ANGER MANAGEMENT 101

is it always an ayor to get angry like for instance when I was walking to Shear this morning to learn some gamar like slammed the door right on my middle finger Okay and like it hurt a lot and I was really angry about it um cuz like I was going to do a good thing and like my fingers really hurts well if you continued if you continued and you proceeded and went to learn under the pain then I could tell you that your learning under pain is worth a thousand times more than Learning Without Pain so if you did it if you didn't do it then that means that Satan won today the all his his job is not to destroy his job is to interfere so his job is to give you a flat tire on the way to that's going to change your life his job is to put some type of Doubt on the day of your maybe he's not the right one for me maybe he's not the right one what do you mean didn't you check that out already for the last few months I had one time somebody tell me Rabbi I have a problem so what happened your life is fantastic right now you're you learn you're this you're that everything is fantastic you're getting married he goes yeah that's the problem I said what she's a wonderful person I'll V my kid to marry such a person he's like yeah but my friend my friend called me and asked me do you ever think maybe you're going to want a blonde instead of a brunette and he put a question in my head cuz she's a brunette and yeah I think she's beautiful but he said me maybe going to want a blonde wife one day I said your friend is not only not your friend he's Amal himself you're GNA tell somebody maybe you want somebody else a few weeks before they get married we had a meeting we talked calmed them down realized this is they're happily married with kids everything worked out guess what he doesn't want no brunette no blonde no nothing all he wants is his wife but Amal had to show up why that's his job that's his job so the yet that's his job to interfere now as far as getting angry if you're getting angry because somebody violated your kavod somebody disrespected you yes that's a sin if you're getting angry because somebody violated a Kad who's then it's to get angry somebody desecrated hm's name they put I don't know some uh you know they said that homosexuality is allowed like somebody says that homosexuality is okay it's no big deal that getting angry at that if you don't get angry at that there's something wrong with you what is it like a guy was in a uh driving in and uh there certain roads in is where there's no gas station for a while in the desert over there as AEM would have it his car broke down so he looked at the dashboard realized if he got to fill up gas his car is out of gas so he walks in the desert all down the road finally gets to the corner and he sees there's a gas station sees there's a gas station the gas tells okay what it's going you have a tank you okay cuz yeah yeah broke down few miles down the road he goes wow you survived few miles down the road yeah what are you going to do you have to survive it's like all how can I help you because I need some gas give it to me tank goes wait wait hold on a second he goes no no another thought give me the gas tag back he goes why I don't want to buy gas here he goes why not I don't want to buy gas here just give me a tank back why why what's the matter because you really tell you is it here listen if somebody decided to go rent out one of these Billboards that's on the highway and on the billboard he wrote your father's name and he said all types of curse words and insults against your father would you go do business with him he goes what business with I'll go beat him up goes that's the problem you see you have a post over here that says you are open 24 7 you're open 24/7 that means that you violate Shabbat that means that you are openly insulting my Father in Heaven you want me to do business with you he said yeah okay fine but you realize the next gas tank uh is 34 miles a road down the road in in the desert he goes let I'll walk another three four five miles down the road in the desert and not do business with somebody that publicly has a sign against my Father in heaven so you see if you're zealous for then says in this week's spoke to saying Pinas the son of elazar the son of Aon the Coen turn back my wrath from upon the children of Israel when he zealously Avenged my Vengeance so I did not destroy the children of Israel in my Vengeance because defended name how did he defend he killed two Sinners he killed one of the Jews that was sinning with a Goya while that was sinning and aadh who says I was planning on killing everybody but because he defended my honor and killed the two main Sinners he saved all of am is so when you get angry for the sake of you could be like who never died he turned into but if you get angry because somebody insulted you then it's not a good thing why cuz who do you think you are why why why why is why is it what's what's what's the big deal what he called you short he called you long he called you fat he called you this big deal he made a sin that's already enough of a problem for him you're mad at him on top of it how is that going to help your life point is that when we realize the most significant thing in the world is it becomes more and more difficult to be mad at people for our own reasons because we realize that the people that make us angry usually have a bigger problem with a and already you feel bad for them so there is a time and a place to be angry but only for the sake of the Tora name [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] for MI [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] la [Music] la [Music] [Applause] [Music] w [Music]