Amazing Questions About God From Hollywood (7)

[Music] good to be back this Hollywood sh is getting a lot of traction some people are doing CH one person told me last week they uh started keeping Shabbat St keeping shab after watching have a lot of for people show up to the hopefully it helps each and every one of us do CH now before I forget we start off we have some um and so today David benri Doris Bora umit Naomi K tan and Y BBA and Elish s and and Maz Zar and Zakaria benat zakar Ben one of the people that I mentioned the name two of them really are children if the if you hear about the that are happening to now it's really mindboggling it's mindboggling how many as how many disasters are happening to am is on a day-to-day basis every day if you're connected to is you connected to hem you love his people a requirement is for you to rip your heart up again all over again how many are happening to this will have she uh I don't know her but uh one of my uh students had had a uh message sent to me saying to do she uh went walking with a dog the dogs over here maybe they knew about the story so they're saying no it's a good story that's the dog's fault said we don't know what happened but she went walking with the dog and uh all of a sudden the dog obviously everything is from shamim the dog pulled her really hard and she ran with the dog into the street Street and a car hit her at 60 M hour and uh they're talking about having to donate organs this that 12-y old girl 12-y old girl it's uh you think about it for a second one second you have your 12-year-old little angel never did anything wrong in her life what does she know in her life she hasn't started it yet she just became 12 and thinking oh hi honey you take it for granted you play with the kid you laugh with the kid you eat with the kid you go to sleep everything is good next thing you know you have to figure out what's going to happen in the next minute because every single second you may get the worst news of your life you have no idea what's happening also you may have heard that one of the which we've talked about recently of steinerman passed away at 104 years old an ises a man of Holiness and Truth left us we unfortunately are still 50/50 we have two options like say there are two doors there are two possibilities and I don't know which one they're going to put me in this is zakos all of his students were able to revive the Dead the least of them the least of them was able to study to a point where if a bird flew over him I keep telling you the story because I'm amazed at it it would burn just from the K now Zak his students came to see him and say teach us something you know before you pass on to the next World teach us things who are these students who are these students that he's teaching whoos who's Ros RAB aka's Rabbi who's RAB AKA student of Rim so these students of R Zak students students just imagine where he is in the in in the tolem pole and yet he says I have two options I have G and I have G I don't know which one they're going to put me in I don't know why you so scared for the he says if I was is going to go to a king of Flesh and Blood where if he's angry at me he's angry at me moment you know for a limited amount of time why even if it's his whole life the king is angry at me his whole life he's a king of Flesh and Blood his whole life is what 70 years 80 years 90 120 that's it finished he's finished but I'm not going in front of a k king of Flesh and Blood I'm going in front of the king of kings where if he's angry at me he's angry at me eternally so now Zak is scared we are not scared rarely do you meet anyone that has a an ounce of and I decided the other day that after hearing some of these stories I decided that it's the right thing to say because I confirmed it with my R and it's the right thing to say that rabotai we have some bad news and the bad news is that on one end mashia is coming whether we like it or not which we should celebrate in reality it's not the greatest thing in the world to celebrate and the reason why is because there's no such thing as FR in the world there's no FR there's no such everybody says no he's FR from birth he's about he's f is's is f is also a food in in Tripoli that's f that's the only we have in the world as far as actually religious people in the world as far as doesn't exist everybody has to do chuva everybody has to do chuva including myself including you incl anyone everyone the rabbis the students the male the Fe everyone has to do chuva in essence everyone has to Aspire to hopefully by the time the Masia comes to be we all there's no such thing as as F anymore there's no such thing anyone that still thinks they're F you're dreaming you become B Al and the reason why is because the more you learn the more you realize what the truth is and you start comparing it to where you stand and not just you personally the world around you and says in for with much wisdom comes much grief and he who increases knowledge increases pain this is cooh Ecclesiastes 118 what does he mean he who increases knowledge increases pain usually knowledge is power usually knowledge is good is telling us the wisest man that ever lived is telling us the more you realize the more you know the truth knowledge means wisdom means Tor the more you know the more you realize how far away we are the more you realize where theit is and where we are as far as exercising the subit now these stories that I hear some I can share some I can't share either way I usually don't mention names but I'm telling you the stories get worse and worse worse and worse I thought that maybe the secular world has problems so will help them do chv I'm a right now which one whether it's a secular or the religious world have more problems I'm not really sure I talked to my Rob one day it's the religious world the next day secular world one day religious world next day it's back and forth It's like mat tennis or whatever it's called pingpong You Don't Know M you don't know just in the recent past I got a half a dozen wives a half a dozen women contacting me telling me that they're considering in one case already exercising unfortunately their freedom what's freedom freedom that their husbands are stupid to give them to go with other men why didn't tell them go with other men didn't tell them that but in essence the husbands are either never home they're out with their friends or they're working 25 hours a day or they don't pay attention to their wives or they're not good or whatever this and half a dozen I'm not talking about one two half a dozen women no no I'm going to find myself a boyfriend on the side Steve from Facebook and and and and uh Carlos from WhatsApp this is becoming M like a sickness now you if you're saying listen this is secular world problem it's not it's nothing new 80% of the people get divorc what do you surprised I mentioned the divorce something has to lead to it doesn't just one day wake up on the left side say AB husband thank you very much for giving me 10 years of your life goodbye I'm leaving doesn't happen like that usually something happens before but unfortunately the cases I'm talking about are in a religious world that's the scary part and you know I heard when I first started becoming religious started getting really closer to hem I heard this whole concept from the rim of how you're supposed to have a kosher phone and a kosher app to protect your computer and a kosher this and a kosher that and I'm like come on no it's just a money maker what do you want me to have a kosher phone for what do you care if I have kosher not what is B you have to put it through a mik where you put my what do you care about my phone if I can't watch my eyes what you think a kosher phone's going to help you I'll do it on my computer if I can't do it on my computer can't I do it on the phone if I could have both of them and I really want I'll just find another one somebody wants to cheat they're gonna cheat anyway somebody wants to do they're going to do anyway you think me having a kosher phone is going to make me a kosher person some of the most unkosher people in the world have kosher phones what's what what are you doing with this I thought it was a complete joke and even though I don't think necessarily the kosher phone kosher this and kosher that is necessarily the Cure I understand the argument because I'm now hearing that people meeting on the internet M the Satan is infiltrating the religious Jewish Home in the most unforeseen places a normal woman innocently goes on the internet to look for cookies to look for Bakery for this for that whatever for toiletries for something says oh I got a click oh it's my husband's Facebook she never had Facebook M never had Facebook in her her life but she saw click on the computer click little red thing said one on it said to she presses on it says it's a girl my husband the sadik with the long beard and the hat and everything else has a who's he talking to his niece is who is this oh it's his uh girlfriend on the Internet it's girlfriend on the internet and vice versa the same thing happens this rabot finally made me understand these stories that I'm getting lately is making me understand that the rabbis are on to something they knew the Satan going take advantage of every single tool you have in your house if he can get to you through your blender he'll get to you to your blender you think I'm joking he'll get you to your blender I know somebody right now right now last six seven months lost 60 pounds 60 pounds why here's blender there a juicing movie they saw the guy Juiced lost a bunch of weight became healthy used to have diabetes this that Kap all these types of pain said oh juice like me you lose 60 PBS so they did it 60 PBS later everything looks great but now that I'm better looking I need to wear tighter clothes and now that I have Tire clothes more men are paying attention to me more than my husband who just sits there like a Golem more than my husband he all the Carlos and Steve and Wilbur and uh andus from the Super Market are all paying attention to me okay so maybe I'll take one of them as a boyfriend to to to uh take my shopping cart she's reconsidering her life we think I'm joking with the blender so I'm much 100% Amit he got got you through a blender he got you through a blender you think it's that think it's always a good idea to go to the gym people continuously complain about their children not realizing that it's the parents that are stupid the children scanning just came to the world you're thear you as a parent of they made some sins in the previous life they have you as a they have you as a parent you don't know right you don't know left you're still considering whether you want to be married you're considering if you want this job you're considering if you want to move to Florida or you want to move to New York you don't know what you're doing you don't even know how to be a parent but will complaining about the kids we're so far off from theit that when this of found out that Rin passed away Shalom ises what did they do what do you hear about the world that lost cries right what didn't you hear is the whole community of religious people that threw a party and started giving away cupcakes and Bon bonss celebrating the gor's death why one time Steinman who was a isit and never ever went away from the his a was as a as can possibly be unbiased uncensored didn't matter who you are didn't matter what you are made no difference one time a person came to him and said I finance a thousand a thousand I pay them every month it's half my salary you know so you would think all of you guys are impressed there's one guy in the world that's giving money for a thousand what kind of he has in WoW wish on us right what does Rin say I never knew that one person needs the same salary as a thousand that's a that's that's a kosher mind you're saying that you're spending half your salary on a thousand what are you doing with the other half why do you need so much when a thousand are settling for the other half what are you doing with the other half that's a kosher mind now when he found out that there's many aim unfortunately that are not really aim they just go to k they do nothing smoke cigarettes they play on their phones they chitchat they do nothing unfortunately there's many people like this not everyone obviously but there's many enough to cause a big stink in is where the government has been non-stop using this as an excuse as if they needed more excuses to go against the Torah they now use this as an excuse already for a generation oh you shouldn't have they buil the nation they don't do anything so you have 600 people doing nothing you want to punish 100,000 so steinerman said listen if they're wasting time if they're not learning and you see that they're not learning if you see that they're getting in trouble making sense better send them to the me at least they have a m they have somebody controlling them so what did this K translate his ass oh is saying to take our tah and take him to the army shom they took what he said and they misconstrued it to something completely different put a on him and they were his enemies for Life non-stop enemies if anyone can imagine such a ish kados having enemies he had enemies death threats articles posters they didn't stop going against them now you would think okay fine many people had enemies in lifeu had enemies had enemies aruu had enemies for a more everyone has enemies but when they die even your enemies show up yeah you know what we're bitter enemies but rest in peace I Shalom or nothing you say nothing how do you know when someone is such a r that the P says that the even on even at the Gate of will not do the at the Gate of will not do the says yes what is this P me says up to the gate of G they don't do chuva because they still firm with their belief inside Gom everybody does Chua but still you know you're going to Gom you know you're going to the fire you know you're going to somewhere hot you know you're not it's not good why you still staying why you not doing chuva why not doing cha because sometimes somebody is such a rash that instead of thinking maybe I made an error maybe this maybe that they twist the Torah to such an extent they say you know what I'm only getting punished because I didn't celebrate enough that he died I'm only getting punished because I didn't make the sin even bigger because in their mind it's true in their mind what they're doing is emit their lie is AIT so that's why these that call themselves religious people started celebrating that he died even if a regular normal Jew regular normal Jew dies you're supposed to mourn it's like your brother dying your sister dying no different your son your parent same thing needless to say if it's one it's a do a giant of the generation now for some reason people think I do this for fun like as if this is fun like telling you guys some of the stuff that I tell you it's fun for me like people think oh yeah look he's uh maybe he has a a uh hat company on the side so he talks against wigs maybe he has a Shabbat organization so he talks against Shabbat maybe this maybe this I think I I do this for fun or something like I tell you the stuff I read in thear I read in the zor I get for my rabbis I you think I do it for fun so let's see what thear says about such stupid people and you tell me if you think it's fun after we get to the conclusion K talks about a specific type of stupid people what kind of stupid people does it talk about page 25A it says why do the Sons and Daughters of man certain people why do they die when they're young why do they die it's a good question normally parents are asking this question all the that we've had in recent memory all the things we've seen forget about in our life last month since I lost count I lost I lost count how many people I know I died that died it's unbelievable so asks many there are children young people come asks why do people's sons and daughters die when they're kids they're minors they didn't make any sins says outright he's punished because he did not weep he did not and mourn over the death of a kosher person someone that's a kosher person died he said no I'm gonna oh he died okay yeah what are you gonna do that's life you know that's life you know one of those attitudes yeah everything is for the good everything's for the good like one of those guys everything's for the good for everybody else something happens to him ahm why you doing this the dog dies ohm why you killing my dog somebody's father died son died NE something oh yeah everything's for the good everything's for the good in their life have a have what why don't you cry a little bit it's your brother it's your sister you don't feel like it's your brother it's your sister okay we'll make it feel says hem you didn't cry for a koser person that died okay well make sure you cry make sure you cry you guys think that's exaggerating come on no they're going to hang him tomorrow they're going to crucify me with JC Penny tomorrow when they see this you so let's say what else they say technically it says it says in Deuteronomy 24:16 each man shall die for his own sins so how could it be that a child dies for his parent sins he's still a child that's if you know the PUK says is means a grownup as long as a child is a child he's not considered a is he's considered part of the parents like an arm like a leg meaning childom gets punished for parents' sins until he becomes a ish until she becomes a Isa they're not considered is ISA at that point so Rashi explains that this only applies in the words of the verse if the is the is is an adult but when one of the CH when the children are minors they're seen as elements of the parents domain and are indeed subject to harm as a result of their parents misdeeds this is in rambam 61 in page 32 it lists a list of different sins different sins you should look into it it's a beautiful it gives you a list of different sins why does hem take away children from their parents it gives you different sins they make this they make this they make this they do this they do this what's one of them what's one of them they repeats exactly what this again says when people do not mourn over the death of a kosher person now the question is why does hasem care so much about the death of a kosher person I mean there's much bigger sins in lifeat there's Aid there's a all types of sins why is it okay you didn't cry come on maybe you didn't connect to him maybe you don't don't know him maybe something you had to cry every single time a kosher person dies first of all what's a kosher person what's a kosher person what they put a stamp on him like they put on the phones kosher how's he a kosher person so kosher person by definition Rashi says it's a person that was not suspected of making any sins meaning this is somebody I know it's a kosher person I look at this guy I don't think of him doing going with married women or Shabbat or anything in the open of course everybody has sin but you're not suspected of someone as being M like a sinner that's first of all the definition of a kosher person this is both the um definition of Rashi it's also in and also but even more so why is this sin why is it such a big sin why is it this specific thing and it doesn't say the same thing about Shabbat doesn't say the same thing about stealing does say same thing about going against your parents something like that why it's 10 ten commandments explains is that in reality everyone has one of those sins that's a big enough sin with it shabat or nid or this or that one of these big sins but in sh they said let's leave it on the side let's not punish him yet let's give him a chance to do chuva why how does he can do chuva there is G there's a special deed in sh it says if you mourn a kosher person will forgive you for those sins meaning will give you more time to do chuva for the big sins you made now the time came a kosher person died you didn't use the opportunity okay so now I'm going to have to punish you for the previous sin you made so it's not necessary that you died for that kosher person it's not because of that that was the trigger point that could have saved you or hurt you simply shedding tears now many people are going to say okay this is very nice it's R 2,000 years ago maybe it was applicable back then it's very nice thank you very much scary a little bit but listen many people don't cry and many people okay okay so now what's the proof that very same K is not very big unfortunately it's not very big said when you talk about a k that celebrated steinman's death you're not it's not very hard to find type it you'll find it that same Kayla you could verify the facts so you don't think I'm making this up for for some type of show very same Kaa reported that three babies three babies died in strange death since the death ofin one of them a table fell on him a table table fell on the baby when is such a thing happen tables just fall you think this is a joke you think that says no I WR it's for educational purposes enjoy enjoy the education I said in the that if you make certain sins that the kids die I didn't mean it I was just kidding guys I was just joking Three Strange deaths so now why do I mention this mostly other than to get you guys to understand the regardless of whether you understand or you don't understand it's 100% real regard whether regardless of whether you believe or you don't believe it's 100% real every word because unfortunately some people are so warped they're they they're their minds are so far away that even when you send somebody to go tell them something and they got they asked the ra to come give them kuk they ask the Rob from somewhere else to come give them kuk he told him listen similar to what I'm saying to you forget about whether you liked him or not he's still considered he's still considered a holy person he's still considered a righteous Jew you like him don't like him he's still a Jew you can't go celebrating his death can't go celebrating his death what does one of the leaders for this Kila say no I only think I only think that the three babies died because we are getting punished for not celebrating enough do you understand the level of stupidity here do you understand says the stupidity the foolishness of man leads him to make sins against God and then he gets upset at God for punishing him would you expect to just sit there do nothing to give you a little bit of background of who of steinerman was this is the type of person that yet only one version of the truth because in reality there really is only one version I heard this fool they call a prime minister over there he's in some uh commercial with a couple of people and everybody's celebrating BB this BB that and he uh had something some type of commercial before one of the videos and he's I don't know talking to a couple of other people I don't know who the other people are I'm assuming they're probably famous for some strange reason but anyway they uh the point is that in the commercial he tells them just stick to your own truth stick to your own em because the truth always wins 50% of that sentence is Right 50% of the other sentence is who wants to guess which 50 the truth always wins 100% true stick to your version of the truth it's teresy completely why there's no such thing as your truth this is God's truth that's actually one of the things we learned from last week's par we had a we said in the and I think we said part of it during the sh but there's an additional part to the now yobu begs his son YF please do a and admit by me to kindness and truthfulness with me please don't bury me in MIT so he said in last week's sh what is this means do something that's kindness like hasem did to himself which is he gave him things he didn't even promise he gave above and beyond what he promised but a is that he did what he did promise but nonetheless we learned from this P that yobu is showing y this is serious how am I showing you this is serious put your hand under my bleet cuz that's the Mas that's the learning that we have from our forefathers from abrah and is well that's how we make deals why the breit because that's the deal we ourselves have with so I'm reminding you put your hand under my breit and do why I'm showing you that this deal is not just between you and me this deal is between you and abrah and and don't let this m don't let this learning don't let this connection with hem die in Egypt don't bury it in Egypt don't bury it in Egypt Shalom because this is everything now if you look at the the is always connected to the par in one way or another it's in essence the last days of David and it says David's days Drew near to die and instructed his son schlomo saying I go the way of all the Earth be strong and become a man Safeguard the charge of Hashem your God to walk in his ways to observe his decrees Commandments ordinances testimonies as written in to M so that you will succeed in all that you do and wherever you turn so that Hashem will uphold his word that he has spoken regarding me saying if your children will safeguard their way to walk before me sincerely beit with all of their heart and with all of their soul saying no man you will be cut off from upon the throne of Israel so here we see again the connection is not just a simple connection that DAV is also dying and also blessing his son because then again you could pretty much connect yov to every single parent that ever lived and had a chance to meet to to give his son a blessing that's not the connection what's the connection he says scho the only thing that keeps Us Alive the only thing that keeps us ticking the only thing that's our survival is emit what emit God's emit if you fulfill that Amit and you make sure that your descendants fulfill that Amit everyone will succeed everyone will succeed everyone will be Prosper why the same blessings that he gave me the same blessings that he gave you the same blessings he gave to our forefathers will last forever what is it emit stick to the which does it say there's two versions of anywhere no there one the same that's in it's the same that hundreds and hundreds of years later is same am nothing changed not absolutely nothing changed the same exact emit the same God the same Torah nothing changed of course there was Matan Torah in between but yobu already had it he just wasn't obligated like David David saying whether he was obligated or not irrelevant his truth my truth same thing hold on to it don't bury it in Egypt don't bury it in Egypt and make your own version of theed because you don't like it it's not modern enough for you it's not this for you it's not that for you don't change nothing so this this Adit how do you know if it's AIT how do you know if you're AIT if your truth is really AIT how do you know first and foremost you have to compare it to what God Said which means that all bias all preferences and all opinions get thrown out the window if you don't like a certain Rabbi because he says something you don't don't like that's just simply your opinion if you don't like a rabbi because he's a liar and he created something it's different story he's not a rabbi so before you decide whether someone is a or what did he say to get you to have this fact because it cannot be an opinion if it's AIT AIT is not an opinion truth is not an opinion truth is truth it's a single truth there's no two truths so when people would come toin I Shalom the literally would think that he would applaud them and cheer them and this and that for what they're doing so everyone knew that he lived in literally a box and his his bed was a mattress that was 50 years old even the homeless people have better mattresses than he did is what held up this mattress was milk crates milk crates held up his bed and people come to it's a million and a half dollars dollars million and a half dollars for you there's a million and a half dollars for you he says what am I going to do with it no they're looking around they think that he he realizes that he's in a bad condition but he doesn't have anything to do about it say what am I going to do with it what am I going to do with this money goes maybe get a fix your house get a bigger house why what's wrong what what what I need to why why do I need anything he didn't see anything wrong with the situation why he was a real a he was really rich he was happy with a share what he got he's happy with it so when one guy one rich guy came to him and he says I'm financing I opened a bunch of we're doing good only problem I feel like really only 5% of what I'm doing is LMA only 5% of what I'm doing is really for Hashem the rest of it is you know it's not really for Hashem so what would you think he would say we would say hey you should do do all of it why have you're opening you open you should be happy you should be celebrating what to him because that 5% doesn't make a difference that 5% is withholding you from opening another open more Torah get more people to learn Torah we don't need you just open more T publicize more T why that's what's important right now you and your own accounting coming no it's 5% it's 2% it's probably 100% anyway stop making excuses of why you're not doing more one guy came to him and said I want to decide on a job situation if I go teach in a big Yesa meaning older people it's a lot of kavod but less money if I go teach in a younger Yesa young kids it's no kavod nobody respects a kindergarten teacher nobody respects a fifth grade teacher but it's a little more money so the r gave him the answer and after he said okay and he started walking out 100 years old 100 years old got up off the chair and started walking him to the to the door I've went to my my local Rabbi doesn't get up for me to walk me out wow why why do I deserve such honor says to him know people come to me all the time and they say blah blah blah blah they all say all these different things in the end it's always about kavod but they sugarcoated with other things sugarcoated it's no it's this no it's that in the end it's it's always because they want more cavod at least you set it right off the bat you want more cavod at least you honest for that I'll walk you to the door at least you are honest you're honest that's what you're looking for why because em em is a starting point of chuva even if the is not so pretty to hear even if you don't like hearing the even if it's painful to you to hear it the reality is is that schl is saying in this p why does you having more knowledge cause more pain because more knowledge means you have more Emit and if that emit is the real imit it must hurt it must hurt because it means you have to do Chua everyone loves the truth until it obligates them I have many people that started watching the shim started coming to the shim if they could if they live lived locally or watched them online loved it in the beginning whatever Shure excited them like wow all the compliments in the world as if I'm something compliments letters text messages BFFs best friends forever little change they want to make I'm the greatest W all greatest things in the world all of a sudden you know it's time they donate sometimes they don't donate sometimes whatever it is relevant but fans fans like you would never believe I don't think Michael Jackson had fans like this write you letters on a daily basis start to think to myself like wow such a effect I have and then I look at the mirror like it's not me it's nothing to do me so then you're like wow this is going good this is going good this is going good this is going good 6 months a year later a year and a couple of months year later some some dog barks the wrong way I see something in the lecture that they didn't like to hear whether it's the wig or it's Shabbat or it's or it's this or it's that something that's AIT for them they don't like it what happened to the year and a half relationship we had the letter The Love Letters you sent me all the love letters you sent me you said I'm this I'm Ador I'm I'm this Ador I'm that I'm a deodorant whatever you said to me all the things you said what happened I missed them all the love letters what am I going to do with all the love you said already I'm going to throw them out you know how much how much time I invested in reading them what happened Mal already why I said one thing is it true is it true that's the question you have to ask is it true if it's true why you mad at me if it's true why you mad at me why why did you like it when I was saying the truth to everyone else I didn't obligate you because you already keep Shabbat it didn't obligate you because you didn't have any SLO bite issues it didn't obligate you because you didn't have that issue but finally he got home o I'm a what happened so the truth must hurt it must be painful M must be painful ful why it obligates you obligates you it means that at the end of a at the end of a 15 minute session you read some you read some you read some you come to whatever it is at the end of it something must hurt if it doesn't something's wrong something's wrong it has to obligate you to do something I'm going home I got to do something about what why do something something just happened I got head and head with M something has to change yeah but I'm religious for 20 years exactly that's the problem I got used to it in the Book of Ezekiel there's a very special mitvah Mitzvah that will only going to be able to fulfill when the mashia comes what is this mitvah a mitvah of attending the BET mikash attending the mikdash but writes in the Book of Ezekiel something scary he writes in chapter 46:9 that if you enter through the northern gate you must exit to the southern gate if you enter to the southern gate you must exit to the northern gate I don't know about you but I'm pretty sure a lot of people are going to come to bet mikdash it's going pretty happening spot a lot of people going to want to come it's going to be a little T it's going to be a little crowded so to get in there probably going to be a line security this that's going to be hot tough right so now I finally got in traveled all the way from jenam I got finally todash I got there I got there Shalom everything is good okay I need to get out but to get to the other side not only have to go through everybody which is how much time it's going to take it's going to be two hours just to get to the other side but on top of I parked my car on this side it's right behind me why do I have to go to the other side when my car is over here because if I go to the other side then I'm going have to go all the way around again to get to my car it took me five five minutes to enter five hours to leave but this a Mitzvah mitvah just like keeping Shabbat Mitzvah why the yav says there's a very big poison inside every single one of us that's exercised by choice what is this Choice what is the choice the choice is getting used to things he says if you get used to things eventually they lose their meaning if you get used to your marriage eventually lose its meaning you get used to your husband coming home at a certain time eventually you're not going to get up because that's what you're supposed to do when your husband comes home doesn't matter if he works at a muffler shop or he works at supermarket or he works for for the president means nothing he's your president he's your king same thing with the wife comes in husband's supposed to stand up not continue talking to his friends on the phone about the card game coming up but if you got used to it you got used to the marriage sometimes you forget to say hello if you got used to your kids sometimes you don't ask them what' you get in the test why the teacher will tell me if something's wrong if something's wrong I'll know why don't you check maybe there was something wrong maybe there something wrong is just a kid wants attention if you don't check in with your employees and ask them if they're happy eventually they'll find a place that they're happy in if you don't ask your customers are you happy eventually they'll find somebody that actually pretends like they kill if they're happy and so on and so forth why why do the biggest companies in the world lose their stature they get comfortable after the do com crash year 2000 a certain company came to America Online Microsoft and Yahoo all huge multi-billion dollar companies they said listen we're one of the uh companies that survived the.com but we need a lot of money in order to get to where we want to be would you want to buy us out we're willing to sell ourselves for $10 million for Microsoft that's a day worth of Interest not even for Yahoo same thing they bought a different company that's worthless for $4 billion just a few years before that $4 billion for a company that's completely worthless America online they did a merger with Time Warner for $85 billion 85 billion dollars that's 85,000 Millions so 10 million is nothing it's like throw in a quarter Hey kid go good luck what they say nah do come bubble this that we're taking care of business we're happy where we are we survived we're still struggling with a few things but we're okay we don't need anything new we don't need anything new we're fine we're comfortable we're Yahoo we're Microsoft we're America Online we don't need anything else well you know who that company was that $10 million Little Ricky dink company that barely survived Google Google not only survived but it became bigger than all three of them combined why did they miss out of the opportunity of a lifetime their opportunity for capitalism they got comfortable big huge difference from our Torah to theot of the financial world that I know a little bit about made sure to write several verses in the Book of Ezekiel meaning it's relevant for eternity and he says to you you come into the B uh bet um bet mikdash to one entrance don't ever think don't ever think for a second you can leave in the same day from that entrance never think that way why says shalom shalom you enter and leave from the same exit and the walls of the BET mikdash will look to you like the walls of your house Shalom you get used to the BET mikdash like you got used to your house it's not your house don't get used to anything that's the poison that's the poison that kills us we get used to the big we get used to having easy access to the Torah we get used to our wives we get used to our kids we get used to a lot of different things and we take them for granted and that abai is one of the main things that is killing us and it's causing us to make stupid mistakes we get used to the having the right answers that we think that anybody with a beard and a hat whatever he says is good so the Rabbi says to you listen I think that the three little babies died because we didn't celebrate more the r steinerman died everybody's like oh yeah that's a good now one person thought to look in the Tor and says you know what look what the says look what says look what the says look what the look what everything else says it's the opposite of this of this idiot it's the opposite but just because he's a rabbi he's a this he's a that we listen oh you can't listen to nothing so that's why sometimes people need to understand that it's their own foolishness that's causing the problems in their life it's their own foolishness every single parent that has any issues in their life any issues whatsoever has to check themselves don't blame the kids kids are still kids they don't know anything yet they don't know anything yet the Ben says until the age of six your child is similar to a monkey not that he's a monkey Shalom he's still your child but nonetheless you can't educate him like you do someone that has Dot even though he's smart for a three-year-old even though he's smart for a 5-year-old he's still not considered someone that has his own opinion yet you can't really give him proper yet so even rebuking him even telling them what to do has to be done a certain way it's more like training at that age than it is but nonetheless always be reminded that whatever is happening the first person you have to look at is yourself in the mirror and that's why all these parents that are continuing to question the they Contin to question the Tor should I do chuva should I stop uh making sins the fact that your kids are still alive is a miracle because if hasem you don't need to be a genius to realize this if Hashem gets so upset so upset when you don't honor one of his children to the point that he punishes parents with three deaths in one Kil of babies it doesn't happen such things in America maybe happens every week because the the parents kill their kids in this country they don't want they don't want to be parents sometimes they throw them in the garbage we're not Americans doesn't matter how long you live here if you're a Jew you're a Jew that's what you are it's the only thing you are it doesn't matter if you're from Africa or you're America or you're in Israel You're a Jew that's the only thing you are there is no such thing as American Jew you're either a Jew or nothing we don't have such things we don't have parents like this we didn't come from stuff like this if something like this happens there's something clearly wrong if every other day there's a new Kap another fire another death another disaster something's happening hasem is telling you if I'm so unhappy I'm so upset that I'm bringing this huge for you not honoring one of my one of my children what does he think when we're dishonoring him when we walk around with tight clothes so everyone can have no imagination whatsoever they don't need imagination anymore you pretty much gave it away what do you think when you're desecrating Hashem and you're driving on Shabbat what do you think he thinks when you go into the non- kosher restaurant no but it's a business meeting Rabbi yes but you're now the kosher stamp for the restaurant you're a religious Jew that goes into a non- kosher restaurant someone else that's not as religious as you is going to see you inside and say oh Steve is there must be kosher look he's even wearing his hat this is some of the things that I have to get off my chest but now you could ask some questions go ahead in this last week's as yo was blessing all the tribes and he was recognizing all their sins when it got to Judah uh it mentioned what happened with Tamar good so that begs the question why aren't we called josephites because Joseph didn't have really a major like the other brother so why AR we call josephites based on that when all the other brothers had some form of aor sin it's very good question question is why are we called Joseph why in essence the bigger question is why are we called yoda why are we called after Yuda why are we called yehudim Jews and not American Jews not African Jews not Tunisian Jews and not uh sometimes Jews we're Jews like it or not you'll be a Jew you'll either be rewarded as a Jew or punished as a Jew your choice same price why because the secret of am is begins and ends with yud Y in Tamar had an event a couple of weeks ago we read in the par where y sinned in essence in his the eyes of the public where he went with a PR but in reality it was allowed legally in those days it just frowned upon for a king to do such a thing but nonetheless it was still embarrassing for him still embarrassing for him and he had a choice when Tamar says to him who do these belong to she showed him his underwear she showed him his staff and she showed him his stamp these are three things that he's the only one in the world can own them she didn't say hey you're the father of my babies you're my baby daddy she didn't say you're my baby daddy what' she say who do these belong to who do these belong to why she gave him a choice what' she say listen yod I know I know the mashia is going to come from you I wanted I wanted to be a partner if you don't want me to be the partner no problem it's your choice it's your choice I'm not going to embarrass you and I'm not going to get in the way of the mashiach why it's a greater cause than me it's greater than me even more so for you to suffer a moment a moment of embarrassment due to may be making me feel good for a moment it's not worth it i' rather jump into a fire that's what the says it's better to jump into a fire than to embarrass another Jew so yah had a choice and Y in essence his name itself is actually a prophecy what did he do y he admitted to Yuda comes both from being grateful and also from admitting what did he admit he admitted hey said come man she is right and I'm wrong that in essence is the the the the ingredients of a Jew all of the prophets the rambam says every single one of our prophets had a single Mission not one of them had a different Mission every single one had the same exact Mission what is it get to do cha look at Ezekiel look at look at Ezra look at mosenu look at David look at any one you want one job they had get to do where did it start from y be like y because ises that's why we're called after yud we're not called after YF YF didn't have to do chuva in essence really why he never really sinned he almost sinned but he never actually sinned but that's also why Yoda is considered higher than ruen because ruen also did Chua Ru also did chuva so why don't we call ruven nightes I told you guys a few weeks ago be good for me call house ruven night ruven ruven you guys will have to come to this why don't we call rites why why is it Yuda I missed out on this one why the reason is because H also did chuva when he found out that what he did with his father and he brought the bed of his mother into his father's tent after died it was an appropriate to such an extent that the Torah writes the verse says he slept with yacob's wife he didn't really sleep with his wife the fact that he got went inside the bedroom of his father that already was could lead to such an action meaning Shalom what are you doing in your father's bedroom what are you doing in your father's bedroom you know what this kid lead too so he did and that's why when the brothers threw Y into the bow into the hole that had no MIM and no nothing in there what did it have it had a scorpions and snakes thear says had nothing in it what does nothing mean nothing means that scorpions and snakes so when he came back over there and he saw he's not in the hole anymore what do you mean how did you not no didn't you throw him in there with the rest of the brothers no he didn't throw him with the rest of the brothers he went to finish his fast he was fasting he was fasting and was praying to Hashem doing his chuva so when he he intended that as soon as he his brothers go away to eat and he finishes his prayer he's gonna go and rescue YF and complete his chuva he came back yourf is gone and he told his brothers why' you do this I told you not to do it and so on and so forth so in essence this is where we learn that he actually did Chu even before y so why back to the same question why are we called because his chuva was fasting and torturing himself says page 25A that's not CH for me you want chuva change your heart chuva of your heart torture your heart not your body I don't need your fasts I don't need you to wear sacks I don't need you to wear sacks I don't need you to not eat for a week eat as much as you want just fix your heart that's chuva that's what y did that's why his chuva was considered much more significant thanu because yud changed his heart he realized said Kam Mani she's right and I'm wrong and he admitted it he changes heart he changes actions so that my is the most sign ific part of the uh of of why UD is yud whyu is ruen how we missed out on that opportunity hopefully better time next time next question well in the beginning you mentioned that say that a kid can pay for his what his parent okay his parents foolishness will lead to a kid dying okay and also okay and Ezekiel 18 also says that God Reed the people saying that the father eats you know sour grapes and the kids take the kids are suffering for the father so it's repeating what I'm saying got kind of rebu the people for saying that says you know the kid would should not you know will not die for the for the paren sin or vice versa so what's the difference between the two is there any there is a difference yeah there is a difference when a uh child that's underage dies like we said before the gar says that's only because the child is in essence considered like the body part of the parents we'll elaborate even further when fathers try to take the role of being the IMA of trying to take the role of being the mother it and the EMA is a very normal person the mother is a very normal person and she's not interested in the father being the IMA then that father is not only wrong but he's crazy and the reason why is because he doesn't understand the smallest thing about women the smallest thing about a mother now a father will look at a child and a kid's cute usually unless your kid looks like a little Gargamel but usually a kid's cute but for the first time the one thing you discover when you're a parent and I only know this from experience because I never felt this before but the one thing that schl says that you only know love once you have children and I said what do you mean I love my wife what what do you mean I don't know love the thing is when you have kids it's the first time in your life you actually start caring about whether another person's alive like you constantly looking at the kid is he still breathing why it doesn't look like he's breathing is she breathing you're always worried about if they're breathing the kids that's as a father you just worried everybody's alive once they get once they're alive and well or the mother's taking care of them you walk away you do what you got to do you're busy with your stuff your work you're studying whatever it is that you do and once in a while you see them during the day you play with them maybe you eat with them but in essence you go about your day a mother on the other hand has no such reality why because to a mother her kids are not like the same thing as what the kids are to the father to the father it's really his kids meaning it's the children of my spouse and I came from her and I and in Ence the kids it's like a third party it's like a third party in the room they're just ruining our privacy really in our dinners and we can Never Eat Alone ever again and there's always noise but they're kids and we like them and they're cute and we play with them and we take them out and so on and so forth but they're kids nonetheless to the mom there's no such reality if it's a normal Mom it's a healthy Mom especially if it's a Jewish mom there's no such reality why because to the mother those children are like body parts they're like the arm they're like the leg they're like the heart they're like the head meaning that when you tell them when the father comes and tells them no no honey don't do this don't tell them this don't tell them this don't do this don't do this you're trying to tell the mother how to treat our own end what do you mean don't tell my hand to do something it's my hand how are you gonna tell me something about my hand it's my hand he tell him no no but don't do this what do you mean don't do this how could you tell me more about my leg than me it's my leg that's the difference a mother views her children as body parts why because they really were at some point they came from her body at some point they were M considered a body part they weren't considered separate no it's just it came from here to here I could see it cool nothing changed that's the mentality of a mother so fathers that try to be mothers are fools you want to be a happy father you want to be a happy husband let her run the show just enjoy enjoy let her run the show if she needs help if she asks you for advice obviously always be there but never think that you're supposed to replace the RO that's just not a reality now when it comes down to the sin of parents leading to their kids unfortunate demise the says that's because they're underage but then the Ezekiel that you're mentioning there's another somewhere else that talks about the same thing that you're mentioning where the kids get punished for the parents sins in other places that's when they become older that's when they become is that's when they become men why would they get punished for their parents sins they get punished for the parents sins the says because they continued their parents sins their father or their mother was a sinner and they had a choice do I continue the sins of my parents or do I stop do I do chuva my father was do I continue his way or do I go a different way if you can if you go a different way the sons of have written about them why did it CH the last second did CH in the last second we have written about them why they didn't continue their father's way they gave up everything they got out of the will they didn't know that hem is going to kill kak they lost the will they lost everything why but they gained everything at the same time why did did Chine the same one second on the other hand kids that continue their father's sins get punished why Shem says I punish your father for it I'm going to punish you double for it why you should have learned from your father not to do it should have Lear learn not to do I'm not going to go into detail because we're going to leave this for the for the whenever we do it but it says that talks about it he says to do chv to do chv all you need to do all you need to do is just see see what happens to the people that Shabbat just see what happens you don't have to do anything else you don't have to suffer nothing else just see what happens to them you finish you become sadik just see next question yeah what's the example of the sin of a parent example H one one one one example could be that the parent is immodest and the kid continues the immodesty so the mother walks around uh you know like a runway model in their secular world and the kid thinks oh this is the way to continue and she continues doing her mother's sin so is she makes the public sin and the daughter continues hasem punishes them both another thing is if a father's dishonest in business Unfortunately today there is a lot of dishonesty in business a lot of dishonesty in business people think that if it's cheating to go it's allowed I don't know where they learn this but for some reason or another cheating is like almost like like a uh a thing you hear about on a daily basis this guy cheated this guy stole this guy uh Took a ton of money from the bank or from people that lend the money and decided that oh I don't want to pay them back so I'll leave the country I'll go to Israel they don't have extradition over there they take a bunch of money from the banks they buy this they buy this they buy houses buildings this that the other thing they cash everything out and they go away to Israel to run away or better yet they declare bankruptcy and they hide money somewhere else because the bankruptcy laws in this country protect you from a lot of things and they take advantage of the system this is 100% theft unfortunately and uh fortunately it's theft but unfortunately for those people that are stealing and uh the reality of it is that a kid that sees his father taking what they call advantage of the stupid system that repeats it will get punished we'll get punished now I'll also give you guys another that I actually only found out recently it's well known that children do not suffer for sins they don't get killed for sins before the age of 20 years old meaning if somebody made sins as 17 18 years old somebody made sins 17 18 years old they don't get judged for it they don't get judged for it and most people think oh I'm 23 years old what do I have I only have three years worth of sins I only have three years worth of sins I'm good I'm not that bad only three years worth of sins I'm fine their misunderstanding what are their misunderstanding is that Hashem doesn't punish you in this world for sins before the age of 20 that's all it means the punishment that a person gets is from the minute that they're born in that book I believe he talks about it the um the VNA G gave a no the um I believe gave one of his students a special special thing to do chv for what because he hit his parents as a little kid not hit them like hit them like today people hit their parents like hit them like play fighting and like slapped his dad or something one time and hit him in the face so you have to do Chua for that seven eight years old he slapped his father's face as a game so you have to do cha for that so that's the thing there's no there's no that's that's the thing the more you learn the more painful it is meaning that you start realizing that we all have a lot of Chua to do all of us doesn't matter if you're everyone has do chuva everyone has do chuva it's scary scary for me it's scary for you it's scary for everybody but beginning of wisdom is fear of hem it's fear of hem it's not intentionally trying to scare you every single sh it's just that you read it you see it you see what's happening in the world the picture is ugly now the argument we mentioned in the beginning about people saying you should have Kosh your phones and kosher computers and kosher this and kosher that I also said that I don't necessarily agree with the strategy having a kosher phone is not necessarily a bad idea having a kosher computer I don't think it's necessarily a bad idea I just don't think it's going to fix the problem why because instead of worrying about making kosher devices we should focus more time on making kosher people you can make all the kosher technology in the world but if the person's a non- kosher person he's still going to do non- kosher things do you know how many and and people that are much more religious than anyone else in this room including myself you know how many of them contact me on a regular basis because of the biggest sins in Judaism do you know how many you know how could it be somebody that's an someone that's learns T all day all night how could it be that he's wasting seed how what do you mean how could it be you don't realize says the worst sin in Judaism you don't realize you missed that part yes missed that part missed that part yeah I never learned it never learned it I never knew it was such a bad Sin I actually didn't even know it was a sin some doctor said it was a good thing he thought you should take care of your health so the reality is that sometimes Our Truth is quite different than reality Our Truth is quite different than reality and today if you're not doing Chua you're far you're as far away from it as the rest of the secular world there's no such thing as a uh as a uh FR anymore so if we're worried so much about making kosher devices kosher phones kosher computers kosher this and kosher that it's all fine and dandy it's all fantastic but it's not going to fix the problem why because the only thing that can fix the problem is m m is going to fix the problem because it's going to make kosher people the says that if a person is does not have you're not allowed to be inside a closed room with him there's a closed room you're not allowed in him if he doesn't have you why he may kill you m he may kill you what do you mean I'm with my boss all the time in one office okay you're in danger you want you want to be in danger good luck to you but the point is thear says we learned from abah ainu you're not allowed to be in a room alone that's a closed room that doesn't have because if he doesn't have that means he's tur himself into God if he turn himself into God and you disobey God he'll give you people think that all of this stuff is a joke all of the stuff is an exaggeration it's analogies it's Parables it's this it's that it's 100% true every single word of it is true so if we re-educated ourselves young and old man or woman and we start learning different things in the Torah like R Steinman theit when they ask them if somebody has a single moment a day a moment a day to learn something what should they learn should they learn T the verse in the T or should they learn some M thought so thought this is 104 years old didn't leave his didn't leave his didn't leave the T all day all night people were just dumbfound see does he eat does he drink he says to him if you only have a moment to think of something think of M why because the Torah is nice but it's not going to change you by itself the M the thought of M if you really delve into it you really think about you know what maybe I shouldn't be late all the time you know what maybe I shouldn't be so cheap you know what maybe I shouldn't get angry so quickly you know what maybe this maybe maybe I should do this may that thought can change his life it's better he has that thought because that could change his life the Torah verse in the tah is nice but it's not going to change his life so if we re-educate ourselves whether it's as parents as children as adults as teenagers as whatever we re-educate oursel rewire our own systems to see you know what I'm going to learn Torah that's going to improve me as a person if it's improving me as a person according to hasem it's AIT if it's not it's 50/50 it's 50/50 why waste time if your Torah is making you a better person based on the Judgment of those around you based on the Judgment of what it says in the Tor so you're good to go but if you're seeing constant if you're unhappy if you're miserable if everything is sad everything is frustrating everything is stressful everything is bad and so on obviously your learning is that's not working you're doing something wrong and unfortunately that's happening a lot today when we're teaching our kids that we're supposed to celebrate because some other Rabbi that's gador is not necessarily our view of a big Rabbi and we're going to go celebrate I mean think about it the Palestinians celebrate over Jews dying the Iranians celebrate over Jews dying that's what they do they're terrorists they're animals am doesn't do such things am doesn't do such things even more so the religious World why do we get to such a low level because no such thing as FR Religion Today is based on what you wear it's complete nonsense of course everyone has to be modest but whether you wear a helmet or you wear a keepa or you wear a hat as long as you're a kosher person that's all all that matters what's a kosher person based on what Hashem says someone I'll finish with the story and you guys can ask more questions but someone came into of steinman's office one day with a helmet he was in a hurry and he didn't have any place to put his helmet on and he ran into the office to go see Stein or to his house he has his helmet in his hand he said I'm sorry for the I didn't have any other place to put it he says don't worry I like your helmet much more than I like some of the hats in this room why he's a koser person that's is so to celebrate such a thing that he died I mean you have to be crazy next question yeah also in last week's they talk about both yob and were K and commentary gave the explanation they didn't want the Egyptians to worship them yeah but still it's against to do that how did Y and how did they still do that even based on that okay well first off you have to understand that this is before this is before we got the Torah meaning that were not obligated to follow the Torah they were not obligated to follow the Tor although thear says they did follow the Tor they follow the Tor like noahides so for example in the says that used theph the book of creation in order to create cows on Shabbat he create a cow every Shabbat why would he create a cow every Shabbat create a cow out of nothing like hasm created the world abah had the knowledge from this seph the book of creation that got all the way from ad how to create a cow from nothing took some uh clay from the ground put it together put a cow for leg with the head you're a big cow 2,00 pound $10,000 how yeah had the book of creation we don't have it anymore but nonetheless why would he do it on Shabbat specifically why didn't he do it on Tuesdays because he had to break Shabbat as a noahide you're not allowed to keep Shabbat 100% you have to break it you have to break it so he broke Shabbat by creating what did he create he created a cow so the kept the Tor but to a certain certain level not like we do they also had a much more extensive Torah for example says thatu had between 400 and some believe 4,000 chapters to his now what was it was it rabbis arguing back and forth obviously not there was those rabbis weren't alive at that time meaning it was a more extensive gar it was a more extensive uh that we don't no longer have so first and foremost we need to know that when Y and yov were buried and in baled it wasn't in a time of Matan meaning they weren't obligated to follow the laws of burial like we have to follow today so that's number one number two when you're dead you don't really have much of a choice you're dead that's two three when you're living under a certain Kingdom and you're not the king it's not necessarily a choice even more so even more so because why because your certain laws that you want to exercise if that's going to put your nation in in Jeopardy you're not allowed to put everybody else in jeopardy so the uh there was a um I forget the name this is almost this story is almost 700 years old 700 years old uh don't quote me on the name um one time there was the the decided that we're going to arrest him because he has too much control over the people and we're gonna put him a bounty put a uh price on him if anybody wants to release him so the Jews came this doador our Rabbi of the whole people what do you want so want a million dollars you know hypothetically speaking we want a ton of money want a million dollars the Jews poor Jews they love their rabbis they get the money together they come to the say we sold the gold we sold the this we did we did everything we possibly can we got the million dollars together he says you're not allowed you're not allowed to give them the million dollars goes yeah you're gonna die in jail you're gonna die in jail let me die in jail you're not allowed to use it not allowed I forbid you to give them the million dollarss for me you're not allowed to give something that's worth more than the person why cuz you're going to give them a million dollars tomorrow they're going to kidnap another person it's never going to end so my life is not worth more than another Jew's life not allowed to give them they tortured him tortured him tortured him until he died he actually died in the jail now one of the Jews that was rich got money together and he came to the go he says I want his body let me bury him at least let me bury him he says you want to bury him you have to give us 4 million more money than what he was worth alive give us 4 million no problem went sold everything he had everything he sold he gave it to him $4 million he got the body he buried the body got Proper Burial what a sadik this guy is right next day he died the next day he died you're already asking questions you're not even in the story Hashem how could you do it why' you do it would you do it all asking hasem questions right now why'd you do why' you do it well hasm knew we're going to ask him some questions so he came to the rabbi of the Kila he came to the rabbi of the Kila and he told him tell the Kila not to think bad tell the K not to think bad after I used all my money to free him he came to me in my dream the rabbi came to me in my dream he told me for the for the Merit that you have for freeing for putting giving such to after he died meaning I can't return the for you in real life the biggest you can do biggest kindness you can do is for a dead person why he can't return anything for you can't do anything for you he said I have to give you something I'm allowed to give you one of two things you pick one thing I could do I could do is I can make you and all of your descendants forever Filthy Rich richer beyond your dreams you know our Generations is a Jew he has a few kids they have a few kids they have a few kids within a few Generations talking about thousand people option two option two is you come to ganeden with me tomorrow you die that's it he says I'll take option two so the rabbi asks him in a dream why'd you pick option two why didn't you become rich and you can still you're sadik you're you know you did all good things goes I can't trust myself why right now I'm guaranteed to be ganeden with him who knows where I'm going be tomorrow who knows where'll be next week who knows where be next week and we said a on Shabbat that is very nice relevant to this now when you heard the story in the beginning you didn't think so good why somebody did a big Mitzvah and looks like they got killed for it that's not nice what' you do that forem so now in the that ends the tribes come to come to your after yov dies and they say well aba died jakov died maybe now he's going to come back at us maybe he's going to come back at us why he's going to take revenge against us why is he going to take revenge at us why he take revenge last week why he take revenge 10 years ago why now because for 17 years for 17 years that yov was living over there with ysf he never told them what happened with the brothers he never told him hey ABA by the way I know everything is good it's peace now we have Shabbat every Shabbat we eat together and we have P together we have no he says ABA everything's good yeah but what happened nothing happened he never told them what happened 22 years ago that hey by the way ABA they sold me these brothers of mine I forgave them D don't worry he never told them they said maybe he didn't tell because he didn't want to make ABA he didn't want to make yob upset you make an old man upset he could die you want make him upset that's why he didn't tell him but now yov died so now what is he what is he going to keep it for what is he going to keep in his heart for maybe now he's goingon to say something to us maybe now he's he's been waiting all this time to take revenge against us so they come to YF and they tell him YF we're sorry we're this we're that cries to them and says no I don't want anything bad for you and he says the following he says fear not for I am instead of God what am I God I'm going to decide something although you intended me harm God intended it for good and it continues now the was this is two verses I just read to you now if you go to go to you'll see that there's a verse in there that most Jews probably all Jews at least most today know this verse by heart and that's it was Friday thus the Heaven and the Earth were finished and all their aray and it continues and the reason why most Jews know this is because this is in K of Shabbat what's the issue the issue is this is not one verse the issue is this is really two verses the first two words of that blessing is really the last two words of a sing of a verse and the rest of what was said in that blessing is a completely different verse it's the following verse so it's the last two words of one verse and a complete another verse but for the for the blessing they combined the two to make it sound nicer as if the Y is connected to the Shabbat which it is so this is a certain principle you can use in the Torah in order to understand certain things certain hidden messages within the Torah now you can't just do this anywhere you have to use certain laws you can't just create laws out of your thin head out of your you know some imagination you have to use something that's already been used if we use that same exact principle in this last week's in the message that YF said to his brothers the message that YF said to his brothers what do we get I am God you thought bad about me but God thought good I told you the story rabai hasem says I'm God you thought bad about me you thought I killed him for no reason but I thought good I gave gedan instead every single day we have problems every day we have flat tires we have problems at work we have problems with this we have problem with this Hashem wants to give you good you always think bad about hem always think oh doesn't know what he's doing if he did this maybe the this Hashem is always thinking good for you unfortunately sometimes the good hurts sometimes the good hurts but it's always good the key is to make sure to pay attention pay attention if you pay attention it won't hurt as much next time but nonetheless you need to know that when you're telling the truth it hurts sometimes why because it obligates you it obligates you so don't become one of these people where you love the truth until it obligates you okay just means you're a liar in hiding tell you are you're Ling hiding you just like you know you like to yell at other people any other critical questions or are we going to continue on Tuesday said what is the middle what is what is the middle the middle way I mean in general the priority of the and the role of the husband and the wife in a uh in a family are quite different first and foremost we need to know that everything that the husband and a wife do is supposed to be a partnership you're not supposed to be competing a husband and wife that's competing is going to be an unhappy husband and wife second of all the point of a relationship in general every relationship you have in your life whether it's between you and your wife you and your children you and your partners in any way business and so on it's supposed to be that you're bringing the best out of each other meaning 1 + 1 equals 3 not 1+ 1 equals 2 meaning you're supposed to become a better version of you as a result of that partnership so if it's 1 plus 1 equals two that means you still both remained individuals you're both just looking for your own interest but if it's 1 plus one equals three that means you both have become better due to each other obviously I'm not teaching you math I'm just teaching you what how to make relationships work if you came out of this sh thinking that 1 plus 1 equals three then you need a different sh so that one why isn't it one because then you'll be less than what you already started one I you can use that analogy to if you'd like to become a single person it's one Soul sure but nonetheless the point I'm trying to to embellish here that you're supposed to become a better version of yourself because one of the things that I remember when I first met my wife and I'm give you guys some personal stuff but this is for educational purposes only and she told me that one thing that made the me uh unique is that I used to have a saying that I could learn from everyone and the reason why is because I know what I know and you must know something that you know and there must be at least one thing that you know that I don't know even if I think I'm smarter than you even if I think I'm there has to be at least one thing that you know that I don't know so if I can get what you know I'll be better version of what I know so maybe egotistical maybe Visionary whatever you want to call it the point being is that you become a better version of you as a result of relationship sh that's the that's the sign of a good relationship if you're becoming a worse version of you then you have to obviously test yourself uh check yourself and see what's going on now the role of a wife in a Jewish Home is to educate the children to discipline them to make sure that they're taken care of to also make sure that the husband doesn't sin to encourage the husband to learn Torah that's it the role of the husband is to provide for the family and to be the main source of Torah for the family meaning he's the rabbi of the family either himself as the teacher or he's bringing the teacher but nonetheless he's in charge of education for the family now if he can't do it himself he has to make sure that he's providing it in some way or another not everybody's a good speaker not everyone has the time not everyone has the ability and so on and so forth but nonetheless he's responsible for the family T and he has to learn to himself he must learn toah the biggest reason of why he has to learn toah aside from protecting himself for sin is because your kids are like little minich copy machines your kids are copy machines they're going to see you they're going to do if they see ABA and IMA value the Torah as number one they'll value the Torah as number one if they see ABA and IMA value soup as number one they'll value soup as number one you can see what valuable in any family's house based on what the kids talk about if the kid in running around theet is talking about iPhones costing $500 or $1,000 or whatever they cost today then you know that in that house what's important is not tah what's important is iPhones and money if the kid talks about LeBron James and Magic Johnson and Michael Jordan and whoever is still playing or not playing if he's talking about that then you knowu are not part of that household they're in school maybe but they're not part of the household why because they don't talk about Moshe and and they talk about LeBron James talk about Patrick Ying talk about all these people that are on television that's who they talk about so if ABA and IMA make Torah number one that means Torah is number one if it's not you'll see what's what else replaced it so that is also a combination of the efforts of the ABA and the IMA the IMA can't do it by herself why she's not getting as much Torah nourishment as the husband is supposed to get why because she's running the house she's taking care of the kids I could tell you personally sometimes you know IEM hasem does me a he gives me the ability to you know babysit my kids for like an hour a week and you know my wife she gives me luxury to do all this and everything else once in a while she needs my help so I take care of the kids not much but I take care of the kids for a little bit of time honestly I see the kids it's literally a miracle it's every day that their their the kids are still everything's okay everything passed no one fell no one it's mamash 100% Miracle why it's literally they run to Danger they literally run they can't one of them can't even run yet they can't even walk yet but he somehow Goes To Danger it's unbelievable it's unbelievable it's mamash a miracle and I tell my wife every time I appreciate her even more this hour is like is like cha for me why I'd say how do you do this all week my job is easy next to yours how do you do this all week with these kids they're running to Danger 24 hours a day and not even like they want to it's just constantly around constantly I tell you thing happened today M today we're in a swing set we have a swing set in the back little cute swing set and uh I'm was with my son he's swinging swinging swinging he's tiny he's less than a year old and I lean on the swing set I lean on the swing set very normal thing it's big I'm leaning on it do I think twice about the guy that put it together forgetting to put the screws do I think about this no who thinks about this so I'm leaning on it and the whole swing set separates and my son is in like midair and he's falling my 10mon old son is falling I have to catch the chain in the air I caught it because my hand was already on it not because I have good reflexes but nonetheless the point is it's m danger all the time I look at my nothing bad happened this imbecile that put the the the thing together forgot to put the screw the whole thing fell apart but then I look at my son my wife and I'm like how do you do this 10 minutes I'm with them something bad already happened 10 minutes we're not even talking about the whole hour today it was 10 minutes didn't survive the hour I don't know so if you're a smart parent first and foremost kiss your wife feet for doing it it's so hard I don't know maybe you're better at it than I am I'm not such a bad parent but I don't know maybe you have better luck your kids are not running to danger but in general each person needs to know that their role is important now if the father is going into the Wife's Kitchen if the father goes to the the Wife's Kitchen and he starts telling her what to do not only not only is he violating her space which by itself is not a good idea it's like going into the cage of of a rottweil that hasn't eaten in a week but aside from that it's a sign of disrespect because what you're saying there just by just by simply walking into the kitchen and asking what's cooking in essence what you're saying to any mom what you don't trust me you don't trust me to manage my own body parts what do you you know them for two years I know them for three she's always going to know them better than you so of course you have to make sure that she always knows honey it's your job it's your thing if you need my help I'm here if you need my help I'm here you don't need my help enjoy that's number one two always make sure that anytime you're going to help with children it does not remove you from your job meaning your primary job is to provide if you're the provider of the house your primary job is to learn T you can't say listen you know what today I'm G to do a mitz I'm GNA take care of the kids instead of learning T that's not a Mitzvah that's not your role Your Role is not to take care of kids Your Role is to take care of tah why that's your role in the world the woman's going to go to G to GED because you learned t or G because you didn't learn T which means that you thinking you're doing her a favor in essence you're actually hurting her so that's number two always make sure you play your role number three I think we're up to number three see I lost counts I told you guys 1 plus one equals three I'm thinking is already three so next thing is to we'll just we should do letters now so next thing is you need to understand is that if you're going to tella number one honey if you need my help I'm there number two I have free time I already learned enough Torah I already provided enough financing whatever we need to provide and I still have time to to help you you have to make sure that you're working as a team with her not as an independent contractor mercenary okay if she says they're not allowed chocolate you can't be the father says no no come on let him have chocolate no she said no no never disagree in front of the kids ever and in general whatever she says goes why if you come there once a week once a week you're there you're the hour you're the father of the hour you're the Monday Morning Quarterback and he say no honey why don't you have uh why don't you give him some chocolate you just ruined her entire week why the whole week she's she's trying to educate the kids we only have chocolate after we do our homework you Mr Wonderful came in there no no why don't you have some chocolate why don't you give him now you just ruined a week worth of work so make sure you're working together together but always remember you're that you're the help you're the help not she's the help meaning honey can I help you not hey honey take a step back let me take care of this that's not that's not your role that's not your role in life so that's the thing if that's your profession your job is your job not has nothing to do with you do at your house if that's what you like to do great good for you maybe next Google you'll be a woman right now that's not your job that's not your job why you can't just say to hm hasm I don't like my job I don't like learning Tora I want to be a ima you can't do that not a that's not it's not an option in certain states it is no we're talking about Torah talking about Torah unfortunately in the secular World everything's an option dog could be a ima there's a woman that died in New York not too long ago and she La she left a $25 million inheritance to her dog what's the dog Gonna Do With It anything else the questions I was waiting from that department never came finished we girl father isal father inter home and the natural wait so they adopted as a baby or they adopted as a teenager baby grew up to be a teenager they adopted as a baby okay they adopted a baby and now the baby has become a grownup and is there an issue of yeah there's oh yes yes there's yeah they're not allow to be they're allowed to be alone yeah they have to uh they have to uh watch it because regardless of how close they are regardless of how wonderful the relationship is between them they're still not brother and sister and as a matter of fact the rambam says that um it's customary especially in the spartic world today that when a brother and sister see each other as adults they uh kiss you know they hug and they kiss or sometimes they uh you'll kiss your aunt your aunt you see your aunt your mom's sister or your father's sister or whatever and she go py py I remember when you were a little 5-year-old baby and now you're 35y old jash but whatever pooie poochie poochi and they want to kiss you and she's 30 she's 75 years old and you're 35 years old what's the big deal the rambam says this is what stupid people do this is what stupid people do why you're bringing yourself to sin even if it's with your sister even it's with your own sister biological so nonetheless the person needs to understand that there's no such thing as a person that's above and beyond arot meaning the sexual desires and that's something that that even R AKA even almost failed for they thought they were above it themselves soem test them and they almost fell both of them similar sin both of them similar story so it's a uh even more so when someone is in reality not doesn't have that uh connection now the Torah has a couple of places in the five books of Moses that talks about the sin of uh incest uh brother and sister son with mom and all these different things now onip onip before before we go over a and it goes over a lot of details about sex crimes and those same sins are mentioned again now do you think that hasem would go through the trouble of himself self mentioning it in the T and the instilling it into the's heads to instill it in the if it wasn't very much a serious problem unfortunately there are many stories where former former or ex wonderful parents that adopted children ended up doing something with their own children why it's a Ed when it's poie pooi pooi and it's a month old or a year old it's po but when she's 20 she's not pooim muchi anymore and she's not your daughter really and your tells you that so if it happens to the fathers that raised the kid for 20 years why don't you think it's going to happen to the son that has hormones coming out of his ears at that age these are very real problems these are very real serious questions I know that people don't like to talk about it because it's not politically correct and it's not appropriate and then there's kids and then there's women and then there and it's never right to say and it's never but it's a real problem it's a serious problem how do we know we don't need evidence from the world which we have we see it in the T we see it in the T so that's that's the thing it's the laws are very much a real thing even with your own family adopted not adopted is irrelevant next I have more pooi muchi left for you guys if you want this will help us get to understand more more about the truth more and more about what hasem wants from us also hopefully this helps each and every single one of us go home and reflect on what version of the truth we have is the truth we have bias is it because we like it that's why it's true or is it because God said it and that's why it's true if it's because God said it if it's not what are you going to do about it are you going to continue lying to yourself for the rest of your life and then find out what happens take that chance or we start actually doing chuva chuva is available to all if you're still alive chuva is available to you we're going to have another sh on Tuesday uh if you have a weak stomach do not come if you have a weak stomach don't come on Tuesday you should listen to the Shure anyway you should listen to the Shure anyway at some point in your life but you don't necessarily need to listen to it live it's good because it's important for and as much as I don't want to do it um the reality is is that it needs to be done so at least someone can go up to shim and they're going to ask him did you ever learn about G did you ever learn about Gom and they can't answer no anymore they won't have the ability to answer no anymore they won't have the ability to answer no why because when someone goes up to sh the say that it's going to come to them it's going to be during a trial is going to be a bush it's GNA be embarrassment why is it GNA be embarrassment because you're GNA go up to sh and hasem is g to look at you and say how could you do it how could you do it to me look what I did for you give you eyes ears Legs hair food air everything you wanted I gave you how could you go against me how can you do it how can you put on your head how can you drive on Shabbat how could you eat non kosher how could you make other men sin How Could You sin how could you do it how don't you have any type of gratefulness for the hand that feed you don't you have any fear of Gom and wait wait hold on I never learned it I never learned about Gom because in English no one taught it no one taught it and you know somebody that want teach it they put on him no one taught start it they said it's only for show me five that know what it is show me five that are under the age of 40 they know what gay really is doesn't exist why ah it's hard it's this it's that it's not a fun it's not a fun subject to learn it's awful but you need to learn it why because then there's a much likelier chance you're never going to have that embarrassment why because the next time the shows up on your door he says hello you want to make some type of sex crime hello you want to make some type of money crime hello you want to make some together I say no no no I don't want I don't want to be cut up into a million half pieces I don't want to I don't want to I don't want to suffer I don't want this stuff no no thank you why it sounds like fun what you're saying Mr but it's not worth it it's too expensive so we need to learn it at some point in our life unfortunately it's a very necessary part of the Torah and one of the main focuses that I'm going to have is not going to be necessarily just the details of what happens the main focus that I'm going to try to have is sources meaning that it's not only real it's in the Torah that's what the are going to constantly tell you that's what they've been telling people for years is that GOM is not real and if there is such a thing then it's really just embarrassment it's just buad they embarrass you it's really just a washing machine you go there for a year and they clean you up and everything's okay there was an article on kabad one time it made it sound so good I want to go there I actually wrote that as a response to the article they took it off though I had a debate with the guy that wrote the article I told him everything you wrote is pure was written like five six years ago for everything he wrote is against the Tor doesn't say anything about this stuff where'd you get this I'll actually tell I'll show you in the books where it says washing machine where they got this crazy notion of washing machine doesn't say washing machine but where they got that notion from how they Twisted the Torah and manipulated it in so many ways that it's m a different T it's a different tah you need to know the sources you need to know it's real you need to know it's not a joke why it's the only thing that's going to help you is growing just like your is growing every time you come to you do every time you wake up you Dov every time you function every day you Dov every time you dovah it's good is growing is growing is also growing though is also growing so the only way you're going to beat the future is to have some knowledge some weapons that unfortunately is not pleasant to hear it's very scary but the most important focus is going to be to show you that it's very much real I'll give you a little bit of details of what happens in it so you get a little bit of nightmares here and there but most importantly is for you to understand that it is real it's not a washing machine it's excuse me it's not bu it's not embarrassment if you read it doesn't mention embarrassment once only embarrassment is mentioned during the trial not in gain no there's no embarrassment in get home why because after hem comes to you and he says why' you do it why' you go against me you know what he you say to him Hashem you're right punish me Hashem you're right you're right Hashem punish me I'll sign off send me to this one send me you're right you're right ashem why did I do it I'm Wrong send me you sign off you sign off do you understand there's no embarrassment there's no uh washing machine there's no oh no maybe it's a different opinion there's no such thing as it's one opinion there's one mate you need to know it as a woman as a man you want to watch it live if you have a strong stomach you should do it if not watch it another time in small little pieces every time you have a watch 10 minutes that's fine too also know yourself I don't know every single one of you really well to the point where I could tell you it's appropriate for you if you're the type of person that you're growing you're getting stronger and M is helping you continue overcoming the good this is good for you at least the part of it is if you're the type of Personality where if you if you hear such things it like puts you into like some shell shock like you get you become like brain freeze like you don't know what to do you become like hopeless oh my God if I go there I'm doomed I'm this and I just don't know what to do yourself you want to give up don't come don't come it's not appropriate for you if it gets you to a point where you're like frozen you don't know you're just you're just you're just you're up to a point we're hearing it even the small little details that I give you guys here hearing it gets you to a point where you're like scared to death like you you don't want to continue anymore and you become depressed don't come don't come don't listen to it not for now you're not ready for it it's good it's fine it's perfect perfectly fine as long as you keep learning the point is to keep you learning number one and two to get you to be your wherever it is because if right now at this moment you think you're okay you're not okay you're not okay hat beards skirts all that stuff does not make you religious doesn't make you religious what makes you religious is listening to Hashem throughout the whole day not just when you feel like it not what's convenient so sometimes when we need some help sometimes we need some sometimes we need some scary stuff and if it wasn't necessary hasem wouldn't put it in the Torah and I'm not just talking about the secret part of the Torah as a matter of fact after some research that I've done it's literally everywhere it's in seph it's in seph it's in all five books of Moses it's in all of the prophets it's all over it's all over the it's all over the Z it's everywhere you just don't know perhaps where to look and what to look CU it's not obvious it's not like Shabbat keep and it's not like that you have to just it's a deeper part of the tah because again hm knows it's not necessarily meant for the first grader but as far as the details the gruesome details of it it's awful it's as awful as you can imagine times it by a zillion and it's still not half of it so we'll go over some small details but nonetheless most important part is to make sure you realize by by the time you finish that's sure that sinning is the stupidest thing in the world especially sinning on purpose two it's not my opinion it's not my opinion there is no opinion here I'm going to bring very little of my opinion if anything at all and three you need to know this because your at some point or another is going to need it so whether you're going to listen to it now later that's going to be up to you uh like I said it's a uh important for every single person to listen to this sh because right now the disease is great the disease we have today is not going to be cured by kosher phones the disease that we have today is not going to be cured by kosher computers disease we have today is not going to be cured by simple seminars or by songs on YouTube that some sing and make you feel feel good about yourself before Shabbat it's all nice it's all wonderful and people like to text each other messages of all these nice little M these different things oh yeah have like the B oh yeah rabman said this oh yeah RAB akba said this yes it's all wonderful but when the yet shows up at your door what are you gonna do what are you going to do then that's what the sh is for that's the Cure m to get us to have will bless us to give you the right words to give you the right way so all of us can develop some and more and more people do today tomorrow and every other day until Mia comes amen [Music] [Applause] [Music] he a [Music]