Can You Give Yourself Evil Eye Ayin Hara? (24 Minutes)

[Music] and now Rua Rua says an evil eye and the evil inclination and hatred of other people remove a person from the world even the literal translation the very very simple literal translation of this mishna already shows you how applicable it is to today's world but when you go into the deeper aspect of it uh you'll be surprised at how far it goes now first and foremost when we talk about most people that have problems in their life in the Jewish World you tell them why did you lose your money n out of 10 times religious or not religious oh evil ey and my neighbor looked at me since then I lost my money my partner asked me how much money I made since then I lost all my money the government came took this took that the IRS started auditing me the uh SEC started this one started that one started why did you uh you know why did you why do you think you got into an accident oh I got a brand new car the guy the uh you know my best friend told me nice car next thing you know I crashed everyone wants to blame everything on now even though there is definitely an element of Truth in that um there is a very very big element of truths according to is actually very very strong but there's also a different part of or the root issue of is not necessarily that someone is trying to bring evil to another person but rather the source of it is jealousy why do we know that it's not always because someone wants to bring something bad because even a person's mother can give him now in most most normal lives and most normal relationships usually the relationship a person has with their mother the mom's going to love her more than anybody else more than the father more than the brothers more than anybody it's unconditional unreasonable unrationed says something if he if he even raised his voice too much the mom tiger don't talk to my kids like that the whole week she's like you know little Ted quiet all of a sudden father said something Tiger lost an ear father just lost an ear just to make sure he knows to listen better next time don't talk to my kids that way I remember when I was a kid be 3 years old four years old and uh yeah it was probably 3 years old three four years old something like that and uh I went to uh I guess it's preschool I don't know it's a kindergarten but not it's before kind kind it's preschool right I think it's called preschool uh so I went to preschool and there was this old lady old mean lady that was the preschool teacher and for whatever reason or another I was very very small when I was a kid something changed apparently uh and uh for whatever reason I made her upset she decided to pull my ear so I when I got home as soon as I got home I started crying to my mom my mom the next morning went to the teacher she almost beat her up touch my son touch my no I didn't touch him ah my son doesn't lie you lie tiger touch my son that's it World War 17 kill you your family your ancestors I'll go back in future just to make sure you're never born don't touch my kids so the relationship a boy or a girl has with their mother something that's beyond logic and to be honest with you many times in my life my uh most difficult mental battles were trying to understand my own mother because I would get into arguments with my brothers I have three brothers and we argue about everything we'd argue about sports we'd argue about money we'd argue about anything you could possibly we argue we'd argue about it and if there wasn't any reason to argue we'd find something else to argue about especially when you're young and my mom somehow would pick all the sides somehow she would everyone's right what do you mean but he just murdered the other guy no no he didn't mean to what do you mean he didn't mean to he had a knife he stabbed him no the knife fell into his hand no no no look he said I want to kill him no no he was he was a joke he was joking he didn't mean it but he said I'm planning it the we you wrote a letter I'm planning on killing ABC no that was just uh something else you're not understanding the English you wrote she'd somehow give us that's completely irrational that somehow all of us were right all of us were right she loves all of us the same and it would drive me insane he's wrong I'm right no pick my side the other one says no pick my side but somehow she knew how to make peace better than anyone else in the world kept the family together throughout all the difficulties the ups and downs as crazy as it drove us it's the one thing that kept us all together and again the root of it was something completely that makes no sense whatsoever but that's a mother's love now that very same mother not talking about my mother somebody else's mother can actually give her own son obviously it's not on purpose she loves him says listen you got a new raise in the job next week got fired oh ma what a beautiful car you got next week somebody ran into it smashed the car somebody stole it she didn't mean to do she didn't mean to do anything bad she loves it more than anything in the world but even a mother can give to her children so much so in regard to the level of that a person can give themselves a person can give themselves this is also by the way the reason of why anyone that's wants things if you have something in the works that's big that's good whether it's uh monetary you have a big deal in the making or you're about to finish uh the sh you're about to finish a you're about to do something big something meaningful don't tell anyone including yourself meaning don't say it out loud don't say I can't wait until I finish whatever you're up to I can't wait you say that loud just for just want to talk to yourself you you know you have no one to talk to it's 3:00 in the morning you want to talk to yourself don't say it your wife ask you where you going you know you're going to the cola to go learn don't say I'm going to the cola to go learn I'm going to my friends going to see my friends she knows where you're going obviously because or else she's going to hang you right next to the Statue that's the next door neighbor has but don't say I'm going to learn why cuz Satan's going to come and interfere you have a big deal in the making don't tell anyone keep it to yourself until it's finished once the deal is finished you can tell your wife but that's it don't tell the rest of the world including your brothers your sisters anyone your parents anyone I'm telling you it's not it's not something that's against anyone's parents Shalom or brothers or loved ones it's actually for their best interest to keep your life not necessarily secret but contained because the more you publicize things even if it's a Mitzvah you start telling people listen I plan that as soon as I make made I don't know $300,000 $400,000 in a year I was going to invest and buy you tell people and I made last year I made double that made $700,000 so I'm going to go do a it takes a year you if you have it from the beginning to end you have it takes a year approximately to write a seph so you tell people I'm going to go have a seph written big mistake big big mistake even if the SE comes to fruition and you end up donating it you'll see that how much problems came to you as a result of you publicizing to the world or even to one person that you are doing a big Mitzvah so one of the main things in regards to is that one of the main causes of it is jealousy one time there was a guy that bought a uh one of these uh 4x4 Jeeps brand new 4x4 Jeeps always wanted this car and one day was able to afford it went into the lot paid for the whole thing cash $60,000 brand new Jeep comes home he's happy with his Jeep all world could be collapsing he's got his Jeep he's happy he just looks outside the window he sees the 4x4 he becomes happy again life was worth living just for this 4x4 you know some people love their car more than they love their wife he sees wife screaming kids are yelling the dog just made himself at home in the kitchen he doesn't care he's got his 4x4 on outside he's looking at it next morning excited to go to work to tell all of his buddy is about his 4x4 car as soon as he gets to the car his world ends what happens he sees four by4 you know 4x4 and someone engraved on his car with a knife equals 16 four time 4 equal 16 someone was so jealous they had to ruin it say four times 4 16 thought he was a smart guy you know one of these smart people the guy what yesterday was Independence Day today T he goes as skips work goes to the car lot says you got to fix this that painted no problem we'll take care of it today he goes to work comes back at the end everything looks brand new comes home he's happy back to happiness the next morning 4 * 4 equal 16 he's losing his mind goes back to the lot he's like Apparently one of these neighbors that I have is so jealous he doesn't let me enjoy my 4x4 what should I do goes why don't you be smart and just do it for him listen he's engraving with a knife ruining the paint and everything equals 16 why don't you just get a piece of metal the same way that the 4x4 silver looks like get a piece of metal with the equal sign get a piece of metal for the 16 that's it so there has nothing to engrave cuz you know what you're a genius that's what're going to do he goes okay listen it's going to be extra money no problem just do it whole day job they they fix it he comes home 4X 4 equals 16 he's back to his happiness he's back to P him next morning he sees the biggest engraving yet 4 * 4 = 16 is what he has and then he says exactly the point being is that when someone is jealous when someone sees another person have something that they want or they feel like they're entitled to they can't live with themselves so long as someone has it the rambam in his in his commentary on says that the root of an evil eye is a burning desire for money craving for material pleasure and an unfriendly approach these are all sicknesses that lead to depression he calls it Mar literally means a black gold bladder black a black gold bladder secretion and this leads a person to despise seeing other people to a point where he hates them for no reason he doesn't even know the guy he sees the guy has a brand new 4x4 he hates him the guy he's 28 years old got a job God he's making a decent living just got married guy doesn't even know him he's 31 years old not married he hates him now why do you hate him what did he do to you he's a Jew you're a Jew he wears a keeper you wear a keeper goes to beet you go to beet why because he's 28 and he got married and you're still alone it's not his fault why he's got he decided you're not going to be married he hates him these people end up preferring Solitude they prefer to be alone which will eventually bring them to ruin this inner hatred creates such anger inside the person that not only is it something that hurts the other people with their evil eye and their jealousy but it ends up killing the person himself that has this evil eye in batra page 2B it says a man is not allowed to stand over a field of his friend and admire it your friend has a field your friend just bought a brand new property and he's inviting you invite you come see my brand new property that's what usually people do they go buy a lot in the middle of nowhere they think it's going to be in the next Time Square what do they do they bring hey look I bought 37 acres for $2,000 an acre it's going to be $10 million an acre one day so what does he want to do he wants to invite everybody hey look look you know it's this boy from high school brings his friend from high school look what I bought 74,000 watch one day it's going to be worth 74 million big mistake says that person that came obviously the person that invited him is making a mistake for inviting a to his life but the person that came is not allowed to look he's not allowed to look and admire his friend's field why because his eye can hurt it he can look at it admire it and cause damage from his eye it's like I told you guys the joke I think it was a couple of weeks ago two guys known for having sitting next to each other one guy says you see that new bridge as soon as he says you seen that new bridge bridge collaps the other guy says wow what an eye you have his eye popped out but that's evil eye page 38 it says something if you think about it scary of how dangerous evil ey is says if somebody finds a talit a piece of clothing you know it happens sometimes somebody leaves their in theet or they leave in the store or a piece of clothing and a jacket or something people lose stuff all the time now in Judaism unlike other religions we have an obligation if we know who it belongs to we have an obligation to return it if it's another Jew you have to return it if it's not a Jew you do not have to return it but if you do return it it could be K which is the biggest Mitzvah in Judaism so the gar says if somebody finds talit or piece of clothing he's not allowed to spread it open and show it to the world and say hey is this jacket this tal this dress belong to anybody now let's do it why because the admiration of the people if they see it's a nice talit it's a nice dress it's a nice jacket can cause damage to the owner from their evil eye it's m says that one of the mysteries of creation is the ability of a man to unleash hidden forces in everyday existence merely by his intellect his thought process alone can cause physical things to be destroyed as in this Mish a person experiences excess excessive agitation over other successful people and covets their item which is do not covet as one of the Ten Commandments you're not allowed to do that he wants them he's jealous he sees the other guy just got married even if he doesn't want his wife but he wants a wife and he's jealous that his friend got married how much damage he can cause them this is also part of the reason why it's not advisable to maintain close friendship with single people if you just got married it's not advisable I've never met a single person at happy new couples usually are happy this is not exactly the ideal situation unless you know they're serious people they're going to get married soon but in general you should find other couples couples should be with couples singles with singles because also the mindset of a person when he's single or she's single is different than a married couple create a lot of different issues and also it's not exactly a great idea to bring your single girlfriend to your house for your husband to look at because despite how much of a sadik he is he still has a and she has a this is also why there's aah of you're not allowed a man is not allowed to be alone with another woman that's not his wife unless it's a place that's public where anybody can come in and go if there's an office there's other people coming and going they're allowed to be a lowed to meet but if no if everyone left everyone left the whole company left she's the CEO he's one of the employees not let to be together together he's scared she's 87 years old he's 20 it's never going to happen not allowed not allowed the K says by him coveting these items by him being jealous of his friend's wife him being jealous of his friend's car her being jealous of her friend's husband her being jealous of her friend's kids the K says they place these things in extreme danger now the question is what is the root cause of we see already that's it's comes from jealousy so what's the cause that everything has there's a cause there an effect what gets a person to a point where they feel an overwhelming feeling of jealousy being jealous of another person he has a car you don't have a car he has a job you don't have a job he knows the whole sh by heart you don't even know by heart you're jealous now in the Torah you're allowed to be jealous for the purpose of learning meaning being competitive you're jealous that the other guy knows the entire by heart or entire par by heart or even just the entire Prayer by heart and you don't but that's going to lead you to study harder you're allowed but if you're purely jealous that he has it and you don't it's not allow it's 100% sin just like it's a sin to eat pork it's a sin to be jealous but it's much worse why eat pork you have a sin in sh you're going to pay for it one day and G gome but being jealous you don't wake up during the resurrection of the dead it's a much bigger problem being jealous but what's the root Pro what's the root cause of why would you ever be jealous no anyone's going to take a guess one for one already I didn't even have to ask the question supposed to get like three four wrong and I'm supposed to get the right answer see my my my student is not supposed to be students that's exactly it the only reason why someone has even 1 o of jealousy is a result of lack of [Music]