Do We Have Ahavat Yisrael

[Music] to everyone hopefully you guys celebrate some tuat per some uh vegetables fruits uh all types of things to uh it's one of the happy holidays for that uh you don't have any restrictions if you didn't do it you don't have to uh necessarily uh fast or anything but uh you missed out missed out an opportunity to enjoy yourself a little bit um today's shoe will be uh for a special for a David Ben Doris Leana es D Mercedes and all of and also our dear friend um um uh dear friends all over all over and also among the the righteous go that uh uh support us like for example Stefan benina who has been uh making lots of sacrifices for the sake of uh for many years now without anyone noticing um it's people like that that uh no one knows that they're doing so good until they're going to see their so uh anyway um since we talk a lot about uh rebuke you know throughout all the years we talked about how there's aah in [Music] of it's a Biblical Mitzvah where it says uh you must rebuke your brother so throughout all of the years we uh we talk a lot about rebuke we talk a lot about rebuke because it's aah you are obligated to rebuke your brother Torah says if you see him doing something wrong if you see your brother even if you don't know him but if he's he's part of am Isel and uh you see him uh making a major sin you see him uh driving on Shabbat you see him uh that uh he wants to um do or be but you know that he's married Toya he's not allowed he's considered aan in a uh Torah language which means like a criminal we had a situation like this when we were in boaron they had a that was aen but that was also on top of all of his he was also married to Aya and uh but yet the uh the rabbi continued letting him week after week be read from for everyone and most of the people didn't know and the ones that knew didn't know that he's not allowed to be a or converted she converted even if she converted he's not allowed to be with her W because he's a Coen but no she was not if she's converted then she's not a Goya anymore she's a Jew no we don't call Jews go we only call go when they when the when a when a converts he becomes a Jew and that uh they're not called go they're called converts but they're not called go why do we still since you already mentioned it and I know there's a fellow that I've been in touch with over the years uh that likes to make a uh stink he's wrong and I'll show why he's wrong since you mentioned it might as well why do we still call converts converts how come the doesn't call them Jews to know where they came from like why do wait okay but says have a higher regard right you have to respect them more so the Torah considers a convert a convert forever why a convert forever because that you would forget that you're a convert meaning it' be it be a waste of time a very big loss for you to forget that you're a convert because so long as you're a convert that means that is obligated to love you more than they love each other of the Natural Born Jews in fact they have to love you as much as they love God much more than a natural born Jew even more so there's special treatment for a convert you're not allowed to pressure him now let to press him you want to do business with a convert you have to tread carefully walk on eggshells a uh a convert even if he steals to says if you steal and you don't have any money you don't have any money you become a slave that's this obviously is not applied anymore because we don't have a sen but if somebody steals money they pull a burning ma off on people and now you come back to collect the money he doesn't have the money spent it already he bought a bunch of gummy bears so now he doesn't have any money to pay back so okay no problem you're going to be a slave for the next seven years what about if you're a convert a convert cannot be become a slave a convert cannot even he stole canot cannot become a slave says a convert cannot become a slave why he cannot become a slave since he's not allowed to own a slave he's not allowed to own a natural born Jew as a slave he's also not allowed to become a slave why he has special treatment convert has special treatment so when you call a convert a convert in a positive way not inom in a negative way oh look you came from a bad place no you put them in a positive place a positive way it's a very very big MAA it's in fact a something that a convert should never forget this is why there is a debate among the whether the convert should say the in the morning you know we say every morning thank youm for not making me a and some of the say no he shouldn't say that he shouldn't say that didn't make me a why he made you a go you're born a but then says yeah it's like almost like the previous G why because it's the ra the second that you converted you got a brand new that day you dipped into the mik you are a brand new baby that's your new birthday your past birthday is irrelevant your past name is irrelevant your past history is irrelevant how much so is it irrelevant I'll explain to you how much irrelevant it is if a brother and a sister a brother and a sister convert listen to this this is to it's not your own I'm telling you rambam a brother and a sister convert now is a brother and a sister allowed to marry each other no no right what is it called Inc incest in in in in Hebrew it's called it's called death penalty if a brother and sister get married death penalty they both die you understand if a son marries his mother the son marries his mom he touches her even intimately death penalty to both of them if a convert and his mother or his sister or her father convert they're allowed to marry each other what I repeat if a convert a boy and his mother convert they convert they are allowed to marry each other according to the Tor now the put a that it's not allowed anymore why not allowed even to allows it why because it still looks bad for the go the go if they they see they know you from the past they know that she's your mom and now you're marrying like ah when he was a God he was righteous now he's a Jew they're all crazy these people look what kind of Sinners they are CU they don't understand the Tora they don't understand that these two people just converted just became two new people they just look alike the old ones it's not the same person look alike so Tor says it's allowed now I told you guys a story I had a story where someone came to us and there was a woman that had a lot of issues m poor woman somebody uh did something inappropriate to say the least and she was a young girl 19 20 years old and she was afraid to even talk to men I told her you have to go to shid she goes I'm afraid to talk to men afraid to talk my father told me afraid to talk to anybody only person I trust is my father that's it she doesn't leave her father's side she's so scared so traumatized mein out the poor woman uh I can't do anything what could I do do do do and what happened why why is my bringing cuz her and her father were converts so I brought this to my R and after we talked to the father said listen this is a very serious situation this is there's no chance this woman is going to go on a anytime soon so says according to if nobody knows them where they live if they move to a different town where nobody knows them they could get married alloud mitvah why she's never going to be with another guy she's never going to get married and why she going to be alone for the rest of her life and our father is also traumatized from uh from his previous wife that's her mom traumatized from her what she did to him all types of horrible things so both of them are traumatized made such a thing according to they all to get married but as long as nobody knows them why because of this that put the point being is that a convert is very very special in the eyes of says you are my children I'm your father but for the converts and the orphans I'm their father and their mother same applies by the way also to orphans orphans are very very special people in the eyes of Hashem usually when hasem mentions his love and affection to its converts he also mentions it to orphans and uh a person must be very very careful when he deals with orphans and when he deals with widows and when he deals with converts same applies to widows and the reason why is because AOS says these people have had already an affliction a a terrible thing happened to them they're already suffering as it is I have to protect them extra you take advantage of these already weak people you know it's very difficult to be uh to be a strong person when you grew up without a mom without a dad it's very difficult to be a strong person after your love of your life died it's very difficult to be a strong person after you no longer have connection with your ABA and IMA because they're no longer really your ABA and IMA when a convert converts the rambam ramb same thing all over the place it's not like an opinion person converts he becomes a Jew she becomes a Jew their birth parents they're still their biological parents you can't refute that but spiritually they're no longer their parents they're not no longer their parents Hashem says I'm their parents now now you still have to give them Cav you still have to give them honor and and so on for the uh not for the sake of it's not it's not a because they're not your parents why you have to give them honor you have to give them honor as show them gratitude for bringing you into the world and supporting you and helping you and so on but it's not is to that's your when you're a convert so a person has to know that when he's messing and and and hurting a convert or an orphan or a widow he is personally says you're personally attacking me and I'll take the sword and I'll fight you it's the only time in the entire T I'll take the sword I'll fight you I'll take revenge against those people that's why it's foolish sometimes you hear these stories of some of these uh communities they're like anti converts like empti converts no no we don't accept converts here accepts him 36 places in the T accepts more than Natural Born Jews the rambam says to writes to a letter to a uh to a convert that read s sent him a letter uh I wish I was you ram writes I wish I was you to the convert this convert didn't ask him like a simple uh question oh Raab am I allowed to go here no what do he ask him listen this m that you wrote it's hard for me to read can you write it in Arabic You Know M it's 14 books it's not like today where you have a print machine okay let's just change the font to a different language you have a certain software that's it finished you don't have to do nothing go to Google changes everything no no no rambam wrote everything handwritten handwritten 14 books a convert asks it's hard for me to understand can you read can you write it for me the whole Mish can you write it for me in Arabic different language the ram writes yes I write it for you in Arabic but just know it's not going to have the same meaning because thees the holy language has certain words that you cannot translate but I'll write for you in Arabic and you wrote in Arabic 14 books in Arabic [Music] that's the love of a convert so when a says I have special rules for them someone who goes against them it's a very very foolish thing but I also tell have to tell you the negative side thear says that the converts are like a skin disease to the nation of Israel on one hand there a skin disease because when they're really good like I just mentioned Hashem loves them so much that the rest of the Natural Born Jews that are not ex you know you know really righteous not all of them obviously there's many many but the ones that are not so righteous the ones that are like you know 5050 one foot in one foot out they get even more affected by those people you see this new convert he's only a convert for two three four five six years you're a Jew already for 30 40 50 years from from birth but you see this guy he's learning theas like he's learning Al very easy for him he's uh praying like a hasm is right in front of him you're praying like Hashem has never been here you know it's it makes him upset why cuz you're new and he's old and he doesn't understand how come you have such goodness to hasem and he's struggling so much she's struggling so much so it affects them in a negative way but on the other hand the also says that there is skin disease for is when they're bad converts what does it mean bad converts sometimes they're fakers They Don't Really convert for the right reason they convert for marriage they convert for money they convert for social status but worse yet worse than all of what I just mentioned can you imagine there actually something worse than converting for money can you imagine there something worse than someone that's converting for for uh for marriage who could imagine such a thing I could imagine such a thing because I see it there are certain people that should have never converted never converted why they hate yous that's much worse much worse than someone that converted for marriage much worse than someone to convert for money why because the guy or the girl that converted but she converted because she thinks she's better than the Jews he thinks he's better than the Jews so I'm going to do better than them that person is an that's it's a very dangerous place there's several of them on the internet right now one of them calls himself a rabbi he literally destroys people's lives for free though doesn't charge that's this big Mala he says I do everything for free everything for free does but destroys people's lives tells them n convert wherever you want do whatever you want the rabbis don't know what they're talking about I mention things in the Tora he says they just because I disagree with them that's why they go against me [Music] he shows you a uh you know all types of things that uh he mentioned because people don't know better and the worst part yet his best friends who are his best friends missionaries and the Messianic Jews that's his best friends from his old life why he found more more more more likeness among them than he found among am is now you think he's the only one there's some of his customers that go on his interviews and go uh comment and do all types of things now there are many of them unfortunately there are many people that are converting right now unfortunately if you're going to have a large people making a major change in their life there's going also going to be a large amount of casualties that's just a reality just like if you have a lot of balicha you're going to have a lot of problems from the balicha world you have a a lot of people going in into the medical world you're also going to have a lot of medical malpractice a lot of people going into the legal World a lot of people are going to have different issues in the legal World same thing I remember when there was a uh a huge storm of people going into the brokerage industry back in the 80s in the 80s Mo most of you probably weren't even born back then but anyway back in the 80s there was a huge storm of people going into the into the brokerage World in that world you know what happened there was also a huge storm of fraud huge storm of scammers steals stealing money from people committing all types of scams they looked at it as a license to steal so you have a lot of it's not you know it's just happens everywhere so now we're seeing that the G 3 3B 4 a says that there's going to be a lot of converts before mashia comes but we're also seeing a lot more problems from the conversion World a lot of people are converting for the wrong reason or perhaps should have never converted at all because they actually don't understand what it means what kind of Merit it is to be part of cl to be a convert they don't understand what it means so they think no no I converted it's easy for me to keep the rules so I'm better than everybody else and that's a mistake now that you go up to just anyone start uh start rebuking them no why because despite the fact that they're making a mistake you still cannot embarrass them in public just like that you still cannot treat them just like you would treat a natural born Jew why like it says you have to be extra careful extra careful does that mean you ignore the problem absolutely not now many times people that either join as converts or our new they hit a struggle with what when it comes to the rabbis but I don't mean the rabbis of today that's a everybody has a struggle with that there's many good ones there are many bad ones and it's hard to determine who's good and who bad you literally have to have a uh lots of merits to have a good Rabbi but more so than that lots of people have a struggle following what the sages said because they don't see the value of the sages of the of means our sages May their uh uh they be remembered in uh with blessing blessed uh may they be blessed May their memory be blessed now people think that when we talk about one of the that we had one of the whether it's someone as recent as ra raash radon ra galinski the ston the basali we mention someone from recent years past generation let's say or when we mention someone like or the or theant or we go further back we go to the B oh we go further back we're going to go to the ramban Rashi ramban rash oh we go further back when to go to the time of the you mention all these names I'm not name dropping here I'm telling you names that so you can become familiar with them people think there's no difference between any of them and then you mention a rabbi today that's at the local sh gave a good sh or Rabbi youron ruven he gave a good sh say he's he's such a good sh he's is Masia stop kidding ourself and I know I'm mentioning myself I know I'm not Delirious I'm not that old yet I know where I stand if I am the dust under any of the people's feet that I just mentioned I'll be very happy why I know where I stand question is does the rest of everyone when they mention the names of the and people say yeah but you know there are many other opinions without even knowing the other opinions they just know there's always other opinions meaning it's okay to just ignore this G it's okay to just disregard what he says it's not such a big deal that he said it when a person does that they do not understand the type of fire that they're dealing with now when we rebuke and tell people that they're doing something wrong it is very different than when the average person fulfilled the Mitzvah of rebuking now we've talked many times over the years about you have to rebuke your fellow you see your fellow driving on Shabbat doing anything against the to you got to do something about it now I've told you different strategies of rebuke if you have a relationship with this person pull him to the side tell him listen why don't you stop talking in sh why don't you stop driving on Shabbat you don't know this person take a CD give him a CD not allow Shabbat because the CD is M but other times invite him to the sh send them a link that's all all of those are forms of rebuke you're bringing the truth to this person by showing them that the you know it's different than what their truth is but you have to do something you can't just uh live as if you uh don't care you just mind your own business but perhaps what we haven't mentioned enough we've mentioned it but not enough is the prerequisite to rebuking we've had a couple of about this but I don't think we're ever going to have enough and the reason why is because in order for you to rebuke T says you must rebuke your brother but don't get to a way of sin as a result of this rebuke meaning don't let this rebuke let you think for a moment that you could do whatever you want meaning if you see something somebody doing something wrong you could do whatever you want to get the message to them wrong very wrong wrong is wrong can be in order to rebuke we mentioned we had a whole sure about this in the series you must love is you must love am is if you do not love am is you're not allowed to rebuke why because your rebuke is going to come from a bad place your rebuke is going to come from arrogance your rebuke is going to come from you know and they don't your rebuke is going to come from I told you so your rebuke is going to come from hatred your rebuke is going to come from jealousy your rebuke is going to come from a b a bad place called The and it's going to cause more damage than good so how do we know if we have is Ling is a lot of people tell me they have love is but when a push comes to shove not even close now you have to love you have to love our very dear converts as well but you also have to face facts not everybody is judged alike not everybody is tadik not everyone is perfect not everyone is easy to love but we cannot always worry about everybody else we have to worry about ourselves first we have to determine whether we really have a why because says he tells who tells is that this man is going to come down as a food from heaven for them but it's going to come to them day by day it's not going to come to them one portion for the whole year you because that's the reality hasem could have simply just gave them one little pill and they're they don't have to eat for 40 years he doesn't need to feed them every day he's not subject to Nature he is nature so if he decided that you don't have to change clothes that's what he did am did not change clothes for 40 years that's what it says in tells you didn't change clothes for 40 years same outfit for 40 years and it was clean every day the Clouds Of Glory were cleaning everybody as if they were a washing machine at all times always brand new like it just came off the shelf you didn't have to change shoes you didn't have to change your uh your gown everybody was wearing brand new clothes but when it came to food no you have to eat every day if you could change nature that I don't have to wear the same clue uh that I I you know I don't have to change clothes at least once a week I have to change something for 40 day for 40 years you'll try to wear the same t-shirt for two weeks in a row see what happens to it after two weeks to you're going to get a lawsuit in the mail t-shirt versus you stop stop it this is uh come on no say I've turned colors already because of you what do you want go try different t-shirt you don't have to wear change close to 40 years it's a big deal so if he could change nature like that of course he could change nature as far as when it comes to the food but no M who says this food this man is going to come from Heaven day by day so I can test them whether they will follow my Torah or not whether will follow my toras T why why why why why several things several Tam couple of them is one simple one the man dropped for everyone everyone got their own meal but based on how righteous you were the man was closer to your house if you aad like mhu and some other during that generation the Mana came right to your door you open the door the Mana is waiting for you please eat me any flavor you want you don't even have to say just think about it even if you think about it while you're chewing all of a sudden you're you're eating let's say something that tastes like steak but all of a sudden you want ice cream too Chas the ice cream also whatever you want want and some say that it will change the form the shape of it will change wonderful righteous right to your door if a person is wicked he has to go look for it got to go above the hill under the hill around the hill go look for your own Mana why it's not next to your door so the Mana every day was a constant test of whether you uh were better than the day before if every day it's above the hill above the hill above the hill that means your chuva is not working you continue to Listen to Wicked speakers it's not going to work you continue to learn about a Christianity is not going to work you're not become no one becomes more uh more righteous by listening to Christianity you're listening to all these self-help gurus from the go not going to help you not going to become more righteous Mana is going to be far away from you how do you see it in your real life how much you have in your money if you have to work day and night non-stop just to get the same amount of money while the next guy works regular hours 9 to5 simple he gets his money guess what he has B you don't why is he have B you don't you have to ask yourself that could be because he's more righteous than you so the uh the Mana was a constant self accounting that a person does because it's also embarrassing why you can't hide it you know if it's right next to your door everybody sees they're right next to each other wow look at him sadik look at that his man is right next to his look at it he only take one step oh look at him two steps oh look at him three steps oh where's his Mana where's his Mana the guy comes out embarrassed he's like he's looking where's my Mana where's my Mana yes or no everybody looks at him goes why you ate already like they don't want to make him feel bad you ate already yeah yeah yeah I'm full I'm full full and then his little kid you know kids they can't stop themselves ABA were hungry where's the Mana what embarrassment oh we thought you ate yeah yes yeah we ate we ate sh no no mind your business go to your family go to your family why you asking me if I eat why it's coming from your the poor guy has to go look for his man and his next door neighbor's house oh this is yours oh I was looking for the guy lost and found is your man the guy is walking around with a tail between his legs why cuz everybody knows every Everybody Knows so says I'm going to test you I'm going to test you I'm going to see if you follow my teachings okay follow my teachings but part of the teachings part of the teachings is not just to not just listening to the simple things that says that he says Don't drive on Shabbat don't light fires and so on but also listen to his children listen to his this is one of the problematic places that we have all over the place why because people simply do not value like they should because they don't understand what they're dealing with they think that just because he read a lot of books that doesn't make him so special and you're right just because he read a lot of books it doesn't make him so special but the rest of what I'm going to tell you does now the sh says in the third gate the third gate he says that he's seeing that there are major sins that are treated like as if they're a minor significance like they're not a big deal even if they're punishable by death where some people you talking about 800 years ago we're not talking about right now people driving on Shabbat like it's a mitvah now you start 800 years ago you there some people that are so ignorant of the truth that they see their friends making sins and they don't even think it's a big deal what so what if he has a non-jewish girlfriend so what no they're young still they only 17 years old they're cute together maybe she'll convert maybe they she'll convert they're cute together look no look she gives so much cab to his IMA look no she's nice girl what's wrong with her she she makes him happy why why oh better yet no she's Jewish at least no he's Jewish he's Jewish so what if they're dating before marriage what's the big deal what's the big deal says death penalty s is dead they kill both of them you're saying is not a big deal like n is not a big deal like it's they just removed it from the Torah they removed it like it's not there anymore so says that some people see things that are major problems major sins as if they're nothing even if they're punishable by death or uh by exision meaning get kicked out of the Kine and so on and they look at it as if it's an added virtue meaning as if it's someone that only the do n Only theik preserve themselves before marriage only theik you know they they learn to every day only theik meaning the ignorance is not a new thing we've always had it there's always been people that don't know the difference and the problem is that there are a lot of people that ignore it but then he says even in his day there was still reproof there was still reuke he says even if there was rebuke the rebuke was to no avail didn't help anyway he told the guy listen you cannot be with this girl you cannot steal money from go you cannot steal money from anybody the guy doesn't listen to you goes listen you do you I'll do me mind your business mind your business doesn't listen to nothing unfortunately some people like that exist as it says in the prophet Isaiah 48:8 even from then your your ear was not open meaning even when AOS sent you the Lifesaver he sent you a ship he sent you a helicopter he sent you a uh a rescue send you all type of people to tell you the truth your ear was not open that's why when I tell people they ask me listen can you call my brother can you call my sister can you call my friend they're about to marry such and such that's not allowed or they're about to do such and such that's not allowed I tell them listen first they have to watch a few lectures to see if their ear is open see if they're receptive to the truth why if they're not receptive to the truth why should I suffer why should I waste my time I could use that time to talk to somebody El is open if someone is not willing to even hear the truth is not willing to invest into searching for the truth you cannot help such a person you can't why a reality you tell a person listen if you take one more step you're going to fall off a cliff and you're going to die he said listen mind your business okay he start shelling at you embarrassing you tell yeah but if you take I'm warning you if you take another step you marry this guy you marry this girl you're going to ruin your life and they start yelling at you you don't talk to me ah what does that mean that means that person does not care about life and death and does not believe you you cannot help such a person but if he says listen you know what why why do you think I'm going to die ah why you think I'm going to die let me show you and you give him the information you give him the proofs of why he's putting his life in Risk why she's putting that that means that person's ears open but if the person is not even willing to watch a lecture he's not even willing to to to see the truth or better yet he wants special treatment he wants you to fly all the way there and meet him oneon-one or something as if you have nothing to do in the world as if he's the only person out of 8 billion such a person you cannot waste your time there are many many easier customers in the world so in in the days of he says even the people that they would rebuke some s it was to no [Music] avail now many Wicked people he says will forsake their path for they will become cognizant of the destruction and loss contained within that path when made aware of the gravity of their sin and what awaits for them he says the people that if you tell them listen Jews should are not allowed to marry guim you come nice to them you know you want to be uh you know you want to tell them about Gom yet and he says listen buddy if I had a Jewish girl come to me then I'll marry a Jew this is what hasem hasem gave me this goah that's what I'm going to go with you marry Jud that you want to marry I'm going to marry her I like her he doesn't understand the simple language she tell listen since you don't understand let me can you at least invest a little bit of time into finding out why yes okay here rabu RAB M they made a couple about the gay that you're going to go to for marrying this person what huh what are you talking why G on why oh that's what says if they don't understand nice approach you have to tell them the gravity of their sin what's going to happen to them you have to why cuz then at that point you don't tell them at the gravity of the sin you don't tell them what's going to happen that's it they they're AV they're lost and those who stumbl those that fell for the sin gather strength to conquer their Lawless desire for how can they bear to witness the destruction of their own soul once they realize okay if I marry this girl if I marry this guy if I keep driving on Shabbat I'm going to uh go to a bad place forever they don't want to do it now the only people that are not going to react to this are either people that simply don't believe you tell them here's the proofs of why you're going to go to Gom for this and they ignore you why they don't believe it to them it's no different than a Hollywood movie they don't believe they don't believe [Applause] or they are so addicted to the sin that they are literally in a spiritual prison to their yet they simply they know the truth They Know listen I'm not allowed to marry Goya they know I'm not allowed to violate Shabbat I'm not allowed to steal I'm not allowed I'm not I know I'm not allowed I have a few of those MIM more than a few of those MIM send me messages on a regular basis I know I'm not allow I know I'm not allow but I can't stop myself can't stop myself from wasting seed can't stop myself from going with Z can't stop myself from stealing can't stop myself from driving on Shabbat can't stop myself all types of sins that people become addicted to these people what do you do with them you cry cry for them pray for them the only thing you can do nothing else nothing else can't do nothing for them the lecture is not going to send them a thousand lectures not going to help they know the truth already they know they agree they're just addicted to the sin they cannot see themselves past that first step and until they take that first step nothing you do is going to help them and that's assuming they believe again they don't believe it's a different story so now in beginning of uh chapter 3 in the third gate of uh of sh he says the situation can be compared to a person who wants to travel to a city and is told how the road is filled with thorns and snares and painful rocks if he needs to be there this will not deter him from going however if he's told that a lion is on the road and a leopard is lying in weight you will refrain from traveling that road meaning you tell the guy listen nice approach you marry this person this non-jewish person and you're a Jew it's going to ruin your life you continue stealing from people in your cash advance business you're going to ruin youra you continue violating Shabbat you have NOA and the guy says listen I know it's a little more difficult I'll manage I'll find a way so says okay he didn't get it the nice way you have to tell him listen when it says in the Torah you don't have a share of the world to come it doesn't just mean you just go blank like a movie ends game over it doesn't mean that when it says no share of the world to come it's sh number 84 from it's a place where that soul will be tortured in a horrible horrible place with no end that's the lion when you told them that there's thorns and there's rocks and it's going to be difficulty in this into marriage there's difficulty in A Life That's dishonest business this kids are going to follow suit and so on he didn't listen so told him listen you go on this road there's a lion waiting for you there's a leopard waiting for you're going to die there a better chance he's going to listen better chance he's going to listen meaning says that there are certain people there is only way for you to this is a book about chuva this is the ultimate book of chuva there's no other book that's greater than this other than the five books of M the fifth book this is this is this anyone that talks about ch this is it he says there are certain people there's no other way to get them to wake up and leave the sin other than telling them a a rebuke that hurts no other way [Music] now he says the [Music] after he learns and knows the MIT and what the transgressions are meaning what is the uh he has now has gotten some wisdom he knows what's going on he knows that Shabbat means what keep Shabbat means what he must learn the vile nature of those sins of those transgressions and the loss and destruction associated with them that he may distance his soul from them that he may be that he that he may reprimand himself meaning the next time he has a desire to do something bad now he's going to rebuke himself no no no no no listen buddy yes she looks pretty she looks good she even said hello to me but she's also going to say hello to me in G too not allowed yeah I'm alone and no one's watching except Hashem and that's enough he he starts knowing enough about the about sinning that he's going to rebuke himself stop stop himself from sinning cuz it comes with destruction the sin the sin is always delicious never fool yourself and think that the sin is not fun the sin is delicious until you become disgusted from it but the path between delicious sin and disgusting is a long path it takes a while to get there you don't just stop sinning and you think it's disgusting you don't just wake up one day and say oh IM modesty is disgusting yeah good luck with that one no no the the uh the uh this uh this uh woman on TV no she's ugly all right buddy to get from sin is delicious to sin is disgusting is a long path requires a lot of Kus watching your eyes Behavior reading a lot of Torah sanctifying yourish doing all types of things to get to that point meaning it's a long path you don't wake up baba Sali so how do you get there how do you get to this point one of the ways is that you have to learn the details of punishment which will give you somewhat of a a image a mental image of the destruction that comes along with the sin meaning first first approach is it's not worth it it's not worth it to sin that's what you got to tell yourself that's what you got to tell other people [Music] now remembering the punish associated with these sins so he could chastise himself he could chastise others and the this knowledge is called M and for those who offer M those who offer rebuke it will be fitting to acquire such knowledge if you want to teach other people you want to help other people you have to know M [Music] now where is the needed first he says the first level in this stringency Associated meaning where where is the biggest problem that you have to help people see the truth he says is when it comes to Rabin rulings when it comes to the rabinal MIT the rabbi say that when you wake up in the morning or before you eat uh bread you have to wash your hands the rabbi said that before you eat or after you eat you have to do a blessing the rabbi said there an the rabbi said that there's there's there there's many many seven that are the key but they break off just like the Ten Commandments and to many many others there's many in every aspect even Shabbat even though it's a Biblical mitvah there many parts of Shabbat that are reinal like for example M what is m it means that this is something that does not belong on Shabbat this is something you put aside so if you put it aside because you're not allowed to use it that means you're also not allowed to touch it so for example you're not allowed to write on Shabbat if you write two letters on Shabbat that's like you drove a car in Shabbat so now what does that mean huh what about one letter what do you mean it's also not allowed but if you do it on purpose but you write two letters it's it's a worse the point is is that if you write you write you wrote a word which is usually more than one letter because it's a word it has to be a word you wrote on Shabbat that's you drove on Shabbat you lit fire on Shabbat now the rabbi said to keep you away from the sin altogether you're not even allowed to hold a pen not even allowed to hold a pen now since you're not allowed to use your phone you're not even allowed to touch your phone not touch your phone and so on and so forth so that's M there's certain things they forbidden to you you're also not allowed to touch them that's M now that's a reab mitvah it's not a Biblical mitah didn't say don't touch your phone or don't touch the pen he said don't write don't use electricity but the rabbi said listen we love you so much we know how bad it is that you're going to get punished if you violate aem's mitvah we want to protect you to keep you away we'll put a fence around the fence to keep you away from the big sin don't even touch it don't even get close to it that's why for example adults are not allowed to play basketball according to many P adults are not allowed to play with a ball by themselves like if a bunch of adults are playing basketball on the court that that someplace they're all violating Shabbat why it's the ball is M but how come you're allowed to play with your kid cuz he's a kid you're allowed to play with your kid but if everybody's there is not a kid they're all adults not allowed to play basketball in Shabbat aside from the fact the ball is M according to many aside from that it's not a a appropriate to do it on Shabbat it's so everything I just mentioned to you is rabinal so some people say ah it's just rabinal right it's not really such a big deal that's what is saying 800 years ago he says the first place you have to rebuke people is about because those are the ones that are most common for people to ignore them as if they're not a big deal the Torah requires us to accept the decrees of the prophets and the judges as it says in the uh to in many places in Mish and in uh inim chapter 17:1 where it says to heed to the rules of the sages and to carefully comply with their restrictions the PUK literally says You must not deviate from what they tell you right or left so so here the sages are giving the power of ruling by himself so when you violate the RAB it's not not a big deal it's the opposite what's the opposite you need to know says was related to thean just you know this is not just son nobody this is one of the [Music] says the following you need to know why does one who violate a rinic ruling evoke the death penalty more so than one who transgresses a positive or negative commandment from the Torah meaning T says if you steal you get caught pay double you don't get caught you want to return it pay what it called you stole a 100 you give back a 100 if you just turning yourself in but if you get caught you have to pay double you have to pay 200 but if you violate a rabinal mitvah death penalty all of them all of them are death penalty how does that make sense this is the says don't steal and he says listen the punishment for not for stealing pay double but he says the punishment for for abidal sins death penalty so the explanation is as follows what who violates the Rabin ruling one who has the audacity meaning he does it on purpose not on an accident if it's an accident different story for everything we're talking about he says listen not for me not for me uh whatever it is that you guys say not for me not for me I'm gonna do whatever I want I'll do whatever I want listen I'm G to keep just the Torah like the carites whatever says in the Torah that's what I'm going to keep oh yeah how you going to put on what I'm by how do you know what are show me one place in the Tora it says the word look look look you're never going to find the word in the Tora one time one time you're not going to see the word in the T why T it's called to how you going to know that to the the rabbis how you going to know that to are actually the rabbis the sages that we we have so now he says a person who has the audacity to go against the rabbi rulings does so by treating their dictates lightly and not because of his yet rather his sight has been dimmed preventing him from seeing the brightness of their words he walks not in the radiance of Faith he refuses to be bound by their decree he does not b to fulfill their dictum since it's not written clearly in the Tor he says if I don't see a verse in the Tor it says M I'm not keeping it I don't care about M if I don't see how right this all these different things that the rabbi say I'm not keeping it he says this person is not violating because of yet has nothing to do with it's ego him he doesn't want to listen he wants to be Rabbi he wants to be Rashi he wants to be TOS he wants to be R he wants to be mosu he wants to be God this person death penalty can't why the longer he lives the more sins he's going to make it's better that he dies why he's G to make less sins it's like the Ben the way we child why they killed this 12 11y old almost 13 but he becomes an alcoholic and in in uh in a uh fat little guy with a uh eat nonstop the rabbi say if this guy doesn't listen to rebuke by his parents he continues drinking wine he continues eating meat he's addicted to this stuff Torah says even though he's only 12 years old they kill him why they kill him says listen it's better they kill him now that it's a minor sins rather than he grow up and steal his father's money maybe even kill his father and his mother because of money start killing other people torturing the community it's better you kill them at 12 better say this never actually happened some say it did the point being T is not vicious when it says death penalty it's the opposite it says someone that's a sinner and does not plan on doing chat it's better than they why at least they're going to sin less because there's a consequence for those sins someone that ignores the sages just thinks that the rambam is just another guy that lived 900 years ago that he's just some old man from 500 years ago that wrote a big book that's popular it's a best seller that raada raashi kki all the that we've had Walk Among Us in just the last several years they're just you know old men that read a lot of books what's the big deal they had a good memory he someone that looks at the sages like that it's better off that he dies why he's going to sin everywhere across the Torah everything that they say he's going to do the opposite not because of his yet his yet is not even working his yet is on vacation he's doing everything by himself because there's no desire to go against the rabbis it's not like immorality immorality you could at least say to hm listen AEM I I went with the girl or I did myself or whatever or you know because why I have a desire for it I ate the non kosher cuz I have a desire for eating I stole the money cuz I have a desire for for stealing he says going against the rabbis there's no desire it's outright ego it's outright the guy is just that's it he doesn't he doesn't want to listen to nobody but himself he like a guy like that lost cause L cause why that's the foundation of our tah and we'll go over in a moment why this leads us because we're going to need to know who these people are that people think are just regular people someone says if I don't see it in the toah it's not clear in the Tor and does not behave as one who has violated the words of the Torah is in deep trouble and the reason why is because says that this guy is going to make sense against the rabbi rulings he doesn't even see himself as a sinner at least a guy that went with a a married woman or a guy that wasted seed or a guy that stole or a woman that uh was they feel like they did something wrong whereas this guy that's going against the rabbis he doesn't even think there's anything wrong with it like yeah listen that's your Rabbi I have a different Rabbi who's your Rabbi ah you wouldn't know him you wouldn't know him you wouldn't know him you ask him for the name giv you some Rabbi taranta from from from uh from some hole in the wall that no one ever heard of also that Rabbi tarant he's he's bigger than he's he's bigger than he's bigger than he's bigger than Rashi he's bigger than he's bigger than them you listen to him over them he gave you their tail to do whatever you're doing consequently he deserves because of this situation he deserves a death penalty for casting down even one from among all of the beneficial rulings so now we see that when it comes to Rabin rulings T considers them very important not just important in fact the sages in page 35 he quotes here he says when it says in shim in a song of songs for your love is better than Wine it's really schl says that the rabic rulings are more beloved to hem than the wine of the tah meaning than his own rulings Hashem loves the rulings of the sages more than he loves his own rules why because you toiled you toiled to get that Rabin ruling you didn't just get it because you felt like doing it you did it to protect the people you did it because you love the people the sages love the people so much that they made these rules to protect them soem says I love your rules better than [Music] mine now in the uh third gate seventh section he says in the book of uh Deuteronomy chapter 10 verse 12 he says and now is what does AEM your God request of you only to fear hem your God that's a PUK in the Tora given us one of many places the mitvah of fearing God there's a mitvah in theora you must fear God anyone tells you you're not supposed to fear God has never read apparently it's an obligation you have to fear God how how much mosu says that's the only thing that's it you fear God you're going to fulfill the entire Torah he says what did God ask of you just to fear Him why if you fear him you're going to do everything else so extrapolates this and says through this hasem favors his creation as he says in a different place in Psalm uh 147:1 AEM favors those who fear Him so says that the rabic decrees and their restrictions are the basis for following the path to fear hasem meaning the ultimate way that one can show a sphere of the almighty is being an expert in theab Ultimate way they create a fence and a distancing preventing one from with prohibition of a Tor just the way an owner of a field fences fences in his in his field because of its prized value for he fears lest people enter his property and turn it into a place of grazing so he says that when a person really fears the almighty how you going to show you fear violating it by following the rabbi decrees that are in essence off fence around the rule that Hashem made Hashem made the rule of Shabbat don't drive on Shabbat don't burn don't work on Shabbat so the rabbis made a fence around that don't even go to your job on Shabbat and pretend like you're not working don't even talk about business on Shabbat because that's really working transaction doesn't have to take place for it to be work don't even pick up a pen meaning they made extra stuff so when you follow that extra stuff that the rabbis added you're showing your true fear because your fear is pretty much not only am I afraid of viting what hasem says but I'm afraid of even getting close to it so now who are these rabbis in recent generations and how come gave them such a merit such a scoot to be the ones that rebuke us that tell us we're not allowed to do a bunch of stuff we're allowed to do a bunch of stuff we should do a bunch of stuff we shouldn't do a bunch of stuff like for example you should listen to a Sho if you come to a Sho you should not play with your phone when you're in a Sho if you're going to play with your phone during a Sho you shouldn't be in a sh why because that you're in the sh and playing with your phone cuz now you're being a distraction to other people because they're not thinking maybe I should play with my phone also so now many people think that in order to be a Gad you have to be a giant only in learning but your character traits not so much so when they mention they usually mention oh the he completed the shots a thousand times a thousand times he completed the shots more probably but we know for sure a thousand Feinstein at least 400 they know for sure at least 400 times he finished the sh I don't know how somebody could do that in one life but apparently not too long ago he completed the sh more than 400 times rki he completes the sh the and many many other things every single year every year for almost 80 years in a row now so people think Ah that's why he's a g that's why he's a GI they don't know much about how much they love they don't know that part of the story how much they willing to sacrifice for and that's some of the things that we'll share now when he started the mus movement even though M has been part of the Tora from its birth a couple of hundred years ago Amel got to a place of weakness where people simply ignored M they thought if you want to bead learn a lot of Tor don't focus on your character traits because through your learning of Tor it'll fix your character trait says wrong it's not about how much Torah you know but rather how much you think of yourself meaning if you know a lot of Torah but you also have a lot of ego that goes with it it was better that you never learned Tor why the says someone a with a big ego bad it was better a dead animal is better than him why because the Torah is supposed to reshape your character traits make you a better quality human being if you know a lot of Torah but still doesn't shape you that means that you learn a like you learn a history book on the other hand if you learn toah and you have good character traits that's special that's something special even if it means you're learning less T but you've perfected your mid that's something special now when your person learns a lot of mus how do you know a person learns a lot of mus what are some of the signs anyone who wants to volunteer why take a sip slow to anger slow to anger that means you are uh you learn a lot of mus okay you repeat it you by every examp everything you do oh you know it says this and this you uh reference a lot like you see the T while you're doing your action okay you re see the to while while you're doing what you're doing okay no give me another example so far I have disagreements with both of you but I'll tell you in a second start to see changes in the they so the first issue why do you say listen the uh um a person starts quoting things or a person is slow to anger unfortunately that is not always a sign and the reason why is because there's certain people for example with the anger there's certain people that have a personality trait they're like uh Stone that's just they're naturally like this they're naturally just don't get angry they're just like one of these people like they're almost like in a coma but they're alive doesn't matter what happens I knew a few people like this doesn't matter what happens they don't move oh this guy see what happened what it was an accident down there wow okay W okay send him uh what like nothing oh listen somebody okay like nothing nothing mve them nothing some people like this some people like this I know a few people like this a few times I checked the post life but barely so some people have that trait so that means that if they slow to anger doesn't always necessarily mean that doesn't always mean that it can it's good but it's not verification it's not for sure it could be a trap of the Satan on the other hand he's saying someone that quotes the stuff we just said at someone what does it mean if he that means he knows a lot of T so he could quote a lot of things but still be a wicked horrible person sometimes you see these missionaries that uh like this guy he's a natural he's a he's a Jew married to that's a Christian Missionary and if you ask him questions he will mention different verses in a tanak that he misquotes anyway but he'll mention different things so it sounds like he's learned and only a learned person knows that this person is less than less than a even but the point is that he can mention things to you by heart doesn't mean that he's learned M and doesn't even mean he's is Right sometimes people mention things and they just simply just they know you don't know so if they mention anything you'll just buy it they do it a lot in business by the way they say oh you know 76% of people and they know no one's going to double check they know nobody's going to double check I'll give you an example how many people here how many people here have seen the the uh the famous uh what they call a fact that once you hit let's say 40 years old as a woman once you hit 40 years old as a woman you are going to be at least 50 to 90% less likely from having kids how you heard of that yeah how many of you have heard of that the older you get the older you get so 40 years old for women people think oh once you're 40 that's it you're not going to have kids no more or you have a very very small chance it has to be like a miracle hence the reason why there is a whole industry whole industry built around it now most women once they get into their late 30s they and they're not married or they haven't had as many kids as they want they start panicking guys refuse to even Marry The 40-Year-Old girl or the 45y old girl if they want to start a family like no she's already too old she's 40 42 no I can't Rabbi I want to have kids why cuz they heard in school in public school and in in other places that if you're a 40y old woman you can't have kids now did anybody actually check this no why they heard it on the internet so it must be true what is the actual truth the truth is two things number one the chances of a 40 or 42 or 44 year old woman versus a 25y old woman of having kids changes by 2% meaning the 80 the 25y old 25y old is 84% chance of her getting pregnant the 45y old 82% what about deformities 82% as far as the uh the deformities they say the deformities are going to double they're going to double once they're 45 years old 46 years old you're G to have kids with three heads come out say Aba ABA ABA you know who you going to pay who gets the allowance cuz they tell you in the new doubles they had a whole magazine about this what doubles means the standard standard rate of some type of uh uh deformity in a baby is a half of 1% at 45 years old it's 1% meaning a half of a percent doubled to 1% so they're right it doubled but it's 1% chance but nobody checked do you know where all of the statistics are B off that scared the living lights out of people for the last few decades if it's to secular secular knowledge where do they base all of their research on quantum physics not quantum physics a study that was made in the 1600s before modern medicine before uh all of the things that we have developed today foods and so on and so forth meaning not only are the statistics flawed but even the research itself is not relevant but people just jump to conclusion and then women get depressed oh H take it easy double check so people mention a lot of things off top of their head no one checks so even though someone can mention something going back to what you said someone can mention something to you off top of their head doesn't mean that they're really a a righteous person or not but what she said what she said which is that it changes their character that's what we have to go with why because that's what the tah is T is not a history book that you're supposed to learn a bunch of verses by heart or a bunch of Rules by heart and therefore you are called learned the toora is something that's supposed to change your character change your behavior and to make that behavior and that character in line with what hasem wants for you what Hashem has decreed for you have so now when a person learns a lot of Torah he's going to learn a lot of information but when he learns the part of the Torah that's called M automatically it'll make him fall in love with why first and foremost he will start seeing himself smaller and smaller than what he thought of himself just by seeing his own flaws second he's going to see some of the good things other people have much more than he saw when he was only looking in the mirror third he's going to notice how much hasem Lov these people despite their weaknesses and how much kindness and patience he has for them so where does rebuke come from if you notice the entire fifth book of the K the book of Deuteronomy is M's last month and a half in the world where mosenu from the beginning of the book all the way to the end of the book gives it to on their head he yells at them he rebukes them he calls them fools you're a generation of fools that's stupid despicable stupid people he says to them you go against hem he's going to make you eat your kids you go against is going to give you diseases you go against going to do this this and this to you he gives it to them on their head much much scarier than I could ever be it's coming from after all but then you see earlier when I'm sorry making you tired when when says Moshe let me start a new religion with you let me kill all of these people they all Los us anyway let me kill them and I'll start with you I'll start with you m goes to no theik they made a small mistake what the idol hem really you your glorious you you're you're offended by by what a piece of a piece of metal that's what you're offended by hem you created everything you're offended by a bunch of a bunch of little kids worshiping a they didn't even worship it really they were dancing around it a why you get such a big deal out of it you know what you need to kill somebody just kill me you need you need to kill somebody just kill me wait one second for a month and a half he's rebuking them calling them despicable calling them fools telling them all the punishment going to come to them but when Hashem says you know what let me punish them no hhm why you going to punish them punish me instead kill me hem what's the difference says the following when you go and rebuke the people when you're trying to help the people you must tell them the truth and the consequence of that of that truth because that's the way to help them change you have to tell them that it's dangerous to dry fast it's dangerous to overeat it's dangerous to go against hem it's dangerous there's a consequence for it you have to tell them the truth but when you talk about am is to hasem when you talk about am is to each other you have to talk about them in a favorable way tellem look at this generation of tadim look at these people they're trying so hard look AEM they love you they're you know they're not they're the best they really love you even though they have some weaknesses but really they're trying you have to do this is a very very important thing to know why because many people think that they can do what I do or what does or what any other speaker the rebukes does and because I talk about things like oh these people in this K are wicked these this is wicked and people say oh so I could just do the same thing right no you cannot when I speak I speak generally speaking in order to affect the public I tell people but there's a lot wrong here here here here don't drive on Shabbat don't go with this don't do this don't do this I tell you the general thing just like M for me but M told the people listen you need to know the consequence of the crime but when I pray what do you think I pray for myself I don't remember the last time I prayed for myself when I cry you think I cry for myself I don't even think I ever cried for myself when I do this I give sh you think I do this for myself if I did I charge you guys [Music] money do you understand when you are trying to help people you tell them the truth but when it comes to talking about them to hem and even to other people you can't tell people oh listen this guy he's uh he's he's the worst guy in the world yeah you know what he did to me he stood me up he did this to me he did that's you can't just use what let you hear in a lecture and say oh I'm going to do the same thing on my own independent level on one person that happens to be someone that hurt me why because it's a very very thin line between aah and a sin and I give you an example that's very unique it happened kamki yov kamki Shalom wrote this story says a famous story that happened couple of hundred years ago there was aor at the time named DAV tabil left this world [Music] 1861 and it was also a upand cominging prodigy named R David fredman now David fredman was born in 1828 meaning by the time tabil died Ra fredman was literally 22 years old young or 32 years old 33 so anyway young now they wanted to make of DAV tabin the head Rabbi of Bisk head Rabbi of bis that was a big part of Judaism in that time and they want them to want them to be the Gad he says that's he was already a g he already wrote many uh uh he's one of the of he very famous already wrote so it was already a wellknown but before you make somebody the the biggest Rabbi in in a city or in a in a country and so on you want to in essence double check where you want to show everybody this is why we picked them so they usually would give like a very deep Shure that only if you're a even understand what he's saying but just to show you where he is and where everybody else just to show you this is that's why he's the G cuz you don't have enough time to meet him and know all his character but you need to know this guy what he saying that's what m says so there was a few that didn't like him why he say yeah he's too strict he's too strict we don't want him to come here to brisk make our life more difficult tell us everything is not allowed we have to stop it but we can't tell people uh listen don't elect them there's no one else in the world that's bigger than him that could be the rabbi of bris so how could we do it we have to trap him what we're going to do we're going to send someone to come to the Shu and try to find see if there's someone can like mess with him a little bit see if someone can put some doubts in the crowd but it can't just be some missionary it can't just be some a uh you know Wicked person it has to be somebody that's also who is such a that could actually even go head to to you know head tohe head with him ah let's take the youngster The Prodigy the child prodigy that many says he's going to be the next uh V fredman David fredman man when he was still a kid little kid they said this one he's is goingon to be like G so even though he's a young kid at the time maybe a teenager let's tell them listen we uh for the sake of emit you know they don't tell the kid listen we're trying to trap this this little kid loves T loves listen for the sake of we want to make sure that the rabbi RAB he's you know he he's really strong in the Torah so we want to show everybody so why don't you throw him some tough questions throw him some tough questions just to show everybody that he knows so much so the kid says sure why not he doesn't know there's a time and a place for questions and this is not it you don't ask questions during this year this year you come you listen you say thank you very much for kiss his hand and get hopefully you don't ask questions during this year this you just sit there quietly this I'm sitting in the same room but this little kid doesn't know that this whole trap is happening and he's being used as debate and gives a sh that's very very high level half the room didn't even understand the other half that understood was impressed as can possibly be but the one guy that couldn't stop interrupting is little fredman little David fredman every few minutes he asks a question asked this question about this about this about this CU he knew a lot of he was enormous this kid and by the end of the sh he gave enough complications to almost make the entire argument the entire seemed like it's wrong entire Foundation of sh seemed like it's wrong so after the sh is finished called the kid called the the Freedman and he says to him since you made me look smaller you will remain small for the rest of your life and that's what happened he stayed a little kid he never grew from that age he was 12 years old little 5 foet T he stayed that small he never grew like everybody else even more so even though his Torah was enormous it never became a bestseller it never became popular anyone that reads it knows this guy David fedman was a giant but it never it never stuck it never stuck people very few people learned his work why now let me he asked a question why after all all he did he asked asked some questions in the T aren't you allowed to ask questions to is full of questions how come how come I ask some questions and I'm getting punished for it and even though okay fine I wasn't the right place to to ask questions a uh you you know wasn't the right time to ask questions but after all he's just a little kid why you have to punish this kid get upset and M decree it in the world for hasem to fulfill that this kid's GNA is going to remain a little for the rest of his life I mean that's a hard punishment to understand it we have to go explains back over 3,000 years T in seph 1 chapter 1 verse number six talks about a story about two women one was Kan and the other one was panina married to and P the second wife had 10 kids K [Music] zero zero no kids as if there was no uterus as if in heaven they decided no kids for you nothing now imagine you're married [Music] your sister wife over here popping kids like it's a uh free you just sitting there like a dummy don't know what to do with yourself like as if your body doesn't function menu s menu says if I don't have kids better I die better I die a woman that cannot have kids she feels like she's not a woman I remember I talked to one woman years ago when I was in the insurance business she called me I have no idea why she chose to call me out of all people in the world she was a customer of our company but I wasn't exactly best friends with her or anything but apparently she ran out of people and I was the last person to call and she called me right after the doctor told her she can't have kids now even though we weren't exactly best friends and even though I didn't really have much of a relationship with this woman as far as like talking nothing she got this news apparently no one else answered the phone she had the number she called me and I had to listen to her for a few hours why she just found the worst news of her life she can't have kids n has it even worse not only she can't have kids but she's seeing another woman inside our house having 10 one after another if that's not bad enough Pina was saying listen only way that Kan is going to have kids is if a who simply makes a miracle obviously it's not working something's wrong so hasm has to change nature for her so Hashem doesn't just change nature for no reason you have to pray for it you have to do something you cannot get to a point where you just give up why because sometimes what happens people have something go wrong in their life and they just give up I've been looking for a shid already for three four five 10 years already I haven't found it ah I'm just going to say stingle for the rest of my life I've been trying to have kids already for 10 years nothing yet okay you know what hashm doesn't want me to have kids ah you know what I've been working all types of jobs I never made in life ah you know what I'll just be a homeless guy forget it they give up they give up sh doesn't like giving up why as long as you're alive you have to keep trying you have to keep trying have to that's your sometimes wants to see more from you now the problem is with people is that they don't necessarily want to give up but they become okay with the situation they stop praying for it they stop asking Hashem to change nature for them they stop asking Hashem to bring them salvation because they say listen I haven't had it okay so that's it you know what could I do so Pina was afraid says this in babra page 16a P was was afraid that KH was going to give up because she hasn't had kids yet and she's just going to give up and she'll never have kids so what does she do she said okay I'm going to cause her to feel bad about it how not to hurt her to help her how I'm going to remind her constantly that she should pray for to kids how every day I'm going to tell oh look I just brought a new outfit for one of my kids every day she would talk about our kids oh look I bought a new outfit for my kid what do you think of this outfit yeah this is no no this is the one-year-old not the 2-year-old two-year old was two years ago this is the one year old I had you know two years in a I had a kid two-year-old now yeah yeah oh you know that's the two-year-old it's the one no no no you're talking about the 5-year-old no that's the f I had five in 10 I have I have 10 I have 10 that's why I have 10 and she would constantly remind every day every day poke her a little bit more every day poke her a little bit more and Kan would go home and cry tears of of M like fountains would come out of eyes fountains Pina did she do it for herself no says testifies P did it for the sake of and Kan cried to without stopping and eventually opened the gates of heaven and gave her says was likeu andon together but that's not the only kid she had she had five kids but the p in says she has seven why does it say that she has seven when in reality she had five thear says and in the says for every kid that was born to had to bury two two kids of hers would die hasem punished her every kid born to you say [Applause] oh two kids die first kid born two kids forina die second kid born two more kids die third kid born two more kids die fourth Kid born two more kids die after eight of her kids Pina eight of her kids die she realizes she comes to and she says I know now says in the I know now that I sinned against you my kids are not dying just because they're dying because of what I did to you they're dying because of the sorrow that I caused you she meant well by it and Sham didn't accept it and she says to her please you're pregnant again with your fifth kid please adopt my two kids take my two kids so they don't die KH accepted the apology took the kids adopted them and went and prayed to Hashem KH was a prophet she prayed to Hashem Hashem please don't kill these two kids Hashem says to there was already decree written in sham that these two kids were going to die and they're only going to live because they're your kids [Music] now that's why it's written that KH had seven kids even though she had five kids as it says in 59 uh that the uh the one that was uh was Barren y she gave birth to seven the one that was Barren she gave birth to seven what seven five of her own and two that she adopted from from Pina now the question is here still the same question that he asked before why why why is the kid that ends up being a big fredman David fredman get punished to be a little one even when he's an adult all he did is ask questions why is p that meant well and pray and and tried to entice KH to pray to hem why she lose eight kids why it's not fair right Shalom says there is no explanation other than the fact that when you're dealing with one person hurting another you're simp L playing with fire you hurt another Jew you're playing with fire you cannot go to the fire and say ah why did you burn me it's fire it's fire yeah but she meant well well hasem says she may have meant well he may have meant well but maybe there was a little bit of a part of it that wasn't 100% well meaning a little bit a part of it she enjoyed it a little bit a part of it she was happy about a little bit a part of it he got you know he got really happy that he stumped the rabbi he got happy that he stumped the rabbi why he get 50 bucks now he got happy he got happy that he stumped him a good event now when you're dealing with hurting and another son or daughter of hem you're playing with fire don't be surprised if you get hurt don't be surprised if you get burned by fire that's what fire is meaning that when we rebuke each other if that rebuke even has 1% arrogance in it 1% ego 1% I Told You So 1% I'm right and you wrong mentality 1% self interest do yourself a favor just give him a CD and walk away don't say a single word why you're going to get hurt you're going to get hurt give him a CD walk away don't say a word don't say nothing why you're going to hurt yourself you get burned by fire now if a person has a habit of rebuking other people he has to check himself to see is part of the reason why you're rebuking them cuz maybe you're a little jealous that they have something you don't is part of the reason that you're rebuking them maybe you're taking Revenge he took something from you he hurts you so ah you're giving it them back getting them back to know how clean your heart is a person person has to not only learn a lot of M but has to constantly reflect on himself [Music] now there's a famous story of one time there was a old man older man in a on a train and uh there was a couple of uh young Jewish guys see this old man he's yes you know these are guys that learned T but you know they're young they like to have a little bit of a good time at other people's expense so one of the guys says let's mess with him we got a long ride ahead of us let's mess with the old man a little bit they don't know who he is let's mess with him a little bit so one guy you know he's the captain he decides to play with his ear a little bit and the old man pretends like he doesn't know it's them you know so they touch his ear and he goes and continues to learn the old man well he touches his ear he goes you know like he thinks it's a fly pretends and they're getting a laugh and a kick and the old man is so happy that they're happy he lets them continue doing it you know touching his ears and touching his other year and they're pulling his hair a little bit and they're messing with him and he continues to learn and they're laughing W they're having a good time they're having a good time one of them after having so much good time he gets a little bit overboard what does he do he said listen I got to do this I always wanted to do this you go what I'm going to put his beard on fire goes no you crazy no no come on no well he's like napping right now he's napping he's not he's not he's he's like half asleep the other guy's like do it do it do it do it guy takes a match puts it right under his beard puts the beard on fire a little beard but the old man shuts it off right away and goes back to learning as if nothing and they're having a ball they're having a good time they're laughy what what this is the best prank ever I'm going to tell everybody you're the best pranker I can't believe you did it and he didn't even notice it's you wow you're so good you're so this yeah I'm always going to ride on trains with you from now on shortly after they get to the stop but when they get to the stop they see that unlike any other time they've taken this train back in forth from this city to that City this time there are literally thousands of people waiting at the train thousands of people waiting at the train at the train station so they come out pass the old man they're having a good time you know old man's taking his time and they leave the train and they look at everybody see all these Jewish people goes why is everybody here what do you mean why everybody here is here CU [Music] who they're like we were on a train we didn't even know it been on a train for 10 hours wow we're going to wait for him too so everybody's waiting waiting they're singing and singing and singing for and everybody's happy no happy coming all the all the songs all the things and who comes out the old man with the bird beard these three guys start hysterical crying especially the guy that burned his beard he's the one that did all the action he starts hysterical crying he doesn't know what to do with himself he wants to bury himself on the train tracks just to make sure that in case there's a remains there's no remains he just did all of this to the now he can't help himself after all the commotion everything else he comes to the rabbi he finds where he is he goes please please forgive me forgive me I didn't know I didn't know it was you so them wait so if it's just a different person does that mean it's allowed to do everything you did he goes no I'm stupid I'm an idiot I didn't mean to it just I don't know I got the this that says to him why you here Why'd You Come Why'd You Come to kova as though was a city kova why' you come to kova and he says to him I'm uh here getting my certificate my ran for I'm coming to the head to to the Head Rabbi here to get a certificate to get to be a to be a butcher to get my my uh my so okay let me test you okay he starts asking him questions he says this person is a complete ignoramus doesn't know anything there's no chance in the world the head Rabbi of kova is going to give this guy anything other than a tissue he's not getting a SM he's not getting nothing you got this guy should stay away from knives stay away from animals stay away from people but unlike us says listen you need to sharpen up on a few things you know what do I'm going to get you a room in my hotel right next to me so we can learn every day together I'm going to learn together with you for a few weeks until you know for sure and then you'll go to Rabbi you g to do this for me yeah yeah for sure no come on so this kid gets personal shoe with the that he just burned his beard played with his ears and did all types of things after a month of learning with him and he's paying for his hotel too he's paying for his hotel he's teaching him every day after all said and done a month later he sees he knows what he's doing he writes him a personal letter a personal letter to give to the Head Rabbi of kov he says I have tested this young man he is certified he's good I verified that he knows all the laws of he's signing off on it the just signed off for this kid he doesn't have to to check nothing here you go kid take so now when this story is told initially all of us are thinking what is he what is he an angel like why okay so you're thinking wait a minute okay so the fact that he forgave him the fact that he forgave him okay he's an angel he's an angel that that's why he forgave him he doesn't care that people are messing with him burn his beard play with his ear or so on but then the said the fact that you're an angel and you just forgave him and you don't care that he messed with you and so on that we can understand but why did you go the extra mile and start spending money on him pay for a hotel for a month teach him every day and on top if that's not enough you wrote him a letter a handwritten letter to the to the rabbi of the city to give him a it was enough already you forgave the guy you didn't put a death penalty on the guy you go to all of this says something powerful that we can actually take this and apply to our life he says the following he says the Torah doesn't only say that you have to love your brother doesn't only say that it also says don't hate him in your heart meaning okay love him don't do anything bad to him as you wouldn't want to do on to yourself don't burn his beard okay love him okay but also says don't hate him in your heart now even though I forgave him I said okay no big deal okay you burn my beard you play with my okay no problem in reality I still hated him a little bit why he burned my beard he played with my ears he made fun of me for five hours straight I hated him a little bit I know I hate him I hate him a little in my heart I'm not telling him I told him I forgive you but in my heart I still hated him that's a sin against how could I live with myself so I had to do something to fix this how can you stop from hating somebody ah to says this do a lot for him love him extra do extra for him invest into him until you love him and that's what I did I invested more and more time in him and I paid for him and I taught him and I spent time with him until I loved him again until I loved him again this is why parents especially mothers love their kids no matter what because you spent so much time on this kid you woke up at night and then you went to sleep and then you woke up again and then you got him a bottle and then he doesn't want this bottle bot you get him a different bottle and then he gets the binky doesn't want this Binky you get him a different Binky then he wants a teddy bear and he wants to change the blanket and then he changes the diaper and then the diaper does another diaper and you do this for years and it seems to no end and then finally after he's potty trained now you gotta deal with the rest of the stuff and you keep doing it you got to do his homework got to fix his homework and you got to make sure that he has friends and he doesn't have friends and he watches this and he learns this and you're his best friend and you're not his friend but you pretend and you and you have to be everything that this little kid wants and you invest so much time in him and her that you simply love this kid more than you love yourself cuz you're investing more in him or her than you doing yourself you don't have time a normal mother told me regular a normal mother told me she said listen I don't remember the last time I went to the bathroom like a normal person why when you have kids you have three four five six kids you can't go to the bathroom like a normal person you have to like you're on the run like you just robbed the bank why cuz there's always someone crying someone hanging from the ceiling someone's in danger it's p every 5 Seconds the fact that the kids survive every day is a miracle and then the husband comes home him at 7 8:00 at night what' you do all day I worked all day what' you do all day you know at that moment God himself wants to take his right hand and slapped the guy so much so hard he'll remember he'll remember what he did all day for the rest of his life what' you do all day the fact that the kid survived and at 700 p.m. is a miracle she can't go to the bathroom like a normal human being she can't eat like a normal human being she can't function like AAL human being but that's why she loves them a lot more than the father why she invested every single second into them every second into them and that's why she'll love those kids more than the kids will love her why she invested no one will ever love their kids more than their mother no one in the world other than himself cuz he made the ultimate investment how do you stop hating somebody that really you shouldn't hate you have to invest in them how do you stop hating that you shouldn't hate you have to start investing in them how do you know that you love am is when you've already been investing in them for a long time and you forgot what hate even feels [Music] like when you start looking at Amy SL like you look at your kids unconditional love no matter what you're going to change their diaper you're going to answer their questions you're going to do whatever you want then you could rebuke as much as you want why cuz your rebuke is [Music] pure but if you have a problem investing in be quiet get a CD give it to them go away be a messenger be a mailman why because you may cause more damage you may cause more damage it has to come from love even though it's hard to hear so now when you hear about the you hear about you hear about P you hear about these Giants how it's danger to mess with am you want to hear some things of the people that took care of them and the people that got in their wayki kamki shalom [Music] there was a certain hotel that with C to the religious community and this hotel a couple times a year had an event where non-religious Jews would come there and they would use use the swimming pool to uh for mixed swimming and some rabis said listen this place is not koser the whole place the whole place is the worst and so on and so forth but a couple of really big rabbis says listen at the time that the event that this hotel caters to the religious Jews there's no mix dancing there's no mix swimming there's no you're allowed to use this hotel so the of kamki came to the for the we have to protest we have to do something about this they're letting this go these rabbis don't know what they're talking about Giants they don't know what they're talking about they're saying this hotel is kosher hey look there's pictures of people swimming together it's it's this place kamki says wait theim already said already said this is allowed and you want me to say it's not allowed he says I'm not willing to do that ah Rabbi where where's the where's the self-sacrifice for for you know they want to be you know want to be zealous everybody wants to be P but you're doing all the work hey Rabbi fight this one fight that one look at this one look at that one everybody wants you to be the koban look this guy uh peeped squeaked wrong words somewhere some there you make a whole sh about him [Music] make sure you make fun of him too look at his beard look at his hat look at his this so kamki says to them no there's nothing wrong with what they did place is perfectly allowed how could this be he says when a person a regular person says that a certain bird is impure while the rabbis the sages says that this pure is this pure this this bird is pure but this guy's adding a to himself the rabbi said that this bird is allowed but this guy he wants to be hero he says no no this pure this bird is impure not good it's not bad like the aicos that says that the bird that the Rabbi says is kosher the bird the bird the rabbi said is not Kosher is not Kosher meaning if the rabbis says you're allowed to go but you decide not to go there's nothing wrong with it okay you don't want to go don't go they say you're allowed to go but you want to add a stringy to yourself no problem with that you want to add stringy to yourself no problem but if the Rabbi says this is this is not allowed and you now say is it's allowed you according to the Tora so she says to his the Rabbi says it's allowed to go if you guys don't want to go no problem but if you want me to be an aicos and say not to go to this place and go against the rabbis I'm not willing to do that I'm not going to be an naos I'm not going to be a Nao you don't want to go don't go but you want me to go against the rabbis no thank you it's fire it's fire now at the time of Rya there were many different leniencies that he found in Al that stirred certain people one of them was the issue of the that you can do 13 minutes now some of the from were really red by it and they wanted to do what's called P they wanted to make posters huge posters and hang them all over the streets to go against radya and some of the people went to and told him we're gonna go against was also when he said something people listened he says to these people he says tell all of these rabbis before they sign anything before they say anything that they're simply playing with fire here they're going to go against they're simply playing with fire because Shalom he gets offended by it he a met he not he's not not making it up out of his head he has a met you're gonna go against him it's an atomic bomb after they left he told his tamim listen I don't want people to get hurt here go stand by permanently go stand by's house anytime you see any posters take them down why I don't want him to get hurt why if he gets hurt people are going to die that's how much loves [Music] love now many times people that pretend to be zealous end up being exposed thems as criminals they pretend to be lovers of the truth lovers of the Torah but eventually they get caught red-handed like this one guy that gave a speech for a very big Jewish organization about three years ago about how unity love everyone love everyone love everyone a year later he found out he was caught loving someone he's not allowed to love one of his uh Kila members wife keynote speecher keynote speaker keynote speaker a DI a famous One caught with one of the members of the kila's wife love everyone why because loving everyone sells a lot more now when a person understands what's required of him when it's the right time to rebuke what are the conditions to rebuke it softens him as a person he understands that there are time and a place for everything there's a way to do everything you can't just shoot and aim later there was one time that kamki came to and visited one of his T's house and uh his T his daughter his little daughter just learned how to walk she just started learning how to walk so to entice her to walk a little further you know he showed her a little candy little candy come come come no come come and the girl you know she little little T little by little one step at a time and she finally got to where he is instead of giving her the candy took another few steps back to to entice her to work a little more kamit saw this said give her the candy right now stop itry it's funny I laughed also I first heard the T got so frazzled like what what he gave her the candy he goes how dare you do that to her he didn't know what to say the biggest Rabbi in the world just yelled at him for for for for you know trying to get his daughter to walk a little more he says I know you mean well but you cannot make her work so hard under the belief that she's going to get the candy just to walk back a little more and make her suffer you can't make the baby suffer you want to give her a second candy fine give her the first candy that she earned and then you got to give her another candy for her to walk more why we have a rule in the Torah even an animal that you use for work you're not allowed to block its mouth why if it wants to eat let it eat let it eat you cannot stop it from eating you can't torture people can't torture babies one of the amazing things one of the Amazing Stories I heard from also is that how didada he was a sandak you know sandak is the person that sits there and holds the baby while he gets circumcised this is one of the most critical mitv that a Jew has to have in his life not only for himself but also for his kids now because it's a very big uh uh Merit and very valuable to have a righteous person sit there as the sandak holding the baby that's getting circumcised you always want it to be a righteous person you always because it's going to influence the baby many say the character traits of the Sak affect the baby because he held him during the uh during the um uh circumcision so I have somebody to blame for my arrogance it was some so now so that means that was a Sak for literally thousands thousands of Brit they would have they would come to one after another you wouldn't have the whole celebration everybody singing no no no two seconds come give the baby cut go cut baby go go sometimes be like five six in a row eventually he said listen I'm already full I'm already satiated of of being a sandak you know it's a big Merit to be a sandak but I already I've done enough for a few lifetimes so had a favorite M his favorite MO is RA ysf Orin ra ysf Orin this should also be for the of his uh his wife's just passed a few weeks ago ysf or he uh also did a On's kid recently and uh y when he did the for's son he says this is my breit number 35,000 Brit mil number 35,000 [Music] so now there are many people that have done many Brit I don't know if there's necessarily many did 35,000 if the but there's many it did a lot I know ra for example did theit for my kids he not only he's an expert he's amazing but he's done many many many from all over the world he did we any time we we we had the two kids we fly him all the way from New York just for him to do of course there's more over here you can find in pretty much every Jewish Community we know that's what we bring I don't care how much it cost what I'll go borrow bring why that's our that's our that's our R he's the best he knows what he's doing and he does things that no other Mo does even told me nor the mo does what does he comes back to the house he takes care of the baby he bathe the baby something something special he makes the whole house happy now why did ra pick Ys or to be the mo in many of theit all these bras he says because with said this with this ysep Ys Orin he says it's easy the baby doesn't cry the baby doesn't cry when raim was learning uh uh how to do he was he learned from a and when he was teaching him he says that the number one rule you need to learn when you want to be a m before you even learn where to cut how to cut you have to learn how to make sure the baby doesn't cry he says there are some people that are stupid what do they do they think because they read it in the cabala that when when a baby cries it opens up the Gates of Heaven so maybe we should do this B extra slow to make the baby cry to make the baby cry says you know what we should try to the Gates of Heaven on their let's get what are you making the baby cry for for the Gates of Heaven to open for you on on the on the pain of the baby you these fools he says number one things don't make do whatever you can to limit to limit the baby's crying requires expertise Special Touch love and so on why cares about the baby cares about the adult cares about the child cares about the female the male he loves is he loves is he doesn't want you to cry when you cry he cries so now before we go and we offend people intentionally we have to think about this of course you have to do a and more times than not the baby's going to cry I mean after all you're cutting a piece of his body off but if cares that he's chist says I'm gonna pick this this moel because he's an expert the baby just doesn't cry he's so good the baby doesn't cry [Music] who are we to make people cry are we crazy intentionally make people cry a person needs to know when you're dealing with is you're dealing with fire you're dealing with the children of a you cannot be a at the same time you cannot be effective at rebuking people but not willing to sacrifice your life for them too someone asked me recently how can I bead and like the babaali now aside from learning which I don't need to explain that the Baba Sali wasn't just a uh a a miracle worker like people think he was he was a danan already when he was in his early 20s he was the head Rabbi of Morocco and 24 years old he a giant in giant people know a few Miracles that he made what they don't know is that when people would come crying to the babaali because of how much suffering they're dealing with the Baba Sali many times would stop what he's doing and start talking to Hashem say Hashem please bring this man salvation bring him salvation bring him the Yeshua if he deser deserve suffering just chop off both of my arms instead of him suffering another day chop off both of my instead of him suffering with this disease with the suffering of money or whatever he's suffering hm he he deserves suffering I'm not questioning you hhm if there's suffering still on his account just chop off both of my arms instead of his suffering if you're willing to let your arms get chopped off because somebody else is suffering you can rebuke as much as you want [Music] his grandson AB said a story that few know one of the times that the babaali was on a plane it was 500 people on a plane and the plane was expected to land but the landing gear malfunctioned now as you probably know you cannot land a plane with 500 people in it with no wheels the plane blows [Music] up no matter how good of a pilot you are no matter what no wheels no people now initially the pilot just kept going around and around trying to see what they could do to fix this but they said listen there's nothing to do landing gear malfunction it's not opening they make the announcement everybody panics Baba sali's on the plane he's learning they come to him and said we have a situation here the landing gear of the plane is not working babaali stops what he's doing he sees how everybody's hysterical he stops closes his eyes and they were watching him Clos his eyes starts praying to Hashem saym let's do this you kill me instead of all of them I'll go sacrifice for all of [Music] them the second he finished the prayer the wheels came out they [Music] landed why when you have someone that's willing to make a sacrifice for the sake of that's a person that will change na [Music] him which means did he pray for himself no he prayed for them but what you think he didn't rebuke you think he didn't tell people the truth when someone came to him crippled crippled crying hysterical and in depression hates everything about Torah hates hasem hates everything there's people there the babasai looks at him he says you're going to keep Shabbat the guy didn't know what to say he say you going to keep Shabbat or no he says yes he says get up then what get up start yelling him people got scared but got scared no yell he got up out of the wheelchair started walking you ran to the next door next door synagogue he started he's hysterical crying cuz why you cry goes I was crippled 5 minutes ago those witnesses [Music] witnesses when one of his granddaughters made fun of the issue of wigs cuz the babaali was very strict against the wigs very strict he says anyone that his wigs that's going to be the uh the material they'll use to burn her in gay with that wig before the uh Idol worshipping wigs and so on just wigs alt together he was against like most of the history when one of his granddaughters his granddaughters made fun of it you know my you know my grandfather is a little strict the second she finished that sentence she got a headache and the headache didn't go away she used used to wear wig the headache didn't go away one day two days 3 days a week two weeks 3 weeks she's in hospitals I seeu no one knows what to do what's going on after a while I said listen all the checks in the world we have no idea what's wrong with you but uh this headache this migraine headache what you're having is nothing for us to do at that moment she knew I did something wrong she went to the Baba Sali says Grandpa sabba I'm sorry says what are you sorry about I'm sorry I made fun of what you said what what I say what I say I'm sorry you said about the wigs it's string and he goes don't say I'm sorry to me say sorry to hm you went against it okay I'm sorry he goes no no no can't say sorry to take off the wig put a hat on put a on that's I'm sorry she says herself the second she put a on the headache went away not a week later a month later two years later second second she put the on headache went away why you fight with you're playing with fire needless to say you fight with his kids so when we tell you that Rabbi so and so said this Rabbi such and such said this the said this the sage such and such said this we're not mentioning famous people like the go mentioned their famous people we're talking about people that were literally in A's Army we're talking about A's Army if they said something it might as well be aadh himself said [Music] something and if a person values what the rabis are saying like what Hashem says he or she will get very very far he'll succeed in his life she'll succeed in her life whether it's Z or it's money or it's children or it's anything you want you go with hem you're never going to lose in the end there may be some bumps in the road there may be some tests no questions it's going to be test but in the end you will be the biggest winner in the world and you'll also be a winner when it comes to helping those around you whether it's rebuking them directly or simply being being the that everybody wants to be because your words will be accepted just like you accept the words of the sages just like you accept the words of hasem on the opposite end when someone ignores theim doesn't think they're a big deal makes fun of the Z makes fun of different oh it's not a big deal here and it's not a big deal there that for sure will put that person on the wrong wrong side of the equation when they're trying to help other people cuz they're not really helping them they want to help themselves they want to rebuke others but really for their own reasons and says every time you do that you're going to get hurt in the end you offend a single little kid a 2-year-old kid a 20-year old kid a 40y old kid that's a K's kid you're going to get burned in the end in this world and the next why loves his kids he doesn't just let anybody rebuke them what's your permission what's your license to rebuke you have to love how do you know you love them you have to be willing to sacrifice everything for them everything your life do everything not ready okay your rebuke should be give a CD thank you let us do the job why we're already making the sacrifice might as well you want to join sure make sure it comes from a good place why it's just going to end up hurting you in the end I don't want you to get hurt hasem doesn't want you to get hurt maybe you're not ready but make sure make sure you Aspire aspire to get to that point where you love never for a moment think that you're better than anybody else loves you but he also loves them you have your malot your great things they also do you did bad things they did too you did good things they will too point is is to make sure that when you're going to rebuke people it comes from is not something easy because doesn't make any sense it's like a mother with her kids it doesn't make sense that a grown woman is going to stop her life ruin everything about her body ruin her body just for these Gremlins that are running around don't let us sleep for years doesn't make any sense but that's that's why that love is [Music] unconditional that's why that love is unconditional no one is ever going to love the K those kids as much as the mother no one no one's want to do it for them please remember when before you rebuke ask yourself do I love these people at least similar to the amount of how much my mother loves me if the answer is not even close then you already know the answer of whether you should rebuke directly or not hopefully this give us a little bit more clarity on what we should do what we shouldn't do most importantly what we should listen to what we shouldn't listen to and get better at helping ourselves and as well as amen amen [Music]