Drug Addiction Attacking The Jewish Community Today (Marijuana, Pain Killers, etc)

[Music] glad to be here flew in from Florida this morning because uh had the to uh to come here give a sh we just had a sh in uh in Brooklyn uh very different Shure um tonight I was asked to talk about uh something that's um a very sensitive issue uh in the Jewish world today it's in essence the the elephant in the room that no one really wants to touch and anyone that touches it touches it with a 20ft pole So today we're going to try to touch it with our hands and really get to the bottom of it and the issue is drug addiction drug addiction hitting the Jewish world uh in the old days this wasn't really a uh part of the Jewish world even though oh before I forget go to Shalom David benom and jakov Ben May raise their and may they protect us from up there and fight for us so the um grandparents that we all have were very different than us if you ask your grandfather your grandmother what their childhood was like and if it's similar at all to today they tell you there's nothing close to it in the old days for example what they used to call underwear today we call clothes in the old days when they used to wear a tank top and boxer shorts today people walk around like this women men walk around the street like this feeling 100% confident and comfortable that it's okay for the world to see the exact shape of their body and uh there's a a new style that I'm told about where it's m we're one level away from being completely naked and at this stage we're at a point where this generation that we're living in has to be the generation of the mashia aside from the fact that we're out of time in regards to having all of the signs that the says in and several other places we're going to have several different signs of what's going to happen before the Messiah comes we pretty much have all of the signs except the Messiah himself but aside from that the one logical proof that the mashiah is here is that if he doesn't come soon he won't have anything to save this is the reality we're in anyone that wants to think more optimistic positive way you just live in a different illusion like Harry Potter the reality we're in is very different the Jewish world today is very different this is not to bring us down this is to explain to each other and to ourselves that we have a lot of work to do the in B says that before the mashiah comes the Arabs are going to fight for now they've always fought us and they made up every type of excuse to fight us but fighting for with extra strength Rings a few Bells if anyone watches the news this is the number one war right now the world wants to go to war for what for a place that no one wants to or knows anything about except the Jew this is happening right now the reason why I mentioned mashia now is because if mashia okay I talk Lou if Messiah would come today it wouldn't be a very pretty picture for anyone read in the Tora after is left Egypt Hashem took us with his strong arm destroyed the biggest civilization in history much much larger than America China and every civilization in the world combined more power More Money More control he destroyed them for who for the slaves that he made them into a nation made them a nation ofik made him a nation of made him a nation of Kim the slaves us we became the master in a matter of one year we went from being slaves to Masters but it says that after am left Egypt we're all sad the par after we left Egypt starts with the word V and V kazal says is also a sign of crying why was am crying because many of them lost family members and friends because only 20% of am is actually left Egypt that's the best case scenario 80% stayed in Egypt and died in the in the plague of Darkness some in mid say that it's not 80% died it's 99.9% died and only .1% left they used to be 300 million Jews and only 3 million left either way the numbers are Bleak the numbers are horrendous if the mashiah came today we wouldn't exactly be in that much of a better shape because if you look at the majority of the Jewish World we're not exactly doing everything we need to do according to Hashem St standards according to our standards if it's wealth if it's power if it's recognition we're as best as we can possibly be but we weren't brought to the world to be rich to be powerful to be recognized to run Hollywood we weren't brought to the world for that so it took me most of my life to realize that because I spent a lot of time on Wall Street chasing money and when I find found out that it's all for nothing I realized that I have to make some changes now if the mashia came today we have a little bit of a problem every one of us has a cousin or a brother or a parent or friend it's not exactly doing what hasem wants some even dka doing the opposite one of the main reasons one of the main poisons in a Jewish world is political correctness being scared to tell people the truth being scared to hear the truth sugarcoating things and making people believe that they're not able to handle the truth almost they made us into a Nation like we can't handle anything but in reality we all know that's fake it's an intellectual lie when you say that everything's going to be okay regardless of what you do any one of us that lived past teenage years knows that that's not a realistic Viewpoint everybody had a tough time in their life everybody had ups Downs you know life is tough sometimes sometimes it's good so if we know down here that there's ups and downs in life of course Hashem also knows you do good you get good you do bad you don't get good simple but for whatever reason or another somewhow somehow along the way the system changed and we stopped being taught the reality of what's Happening the bharian community has an amazing knack for loving the truth that's helped you in enormous way in recent past but there's one specific thing I haven't heard a lecture about yet in the lecture that we're going to do today is the other poison political correctness is one poison drugs is the other one drugs is the physical one drugs is the one that's the silent killer and one of the main reasons why drugs are affecting us is because most people including in don't know whether it's allowed or not even though logically every normal human being should say no of course it's not allowed of course it's not allowed to do any drugs logically doesn't make sense they actually had a survey they went to B they asked religious people are you allowed to smoke weed you're allowed to smoke grass kashish whatever you want to call it these days some people said yes some people said no some people said depends what type then they asked them what about cocaine and Other Drugs most of the other drugs they said no but the one thing that they everybody has a suff about is whether you're allowed to smoke weed whether you're allowed to eat those cupcakes that have uh pot in it so a lot of people don't know the truth so today I study with my raav and we have a lot of sources to finally get to the bottom of it but not only get to the bottom of the answer of whether it's allowed or not and what the cost is of doing or not doing it but an actual real solution a real solution of how to fix our drug problem it's possible it's realistic but it's very very difficult so in page 1133a says to his son don't drink drugs meaning don't do drugs and Rashi explains because once you start once you start you'll have a need to continue meaning you'll become addicted and your heart will get out of control and you'll even throw away money for it and once the money runs out it will lead you to steal and other bad decisions so we already see that almost 2,000 years ago about 1700 years ago kazal already was very familiar with what drugs were and drug addiction the rashbam which was the grandson of Rashi gave an additional per on it which will throw us a curveball in today's world many people use the excuse of uh marijuana having medicinal benefits so people that have Parkinson's ban or cancer they this is a uh one of the things that helps them deal with life rightly so problem is not with them problem is not with someone that has Parkinson or cancer the problem is with the guy that has a backache because he slept the wrong way but all of a sudden he's going to smoke weed for the next six years the problem is with the guy that doesn't feel like doing anything but he tells his family he's depressed so now he's going to smoke wheat to cheer him up the problem is with all the Liars that are making excuses to smoke weed the problem is with the guy that says oh you have a back come I'll take you to my doctor and he gets pot for both of them that's the problem the problem is with the rest the problem is not with the fact that marijuana is legal it's not the problem the problem is with who takes it who's it legal for so the rash says that the rashbam says that when it comes to drugs even to use it for health benefits as a medicine you're not allowed to take it if there is a different medicine available so for anyone that has these backaches headaches and all these other ailments you're not allowed to take pot you're not allowed to take any of these drugs if there's another choice if there's a choice that's not addictive you're not allowed to take it now the r says something wonderful and I'll read it to you directly from the book so you know I'm not making it up or anything that's why I bring all these books in case somebody answer questions and he says this this is an actual means from Mount Si means it doesn't change the r says whoever conducts himself in the ways which I have drawn the ran before this gave M A instruction set of how to be healthy whoever conducts himself in this way I guarantee him this again AL this means to Mount Si instructions I guarantee that he will not become ill throughout his entire life until he reaches an advanced age and dies he will never need a doctor his body will remain intact and he healthy throughout his entire life one may rely on this guarantee unless his body was impaired from birth and he was and he was accustomed to one of the harmful abits from birth or should there be a plague or drought in the world meaning there are certain exceptions to the rule but anyone that follows this advice the ramban put in m is guaranteed to be healthy his entire life obviously we know a lot of sick people we know a lot of people that have gone through hardship and you see that most of them did one thing or another Wrong Am says if you follow this pattern that he has you'll be in good shape but the the interesting part is that he says he will not need a doctor now usually when you say someone is healthy that means that they're not going to need a doctor why is he repeating the same thing so RAB writes in that the ramb when he talked when he mentioned this preventative medicine this preventative way of protecting yourself but when he again reminded us that as a result of being healthy you won't need a doctor he was specifically talking about this where you will not need these drugs that are addictive as a medicine you will not need to use these doctors that end up giving you these drugs that end up giving you a physical or a mental addiction now rakov ketki at the end of his days it's known that he went through major hardship he went to huge amount of pain and they tried giving him all types of painkillers and he refused to take any of them and asked him why it make your life more tolerable I mean why you going to suffer all this pain and he said because if I take any of this medicine I'm going to be considered a be considered a drunk and to be considered a drunk in sh even for a second is not tolerable if you have an option to make yourself drunk on purpose to make yourself high on purpose is M 100% sin and the reason why is because you can't pray to hasem you can't study his T you can't be in front of the king of kings when you're a so for all of these people that say no no I smoke right before I learned you should understand that in sh that is considered disgusting it's not considered Li there's no Mitzvah a that does a Mitzvah by accident or on purpose doesn't get a Mitzvah it's considered nothing if he's a on purpose it's actually a sin so some people that somehow they've infected Judaism by saying no no they smoke weed right before they learn Torah because it opens up their brain and it opens up this and it opens up that and opens up all these different things this is all this all garbage this has nothing to do with Judaism we almost finished with the part of it and then we're going to get to the other stuff ra MOS Feinstein bit gives an elaborate expl explation of why doing any type of drug is not allowed but here he's specifically talking about marijuana and he gives this in brief he says first and foremost it ruins and disrespects the body and even if it doesn't harm healthy people that what makes it worse than let's say cigarettes is that it ruins the Clarity and State of Mind of a person intentionally who puts himself in a state of being a and is now dismissed from all of the mitv where even if he does a Mitzvah there's no reward to such an extent that ra Moshe Feinstein says once a person smokes any type of drug recreationally he is considered the the same level as a now we this week started the book of Deuteronomy interestingly enough and is the hardest in the entire book you want to do read read the whole once two three times by the third time you're you understand what it says you understand what who did in the last several weeks of his life you understand what he says you do chuva 100% only a crazy person doesn't do chuva after he understands what he says if you don't understand you don't do CH a lot of people read T they don't understand they read the they make the the sounds like I did most of my life I know how to make the sounds of the letters but I didn't understand the holy language so I just said yeah could say that what does it mean requires Rashi requires R requires requires once you understand what it means at the end of every par I said myself I have a problem I have a problem this par I'm not following what it says so starts with these are the words Moses spoke to all of Israel on the other side of the Jordan this is right before this is last few weeks of his life and each par gives it to them on the head one over the other one par is over the other very difficult to read sometimes now a few weeks from now we're going to read 10: 18 it says it says if a man will have a rebellious son who does not hearken the voice of his father or the voice of his mother and they discipline him and he still doesn't listen to them they bring him to the Elders of the city and the Elders of the city see that he doesn't listen because he's a drunk he's a glutton they kill him with what death stoning sounds interesting it sounds similar mosha Fe Feinstein says it's the same thing someone does drugs they always start smok most people don't start with the hard drugs with Heroin ban with all these other garbage drugs that destroy people in civilizations they start with small things tiny things things they think it's okay sometimes they even think it's allowed so it says here we learned fromat page 105 this is the way of the this is the way of the Satan he says the the way of the the way of the Satan is one day he's going to tell you do just do a little bit just one puff one puff with the friends come on will you be embarrassed your friends are smoking no can't be the only guy doesn't smoke where you sadik all of a sudden all the way you have a keeper so you what you don't big deal M did it too they start making excuses I had one guy tell me no no it says it you know in the uh every day doesn't say brought brought drugs stupidity reached new level in this generation it means incense not drugs Shalom there's no one smoked weed in the Torah no one did drugs in the Torah but people are saying samim Sam it says samim in the every day we read it says samim so this is the this he says no smoke one just one a little bit a little puff what's the big deal it's good for you clears you up calms you down your wife just yelled at you your kid just broke half the house the customer just reneged in an order this other guy is suing you you have all the excuses in the world take one we're not saying do cocaine veins no puff relax a little bit don't be a that's says a little bit little bit one puff today he says this tomorrow he says something else says you know okay one puff was not enough for you come on you already doing one puff for a week it's two months it's nothing for you already you know you can you're you're better than the average you do three four five six seven Puffs a month later he's already rolling his own joints six months later he may be selling it on the side little by little you go car takes the guy from being it's become part of his lifestyle he's now smoking in front of his family in the living room because it's okay the yet convinced all of them it's okay no it's just marijuana it's natural it's natural it's a plant it's a plant so is Poison by the way it's also a plant so is cocaine so is everything is a everything comes from Earth what do you think it's going to come from Mars it's all natural they say uh Snapple made from the best stuff on Earth yeah it's chemicals from Earth where is it going to come from Mars Pluto Venus we haven't gotten there yet where's it coming from so this is the convinces US M to such an extent that I finally understood what thear means when it's says that it's all the same thing but he's smarter than all of mankind put together I asked myself for a while I said what do you mean smart why he knows the entire sh by heart okay so he learned it for a longer time what he uh knows math okay so if I learn math on what's what does it mean he's smarter than everyone what does it mean and then I had a what makes the Satan so smart is that he convinced all of us that he doesn't even exist if you ask most people do you believe in God they'll say yes even if they're not religious most people will say I believe in God because doesn't had to be something that created everything but if you ask people do you believe in you believe in a Satan you believe in a you believe in something that's influencing you from inside you to do something influence you from inside most people tell you I haven't thought about it or no I am in control of my own feelings most people don't really believe in Satan that's what makes him so smart he's inside you but you don't even know it he's controlling and trying to influence every decision but we don't even acknowledge it what is it like it's like you knock on the door he's like and he say I'm not here you're knocking the door and he's answering I'm not here I'm not home you know he's there he's answering but I'm not home that's what he convinced he convinced us that he's not there he's not home and we're like okay when can I come back come back later in two hours that's the Satan so first he tells us one puff one joint one uh Bowl one pill one needle one whatever one one one one one one and then it gets to a point he says eventually he tells him to go do a and he does now this last part I only got today today or yesterday yesterday in your Merit this what does it mean how does it go from told me to go to buy drugs I understand yet told me to go buy even more I understand sell it I even all these things I understand what does it mean AB what does doing drugs have anything to do with ab and had this which puts everything into perspective MOS Feinstein says when someone smokes when someone puts themselves intentionally in a in a state of being high of being drunk he's in the same level of he's same level of somebody that's putting their life on a line because he's become addicted he's put himself in a place where it's out of his own control he's officially dangerous he's dangerous because if he doesn't have the addiction it leads him to steal says why is called because eventually if he doesn't get his addiction he starts stealing if he doesn't get if he doesn't get it from stealing he starts murdering so we kill him we kill this young boy this teenager why we kill him he didn't murder anybody yet we're killing him to save other people so at least when he dies it's before he sinned big time before he went too far MOS find he says the same thing with somebody that starts doing drugs so I said how does it get what big sin what the guy's going to smoke weed all of a sudden going to become murderer he says even worse in this he say he's GNA do idol worship how does he do Idol how do we get to idol worship where does idol worship fit in when someone does drugs they start small little by little it gets bigger may not be every day but that one time they take too many painkillers that one time they take too much that one time everyone realizes it they got in trouble what do you have to do you're dangerous now so wife sends them to rehab ABA and IMA send them to rehab they go because they're not dangerous not just to the people around them they're dangerous to themselves you go to rehab rehab we had the Merit to send a few people to rehab it's not exactly a wonderful place but I'm telling you this from experience rehab is just a beginning it's the beginning of a mental battle that is impossible to win because they convince you that once you have a once you fell for drugs you now officially have a disease an incurable disease it's called a drug addiction so the only cure to the disease is not really a cure it's a fix it's like a Band-Aid on a heart attack you have to go to AA meetings AA meetings where are they held church are Jews allowed to go to church if a Jew is being chased by some terrorist and he has a few options musk which is probably a terrorist house a reform synagogue or a church where could he go where could he hide he could only hide in the musk he can't go into the reformed shoe and he can't go into the church the church is a place of the church is a place of idolatry and this is where they sent all of our brothers and sisters to do rehab this is where they sent all of our brothers and sisters to do missionary work the reason why there's an AA Center in every single corner is because this is the number one playground for missionaries yet told you smoke a little weed then he told you take a little pill then you screwed up and you took too much so they sent you to rehab then the rehab told you you have a disease then the disease you have to cure it so go to church that's where you worship idols that's where idolatry comes that's when we start losing our brothers and sisters to different religions that's what thear was talking about was talking about yeah the told you smoke weed but no no you end up with idol worship why because the AA meeting is in a place of idolatry so these are things that kazal already knew from 2,000 years ago we knew this from 2,000 years ago is not the other parts that the R mosha Feinstein brings up is that it's forbidden for a person to bring upon himself any big uh addiction any big desire that's not necessary for his body this also leads to a violation of honoring the parents meaning you get to a point once you start becoming addicted once you start getting used to even not physically Addicted by the way I don't mean just physical addiction I mean also mental addiction it says it brings the person to a state of mind of Kut being used to being just like nonchalant about things and when you're nonchalant about things you're also nonchalant about certain critical mitv like honoring your parents you're also nonchalant about honoring your parents and when you're notal about honoring your parents you have a serious problem also leads to a violation of the Mitzvah of being Holy isem says be holy because I am Holy M Feinstein says it's impossible for you to be holy and high at the same time the two have nothing to do with each other you can't be drunk and holy at the same time this is why also even during P you have to be careful you can't become one of these fools that thinks just because it's puim you could get to a point where you can't walk be a place a time you can't turn into a there's a place and a time and you know for everything you could drink during por but not to a point where you start becoming a a damage to the community and last but not least he says you uh person that uh starts uh doing too many doing drugs ends up causing suffering to other people because of their habit and he says he says it's very clear in the end of things it's very very clear that this is one of the top violations that we have to do everything we can to remove this T to remove this impur from the children of Israel so the question was why does he call it t It's a Sin Fine eating non koser not doing violating Shabbat is a lot of sins why is he called this specific act T he says because once a person gets to a stage of being drunk or high there's no limitation to the sin that they're going to commit we see this from the Tor lot lot the nephew of uh of abrah ainu got drunk the next thing you know he had incest with both of his daughters drunk drunk first time drunk second time once you get to that point there's no nothing controlling it in P of of the rim of a woman came to the bed of Y recently and uh they record all of the pis what happens in the pis what happens in the uh Jewish courts so a woman came to a uh the bed she said uh I would like to get I made a I used to smoke marijuana and uh I don't smoke marijuana anymore but I don't think I need to have this and just in case Shalom I fall and I smoke marijuana I don't want to get the punishment from sham for smoking marijuana so can you please remove this n from my life because someone that violate makes a violates a m lose their life their children's life it's a very big deal you learned that last week's par so the bed reviewed it had some had some uh experts review the case and they said since this brings a person to a this brings a person to a point where they are nonchalant and they're used to making a sin and that most people most of the major P consider this not only a sin but a sin de a sin a Biblical sin not a rabinal sin we know that it's impossible to cancel a NE of any biblical mitvah rabinal you can rabinal you you could have leniency but once something is a Biblical sin there's absolutely no leniency whatsoever there's absolutely no permission whatsoever to remove the N to make any any leniency whatsoever the last but not least the page 72b says that the Tor the Torah is the Torah is the um drug of life and they get it from chapter 4:44 it says so says in page 72 that the Torah can be either a drug of life or drug of death if you used if you know how to learn the Torah it can remove all unnecessary deathly drugs from your life if you don't know how to use the Torah it can end up hurting you so these are some of the things that we know about drugs now this is the basics of the AL part now how do we beat this now the traditional system of fighting drugs is telling people don't do it obviously it doesn't work doesn't work the reason why it doesn't work is Because unless you tell people the cost the price of things they don't listen said almost 200 years ago that we have we have aot that we're live in a generation already almost 200 years ago live in a generation that there are just as many doctors as there are ailments just as many medicines as there is and and doctors as there is sicknesses except for Spiritual sicknesses he says for Spiritual sickness we have a growing amount of sicknesses and almost no doctors almost no doctors why say because no one wants to be the doctor because there's only one medicine what's the medicine and teaching from from from the Tor and teaching specifically m character development he says no one wants to teach these things no one wants to teach people how to be a better version of them and what ends up happening is that we become sick without even knowing it this is every time you see somebody making a sin your job is to help them give them a cure when you don't tell them what you're doing then that means that you're holding it cure and you're not giving it to somebody andan it says that's the biggest that there is when a person sees another person sinning and he doesn't tell them he says you're holding the Cure and you're not giving it to somebody else there's no one in the world that hates more than you now right now we're in the last nine days before T and we know that tab is technically a day that we should be happy technically we should be happy about the shab why decided that he was very very upset with and he decided that he's going to punish us but instead of destroying he's going to put his entire wrath on rocks so instead of us it was rocks technically we should be happy we're still here we're supposed to be us why are we not happy why are we still mourn 2,000 years later does anybody here actually think we're still mourning about something that happened 2,000 years ago we're not mourning about what happened 2,000 years ago we're mning about what's happening now we're mourning that if the BET mikdash was here now he would destroy it again now again he would destroy it now and the reason why is because back then 2,000 years ago he destroyed it because of he destroyed it because of baseless hatred hatred for no reason and says when you don't rebuke somebody when you know the truth and you don't tell somebody the truth you're holding the medicine you don't want to give it to them you hate them hasem destroyed the bet mikdash because of you each one of us has to look in the mirror and deal with this on we're part of the reason so now the reason what we have in the traditional system outside of the Torah they tell us that we have to send our kids to rehab centers and then send them to AA centers and in the AA centers and in the uh rehab centers they convince the family and the victim that they're all victims of a disease now this is a guarantee that the person will never ever stop being ad addicted and the reason why is because they tell them there's a disease now anybody know anything about medicine here didn't you take like some medicine classes you aren't you in like med school almost almost okay so you know a little bit about medicine I remember remember something so medicine when it's a big Blockbuster drug people know about it is any such medicine to cure drug addiction no so that means they're telling you you have a disease with no cure so once you become a drug addict they're telling you finished you have disease it's same thing like AIDS same thing like cancer same thing like it's not true it's not true once somebody thinks and believes they have a disease they give up they lift up their hands no the only way I could do I could put Band-Aid on it I go to AA meeting with or I go to the uh getting trouble smoke some weed do some crack do some all these drugs and then go back to the rehab center because I have a disease I'm a mkin I'm a poor guy I'm a victim the guy ends up falling over and over again because of this mental Warfare but the truth is it's not a disease the truth is it's not a physical disease it's a spiritual one it's a choice whoever is a drug addict chooses to be a drug addict now even though once you become addicted to drugs it's a physical addiction it stops it ends at some point once you stop the drugs eventually the physical desire ends and it just becomes purely a mental desire that's a spiritual sickness and that is only one cure the Cure is our Tor we got the Tora 3,000 years ago we have the Cure just no one gives us any money for it we don't get any Blockbuster drugs for it it's not on CNBC there's no ticker symbol for it the key is that we have to understand that the mentality has to change our mentality as a community has to change I heard there was three kids in New York died within 36 hours of drug addiction not too long ago before that there was more every every every so often we have our kids disappearing from the face of the Earth for this poison it's time we did something it's time we spoke up it's time we did something about it first and foremost it starts with the person you look at in the mirror there is and you have to repeat it to yourself and to anyone who asks you there's no such thing as leniency to do any drug even if it's medicine if there is another choice you have to take the other choice unless the other choice doesn't work then it's not there is no other choice if there's a choice of a non-addictive drug you have to try the non-addictive drug you have to if it works great if it doesn't work then obviously you're left with the one that's addictive and then you have to work on it and make sure you don't get addicted but the point is the first and foremost is to get us to a point where we realize there's no such thing is it's okay to smoke a little weed there's no degrees of what's allowed or what's not allowed ecstasy is not allowed and uh pot is allowed there's no such thing so anyone that wants to work on their midot anyone that wants to work on themselves before before before before all of these major days before M comes before all of these things you have to realize first thing they're going to check you have do you have you're scared of God anyone gets high doesn't do not scared of God because God's next to you when you're getting high he's watching he's right there he's not only in sham he's next to you he's in theet he's outside of the he's in the off he everywhere so that's one thing that we have to understand first and foremost if to remove this thought from our mind that it's ever allowed it's never ever allowed not during your party not during your wedding not during anything the second thing is is that once we see other people doing it we have to start getting to help them the only way to help them is teaching them this mus teaching them how to develop themselves teaching them how to like actually improve themselves as a as a person once a person gets close to AEM he wants to stop this garbage he wants to remove this Tuma from his body but most important part is to do it as a community and not fall for the that's convincing us to send our kids to the rehab centers once you send a kid to rehab centers and follow the system the rehab center by itself you may have to do but the follow through the AA meetings under under no condition should you ever send a kid to there because you're going to ruin him forever at best case scenario he's going to think he has a disease at worst case scenario he's going to become a Christian so this is just the basic stuff I wanted to cover about drugs but I know you guys have a bunch of questions of different things that may may or may not have to do with this so go ahead I'll leave you some questions we didn't cover the whole to I'm sure you have some other questions yeah okay why musk no the reason reason why uh a musk is because they don't uh worship idols technically they they worship the same God we do they're just Heretics they use the Tor they use they call Allah is the same thing as Hashem it's just that they uh they obviously call it in their own language uh and they're Heretics they're just they changed parts of the Torah they added parts to it so they're considered Heretics but they're not considered Idol worshippers um whereas the uh church is 100% idol worship and reform is is is is even worse the reform are considered me meaning that you're not even allowed within six feet of them because they influence people to go against God a reformed person a reformed sh a reformed person is uh is someone that is uh influences people to go against God they change the Torah no they learn they learn their own logic and they say outright they don't believe that the to is from M they believe that it has certain things that are relevant but they use whatever they want to you know like they pick and choose so for example they like the concept of bar mitzvah but they think that you should give a bar mitzvah to a dog also so they give Bar Mitzvah to dogs with they met you go on YouTube you see there's B mitzvah for dogs within, fine on their head dog some other rash there's PL unfortunately there's plenty of rash in the world so it's a uh they they take they pick and choose different mitv and they um put you know put put their own garbage on it unfortunately um they say oh yeah we like the concept of uh of a rabbi but we like our Rabbi to be non-jewish and a woman so one of the leading RAB in the reform movement is a Chinese non-jewish woman so they pick and choose so someone like that you're not even allowed it to be within six feet according to the r and according to it says you're not allowed to be within four amot of this person even standing next to them six feet because they're damaging so as strange and as crazy as it sounds if you have a person like that or you have Mustafa you better off with Mustafa do something so Tora says that you have to rebuke people until they get to a point of where they're threat in or even get to a point of beating you up that's actually what it says now there are certain that you have to continue telling them up to that stage and there are stop so what's the difference if it's a Shabbat for example it's a you know you see somebody driving a Shabbat you have to do whatever you can to remind this person directly and indirectly that they have to keep Shabbat time every time you see violating Shabbat you have to tell them something um and again directly and indirectly meaning you could tell them yourself or next time you see him you give him a CD about Shabbat or you bring him to a lecture about Shabbat or you send him an email about Shabbat or it doesn't necessarily always have to be the same thing same way but you have to do something about it every single time because that's that's from the Tor that's a Biblical sin that's the foundation of Judaism on the other hand if you see somebody not doing it which is a rabinal mitvah or you see let's say somebody not honoring kanuka which is also re Mitzvah you should only rebuke them if you know that they're going to be receptive but if you know for sure they're not going to be receptive don't say anything because it's a rabal Mitzvah now with drugs it's a Biblical Mitzvah so anytime you see somebody that's doing drugs you have to do something about it now the the thing is with helping people do chva is that there's a way to do it and one of the most most important things to know about how to do it is that you know you need to know with who to do it with you can help a stranger do chva much faster than you could help somebody you know you could influence a stranger much easier than you could influence your brother your sister your father your mother your you know it's it's much easier and the reason why is because your brother your father your mother your sister and everyone else that you know they're always going to remember that maybe you used to be like them they're not going to remember you now sadik do you remember you in the past oh you used to smoke with us now all of a sudden you tadik all a sudden youu all of a sudden you're so they're not going to give you the credit so it's better with people like that it's better for somebody else to do it so what do you do you give a CD you send them a lecture somebody else talking not you say as little as possible say hey watch this what is it about it's really good what is it about it's good don't even give him the idea of what it's about just send him somebody else talking bring him to lecture give them a CD send them a movie something somebody else talking most of the time mainly because they're not going to listen to you anyway so you want to you want to do that uh but with people that are strangers or people that are not necessarily as close to you or people that don't know you as well with them go full force remind them tell them but also remember that you have to act a part too you can't be tell people to keep Shabbat because then they say it's like a joke okay there's a sense in American drug addiction culture that the best way of confronting a family member about their addiction is through family intervention yeah it's insanity but that goes against what you just said yeah it's Insanity it's completely wrong family yeah family intervention first and foremost this is not a family business this is not this is not you know somebody's problem does not necessarily need to become the family business if let's say for example the father is the only one that knows that the sonom has a drug addiction he doesn't need to tell the other siblings the brothers and sisters he doesn't need to tell them maybe they're going to be embarrassed you're going to lead them to be embarrassed maybe it's a uh you know they're they're going to lose respect for him maybe it's going to you know maybe he's dealing with it already in his own way and the last thing he wanted was one of his brothers or sisters or friends or wife or somebody to know so first and foremost the best way to deal with it is oneon-one if you have some type of influence on this person not embarrassing in public it's absolutely no absolutely not it's not it's it's a horrendous idea uh it's a first of all when someone is surrounded by a bunch of people in such a way immediately they feel attacked they feel sabotaged they feel like they were set up they feel like it's say uh there's just something like they were they were you know everybody's in on it except them I don't know of any intervention if you will that went well I tried it one time with somebody and it went horrible um and this was a very very dear friend and it wasn't even that many people it was three people it just it it's people that go through it the way he described it is that he felt like his his uh this is obviously before Tor he felt like his U privacy was violated why did she need to know why did he need to know you knew okay fine talk to me why did all of them need to know even more so when it comes to the T when we know that someone who embarrasses another person in public has no share of the world to come so to put somebody in an intervention you're putting them in a situation where you're embarrassing them in public which means that even if you cure his disease you still have a problem with your own disease now you have a problem with your own so making an intervention it's not it's not a good idea I think that it needs to be one-on-one if one-on-one is not possible then you can bring another authority figure like a rabbi somebody else he respects but not the whole neighborhood should be contained contained with you know try to do it as little as possible first it's one person then it's another person that's really important a wife a husband or you know somebody that's really close to them or a rabbi somebody at some point this person is going to give in he doesn't need the whole Community to know that he's a drunk so it's a uh the the traditional mentality and and and way of fixing the system is uh against the toah it's not it's not it's not a uh it's not it's not a system that's that that works because what in essence what it infuses is what we talked about before which is it infuses this uh idea that the person is sick oh we all know we all love you we all know you're sick it's okay to be sick it's he's not sick no it's okay it's okay we're with you but he's not sick there's nothing wrong with them he just chose to do drugs convince him to stop show him that it's bad for him remind him that's it it's not it doesn't it doesn't need to be a life Ender but this mentality that the person is sick that's the life Ender that's the part that kills people it's the med it's the wrong medicine that kills more people than the actual drug itself so this system of of embarrassing people in public it's horrible all these all these rehab centers that uh have uh you know like these gatherings a lot of these rehab centers have these gatherings and uh there's a lot of times there's a lot of problems between the people this guy hates that one this guy hates that one they all fight each other sometimes it gets violent and the reason why is because they feel embarrassed they feel embarrassed you know it's a once in a while you get motivated by seeing somebody else's breakthrough story but there's more damage than there is good this is something that needs to be contained yeah same thing same thing if not worse wine is considered alcohol 100% % but if you you're allowed to drink it for K you're allowed to drink it on special occasions within reason you're not allow to just drink it like you know on a Tuesday afternoon because it's wine you know you're allowed you're allowed to have a you know for K you're allowed to have it after you allow to do it in know certain conditions but to just get drunk on a Tuesday afternoon there's no permission for that well listen it's a liquor stores have their business they have they have seven and a half billion potential customers they don't need us no it's not necessarily just again drinking within reason is permitted drinking to the point of being drunk and in a in a in a uh in a stage stage where you are then obviously it's not allowed smoking smoking cigarettes generally is not allowed smoking cigarettes you're talking about Mar no smoking marijuana there's no there's no stages because marijuana all stages get you high whereas liquor doesn't get you high off of one let's say for example somebody has a sip and he likes the taste of vodka or he likes the taste of scotch or some other liquor he takes a simple sip most people will not get drunk off a sip they just like the taste just like you like Coca-Cola they like the taste drunk takes more liquor whereas with a uh with marijuana all stages get get you high there is no there's no high or l or low it's all of them get you high there's no like oh no this is a low level ecstasy there's a high level ecstasy there's a lowlevel cocaine there's a high level cocaine there's no such thing all of them get you high Liquor on the other hand is stages same concept when it comes to smoking cigarettes the reason why there's the on smoking cigarettes you're not allowed to smoke cigarettes but there's more coolo there's more leniencies with cigarettes is because the damage is not done all at once it's cumulative damage over a long period of time somebody smokes cigarettes is obviously harming their health but with a uh with other drugs that are stronger drugs like a marijuana or cocaine or anything like that that damage is done on the spot there's risk on the spot it could uh it could lead somebody to do a lot of bad things that minute and also you never seen anybody murdering for cigarettes you do see people murdering for other drugs yeah how do you prevent him from going to drugs or or you already find out he has a drug problem ready okay so I mean this yeah so as far as far as anxiety I mean kids a lot of the the uh teachers today for some reason believe that every kid is sick where they all have ADHD add some DD triple D all types of D's everybody's sick all of a sudden we're a generation of sick people no one's sick we're either lazy or we uh we like to play around kids always like to jump around in class in the old gener New Generation just this generation the teachers are lazy no no no he's sick he sent him to special ed the guy just wants to play around that's it if you read some of the stories about the sadim of the old generation some of them were the biggest troublemaking kids in the world raban I tells the stories of himself of how he was when he was a little kid he was a rascal my he says you don't know me I was a kid he goes I almost stabbed my sister he said sadik he finished the shots four times before he was 20 it's going to be one he says I wanted to stab my sister I just don't know how little kid tiny little kid listen kids like to play kids are troublemakers kids doesn't mean that just because the kids wants to jump around they have some type of sickness they're being a kid the sickness is being a kid so first and foremost all this DDD and hdhd and all this it's all garbage there's no such thing the kid just likes to jump around the kid likes to play around so that's that's so we have to remove that a teacher tells you your kid is sick you tell him no you're sick you're sick doesn't matter where as a matter of fact there is a real story of what happened in Yeshiva a guy goes to a rabi principal calls a father and he says listen your son has uh ADHD he says my son he's ADHD no he's a nice son he's good he's this he's that he goes no no your son's are trouble he's a horrible this he's a horrible that he has all these wonderful things to say about the kid so he says listen I'm kicking him out of the school he goes no come on my wife and I we work overtime just to afford to send him to Yeshiva both of us work nonstop just to send to Yesa please want to kick him out he goes listen I feel for you I understand but the only way that are allowed to do it I'm allowed to keep him here is if you give him this drug you give him this uh pill and and uh the father says no but come on he's going to be embarrassed every day the kids in his class going to say he's this kid is sick he says no don't worry I'll give it to him I'll I'll show he'll take it next to me oh goes you're going to administer it yeah so the principal every day that was his job was he came to his office the kid came to his office he says listen take your pill that was his job so after a month the father sees the kid as is much happier but not much has changed but there's no complaints from the principal all of a sudden wow this drug must be working two months no calls whatsoever because it's that good of a drug it would be he calls the principal to see what's going on I mean it's principal has a pick up so he talks to the son so honey what's so how how is everything with school everything is good oh yeah everything is wonderful ABA he goes and uh what about with you and the relationship with between you and the principal he goes oh no he's great he's amazing father's like okay now something something is fishy about this drug because why is he so amazing cuz no every day when uh when I uh you know when I come to his office he he lets me make his coffee and ever since I've been making his coffee and putting the pill that he wants me to put in it everything has been wonderful he's so much nicer to me so the father finds out that in reality the k is putting the drug in the principal's cup and he calls the principal it's true story he tells the principal you know that my son is giving you the drug right and I'm taking you to a bed because now I've been paying for this drug for the last two months but you're benefiting from it he took him to bed he has to pay for it so in reality the problem was that principal had to admit the problem wasn't the kid problem was the principle kids are kids I'm not saying every kid is uh an angel some kids are tough but to say every uh eight out of 10 kids have ADHD come on no enough it's it's all nonsense teachers are just uh don't want to do what they supposed to do in many cases or it's just a bad system whatever it is eight out of 10 kids do not have ADHD as far as what's the responsibility of the parents parents responsibility is to make sure that the kid is not only getting the education in school the problem that I see is that many kids go to Yesa they get Torah teaching in Yeshiva but they come home to a secular house so Yeshiva they see the rabbi with the beer with the hat and the raban looks but then she they come home and ABA doesn't even wear a keeper doesn't have a SE seit goes to the beach on Shabbat they don't really keep much so the kids confused so he doesn't know who's right is it ABA and IMA or is it the rabbi within a very short period of time he decides that ABA and IMA are right the secular is right and the rabbi is only acting the rabbi's fake he's only putting a uniform because he gets paid so then the kid becomes not only a uh a victim and he starts going against the religion but in many cas becomes an atheist in many case becomes anti- Tor but it's not the rabbi's fault it's the parents fault so the parents have to make sure that whatever they do in Thea also do at home you can't teach the kid and then at home IMA walks around half naked you can't teach the kids learn to is number one thing but as soon as a kid gets home let's watch the baseball game it's got to be in the same page it's very very important for things to be in the same page and and the parents are responsible for that if parents are you know being wishy-washy the kid's gonna be wishy-washy so that's the that's that's the thing third thing is you have to see where is this kid getting his influence kids don't just find drugs in the street they don't just like appear there's no like uh some uh special ghost that appears at schoolyards and gives them it's you know the obviously they find the drugs to people who are they hanging out with who are their friends you have to pick their friends if the friends are bad then I'll out of the house it's better the rambam says if you're surrounded in a neighborhood and everyone is against the Torah everyone is not is not doing what they're supposed to do you have to move and what and so then the uh he says what if there's no other place what if there's no other place for you to move everywhere you go there's K he says better for you to live in a desert your neighbor is going to be a scorpion and a snake meaning that we have to monitor who we choose to be friends of our kids if the kids if all the available kids in this class are all the kids are drug dealers all the kids are drug addicts all the kids are troublemakers all the kids are something like that no friends stay at home with them I'm telling you myself personally right now my daughter B my oldest daughter is two years old only we're not sending her to school anytime soon I haven't found a school where I live that I'm confident that they're going to teach you the right thing so until I find some my wife's going to educate her we have the luxury that we're in it and also that uh you know she's still very young but it's to that extent today there are many many so-called religious schools that are being taught by secular people because religion is a very good business it's a very good business so I see sometimes you have kindergarten and all the teachers are secular what do you teach you know it's supposed to be a kindergarten for religious people but all the teachers don't even keep Shabbat oh there's one school that I know in a different place we're not going to mention a name I'd say no less than 35% of the teach this is a Yeshiva no less than 35% of the teachers have no idea whatsoever what is nothing zero but they're cheap they're easy their older stage in their life they fill in the spot had one thing one one uh you know they have these groups on WhatsApp is WhatsApp my wife told me the other day there's one group this one woman advertised she has a kindergarten she has a kindergart religious kindergarten and every uh every day she uh makes a post whoever is bored and wants to take on shift to teach the kids can come like if you're boy if you have nothing to do you come teach little kids but I'm not paying the volunteer I'm paying you how do you know this is the right person how do you know this person is not sick in their mind so that's the thing you have to you just like you if you going to invest a million dollars into a piece of property into a business what are you going to do research it first you're not just going to say oh no it looks good buy it you're going to research it does it have good foundation does it have good neighborhood you're going to research it same thing with school you have to research who's the teacher what are they teaching what's the curriculum you have to investigate what's going on you can't just send the kid no no everybody else goes there everybody else goes there so I'm going to send my kid like a sheep you have to investigate who's the teacher what are they teaching why who what when sit down with them you have to do it you can't just send the kids and uh be surprised the kid ends up being a k sometimes you see that some of these teachers are worse than animals some of these teachers are worse you have you have to you have today's world you have to be very careful with people to such an extent that Rya says that as far as uh guests you know in the old days the honor you know welcoming guests it's not like people think today people think that if you welcome guests for shabat your next door neighbor that's also a millionaire you welcome him for Shabbat you get a Mitzvah there's no mitzvah for welcoming your neighbor that's a millionaire it's nice you enjoy yourself but it's not it's not considered it's not considered like you welcome guest if he has food with the the honoring of guest is if he doesn't have he doesn't have a place to go not necessarily poor he just has another place to go could be poor could be because he's from out of town could be because I don't know something happened he doesn't have another choice and you're bringing him to the house that's the mitvah of honoring guests in the old days this is what they would do they would the the guests of the town would come to the Sho and at the end of the Sho people would say okay you come to my house you come to my house and people would take these different people to their houses strangers complete that's the mitvah said said today you could be considered P from it why because there too many sick people there too many sick people in the world somebody that's like you don't know where he's from could be a murderer you bringing into your house look the guy what happened this week in in Israel terrorist killed three people three innocent people on K you look at his picture he looks normal look at the terrorist picture he looks 100 % normal he doesn't look like oh yeah that guy's tattoo of a terrorist on his head doesn't he looks normal so you have to investigate you can't just let people in no no I'm be tadik don't be tadik be alive you know so same thing with schools you can't just send people to school just because it's the popular school or because this big Rabbi is there if the big Rabbi is teaching fine but if the big Rabbi just has his name on it yeah you have to be careful because again it's it's just it's just too much too much too much nonsense too many bad stories there too many bad stories in communities all over the world of these teachers that are just um they shouldn't be shouldn't be allowed out of a house let alone be a teacher you know I mean there's a horrible stories I hear from Israel I don't know I don't know whether there's more bad stories today or it's just easier to get them but uh there's just too many bad stories of what happens in school of these teachers that do bad things to people and listen of course it's the school's fault and the teachers fault 100% but part of the blame is also on the parents you invested 20 years to learn how to do your business you invested 20 years to learn how to invest in different things you should invest 20 minutes into your kids school simple as it gets next question yeah meaning Broken Spirits where they understood that there's a there's a Creator they become religious they started become and you believe this story oh yeah it's a nice fairy tale it's like Harry Potter Harry Potter is also a good story he flew on a carpet or not carpet uh broom same thing nonsense it's garbage it's an excuse to rationalize our Behavior here's the thing I'm going to teach you guys something about all religions at once all religions in the world all of them Christianity Catholicism Islam Judaism Buddhism 80,000 different types of religions and Cults all of them agree on one Mitzvah there's one mitvah that everyone agrees on everyone teaches it and every single human being has heard about it what is the mitvah charity every religion believes and agrees that you have to give charity everyone else not necessarily everybody gives but everybody knows that part of religion is Charity this is a popular Mitzvah now when it comes to charity a lot of people will lead you to believe that that's the only mitvah you need to have this is nonsense not no one there's nowh in the Torah say that is going to override all of the mitv thata is the only Mitzvah you need to do the only thing it says is that meaning that will buy you more time in this world to do CH but all of these religions that teach falsehood are going to teach you that the reason why is because they want you to continue giving them money and they want you to feel good about it so in essence what they're trying to do is they make you feel good about exactly where you are to justify and they're helping you justify your your own behavior meaning you don't have to change if I tell you listen you have to change you have to do this you have to do this I give you a list of 27 different things you have to do ah this guy's hard or the other guy says all you have to do is one thing give Saka and you continue doing whatever you want you going to choose option b most of the time if you have big why because it's easier that's what most teach most teach the easy way rout GI you're gonna be fine GI you can be a murderer GI you could be a thief GI you could it's all nonsense same thing with all of of these things that are shortcuts there's no such thing as a person needing ecstasy or acid or whatever Other Drug there is in this world to meet God a monkey knows God he doesn't need ecstasy the cow knows God the donkey knows God everybody knows God you need to be a donkey on purpose instead of a human to not know that there's a God so you don't need God you don't need the any any drugs to know what God is and as far as uh getting closer to God he gave you instructions you can't say that there's two sets of instructions that the Torah work for 99% of people and not for this one person he needs ecstasy to do drugs to uh to follow toah it's all nonsense that's just somebody that's trying to rationalize uh and and justify their own negative behavior they're trying to pretty much convince themselves that it's okay what they're doing I'll give you an example there is uh I don't know if any of you know but it was a big war that I went with uh with the Kea in Florida because the in the beginning of the year there was a uh big problem the head Rabbi of the Kaa and one of the top rabbis in Florida decided that it was a good idea to bring a Christian Missionary to speak in a Sho to spr in a synagogue so we went to war and publicized this and the uh event was cancelled but since that day since we went to war I haven't gone to the Sho this was the Sho next to my house I haven't gone to that Sho um and the reason why is because of what happened I mean these are not exactly people I can rely on and so on even though it's not necessarily say that everybody in thei is bad the leadership is terrible so there's one guy nice guy neighbor of mine he comes to me a few days ago and he says oh so how come you not coming to the Kila you already know why I'm not coming to the Kila this is a know people from Australia know why I'm not going to the Kila you don't know goes yeah but this but that but he gives me all these different arguments so I ask him who you trying to convince me or you he's trying to convince himself really and the reason why is because he still goes there and he knows it's wrong he knows it's wrong so that's the thing most people when they do something wrong they want somebody else to agree with them they want somebody else they want you to agree with them that it's okay to smoke pot or to do acid or to cheat on the wife or to cheat on the customer or to do all these different things people want people need justification from their peers so that's what gives them you know a sense that they're doing okay because inside they know they're not doing good they know they're not doing good so they need you to tell them they do good cuz everyone deep inside everyone knows the truth everyone knows the truth there's no such person in the world doesn't know the truth hasem instilled the truth in you everyone knows there's a God everyone knows that there's a truth everyone knows that there's everyone knows that there is a reward and Punishment to say otherwise is being intellectually dishonest to tell people you could do whatever you want live a free willly life and nothing's going to happen is just lies because we know it doesn't work like that in the world you work hard at work you have much bigger chance of succeeding you steal you have much bigger chance of going to jail and getting fired from job it's reward and Punishment to say that you could do whatever you want and there's you know you're always going to get a reward and never get punished is being intellectually dishonest so this is what we have to tell people around us is that when someone is trying to convince you that it's okay for them to do Ecstasy for them to do assid for them to do all these things that are against the torat to you as a Jew you have to be also a doctor to be and you are diagnosing them and your response should be wow you're sicker than normal you're spiritually sicker than a normal person most people are sick to some extent everybody has a everybody has certain things that they're soft in strong in and so on you my friend are sicker than sicker than normal cuz now you have turned convinced all of us he's not there you he convinced that he's good you convinced that he's actually good for you you're sicker than normal that's what you have to tell these people especially if they claim to be religious there's no such thing as a religious person that does drugs yeah next yeah okay Jews need to have their own AA Jews need to have yeah I think there is I don't know if it's obviously it's not as big but Jews need to have their own a uh meetings in shoes or in uh community centers or houses or places that are Kosher and uh I mean in general again having these meetings in my opinion my opinion I'm not necessarily a professional in uh in rehab but in my opinion it's it's it's sufff whether it's even allowed uh because you're embarrassing people in public but anyway even if it is allowed obviously you're not allowed to do it in a church so we should do we should get people into the Sho into a house into a office there's plenty of places owns a lot of real estate find one and we go and we meet with people and we help them oneon-one just like when somebody has a SLO bite problem where they go they go to Rabbi somebody has P problems they go somewhere so we make this somewhere available to people and but publicize it tell people listen we have a center we have a help we have a expert we have this we have that we have to start talking about this because right now we havea dying we have kids dying dying not just spiritually dying but much dying every week there's something new every week There's an overdose every week There's Something some horrible horrible thing happening to is for what for nothing you know so we have to do something about it yeah okay sure no 100% this is why it's it's it's it's a it's a very very very difficult tun it's a very very difficult test um but it's no different than any other hardship that relationship has to go through in order to grow if it's manageable again if it gets to a point where it's dangerous then obviously that's a different level then you have to run away from it if let's say for example if the drug addict becomes you know Shalom somebody that's uh becomes a wife beater or something like that you got to run away from a person like this but if this is a person that let's say for example has the addiction and he's uh wasting money or he's being uh you know just not a good person then you got to try whatever you can to help him just like you would if he was sick physically just like you would take him to a doctor so here you take him to somebody else that can help him uh you got to do whatever you can to help him to support him um no no no your life comes first your life comes first like I said if it's not dangerous if it hasn't got to the point of being dangerous do whatever you can to help this person whether it's your son or husband or whatever it is try to do whatever you can to help this person to support them just like you would if they were physically sick if somebody had cancer you're not going to say oh no cancer I'm going stay away no you could take them to the doctor if they can you do whatever you can to help them because it's at this stage it's not hurting you there cancer same thing with this try to do whatever you can as long as it's not hurting you try to do whatever you can to help them the moment it gets to a point where it's literally killing you where it's it's dangerous for you to do it then obviously you have to give it to professionals to handle because you can't put your life at risk um but again I think the uh most important part of what we learned today actually we didn't really go too deep into it was what's actually what was the rambam said which is the preventative medicine a lot of the kids young kids right now are still young a lot of us right now still young we're still not you know we're still not sold to these things we're still not too far in so if we use a lot of preventative medicine which is learning a lot of M working on our character traits we're never going to get to that stage for anyone that's already at that stage of addiction then the people that are around them need to do whatever they can to support them sometimes support is going to become directly meaning from the wife from the husband from the whoever that's directly but sometimes it can't sometimes the wife can't help the husband because the husband won't listen to her sometimes the uh you know the um husband can't help the wife so you have to bring a third person to help like I said before bring somebody else that they respect that also has some knowledge about the AR that could help uh but you don't necessarily need to bring the whole Community you know like try to limit it to as few people as possible in the beginning because this again the the more they realize that this is a problem the more they're going to be embarrassed so it's better for them to be embarrassed in front of less people than than more people but you're not allowed to put your life at risk though not to put your life for it so it's as far as a uh if a husband is not willing to stop some type of a drug addiction then obviously you you have a case for get this is not to Advocate everybody getting divorced these days we obviously again have to try to help each other but again it's you can't just can't just sit do nothing yeah okay but specifically about drugs or anything I mean I think with kids it's much easier simply because you teach them you teach them in the beginning like when they're really kids when they're really really young once they get a little bit older it becomes a little more difficult because you have to give them a lot more answers and details when they're really really young you teach them anything that a stranger gives you you say no so once you have this imprinted into the little 2-year-old's head that anything from a stranger is no even if the stranger is the cousin even if the stranger is the uncle unless it's coming from IMA and ABA it's no already you save yourself half to battle once the kid is programmed to pretty much just accept only from IM ABA and anything that anybody else wants to give them I have to ask IM for permission once it's already becomes part of the person you've already won half the battle if the kid is already older he's five six seven eight years old has a little bit more in him um then it's it's a little more difficult but you have to explain to them that this is this is poison you don't need to tell them the details this gets you high this get that stuff is not relevant to them tell them this will kill you teaching kids about God by the way is much much easier than teaching adults because kids understand yes and no kids understand good and bad it's the best type of student this is bad this is poison this kills kid knows killing is no good you won't do it so you have to be extreme with them don't sugarcoat it don't say oh no this is not so good it's not good for him this is no good poison and in my opinion that's the best way to go about it as far as the uh is teaching children for it again as they get older it gets a little more difficult when they start getting to a point where they're 10 12 13 years old you have to give them a little bit more reasons they're going to ask you why why is it poison what does it do why does somebody sell it then why does somebody give it it to me they're going to ask you 500 questions about why why why to a six-year-old you could just repeating it's poison it's poison it's poison 500 times eventually they'll stop to a 12-year old he's going to want answers so you have to give them again more answers as they grow older but try to not necessarily give them a you don't necessarily need to give them a whole Shure about uh uh drugs and all the effects of it but you have to you know give them at least Basics to know why to stay away from it uh making some visual ual is also good if there's let's say any type of kosher uh movie DVD about it uh that's also very good uh if there's a program Community program uh that's also very good uh people like uh visual things so if you have a three four five minute skit that you you know that's kosher doesn't have any things that are against theem uh you can show them stuff like that and it's it's a it's kids especially kids they like things that are visual but don't ever give up on the kids don't ever give up on yourself don't ever give up on spouses so easily it's it's it's it's it's a big battle it's a big yet and again the biggest part of it is the fact that the yet has fooled all of us he told us he's not there we're knocking on the door he's answering the door but he's telling us I'm not home that's the battle it's m it's the same thing with anything else the same thing with modesty same thing with Shabbat same thing with anything all mitv are easy it's easy Once you decide that it came from God it's easy the only time you don't want to do something is because you don't know if it's from God cuz I know if God came here right now God came here right now and told all the guys from now on you have to wear your all day God came down some type of something there's a voice came from sh said all of you from now on have to wear all day until you go to sleep is there one person here went wear feeling all day no right if The Voice came from sh said to all the women all the women have to cover their hair with all the time and you have to be modest like the biggest raban in the world is there any woman that would dare wear a short sleeve shirt in history no right is any woman not going to wear k no why because you know it's from God meaning that anytime you don't do it is because you have a saf you have a doubt did they come from God they come from the rabbi they come from God you come from some cult some this some some this you have a SE so that's why it's important to learn about our learn where it came from learn the the the bases behind them but in reality we don't need to with when it comes to a lot of the basic foundational mitv whether it be modesty or Shabbat or or drugs or anything like that all of these big or sins it's not too hard it's in the books it's available and it's also part of common sense you just ask your grandparents next question somebody else raised the hand before I pick upbody amen amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]