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Crying Ourselves Into Motivation (Tisha BeAv & Teshuva Special)

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[Music] if you actually can close the door makes too much noise please and unfortunately we do not have the Merit to see mashia yet the question is why question is why don't we have the Merit to see mashia almost every Jew religious or not religious knows the song mashia mashia mashia every other new song mentions mashiach our prayers mention mashia mention mashia every year we say next year mashia next year in Jerusalem and even people that are completely disconnected from Torah Judaism want the mhia to come even theim saying he came he's going to come again mistake but nonetheless everybody's praying for mashiah where's this mashia okay fine listen Jews don't necessarily work off of a good schedule always late but 2,000 years a little late a little later than late where is this mashia the truth is that Hashem is doing us a favor he's doing us a favor he's doing us a for not bringing him yet and the reason why is because we're not ready yet we'd like for him to come but we're not ready for what happens after if you look at what happens at the time of mhia according to the prophets according to zcharia Jeremiah Ezekiel several different places Isaiah several different places that it mentions the times of mssiah before the celebration begins before reveals himself and brings the resurrection of the dead and all the wonderful things that happen after there's a lot of balagan if you will and we're not ready for that balagan and one of the reasons is because we don't even know what CA wasused it in the first place is a reminder of this balagan T is a reminder of This Disaster that happened to is 2,000 years ago 2500 years ago 3,300 years ago but also his recent as 70 years ago for those who don't know is a day that decided is going to be a day that we are going to cry until the times of mashia when we were crying for no reason at Mount Si hasem said I'm going to give you a reason to cry Forever on this day it's going to be part of your chuva crying yourself into motivation but motivation to do what motivation to do chuva every year I'm going to give you an opportunity to use this day to cry hysterically to do chuva and that's what we're supposed to do almost a 100 years ago World War I began on some of the worst events of World War II also happened on Tav the pgms the inquisitions horrible awful things happened to throughout all of history but I find myself feeling alone with a few others that actually found a way to cry on most people do not know that it's not necessarily a good thing to cry on it's actually an obligation as a matter of fact kazal says that a person that finds a way to cry onav and mourn for will be there at the times of its celebration you mourn for y during the times where it's destructed during the times where there there is all types of secular beliefs controlling it during the times where there is all types of idolatry surrounding it if you mourn for y during that time when it's not so popular when it's not winning you mourn for y during that time that by itself is going to give you theot to see after the Mas when we're celebrating because we have the so what's this big deal of crying anybody could just take one of these vegetables peel them a little bit and startop crying anybody can watch a sad movie start crying what's the big deal of crying so the question is why do we cry now we said before the sh for most people it's really really difficult to cry especially on if woman doesn't get the refrigerator she wanted she'll cry if the kid got an F in his class Mommy's going to cry if father got fired from his job he doesn't have any money to buy the newest car maybe he's going to cry teenager broke up with his girlfriend he probably going to cry bet mikdash was destroyed 2,000 years ago not so much not so much as a matter of fact it's such a strange thing for people that you see the most of the speeches given today are focusing on motivation wants to be motivated they want to be cheered up they don't want to be sad they don't want to cry so you see that many speeches speeches now not in the past but now are trying to motivate is Che up stop crying but we weren't crying so stop crying anyway don't cry but K said if I don't cry I'm not going to see when it's built rebuilt so on one end we don't know why we're going to cry on another end some of the leaders and the speakers are telling us we shouldn't cry we should be motivated we should cheer up we should start being so damp so sad the most difficult part sit on the floor my whole body is killing me by the way from sitting on the floor and sleeping on the floor for me that's alone of reasons to cry but really it's not that's not what we cry it's not where we cry about 70 years ago 6 million of our brothers and sisters were murdered in Cold Blood in the most awful ways recorded in recent history even though it was even worse 2,000 years ago and even worse 3,300 years ago the only people that are our life to witness any of those events are the ones that happened seven years ago at the Holocaust and we see that awful horrible things happened during this time I mean there's some books that have been written about what happened to am during his time and uh you can't help yourself but cry this is why many k choose to watch Holocaust films during this time this is the wisdom of their rabis that know that it's really an obligation for us to cry and if I told you you have to cry about mhu you're not going to cry he's in GED and he's okay now if I told you you have to cry about the Sea of blood literal sea a river of blood that flew from s that that streamed from Jerusalem to the next city that reached the stomachs of the horses talking about three feet four feet a river of blood of Jewish blood it's hard to Fathom it's hard to understand this it's hard to how could such a thing be possible I mean you need hundreds of millions of people and that's exactly what happened most people think that there was always 14 million Jews or 20 million Jews however many Jews we have as a matter of fact if you look at the midashim there were many many more Jews in last year's lecture I talked about it and some people were dumbfounded by it that there were actually at the time According to some of the midashim there were more Jews than there are Chinese people today there are an extraordinary amount of Jews before the and we got to a point where so many of them were murdered that it created a sea of blood but most people can't remember this 70 years ago though we have some people that can remember it we have some people that filmed it we have some stories from holy rabbis that told us about what happened different horrific events of how the Nazis used to abuse the Jews in in in the most horrific ways possible but not just torturing them with work not just torturing them with starvation but even torturing their children um wrote in his book that one of the of the many things that the evil Nazis did that was the same as what happened 2,000 years ago and also what happened in Egypt is that the Nazis would take the children the Jewish children the holy Jewish innocent children that didn't do anything they couldn't defend themselves and they would use them as sex toys when they were bored and after that they would kill them if something like that doesn't make you cry you have to check your pulse if you're alive but this happened 70 years ago we're not supposed to cry about 70 years ago supposed to cry what happened 2,000 years ago 2,000 years ago is much worse all of us read the book book of Lamentations that Jeremiah the prophet wrote last night supposed to also read it sometimes people some kot read it also today and if you understood the words you should have cried you're supposed to cry if you didn't cry you didn't understand and if you understood and you didn't cry read it again so no less than three places M says that the murder of the go murdering the Jews By The Sword was actually a they were doing him a favor he says that the Jews that died by the sword was good for them it's better for them because the more horrific death was a starvation the starvation was much much worse because it was self-inflicted it was caused by Jews Jews causing other Jews to starve because they thought they had a better way they thought that they could defend themselves they were called Bim they could defend themselves with their muscles they could defend themselves with their missiles they could defend themselves with their Spears they could defend themselves with their power is what they call it my power my hands we can do it and any whoever doesn't want to listen it's punished will starve and this led to starvation but I'm not talking about starvation like you guys are hungry right now probably or thirsty at least I'm not talking about that you see some people in the Holocaust pictures of what happened after they starve them for so long you start getting a sense what starvation looks like but here in it takes it to a new level which we mentioned in last year Shure here he says in chapter 2 verse4 well chapter 2 verse2 first says that they say to their mothers meaning the children the babies are looking at their for their mothers they say to their mothers where is grain and wine where's food as they Swoon like a dying man in the streets of the town the kids are walking around looking for food little four three four yearold kids looking for food as their souls expire in their mother's bosom little babies supposed to be bread fed are dying while their mothers are holding them because there's no milk there's no nothing because the mom is starving herself and she can't produce anything and as much as she loves her children she wants to hold them she wants to feed them but nothing's coming out all the way to the extent that she has to watch them die he says the prophets envisioned vanity and foolishness for you says why why how did all this happened how do we get to this how do we get to become hashem's enemies we were hashem's chosen how do we get to become his enemies he says because the prophets were false prophets the leaders were false leaders and instead of telling it's time to do chv they tell him listen go invest some extra money into your business it's going to be okay yeah but you know I'm working on Shabbat though right don't worry hm's gonna bless you he knows you're going to do a lot of Mitzvah with that money he knows you're going to donate to a be a seph Tora he knows it's okay it's okay they change the rules because they were more focused on vanity on getting a fancy cars and fancy houses much more than fancy and they did not reveal your iniquity to motivate you to return in Repentance they didn't tell you the truth hey by the way you shabbat just so you know you're an enemy of hasem just so you know Shabbat enemy of hem oh you like to eat non kosher outside you're an enemy of hasem just so you know let you know do what you want but you keep saying has H all those things you mention hem like your best friends I'm just letting you you know at the end of this week's hasem says you're you're his enemy oh me I'm not I'm not even in the Tora he goes no no you he's talking about you how's he talking about you he says to my lovers who keep my mitv I pay them a reward for thousands of generations I pay them a reward for thousands of generations who are my lovers ones that keep me vot but my haters I paid them cash to their face to destroy them he pays cash to the face to of the person that's not doing Mitzvah that's not keeping mitah that's not keeping the basics of Judaism and tah he pays them a reward now so here these leaders didn't tell people this they told him no you're okay just give you're okay just come once a year for y you're okay just say I'm sorry I'm everything's okay he says these prophets didn't tell you the truth that's where we got to that point they didn't rebuke you but if that wasn't enough this was the first level of punishment he says if that wasn't enough it got worse Jeremiah says in chapter 3 verse one I'm sorry in chapter 2 verse 19 he says the infants are fainting from Hunger at the heads of every street he says it's not just one or two stories here and there you hear of starving kids he says every street you see a bunch of starving kids starving to death but if that wasn't enough because that was already in the beginning it was one house one house was starving homeless misin didn't have a enough money to donate to get this guy some food he died that was one story two stories three stories he says it got worse it started getting to a point every street every corner all the kids were starving and if that was enough we didn't do chuva because these false prophets kept telling you invest into the business they kept telling you invest into everything else but your n do everything but do chuva you're okay you're okay everybody keeps tell you're okay you're okay you're okay he says that made it worse why you Trea me with casualness you're thinking that it just happened it was just a bad season so a few kids are going to die it's a bad season so a few people lose some money in the stock market it's a bad season it happens people lose it goes up it goes down people always rationalize things like it just happens hasem says that made me angrier than even the original sin you sinned already to get me to this point that was already bad but when I started slapping you and smacking you and punching you and you're still like no just it's happens it happens it's okay it's okay don't worry everything's gonna be okay nothing's going to be okay if you don't do chuva he says that made him angry what happened next he says what's going to happen Hashem shall the women devour their offspring their own cherish babes what's going to happen you keep starving them eventually the parents are starving also eventually the parents are going to eat the kids is that what you want to happen AEM the beginning of chapter three he says I am the man that has seen Affliction by the rod of his wrath he says it just got real it just got worse we thought a a kid or two dying from starvation one neighborhood or two neighborhoods was bad enough but it got worse we didn't do chuva the false leaders continued leading us falsely so we didn't think we had to do chuva we thought we're just with the chosen people so everything's okay so what if I drive on Shabbat so what if I E so what if my girlfriend's not Jewish so what hem chose me I'm okay they let us falsely it tell us as long as we give some star everything going to be okay as long as we say hi to the rabbi and act like a human being everything's going to be okay so Jeremiah says it got worse it got worse to such an extent that Hashem did a favor to some people by allowing the go to kill them with swords because the starvation was much worse it's so bad that by chapter 4 he says the following chapter 4:4 he says the tongue of the suckling clings meaning the kids their tongues clings to the pallet of their from their thirst young children ask for bread but no one offers it to them those who feasted on Delicacies lie desolate in the streets he says that starvation is not just for the kids now the starvation is for their Rich parents too the ABA Anda that were driving Bentley's now willing to give a Bentley just for a piece of bread there's actually a story from the times of the BET mikdash of a woman that was so rich her house was full of diamonds but diamonds I'm not talking about diamonds like little one carat diamonds you put in a little earring for a little girl that has a rich parents no we're talking about diamonds that were like cinder blocks she sent to her servant go get me some bread good bread good quality bread servant comes back he says there's no more good quality bread she says okay so go get me lesser quality bread but something he go he says no there's not much lesser quality he goes go get me anything sends him a third time go get me anything I need to eat I'm going to starve to death get me anything he goes thr he comes Backes no more bread she takes all of our diamonds she throws them in the street she I can't eat my diamonds I can't eat my diamonds I can't eat my Bentley I can't eat my house I can't eat it and she died from starvation so now it's not just a few kids stories that you see on TV or some fund advertisement we trying to raise some money for some poor family now he says Jeremiah it got worse everyone is starving because the bonim took the food and burned it why they said either with us or you're against us so to prove your loyalty to us so now everybody's starving but not starving like we talked about we are today starving to the point where people are dying but then it got much much worse and a few verses later he tells us exactly the reason of why we were supposed to cry he says the victims of the sword were more fortunate than the victims of famine for the latter are stricken oozing from the lack of the produce of the field it says the ones that were killed by the sword hasm did them a favor it's much easier death why because the very next verse chapter 4: 10 says the hands of the merciful women boiled their own Sons they became their food when the daughter of my people was shattered the mothers ended up cooking their own kids now anyone who has kids all they need to do is look at their kid five minutes think about this you're crying non-stop imagine today you're supposed to imagine this regular day you're not necessarily supposed to imagine this today you're supposed to imagine it look at your kitten imagine not talking about eating another human which is insanity there's a story of what happened about 40 years ago a bunch of athletes were in a uh airplane crash stuck in a mountain and uh to survive they had to eat the dead people that died had to eat them and instead of celebrating their survival the political correctness of the day frowned upon them for eating dead people what you want expecting to die because you want me to keep a certain diet stupidity but nonetheless just so you know political correctness has always been around we're not talking about that not talking about eating a stranger for survival we're talking about getting to such desperation that a mother eating her own kids for this we cry and the reason why we cry is because Hashem told us that this is going to happen and both and he says when you treat me with casual I'm going to treat you with casualness and he says this three times in this in this uh talks about the women eating their children three different times as a matter of fact even in a keyote that you read after it also talks about it this is not like just just happened once and never again one neighborhood crazy people this is a massive Nationwide thing this is what we read after we offered a sacrifice and it was not accepted meaning we gave AEM Corban he didn't want it this is too late too late for why not accepted in sh accepted not accepted says you want to continue being bring me a Corban why you think I need your goat you think I need your cow think I need your chicken I don't need anything everything is mine Hashem says you think I need your goat for that you're going to get punished for the you think I need the goat you're going to get punished for that for theban you're going to get punished what's the punishment next verse says it same same thing in the say when our sin offerings and go of the goat ceased compassionate women seeed their own children and the constellation of the fish hid their eyes say the women ate their children this is a very known thing by the way last year sh inak we did it in New York was many people everyone who shocked maybe six 700 people in attendance I think if I was able to see everyone's faces everyone's face had the same expression everyone's face was open like many of yours now but even worse so when I showed them proof that this also happened during the Holocaust the same horrific thing happened in the Holocaust why do I mention this horrific thing why why have some type of uh sick fixation over this the truth is this is a prophecy hasem says it in he says in the half a dozen places in the Tora he mentions this is such a punishment do exist where he will take us from such treasures and Glamour and significant positions and politics and so on and will get us so low that even the lowest we can imagine is not low enough for what sin for what for for for what this is gay no in this world he says for treating me with casualness I gave you an opportunity to do chuva I gave you a slap I sent you a message I sent you a text I sent you an email I gave you a little bit of pain on the side I gave you signs I gave you signs schom wasn't so good P wasn't so good the kids weren't so happy I give you signs every day I give you signs I woke you up I even woke you up in the middle of the night you couldn't sleep what you think I didn't want you to sleep I want you to go learn Torah I gave you signs but you said no it's just I have a headache no it's just the stock market no it's just the economy now it's just the mood now it's just the time of the month every sign I give you you treated it with casualness you treat it like it's just happen stance it's nature it happens you know you did it once you're going to do it again all this nonsense that people make you believe no no it's going to be okay why how's it going to be okay who's going to make it okay me I can't do anything I'm a human being I came from a little seed and eventually the maggots are going to eat my body what could I possibly do without AEM what can I do no it's going to be okay you think it's going to be okay with your own hands he says that you get punished for you get punished for the sins and even more so you get punished for that for that we cry because we still have this warped mentality that we don't need God he needs us almost every day I have some somebody telling me about all the mitv that they're doing oh you know today I prayed at this time and today I did this and today I did that or sometimes they send me an email said yo you know just before I sent you this email I was reading oh you know today I studied for minutes it's good it's good what's bad is what follows so how come a didn't give me the car I wanted yet how come I'm not rich yet how come I don't have as much money as I want how come this and how come that and how come and how come and how come they come into complaints against theem why am I this and why am I that interestingly enough as AEM would have it the book of Lamentations is is called in Hebrew means why oh I'm sorry how how how did it happen is not a name I actually for many years I thought was a name was like one of the prophets maybe I didn't know you start reading he's like just the first few words first few words Everything Changes why because he starts with a question how did this happen how did happen the first one the second one the prgrams the inquisitions the Holocaust all how did it happen he gives you gives you a question same question this question is relevant forever how did this happen how do we go before this he says all of the nations would look to the Jews and admire them in fact the Romans were not even mentioned in anything until was on its way until they started attacking the Jews they were nothing according to historians we're not even talking about talking to the Jews according to the historians until the time they started going against am isem used them as a tool to go against am is the Romans were nothing the Greeks were nothing the Germans were nothing none of these countries were anything until they went against the Jews meaning that hasem only br brought them to the world to hit his kids they only existed as a tool as the stick that hasem needs to use to hit us once in a while to cause us to cry in order to motivate us into chuva because unfortunately the prophets the rabbis the leaders of the time we're not doing it so Shem says when I not going to do it I have to but when I do it it hurts a little bit so the beginning of the book of a he says how did this all happen but again we ask the same question this happened to 2,000 years ago no one has that good of a memory to remember what he did in his n 2,000 years ago your previous G how does expect us to cry to such an extent that he makes it a he says you want to see bet mikash you want to see after it's rebuilt you must cry on you must mourn not cry like because you ate an onion you must mourn so the answer is in the book of he says how did it happen and shortly after he says it happened because we sinned against AEM in the first bet mikdash was three major sins idolatry was was one of the worst things that you can do in the Tora that was one of them we did second one was G was sex crimes things uh priscu men with women that are not his wife incest things of that nature and the third one was murder three major sins the second was hating each other for no reason hey you know him yeah I hate him why hate him he has that face I hate him why what do he do to you know him you know his family you know his history no I don't know him I just but you know he has one of those faces I don't like it yeah I hate that guy that that that's what we think is that I hate him so is explaining to us that in essence has the same weight as the three other sins 2,000 years we can't fix it but the promiscuity murder idolatry we fixed after seven years so it's saying that this is the same weight the is that we cry not because of that we cry because we're actually now we haven't had the mikdash for 2,000 years because now we're worse than both of the times if the BET mikdash was built today Hashem would have to destroy it again and the reason why is because today unfortunately the truth is the hard truth and as painful as it sounds it's a reality we're committing all four of those sins all of them today but we're committing him in such a way that we don't even think we're doing anything wrong we've gotten so used to sin that we're treating any punishments from sham with casualness and as says we have a extraordinary amount of diseases that are physical diseases but just as many doctors to fix those diseases physical diseases but when it comes to spiritual diseases he says we have a even more diseases spiritually speaking and no doctors and the reason why there's no doctors is because there's only one cure and the Cure is teaching in order to learn only one cure that's it there's no other cure say for anyone who doesn't know started mus movement was such a holy man he got to a point of having KES he's one of the last few that actually Hades and he left everything all of his studies all of the things why to go to kiru for 26 years at the height of his career he left everything he says listen everybody's going off the de okay what everything is good in Mya my call everything is good what about the rest of they're still not crying on they still think everything's okay he left everything started traveling the world to go help people do Chua 26 years why because he says there's only one cure and no one wants to give this cure and place that there's no leader be the leader yourself so in today's world almost 200 years after unfortunately we're in a not so much better position and one of the main reasons is because we trying to motivate am to do chv in a different way we're trying to motivate him to do chuva as if it's a cool thing to do go keep Shabbat you can hang out you could eat food it's fun you could relax we're trying to make it hip trying to make it hip to be they make seminars and they bring singers secular singers to these seminars so you can bring to that that drags that brings the crowd really the people are not coming for the for the for the rabbi they don't care about the rabbi they're coming for the singer they're coming for the singer they fill up the place with 500 people a thousand people 2,000 people to come listen to the singer but like God since I'm already am going listen to the rabbi trying to use different different strategies to get am to do now this would be wonderful if it actually worked but it doesn't work it doesn't work 80% of am is still not keeping nothing maybe once in a while they do Mitzvah by accident but Shabbat basic core Foundation of Judaism they don't keep learning toah every day they don't keep why we're using the wrong medicine we're telling people that it's fun and it's cool and you should do it because it's good for you because it's nice we're not telling people the truth we're not telling people listen you have to do it because yes aside from the fact that it is fun ultimate it is good ultimately it is healthy ultimately really the only reason you should do it is because you have to that's the real reason you have to why because if you don't you can get punished that's the real reason if you don't teach someone that if they don't do chuva they're G to get punished whatever chuva they do it's not going to hold not going to hold they'll do half a Chua there's a bunch of people that keep Shabbat but they eat the whole week oh they eat kosher but they don't keep Shabbat they do one mitvah but they do 150,000 a why cuz they not it's you know I took this on I'm I'm here I'm okay with just this they pick one Mitzvah and that's enough I'm GNA just do Shabbat 20 years of Shabbat yeah what about learning Torah no I don't do Tor but do you know if you don't learn Torah then the shab even the Shabbat that you're keeping is probably not Shabbat why because you're probably violating Shabbat if you don't know Shabbat you definitely breaking Shabbat so even what you think you're keeping you're not keeping meaning you come to sh say oh shabat no I kept Shabbat what Shabbat you keep every Shabbat B every Shabbat you doing sins they every Shabbat not one Shabbat you kept oh except one Shabbat you were in the hospital you were sleeping the whole time by accident you kept Shabbat if we don't teach that we can't te treat AEM with casualness the chuv that we do is not going to be a real chuva and this is the reason why most people don't understand that at this stage different people different places is making all of those Sins not just one of them when it comes to thear says the real reason why hasem destroyed the bet mikdash page9 says real reason destroyed mikdash question is but it says says it says it says all these other things says you know idol worship it says you know sex crime it sex where does it doesn't say anything about Shabbat says no no somebody violat Shabbat idolatry same thing a Jew drives on Shabbat same thing as an idol worshiper according to the Torah same thing it's a hard thing to say it's a hard thing to hear but it's true unless we tell people the truth they're not going to know so Shabbat we already know idol worship we're not doing so good in aside from that the new Idol that we have for the last couple of thousand years is a Idol in Disguise it's called money people spend their entire lives chasing money and chasing away God the more money they have the less God they have many times says you give a you give a person 100 he wants 200 give him 200 he wants 400 you give him 400 he wants 800 so what happens is someone that gets more and more money Hashem gives him a blessing giving them more money eventually he thinks that no no once I'm rich I'm going to do chuva what happens is the more money he has the more money he wants which means the less time he has for God so he used to be religious little went into the business World hasm gave him success now he does once a day that's it he doesn't have time for God people think that they're doing a god of favor by doing or by doing any of the they complain against God oh I did a few MIT how come he doesn't do this how come he doesn't do that in reality we have to understand that all of these mitv all of the Tor we learn all of the things we do is for us it's not for him he's perfect so when it comes to idolatry in today's age we have two forms we have one we have Shabbat two we have worshiping money and three is not as not as uh significant but it's people that go and actually worship idols they leave Judaism to go to Christianity or they go to Buddhism or any of this the garbage that's in the world there many that go there when it comes to murder unfortunately murder is still happening and and when it comes to immodesty it's also happening but in both of those cases it's actually much worse it's much worse than it was 2,000 years ago and the reason why is because one of the things that is obligated to do even more more so than the go the go are also obligated to do it but even more so is we're not allowed to waste seed a Jew is not allowed to waste his seed so every time seed comes out of a Jewish person or even a non-jewish person it must be for the purpose of bringing a child to the world whether it ends up bringing a child to the world or not it's not your business that's hashem's business Hashem decides but a Jew must have procreation with one purpose in mind is I'm trying to bring a kid to the world what if I know it's physically impossible she's too old or because she's already pregnant you can't be pregnant twice at the same time so it's not your business it's not your business you are doing it in a kosher way there's a kosher way to procreate a kosher way to be intimate with your wife to do it any other way that would lead a male to ejaculate without having a purpose of bringing a child to the world or at least a chance is considered both immodesty and murder but even more so than that one of the things that we know that saved us at the times of Egypt was that we didn't you know we still wore our clothes we didn't fall into these few things that the Egyptians did and one of the things I actually found out recently I heard heard about a long time ago but actually got some verification of it recently is that one of the minim one of the cultural uh things that the Egyptians did that we get credit for not doing is that the Egyptians wore wigs Egyptians wore wigs all the movies I remember as a kid watching movies you know all the Egyptians always look the same and you know I guess it was part of their culture to way this certain type of wig that look like Cleopatra and so on and this was one of the M this is one of the things that we did back then now despite the confusion in the Jewish world as far as ala what's allowed what's not allowed if a wig is allowed at all if a wig is not allowed there's a handful of asazi that have said it's allowed in past Generations but over 90 different Pim said it's not allowed both ashkanazi and Safari but any of the ones that said it's allowed we're talking about a different type of wig they were talking about a very very short modest wig that was identifiable that it was a wig it's obvious that it was a wig but I don't mean obvious to the woman wearing it obvious to an every man would look at it from far away no it's a wig why because it look like a brw it looked distinctly different from our from a natural human hair that's what they approved the wigs of today we see that they look better than natural hair and even women can't tell forget men men can there I don't think there's one man that's that's outside of the hair business that can tell if a woman wearing a wig is wearing a wig I have yet to meet one which means that even if there's average of males can't tell if it's a wig you're not allowed to wear it because it's not supposed to look like your hair but if you look at some of these books that were written about wigs written about hair from secular people go even in some cases there's a uh book I think it's called the life of hair or something like that and um she she goes and she does research on hair in different places and she says that she went to different uh Jewish places and she would talk to the uh women there she would talk to the woman that's putting the wig on them because it's a wig place/ hair salon and she said what's the you know what's the ultimate wig what's the main purpose of your wig both to the client and to the woman that's putting the wig on her he said for it to look like real hair for it to look like my hair so the ultimate thing is for it to look like what you're not allowed to have this is the first this is first base against logic you're not allowed to show your hair but your ultimate purpose here is to make the hair look like your hair so already you're going against logic you're trying to do everything in your power to look like something you're not allowed to look like that's one how do they do it main thing is is that they use natural human hair which leads to the next problem in the very same book they confirmed the research that had done and said it confirmed that the overwhelming majority of of real hair that's put in wigs is coming from India and India it is part of their tradition it is part of their culture to do idol worship and part of the idol worship is to give the hair as a donation to the idols one of the idols made it a rule to give the hair and the reason why is because the idol got hit in the head one time and he got a bald spot so some woman gave him a hair and they made it a tradition from that on that day on that you give hair to this Idol yes I know this sounds stupid but this is a reality another Idol got married wanted to get married but he didn't have any money so some wom sold her hair for this Idol to get married what kind of idol is this I don't know what kind of God needs money I don't know these strange religions but again this is this is actually what's happening here so they donate hair to this Idol and and and and these things get stupider and stupider but on a financial perspective the place where they make the most amount of wigs happens to be the second richest entity on the planet if it gives you an idea of how many hairs how many wigs are made from there how much hair is donated there it's only second to the Vatican and they sell this hair to different markets in London in France and Italy and different places all over the world many times it goes to China on the way and eventually gets to America now says that anything that was ever connected to idol worship you are not allowed to enjoy enjoy it at all ever prime example when Yeshua brought am to is for the first time first mission he had hasem said burn all these trees all these Asher trees what what the trees do why are we burning them why we cut them make some houses cut them make some closets if I don't know something different cabinets for I don't know something why we burning them burning them it just goes to waste was no they were used for idol worship why it's the tree's fault they were used for idol worship what the tree say hey come here come here what the tree do tree just sitting there if some idiot comes and worships him it's not his fault hasem says idol worship disgusts me so much that even if it's not of the fault of the idol it's irrelevant as soon as something was worse was used to replace me to replace it has no right to exist it's your obligation to burn it so now you have hair donated by the millions every day to such an extent that a country with nearly a billion people has an average of each person donating their hair at least twice in their life we're not talking about a small Market here we're talking about the overwhelming majority of the market to such an extent that according to my research which this is what I did for almost 20 years on Wall Street it's virtually impossible impossible to find a wig with that's made from natural hair without it coming from idol worship impossible and one reason is because most of the hair is coming from India that's one that's a logical reason the second reason is because even if all of the did not come from India at least one hair did and that's the reality that with wigs it's not that they take the hair of one woman they put on another woman no they take the hair and then it goes to a processing and it's mixed with other hair it's mixed with other hair that's the same length it's longer shorter and so on to make a wig meaning there's no one wig that has all one hair so even if you got 99.9% of the hair from I don't know China some poor woman from China donated her hair for I don't know for cancer patient or something or some uh hippie from America decided to donate the hair and it got there got to the manufacturing if one hair from India arrived and is mixed in that wig it's 100% not allowed you're putting idol worship on top of your head and then people are asking how come my prayers are not answered well because you're praying to a god that's not God he's in the way so now we have idol worship in these wigs third rational point is that one of the things that's ass as far as not allowed to look at places you're not allowed to woman that's not your wife not all to stare at her you have to watch your eyes it leads to wasting seed it leads to a lot of sins these wigs also lead to that and the reason why is a woman is not allowed to show her hair so what does she do she puts some other woman's hair so now not only are you violating the first two things we already talked about but even worse now we're in a situation where you're causing your husband and other men to look at this hair and even your own husband is looking at a different woman's hair so now instead of your husband looking at your hair which he's allowed to look at your hair he's looking a different woman's hair fourth Point even from the time of ab ainu we knew that a chose us he said you're not allowed to be with a people that's not part of yours so when Nim turned himself into an idol said you're not an idol you're not a God you're nothing you're old you had diarrhea last week your back doesn't look so good you're limping what kind of God are you you're not a God he goes either bow to me I'm going to kill you no problem I'll jump into the fire myself abah jumped into the fire no second thoughts like us oh should we do on time should we wake up no jumped into the fire the malim went to hem hasem please let us save this holy man according to the mid says no no no he is one down there just like I am one over here I'm going to go save him I'm going to go save it says that n saw two bodies two images walking inside the fire AEM and if it wasn't written mid wouldn't be allowed to say because has no image no likeness of an image but two images in the fire was so fascinated by this they told his son it's better that you be a slave for abam than a king with me and he sent his son with abah who was his son elazar elazar was a son elzar according to our Torah got to such a level that he never died Hashem took him he was one of 10 people that got to ganeden alive got the G alive hopefully we get there dead he got there alive but still when he offered his daughters to abah ainu ainu says no you're in a nation of I'm a nation of your nation the Canaanites are cursed by hem my nation are blessed by hem if I was elazar I take a person heyy I'm your number one guy I'm a rabbi I give sh t I this I that we call me cursed I did CH didn't take it that way elel got all of the merits that he got because he didn't take it personally he knew it was true he knew it was real he said no problem AB I'll go find your son a wife and he went with full C and found a son a wife so even from the time of abrah ainu we knew that we're not allowed to be with the G when a woman wears a wig made from natural hair aside from violating the first four points the fourth point being that she's causing her husband and other men to looking at a woman women said it's not hers is but she's also causing them to 99.9999999% of the time to look at the beauty of of a Goya the beauty of a non-jewish woman so now you have Point number five now you're going to a point where this this IM modesty this it's getting worse and worse and last but not least is a point that I mentioned in last year's is that if you look at all of the Holy Women in a tah they're constantly admired by hem for their modesty there's only one woman in the entire Tora where they mentions her hair only one woman and who is that woman the the woman that's accused of cheating on a husband that's the only woman that her hair is mentioned so my question to is and this is pertaining to the religious people because non-religious people don't wear wigs at least not for religious reasons my question to is even if you found an excuse for the even if you found an excuse for the G even if you found an excuse for the even if you found an excuse for everything else why do you want to look like why would you want to emulate the only woman in the tah that's mentioned that's showing her hair why would you want to emulate her why wouldn't you want to be likeu ra Rifka all these sadikot Ruth why they mentions that they had curly hair up to their uh no why would you want to emulate them why do you want to emulate the one that's accused for cheating on her husband that has a whole track dat written about her there a whole track dat talking about the what they do to her this and that punishment why my point here is that we cry today not because of what happened 2,000 years ago not crying about the bet mikash as a matter of fact we should celebrate that Hashem put his wrath on stones and not on us he could have destroyed us completely but he had mercy on us and we're still here bash 2,000 years later we're not crying about the BET mikdash from 2,000 years ago we're crying about today we're crying that the reason why hasem destroyed the bet mikdash is still valid it's still valid the that we had 2,000 years ago is still valid if the first bet mikdash three reasons were not enough to prove to you that it's still valid this last one will yesterday the night of I have this few people that I guess are a little bit of obsessed with me I don't know what's wrong with them why they don't like me what they don't but I don't usually when I don't like somebody I just disassociate with them they try to invest their life to get my attention so on the night on the night of TSH one of these fools takes time out of his day and writes a three page or three paragraphs insult public insult about me I'm this and I'm that and I'm this and I'm that and I do this and I do that and I do this and I do that aside from the fact that it's all falsehood and nonsense I ask myself the question did his Rabbi tell him that even if everything he says in his three paragraphs is true I'm a thief and I'm a liar and I teach people fear and all types of stot that he said even if everything he said about me is real let's say it's real does his Rabbi tell him does his Rabbi have the courage to tell him that the punishment for for embarrassing another person in public is much much worse than the sins he's accusing me of a thief I'm not everyone that knows me knows I'm not I work for free I always have even on Wall Street where I could steal money like it was uh on the floor I chose not to had plenty of opportunities I wrote articles for The Regulators to review to teach them how the thieves are stealing money from them to help them my whole life was against thieves my whole career was against thieves during a crisis when everybody was trying to find a way to survive I had ways to make $5 $10 million a month in an illegal way people told me why don't you just do it once you have to do it a lot of times once said I rather die than steal a dollar die than steal onear at the early part of my career after I just started making a little bit of money you know you're 23 years old you just made a few bucks you want more somebody offered me $3.6 million to come to their firm I told no problem okay I'll come to your firm under one condition tell me what kind of firm it is and he tells me what kind of firm he has and this and that and then within five minutes tell oh okay so you guys are thieves no no we just doing I'm like I'm sorry I can't come $3.6 million cash and once you come it's another 5 million you're talking about almost $10 million for a 23 year old kid on day one I said no I'd rather die than steal $1 but he wrote a whole thing about h a thief and a liar and a cheat and all these things that he thinks he knows now even if it was true I'm a thief and a liar and all this thing Jewish if he wasn't Jewish who would care he would consider him in a world he takes his time to write this to me and he makes sure that I know it so he puts me in the tag he tags me on Facebook now my question is this did his Rabbi tell him did his Rabbi have the courage to tell him that even if it's all true his sin is worse I don't care about him or the stuff that he wrote I only mention it to bring a point for people to understand that if someone is stupid enough stupid enough to make this sin on and he's supposed to be religious he's not a secular person religious Jew thinks he's a he's upset that he's not a famous rabbi did anybody tell him did anybody tell him anybody have the courage to tell him this is why we cry we cry because all of those sins are much worse today both from the first beta mikdash and the second they're all very much alive and well and even though he deleted it a few hours later it was enough time for me to see it record it and of course more than enough time for to see it even though some of these people try to do chuva here and there they try to fix something they try to fix that there's certain things you just can't fix unless you get to the real chuva so we cry today not because of the fast page 15 it mentions a verse in the Tor in sephel AEM says don't rip your clothes rip your hearts do cha I don't care about your fast I don't care if you eat or you don't eat I don't care if you rip your clothes your clothes are dirty your clothes are clean your clothes are this your clothes are that I don't care if you brush your teeth I don't care if you put some powder on your face make you look like you just came out of some uh disaster I don't care about that I care about what's inside what happened inside do you have aash inside you do you realize that as long as there no bet mikdash you are contributing into to it you are part of it a Jew must understand that as long as the bet mikdash is not built he's part of the reason yes even if he's keeping yes even if he does and he goes to yes even if he's speaking to you right now he's part of it why why because you didn't do enough there's still people writing stuff against theem on the internet there's still people Idol worshiping there's still people stealing there's still people that are cheap there's still people with bad midot there's still people that are wearing idol worship on top of their head there's still people that are so far from hasem they don't even know what kosher is there are over 1 million children in who do not know in is one million children do not know how to say is there's still 1 million children in is who don't have food this is a land no different than America as far as Prosperity very modernized Place very rich country fantastic economy leading technology in some cases even better than America but you have 1 million kids who don't know where they're going to eat today and it's not because of the Fest but yet you have other people that sold companies to Google for half a billion dollars2 billion do3 billion what are they worrying about putting cars inside their living rooms you have a million kids don't have food but you're worried about putting a car inside your living room you have a million kids don't know but they donate people think that they made a big mitvah they made 10 20 $30,000 last month but they donate K they donate brother said it's better off they they donate ISAT value 18 that's why 18 is a number is a common number for people donate met means dead K means alive met means dead but met is 440 it's better you donate met than K people trying to connect all these things but the reality is we're far away from the truth the reality is that the very same reason that the BET mikdash was destroyed is still alive and well in the book of a talks about these false prophets these false leaders inat page 54 and 55 especially 54 talks about how Hashem punished the rabbis first so the asks why did you punish the rabbis they they went to B they put on rash 200 bucks at least everything great what happened why why they had a hat everything they look like rabbis they learned tah why' you punish them first thear answers because they weren't really they weren't really why weren't they werik because they didn't fulfill the Mitzvah of rebuking their brothers they didn't fulfill the mitvah of telling their brothers and sisters it's time to do Chua don't worry about the fast don't worry about not eating eating don't worry about the clothes where you're wearing black and white they're just wearing regular clothes at least it's modest what's inside you what's inside you they didn't do it m says they're worse than all of them they get punished first why they get punished first they knew the truth they knew the truth they had an option the big brother is supposed to educate the little brother the big brother is the one that's supposed to cry because not because of what happened 20 30 40 years ago 7 years ago 2,000 years ago he's supposed to cry because of what's happening today and what's happening today is we're missing the point we think it's because of from 2,000 years ago we think it's because of today because Safari doesn't like ashkanazi or the ashkanazi doesn't like the emonite or the emonite doesn't like this one we think that's the we have no it's not the biggest difficulty we have today is between the religious and the non-religious that's the we have it has nothing to do with asazi yite and Lish and all that other stuff it has to do between the religious and the not religious the religious they know the truth they take care of themselves the non-religious don't know the truth but they take care of themselves both think that they're going in the right way both think that they're okay both think that they havea both think that mashia is going to come he's going to help them little do they know that for the vast majority of them it's not going to be so okay when is was taken out of Egypt had to do some serious damage first he killed 80% of am is during the plague of darkness and only 20% actually left Egypt the mid says it was really only 1% left Egypt 99% were killed and the reason why is because they didn't do Chua says if you don't do chuva you can't get to me without chuva you can't get to me the religious people in the world need to understand that as long as the non-religious stay non-religious without knowledge stay non-religious without even a chance the owness is on them the responsibility is on them the responsibility is on us that we know the truth we know that if you don't keep Shabbat you have a problem we know if you don't keep kosher you have a problem we know if you don't keep you have a problem but we're not talking about a problem like a headache that goes away after a few hours we're talking about an eternal problem and if you know that information but your cousin your brother your neighbor your someone in your K does not know it the responsibility falls on you he's punished too because he's responsible to also learn Torah but the fact that you didn't tell him makes you know better so when the religious say no no I don't want my son to marry a BAL Chua or I don't want my daughter to marry a BAL chuva that just discourages the Bal chuva even more because once he finally did Chua you don't want to accept him anyway once the guy finally converted you don't want to get him anyway once the woman converted you don't want to take him anyway why because we're different we're separated because we're already religious from birth you should learn rambam rambam says same thing as the sirious B cha is higher than someone that's from from birth but we'll ignore the facts so not only are we getting in the way of chuva we're not assisting it in any way that's the problem with the religious world the non-religious world the hus is on them because they're responsible to ask the simple question why am I in this world why am I in this world why did I come here what's the difference between me and a horse what's the difference between me and a cow why do I feel okay with murdering a cow and eating it kosher non kosher what gives me the right to eat the cow but because it doesn't talk maybe it does talk I just don't understand if anything the cow looks happier than you doesn't def fast doesn't have a mortgage all of its kids love it no one melts off I don't think is there any any such thing as slum bite problems for anything the cow is happier than you what gives you the right to kill it a person needs to ask themselves what's the difference between me and the monkey what's the difference between me and the cow once you start delving into the issue you start understanding obviously someone put you here for a reason and that someone put you here for a reason as a Jew whether you converted you were natural born it's all the same the point being is that right now you're a Jew right now you want to be a Jew right now you're doing chba right now you're something you're connecting to hem why he give you a book of instructions it tells you why it's called Torah you have to ask yourself the question of why so for anyone that's asking why do we fast it's not because hm cares if you eat he doesn't it's not because AEM cares what you wear he doesn't is because it's supposed to eliminate all the material from your life and leave you with nothing to do but ask that question you're not supposed to work today you're not supposed to go party today you're not supposed to it's not an Al not to work but you're not supposed to there's no behind the money you're not supposed to do anything but ask this question how do this happen how how did he destroy the BET mikdash his own house how and I'm going to leave you with this there's a very famous mid of once Jeremiah came back and saw the mikash and started crying hysterically and uncontrollably he says it was like rivers of tears coming out of his face and he wasn't able to stop it Hashem told him go getu and tell them go tell them that I don't have a house anymore so he goes to the river and he says son of amam son of amam amam was Moses's father is calling you he needs to speak to you commentary says why didn't he say listen look what happened says that Jeremiah was very scared to say such things he didn't want to be the leader of the nation that lived to see the so he says son of am hasem is calling you so MOS came out and he says his of course he says what's different today than all the other days that hasem is calling me and theim are telling Moshe son of am don't you know that hem destroyed his bet mikdash haven't you seen Moshe moves his and he gets to see the bet mikdash he sees the river of blood he sees the destruction he sees the fire he sees everything destroyed he gets to see his people and the people think oh that's mosenu he came here the msia the mashiah is here they say the mid says that the original mashia is going to be the next mashia mosu is going to be the mashia and that's why the kazal say that part of the of the mashia is going to be for m and the other part from DAV so is is in handcuffs dying blood everywhere their kids are everywhere dying they're all skinny they're all starving they see M they all get happy because they think it came to save them and mosenu couldn't handle it and he left and he goes and he calls Abraham and yob and he tells him look what Hashem did look what happened here Abraham says to Hashem Hashem when I jumped into the fire for you for your honor is this shame what I deserve for jumping into the fire this shame I jumped into the fire for your honor this is what I [Applause] deserve I put my child that I waited 100 years for for you even though it went against everything all logic you told me that from my son everything is going to happen but at the same time I have to kill the son I did it without asking a single question Hashem this is the shame that I deserve to see my children murdered in Cold Blood prayer is not answered Christ to hasem I was willing to give myself for you let my father kill me this is what I deserve to see prayers is not answered yov my whole life was dedicated to you I suffered my whole life but made sure that all my children Sanctified your name this is what I deserve to see prayer not answer mosenu says I served you I didn't even want to do it I served you I led your people out of Egypt I went through fight I went through fire I went through everything prayer not answered comes and says to hasem at the time that I found out that my father was going to cheat my future husband yov by giving him my sister I originally planned to fool my father and to make sure that yob doesn't fall for it so I told him that if I don't give you these signs then it's not me it's my sister but then a moment later I realized that I risk the opportunity of shaming my sister for a moment my sister is going to be ashamed that Yakov didn't want to marry her that's a damage that I can't fix that's a post you can't delete so I sat quiet and did not tell yov while at the same time I told my sister the signs I even spoke for her and made sure that yov thought it was me and even when she came to me after we were both married to him and embarrassed me I sat quiet so if I can sit quiet asem while they go against me why did you do this and Hashem says for your tears for your prayer I promise I'm going to give them back to bet mikdash your prayer was answered so now the question that we ask is this the very famous question of why was her prayer answered and not Moshe abah andov we're going to take it a step further we're going to ask a simpler question but that's deeper if hasem knew obviously hasm knows the future hasem knows that andov M and RA are going to come to him and they're going to plead they're going to cry why he just sent Jeremiah to them before he destroyed bet mikdash if he's if he know that he's going to answer their prayers eventually one he just sent Jeremiah to them before destroying the BET mikdash and the answer my friend is simple but deep before the before the fast you're doing today before the Shure before even the question before the thought there was no chuva and therefore they could have prayed from here until the end of the world and it wouldn't have helped it wouldn't help and yob can pray Moshe andon can pray DAV and schl can pray sah they can all pray everyone tells me that their grandfather was a sadik was a rabbi their uncle was this and their father was this and everyone's past generation is this all of that is wonderful for them but with without us taking action it doesn't matter Hashem couldn't bring this issue to before because it would have been fruitless it would have served no purpose because before did not know that they had to do chuva and therefore without chuva the prayers are meaningless without Chua nothing happens by the time he came to them he destroyed the BET mikdash which led them to do chuva which made the prayer fruitful prayer this is the main thing we have to understand today we cry because Amel has not done Chua today we cry because Amel still doesn't know it needs to do Chu but we can't wait for the rabbis waiting for the rabbis 2,000 years ago did not serve us any thear says they got punished first because they didn't do their job they didn't do their job they didn't rebuke the people they didn't tell them the truth today if we want to avoid next year's TSH if we want to avoid horror if we want to avoid disaster today we have to take the job and to our own hands each person needs to become a rabbi you don't need to be a rabbi with speech you don't need to be a raban with speech you can do it in a lot of different ways you could do it with words you could do it with money you could do it with clicks you have to spread to you have to get to come back to hasem you have to let them know they are doing wrong it's time to do chuva and if they start doing Chua we won't be here next year crying there's other will be a celebrating any questions we have another sh completely different in um an hour and a half from now at six o'cl we're now in 15 minutes from now in Miami I welcome everyone to join me we'll finish off this with some serious motivation to do cha and to help ch right [Music] [Applause] [Music] he [Music]