work hard if i didn't need to work hard then i could do this but wouldn't that make me work hard if it needed to come easy for me then hashem would have sent me easy if i needed to work hard that means i needed to work hard because who decides if i need to work hard not me i just try i am responsible for effort so now that i got the panasonic yeah but it could have come easier no it couldn't have why couldn't have because if it could have gotten easier it would have come easier if a caddos because the crease for it to come easier nothing in the world can stop it these people didn't steal for me who took it because it didn't belong to me a person understands that only kindness will surround them so it looks like isabel is winning because they keep taking stuff from us but don't worry because give us the blessing we keep going we keep going now another teaching we have we learned in uh saint chapter 26 verse 27 where it says that abimelech came back all of a sudden he wants to be friends with itzhak and he has the to make it seem as if like he's his friend we've indeed seen that hashem has been with you let's make an oath between us just like we didn't molest you we haven't done anything bad to you we're only good to you you'll do good to us now blessed them but meaning they forgot about the fact they stole them they cheated them and everything else this fulfills the verse that uh that we haven't seen someone has confidence in hashem only kindness was around them but how is a bunch of crooked people coming and telling you that they only did good to you when they really did bad to you and they want to be partners with you they want to help you they want to be friends with you how is that because it fulfills another prophecy what prophecy is is happy with your actions even his enemies will come and say i'm sorry when you see a prophecy come to life in your own life in your own eyes that's quesadilla that's kindness it's kindness you see my enemies came and said i'm sorry i see the torah come to life and because of that it's hard let it go no problem we'll do it we'll do it okay yeah but they're bad people okay but they said i'm sorry said i'm sorry you let it go of course she doesn't trust them blindly he says no problem there's no need to fight he lets it go like he did before they leave him in peace and that says [Music] as soon as they leave these ticks that pretend to be his friends but in reality they're just trying to take advantage of him he knows that who's the one who runs the world as soon as they leave they leave in peace there's no war anymore unnecessarily what happened but so my they find another treasure they find more water water is like oil today diamonds or whatever else is worth a lot and this particular verse has a prophecy in it that perhaps we haven't seen in previous years the way we see it today what's the prophecy this place that it finds water this blessing that he gets for letting things go and simply having a hundred percent hashem this particular place gives a prophecy to us not just that if we trust in hashem the same way we'll also get good but also look at this that the blessing will last forever how do we see it and he named the shiva and therefore the name of the city is until this very day the torah that was written 3 334 years ago says because he found it this way and it came in such a blessing he named it shiva and because it was named shiva this place of water the whole city was called beer sheva okay thank you very much no no what's the prophecy prophecy is it's called baalsheva until this day meaning never in history will this place ever change your name you go to heaven israel you'll find a place called being shiva yeah but they can call it oculus they call it pikachu they can call it uh whatever they wanna call it they call it i don't like they call it meta like facebook they're going to call google why don't they change the name because who says this is a sign that when i give a blessing for someone else beat the holy me the blessing is permanent the blessing is permanent they do not have the power to change the name of the city until this day 3000 years later what fake book can say such a thing obviously this is divinely inspired this is a divinely inspired book this prophecy alone is enough to prove any normal person that there is a hundred percent divine prophecy in the sephiroth this could not have been given by mankind this is only by god because a human being that's a man-made book it's it's a fake book cannot make such a promise to say that in 3 000 years from now this place that i call pikachu is gonna still be called pikachu the reality is most people their names don't stay the same usually people change their names once or twice during their life first he's called joey then joe then jonathan then juju jupiter whatever they're called jookim anger during his life he's called 50 names a guy's name during one life changes his name a girl a shimmy small she'll change her name 500 times especially if she is a couple she wants to go to every rabbi and he gives a new name people's lives change their names people's uh everything their addresses change so to say that there is a place in the torah that says this place in the world will never change its name four thousand years since the time of itsakabinu has passed and the name of the place is still the same they can go right now government documents change it that's it it's a mistake will never happen why once it's written in torah no power in the world can change it no power in the world can change at all time if that's not clear proof that the torah is from the hand of akadosh that decides what reality is now lives in reality the torah is what decides what reality is which means that if it's written that is reality your perception is irrelevant reality is what's written in tula says looked at the blueprint that is the torah all the rules that are in it and then created the world in the torah there's a rule of kosher ukraine kosher animals kosher fish kosher birds in the uh it says that as that family purity so you meet the female with a time of the month a menstrual cycle in a torah it talks about there's a place called baal sheba therefore there will be a verse in the torah that is being shiva and that place will never change why because god says until today what day four thousand years ago no today now now today now tomorrow now next year now in a thousand years will always be called beersheba this is amazing if you really understand it but just like just like abu takarin there is this reality because it is written in a torah there is also another reality another reality that will put all of the pieces together that we've talked about we've talked about we've talked about these missionaries we've talked about the divine nature of the torah we've talked about all of these people look like they're winning this asap these heretics these amaleks look like they're winning what is the secret of amino what is the secret of the dawsons what is the secret of one for israel what is the secret of these missionaries these heretics these manases this maze us what's the secret of all of these wicked people another prophecy that's in the torah in the narration says there's a story when yaakov comes to get a blessing but he has to pretend like he's asav he has to pretend like he's asa because they serve as a criminal asav is a liar asav is an a crooked corrupt person although he sold the firstborn rights he reneged on it even though there's no reneging although he knows he's living a lie he continues to live it although he knows the torah says there's only one god he wants to believe in a human being he's an isagasha knows what am i going to do what am i going to do with this guy i got to get the blessing from what am i going to do he goes to ima he goes to the torah and his ema says to him you have to play the way he plays you have to play the way he plays here you have to pretend like you're him look like he's out in order to get that blessing she puts on he subs clothing on him and now yaakov comes to his father hitchcock was about to have a prophecy to give his son an eternal blessing not just for him but for all of his descendants until this day and until the end of the world this is not a blessing of being one day this is not uh good good luck with uh getting married no no this is a prophecy and in essence this is decreeing what will be in the world because this is written in the torah just like beer sheva and if it's written therefore it becomes reality the blessing that he will get will become the reality of the world hence the reason why he insists to go get the blessing and his mom pushes him the law of the torah pushes him to go get the blessing it's yours you got it you did a deal he sold it it's your firstborn rights you have to go get it even though he doesn't want to let you do it even though he's going to get in the way go get it go get it and in the process of this whole story the torah gives us a prophecy a rule of nature a rule of nature of why are winning or looks like they're winning why do they keep getting new customers why would anybody go to an amino or one for israel why kolko yakov because the aminos and the one for israel's and the mesas and the goldbergs and the manases and the trolls and all of these reshame they have the voice of yaakov but their hands their actions are isaf all of the naive people all of the ignorant people who do not know torah fall prey to these people why do they fall prey because they don't know that it's not just sounding like yaakov you have to act like yaakov so what happens one for israel comes to them or amino comes to them omaza comes to them and he sounds like yakov he says god he says god he says torah he says jew he says all types of key words that the average ignoramus said wow this guy is knowledgeable sadiq he even sometimes has a beard he even sometimes has this little prayer he's even looks like a haseed he's a dawson kareem these criminals will continue on winning in certain aspects against the people that make themselves the victims how you make yourself victim you didn't learn to lie you didn't learn torah you'll fall pray for these people you'll fall pray for these people they'll fool you they'll pretend like it's they'll say certain things to you and you'll think that they're the key you think they're good people you think that they're honest but in reality they're liars in reality they're thieves in reality they are a self and a kadosh he knows the truth and he still goes after the falsehood because of his physical addiction hence the reason why he's called edom if you want to protect yourself from these spiritual terrorists these criminals the only way is by chasing the truth of the torah and learning as much as you possibly can to know what the truth is at all times and glue yourself glory yourself to the truth glue yourself to the source of truth to the rabbi that you have glue yourself to the holy torah and protect yourself from all of these voices that sound like yaakov but the actions the actions of asaf this is the only way that we can protect ourselves from all of these people this will give us the tools necessary to be proud of this holy war that is necessary for us to survive with that being said you guys can ask some questions after i get a little drink ah let's see joe's asking is asav yeshua going to reconcile with his twin brother yakov uh reconcile meaning they're going to be friends again no there is a um that says that asav tries to break into heaven but hashem kicks him out because asav is evil and therefore evil cannot exist in heaven even though he had uh he says that he had a merit of uh kibut ava'im hashem says your merit of kibbutz is fake just like your actions why how is it because unlike people hashem says them i know it's in your mind i know it's in your mind and you really didn't honor your parents you really didn't honor your father why because your father loved you but he also loved your brother yaakov but as soon as you saw the yaakov got the blessing you said in your mind it says in the torah says adversity over here [Music] verse 41. he says harvard hatred towards yacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him and they sought thought meaning this was in the heart of asav and it's still written in which shows us a proof that aka who knows what the thoughts of man a south thought may the days of mourning for my father draw near then i will kill my brother yaakov meaning what kind of person that says he honors his father wishes for him to die so you didn't honor your father you honored your desires and as soon as your desires were interfered by your father's will you wished for your father to die so for that even for that merit that you thought you had there really wasn't any merit and therefore there is no heaven for asav he is the tomb of the tuma uh dennis is asking how does a person know if someone they've met is their life and their life is their potential uh on the other hand a test from yet that says the potential she do if she's modest monotheistic but that's because she's muslim okay so if you are jewish if you are jewish then uh you know then you are not going to meet some random person uh in the street and say oh this could be my my soul mate if you're jewish you're a religious jew then you would go on a shidduch meaning that you are going on a date with somebody with a intention of discovering whether you are going to agree to get married after a certain amount of dates of getting to know each other there is no physicality whatsoever there's no intimacy there's no holding hands there's no kisses there's nothing you simply go and you talk to a person as many times as it requires to know if you're on the both both on the same page in order to build a home together and for all of those people that think no but what about falling in love don't you need to be physical in order to fall in love no in fact it's the opposite of what the torah says where do we learn that from last week which says that in chapter 24 verse uh 67 and itzhak bought her meaning rifka brought her into the tent of sarah his mother he married rifka she became his wife and he loved her meaning that only after he married her and she became his wife meaning they consummated the marriage only then there were there was love brought into the world so you cannot consummate a marriage without getting married so if you're a jew you're going to meet somebody and see if you're on the same page if you have the same ideology and goals in life then and obviously there's some you know attraction there then you guys can decide to get married and then the love will follow after you get married there is no love beforehand the only thing that exists before marriage is lust love does not exist before you get to know somebody on their worst days and on their best days and you're not gonna get to know that while you're still uh dating even if you're dating for 10 years hence the reason why many people that date a certain person call them their boyfriend their girlfriend for five six seven eight years end up getting divorced four or five months after marriage they dated and acted like they were married for five ten years but five months after really getting married they got divorced why because all they had when they were dating and doing things that were against the torah was lust and that's what the satan was allowing to to exist the lust was going to carry them but once it uh the uh uh they were following what torah says that lust wasn't going to keep them going that loss wasn't going to keep them going it has to there has to be some love so that love requires a lot of patience requires a lot of uh character development requires a lot of selflessness and so on and so forth uh requires you to watch this you from last week about [ __ ] by requires a lot of good things so that type of love is developed so if you're a jew you're going to go through that way if you're a non-jew you still technically should you know need to go through a similar route not necessarily a shidduch system i don't know if there's a uh a structured system in the non-jewish world i mean i know there are matchmakers uh that that get people to meet each other but they're usually very very expensive and you know really catering to wealthy people uh but if you want to meet somebody the best way to meet somebody in the non-jewish sec you know world is to be introduced to them uh be introduced to them by family friend by uh you know if you're part of some type of uh uh group that of like-minded individuals and of course you want to make sure this person has again the same ideology as you just like a jew would meaning they have to have the same beliefs as you and they want to have the same goals but if she believes in jesus and you believe in god obviously this is not going to work out you're going to have a very miserable marriage and unfortunately many people that have left christianity and uh their their spouse did not most of the time it ends up being a very very uh miserable marriage that ends up in divorce why because those ideologies cannot coexist in in harmony so you have option a get divorced option b try to help this person discover the truth and uh and get them to go you know jump on the bandwagon which is very difficult but possible uh an option c is do nothing about it and stay married to person that has completely opposite beliefs that you do and pretend like you guys are still in harmony which is really uh impossible but people pretend like they do because they don't want to suffer the pain of uh divorce uh not realizing that the the pain that they're causing themselves by staying is sometimes even worse uh so as far as meeting somebody in the secular world generally speaking it's a good if you could be introduced to them uh or if you could meet them in a some type of uh group study group or something that is not just uh you know like um you know a bar or something don't meet don't meet your potential spouse in a bar or some uh strange public place and the reason why i say that is because even though there are obviously some marriages that happen in you know that start from those places many times those types of relationships lead to promiscuity and lead to a lot of problems because if she met you at some bus stop and she said okay uh so quickly then she probably did the same thing with other people uh and if he said okay so quickly then they probably did the same thing with other people and you may not care about that on day one but you may actually care about that on day 300 uh a year later so that's the thing people need to understand that if you're going to meet somebody uh in some random place generally speaking it's it's going to be very difficult to see uh clearly because usually the things that carry those types of meetings are lust and not a clear head where you're looking for somebody with the same ideology so it's again i think today it's easier to meet people that are like-minded because of the internet and different tools that hashem put into the world uh there are plenty of uh noahide groups on on facebook and on the internet in general where people are communicating so i'm sure you could find somebody there uh and then again it's it's not easy but i wouldn't uh ever recommend for anybody to settle for something less meaning just because you're lonely doesn't mean you need to marry an idol worshiper or somebody that hates your beliefs because that's just asking for for problems it's better to be uh lonely than to be miserable with with somebody else and uh and again i know i know some people believe the opposite it's brother rather to be miserable with somebody else than lonely but if you're alone but you have some type of harmony then you continue learning torah continue serving hashem and peace and continue growing and just wait for the blessing to come at some point whereas if you're just pushing and pressing the envelope and just falling for the trap of the etzera and end up uh going with somebody that has the opposite ideology to you it's gonna be very very hard for you to continue growing and most likely you'll end up falling with that person so you have to be patient you have to be selective and uh you have to pray to asha to give you the blessing that uh you know that that you need uh and that you want now as far as uh as far as dating in general i think that uh one of the greatest things that judaism teaches is that there's no intimacy before marriage uh and i think that should apply for everybody not just uh for for jews simply because if you're intimate before marriage then it's very hard very very hard to think clearly if this person is right for you because you have lust in you whether you like it or not uh so if if you haven't started already uh then you shouldn't start and i see that people that we we have the students and different people that we know when they go and try to meet somebody to get married the people that are uh that are reserved themselves or preserve themselves uh and did not allow themselves to be public property tend to have a much easier time making a decision of moving forward or not uh the people that have been very promiscuous in their life uh tend to have a lot of trouble finding a person and mainly because they've corrupted their mind with so much garbage that no one can ever live up to their expectations he has seen so many women in in in their in the clothes they wear in the shower that uh you know he simply no one could ever live up to his expectations that he has from seeing the movies and the internet and the real life that he put himself into and no woman in the world can live up to that where she'll be at sadika menu but also look like this prostitute that he wants her to be no one can ever live up to that everyone has some type of deformity in his eyes and the same thing goes with women she women that have been promiscuous have a very hard time finding somebody that will uh will live up to the expectations because they all had at some point some uh some uh sugar daddy that pretty much gave their everything until he threw her away and uh and no one is willing to do the same thing for her so no one can ever live up to this do whatever you want mentality and and again it's it's a nightmare it's a nightmare and it's also very very hard for other reasons uh so the more you preserve yourself the easier it will be for you uh to uh to make that choice when the time comes if you've already made mistakes that doesn't mean you have to continue making them so that's another thing but each person that is looking to uh serve hashem and uh and and uh do the right thing hashem will send them the blessings when the time comes uh adrian is asking why does avraham and eliezer do a uh touching the uh leg the brit if no man could ever touch or even look at his own bleed worse if it's another man's beat does not lead to homosexuality how is this understood ah very very good so there is it is a very good question uh now the reason why people uh view certain things in certain ways is because of what they've gone through in their life meaning was so holy that he viewed his blit as the holiest part of his body and when it comes to sexuality uh or sensuality he did not view it any different than you view your you know finger his finger and his bleed when it came to that were the same thing was irrelevant he view it viewed it as a holy thing something that was holy and the most prized possession that he has and that's the reason why multiple times in the torah we see that it's the the brit is used as the way to make a covenant where avraham makes a covenant with eliezel uh uh jacob makes a covenant with yourself multiple times in a torah we see that the hand goes under the brit uh the end of the other person goes under the blit uh to say this is the uh uh uh the most prized possession that i have which in essence means that this deal is a of similar value is of similar importance uh and that's why there is no fear of homosexuality and uh and and filth in a torah now we no longer do this anymore but that's because of unfortunately our many sins that people have sinned so much uh by corrupting their mind to such an extent that the average person cannot even understand the words that just came out of my mouth how can you look at a breed as a holy thing the average person cannot actually understand what that means because the average person has corrupted their mind with so much pornography with so much promiscuity with so much filth that they're simply incapable of thinking with purity this is the same concept of what is written in in a few places where there is a uh certain things that are discussed about the male member of uh certain sadiq about the male member of nebuchadnezzar as a punishment and all types of things that if a person is pure they understand the purity at its purest form if a person is not pure then they will look at it in a distorted fashion now again you don't need to feel bad if you look at it in a distorted fashion this is simply an outcome of society and this is the goal that we have each one of us is to achieve what's called kedusha kedusa means holiness and holiness begins with our perception of sensuality the more a person views sensuality as a holy thing the purer their mind is the further they'll run away from sins and in fact the more they will find the sinful behavior simply revolting and disgusting not forbidden but disgusting which is much worse forbidden everybody knows a lot of things that are forbidden but they still do it but disgusting people generally don't go towards the disgusting and the goal of every person is to cleave to hashem in such a manner that they find immodesty disgusting they find homosexuality disgusting hashem says homosexuality bestiality and several other things are called an abomination an abomination means it's hashem calls it disgusting disgusting means that it's to the average person the equivalent of somebody else's vomit on top of a dead animal in the street that's disgusting disgusting is you know opening your fridge and seeing i don't know some pig stomach uh open over there on top of your food uh full of maggots and worms that's disgusting uh disgusting is uh all types of uh human filth uh all over the place or or or dogs or all types of animals that's disgusting to most people a person is supposed to have some type of visual of some of the things that i mentioned or the like in their mind at the time that they see things that are disgusting to hashem such as immorality immodesty homosexuality all of these things that hashem says are disgusting a person needs to look at them as disgusting and anything that hashem says is holy they need to view it as holy meaning that if a person really achieves kedusa or is trying to achieve kedusha that means that when they see a woman that is has beautiful features attractive women according to all uh uh standards if you will but she's walking around with imada's clothes the average person is getting aroused from this but that's because they have a filthy disgusting mind full of tuma the holy person will view this as disgusting why because he knows that hashem finds it disgusting and therefore this person if she doesn't do chuba she will get burned in genome her skin will melt all of the members of our body pieces of our body will fall out be rebuilt fall out be rebuilt she'll feel all of it there'll be worms maggots and all types of creatures coming in and out of her body especially the orifices that she tried to uh to embellish and so on and so forth in so many words what we talked about in showbiz a person that sees an e modest woman really needs to think like that really needs to think this is a very very sad case i feel bad for the woman because she's just so disgusting i don't know how she lives with herself now the average person is looking at this girl as if she's uh god's gift to creation he can't even look at her because he's so revolted by her that's a holy person now this is not very common because not everybody works on kadusha but this is the goal secondly a person that is trying to be holy in comparison to a person that's not a person that's not holy looks at sensuality between him and his wife as simply a way to meet his desires or meet her desires they have a desire they need to satisfy it and as soon as they satisfy it if the other person could simply disappear that would be ideal uh it's that's unfortunately the way people look at sensuality uh that's also the way it's being taught by some so-called rabbis like and manus friedman all these people that teach sensuality they teach it in such a fashion that they make you start thinking like a somebody from a pornography film it's disgusting now a person that looks at his wife or the husband as simply a way to satisfy their desires as the priority in life as the main thing is only one throw away from being a rapist only one throw away from being a pedophile only one throw away from being a a wife beater only one throw away from being a adulterer and every other type of criminal out there why because as soon as that desire is not met by that partner they will look for it elsewhere it's just a reality that's when a divorce rate is so high and why adultery is so high both men and women are cheating on each other because they view each other as simply flesh that will allow them to meet their desire and many times they have a desire that's greater than the other person and therefore they go elsewhere for it either for pornography or they go to other people or a combination thereof but either way it's a disgusting lifestyle and a person that understands what i just said and watch the tikkuna blit movie and and really takes that into their life understand okay i don't want this okay so what do you want what you want is you want to look at the act between a man and a woman that are not married as disgusting revolting gross whatever you view as gross view that as gross the the act between a man and his wife when she's nida grows disgusting horrible and so on and so forth but the act between a man and his wife when she is pure she went to the mikvah and and and they're permitted to be with each other that's holy that is holy that is something that brings the kedusha to the world that is something that is beautiful it's holy the fact that it's enjoyable is just simply kindness from hashem but this even without the pleasure is supposed to be pleasurable because of the amount of holiness that a person is creating and just like a person enjoys observing the sabbath learning torah eating kosher food or whatever it is that they whatever meat sprout that they enjoy they're supposed to enjoy the creation of holiness in such a fashion is that they are actually enjoying it beyond beyond just the fact that there's another piece of body that is uh uh next to them or or or or with them so a person that understands that this is creating holiness in the world knows that every aspect of it is holy including the things that other people view as as as uh you know lustville it's okay to enjoy it it's okay to do everything as long as a person doesn't waste seed the rats with the rambam baskins have a whole sure about kosher intimacy it's there's nothing wrong with enjoying it but there's something wrong with enjoying it for the wrong reason meaning that a person simply has filthy thoughts in their mind if a person is with his wife and he's thinking of another woman that's like an adulterer and says that's uh it's a doubt if in heaven they consider that child like a momsel it's a meaning that what's in the mind of a person is of extraordinary importance of extraordinary importance if a woman thinks of another man while she's with her husband there is a very serious problem if a child comes out of that there was actually a a famous story where there was a a woman that uh that gave birth and uh and the baby was uh of dark complexion and uh the the husband which was a king uh was white he wanted to kill his wife they asked i i believe it was rabia kiva to uh to get involved and uh rabbi akiva saw that this is actually his child but how do you prove it to the king he asked him some questions and the question the question do you have a picture of of somebody in your bedroom and they said yes who do you have a picture and i saw they have a picture of somebody of dark complexion and that's what the woman was looking at when she was intimate without with a husband and this actually happened even recently in recent years there's a uh stories that are similar to that the point being is is that if a couple is together and they're they're they're doing something as a mitzvah they're doing something for the sake of holiness they're doing something as this is another way that we're serving hashem the whole thing is beautiful the whole thing is holy the whole thing is enjoyable uh regardless of what the age is regardless of the the amount of time it takes regardless of of of anything else it literally becomes a blessed act when people are thinking of filthy things in their mind he's thinking about somebody else she's thinking about somebody else he's thinking about uh this she's thinking about hopefully he's gonna finish soon so i can go back to cooking uh he's thinking about uh when the game is about to start uh she's thinking about i can't believe i have to do this error you know after month you know their minds are in the wrong places of course this is not going to be holy and needless to say it's probably not going to be fun either so a person needs to look at the intimacy between him and his wife as another way to serve hashem no different than a kohen that brings a koban to the better mikdash this is no different this is no different than that now you say wait a minute but that's holy and this is also holy kedusha is also holy and in fact you're going to say wait but this is really intimate and maybe it's ugly so what are you telling me that uh slicing the throat of an animal is a beautiful thing in the eyes of hashem yes because says that hashem enjoys the smell what does it mean hashem enjoys the smell he doesn't hashem doesn't enjoy smells or sights but rather hashem enjoys seeing his children obey him so when they do a sacrifice hashem enjoys it meaning hashem is happy that we're doing his will because therefore he can give us good so just like to the average person seeing a slaughtering of a cow uh as it could be gruesome but if you did it in a better manner it becomes beautiful why because you've sanctified the material the same concept with intimacy between a man and a wife if you've sanctified the whole act you prayed before you were together you uh you read tayleen you studied some torah you prayed to hashem you even have a hashem in mind when you're together this sabotage becomes a holy act that's beautiful that's pleasant that is much much greater than anything the secular filthy disgusting world can ever offer you but again it has to be done in a certain way it has to be done a certain way which begins with cleaning our mind the cleaner the mind the more pleasant the outcome the less clean the more filth is generated and this is also one of the difficulties that people have that leads them to cheat on their spouses even if they love them he says i love her but he still cheats on her either with pornography or with a real person or both how could you say i love you and still cheat on a person simple their physical needs have taken priority to their to their emotional uh connection so a person that only thinks about things in a materialistic uh way is bound to do things that are against his and everybody else's interest but a person that is uh tries to sanctify the material sanctify the physicality is a person that's going to bring a lot of good to themselves and a lot of good to the world so much so that they'll even understand and that's it that's that when the seed of the husband goes inside the wife even if it doesn't generate a baby it actually brings good to the marriage brings good specifically to the wife so again there's is uh things that probably uh uh need further uh discussion uh and privacy but nonetheless there's more than just uh the uh the uh the animalistic desire is is my point if a person is simply looking to fulfill an animalistic desire hashem have mercy on them may they have mercy on themselves because they're bound to uh to uh to reach a peak and then it's downhill from there divorce happens adultery happens uh uh all types all the bad things in the world happen to people like that but when a person looks at the act between him and his wife as something holy they literally sanctify the material she looks forward to more than just being with a husband he looks forward to more than just being with his wife there is more to it there is something holy in it i don't know how to explain it better than i did i hope that this is reaching somebody's uh neshama and they're understanding what i'm trying to tell them uh let's see robert is asking how do we instill confidence in our children while still trying to teach them humility uh one of the best things to teach children is uh the the stories of the sages you know when the younger their kids are uh the more you have to teach them through stories and not a direct uh direct explanation because many times children don't view uh things the way their parents do they don't see what they're doing is wrong um so uh but if you uh you know help them think and analyze things in a way that they could arrive at the uh at the right conclusion then you'll help them arrive at what's right and wrong so when you teach them the stories of the different sadiq that have lived throughout the history and bokeh there are many they'll learn how to behave through those stories they'll learn that he was generous therefore they'll want to be generous they'll learn that he or she was humble therefore they'll want to be humble so if if you uh if you teach your kids through stories then the kids are gonna learn what they what to admire and what they wanna be uh but just tell a kid listen you have to be confident you have to be humble it's it's very hard for for a child to really grasp that uh until they really reach maturity but at that point it's usually more difficult to teach uh you have to start early and the best way to do this two stories uh i'm early in the process of converting uh not living in a jewish community yet and some of my neighbors have mezuzah but do not seem observant okay what's a good way to approach them to do key roof i've never talked to them before but often see them while walking my dog uh the best way to do things is if you have uh some cds or some uh flyers that we have or you know you put it in their mailbox if uh if not then you can order some if you can't order some then uh or you live too far and it's too expensive or whatever the case may be then you could uh somehow find a way to meet these people uh you know over time but uh if you want to let's say to meet a lot someone let's say if you have i don't know 20 neighbors to me 20 people could take a very long time uh if you want to do it faster simple just uh you can make a uh homemade flyer or something if you have no money you have no uh uh a way to afford anything there's no way to get you anything simply you're like in the middle of no uh end of the world or something and you happen to live next to jewish people which is rare but i'm giving a hypothetical scenario to just you know take a uh pen and marker and write a note anonymous note with a website and put it in their mailbox and you can do that with 20 or 50 or 100 people if you want but generally speaking the best way to do it is by giving people cds or usbs or all types of other material that's usually the best way to do it because since they don't know you uh it's very unlikely that they're going to be receptive to you telling them that they should start observe the sabbath or anything else they don't know who you are and especially if you're not even jewish yet it's virtually impossible for a jew uh to to listen to someone that's a non-jew for uh about about torah uh when when they're not already uh in it to begin with it's you know it's the ego gets in the way who are you to tell me you're not even jewish that's the mindset even though you can be right about everything that you're saying and you are right about everything that you're saying the average person that's ignorant is automatically going to assume they know more than you just because of the fact that they were born jewish which of course is wrong but that's unfortunately their ego talking not not their uh their brain so you have to know that already ahead of time and the best way to do roof with people like that is too like i said get some cds some flyers put them in their mailbox uh if you have the uh you know if you have the means buy them a key roof package put it in their mailbox uh you could even give it to them in their hand if you want but try to do what's what i call indirect curve meaning you're giving them the material uh uh you know we're actually you know gonna be the ones that teach them so at least they're not intimidated by some stranger talking to them that's not jewish and that they don't necessarily care to get a rebuke from next uh can a jew or noah hide lead a known idol worshipper in prayer if they know the idol worshiper is thinking of an idol can a jew or no height lead a known idol worshiper in prayer what do you mean lee denied a worshiper what does that even mean if the person is uh an idol worshiper why is he praying with you why i mean if you're a jew and you're praying let's say there's 10 jews in a room and they're praying and then an idol worshiper comes in and he wants to pray to his jesus he wants to pray to his buddha the jews can continue praying and simply act as if this idol worshiper doesn't exist they don't have to leave the room because he is praying to some idol uh the place doesn't become an uh a place of idolatry just because he walked into it they continue praying as much as they want but if you're talking about uh something else then i'm not understanding the question i think i understood it but that's my answer joshua is asking what's the difference between the takana and allah very good question is the decided law that most of the time is already decided at the time of mount sinai and um the uh there's al had moshe where we have certain rules that we know from moses and there are certain allah certain laws that were interpreted by the sages throughout the years that of the the sages of the magazines of mishnah and so on that we have the laws from there and then uh of course we have today all jews that are observant follow what the shukha naguru that's the law that was decided either at mount sinai or to the interpretation of the by the sages using the the uh unique rules in order to decipher allah uh you can't just decide what it is just because you like something you can't just decide it's blue even though it's pink because you like blue better yeah there are certain rules that the sages had to follow in order to arrive at the specific conclusion and that's the same thing with uh people that are posex today where they're interpreting the pre-existing alaka and applying it to a specific situation they're not creating any nua they're just interpreting how the existing allah applies to specific situations that are not obvious such as you know how fire uh and not being allowed to light fire on the sabbath applies to uh not being allowed to drive on the sabbath and so on so that's allah takana takana is supposed to be a uh a uh a i guess an addition or a specific change that is uh could be even contrary to allah contrary to allah for a specific amount of time uh it's not usually supposed to be forever it's supposed to be for a specific amount of time and typically it's for the sake of protecting israel and the torah uh it's not something that's supposed to be in perpetuity and it's uh it's not something that is uh supposed to uh just be taken lightly it's uh supposed to be something that is uh only done at uh desperate times where the sages of the generation see no other way to resolve a situation no other way to resolve a situation i'll give you a couple of examples the uh uh the uh syrian jews uh saw that there is a lot of intermarriage in their uh in their communities and a lot of uh you know young syrian boys were finding themselves in relationships with non-jewish girls that were interested in converting to judaism but not for the right reasons they were interested in converting to judaism just because they wanted to be with the guy they wanted money they wanted things that had nothing to do with god and uh the the leaders of the syrian community saw that there were many uh bad conversions being made uh and there was no way to simply uh get you know convince people to do good conversions so the the sages of the generation this happened almost 100 years ago uh they uh made what's called takana in order to and forbid all conversions in the community meaning any syrian jew that that marries a convert is in essence supposed to be kicked out of the community uh and not accepted uh as as part of the community now this was technically supposed to last for a period of time not forever and was was actually a very effective tool that uh slowed down into marriage in the syrian community dramatically the problem is that they never removed this takana uh and the takana uh has turned into a uh something that's not exactly uh protecting into marriage as much as he used to and even more so it's actually sometimes creating hatred among jews where uh instead of it being used as a tool to uh to protect the syrian community itself from intermarrying uh it's become a uh a uh a tool that uh certain types of syrian jews misuse to insult other people uh by let's say for example somebody that converted a legitimate conversion somewhere else he's not a syrian jew he's let's say somebody that was born in spain or somebody that was born in uh bulgaria or colombia or wherever he was born russia and he out of the goodness of his heart out of the uh goodness of her heart out of the uh you know desire to serve hashem discovered the truth and decided to convert had nothing to do with any syrian jew had nothing to do with any anything just simply they want to serve hashem and unfortunately many times these people uh come to the uh syrian community and are uh are kicked out uh asked to leave insulted uh mistreated frowned upon and you know and and you could add whatever adjective you want and most likely will fit at some story so uh it's it's become an ugly thing why because they think oh we don't accept converts yeah you don't accept converts among yourself not if somebody else come converted somewhere else to accept a convert that's a righteous convert that he did it somewhere else or she did it somewhere else there's a biblical obligation to do so a biblical obligation to do so in fact there's 36 places in the torah it says how much you have to love the convert and how much hashem loves the convert even more than a natural-born jew uh and uh how he protects the converts so uh unfortunately a lot of ignoramuses and uh and idiots have turned this act of of of of protection for the syrian community into a uh a weapon of mass destruction uh you know of hurting other converts and and it's not once or twice that i've heard uh arrogant ignorant idiots tell me uh that uh they wanted to remind me that they're syrian and you know in a syrian community we don't accept converts meaning that i wouldn't be accepted or somebody one of my students wouldn't be accepted or somebody that i know wouldn't be accepted because they're a convert people like that it's doubtful if they have a share of the world to come doubtful most likely not uh most likely not but it's doubtful doubt for them they can't say 100 because the amount of damage that they do with such a statement which of course is not the only statement they make is so uh if they literally murder people with such statements when you tell a a you know a female convert that is not related to your key law is not looking to marry any of you simply they're there they're at a i don't know a mutual an event that you both find yourself in and you tell this convert oh you know i'm searing we don't accept converts you're simply murdering this person in cold blood and the same thing if they do it to guys you're murdering this kid in cold blood and this is a this is a horrible horrible thing that is unfortunately common it's common i've seen it i've heard it i've even had a story that i've told publicly where i had a student went to a uh uh a mikveh uh here in florida and uh when uh the uh the uh the rabbi of tequila found out that she's a convert he kicked her out of the mikveh kicked the woman out of a mikveh so i mean this is murder this is not this is not a uh takana this is not what the holy sages of the holy syrian community meant or intended this is idiots that unfortunately do it but some of those idiots are rabbis some of those idiots are just average ignoramuses that think that they are a better breed of jew than other people people like this are people that it's a mitzvah to uh to to go against them and to do everything possible to uh to to show them that they're uh fakers and they're not following what the sages said and most of the time you see that those people violate the torah in much much worse ways uh they think that oh i'm not marrying uh you know i'm not allowing conversions but you end up seeing these people go to a mixed beach or mix dancing or uh or eating tare for going to casinos or stealing in their business and a million have other crimes that you see them doing but shalom they ever accept the convert so a takana is supposed to be made for the sake of protecting a community but again it's not intended to be a permanent thing although some of them are long-lasting it's not supposed to be a permanent thing and it's in essence a a move that the sages decree because it's the only option i'll give you another example that's in the gemara uh the gemara says that there was a uh at the time of yanai yeah the the uh the time of the greeks the greeks forbid uh the jews from uh uh using hashem's name and anything and uh after the hashmonaem defeated the greeks the uh uh what ended up happening is that this the sages and and the people wanted to make up for lost time but they weren't allowed to put hashem's name everywhere so they made up a uh a custom if you will that put hashem's name everywhere now the sages saw that this turned out bad why did it turn out bad because they started noticing that people are putting hashem's real name you know in uh you know saying uh leon the the the uh the the the uh the king of uh the uh of heaven uh you know they were using hashem's uh real name or one of the you know one of the holy names of hashem on traditional documents that would go into the garbage you know they would put it on different types of standard letters you know all right listen uh uh i want to buy three horses from you signed moshe the son of the master of the world and the god and they send to the guy gets the letter oh he wants to buy a few horsemen okay fine he throws in the garbage rights the guy let her back he's also he puts god's name on it this became obviously a uh a desecration of hashem's name but the the average person did not see this that way the sages did so the sages made a takana that you're not allowed to use hashem's name at all at all on any of these documents and when they saw that the people listened to them and stopped using hashem's name they decreeded a yomtov meaning once they saw people stop doing it they said this is a big celebration we'll make this into a yomtov so the question is why would this turn into a yomtov i mean they listen to the rabbis what's the problem rashi says that they turned their sages decreed in a yomtov because they didn't think that the people were going to listen uh to a rebuke and therefore when they saw that everybody listened to the rebuke they viewed it nothing short of a miracle and therefore if it's a miracle just like the miracle of hanukkah just like the miracle of puim just a miracle of kriyatyam soof it's a miracle it needs to turn into a yomtov so this was also again a takana and there are others that are similar to our history uh the point being is is that when you have the sages that are uh you know that are uh uh holy and are able to put it in place remove it educate their people about how to use it then it's perfectly fine and recommended for each community uh to have whatever taken out they deem necessary there's no problem with it whatsoever but when you have ignoramuses uh and arrogant people and so you know self-interest uh starting to to push their weight around in order to uh do things that creates a lot of problems so again there's a lot of good in the syrian community don't want to say that the whole thing is bad as i called it already several times it's a holy community there's a lot of good things that they do but this is one of the ugly things that is there that's well known to other communities and i'll tell you even a side story that one time just to show you how how how uh uh uh hypocritical people are how hypocritical people i one time uh was in abedin i was in a bed dean and uh i brought one of my students to to uh to bed dean and um they asked me to sit on the bed dean also and i said no problem and uh but then i realized that it's not just for my student it's for somebody else also so i sat on the bed dean and uh this person wanted to convert and you know we're asking them questions and things and then i you know there was some rabbi that uh that came also but i asked how come he's not on the bad dean and uh i told him why don't you come in a bad dean it's fine you're you know you're a senior to me because he was older than me why don't you come on a bit no no no i can't i can't i said why why can't you he says no i can't you can't even tell anybody i was here why what are we selling crack is it cocaine is it like what you i don't understand he says no i'm part of the syrian community we can't be involved in conversions no one could ever know i'm here and then he tells the guy he said i only came because i respect this guy he's a good guy but uh you know he knows not to tell anybody that i came so this is a hypocrite this is not humility this is not a praisable action it was actually would have been better off had he not come because i think it's a disgrace to act this way to be two-faced that way to think that oh no i'm gonna go honor this guy but five minutes later i'm gonna turn my back then because he's not part of my community this is a joke a mockery of judaism this is not judaism so again you have to call things as they are and this is an ugly ugly thing surely every community has some troll in it some ugliness in it and the job that we have as jews as teachers as individuals is to remove the bad and do good if we ignore the bad like it has been ignored in many places then you have corruption build up drastically higher and become like a amino story where certain people that i talked to about this amino situation know the guy for over 22 years and say that his corruption was already known for over 20 years ago over 20 years ago they knew about his corruption he got fired from starkey khashog because he did something bad over there and everybody knew that he was doing corrupt conversions and doing a blatant mila to goeim i mean it's just such an ugly disgusting story that it seems like everybody knew like no one that i talked to about this story from different communities in israel in uh in new york in florida in arizona it's almost like everybody knew this but nobody said anything or whoever did say which there are a few said the keem that tried fighting it no one wanted to listen everybody want to continue pretending like everything's okay and that's why now you have literally a small holocaust a small spiritual holocaust happening in front of our eyes that the best case scenario we contain some of the damage to contain all of it is impossible impossible without divine will and major miracles impossible and i'll tell you why this amino criminal you have to understand the the magnitude of his criminality here to make fake conversions like a asher mesa like a amino like any of these people that either do it for ego or for money or for both you don't understand what kind of like crying this is against the jewish people because what happens is typically who these people convert are people that are not really interested in being righteous converts they're interested in a certificate so they can tell people they have a certificate it's like somebody cheated on the test in order to get a high school diploma or a college diploma that diploma is worth less than toilet paper you could have easily done it for free and not have to pay fifty thousand dollars to get it but people are stupid they go to school just to cheat on a test i never really understood that if you don't want to study the information don't go to school but unfortunately people are dumb and they do dumb things and part of those people go to people like amanov and mesa and go convert with them what's the problem with that why do i have such a beef with those people it's as follows these people convert people that are not interested in really being jews therefore they're not accepting the yoke of the mitzvot at the time of conversion either because they don't even know those meets foot exist they don't know the obligation of observing shabbat they don't know the observation of modesty they don't know the basics of judaism like the minimum minimum requirement they don't know it and even if they did they wouldn't accept it upon themselves because they're not converting for those reasons they're converting for marriage they're converting for money they're converting for i don't know some certificate they're converting for the wrong reasons so that means that they can fool everybody in the world but they can't fool god and therefore that conversion is not valid now that's not bad enough that's not bad enough you see when they pay for that conversion or they celebrate that conversion in some other way they feel jewish because they're ignorant people they don't know what's jewish what's not they don't realize that their their conversion is not acceptable and what ends up happening is that they live telling people that they're jews and those people will eventually have children and those children will think that they're jews even though they'll grow up secular just like their parents they'll think that they're jews they'll think that they're jews they'll say things that are jewish they'll even act jewish at times but according to the torah they are not jewish and what ends up happening is that the further you get from the original conversion the more blurry the picture gets and the kids will grow up they'll be 18 20 25 years old they're gonna want to get married most likely to jewish people so even though they're secular they still like all other nations socialize with each other most often they're going to want to marry jewish people and unless the jewish person that they want to marry is religious and i don't mean just superficially religious modern orthodox religious somewhat religious no no i mean like they are and which means that they are very careful with their neshamot and with their decisions and with who they're marrying and so on so unless they're that what's gonna happen is they're gonna marry just any average jew that doesn't actually know enough about the details of conversion to double check who is the bed dean that converted this person if it's a legitimate dean if it's not a legitimate bed dean and they're going to want to marry this person they're going to marry this person and the jew will marry the non-jew unknowingly having non-jewish kids that think that they're jewish and it literally it becomes a major domino effect and a literally a spiritual holocaust that is already gone to israel already florida already new york surely in arizona because that's people that i'm talking to that are affected by this amenov criminal aren't all of those places where the bukhari communities are in arizona and florida and new york and in israel and there are people all over the place that are victims of this crime and they don't even know that they're victims they don't even see it as victims they see what i converted what's the problem yeah you don't even keep survive senator but i have a certificate says i'm jewish and my kids are jewish they decided they're jewish because they have a certificate and they paid fifteen thousand dollars for it twenty thousand dollars for it especially what the more money they paid for it the more they think it's legitimately certifies that they're jewish so they're literally have a kosher stamp on a pig and this is a spiritual holocaust same same is happening with meza just that he has converted a lot more people i think according to him he converted over a thousand people and uh those people not all of them but hashem but many of them tried to join the jewish communities and unfortunately some of them succeed in joining the jewish communities thinking that they are jewish not realizing that their conversions are not valid and therefore those people will have children that think that they're jewish and they're going to want to marry jewish people and you're going to have jews marrying non-jews unknowingly and this is a tragedy this is a tragedy of the highest proportions so as far as the uh as far as the the these types of things we have to understand that the ramifications of uh these perpetrators are enormous literally enormous and people are not paying attention uh to the magnitude of the damage and it's sad it's sad because it's a uh it's it's it's really such a high proportion it's such a tragedy it's uh you know you meet people and and they think that they're jewish and they're really not and you know and sometimes they don't even know what it means to be jewish they just think it's just you know going to bickness twice a year eating kosher at your house that's it they don't really understand what judaism is so this guy amenov is is a really is a real uh piece of work let's just say that and all the people that do fake conversions are uh are hurting the public and i don't even think that uh you know you uh it's i'm not of the mindset that all conversions have to be uh certified by the ravenous i mean you can have a kosher conversion even if it's not uh a recognized bed deemed by the revenue it's preferable that you do it to a recognized bed deen by the revenue but it doesn't have to be it's just that these people's conversions themselves are not kosher because they themselves are not kosher and the students are not kosher so that's that's that's really the biggest part of the problem the student itself doesn't really know what torah is and and what to do and how to do it and uh they're they're converting them so uh when you have situations like this it creates a lot of problems creates a lot a lot of problems and that's unfortunately a situation where only hashem could really fix such a thing it's sad uh okay okay guys uh it's late yeah i have to get ready for another shoe jerry's asking can you explain a kosher beard trim does the barber have to be thrown can i trim my own beard yes you could trim your own beard uh just uh don't uh shave with a razor against your skin but you could trim your own beard no problem the only thing that it's forbidden for a man to do as far as trimming is uh the pubic area and under the armpits that's forbidden according to not allowed to trim even with scissors the pubic hair or the armpit hair for a guy women of course are allowed to groom themselves in whatever way they want on their faces or anywhere else but men have to be manly and cannot do such things if a person has uh you know like some of the young guys say oh yeah but i smell okay so use a deodorant it's a big scam they make a lot of them use a deodorant that's uh you'll be fine uh deodorant works uh shower more often what can i tell you uh if if a person's itchy then uh you know there's uh talk there's all types of creams there's a million and a half different things it's permissible for no height to learn about kabbalah or learn torah from a torah center or does he have to fully convert i have lectures that are specifically uh discussing the laws uh of uh teaching noahides um noahides generally need to focus on learning the uh the the tanakh five books of moses and the other 19 books with commentary by the sages and musar which is character development everything else such as uh gemara kabbalah all of these other things they should not learn that for multiple reasons one of them is that uh it's part of the oral tala that's it's forbidden for them uh and really another obvious reason is that they won't understand it anyway uh most jews don't understand these topics of kabbalah and anyone that's teaching kabbalah publicly is not really teaching kabbalah they're teaching what you know they're whatever they're teaching they're calling it kabala no one that's a real kabbalist teaches kabbalah uh publicly it's it's it's the word kabbalah itself means that you received meaning that it's only taught from a rabbi directly to a student and most of the time it's one on one one on two at most and most issues it's only one on one no one teaches kabbalah real kabbalah publicly anyone who says they're teaching kabbalah publicly is you know not telling the truth or they themselves don't even know what kabbalah is which most people don't know what real kabbalah is anyway uh what's the significance of yaakov resorting to seemingly deceptive tactics i explained that i think in the shoe where are bad character traits created by us and pre-incarnations uh yeah it's simply the the uh a person that um follows his desires in a certain way in essence develops that desire further gives that desire more strength and that the more strength you give something bad the more it becomes a habit and the more it becomes a habit the more it becomes part of the person's character so when a person has certain things in them already in this life they uh they're they're naturally an angry person they're naturally stingy they're naturally this this means that this was already done in the previous life that they lived they just haven't fixed it and therefore part of the reason of why they're here now is to fix that trait okay i appreciate everybody uh learning with me and uh hashem will continue to learn together next week uh just as a um uh this is a uh thing uh uh next week sunday there's no shior but we'll be back with on uh tuesday on tuesday uh oh last question here simple question jose is asking if it's allowed to have rabbi's portraits at home uh not only loud it's recommended you should have pictures of teddy keem in your house and on the walls it's good for the children to look at it's good for for everybody to look at the faces of teddy keem this is uh definitely a good thing to do again it's never pray to them never look at them while you're praying but to have pictures of tadikim in your house is a very uh very good thing especially if you have uh young people in the house and they see uh teddy kim they know who to admire who to look up to who to want to be like because they see other pictures everywhere else that are full of uh impurity whether it's the billboards or the televisions or the iphones and the ipads and the commercials so at the very least balance the uh the stuff that people see by putting some pictures of tadikima on the wall is definitely good uh good help for the house all right again like i said well uh the next time i see you is gonna be tuesday night [Music] [Applause] [Music] do [Music] a foreign [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] you