Chayei Sarah: Why People Who Want Credit Lose In Life | STUMP THE RABBI (250)

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Tonight, we're going to go into perhaps one of the most extraordinary things you ever heard in your life just because it applies to everybody's life, which is in so many words something that I would say uh is not uncommon to uh to see, not uncommon to uh experience, but very very very often people do not know the meaning behind it and that's taking credit. Why do people who want credit for good things that they do end up losing in life? Person did something good, did a mitzvah, did aid, helped somebody out, you know, built something. He wants credit. He wants people to know. He wants to put his name on the building. He wants people to know. She wants people to know I did this. Look what I did. Look what I did. And very often those people live very troubled life, very miserable lives and in essence it looks like they lose in life. The typical person wants to do good and if they're a religious Jew then they may even look for opportunities to do good. After all the good that Abrau did, we see that in Abra does not want any credit for all the good that he's done. He doesn't want a free cave, nor does he even expect his servant Elazel to just obey his words without making a vow. Seems a little unusual. Why don't you take credit? Everybody knows you as the man of God. They're offering you a free cave. Take it. Wants none of it. Why? It's not hard to find someone that's claiming for credit for some good that was done. Yeah. Yeah. I'm the one that did it. Yeah. Yeah. You know who did that? You know who built it? You know who's behind this idea? You know it was my idea. It's very common. Every two seconds somebody claims credit for some good idea. Yet our forefather Abraham is trying to teach us otherwise. Why is such a valuable lesson not often understood? In fact, Hashem put this right in front of our face to read and learn every single year. Yet most people do not know that it even exists. This and much more and we're also going to answer the question from last week that many of you have sent me answers. So we see that in of course the story goes that dies goes to from the happiness that she had as a result of finding out that her husband did not kill their son. After this, the Torah tells us in Bash, the book of Genesis in chapter 23, that is now mourning her, is crying over her, and now is looking for an honorable place to bury her. And he goes to the children of Ket and says to them, "I'm an alien and a resident among you. Grant me an estate for a burial site with you that I may bury my dead from before me." Instead of Abraham coming to them, you know who I am. Of course, you know who I am. The whole world knows who I am. I'm the one that they threw me into a fire. And not only I survived, I thrived. I'm the one that millions of people follow me all over the world. They come just for me. I'm the one that has hotels in every corner where people go eat there for free just to say no. And is humility comes to the people of like a regular person. Please, if you will, sell me a burial ground. But of course, how do we know that they know who he is? Because they say it in the next verse, chapter 23:5. And the children of answered Abraham, saying to him, hear us, my lord. You are a prince of God in our midst. And the choices of our burial places bury your dead. any of us will not withhold his burial place from before you from burying your dead. Of course, we know who you are. You're the prince of God. You're among us. Of course, we're happy to to even uh exist in the same century as you. Whatever you want. But yet a does not answer them with astonishment or in a positive way. In fact, is dismayed by this says and rose up and bowed down to the members of the council to the children of Ket meaning no no no no don't don't give me anything you know you don't owe me anything he bows down to them no what are you talking about no you call me prince of god no please no compliments no compliments He says, "If it's truly your will to bury my dead, meaning if you're not just doing it just because you think I'm something special, but you actually want to help me, heed me and intercede for me with Ethon, the son of Z. Let him grant me the key of which is his dismayed is upset that there was a possibility that we're going to give him something for free. No, no, no. And then it says and was sitting in the midst of the children of initially would seem that was in the conversation the whole time. But Torah is telling us something here that until this point was an unknown. Nobody knew who he was. He was just among the people just another commoner. But the moment the people of found out that wants to deal with they made him a minister among them. That's how great a was. Ara wants to talk to you. You must be something special. How do we miss it out? Now here we see that was keshim was the greatest among all. He did everything for others. Yet he did not hold himself entitled to receive any credit for anything in return. He had hotels in every corner with free food for whoever said Hashem, whoever blessed Hashem. When he's looking for a grave for his wife, he wants to pay full price. In fact, as we see here, Abrau's greatness is to such an extent that just him wanting to speak to Ephron influence the people to make Ephrron a minister among them from an unknown nobody to all of a sudden he's a minister and he of refused to receive the cave for free. Why? In fact, if we look for a second of the in chapter 12 number eight says in the name of Hil who said a teaching about bringing people closer to and he said this teaches that a person should remove sinful people from their evil inclination and deeds and bring them under the wings of the divine presence in the same way that our patriarch A would withdraw people of his time from their evil inclination and deeds. meaning ofu is the prime example of the ultimate kiru personality kiru rabbi kiru organization he is the ultimate person that help people do cha he's the ultimate and would bring them under the wings of the divine presence and it wasn't just a alone who did this but his wife Sarah too did this for the women. All this is stated in the Torah in Sephashe the book of Genesis 12:5 of took his wife Sarai and Lot his his brother's son and all their wealth that they had amassed and the souls they made in Kanan. What do you mean they made? Now isn't it not true that all who come to the world even if they all work together could not create even one net and certainly they can't create a person just today it was reported that there was a huge embarrassment I believe it was for the Russian government who wanted to had a huge event highlighting their new robot that is supposed to replace everybody. Best worker, best athlete, best best. They wanted to showcase this robot. The moment they turn this thing on, it already showed it's a big failure. It fell on itself. Could not even pick itself up. And they literally shut down the show immediately. And they had even more embarrassment when even the curtains wouldn't come down for a few moments. And people kept seeing this massive failure. As the world tries harder and harder, year after year, investing hundreds of billions of dollars to try to create the equivalent of a man. And they can't even create a net. Now, even if they end up making robots, it's never going to replace humans in the capacities that people imagine. It may make you coffee for you. It may press a few buttons for you. May do certain cool things. But to be a servant of Hashem, to be a good person, to be someone that can actually create something without someone instructing them, it can never be. Soaken tells us here was the ultimate but he wasn't alone was his partner and the Torah says they made people what do you mean you made people can't even make so what does it mean why does Hashem himself write that I consider that and made these people what does it mean they they made the souls. This is to teach us that because brought these people to faith in Hashem, the holy one blessed is he that considers it as if they had actually made them. Meaning the became a partner in the creation with Hashem in creating those people. And just as in this world a person cannot give his friend a portion of his reward for good deeds, so too in the world to come, he cannot give his friend a portion of his reward for good deeds. As says in Ecclesiastes chapter 4 verse one, "Behold, tears of the oppressed with none to comfort them, and their oppressors have the power, with none to comfort them, which is alluding to the souls of the wicked people that are suffering their punishment as they receive it in the world to come are called oppressed by their misdeeds in this world." So when a person does chuva, it's not just that they put on a keepa now and now they have a vacation once a week keeping Shabbat. She now wears more classy clothes by being modest. No, no, no. If they did not do chuva, they would have been the oppressed one by their misties. They would have suffered forever in gum, in Kafka, invibly imagine. And you that you gave them one of the kiru boxes, you that donated so Rabbi Ruven could give another lecture to help people do cha. You the one that gave them a USB, gave them one of the books, and now they did chuva. you have now changed the trajectory of not only their life but their family's life and all of their descendants lives and therefore says I consider you as a partner in creating this person because if it wasn't for what you did I would have had to destroy them eventually so you brought them back to you're a partner in creating them. And who do we learn from? HE'S THE ULTIMATE OF RABBI. So if considers a partner in creating all of those people of kazal say over a million people did shuv because ofu in his time not talking about just descendants why does not want credit people want to give him free cave. People want to give him money. People want to give him stuff. No, no, no. Why? Further, we see this is not just a rejection of the people of Kan. Maybe their money was not kosher or something. So he didn't want theirs. No, his servant Elzel who was certainly righteous. The says that Elzar is one of 10 people that went to Gan Eden alive. Never died. No, no nothing. Simply walked into Ganedin alive. One of 10 people. That's how righteous he was. Now Elazel initially wanted his daughter to marry a told him no because I am Hashem said I am blessed and you are cursed you're this was not an insult on Alazil this was simply a reality of the word of Hashem hem decreed of is but the nation of is they're cursed And cannot be what cursed. So how is it that cursed goes to ganed and alive? That's because Elzar sanctified himself so much that he got himself out ofan and became. How do we know why? Because the GMA tells us. But why? Why? Because when he came to bet in Lavan and introduced himself, the Gar says Elazar could have said anything. He could have said, "I am the minister of the prince of God of Ram, the world famous, the infamous, the greatest, the the most extraordinary, the most righteous, the richest, the smartest. I'm his I'm his number two man. I'm his right hand. I give the shim when he can't." No. What are you saying? I am Abraham's servant. Now Abraham is not there watching, monitoring him. There's no compliance officer or security or cameras checking out what Elzar is saying. Only one who knows what's happening there are the people there. But Elzar says I am Abra's servant. Abra chapter 24 verse 33 34 Abra. So he is very loyal to Abraham certainly was not offended by what Abraham said to him about him being an impossible choice. his his daughter being an impossible choice for his son because of what Hashem decreed. But yet Abraham says to Elazel, his servant, he owns him. Please put your hand under my my thigh and swear it to me regarding this matter. But Abraham, I'm your loyal servant. Literally, I'm your loyal servant. Anything you say, I do. says, "Please swear. Swear that you're going to do what I ask." Why? Why is Abraham not taking any credit for his greatness? For all the good that even who testifies that he did. The whole world knows how good of is. He defeated five countries at one time. Everyone is scared of him from his power, from his kadusha. But Abraham even when he speaks to his servant Elazar asks him nicely, please swear to me, make a vow that you're going to do what I said. and Elazer gets to the house of Betil and his son Lavan and is humble like his master. And he says to them something a little unusual after he sees that he has found someone for the average person would say listen you're very fortunate people my master he's uh interested in marrying your daughter. You guys are the luckiest people in the world. That he's even looking at you. That he's even considering you. Yala yala quickly give it to me so he can go. That's it. But he doesn't. Lezar acts in a similar fashion to his master and he says to them if you are willing to do meaning kindness and emit with my master of like pleading with them. He's not expecting them to say yes just because he came, just because Aam is his master, just because the whole world would love the same opportunity. No, Elzar acts in kindness just like his master of what is this especially today unusual behavior in the world we live in. The average person believes in I deserve everything good. Why do you deserve everything good? They'll tell you I'm a good person. So if anything bad happens to them, it's not only disappointment, they're surprised. HOW COULD THIS BAD STUFF HAPPEN TO ME? WHY DOES THIS always happen to me? as if bad and them have nothing to do with each other. What were you expecting? I expected good. Only good should happen to me. Now just out of curiosity with all of your expectations of only good happening to you, have you done good to others? Not like a because of course we already know the answer but simple. Have you done a lot of good for other people? Because you expect everything good for you and when something is not good, it's not just disappointment. You're surprised that something not good happened to you. Which means that you expect only good because you only do good. So do you do good for others? like you expect for yourself. Levvenstein said this in Yeshua and I heard this from Reb. People that don't learn Tawa know only two parts of the ten commandments. The first commandment says that I am Hashem your God that took you out of Egypt. So from that they know just the I I meaning it's all about me. They they Hashem your God who took me out of Egypt. They conveniently forget people are very into I. Everything is for me. The second thing is the second commandment is you shall not have other gods from that one they know you shall not have meaning I and you shall not have everything for me and you don't have anything but yet the average person if you ask him do you believe you are a good person they will tell you yes and in fact most People would like to do good so long as it doesn't disturb their own good. If they can do good for others while benefiting as well, most people will do it. But the one caveat here is unlike au when they do good they want credit for it. They want everyone to know that they built it, that they made it, that they bought it, that they wrote it, that it was their idea, that they paid for it, that they worked hard for this. You know how hard I worked for this? How many times have you heard from people around you the word I did, I did this and I did that. People want others to know all the good they did. Even if it's really not good, like silly things like they say, you know, I knew they're going to win. I knew this was going to happen. I had a feeling this is going to be meaning they want to credit even for things they didn't do and they can't even prove they did such as the yearning for credit which is the polar opposite of our father forefather of in fact page 88 8b says who has who is destined to have meaning who is destined to go to heaven. What are some of the traits that if somebody has it, you know, this guy is going to he's going to heaven. And the Gar answers, one who is modest and humble, who bows his head and enters and bows and exits and who studies Torah regularly and who does not take credit for himself. Now, interestingly enough, a person can even attain the extraordinary trait of being humble, learning Torah. He's modest, gives credit to others, respect to. But yet, the last part you won't have. Meaning he can be modest and humble and bow his head and study Torah, but he wants to take credit for himself because after all he believes he deserves it. Look, I helped those people. I fed those people. I paid for those people. I bought this. I bought that. I sold this. It was my idea. It was my timing. I mean after all it's good. What shouldn't people know that I did good things? He wants credit. Says if he has all of these traits he's decreed to but a person could be missing one thing and in fact not even think there's anything wrong with it. But yetu is telling us as much as even testifies that he did that did that Hashem considered him a partner in creating those souls. Abraham wanted no credit from anyone for anything he has done. In the mindset of people who do not take credit, do not want credit. It's not because they are fakers and pretend like they're humble. Oh, no, no, no. I'm nothing. I'm nothing. I only built that building. No, no, no. I'm nothing. I'm nothing. I only help 10 people. No. Oh, no. No, no, no. I only host 20 people every week. No, no, no. I don't do anything. I don't do it. Don't give me any credit. Don't give me any credit. I know it's all me, but No, no, don't give me any credit. No, I'm not talking about those types of fake people. There's plenty of those. I'm talking about a real person that is trying to emulate the traits of and does not want credit for himself. Why doesn't he want it? because he truly believes he deserves no credit from his perspective. What? I helped that person? No, it was simply Hashem helped him and he decided to use me as a vessel or this person needed help. Of course, I'm going to help him. What? Who wouldn't help him? Everybody else would have helped him also. I just happened to be there at that place. Like he assumes everybody else would do the same thing. He doesn't think there's anything special about all of the great things that he does. She doesn't think there's anything special about all the wonderful things she does. He doesn't think there's anything special about all the things he teaches, all of the things that he buys for other people. He doesn't think there's anything simple. He's just I'm just fulfilling my purpose in this world. What's what's just like a screw? A screw has a purpose. If it's just sitting there in a box, it's not being used. But if you put it in something, then it's serving its purpose. I'm just like that screw. So sometimes it's to give, sometimes it's to build, sometimes it's to teach, sometimes it's to compliment. I'm just fulfilling my purpose. Why? Why do you want to give any credit for it? Would you clap your hands and give a standing applause to a screw just because he fit perfectly in the hole? No. So why are you giving me any credit? The variance between the perspective of Abraham and those that try to emulate Abraham who do not want credit for anything versus everyone else is whiter than the ocean. But yet the end result shows us that Abraham won. That is right for not wanting credit, for not expecting credit. Because Hashem himself in the end gave him. Hashem himself considered the forefather of Israel the ultimate blessing that every Jew has to bless himself on the name of Abam every day. The partner in creation of all the souls that he made all of Isel. Yet the average person out there that let's say they built a community, they built a building, they built a synagogue, they lent somebody money, they did something good. Usually after a little while, sometimes even during their life, people forget. People forget that they ever existed. Nobody considers them a partner. Nobody even knows why the street is named as such because they don't realize that the guy that built that town or built that street or was somebody important in the previous generation was the name of that street. So all the good that that person did and the credit that people gave him, the credit that he yearned for where he made sure to put his name on the building, put his name on the street, put his name on the town, put his name on the bill. It wasn't too long before the next generation didn't even know who he was. His credit was gone with him. And the next person that wants credit will put their name on the town, put their name on the building, put their name on the bill, and no one would even be bothered by it because they don't even know who the original guy is. So unlike who ran away from getting credit for anything that he did and yet testified on his behalf that he is the partner that he is au he's our forefather and what he ran away from all the credit he ran away from he has a lot more that he gets till this day every single second this world exist whereas another person whether it be the billionaire of previous generation or the current generation. Before too long, they'll be forgotten and all of the credit and the admirations and the front cover articles will cease to exist. No one's going to care. So we see that Abra's mentality, Abra's model, Abra's ideology won. Now, if it was just that he won in the next world, most people would not be convinced to do the same thing because people will tell you, listen, I understand that is and he's great and everything, but I'm not so let me get some credit over here. They'll even rationalize it by saying, "Maybe I could convince other people by showing them that I'm doing good. They'll want to do good." And you're right. There is there is truth to that. But there's a difference between publicizing your good in order to convince others to do the same versus publicizing the good that you do because you need to. You need to tell people you did it. It's not really because you're trying to influence them. Abraham's ideology won and it wins. It didn't only win in the past. It wins for whoever does it here. And that's what the aatan is trying to tell us is that Ara's way will make you win at life. And the opposite of a if you're yearning for credit that you did this and you did that and your favorite word is I, you're losing life. And the reason for that is that when a person does something for somebody else, when a person does something in general, the more they expect in return for what they did, the more they'll believe that they deserve credit. So if they help somebody find a spouse, a job, a house, whatever it is, they help with people and they expect that person to help them when they need it. Oh, remember when I helped you get that job? Now you're doing good. Can you hook me up? Can you help me out? Cuz I helped you. Remember I did this for you? Remember I did that for that person? now I deserve this. The more they believe that they should get in return, the more they'll actually live a life with a mentality that they deserve the credit. And in fact, they'll live a life full of disappointments because the more they believe they deserve to get back, the more opportunities they open up for people to disappoint them because no one will ever give them as much honor as they expected. No one will give them as much credit as they expected. No one will ever give them as much good as they feel they deserve. So their life DESPITE THE CREDIT THAT THEY are getting from different places will be full of disappointments because it'll never be enough. And one of the things that we see among dole is the giant sages of am is a common denominator whether it's the and rabel yashs and and ravkis and the stiplers of the world or the kafitim or the or the the uh the great sages of 800 years ago, the Rambam, the Ramban or Benah or any of the great sages from the time of the Gim or any of the great sages from or any of the great prophets of the Tanakh. When when you see details of their personal life, there's one common denominator among all of them. None of them take credit for themselves. All of them follow in the footsteps of Abrau. Now it's very very hard to attain this character trait of not wanting credit for yourself. Not believing you deserve credit for the good you do. Not believing you deserve credit. Simply you're fulfilling the will of Hashem. Simply you're fulfilling your role in the world. No different than a screw, but it's a much better life. Because when a person looks for credit, they'll get disappointment. You did her a favor when the time comes and you'll ask for a favor. More times than not, she won't be there for you. You help them out. Get the job. Get the contract. When the time comes and you need a favor, you need help, you even need him something simple like make a call for you, he won't be there for you. And in fact, even if people give you something in return, it's never the same thing. You found him a wife. You found her a husband. Can they ever really pay you back? Even if they give you a loan or they get you a promotion in a job, is that really equivalent to finding them the love of their life, someone they're building a family with? Can you really compare the two? No. You lend them money when he had nothing and he ended up succeeding and became an investor in your company. Is that really the same? No. Why? You helped him not starve to death. He simply took advantage of an opportunity you were a part of. You weren't starving. If it wasn't him, somebody else would invest. So, it's not the same. And if you're looking for credit, you'll know it. You'll know it's not the same. He can never PAY YOU BACK. SHE CAN NEVER pay you back. And therefore, the more the more you expect people to pay you back, the more you will live with disappointment, with misery because no one is ever going to be able to pay you back. And in fact, the vast majority of people, they're not even going to want to pay you back, even if they can because that's just the nature of people. One of the great in the previous generation just died in the last few years. David Feinstein one of Isel son of Mosha Feinstein was famous for the that he did in helping people. One time there was a sort of a survey that they asked different people that they also asked of David Feinstein and they asked people if you had the choice of having lunch with any three people throughout all of history dead or alive who would you pick? Of course, people said, "Oh, I'd pick a, you know, a Musher Rabenu Arau. I'll pick A Yeshua Benoon Rabaka, the Rambam, the Ramban, my father, my mother that passed away. You know, that's what people picked. Some people picked famous presidents of countries, warriors, kings, philosophers, all types of people. And none of them won the competition. But when they asked Ravi Feinstein that same question, who would you want to have lunch with? more than anybody else. If you could pick three people in all of history, dead or alive, David Feinstein said, "I would love to have lunch with the three hungriest people in the world today, whoever they are, I'd love to have lunch with them." I said, "Well, but wouldn't you want to meet Mosher Rabenu? Wouldn't you want to meet? WOULDN'T YOU want to have lunch with your own father?" He said, "Yeah, of course I would. But I can't pick them. Why not?" is because all of those choices my father or anybody else that you can pick that's great would all be great for me only. What's the point in that? But if I can have lunch with the three hungriest people in the world, then I can help them. At least they'll eat. They'll be full. They won't be hungry anymore. That's what I want. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE MINDSET OF A SADIK a and the average person is shown by this seemingly simple answer. But it has everything to do with what has been trying to teach us for 4,000 years. If you look for credit, you will get disappointment. If you do good for the sake of good, then you're fulfilling your purpose. But how could a person get to such a mindset? First off, it's only possible to not want credit, not desire credit even in your heart, even in your mind. If you love Hashem and the people, because if you just love Hashem, you'll still want credit from the people. Recognition, appreciation, thank you, A FAVOR BACK, HELP, a handout, something. If you just love the people, then you want Hashem to reward you in this world. Give me more money. Give me this. I'm going to do this mitzvah because Hashem's going to give me this and Hashem's going to give me that becomes like a business transaction. And therefore, the only way that a person could ever get to a point of at least being on the same path as of and not desiring credit, not wanting credit, running away from credit for anything they did. That's good. Is if they love Hashem and the people. What is this like? Because of course, Hashem gives us everything in creation to learn from. It's like a mother that's nursing her baby, changing her baby's diaper, bathing her baby that's dirty. When she's doing it a moment ago, the baby, no one wanted to hold that baby because he has a package that nobody wants. But the mother takes the baby, hugs the baby, kisses the baby, ignores the fact that the stench and the smoke coming out of it practically is following her. And she bathes the baby and she puts a little oil on him. And he looks like a brand new little package just came down from heaven. And she feeds him and she dresses him with his new little outfit. And guess what? She's expecting nothing in return. She's not expecting the baby to pay her rent. She's not expecting the baby to say, "Thank you." Cuz he doesn't even know how to talk yet. But yet, she's fulfilled. The act of taking care of her baby fulfills her heart more than any thank you in the world ever can. Why? Because her love of that baby is enough to satisfy any desire you can possibly have for credit. The love that she has for that baby is much more valuable than any other reward you can possibly give her. So when she sees the baby is not hungry anymore, is not crying anymore, is not dirty anymore, that in itself gives her more satisfaction than anything in the world can offer her. Abrainu was greater at hosting guests than even receiving the Aadoshba who came to visit him. But yet the moment of saw in last week's par that he has guests. He left Hashem and went to the guests. Why the talking to Hashem? It's the greatest thing in the world for me. But what's the purpose in that? Just to benefit myself. No, let me go help these three Arabs. He doesn't know they're righteous. He doesn't know they're angels. let me go help them because that is the purpose. While all of this seems and in reality is far from our own behavior, far from our own attitudes. The reality is that if somebody wants to have real happiness in their marriage, in raising their kids, and even in building a business that lasts, they have to aspire to at least get a piece of this running away from credit. Because if you live in such a marriage where I'll get you a present if you get me one. I'll be nice to you if you're nice to me. I'll do this for you if you do this for me. Gong may even be better than your marriage. Many people live in such a marriage where he's only going to do for her if she does for him. She's only going to do for him if he does for her. In reality, it's not so different from prostitution. It's business. I'm only going to do this if he does this. I'm only going to do that if she does that. Constantly looking for credit. Constantly looking for credit and constantly miserable when they don't get the credit. So the marriage is full of disappointments. The saddest parents in the world are easy to point out. How so? They're the ones that expect credit from their kids, especially as their kids grow up. WELL, I RAISED YOU. WHY won't you do this for me? Why won't you do that for me? If you raised him, if you raised her with the idea that he will do the same thing for you later on in life, oh yo, you're you're going to suffer. You're going to suffer a lot of disappointment. There's a reason why they say one father can raise 10 kids, but 10 kids cannot raise one father. A parent that expects their kids to return what he gave them are parents that are going to literally die from heartache because their kids won't. Even if they're GOOD KIDS AND EVEN IF THEY DO GOOD THINGS FOR THEIR PARENTS, it'll never be in the same level as what the parent did for them. It's not possible. It's not possible. So the more a parent wants to have a good long life and a good relationship with their kids, they have to accustom themselves to do good for their kids just because it's doing good for their kids without expecting anything in return. If you want to have a good marriage, then do good for YOUR SPOUSE. JUST BECAUSE IT'S GOOD to do good for your spouse, not because she will return anything back. And the reality is in business, it's not the same, but not so different. If you treat your customers and your employees right, just because it's the right thing to do, just because it's the best thing to do, you'll be happy even if those employees and those customers do not return the favor because you'll be fulfilled with or without them. You'll be fulfilled from the good that you did even if they don't return. BUT IF YOU EXPECT SOMETHING IN RETURN, you'll live a life full of disappointment. You'll live a life full of broken hearts. Your heart will break over and over again with each and every single relationship you have because no one will ever return to you what you did for them, especially if you give them something significant. And therefore, if you truly want to have a happy life with less heartbreaks, do good because it's good to do good and not because you expect anything in return ever. Not recognition, not a favor, nothing. But if a person has the mindset of listen, I'll do good for them eventually. They'll do good for me. I don't expect it now, but eventually almost like they have a timer on every favor that they have. They don't expect anything now, but they expect something at some point. Don't think that's going to be any less miserable. In fact, sometimes the misery is even greater because you help this person in a big way and you figure, "No, he can't help me and I don't want any help from him right now. I don't need any help from him right now." But 10 years pass and you still remember the good you did for him and now all of a sudden the timer is ringing. Oh, I need a favor. Now, if you think that that person is going to do you a favor because you did something that's life-changing for them 10 years ago, you'll be very, very disappointed because more times than not, not only will they not return the favor, but they'll act horrified that you're even asking them. That's just the nature of people. If you have the mindset of when will everyone give me some good back like I did for them then in reality the giving that you're giving is not giving it's investing. You're expecting a return. If you're giving to your spouse, to your children, to your employees, to your co-workers, to your friends, to your rabbi, to whoever, if you're giving with an expectation that you will get something back, then it's not really giving. It's investing. You're expecting a return at some point, even if it takes a long time. And more times than not, that return will be a disappointment. Will be a disappointment that will literally penetrate your heart as a permanent loss. Most of the time, even getting you to regret the good you did. And that's even a greater loss because then you lose even the merit of doing good. Whereas a person that wants to follow in the footsteps of Abrau and thereby give without taking any credit for himself without expecting any credit nothing is therefore guaranteed that there will never be disappointment. Imagine living a life where you're never disappointed from anybody. Not your parents, not your spouse, not your kids, not your co-workers, not your friends, not your rabbi, not your whoever. Never disappointed. Most of the people suffering that they live in this world from their relationships is disappointments. They're disappointed that people didn't come through for them. They're disappointed that people didn't help them. get disappointed in this, disappointed in that. Imagine living a life without any disappointment whatsoever. Well, it's possible. Not easy, but it's possible. How? Do as much good as possible without expecting or even thinking that you will ever return. you will ever get a return out of it, that you will ever get anything back from it. Therefore, since nobody owes you anything, you're not expecting anything. IF YOU'RE NOT EXPECTING ANYTHING, then when they don't give you anything, you're not disappointed. And in fact, the greatest hidden treasure in there is that when you do get something from anyone, you're so elated and so surprised. It's like, how how could why do I even deserve such good? How did I merit to have all this good? What do you mean? You you you saved my life. What do you mean you gave me this? No, but it doesn't matter. What do you mean? It has nothing to do with it. What? I don't like you have no idea. How did you How did this even happen? To put everything in perspective, I'll give you a story. A story that I've heard several times from my Rav and a story that each time I hear it, it makes an even bigger and more profound change. And I think it's a story that puts everything we've just said in the clearest perspective you can have. Everyone knows, at least those that have watched my shuim over the years, the great Sadik and Rabiza was just a couple of generations from the Baltov. Abizusha and his brother were the greatest sadikim of their generation, each in different ways. And the Bizusha's dedication to Hashem had no limitations. He lived in severe poverty. Yet he was the happiest man on earth. One day he went to this town and as he was staying there he got to meet some of the people and one day he's sitting in the synagogue next to the rabbi. the rabbi of the city and the rabbi of the city looks very sad. But Rabizusha is happy as can be. And the rabbi of the city is bothered by Rabi Zusha's happiness to the point where he says to him, "I'm Susha, how what are you so happy about? Can't you be serious? You're always jumping around happy, happy, happy. What are you so what are you so happy about? He's bothered by it. He's not questioning it like this greatness in you. He's bothered that Zusha is so happy especially at the time that he is so sad. Zusha Zusha gives him an answer. Rabi Zusha says to him, "You want to know why Zusha is happy and why you're sad? I'll tell you. You see, last night, there was a wedding in the town and the couple invited the rabbi of the city to be a kushin. And the rabbi said, "Of course, I'm the rabbi of the city. It's appropriate for people to ask me to be aim and the rabbi was even expecting to also do the because who is in a higher spiritual status and and more recognition and importance than the rabbi. So when the couple told the rabbi that yes, we want you to be the one that's under the but the we have other people we want to honor with those blessings. The rabbi was very disappointed. In fact, he was insulted. What do you mean? How could you not give me this honor? I'm the city's rabbi. And the rabbi was so disappointed and offended that he decided not to go. But he figured that when the couple realizes that he's not showing up to the wedding, they're going to send a messenger and ask him to come so to not delay things any more than necessary. He was expecting that they would do it. So he was already dressed for the occasion. He was dressed for the wedding and the wedding happened and the rabbi doesn't see any messengers and his disappointment grows more and more. An hour passes, two hour pass, and then the rabbi realizes that not only is he disappointed, he's now hungry because he actually expected that since he's going to be the rabbi of at the wedding, he's also going to eat part of the feast in the celebration. So, he didn't eat all day. He was expecting to eat at the wedding. So now that no one has come, he's disappointed, he's sad, and he's hungry. And the night went on and they never invited him. That's why you're sad. And you want to know why Zusha is happy? You see, Zusha Zusha came to the wedding simply to fulfill the mitzvah of making the bride and groom happy. Zusa wasn't expecting anyone to honor him. In fact, Zusha sat in the table with the rest of the poor people, not even expecting to get any food because he's not one of the honorable people. And the wedding started and they were waiting for the rabbi to come. And when they realized that the rabbi did not show up, they started asking in the wedding, who else is there any other rabbi here that can do the wedding for us? And then someone saw Zusha. So the bride and groom said came to me and said, "Rabbusha, please can you do the wedding for us?" Mr. Me? No, of course not. I can't do it. Susha is not uh great enough to do such an important wedding. There must be better people here. And then they said, "No, Rabusha, please, please, we plead with you. We beg you. Please do the wedding. The rabbi didn't show up." So she said, "But it's not for me. I'm not uh it's I'm not great enough for such a holy wedding. Please Rab Zusha do it. So I said okay if you insist and you're stubborn about Zusha doing it then fine I will do it. So, Zusha did the wedding and then after I did the blessing, they saw that Zusha did the blessing in a nice way and he said, "Rebusha, since you did this, would you mind also doing the seven blessings?" I said, "Me?" No, of course not. There must be very honorable people here that you must honor, that you need to honor, that you should honor, much greater than Zusha. This is not for me. You have to give them the honor. And so please, Rabbi, please you do it. We just want you to do it. And despite my refusal, they insisted. So I said okay if you insist that Zusha do the then I will do it. And then they gave me the and I was surprised it's such an honor that they gave me. And then after everyone saw that the couple used me to do the wedding and the they all said he must be a very very important rabbi. AND THEY STARTED GIVING ME ALL TYPES OF FOOD TO EAT. And Zusha was not hungry anymore. So you see, Zusha went there with no expectations. And in fact, when they wanted to give me something, I was surprised. But yet, Zusha got all of this cavode and honor and food. So, Zusha is now happy. and also full Abrainu has details about his life that we need to learn because it could change ours. Most of the problems that people suffer from are because of simply not knowing what the right path looks like. We live in a world where people yearn for credit and admiration more they yearn for life itself. But yet the more credit they get, the more miserable you see they end up becoming. On the other hand, the great sages of Am is have the one great thing in common in following the path of Abrainu which is not looking for credit, not wanting credit, running away from credit and therefore never being disappointed. Always surprised when something good happens. Doing good because it's good to do good. and ultimately never having any type of sadness or disappointment because whatever they're getting is unexpected. It's a surprise. Whatever they're not getting, they never have even thought about it because they didn't expect it. They have happiness. And if somebody wants that same level of happiness, they should at least start going in the same path as our forefathers that began with Abraham. This Abu Tai is what we can learn about the para. Now to answer the question from last week, we asked question that people gave some answers for and the question was if there are two people standing together and they hear somebody else reciting a reciting a blessing. Both have the intention to fulfill their obligation by listening to that braha. And he has intention for both of them. Both are about to eat some food, the same food, yet one of them fulfills his obligation and one does not. How could this be? The answers that I got were very interesting. Some people said, "Maybe because this person doesn't keep Shabbat. Maybe because he didn't say amen. Maybe because he uh did not have the right covenant. Maybe because he didn't do koo me. The answer is as follows. The person that's reciting the baka is not reciting a baka for himself to eat. Rather he's reciting the baka in order to educate his child of how to say. And says in that when a parent teaches their child how to say a braha, they can say the braha with Hashem's name just like as they would say it when they would actually about to eat or do So in essence, the person that's teaching his son, the Baka is teaching his son and his son can benefit from it, but the other person that's listening to that blessing cannot benefit from it because the person that's making the blessing is not going to eat. So therefore if he is not blessing for himself to eat, he cannot fulfill the necessary uh uh blessing for somebody else to eat on his behalf. So when you're making a blessing to eat, let's say for kadouch, and you're doing it for everybody, you're able, everyone can benefit from you because you're eating, too. So they hear you and they see that you're doing it, they could benefit from it, too. But for you to simply make a blessing without eating, they can't benefit from it. If you're teaching your kid and not really for the purpose of eating, then they cannot benefit from it. And therefore, that's the answer. We'll ask another question for next week. Later on this year, I'm sure you guys have some uh questions you want to ask. So will give us the answers. You know, it took a lot of time and effort to study for this lecture, and every lecture changes my life a little bit, and I hope it does to you as well. If you're enjoying it, please make sure to like, subscribe, and share with people that you care about, people that you know could benefit from it. You may end up changing their life. Thanks again for learning with me, and we'll continue growing together. Now, back to the lecture. All right, let's see. Such waste of time with all these uh trolls. Here we go. If one does a mitzvah expecting something in return, does this mitzvah really count? Sure. Yes, it certainly does count. If you're putting on to fill in and uh you expect that will reward you for it, it still counts that you're doing the mitzvah. Sure. Again, there's a there's levels to everything. It's not all or nothing. It's not a uh it's not either you're the most righteous person in the world or you're the most wicked. There are levels to everything. All right, let's see. Can I be a Jew? I'm not born a Jew. And will Jews accept me as one? If you go through a Orthodox Jewish conversion, then yes. Why did David wasn't killed for adultery even to the Mo Moses says the fiveword? Okay, so the Shabbat explains that the vidame did not sin and anyone that thinks that the vidame sinned is making a error and the reason why is as follows. Number one, Bachva was not married at the time that the Vidame was with her. There was a uh a taka at that during that generation with one of the customs they had in that generation that anytime somebody would go to war, they would divorce their wives first before they went to war. And if they came back, they would remarry them. Why would they do that? Because if somebody dies in war, but nobody sees him get killed. There's no witnesses to him getting killed. And they don't find the body, then they cannot assume that he died. He could be a prisoner. And therefore, that wife in the Jewish world can no longer get married. So even if she's 20 years old and she has a whole life ahead of her, she cannot get married again. It's not like the non-Jewish world where people do whatever they want and there's, you know, there's no uh there's no repercussions. In the Torah world, a woman that marries a man stays married to that man and the only way to get out of that marriage is e either the uh the husband dies or he gives her a get, meaning he divorces her. So if the husband disappears, but there's no confirmation of what happened to him, she can never get married again. In fact, there's one of the things we learn from this week's para is that the we hear in the that of PES that Lavan tried to destroy the entire Jewish world. This is in the beginning of the agada tried to destroy the world. How how did he decide in this week's para he tried to destroy the entire Jewish world? By killing Elazar. Now, why would killing Elzil destroy the entire Jewish world? Number one, Elzel is not Jewish. Number two, if let's say he's the messenger to uh to get a wife and he dies, then can send another messenger. Why would killing Eleazil, which is what Lavan and his father tried to do by poisoning Eleazil, by running after him with a sword and so on. And Midash talks about different things that he tried to do to kill him. Why was that trying to kill and destroy the entire Jewish world? Because according to the Torah, if a man sends his servant to go find him a wife and choose a wife for him, meaning that whoever he chooses is now considered mikuh, she's considered his wife without him even seeing her. And so therefore, that holds. So let's say if Elza found when he found uh uh Rifka she was already considered the wife of of that's it. Now if Lavan would have killed Elzel, then would not know if Elzo chose someone or not. And because of that would never be able to get married again or ever again. Why would he not be able to get married? You would think, wait, hold on. Even if he chose somebody then uh and he doesn't know who she is then he'll just marry somebody else. The problem is the Torah tells us that a man is not allowed to marry a woman and her sister. Not allowed to marry a woman and her sister. And as I heard from one of our this extraordinary kush, if Lavan would have killed Elzer, it would have not known who the woman that Eleazar chose. And therefore, every woman in the world becomes a possible person that he cannot marry because she could be the sister of the woman that Elzo chose. And therefore would not have been able to get married and this would destroy the world. This would destroy the Israel. Of course, there are other the other things that talk about. But this is when you read the PES. This is what it means when it says that Leavan tried to destroy the entire world. Because even if somebody would think, well, no, he tried to destroy the world because he tried to kill Yakov. Even if he killed Yakov, Yakov had sons. Yakov had descendants. So it's not killing all of Israel. So it's a uh the the the issue is in this week's para we're trying to kill. Now back to the vid. David was with Bachva when she was not married to Ria. He went to war and therefore he gave her a divorce and therefore it's not considered adultery. It's uh it's not considered even a uh a sin relevant to us. It was considered a lacking on his behavior because of his extraordinary elevated level but it's not considered a sin. So therefore there would be not there would not be any type of uh punishment for it. And even more so, Davididame also had uh he was a king and there are specific types of rules that apply to a king that do not apply to other people which means he was able to take multiple wives and so on and so forth. The had 18 wives had a thousand Yeah, you could ask questions. Do you think Aan came to Mecca with Ishmail? I know he did not. That's just an invention of the uh of Islam of of the Quran where they tried to replace it with Ishmael. They even say that Ishmael was the uh one that Abra nearly killed with the sacrifice instead of it. That's just an invention of Muhammad and his followers has no uh not a uh ounce of truth in it. Why aren't you in your usual room, Rabbi, with the lead lights? Because I'm not home. I'm traveling and uh therefore cannot give uh sure in my house right now. Are you from New York? I lived in New York for 25 years, but I currently live in Florida. Don't ask if you could ask questions. Just ask them. Instead of me reading you asking if you could ask a question, I could read your question instead. Since the cabala is part of the Torah, why is it not part of the daily learning? Because just like anything else, there are levels of of uh things that a person could and should study. So for example, if you just started learning algebra, just started learning algebra, you just started learning the basics of math. If a teacher comes and starts teaching you the different uh concepts from calculus, different concepts from physics, different concepts from the you know higher level of mathematics, then not only is he wasting his time, but you are wasting yours because you just started learning algebra and you're not yet ready to learn the higher things, the higher level things. The same concept with things like the cabalistic world. People think that Cabala is just about stories of supernatural things or you could just say a name of some angel and the angel will come to serve you. This is foolishness. A person has to understand that there is the four parts of the Torah. It has the acronym of pardes. is the basic level of understanding of what the Torah actually says. Reme is the what it hints to different lessons that you can learn from it. Dash is the behind the scene. The behind the scene, the midashim and the sod is the secret part. Now a person cannot just skip the first three and jump to the sud. And a person cannot study all four of them at the same time. Why? Because you need to have complete understanding and knowledge of all of the three in order for you to even qualify to actually study the sud. If you start studying it prematurely, not only will you not understand anything, but it could actually even turn you into a heretic like it does often today and has done throughout the years. People that did not understand it, were not qualified to learn it, and therefore misunderstood it, manipulated what it said, and ended up becoming heretics. Am I Yemenite? No, I'm not Yemenite. What do you think about AI Rabbi? Well, we have the AI rabbi application. Go to airaabi.org. This is one of the applications that we made as part of our organization and you can subscribe. If you're asking me what do I think of AI rabbi meaning what do I think of artificial intelligence in general uh then it's like any other tool that the world has or has had in the past. It could be used for good. It could be used for bad. You can use artificial intelligence for bad things, to steal money from people, to torment people, to make fake things, uh to do all types of bad things. But you could also do good things with it. You could help businesses, you could help customers, uh you could publicize more Torah. For example, the ways that we use artificial intelligence already for the last few years. Number one, we have the AI Rabbi application, which is highly recommended. A lot of people love it. Uh the ones that subscribe and use it on a regular basis, especially um it's a relatively small price to pay for someone for for a source that's going to give you reliable answers. Somebody asked question regarding to Torah life not just about blessings and the basic things but things that general concepts like questions like you guys ask me and the AI looks at the database of the thousands and thousands of lectures that we've done over the years alongside different books that are selected uh carefully by uh by ours and gets an answer a comprehensive answer to the questions with the sources. is so if I spoke about it in the lecture at some point it gives you the answer with the source then you could click on that link and it takes you exactly to the point in the two or threehour lecture that I spoke where I speak about that topic. So if I spoke about this topic at let's say an hour and 35 minutes into the lecture it'll give you exactly that spot when you press play you're starting at an hour and 35 minutes. So you not only get the answer but you even get the access to more comprehensive information, more details, more sources and so on. So this is one way that we use artificial intelligence. Another way that we use artificial intelligence is to translate my lectures into 16 different languages. So now we have a growing audience around the world in Chinese, in French, in German, in Spanish, uh in a uh Portuguese, uh in Arabic, um in Russian. So we have a growing audience in different places around the world that are actually hearing my lectures, hearing my voice in their native language. So it's much easier for them to listen to learn from that than what we used to do in the past where we would just have the subtitles uh you know on the bottom in different languages. So they would hear me in English but they would have to read really quickly what I actually said. Now they're for the last couple years already they've been even uh able to hear me see say see say the different teachings that we've had over the years in their language and it's an wonderful thing. So much so that the channels are growing faster and faster. In fact, our Spanish channel gets a enormous amount of uh uh of of dishaya. There's nearly 30,000 subscribers on the uh YouTube channel in Spanish. There are thousands and thousands of uh people that are following the pages and our WhatsApp group in Spanish that contact me that ask me questions. Uh so the Spanish uh speakers all over the world including the United States, Colombia, uh Spain, you know, different parts of the world, people speak Spanish, even in Israel, people that speak Spanish uh more better than they speak uh Hebrew or English, they watch that channel and they learn Tawa. Uh so that's another wonderful way that we're using artificial intelligence. uh and we use artificial intelligence uh you know on a lot of different things in order to publicize Hashem's name in order to help people become better versions of themselves by serving Hashem by following the instructions from Hashem. So you can use artificial intelligence in order to publicize Hashem's name in order to glorify Hashem's name and help the world. So on one end you can do that on the other end you can do it the exact opposite horrible things. So AI is a tool like anything else in the world. Every tool in the world can be used for good and for bad. The choice is yours of what you're going to do with it. But a person that uh knows how to use AI and has a good heart and uh in uh desire to do good could do a lot of good things uh with it. They could even volunteer to help our uh our team do more things uh with it. Whether it's development or making posters, videos, we you know, we have a lot of different things that we use AI for that help us publicize Hashem's name in in many different ways. Uh and that's something we've already been on doing for a few years. Why does say that it's better not to be born if Hashem created the world as a blessing? No. So it's not that the says that it's better not to be born if Hashem created as a blessing. Correct you. There was a there was a debate between the of whether it was better for a person to be born or not. This went on for many years. Why? Why is even there a debate? Because if a person is going to do the will of Hashem, he'll get rewarded. But if he doesn't, he'll get punished. And because it's more likely that he won't do the will of Hashem and rather go against the will of Hashem and thereby be punished. It was better off for him not to be born. It's better off for him not to be born than to end up being born going against Hashem and end up being destroyed and punished. But since he was already born and the choice of not being born is not available, then certainly the better choice is for him to be born so long as he does the will of Hashem. The same answer just in different words. Can an ex-Christian convert to Judaism? Sure. Because most people that convert to Judaism are uh people that used to be Christians. As long as the Christian, the ex-Christian no longer believes in a New Testament or in Jesus, uh, and they only believe in a Torah, the written Torah and the oral Torah, then they can certainly convert to Judaism. They have to go to a orthodox bed and go through the uh program, the conversion program that the Betin has, move to a Jewish community, follow the uh the Torah, and eventually they'll be able to convert. Okay, I'm not ignoring questions. I'm just I have four different places. uh YouTube, Tik Tok, Facebook, WhatsApp uh do we have to destroy AI like Joshua destroy I? No. Number one, you can't. Number one. Number two, there's no need to. Like I just explained, there's good things that you can do with AI. Did Perau survive at the sea of reeds in Duchva? Yes, Pero survived. That's why it says that only one survived. If you look at the parasa where there's says that only one survived and that was pero and he became the king of ninve which is the uh city that yan navi went to uh did not want to save but ended up saving by getting them to do chuva. That's why they did chuva so quickly because po was already familiar with the god of Israel and knew the consequences of going against them. So they did chuva and in uh 40 days the decree was cancelled. Is an orthodox Jewish conversion the only valid conversion? Yes. How would you relate to to converts from reformed and conservative Jews? It's considered as if they did nothing. The uh conservative and reformed conversions do not follow the laws of Torah. They are today considered different religions altogether. Uh especially reform reform publicly say they do not believe that Mosheu received the Tawa at Mount Sai. They do not believe in the oral Torah. their uh members are uh not following the observance of Shabbat or Kashoot or anything like that. And in fact, the rabbis of the reformed are often not Jewish. Like the chief rabbi of the reform today is a Chinese non-Jewish woman. So it's not only not a male, it's not it's non-Jewish woman. Uh that's the rabbi. Uh so uh to if you want to be converted by by that you know then you have no no idea what what Judaism is about. Is a woman required to pray three times a day? Not required. She's required to pray once a day once a day and once a day if she wants to and she can pray more than that. She certainly can but required only once. Did soul go into? No. Why? Why would it? If you read for yourself and ask God to show you, he will teach you. You don't need another teacher. Men are flawed. We learn by God's spirit. Very Christian idol worship mentality. Why are you here? Go to your priests and pastors and idols. The Torah is transmitted from rabbi to student, from rabbi to student throughout all of our generation. That's why we call Moses Moshe Rabenu. Mosheu meaning Moses our teacher and the first Mishna in says that Moshe meaning Moshe his rabbi was God but after Mosheu there's always been a human rabbi a living human rabbi so Moshe gave it to Yeshua Benoon Yeshua Benoon gave it to the elders the Khanim this kim gave it to the Nim to the prophets the prophets gave it to the ankdah the the great men the men of the great assembly And all of our tradition, all of our laws, all of our teachings are passed from rabbi to student. A person that thinks that they could learn directly from God should institute themselves because they are not only a danger to themselves, they're a danger to society because they are a crazy person. is conservative Judaism real Judaism? No. They drive on Shabbat. They do not observe the Torah laws. The Talmud says that Sal became T while kneading the dough and therefore was not given to the angels. What does that mean? She got a period. Before that she did not have a uterus. Therefore, not able to have not able to have kids. But the blessing was that she will have a kid that same time the next year. How is that possible if you don't have a uterus? At that moment, Hashem made a miracle. What do you think of the people that only follow the Rambam? Uh they're fools. They're heretics and uh they're clueless people. A person should expect credit for the good that he or she does because the good the person does is for the sake of Hashem. People should obey the one who command the Torah of Hashem, not for personal gain. Not really sure if you paid attention to my lecture or un understand that you're contradicting yourself, but don't really see the reason. Uh don't see a question there. Oh, the chief rabbi of uh the reform is a Korean woman, not Chinese woman. Oh, okay. I stand corrected. It's a Korean non-Jewish woman. Hi, Rabbi. Is there any rabbis out here that you do not recommend? Uh, yeah, of course. I have a whole playlist on my YouTube channel called uh Jewish public warning. If you go to that playlist, there are lectures over there that I've done exposing heretical rabbis, wicked rabbis, people that pretend to be rabbis. Really, they're wicked, disgusting people. Uh that uh so I warn people about their behavior. I I provide proofs for their heresy or other types of misbehavior. um and um try to help as many people as possible by informing them um to stay away from these people. We've helped a lot of people stay away from PE what people think are famous rabbis that are really wicked. Yes, I have a whole playlist of lectures there. So go to my YouTube channel, go Rabbi Yuron Ruven playlist Jewish public warning and enjoy yourself seeing those lectures. You also learn a lot about what is heresy and what is allowed, what is good, what is bad. It's a lot of Torah material in those lectures. It's not just bad mouthing or calling people names. It's informing people of what the Torah says versus what does the heretic say. That's the opposite of it. Unfortunately, since I am the only one that does this on a regular basis in the English language um you know that uh you know there are the people don't really like to deal with this um and uh really with the exception of Rabbi Ysef Mizrai that uh mentions it uh you know from time to time uh the uh the the problem is that uh most people do not want to hear um what the truth sounds like. Uh and um when they hear that there's falsehood coming from somebody that they're learning from, a lot of times people are, you know, surprised. They're surprised and uh they think that it's maybe something personal like I have against that rabbi or or some uh agenda or anything like that. It's complete nonsense. That's at least what they people used to think in the past. Today it's come to my attention at least over these last six months or so that apparently people have uh turned from thinking that what I was doing was bad into thinking that what I was doing was the greatest public service. But now they have turned me in their mind into the police officer of rabbis of the world. So, every other day they send me some uh video of a new heretic that I haven't spoken about yet. And every other day there's a new heretic. There's a new thing. And uh they asked me to do a lecture about it. They asked me to speak against it. And I don't have the time nor the patience nor the interest of becoming the uh police officer of the of the world or police officer of of the rabbis. uh the ones that we've exposed uh you know were went through a whole process of analysis and consideration with my rabbis with the bed with and only after a thorough investigation confirmation and effort uh to to change and and to to do something was it decided that we're going to actually go against you know this rabbi or the other rabbi or you know a different one. um to go through that whole process is a whole lot more difficult than people realize. There's a lot that goes behind the scenes that most people don't realize that by the time I actually bring out a name with information of someone that I'm speaking about to people that are listening to it, it seems like it's the, you know, it just happened like I just heard it yesterday. But they don't realize that usually it's only after a year or two or 3 years of investigation and effort and research and conversations and so on uh before we finally, you know, got the uh uh got the go ahead to to do what we have to do and and and warn people. Uh so to go and do that every other day, it's just not it's not uh uh it's not what we want to do. It's not what uh uh we need to do. We only do it in cases where it's pretty much it has to it has to be done. Uh and there are certain circumstances that uh certain rules to everything. There are always investigations. There are always uh talks. There's a big one happening as we speak. There's a few, but there's one big one that's happening as we speak. And I'm not going to tell you the name. Uh I'm not uh going to give you the details, but I can tell you one thing. There's going to be a lot of people hurt by someone that is considered a uh you know righteous sadik or you know big rabbi or whatever and a lot of people don't know the truth and it's a disaster and the more people follow this person the more or they're going to get hurt and it's going to be a massive disaster. A disaster from my perspective, something we haven't seen in years, maybe a few hundred years. And um I have the permission to say certain things, but I don't really want to at this point. Um I don't think it's it's relevant to the topic yet. But put it this way, at some point or another, there's going to be a go ahead where it's not just okay to say, but you have to say and um I can tell you that it's going to be the worst thing that all of us have seen in our lifetime. Things you only read about if you read about it. Horrible. Something you don't expect. Something don't even bother sending me names. When I think about it, I want to cry, but it's it's a uh it's a disaster. And um things like that are what we deal with, not little losers that decide to, you know, make silly videos and uh decide that they're the new Moses of the generation uh just because they get some views on the internet. We we we try to deal with things that affect the masses and not just a lot of people. The masses meaning the masses of Isel. What can I tell you? The prophets already told us in the name of Hashem that before Mashiach comes, there's going to be a very, very difficult time. Difficulties unlike anything you've ever seen. And part of those difficulties are going to be false leaders, false messiahs, false falsehood, but not falsehood that's obvious to people. Falsehood that's clear to people that are cleave themselves to Hashem. And unfortunately, even when you show people that there's falsehood doesn't necessarily mean that they accept it. Look at what's been happening with, for example, with Manis Freedman, the Gasha. Wicked Manis Freedman. We've provided no less than a hundred different proofs, if not 200 different proofs of why he's a heretic according to all opinions of the Torah from the to the to the Z to uh to the Balata to the toid to Safhari. Doesn't make a difference who you hold by. According to all opinions, he's a heretic. But yet he still has people that are glued to him like a tick and refuse to accept the truth for what it is. Some people want falsehood. That's what Hashem gives them. They want a liar, they get a liar. So it doesn't necessarily help everyone. It helps the people that are looking for the truth. So there are people that are looking for the truth and then when they find out that what they're listening to, what they're reading is false. So then they get saved and they leave. But there are certain people that they're so glued to the that it doesn't matter what you do. They they are part of the they're part of they've made themselves uh like a tick on a dog that is not going to be uh taken off. So not every uh not every time that you make a uh the investment of effort and time and headaches and burden and expense uh is it really um the results you want. Let's just say that and uh not all not always is it worth it. So we calculate everything in accordance to what's really absolutely necessary because as much as people think that I like to do this because I'm pretty much the only one that does this on a regular basis. Um you know we have an entire playlist of people of lectures you know we invest a lot of time and money making those lectures providing proofs from the donkey's mouth. uh you know we cut clips, we show what they actually said. So you don't it's not hearsay. It's literally you hear the donkey himself, the heretic himself say the nonsense. It's not manipulating their speech. You could simply see them say what they say. And if you want to watch the whole lectures, go to their channels, be my guest. But you know, the whole point is that a we provide all of that, we put all of that work into it and it's an enormous investment of time. It's an enormous investment of money. It's honestly it's an enormous investment of of my because every time I have to hear this garbage, it's it's literally like you have to like you have to purify yourself. You have to study extra, you have to pray extra, you have to literally cleanse yourself from the filth. Uh it's you want to vomit, you want to cry, you want to vomit and cry when you hear all this stuff. You know, sometimes this is what you have to do in order to save people. You have to go into the filth and and get them out of there. But the point is is that it's a uh since this is not done on a regular basis and uh by others, even people that agree with us, uh they contact me and say, "Oh, good job. Okay, great. So, why don't you do the same thing?" Oh, no, no, it's not for me. It's not for this. It's not for that. So, a lot of people like what we do, but they want to stay behind the scenes. And uh it's a uh not a simple thing to do. Needless to say, when we finally bring out a name, there's no doubts. There's no uncertainties. And more times than not, and I'm just being conservative by saying more times than not, if it's usually all the time, there's a lot more information against that person than what I'm disclosing to you guys. Just that it has to be palpable and digestible to people. So, you can't just throw the whole enchilada at people. Either way, you know, the uh in today's world, there's unfortunately an abundance of heresy and uh there's also a lot of good there's also a lot of good speakers and people that uh teach Torah that uh there's certainly great but uh unfortunately the heresy usually is louder, more popular and more damaging and um it's become more and more common and it's just grown. and uh before Msiah comes, it'll get to the highest level it's ever been if it's not already there now. And it's going to confuse more people than ever before. That's why the Mosher Rabenu said in the name of Shem and in Sephim that in the end of gener in the end of times is going to be uh people that even make miracles, people that uh claim to be prophets, people that claim to be Mashiach, all types of things that are beyond the uh the norm. uh and although we've have a whole list of wicked people that have been false mashiach over the last couple of thousand years obviously Yeshu Shapvi Jacob Frank and and others is a whole book of I don't know 7 800 pages of different false Mashiach that we've had throughout the years but there are certainly some of them now not just the average crazy person that sends me an email every single day telling me he's Mashiach or making a comment over here thinking he's Mashiach I'm talking about people that are accepted and known to the world as rabbis, as good people. And I'm telling you, if you find out the truth, not only they're not good, in some cases, even their name is not a real name. Their name is not even a real name. It's a scam of a century. So be very very conscious and very very careful of who you choose to speak to. Pray to Hashem. Add it to your prayers to pray to Hashem that you're listening to somebody that's uh telling you the truth. Whoever you're listening to, pray to Hashem that it's the truth. Because unless you're unless you're glued to Hashem, unless you have the merit, it's very very easy to fall into the traps that are out there today. Very easy. And don't think just because I don't say something, it doesn't exist. Sometimes just not the time. Rabbi, has there ever been a case like Manu ever recorded regarding Hashem's blessings? A woman would not have a womb to bear children? Yeah. All of the uh matriarchs did not have a womb. And there are other people in the Torah also. If you're asking whether a woman that was not able to bring children to the world than able to um sure I mean there's even been uh people that have received blessings from us that didn't have kids after 10 or more years of marriage and then Hashem accepted our prayer and gave them kids. I'm Safari in Pikesville. Father is Iraqi, born in Baghdad. What? Baghdad. What should do you recommend as someone just starting to look for shuls? Go to a safari sh um that's close to you. Um, and uh, start start there towards I would recommend going to a safari shoe. I mean, I don't know what's available to you. I'm not familiar with Pikesville, but uh, look at what's available to you. If you don't have a safari sh next to you, then find a Orthodox Ashkenazi shul. Those are the two main choices. Other choices I wouldn't uh either are not good or wouldn't recommend them. If the wife is ready for conversion but the husband is not moving at the same place at the same pace it could hold her back. Yes. Could hold her back. She has to wait. If she wants to stay married, she has to wait. Not everybody sees the truth as quickly and is or willing to accept it as quickly. You have to wait. If you want to stay married, if you don't want to stay married, it's a different story. So, I'm part of a conservative synagogue. Does that mean that I'm not a real Jew? Also, my rabbi is a woman. Is that also a problem? Yes, both are a problem. As far as you being a real Jew, I mean, if your mother is really Jewish, then you're Jewish. But if you're going to a conservative shoo, then you are considered a wicked Jew because you're not following the laws of. And if your rabbi is a woman, then you don't have a rabbi because there's no such thing as a Torah uh observant woman rabbi. And you should not continue going there. You should go to an orthodox shul and if you don't live near one, then move. Hashem gave you money. Hashem gave you the ability to make changes. Make those changes. Can Hashem fix arthritis in my joints? Hashem can do anything. If he could take putrid seed and turn that into a functioning human being and what's the how how how would we even you know obviously he could fix that human being if you can make the human being you can fix the human being. Is your name Ruven or Ruveni? proven. I'm in Miami. My only has mñan and chabas. I need to say kadesh, but I'm far from other shs. Okay. And so during the week you're allowed to drive to shul you're allowed to drive. So drive to shs that are not close to you. There's plenty of shs in Miami orthodox sh. What do you think about following intuition? What is the Torah telling us? Depends what's influencing your intuition. If you have dedicated your life to learning Torah day and night, then the teach that even your dreams are going to be true. But if you've dedicated your life to learning secular knowledge and all types of uh falsehood that's out there, then your intuition is based on falsehood. So your intuition more times than not is going to be wrong. Do you agree with Netanyao of what he did to Gaza? No. I would have turned it into a football field a long time ago. I can't drive there because of my job. You work 24 hours a day. Can't go for Can't go for ma. Can't go for a at some point. You can go. Where's a good place to move to for conversion in the USA? Uh you can go to uh uh New York, New York City of Queens, Brooklyn, Muny. I go to um you know Lakewood um you know there's different place depends depends what uh kind of lifestyle you have what kind of job you're looking for kind of surroundings you want there's plenty of places in the United States that you can choose from just depends what you're looking I'm trying to pray every day, but nothing is really happening every day. There's some stuff I tell Hashem, but after I tell him and I get my answer, I'm just sitting outside doing nothing. And that makes me skip praying sometimes. So stop telling Hashem something and go pray. Stop doing nothing and go take action. Any advice you give somebody that has arthritis? Anybody that has pain, I can tell you that um you know living in pain is not easy so long as you don't understand the significance of pain. If you don't understand the value of pain, then living in pain is very very difficult because you're not only suffering physically, you're suffering mentally and it debilitates you. So ultimately, if you want to prosper and be happy despite the pain, you have to completely change your perspective of pain and look at things very very differently. I have different lectures that I've made about suffering. I highly recommend you watch them. Some of them I've done a couple years ago, some six, seven years ago. I think there's one lecture that I uh did in Arizona about suffering. Um, in so many words, you have to look at the the benefits of suffering. You have to look at the pain that you have uh as something that although it hurts, you benefit from it. Um, and certainly you could always pray for Hashem to heal you, but despite that, you could still view it as a benefit. You view it as a positive because otherwise you're going to suffer not only physically but mentally and spiritually. So, you have to change your perspective. I live in pain for 19 years, every single day, practically 24 hours a day. If I didn't change my perspective, I wouldn't be here anymore. You know, it's a uh even though Hashem the health is much better today than it was, you know, when I first had my surgery and during those first seven years, but I can tell you this, the average person that have my pain today will probably commit suicide. But I don't look at it that way. It's through the power of the Torah. have a different perspective of it. Um, so it's a uh it's not uh it's not something that I wish on anybody, but at the same token, it's not something that I'm allowing it to destroy me either. Something that helps me connect to Hashem. So instead of saying, you know, like a uh the uh this is, you know, uh or viewing it out, I should say, this is killing me, it also helps me connect to Hashem. Thank God I feel my body all the time. Most people don't feel their body all the time. They take that for granted. So it's different. It's different having a about that to be honest with you. It's almost like having a ganed. Most people just simply not going to understand. All right. I think of uh Yes, I'm in South Florida. Uh I live in South Florida. Yes. Okay. So, I'll ask you guys a question for next week. I'll ask you guys a question for next week. Okay. Here's a question. There's a guy that uh just landed in the airport in Israel or in America, wherever it is, and he needs to go to his destination. So, he gets into the cab. And let's say the driver is Jewish. So, don't use the uh the uh the answer of, "Oh, he's not Jewish, therefore." No, everybody's Jewish in this story. He got into a cab, tells him to go to 123 Jones Street. And uh halfway through the ride, the cab driver says, "Ah, I forgot to turn on the meter, so it's okay. Listen, I'll just charge you 70 bucks." Now the passenger, he knows that this ride doesn't cost more than 20 bucks. He knows this is not his first time. So he takes out of his pocket a $100 bill and he shows the guy in the mirror. So the driver, he doesn't say anything, just shows him the bill. He uh drives and he gets to the destination. When they get to the destination, the uh the passenger uh says, "Uh, I have to get um I only have a $100 bill. I don't have a uh I'm sorry. I uh I I'll give you one second." and he says, "Oh, I dropped $100 under the seat over here, and it's dark in the car, so let me look for it." So, he starts looking a little bit for it. And then he takes his stuff out of the car. He says, "Hold on. Let me get a flashlight from the house I'm staying at." And I look for it. He goes inside and by the time he comes back outside, he sees that the driver drove away. meaning he took away the entire $100. Now, in reality, he didn't really drop $100. The $100 is still in his pocket and he did it intentionally because since the guy was lying to him initially and he suspected that he would also do that same thing where he would pretend like he dropped $100, but he needs to get change. He needs to get the uh the money. He needs to get a fast light. the guy's going to run away. Instead of taking the original $20 that it really should be and even taking the $70 that he said, which is excessive, he took the whole $100. But in reality, he didn't take anything. And the $100 is still in his pocket. The next day, the guy starts to feel bad. It's like, ah, maybe I did something bad cuz really I owe the guy at least 20 bucks. Do I need He's not coming back cuz obviously he's embarrassed that, you know, he tried stealing $100, but am I still obligated to pay him? technically I use the service or do I need to pay him the $70 or he took the you know he thinks uh uh I I I said I showed him $100 I owe him $100. Which one is it and why? Again, he knows that the ride usually cost 20, but the guy pretended like he forgot to uh press on the meter just in order to tell him it's going to cost 70 instead. The passenger pretended to drop a $100 bill in the car and the driver ran away thinking that the $100 is in the car. In so many words, stealing the $100, not even letting the guy get the change from the inflated price that he had. Does he still have the obligation to pay him the money? And if so, uh, how much is it? $20, $70, $100? That's the question that you have to answer. You could send me the answers to either my WhatsApp or email and whoever answers correctly. We'll get a present. We get a gift sent to them. 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