DEALING WITH FAILURE

[Music] if a person promises for example to keep the MIT a woman says that she's going to be modest and she fails she uh many unfortunately religious women fail in their life at least once or twice at times because of peer pressure where even though they live a religious life and I'm giving you a religious person's perspective instead of a secular person perspective so you realize that failure is not just from among secular people it's also religious people a religious woman that's married is obligated to cover her hair with a hat or a uh um scarf but because of modernization because of the influence of the Gentiles because of the influence of the World At Large even the one that's religious if she's not religious enough meaning if she's doesn't have real strong amuna she can fail when when there's special events she wear the scarf for the Hat all year round she'll wear it every year she'll wear it on the holiday she'll wear it on Shabbat she'll wear it all the time but she'll fail once when when one of her kids or somebody that she knows is having a wedding or a bar mitzvah she'll instead of putting the K on of the scarf she'll put a wig on why because she says well if I wear my scarf I'm going to look different from everybody else maybe they're going to make fun of me because the uh scarf doesn't look as good and as attractive as the wig and uh so therefore she decides to do that this is a disaster for her why because not only is she breaking a promise but she's showing also that she's more scared of people than Hashem so a person like that obviously has to do chuva has to repent say I'm sorry to hem that they failed and start all over again all of us fail at some point or another the key is to get up again the key say okay I failed I'm sorry do over let's do it again and beg hem to try again and that's an Essence for everything so even though all of us are going to try to be more righteous today and tomorrow and the next day we're all going to try we're all going to try to keep Shabbat we're all going to try to keep the holidays we're all going to try to to be right to right just in every aspect but once in a while we're going to fail we're going to have a certain desire that will overcome us a certain uh need of some kind or at least we think it's a need that will overcome us if you fail all that makes you is human that simply makes you human failure does not make you evil failure makes you human humans fail if you never fail then you're not human you're an angel you should go to the world of angels and be there humans fail what makes a person evil it's not failure because it says in the and there's no such thing as a righteous person who doesn't make a sin everybody sins at some point or another but how come they're still known as righteous why does it Sayad because if they failed they're still okay they're still as long as they did CH when do they become rash when they become evil when they give up on doing Chua when they say you know what I'm just not going to do it I'm not even GNA try I wanted to be more modest you know what I tried I don't like it the heck with it just God it's not for me that makes you evil why cuz that's in essence telling AEM you run the world but I don't feel like listening to you or in fact you run your world I'm going to run my world we'll meet in the end your inocence deciding that you're just not going to listen to him knowingly that's evil but if you try and you fail that makes you human try again same thing is going to happen in your whole life you're going to go into business you're not going to succeed from day one you're gonna get you're gonna fail maybe get fired maybe go bankrupt maybe Uh something's going to happen you're going to fail in life what the difference between the success story and the failure the failure stops trying the success story goes from failure to failure to failure to failure until he succeeds that's the difference between the success stories you read about and watching the news and the failures the failures you never hear about why they they never succeeded why would you care the success story you hear about even though he failed a thousand times you hear about why cuz he eventually succeeded because he continued trying so it's okay to fail it's okay to try fail try again same thing with with tah you make a promise to hasem Hashem from now on I'm only going to eat kosher and one day you messed up I don't know you were so hungry and you didn't have the patience to go to a kosher restaurant you went to a Starbucks and you ate one of their sandwiches over there it's not Kosher or perhaps you went to McDonald's or you went I you ate some duck in the middle of the road I whatever happened to you decid to eat something just out of the blue cuz you're so hungry okay you failed but it doesn't mean you have to be a failure for the rest of your life you satiated yourself you're not hungry anymore fine tomorrow prepare better tomorrow bring bring food with you so you don't have the same test put a fence around the fence meaning you failed once know that you are vulnerable in this aspect and try to do better next time if you know that every time you pass by a McDonald you you have to go buy a Big Mac guess what easy solution don't drive that way drive a different road so at least you don't see it I know it sounds simple but this Simplicity helps life a lot [Music] oh [Music]